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The content of what you are about to read shocked me to my bone marrow...I have an all boys team and i know for sure (God forgive me) i will strangle anyone who touches my sons in any way that is sexually or violently suggestive of anything.....OMG!
PLEASE A MOTHERS ANGUISH AT FINDING OUT HER TEN YEAR OLD SON IS A VICTIM OF HOMOSEXUAL RAPE.
''Stella, I have never been this sad since I was born. I heard the most heart wrenching news from my child today. Stella, I don't know how I can manage to type this o. I haven't even cried, but I know I will still cry when it dawns on me. How do I say this?? My son told me today that he has been a victim of homosexual molestation in his school. Ah I dunno what to do. My baby is only 10 .am I not finished? I am finished inside me already . <<<
In total 4boys have molest my son in his school. I won't mention the school yet, because I plan to take this up on Monday. I want to speak to the school authorities, but what will they do? Will they follow suit? Will this restore my little boy's innocence? Senior boys in ss3.did this to him. I feel like I was raped personally and violated Stella. I feel naked, I feel I failed my son. How could I have know??How? He was in boarding, I felt save and secure that he was in a school with pedigree and religious upright standing. Big lie. I don't know what to do. I said I would file a police complaint and perhaps some people can help.
My son said another of his mate was raped recently by some senior boy, but the matter was subdued and his mother later withdrew him from school. What a life. What is going on??? What do I do??? God Almighty, I pray my soul tarries tru this saga.
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And many other scenario were given about the act. I intend to report to the principal. But will this suffice it? Yes I am willing to remove my child from that school, but what about the other's who perhaps suffer in silence like him? The school is likely not blow this up because they'll want to protect the image of the school. But to who's detriment? I can't even bear to look my son in the face because I don't want to break down..ill just die. I haven't told his father till now because I know what will happen.
Yes I want to speak out about this, I know many will say it's shameful and will just hide it. But mine was a victim, and talking about it will help me better than keeping quiet. But I want to speak with the right quarters that will proffer us solutions, not just to make noise and then nothing.
The parents of this senior boys I am certain will not know too. And perhaps they were first molested just like my son was by them when they were juniors. Now they've been imbibed into the act and they carry on the cycle. That's what I make of it all. What do I do? Who can help me? My daughter is watching me because she knows there's something wrong. I am frail at heart, somebody should pls help me. Why would anyone do this to these boys, why why why??
The parents of this senior boys I am certain will not know too. And perhaps they were first molested just like my son was by them when they were juniors. Now they've been imbibed into the act and they carry on the cycle. That's what I make of it all. What do I do? Who can help me? My daughter is watching me because she knows there's something wrong. I am frail at heart, somebody should pls help me. Why would anyone do this to these boys, why why why??
I have suffered so much in this life to make sure that my kids are the best, by the grace of God. Why will someone ruin this for me at his prime? The mental trauma etc. What do I tell a 10year old that he'll understand?
Am sorry for this long story. It helped writing this. God bless you. ''
Am sorry for this long story. It helped writing this. God bless you. ''
*God where are you?Madam i am sorry this mail really upset me,i cannot give any advice at this time.
What is dis world turnin in2... God pls save us all.
ReplyDeleteI am just crying...God help us o...madam may God see u and ur son through in Jesus name Amen
DeleteI have one question. Where is the boys father? You r not the victim but ur son is. So stop making this about u. U did not mention his father so that makes me worry. As much as you all hate men and talk about how useless they are. There are things that only a man can deal with effectively.
DeleteI r an idiot can't u read?
DeleteY'all need to shut up.. Right now she needs help not sympathy ...woman believe me....your son knows more than you think he knows ... I was homosexually molested at 7 by a neighbor ..... That's why Nigerian parents have to sexually educate the boys especially before they enter boarding schools...a lot of shits takes place there....your son did good to tell you.... I couldn't tell anybody ..don't know why?.... So right now take it easy and tell him it is wrong...... In the bible...if anyone tries it to him at night he should shout so that the person gets caught or of he knows the person he should report directly to the school authority not a senior student..... We need to sexually educate at children before we ship them to boarding school....
DeleteTell her, I stopped @ d 2nd paragh cos of d ME ME ME thing
DeleteWhen I was college, one of the junior boys in hostel was raped repeatedly by his hall monitor, who was also a prefect. P.s I went to a school owned by a deeper life pastor, in magodo. Get the names of the boys and contact their parents. If the school does nothing, take them to court!
Delete@Dr Okechukwu what you mean she is not the victim? She may not have been molested but being his mother makes her a victim too because when the effects of the abuse that ro manifest guess who will bear the brunt?
DeleteAnd it is very presumptuous of you to say 'you know we hate men' please this is not the place or the time. The woman is clearly pouring out her heart not coming to you for guidance.
Your son is already psychologically damaged, where is his father, u must be stupid for writing this without putting d name of the school, I think STELLA made this story up. If my son ever comes to tell me s*** like this, those students would be arrested and spend some years in prison. Do u think your son would forget such experience, if u don't handle it properly he'll have his revenge when he grows up.
DeleteSTELLA, if u r fabricating stories like this pls stop, if u get a mail dat can't back up claims such as d name of d school, then don't bother putting it on your blog.
Humph! Inexplicable, v.v. very devastating, irresistibly agonizing... #God,plzhelpthatlittleboy#
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Dr okechukwu u r lighly daft!! Dint u see d part she said she's yet to inform hubby...she feels violated too cos dats her blood n she feels she has failed to protect him too..ur not a mother so u can't relate, I can relate to her esp is she's d one dat enroled him there.
DeleteThank u everyone. And thank u Stella for making this a post. I am a lot better than I first typed the story. I just want to give an update.
DeleteI have read the advice suggested by everyone, I remain grateful for this. I typed this yesterday because I needed to release my anxiety after I was done talking with my son and putting him to sleep. I haven't told hubby yet because he's out of the country but is due back next week. I don't want to get him panicky because he is not home.
I have refrained from giving the details of the school only because I haven't approached the authorities yet. You would agree that the power of the Internet moves faster than legs can. And If I did now they'll know and then prepare a defence ahead of me. That's the only reason I haven't mentioned them yet.
Then, my son was very explicit in the details, he gave me all the names of the seniors involved, so I have names to this absurdity. I mentioned I will go to the school Monday because they are on midterm now. I do not want the school to prepare the accused during the holiday before school resumes, this may water down the whole thing. I plan to visit the school when students are in class, then I'll be able to see them all myself.
Stella actually didn't post all the details I wrote, I guess she used her discretion and she published what she deemed fit. But the bottom line is that it has been going on for a while. My son told me a js2 student was recently raped at night, and when he was asked to give names of the possible suspects the school frustrated his efforts. Hence making his mother to withdraw him from the school. What I can divulge of the school right now is that they are a Christian missionary school. And up until last week some students were still caught in the act. So the teachers by now do not see it as anything to follow suit. What they tell the students is that anyone caught in the act will serve punishment. Pls how can this be the ultimate consequences to the act of homosexuality in a supposed missionary school? Serve punishment and that's it?
The first stage my son said he had to handle was that he confessed to the chaplain. When the chaplain read his prayer requests he deemed it fit to speak to my boy, after which he prayed for him. My boy said the abuse from his seniors stopped during and after the chaplains intervention tru prayers alone and nothing else. Until recently when another senior boy approached him again. So this thing is a cycle and no one is making it a duty to speak for these innocent kids.
Like I said before, I want to make this an issue not only for my son's sake, but for the sake of the others who cannot even tell thier parents. I know that a few parents will not accept the reality of this when we start the process, but I don't care, I do it more for my son's rehabilitation back to normalcy. I know my hubby will be more temperamental when he hears of this, and I want results not just making the noise.
I just returned from the doctor's with my son. We have gone to submit to the necessary tests and the results will be sent in later. Until then I pray that God will give me the grace and the wisdom to mentally survive this ordeal. Yes my son is a victim of sodomy, but God will restore and fight for him.
I will be sure to update you as we go along. Thanks all and God bless
This is just too much *crying* 10years old. He's just a baby!
DeleteBoarding schools have lost their value. This homo thing is just too rampant there now and it's just a continous vicious circle. May God save our kids.
Little kids shouldnt be sent to boarding houses. Evil abounds. Give your children the backbone they need to survive before kicking them out to the wolves of this wicked world.
DeleteYour husband/ father of the child should handle this cos right now you are an emotional mess.
R we kidding? This happens almost in all boarding schools.Esp d so called missionary schools (not all) n d authorities do a lot of cover up. Be thankful ur son told u abt it which I think is as a result of d relationship u hv wit him (I commend u on that).I still tell d story of how my friend was made 2 suck our senior's breast amongst other things. She cried all thru. Fastfoward 5yrs later, we all had our lesbian partners till we graduated n saw that its not supposed 2 be so. Many will keep quiet n grow into another thing lyk us only we realised it wasn't normal. Do all u can 2 get justice. If they try 2 cover up scream 2 high heavens let their image be tainted. Change ur son's sch if possible he shld go 2 a day sch 4 now. A lot of counselling will help him. My heart goes out 2 d lil boy. He needs ur love now more than ever. His dad shld be temperamental o! It is necessary @ dis particular juncture. If he can cut short his trip all d better.
DeleteCheer up@ Poster*hugs*
DeleteI think i know this sch! 1 weekbreak! On mid term! The chaplain: this is an anglican school and my brother mightbe in this school! I need to sternly drill him. He is in SS3
DeleteChai madam! I feel so sorry for you. O! It is well with you. To see your child hurt is the most painful thing a parent can go through. You feel so helpless. The poor boy now will just be in a world of his own. These things are too rampant. I remember stating here that kids get sexually active before age 17 and one ignoramus cursed my life. You don see am na.
DeleteYour son's mind will remember this for a long time. Since u want to take it slow, then I suggest:
Delete1) Give your son a recorder, tell him to always have it with him, anytime he sees d seniors coming towards from far tell him to start recording.
2)Since u'll withdraw ur son, dis case might get buried, but know that your son is not d only person experiencing dis.
3)You are d best psychologist your son can ever have. Make sure u always talk to him, do not let him manipulate u.
4)Make sure he starts going to a day school, sending him to a boarding school is ignorance and negligence on your part.
5)Your son is in his developing stage, teach him things an adult should know so that he doesn't learn from outside.
Watch him closely, especially his behaviour. Then call your daughter(if she's older than him) sit her down, then sit directly facing her frowning your face and looking directly in her eyes ask her "WHAT ARE YOU HIDING FROM ME", "IS THERE SOMETHING U'RE SCARED OF TELLING ME".
If she's not older, u can watch her too.
Blood of Jesus!!!!!! What is this?? Ahn may God in His wrath destroy those who did this to the poor child. God has a soft spot for widows and little children. So I know He will fight for him. Pls m'am, raise all the dust u can to follow this matter to the end. Don't listen to anyone who'll advice u to do otherwise. When it's their own turn they can keep quiet, but pls do not. Many adults went tru the same when they were young like him, but becos they didn't spk out they grew up being rebellious and thinking low of themselves. Many who behave strangely today were abused as kids and they still carry the burden around.
DeleteThis is what will happen if u also keep mute. Thank God ur son gave u their names, that's a good start. Make sure u see them on Monday and don't let the school misguide u. I understand u cannot mention the school yet for the sake of proper investigation. That's wise of u. But pls return to let us know the school so pple who matter can take up the case.
I feel so so sad for u. Why are people like this, kids for that matter. Haba!!!! It cannot be well with those wicked boys.
@anon3:08pm. What do u mean u stopped becos she said me me me? What is wrong with u people? Do u understand what this means at all, and what this woman is going tru? Are u a mother/father yet? I pray it doesn't happen to u. U cannot be coherent when u hear this sort of news, and it is therapeutic for her becos she shared the story. She was also violated,but thru her son. Don't forget she carried him for 9months, so she'll be very pained..even more than her son. U pple should stop these thrash talks becos this is a very sensitive case. Keeping quiet can make anyone run mad, esp as her hubby is out of town.
My heart grief for your son, as a woman i cant imagine d pain in your heart, and as a victim of homosexual assault in a girls christian boarding school 22 yrs ago, i remember how violated i felt, it was a memory i locked up, that i have cut off from my brain. At 35 years with 2 kids, this morning was the first time i ever spoke about it after reading your post. I passionately told my hubby our kids wont go to boarding until they are in their senior years, he asked why i was passionately saying that, i said it was your story...he said there was more, i lost my voice at that time, he encouraged me and while turning my back to him , i told him how my so-called school mother molested me....the feeling of shame came all over me and i felt dirty...after 22 years...surprisingly, he confessed to how he was also molested in form 1 n 2 by senior boys in his alma mater...a christian all-boys school...and how he never said it until now...it was a moment of healing in our home....
DeletePls do all u can to make sure these boys are expelled and you press criminal charges against them..and civil suit for the damages they have caused your son..i wish i was within the vicinity to help...
To all parents, if u can, pls send your kids to boarding only in their senior years when they are ready to face the world and can defend themselves ..boarding has its advantages, i am a product of one, it developed me to have a strong personality, i'm independent and fearless...but it took somethings away too...i talk more about my university days than my high school days...
I pray this little boy and all our little angels that have had their innocence callously taken away be wrapped in God's arms of love and have boldness to face this wicked world with the right mindset...
If the school covers it up, sue them for child abuse, child molestation and sexual assault against a minor....
God help u dear...sending u hugs...
Gosh dis is madness. Wts d world turning into. Madam don't relent oh. Everyone involved shld be brought out n dealt wit. No one wud mess wit my kid n go scot free
ReplyDeleteMadam pls do not keep silent, no matter the pressure, they might even push you away or treat you funny until you drop the case but pls never do
DeleteIf you want to take it up with the general public, I biliv there are other mothers andd people in general on this blog who are willing to help fight
I cnt say I understand what you are going through, but pls pray cus this is a fight every mother should be willing to stand for
Omolicha Stella, this is so so sad. I am sitting at my desk pondering on what advice can be given to this poor mother and how to help this innocent child in challenging this offending behaviour and still maintain some dignity. I think the best way forward will be to report the case to the police and inform the school authority. This needs proper investigation and these rouges must be punished or rehabilitated to safeguard future victims. Madam stay strong, focus on the mental wellbeing of your son, it is also recommended that he be seen by a qualified counsellor asap.
ReplyDeleteMummy i feel your pain and am deeply sorry for what happened to your son,the relationship between you and your son is for life and there are many things your son will go through that only the both of you will share and talk about,you are his father,his mother and the love of his life until.you he gets married and even after marriage you are still there,there are many things that will happen to him tomorrow and you might feel this same way about,from this trauma his.ggoing through,girls abuse,sex at a very young age,cultism threats,bad gangs and much more,until he gets shaped to how perfect you want him to be, the most important education am proud of in this world is the one my mummy thought me,it makes you discern and make rightful decisions,you should tell Daddy so you don't take drastic decision that might later affect you and your husband, but the most important message should come from you,have encountered a 8-9year old kid ask me question like how is your girl friend? and other wrong questions which a child should not think of,but he knows it already, its how. you makehim rrealise that the act is wrong is what matters;he will still do or act things which will break your heart tomorrow but ability to deal with it perfectly will make him.the man which he is tomorrow, don't cry,be bold and very strong,give him your best,talk some sense into him,imbibe discipline into him,let him listen to you more than his friends as he grows.
DeleteMothers today should not stop talking,sometimes i feel bored if mumsy is talking to me but in my lonely moments i know i have received the best message,mummy teach him.the word of God, let him work.for God so he personally can feel the guilt when things go wrong; be strong ma,being a mother to a son is sometimes difficult but the end rewarding; may God reward your effort and your years of labour,with joy and happiness forever; God bless you mummy.
Well said Kaycee. Very wise counsel.
DeleteOh no! Oh no!! Oh no!!!
ReplyDeleteHere's what you should do,in this order....Tell your husband,Go To the school and report the matter,Raise hell and brimestone if you're not taken seriously and if they try in anyway to handle it lightly or sweep it under the carpet,involve the police. The parents of those boys should be summoned and the boys involved should be expelled(Don't accept any other form of punishment).Withdraw your son from the school. Get him a good child counsellor! You single handedly can't resolve the issues that he'll have to deal with as a result of the abuse but you need to talk to him about what has happened,let him know that it wasn't his fault and you love him no matter what. He's been traumatised. Get him to talk to you about what and how he feels,take it slow...no pressure. Above all pray for him...He'll be fine...and you'll be ok too albeit not entirely but eventually....Newbie!
DeleteWell said @ Anon3:39pm, Be strong dear poster... you will pull through with time.
DeleteThis so sad!what! I can imagine what you going thru madam cos I also have a son. I will advise u to tell ur hubby first,u can't hide it from him.,then u report to d school authority and make a big deal out of it..As of ur son,talk to him and console him and let him understand that d act is bad,something like rehab will do. Take heart madam,
ReplyDeleteHello ma'am, to say I am not shocked at this revelation is an understatement. Please still hold tight and pray for the wisdom to handle this right. First of all, you have to tell your husband what happened. Also when you go to the school, please do not go alone. Go with a lawyer or someone who can stand as a witness to what transpires between you and the school authority. Withdraw all your kids from the dormitory and put them in day schools. Whilst trying to handle this case, insist that the son identifies the culprits the day that you go, otherwise the principal might let in the parents of the boys and they will quickly come and withdraw their kids. Thus destroying all evidence you have against them all. Also if you can be discreet enough to record your conversation with the principal and make sure the names of the boys are mentioned loud to get it on tape. If the principal is more intent on protecting his /her already damaged school, let her know you are ready to take it to any length to see that justice is served. The senior boys dat did this to your son need psychological help cos as it is, they too would have undergone what you son just experienced as maybe day students. I am happy your son was able to talk out, that's a good sign of healing. Take him to see a doctor and if you can't speak well, get a good psychologist that will talk to him and let him understand what happened to him and how to overcome it in life. Its not easy, but you have to show your mother hen character in this situation. Its a pity. But again, be strong about this.
ReplyDeleteI am afraid, is any school safe? Madam, please take the matter up, i so doing you spare other kids of same shit hapening to them. If the 1st parent had taken it up ity may not have happened to your son
ReplyDeleteOmg..omg.pls we need the name of the school. Please what if my own son also going thru the same thing. Pls we need to know. Follow this up. Make sure those boys are arrested and delt with.
ReplyDeleteStella am short of words,I want 2 cry. Pls d woman should take it up n dnt hide it frm ur husby,n tell d schl authorities u want 2 see d parents of d boys dat molest ur son. Pls dnt take it lightly wit dem.
ReplyDeleteMy heart breaks for you and your little boy! Please fight to see that those boys pay for stealing this child's innocence,my 4 year old nephew was molested by the 17 year old male help who lived with them andd I know how heart wrenching it was for all of us, my in-law pulled a gun on the boy..Infact that incident almost tore the family apart,thank God we are all healing now,we also talk to the little boy to try and make him understand its not normal for a man to have sexual relations with another man.this is sad!
ReplyDeleteFrom the way you sounding u don't want to expose the school. I have a nephew who is just 10 too! He was molested by a senoir who happened to be his elder brothers classmate. Calls him every evening after dinner to give him a blow job. Now he says he's gay and proud. I wish they fired his nyash so he fell the pain. (Sorry I said this)If am lying let God punish me. Your son even came to report. Madam don't hide this, carry mopol to the school,show madness. U will be shocked the principal myt be gay sef.
ReplyDeleteI don't think its wise for her to reveal the school yet o. As she said, she's yet to inform her husband and the school haven't been informed officially. If she mentions the name within hours the news will circulate, and this may jeopardise what they plan to do.
DeleteIhekire Tony
ReplyDeleteIs unfortunate that most male kids experience this wickedness, we that went to boarding school, has similar stories to tell.
Madam talk it to oga, we still need another mail by telling us d name of d school, fight dem through blogs please don't use police bcos dey will cover up d case.
ReplyDeleteWoman! What are you doing reporting to Stella? Why haven't you taken any actions? Today is Thursday and you want to wait till Monday to go to his school and raise hell? Are you alright? I'm so pissed at you right now! Your son told you about what's he's been through and your first impulse is to type mail to Stella? Is she the one that will come and fight for the wrong that has been done to your son? And to think that you're still protecting the school by not including its name in your nonsense mail. Please get away from here and go and fight for your son!
ReplyDeleteAnnon 10:29, its like u are in my head....ur 10 year old son was molested nd d first thing u though of was SDK blog,you picked up ur phone, u cld nt call ur hubby or call som1 that knws a force man( that's if u dnt knw any) bt u were able to send stella mail nd wait till all d comment gets approved b4 u carry out action abi like seriously who does that....instead of u to strom that school immediately with police or army nd start world war u r chilling till monday...chill well well and be posting comment on blogs u hear...ur son told you cos he believed you will take an action immediately to make it stop nd not blog
DeleteShut up both of you....most schools are on mid-term break
DeleteMr linda, do u have to say 'shut up' to people who are saying the truth? They both have the only reasonable comments so far... Couldn't u kindly say schools are on mid-term? By the way, that doesn't mean that the administrative offices are on break as well. @ poster, this war is mostly for ur husband, don't wait a second to tell him.. and pls expose the school to help unsuspecting parents and students, that is the only way the school will do something about this otherwise they will sweep it under the carpet. I'm very certain that u're not the 1st parent with this complain. Act fast and fierce!!
DeleteHelp is help anywhere... am sure she would get some here. It's not easy to feel what's she's going through now.
DeleteLinda idiotic eze, thank you for confirming what I've always suspected; that upstairs, you aren't quite together. Now run along and go take your meds or something. Thank you Ajebuta for attempting to make her see reason though I fear your effort were all for nought as one can't possibly reason with a stark raving lunatic.
DeleteThanks o ivie..am reading pple's comments and I marvel. Do u know how much stress can be reduced by sharing an awkward story like this? She didn't send the post to entertain us, she needs candid advice abeg. Concentrate on the crux of the matter instead of condemning her.
Deletechai, am sorry madam..u just have to report to higher authorities, homosexuality is the new trend in all boys boarding school nd I hope it doesn't affect your son, am glad he told you, withdraw him immediately nd take it easy
ReplyDeleteMadam so so sorry. I'm heartbroken on ur behalf n ur poor son. Pls take it up, involve a lawyer n police. Mention the name of the school. Since it has happened b4 n d school hid it, it will continue to happen. Pls don't hide d name of d school. We mothers that have sons, so we can stay away from d school when its time for them to enroll into secondary school, since its a common practice in d school. My sister sorry, he's a guy n since he was able to confide in u, he will get over trauma. It is well in Jesus name.
ReplyDeleteVery painful and sad.
ReplyDeletePls see to it that those monsters are hanged!
This mostly happens in seminary schools for boys.
With young handsome boys being molested by both reverend brothers and rev. Fathers alike.
These youngies are subjected to emotional torture for life.
There isn't security anywhere in Nigeria.
I'm happy ur son spoke out to u.
Pls protect his image n make sure those wolves are castrated.
You have my prayers!
You are an idiot. How dare you mention rev fathers and rev brothers. How stupid your thinking can be at times. Jobless idiot
DeleteANon 1.00 pm u are the idiot here. M-amie(not a fan of hers) is very correct.
DeleteSTFU! reverend fathers and alter boys engage in this acts too.oloriburuku oshi!
DeleteAnon u r the idiot here, mamie just spoke d truth
DeleteSpeechless
ReplyDeleteOluyomi Odukoya
Am telling u am just speechless. What s wrong with human beings of now?
DeleteYou better tell his father right now and let kata kata burst o.
ReplyDeleteGod punish the school and their image, I will take out a centre page spread in a willing paper or magazine to inform the whole community whilst keeping ur sons name anonymous.
Dont bother meeting the boys parents bc they will either deny or blame ur son and make him out to be the initiator.
Withdraw ur son from that school asap and forgo everything else - job, career, money etc whilst u spend quality time with him. Consider homeschooling him in the interim and may God comfort him and remove every memory of the unfortunate experience from his mind and soul. Pray, pray, pray and God will deliver him IJMN. Amen.
These demonic faggot bastards are roaming the earth seeking whom to destroy. 2 still consulted with me last week, the dominant one knowing he has HIV relocated to another state of the country and started a relationship with the timid one who was asking me to give him medication to decrease the chance of catching d disease 72 hrs after receiving ejaculate in his anus. I was too pissed to give a coherent answer and was counting down to when dey will walk out of my room. D wretched animals were still doing PDA inthe midst of the unfortunate situation they brought upon themselves. May they die a miserable full blown AIDS death, its just the innocents they will initiate along the way that I pity.
Anonymous 10:36 I hope you don't claim to be a Christian cos with what u just typed here you can never effectively minister Christ to any sinner.... Gosh u can never walk in the love of Christ with this attitude....God hates homosexuality but your talking venomous crap like this can never make anyone repent..... Just remember any one who has not given their life to Christ will end up in hell like them so easy on the hate
DeleteExactly. I remember I had to follow my nephew to his school onetime when he came home with blisters all over his back, he said that the school SP flogged him. I went ballistic that day that I stormed the school. I made so much noise that the housemaster had to come up me.
DeleteApparently, my nephew already complained to the master but nothing was done to him. While I was waiting for the stupid boy that flogged him, the housemaster actually said that the senior boy is untouchable becos he was liked by the school principal. Hence even the housemaster couldn't reprimand him. Can u imagine? This is a catholic school o..one other teacher saw I was making trouble, I tried to approach him to explain the abuse., d man refused to listen to me and walked off. He now helped the boyI was looking for, to escape tru the back door. They didn't allow me to set eye on that boy that day. These schools ehn.
I feel ur plight madam. I can understand what u going tru but pls calm down so u won't misbehave.take ur son back to d skul 4 him to point out d bastards dat did this. They must be young too so they need counselling too
ReplyDeleteDis is so depressn and heart wrenchin to read,so i cn imagine hw ds mom feels.Madam,pray.tel God to heal ur son and u too then take an action wt d skool.those boys must b fishd out so dat odas wil learn,but in all make sure d interest,privacy and innocence of dat baby is protected.my prayers re wt U..
ReplyDeleteBe strong dear. You have to be strong especially for your son. Covering it up is worse for your son. You are not doing it for publicity but to get redress for your son and all other children everywhere that have been abused.
ReplyDeleteSilence and shame is the weapon of the wrongdoer so let speaking up and speaking out be the weapon of justice seekers.
A lot of people will come and tell you to hush it up. Dont listen to them please. You must take it up with the school authorities and the boys who did this MUST be punished.
Please, you must speak with your son. Assure him that the evil that has been done to him does not make you love him less and it does not change him.
Give him a lot of verbal and physical encouragement and affection. Please stick closely together as a family.
Above all, pray to the Holy spirit for help. May God be with your family. Amen
Madam pls involve the police and don't be ashamed to speak up. I am a mother of two and can't imagine any one hurting them
ReplyDeleteparent pls be your kids friend. let them be free to tell you anything. Madam I pray for your family. your son will be alright.
A police man sexually abused 5 brothers of my mums friend , they will advise her to keep it quiet
DeleteConstant counseling and therapy from now on. Open his eyes so that he doesn't think it's ok. Don't be afraid to open your child's eyes. The earlier you do so, the better.
ReplyDeleteSoon some stupid people will start calling for equal right,Born Gay and all sort of trash.Fact is that homosexuality is an act which is being initiated and gradually inculcated in victims mind.No man was ever born gain.Ban Gay,Jail Gay.Say No to Homosexulaity.Its evil its barbaric.
ReplyDeleteGbam!
DeleteThe Lord will give you wisdom and maturity to handle this delicate matter.
ReplyDeleteI have a one year old son and just reading this post breaks my heart tremendously! Where are we headed?
ReplyDeleteThese are kids abusing kids!
Who is to be blamed?
The school? Their parents?
Like the poster said, am sure they were abused too and decided to continue the cycle. What will happen to victims of homosexual rape? will they be prosecuted by the law too? Why did the parents of the other kid keep the incident quiet?
Strange world we are living in...Poster I feel ur pain
Poster,please,tell us the name of the school so that parents will know and learn....I don't advise parents to put their child in a boarding school especially all boys or all girls.....I went to a boarding school in Enugu and I can tell you that almost 99% of all the students there are lesbians....this is so scary...please report to the school authorities asap and report those senior students....am so schocked....
ReplyDeleteQueens School?
DeleteNo..HRC
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DeleteI ve always known Linda Eze is a lesbian.
DeletePls @Aku dnt call d name of my al mata in vain. @Linda s right HRC was a den of lesbos.
DeleteKnow know *yimu*
Delete@ chichiadaJesus!: Ohh dooo. No vex.
DeleteNa wa ooo. This can only happen in boarding school, plus I feel he is 2 young 2 be in secondary school. I'm sorry madam, I pray God heals u fast, and I hope justice is done fast.
ReplyDelete@bura fly....so 10 is too young to be in secondary school......make e reach 15 before e go enter ni??? na wa....
Delete@bura fly....so 10 is too young to be in secondary school......make e reach 15 before e go enter ni??? na wa....
DeleteNa wa ooo. This can only happen in boarding school, plus I feel he is 2 young 2 be in secondary school. I'm sorry madam, I pray God heals u fast, and I hope justice is done fast.
ReplyDeleteMa, it is well. Just pray for him everyday.
ReplyDeleteOMG!
ReplyDeleteThis is heartbreaking.
I can feel this woman's pain.
Please madam, take it easy,you need to be strong for your son.
I suggest you give your son and other children proper sex education and make sure you drum it into their heads that premarital sex, homosexuality and rape is wrong.
What happened has happened and it is not your fault or your lil boys fault.
Please don't let this matter die, report to the school and make sure those boys are brought to book and their parents made aware of the evil their children have been upto. Also make sure you report the school to the police because I'm sure your son's case is not to first.
I went to a boarding school and if not that my mum told me a lot of stuff about sex and lesbianism, those wicked seniors and even my mates would have bullied or lured me into such evil act. I know how many times I received punishments from them.
This even happens in day schools and mixed school, I have younger ones who are day students in mixed schools and they gist me about these things happening in their schools.
That's why as parents, we should make sure we tell our kids the whole truth about sex, no need to be shy or say they are too young to know becos if we don't, others outside will teach them the wrong way. We should teach them to learn how to say no and fight for themselves and report to an authority if they are being bullied to succumb. We should teach them how to recognise sexual advances from both male and female, young or old.
I'm so sorry this happened to your son, please take heart, it is not your fault or your son's fault. I pray God gives you the wisdom you need to handle this and I also pray this case won't be swept under the carpet by the people you will report to.
The Lord is your strength.
Please withdraw your son from that school ASAP and make sure he gets all the help and councelling he needs.
I can't imagine how traumatised he will be right now. He needs you now ma, please be strong for him. Please tell daddy,I'm sure he will be very angry but he needs to know.
#hugs
Common shut up! Over Sabi winch like you.
DeleteAnon 4:28pm.....wat has Genny baby that made u call her a winch???d way some people just over exercise dia fingers typing rubbish sef is unbelievable...
DeleteGet a lawyer. Take your child to the hospital. Tell the doc what has happened and you want your son examined. You'll need this evidence in court. Also the doc should refer you to a trained counsellor. This will help your child heal and understand that he is the victim. Besides, you'll need the counsellor's testimony in court. There is a child protection agency at Alausa. File a complaint. Working with your lawyer, build your case then file charges. This is not the first time I've heard of boys being sodomised in school. If it's a faith based school, be prepared to be attacked on all fronts. These schools and their parent bodies, have influential members who will try to thwart your plans. The whole family needs to be counselled. Not faith based counselling. With a trained child psychiatrist. You have a strong bond with your child. Which is why he told you of his experience. A lot of children don't tell. These teenagers are pedophiles. They should be exposed as such.
ReplyDeleteThis is very disturbing. Please tell your husband what your son told you, you can't handle this alone, yes, you must report this to the appropriate authority, the problem with Nigerians is most of us like to keep quiet. I feel your pain, Good luck
ReplyDeleteIn as much as i believe that this is happening in schools, i don't believe any mother upon hearing the news withing 24 hours will have the fingers to type this write up talk less before informing her husband. However, my heart goes out to the numerous boys, girls and parents alike that are suffering from this barbaric act. The so called schools need to encourage the students so affected to speak out and also help those afflicted by the disease to be cured completely.
ReplyDeleteCan't u read n comprehend? She is waiting for d kids to resume n for her son to point them out. If she goes there now,d kids parents might hear n witthdraw their kids. She needs d test result n need to at least go wt a lawyer. All yea hot temper pple blaming her for writing. We all learn frm this pls. It's a sensitive case.
DeleteMadam why are you covering the school for Heavens' sake!! If I were you, I'll be on NTA by now as the woman that broke a principal's legs. Ehn! My God this is real oo.
ReplyDeleteI went to dinner with some guy I met one time. While we were discussing over dinner, he shared his growing stories. And part of it was that he was molested in school (all boys school oo. Unfortunately I've forgotten the name of the school) by a senior boy. He actually said he didn't speak cause he began to enjoy the act!
I really don't support sending kids to boarding schools. I want to be part of my kids everyday life.
Anyway madam I think you should withdraw your son from that school and enroll him in a school close to home. Also you need to talk about what has happened to him, and give him a proper sex education.
Most of all pray for him. You definitely have a lot of work to do here. Cause it's a wound that never heals, but at least you can beautify the scar.
May The Lord Almighty return your baby's innocence.
I feel your pain. *hugs*
U now see y homosexuality should be banned? so many pple will be forced into it especially by supperiors, bosses at work, teachers, etc. its bloody not fair. those guys should be arrested and punished and den ols change ur son's school. be very close to him now more than ever so he can always discuss all issues with u. This is 1 of d many reasons I will never allow my kids attend a boarding school. Haba!.
ReplyDeleteThe heart of man is truly desperately wicked. Madam I'm so so sorry about this. First of all, make a big deal out of this,talk and don't stop talking. Get your kid out ot that school ASAP!..Then teach your son sex education.,teach him how to shout for help,run,raise alarm when necessary, then finally,pray for your son, that the demon associated with homosexuality be removed far from him,do a deliverance if you must..So sorry!
ReplyDeleteU now see y homosexuality should be banned? so many pple will be forced into it especially by supperiors, bosses at work, teachers, etc. its bloody not fair. those guys should be arrested and punished and den ols change ur son's school. be very close to him now more than ever so he can always discuss all issues with u. This is 1 of d many reasons I will never allow my kids attend a boarding school. Haba!.
ReplyDeleteThis is really sad to read.
ReplyDeleteYour son will nead professional help (therapy), he needs to talk about it so it doesn't affect him in the future. Please talk to the principal of the school and involve the parents of the boys involved. Madam and remove him from the school ASAP. If you can have him attend day school that'll be nice, and at the end of the day ask him about his day, and check in with the school at the end of the week. Goodluck.
I don’t know how to console you, this is really traumatising, my brother went through the same when he was in an all boys school. My advice to parents is not to put their children in either an all boys, or all girls school, because this sort of things happen there, seniors looking for an outlet for their sexual frustration usually molest younger boys, I'm not saying it doesn't happen in mixed schools, but at least not as much, because in mixed schools at least they can look at the opposite sex. I pray that your son gets through this trauma.
ReplyDeleteSince when did it become ok to ve sex while still in secondary school, people shld raise thr children the right way and stay close to God as well, cos it wont feel any better if u hear that your 10yr old daughter is been molested by a 15 year old boy in school. Whichever way, evil is evil.
DeleteUwa nmebe!!! Dat's how it starts and later in life the poor boy would think he was born gay. Ma'am pls take the necessary actions and withdraw ur child 4rm that school. And if u investigate further, u' ll see that some of the male teachers introduced this act 2 those senior students...
ReplyDeleteI cried when i read this and i am still crying. May God save our children.
ReplyDeleteWhat I can advice as a medical doctor, a mother and a realist is 1)take ur son for a thorough medical check up to rule out STIs and HIV and also to check that his anal sphincter is still intact.2)as a mother, I advice u to begin to love ur son as much as possible. Suffocate him with it right now he needs it.
ReplyDelete3)as a realist, I advice that u shake off the pity cloak u seemed to have draped urself with and stand strong. It boy will draw strength from a strong mother and will cave and be destroyed if he sees his mother break down. U found out early Thank God for that. Get up my sister and remain strong. Ur boy will forget this sordid episode with time. Be strong for him. You both are survivors.
Best wishes
Salewa
Oh my daze, I almost cried reading this. You cant keep silent about this, you have to fight, fight for your son and what is right. Expose those kids, what they did is absolutely horrible.
ReplyDeleteU hv 2 show ur son more love now, let him knw wat happened to him was not right. Pray hard too, that God should heal him and help your family go through this cus it affects every1.
May God help u in wateva decision u make.
Madam Poster soooo sori 2 read ur story. Pls take it up with d school. In cases like dis, d school might want 2 cover it up so it will "spoil" their image. Dis shit has bin goin on 4 a while, it will take d Grace of God 4 it 2 end.
ReplyDeleteY you take ur Son go only Boys schl nawa for una ooh. Don't you noe dat where this kind of act is done. Say No to Single SeX Schl and Save ur kids from this shit
ReplyDeleteRich KiD "SDK LoRD"
Pls school name and students involved. We will take dis up seriously.
ReplyDeleteWhy wont you mention the school? Let everyone know what school it is. Take it up with human rights activist not policemen. They will get bribed and it will be swept under the carpet. Look ma, crying will not sort out all these. I feel your pain but c'mon speak out. Please speak out
ReplyDeleteAs a student in Govt college Umuahia, a boys only school, these kind of acts were rampant. The perpetrators were named and shamed and then expelled from the school. Their parents were informed and in all cases were made to flog the boys in the assembly. I hope you took your son to get a medical report. Escalate the matter and most importantly get professional help and counseling for him. Good luck
ReplyDeleteMadam if were you i will not shield the identity of the school, if you decide do mumu and leave the case for God like most Nigerian sue the school take this case to the media you will get the desired result
ReplyDeleteMadam i'm sorry about dis but the only advice I can give you nw is that you withdraw him from the school as soon as possible to a day &mixed school bcuz am guessing his present school is an only boys school nd don't worry abt his future just pray 4 him,my husband was also molested @ d age of 12 or so but he din't turn out gay...he despises anything abt it so don't b worried just pray dat it doesn't affect him but stil ensure you take the neccesary steps by reportin to the sch authorities..God wud see you thru.
ReplyDeleteOh my God... I had a similar experience, not my son but my brother at a boarding school, he was 10 too in JSS1. He never spoke up about it and by the time we knew it was too late. It's a very traumatising thing to go through. Honestly speaking, there isn't much u can do apart from being there for him and d key is to act normal, do not ignore him and at d same time, do not act like d whole world came crashing on him. I'll advice u to take him to a trusted doctor and get him checked and also for HIV. Teach your younger children dat their private parts are private and nobody has d right to touch dem there. May God help you and ur family especially ur boy.
ReplyDeleteOmg , this is unbelievable madam I now how you feel , pls take your son to the hospital to get a report tht he was abused . Then on Monday go to school with police or soldiers , this is evil am just crying like a baby here.
ReplyDeleteThis is the most upsetting thing I have heard in a long while. May God Almighty grant you the strength to go through this most difficult time.
ReplyDeletePlease go to the police station and lay your complain. Then go to the hospital for test so they will give you prove that he was raped then get a good lawyer and go to the school.
ReplyDeleteplease you need to do this. I am so pained right now. How can they? Why should they? Make sure you withdraw him from that school.
OMG! I have a son & can't imagine anyone doing this to him. I'm shaking as it is.
ReplyDeletewow..this is sickening
ReplyDeleteAll is well Ma'm
@Galore
Poster u re nt serious at all u re telling ppl u don't know Wat happened to ur son but u re yet to tell ur husband.rubbish
ReplyDeleteFirst Madam why wait till Monday,second i think you should just take it up with the parents of the student also knowing 9ja well it will be swept under,please lets know the name of the school i intend to bring my kids back to 9ja for schooling am praying for you and let your son forget the experience which will be very difficult.for him to even open up he his very strong
ReplyDeleteThis is disheartening and its rampant in boarding schools especially those ones wiith same sex. What are the matrons and principals doing to curb this anomaly? Its sick and crazy to knw your child has been molested and possibly raped. Even if those boys were molested by their seniors, that doesn't justify their acts.
ReplyDeleteSorry madam, I hope your ward heals fast, give him every support he needs and then, find a way to deal with those boys, get the police and NGOs involved if possible.
kai! I can only raise a strng praya point 4 dis mata!
ReplyDeleteOh God my father! Whoever that has created an avenue for this poor child to b molested wherever you are i command the thunderbolt of God 2 strike you to death in the mighty name of Jesus!
Lord pls,give the poster,d will,strength n wisdom 2 tackle dis mata 2 d glory of ur name!
Chai! Praya no jst lemme pray again. *sad*
What a sad storry madam,,
ReplyDeletebut please madam keeping away the name of such school are like hiding the evil act,,stop protecting the name of the school and make it open,,who knows maybe some of the teachers are also involves in such act,,and you can help some others parents like you by naming the school name,God heal ur pains
I do not have kids yet but I have a 13 year old brother in boarding school that I would get killed and kill for. All I'm trying to say is that I would literally kill any person or any group of people who would hurt him in this way. I can't begin to imagine how hurt you are right now, your little boys innocence was stolen, not even once. Fight this, no matter what it takes even if the school has to shut down permanently, your child is enough reason!
ReplyDeleteMadam Poster.....am so sorry you are going thru dis at dis time.....but i think u have to act fast,,,,firstly get to that school and see the principal/head of school....tell them u want to to see those boys that molested ur son and their parents,,,if u observe the school is trying to sweep d case under the carpet,,threaten them that u will let the whole world know what is going on in dia school and that you will put the name of the school on social media,,in d dailies and everywhere just to let the whole world know what is happening......if u are able to see the boys and their parents,,let them know you will take up the issue,,,am too sure the school will not want their image tarnished,,,they may likely expel those boys and pls let ur hubby know about this because the way a man will handle dis kind of situation is different from the way a woman will handle it......but pls speak out...you might just be the messiah needed to save some other boys that may still be molested in that school.........
ReplyDeleteI also suggest u withdraw ur child from that school,,at least a change of environment will help him put that ugly incident behind him.....then be ur son's best friend,,,talk to him ,,let him know all d disadvantages of that act and how God frowns at it......God help u,,poster.....it is well!!!
Madam Poster.....am so sorry you are going thru dis at dis time.....but i think u have to act fast,,,,firstly get to that school and see the principal/head of school....tell them u want to to see those boys that molested ur son and their parents,,,if u observe the school is trying to sweep d case under the carpet,,threaten them that u will let the whole world know what is going on in dia school and that you will put the name of the school on social media,,in d dailies and everywhere just to let the whole world know what is happening......if u are able to see the boys and their parents,,let them know you will take up the issue,,,am too sure the school will not want their image tarnished,,,they may likely expel those boys and pls let ur hubby know about this because the way a man will handle dis kind of situation is different from the way a woman will handle it......but pls speak out...you might just be the messiah needed to save some other boys that may still be molested in that school.........
ReplyDeleteI also suggest u withdraw ur child from that school,,at least a change of environment will help him put that ugly incident behind him.....then be ur son's best friend,,,talk to him ,,let him know all d disadvantages of that act and how God frowns at it......God help u,,poster.....it is well!!!
Wat?????
ReplyDeleteO Jesus, wats wrong wit d society?
Madam pls speak up! Go to d media houses, ngos, human right, everywhere nd anywhere.
Wat nonsense!
Arrrgghhhhh! Somebody hold me before i break my phone,
Haneyy
This is really heartbreaking....please madam d boy needs all the love, care and affection from you now and tell ur husband asap....don't hide anythn from....u both will seat nd talk on d step to take....I don't hv kids yet but I love children more than I love myself nd can't forgive anyone that molest dm...please u need to take d boy for counselling because of future trauma and make him see a doctor asap for infections...God will teach you how to go abt it my dear, and please d school shd be informed and if dy want to cover it up, raise it at d next pta meeting so dt other parents will be careful...
ReplyDeleteMy heart breaks as i read your post cos i kept imagining what i would do if it way my son. Please get your son out of that school and make sure you take this to the Human Rights Commission cos you son is a minor and his rights were definitely abused. Get justice for your son and the other children in the school that are suffering in silence. DO NOT LET IT BE SWEPT UNDER THE RUG! u owe it to your son. Make sure you let your son know he has nothing to be ashamed of and he is a victim, ensure you talk to him and encourage him daily and above all pray for him continually that God will heal the pain in his heart with time.
ReplyDeletewhile i am not diminishing what happened please stop feeling like a victim...it is not your fault, we all have a choice to make between good and evil and if some sick minds decide to choose evil then the buck stops with them....if you do not snap out of that mentality you will end up transferring that victim mentality to your son.....dont make him feel like anything major happened to him...let him know it is not his fault and the perpetrator of this act is the sick one....teach him sex education and the value God places on it in the context of marriage....let him no that no matter what nobody is allowed to touch him so he can always tell you...above all just pray for him to break any evil transference into his life.....he is just 10 and he will get over it if you do not engage so much pity party over the issue.....thank God u were able to know on time and act....it is well
ReplyDeleteMadam i understand what you are going through.
ReplyDeleteFirstly tell your husband and you guys can take it up from there.
am so sorry because i can actually relate to u because i have an 11yrs and 10yrs old though they are still in primary school. one you should name and shame the school involved so that that parents who have their kids in d school whose kids arent talking should be aware of what is going on.10yrs is quite a young age to be in secondary school and boarding school at that. he is not matured enough to be left on his own. i will advice you wedraw him from the school and enroll in a school where he can be a day student but please name the school so that another mother would not be in same position as you.
ReplyDeleteMadam, I urge you to tell your husband immediately because you'll be taking this up with the school. First of all, contact the parent of the boy that was previously molested and go to the police to fill a report, then go to the principle and demand to have it investigated and bring the boys to justice by a date( give them a date) if they refuse/deny it, take it up with a press and shame the school. IF you also happen to know the address of the boys(do your own little investigation), write to their parents (don't put your name or address in the letter, just initial will do. Book a children counseling support for your boy and constantly assure him that he's not his fault. Pray for him too.
ReplyDeleteStay blessed and fill your heart will prayer and ask God to help you out of this mystery.
Bums
Eeyah, sorry for your situation poster. Firstly, I personally do not support the idea of boarding school; I think people have given up on parenting when they send their wards there.
ReplyDeleteSecondly, where there's a concentration of the same sex (boarding schools, military, etc) stuff like this is bound to happen. So I don't support only girls/boys settings either. A lot of people I know that attended such schools have been interfered with, one way or the other.
Make sure you make as much noise as possible (if only to raise awareness amongst parents and do some damage to the supposedly upright school's reputation). Whatever u do, u must not be quiet on this matter at all. All da best!
Click my name for all your celebration cakes and cupcakes, cheers
Some of us live in areas where d schls arnd are not wat we want for our kids. For instance I am working in Aba though I grew up in Abuja.
DeleteI cannot imagine my kids going to sec schl here.
Primary school is bad enough.
Even in Lag sme pple live in outskirts with d traffic when wld d child get home nd prepare for d next day?
When wkd ur child study?
So attimes its not d parents fault their kids are in boarding schl.
Nigeria is not like uk or us where there r gd public schls cls to every home.
For me if its boarding let it be mixed.
Lazy money hungry parents will always find excuses
DeleteWhat do you mean they have given up on parenting? That's a warped mindset...... Society has changed and parents just need to be more vigilant.....there r still good boarding schools around but with how society is it will be wiser to keep them close to you..... Some parents have no choice but to take their wards to boarding school but they just need to be more vigilant
Deleteyou want to wait till monday?. for what?. are you kidding me?. madam you better march to that school this instant. i take God beg you
ReplyDeleteFirst of all this mother needs to stop making this about her and how she's dying and focus on her son.
ReplyDeleteThe boy should be pulled from the school immediately and be taken to a doctor. To ensure that he does not have extensive physical damage and should be tested for STDs and HIV and get on whatever course of treatment. After his health is sorted physically, he should be seeing a psychologist. He has been damaged and while prayer will help, he needs psychological help from a professional.
Next, why is this mother waiting? Call the police immediately and arrest those rapists. Call a lawyer and file action against the school. She needs to stop this annoying pity party she did in this email and get her child help and justice.
Lady it's not about you, it's about your son please.
Side note, Stella some of these your letters sound somehow these days
Madam poster,mother indeed. I can see it. U av time to send email,shame on u. U r nt supposed to even av time to reprt this. We suppose dey hear ur gist for news on hw u bursted smbdy's head for bursting ur son's ass. Why would a mother even put her child in boarding house? Cos u want to flex shey? U r lucky ur son told u. If I were u,ild av caused enuf havoc on dis matter. Rape a child in d ass,nd u still dey send email. I for don expose everybdy,so d right body will cme to my aid,if am powerless. #giving u a big "baff" ***cry mke e full,continue sending email,nd observin. Dnt take actions. Mother my ass!
ReplyDeleteShameless anon. I have no words for you, just a deep prayer from my heart that your child goes through the same experience so we can see how good a mother u r.
DeleteKai I tire oo. Thot I was not normal for thinking someone should have been admitted in the hospital from that school by now. And people should only be hearing the news on Channels or NTA !
DeleteWe must let learn to defend our kids when they come home with serious issues. That's the only way to keep them as friends and get them to share with you.
Abi you don't have action ni?
U are very silly. Dont u know most schls are on mid term break.
DeleteDo u know where d poster lives?
U have obviously not carried an ant in ur womb b4 talkless of a child.
Answer not a fool in his folly! No words for you @ anon 3:15
DeleteIf u dont have better advice to give , u keep quiet than raining curses on the poster. Sending a child to boarding school has nothing to do with flexing. Yes it could give a mother time to concentrate on the younger ones or work. So dont feel u care for her child more than her. People have different ways of reacting to situation so respect her difference with u . I doubt if u re a mother cos if u re one u will share in her pain than cause my problem. Learn how to use encouraging word. Life is not all about killing one with ur wicked words.
Delete@anon 11:55am and Flo. May God punish the ground and the soil upon which u both thread. U are the most insensitive and the most heartless creations yet. You are both cursed. May u experience worse than this woman in ur life time. What? Peace has eluded u for writing this thrash. Awon Oloriburuku. I bet u are molesters too. Bloody fools.
DeleteStella abeg post my comment. I have been weak since I read this post and I just couldn't come up with anything until I read these bastards here.
Madam hiding d name of d sch means more danger 2 oder parents dat r planning 2 bring der kids in2 dat sch, get a gd lawyer tak d matter up, go 2 news paper n publish d name of d sch, u wil b saving generations
ReplyDeleteMadam poster,mother indeed. I can see it. U av time to send email,shame on u. U r nt supposed to even av time to reprt this. We suppose dey hear ur gist for news on hw u bursted smbdy's head for bursting ur son's ass. Why would a mother even put her child in boarding house? Cos u want to flex shey? U r lucky ur son told u. If I were u,ild av caused enuf havoc on dis matter. Rape a child in d ass,nd u still dey send email. I for don expose everybdy,so d right body will cme to my aid,if am powerless. #giving u a big "baff" ***cry mke e full,continue sending email,nd observin. Dnt take actions. Mother my ass!
ReplyDeleteI am sorry, but you should not let this go.....you need to withdraw your child from that school but you also need to make a hula bula over it. You need to make other parents aware of this issue going on in this horrible school and take it to the press. You can do it such that you take legal action to suppress the identity of your child after all, he is a minor. I am so sorry that this happened to you and your family but it does not need to be swept under the carpet.....Your son is going to need you right now, and I suggest you take him for counseling as well so that he is not scarred from this hideous crime that has been done to him.
ReplyDeleteMadam you have not failed. At least your son was able to open up to you about it all, means that you are a good mother and you have been doing your motherly role perfectly - I commend you for that.
ReplyDeleteMy suggestion is that you start the sex education as early as you can, but not without the father. Yeas, the father has to know. He will shout, jump, scream et all, but at least, you all as a family if put head together, can sail this storm together.
You seriously need the grace of God to go through this trauma, Pray like never before, for wisdom to go about it and for your son.
And again i say to you, for your son to open to you about such thing, shows the level of trust and confidence he has in you - I am proud of you.
I AM SINCERLY SORRY ABOUT THIS.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, this is why i will not take my kids to boarding skl.
Madam, race up to the skl wt koboko in ur back, get 2 d pricipals office lik notin is wrong and ask 4 d bastard students to be sent 2 d principals office and make sure the doors are closed (locked if possible). Make sure ur son identifies them then ask him to step out of the office! immediately draw ur weapon and start flogging d life out of them!!!!! THIS IS NOT A JOKE OOOO! u must do it! flog them till u get tired! trust me, u will not get tired. Please no mother shld have to go thru this becoz i am also typin this with pain in my heart! Pls dont take this lying down. By the time they have marks on their bodies, let their parents come and ask what happend! Im rili rilli sorry about this. May God see u and ur son thru. Plus pls start taking him for counselling FAST!
****Mrs Anon
I am truly very sorry to hear this, ma'am. There are no words to describe how you must be feeling. But even worse is what your son must be feeling. He's been violated, his innocence stolen from him. He told you and now he needs something from you.
ReplyDeleteHe needs you to restore what he has lost - his sense of self-worth. He needs you to talk to him, hold him, reassure him, protect him.
Then he needs you to fight for him. His wounded-child heart wants someone to defend it.
He needs you to stand up for him.
And this you must do. You have to go to the school, speak with the head of the school. Demand justice and proper punishment for those seniors. Get the police involved.
Fight for your son. Don't let anyone tell you to push this under the carpet out of a false sense of shame.
The shame actually lies in our doing nothing.
Once again, I am sorry about this. Good luck and God help you.
Stella this is very serious. When I was in boarding school, I organized and attacked and almost ended the life of one of these vermins molesting innocent and naive students, after forcefully demolishing the rectum of my childhood friend. My friend went through hell and nearly cost him his life, he went through series of very delicate surgeries, cos the doctor said the sperm that was released into his anus had transformed into maggots. I got so angry after visiting him on his sick bed, I can't even explain the agonies he passed through.
ReplyDeleteI mobilized some like minds and we attacked and nearly ended the life of the useless toad that raped him. Stella, you don't just want to imagine what my friend went through. Child molesters have no rights to continue breathing in my own opinion. Most of the so-called gays you see around graduated from boarding schools. I can categorically tell you that, homosexual is just a bad habit for the weaker minds. Most people get initiated in prision cells, boarding schools.
#Zane
Fear God with lies oh, what phenomenon is sperm turning to maggots?
DeleteHiaaaan, please madam, call out the name of the school. U said it urself that a similar case occurred and it was buried. Same is gonna happen if U don't cry blue murder and reveal the name of the school so that the right authorities can look into this. Poor boy, please work on his mind as much as U can U need to rise up from the anguish you feel and be there for him at such a time.
ReplyDeleteWhatever your religion, please pray like you have never prayed before.
Take charge of the situation ma, U rightly pointed out that the deed has been done. What you make of it is what determines the effect on the boy at the end of the day.
It is well with you ma'am, stop berating yourself as a mother, the fact that he opened up to U abt it says a lot on how good U ar doing as a mother, so just relax, pray, and fight for your son's right.
God bless you
Madam,u have to take it up with the school authorities,cos ur spilling the beans will be helping another and another boy from being molested!
ReplyDeleteIf they Don't take it crious,u take that school to court.
you need to speak the truth and speak out....the school might not know some of the things going on at the same time they might.....but we have to get past the mentality of sweeping things under the carpet cos of shame.....the reason why our country is not moving forward is because we dont speak out.....you and your son are not the victims here so no need to feel ashamed......running away is a cowardly behaviour.....let the school know, let him mention the names of the boys involved and they should be expelled....if it happends their parents are influencial then you send the name of the school and the boys involved to stella, she can publish that so the world can know what is going on......protect other children too and dont let evil strive......please it is not your fault so be strong so u can help your son get over it quickly....he is just 10 and he will move on faster if you dont start making him feel like a victim or like something life destroying has happened to him......his life is not over...
ReplyDeleteStella pls do something
ReplyDeleteConnect her to the right people who can help
Let dis not b swept under the carpet like d others
God! D mental, physical, spiritual, social lives of all tenage boys in dat school is in danger if we decide to keep quiet
Am so dumb founded. What is this world turning into for GOD sake? I am man but I feel so weak, tired at the same time very angry reading this story. Is it to ambush those boys and kill all of them?? Is to catch them and castrate them one after another?? Or catch them and drown them in the river?? So many bad thoughts going through my head right now. One needs to use this boys to set example for others to learn from. What kind of evil is this?? If not for the fact that one is now a born again christian, if it were those days, those molesters would never live to tell their story cuz what I will do to them, even the devil will reject when they get to the other side. Am so very angry here.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure it's a boarding. School, expose th school so that people will know but pls keep your sons identity, pray n trust God.
ReplyDeleteThis hit me hard.
ReplyDeleteI am a victim of abuse and so I do not tolerate it, don't have any form of help around me for this reason and now we can't even keep our kids in schools again for fear of this going on?
How do we tackle this, given that these kids are minors? heavenly father I am so broken right now you do not have the faintest idea.And the worst part is that some parents will be willing to dust this under the carpet because of shame. Ma'am I applaud your strength in not sweeping it under the carpet even if I do not have any other advise for you, I pray for complete restoration for your son and that this stronghold MUST be broken, I have heard of boys/girls in his shoes that ended up killing themselves because of the pain and therefore I urge you to keep him and all your other kids in prayers. It took me almost 20years or so to break this stronghold because I did it by myself but by your help I believe he will pull through. Amen!
Poster crying won't help, he is still in his prime, so its very easy to change his orientation, talk to your husband, pastor, he needs to see a very good counselor.
ReplyDeleteYou must write the name of the school so other parents will know and take action. Also the senior boys must be brought forward by the school. Ask your son where they took him to and how it happened. So the school can deal with every loophole that encourages this. Junior students sleeping arrangement and bathing facilities should be looked into.
ReplyDeleteI am so sad and angry. Madam let your husband know about it. Go public, by the time you start out, others who have been hiding will come out. If you say you want to take it easy remember that your boy who is a victim might embrace it. Let him know it is so wrong and let him see you fight for him.
ReplyDeleteWhat a sad story indeed.
Firstly I want to say it's not ur fault, neither is it ur sons fault. I must also commend u for planning to speak up. Candid advice is when u go to the school do wats best for ur SON and family and not the school. Dat means don't keep quiet or allow the school try to pacify u. U owe it to ur son to explain lovingly and ensure he understand dat wat was done to him was not right!and should never be condoned.u should ensure that u go wit a lawyer when u go to the school. The identity of the boys must not be hidden! Ur son should be allowed to pick them from a line up. After all dese has been done, u withdraw ur son and put him in a school where he can be picked up and dropped off in school, until he becomes a lot older. But no matter what don't leave ur son in dat school and do not cover up d name of the school!!!
ReplyDeleteAm really short of words too ooo.so painful so so painful,if only God gave us d ability to read minds then u wld knw d extent of dis damage done to ur little boy.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry little guy,madam u hve to be strong nd put it in prayer for God to heal ur hero nd make him realise dat wat they did to him was wrong no fault of his.tell him God's intended purpose for our sexual organs,madam all u can do is try try nd try erase dat thot of homosexualism in his pure innocent mind nd heart
Tell him beautiful stories,tell him how beautiful it is to marry d opposite sex.pls use u nd hubby as an example pls
Recently my boys r insisting they want to go to boarding house in thr school nd I REFUSED cos of incidents like dis
Madam may JEHOVAH be wth u nd ur hero we wil pray for him ok
Madam.for u writin it out to d world wl go a long way in healin ur pains.no amount of words can heal u except u made dat decision dat u want to let go.i cld imagine.wat cld u hv done to protect hm in school.u did ur best dear mother.u didnt fail ur son.d school failed ur child nd u r not finished.its traumatising u know bt pls pls nd pls.let it go.u hv to tel hs dad soon nd as u said move d child away frm d sch nd make sure those boys r brot to book nd if d sch refuses to do somethin drastic call out d name of d sch so dat other schls wl learn frm it.God 1l gv u d grace to overcome ds nd dnt make it look too bad to d boy so dat he wl not b more traumatized.ur mood counts too to him.God pls protect my children nd all d other innocent children out there
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Don't keep quiet o. Fyt 2qet justice 4 ur son n also 4 posterity sake. Wat is dis world turninq in2 naw? Eooooo
ReplyDeleteMadam am so upset with u, u dnt wanna tell d name of the school dt conceal such act cos according to what u wrote, the school knows about all dis demonic act....2ndly, u dnt wanna tell ur hubby, seriously?
ReplyDeleteI cried after reading this. Make sure you take this up with the school and have those boys expelled. Talk to a spiritual father who can pray with you and your son plus let him go through rehab. He is definately too young for all that nonsense. God will keep you stong and take the pain and mental torture away. I will say a prayer for you today.
ReplyDeleteabeg carry police go d pikin school, God have mercy, wen will all dis stop? I pray my kid does nth come home 2 tell me dis if nth nah die d person dey o.
ReplyDeleteReport to the school authority and watch out for the action they will take. If their action is not satisfactory, then report to the police. There shouldn't be any sentiment in this kind of issues.
ReplyDeleteThat's what u get from boarding schools these days.....even the christain boarding schools are worse....I tell parents take ur children to day schools where u can at least monitor them better.
ReplyDeleteThe amount of demons roaming the earth and using people these days cannot be counted. Even my friends 16 yrs old son was caught recently fingering an 11 yrs old gal who is their neighbour. They both confessed that it's been going on for months. Madam ur son told u na, this gal didn't tel her parents and she even said a teacher in sch fingers her too (primary sch). Am glad your boy told you cuz it shows he is aware and can confide in you. You are not a failure it's just that bad things happen to good people. Take it up with d sch as far as u can, get those senior boys and make sure they are dealt with. Stay strong madam. So sorry about this situation.
ReplyDeleteohhh dear! so sorry dear poster. this is really heart breaking.
ReplyDeleteThis is why I hate boarding school. I can never put my kids in boarding, never!
let them go to day school and come back each day so I can see them, observe them and talk/gist with them how their day at school was.
all these boarding schools...hell no! it even makes kids distant from their parents and more in tune to advice(good or bad) from peer groups.
I will kill anyone who dares molest my sons. What rubbish is that?
ReplyDeletei'm in SHOCK!!!! Right now im so confused. im a single mum and my baby schools in England. just when all parties(her dad and 1)agreed to bring her down to nigeria to finish up secondary school,i hear horror stories about boarding schools,hostels,nannies,househelps. Where do we go from here? im just as horrified and confused as other posters. These horror stories are on the increase on a daily basis. the BALM of GILEAD will heal ur son emotionally,spiritually and otherwise. It is well with u
ReplyDeleteBetter forsake money, men, career etc and be a mother to ur child in England, the world is too decayed to trust boarding schools anymore
DeleteMy dear it happens every where, my daughter is 2 and 1/2 but I dont want her to start nursery till her speech is clear. I am scared of school teacher molesting her, racism, muslim trouble makers, she is xtian but her dad has a muslim name. Theses things can happen anywhere. God help us all. Mrs O
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ReplyDeleteLady..read Salewa's comment again the best I can do is say a prayer for your son.
Be strong and decisive for his sake.
You fear for his future? The fact that he told you is proof enough he will be a normal child.
Your son will be fine his sexual orientation won't be DISTORTED. Fear not
Why did you leave your son in that school? Since you knew there was a case like that, that was covered.
ReplyDeletei'm suprised you had time to send this in sha...
ReplyDeleteThe first thing to have done was to take him to the hospital for checks, counsellor/psychologist and the church for prayers. Then you can go to the school to lodge the complaint, get a good lawyer and charge the foolish offenders to court. And above all, like someone said you have to be STRONG for him. STRONG O... especially in prayers. dont fuss too much else he'd withdraw o. Goodluck sha! i pray your son doesnt get affected by all the trauma
Action is needed asap.
ReplyDelete1. Take the child to a hospital for treatment and report.
2. Get police officers, mopol or soldiers if you can and STORM that school.
3. Identify the culprits and let HELL locate them.
Action. Action. Action.
No dulling because other kids are suffering daily.
Well said!
DeleteIt's a pity that ur son had 2 b a victim and a pity 4 all the other victims. Homosexuality has taken a terrible turn in our country. Pls my dear don't sweep dis under d carpet. Ur son knw's smthg's wrong wit wat they did 2 him and dats y he was able to speak up. It goes a long way to say u've tried 2 establish a gud relationship wit ur son, in d same way try 2 counsel him, tell him he has been molested and dat wat they did 2 him was wrong. Let him understand dat he has been victimized and dats it's not ok. Tell him it hasn't altered his being, he will grow up 2 b a normal boy. Most girls were molested bt they still come out normal. On d part of d school, insist on them inviting d parents of d school 2 report d misdeeds of their sons. Let d ss3 students b disgraced at the school assembly and expelled thereafter with no considerations to their WAEC registration. It's a pity dear bt it's still within control don't let hear heart go weary.
ReplyDeleteShut up joo is disgracing them at the school assembly and n
DeleteShut up joo, is disgracing them at the school assembly and not letting them write waec the solution? What if that is the way they too were treated? When you do things think of how to help the victims and also help offenders not to repeat.... Let not forget they are all kids.... The school must acknowledge an offence has been committed. The boys must agree they offended and their parents must accept to take responsibility for their wards....the boys have to be expelled to serve as deterrent to others, hope fully during this period the parents can find help for their own kids.... Meanwhile poster withdraw your child to a day school near you. This will help him heal faster.... He will definitely outgrow the trauma by Gods grace
DeleteGod help us all. Madam I understand where ure coming from. Ure thinking of d backlash when the story comes out
ReplyDeleteand how it will affect ur son. Pls u
need to look beyond that and fight d
skool with evrytin uve got. My son is
11yrs and I had to put him in a day
skool dat was after he passed LJ Abuja
and my friend told me her nephew
went thru dis ordeal and d skool begged n pleaded and d whole tin was
covered up and d senior boys were
expelled quietly. the boys parents agreed cos they are well known people and they too were afraid of the scandal.
Madam u need to be strong for ur son and smother him with love , let him know dis wasnt his fault and let ur husband know cos ur son will need the love of both parents to get thru dis. Stay strong. We are all praying 4 u.
homosexuality and lesbianism depends on the school. i attended a boarding school and rarely heard about it. Even in day schools, people start having sex at very young ages eg 8yrs and above. Just teach your child the difference btw right n wrong. If any senior tries to molest the child, let the child take note of the senior's name and report to his/her parents so the senior will be punished and shamed. If it happens once, seniors will become scared and not do it again. Heard of a boarding school in abuja where girls decorate their pubic hairs and practice lesbianism openly. If a child is educated and sees such, he /she wont partake in such immorality and can confide in the parents so he/she can be transferred to another school.
ReplyDeleteMadam just be very careful in this case. If you don't handle it well, the matter will be turned back to you. ie you will be made to face more shame. am sorry to speak like this but am talking from experience. something similar happened to girl of 10 yrs close to me. When the mother went to the school, the school authority shamelessly turned the matter upside down. The little girl was accused of so many unspeakable things by the school head master. Its a pity the world we live. Careful is the watch word. Remember this singler issue can either make or mare your relationship with your son. Careful woman
ReplyDeleteGod I feel so depressed...Ma'am just know that you are not a failure as a mother cos of this. You have to be strong for your son, you & your husband should smother him with love, care & prayers; also take him to see a doctor & a psychologist. Please never you or anyone blame him for this ( I have been there & I was blamed & it was the grace of God that made me not to commit suicide...I was a naive 17 year old virgin so you can imagine).
ReplyDeleteIt is well with your son, this will never affect him negatively & he will live to fulfill what God has in store for him. I will uphold you guys in prayers & know this...It Will End In Praise.
Please NAME the school, do not cover them up so that other parents can be aware of the dangers within their walls, you can be saving another innocent child if you do that. I pray the parents of the guilty boys take them for proper counselling before their lives get ruined beyond redemption.
I have 4 boys and I swear if one person lays a hand on one I will commit I swear to God! This is the reason why I don't like all boys boarding house as I have heard sordid tales about it. At poster I feel your pain, may God give you the grace because I know its not easy at all. Please don't let this matter die without put up a fight! God bless you my sister and strengthen you
ReplyDeleteOmg, am shivering!
ReplyDeleteWat!
Ma'am, i can imagine ur pains rit now, my advice b4 involvn d police:
Talk to his father
Sit ur son down and tell him to pls open up(incase there still oda things he's afraid of telln u)
Dis is d time to love ur son more dan u ve ever done, shower him wit love n dont ever lay any blame on him for wat ever happnd, rather tell him how proud of him u were for opening up to u. His duty as a child is to be honest n ur job as d parent is to deal wit or handle d situation...
Take courage ma'am....dont relent..face ur fear..God is wit u!
May God heal u SON!
@Dr Okechukwu.. You are very right.. I attended GCU (Government College Umuahia) for a year..before I left to a Federal Government College which was a mixed institution.
ReplyDeleteIn GCU the practice was so rampant, that looking back now and as a medical professional myself I can imagine how many youngster whose first exposure to sex and intimacy was through homosexual abuse.
They may never adjust to or thrive in a normal heterosexual relationship later in life.
When I got to FGC.. The emphasis for us impressionable teenagers then was learning how to impress the young ladies in our midst.
I am now a grown man with three boys.. And none of them will ever attend an all boys institution no matter how prestigious it is.
After all the society they will eventually Intergrated into isn't a single sex one.. So why have single sex schools.
Madam as advised seek medical and psychological help for your son, relocate him to an environment where he will be exposed to the female gender.
As he is still quite young.. He hasn't "learnt" this behaviour as yet..so you can re-orientate him very quickly.
@Dr Okechukwu.. You are very right.. I attended GCU (Government College Umuahia) for a year..before I left to a Federal Government College which was a mixed institution.
ReplyDeleteIn GCU the practice was so rampant, that looking back now and as a medical professional myself I can imagine how many youngster whose first exposure to sex and intimacy was through homosexual abuse.
They may never adjust to or thrive in a normal heterosexual relationship later in life.
When I got to FGC.. The emphasis for us impressionable teenagers then was learning how to impress the young ladies in our midst.
I am now a grown man with three boys.. And none of them will ever attend an all boys institution no matter how prestigious it is.
After all the society they will eventually Intergrated into isn't a single sex one.. So why have single sex schools.
Madam as advised seek medical and psychological help for your son, relocate him to an environment where he will be exposed to the female gender.
As he is still quite young.. He hasn't "learnt" this behaviour as yet..so you can re-orientate him very quickly.
This is the most heart breaking news I've ever read!!!! A little child, a 10yr old. Oh poor boy, this is my 1st time hearing such, and to read others say it has been hapnin to other kids is killing me, I couldn't stop crying. A little child!! Madam, FIGHT! FIGHT!! FIGHT!!! Fight with ALL your strength, I'm thinking ul take this matter beyond everyone's thinking, because for you to actually wait and read pples comments, u're a tough one, changing your mind won't be easy. Tell your husband, pls don't go to his school without a lawyer and a tape recorder, I'm extremely sad. Evil at its peak, may God heal your lil baby 's heart. I'm so sorry this happnd, I don't even knw wt to say, PLS FIGHT. *sigh*
ReplyDeleteI legit had chills reading this. I'm so sorry this happened to your child, i can't imagine how you feel. Be strong for your child. Tell your husband, and report appropriate authorities.
ReplyDeleteMa'am, you need to be strong for your son! Get medical help immediately to make sure there are no diseases and ruptures. Then get the school involved and the parents of the perpetrators. You will need to get counselling for your son, and prayerfully, he will forget this experience with time and it will not scar him for life. You need to keep him closer home for now, that means a day school. AND PLEASE, TELL YOUR HUSBAND!
ReplyDeleteThis was very difficult to read and it pains me. While it is important to take up the school and expose them, please do, focus on your son and help him overcome this. Thank you for being such a wonderful mother whose son can confide in her. With God's help, and do go for counseling please, you will overcome this.
ReplyDeleteReading this really made me sick, shameful act, evil. Please kindly inform your man about situation although he might not be happy with you coming online to tell the world about it before telling him. Make sure you expose the school to avoid other mothers facing similar issue with their kids in the future because most time we are good in over looking things and saying God dey.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I applaud your strength and courage.
ReplyDelete#Hugs
Dear poster please get a lawyer and go with mopol. And please go with a hidden tape recorded and make sure you record all the ordeal.
ReplyDeleteFor you daft Dr Okechukwu did you read the story or you browsed through that you did not read her saying she doesn't want to tell her husband yet.
So sorry to hear diz..am speakin from personal xperience I got initiated into such bak wen I waz in secondry skul a federal skul and it wuz even a mixed skul.its a normal tin in boys hostel its called choko.as long as ur child is in a boardin skul dere wud olwaiz be tendency of bein initiated into it.some of use get to like it and growup likin boys while sum like ur boy wud cry out.my advise to u is withdraw ur son frm d skul and enrol him in a day skul and monitor him very well coz honestly along d line he will become tempted to try gayism diz is d real truth from my own true story.dats why dis federal govt 14yrs thingy is a joke do u people know how many thousands of nigerians are into gayism???many were taught in secondry skul dey mite not like it at d beginin but will eventualy be tempted...wishin u d best.we are all victims of circumstance
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear diz..am speakin from personal xperience I got initiated into such bak wen I waz in secondry skul a federal skul and it wuz even a mixed skul.its a normal tin in boys hostel its called choko.as long as ur child is in a boardin skul dere wud olwaiz be tendency of bein initiated into it.some of use get to like it and growup likin boys while sum like ur boy wud cry out.my advise to u is withdraw ur son frm d skul and enrol him in a day skul and monitor him very well coz honestly along d line he will become tempted to try gayism diz is d real truth from my own true story.dats why dis federal govt 14yrs thingy is a joke do u people know how many thousands of nigerians are into gayism???many were taught in secondry skul dey mite not like it at d beginin but will eventualy be tempted...wishin u d best.we are all victims of circumstance
ReplyDeleteFirst of all Ma'am, u are a good mother, give urself credit and don't think u've failed in ur duty as a mom, I say this cos it is proven wit the fact that ur son opened up to u, a rape victim never opens up to anyone except someone to deeply love and trust, so having earned ur sons trust and love so well, I applaud u. Lots of people here don't even have such relationship wit their kids and here they re wagging tongues. And secondly, u've raised a good kid, it's refreshing to know that some mum's are still being real mothers. Having said that, BREATH and PRAY, then go see a good lawyer, tell him everything and ask him u need ur son's identity protected in all of this. Hey, I forgot to mention, u are also a great wife, very wise for waiting it out till ur husband returns from his trip, most women here will not even hve the wisdom to imagine wat such news could do to a man who is not home. U are selfless, u'll rather bear the pains till comes home safe. Please,find out from ur lawyer if it will hurt ur case to mention the school's name here cos these things are not as easy as u think, a little mistake could harm ur case and deny u the justice that u seek.
ReplyDeleteBut PLEASE stand up for wat is right, this is beyond ur son, this is beyond ur pains, this is beyond ur fears....it is about those several minors in that school, it is about the pains of several other parents who might be kicked by this in the way that u have, it is about the fear of mental, emotional, social and academic damages it might cause future victims.
STAND UP for wat is right, SPEAK UP for wat is true!!! But pls talk to a good lawyer and calculate ur actions, so u won't miss the justice u seek.
I pray that God give u the wisdom u need to fight for that innocent son of urs. Goodluck
PS: those of u one here, pls build a firm relationship wit ur kids so they can open up to u if they ever fall victims, that job and career that is tkaing ur time away from ur kids is not worth it.
#thenextbestthing#
First of all Ma'am, u are a good mother, give urself credit and don't think u've failed in ur duty as a mom, I say this cos it is proven wit the fact that ur son opened up to u, a rape victim never opens up to anyone except someone to deeply love and trust, so having earned ur sons trust and love so well, I applaud u. Lots of people here don't even have such relationship wit their kids and here they re wagging tongues. And secondly, u've raised a good kid, it's refreshing to know that some mum's are still being real mothers. Having said that, BREATH and PRAY, then go see a good lawyer, tell him everything and ask him u need ur son's identity protected in all of this. Hey, I forgot to mention, u are also a great wife, very wise for waiting it out till ur husband returns from his trip, most women here will not even hve the wisdom to imagine wat such news could do to a man who is not home. U are selfless, u'll rather bear the pains till comes home safe. Please,find out from ur lawyer if it will hurt ur case to mention the school's name here cos these things are not as easy as u think, a little mistake could harm ur case and deny u the justice that u seek.
ReplyDeleteBut PLEASE stand up for wat is right, this is beyond ur son, this is beyond ur pains, this is beyond ur fears....it is about those several minors in that school, it is about the pains of several other parents who might be kicked by this in the way that u have, it is about the fear of mental, emotional, social and academic damages it might cause future victims.
STAND UP for wat is right, SPEAK UP for wat is true!!! But pls talk to a good lawyer and calculate ur actions, so u won't miss the justice u seek.
I pray that God give u the wisdom u need to fight for that innocent son of urs. Goodluck
PS: those of u one here, pls build a firm relationship wit ur kids so they can open up to u if they ever fall victims, that job and career that is tkaing ur time away from ur kids is not worth it.
#thenextbestthing#