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If you are stuck with someone who loves you in a crazy way and would do anything for you....anything to make you happy and you woke up discovering you feel nothing for this person and you are even ashamed to go public with him/her..what would you do?
....You have pretended to the extent that marriage comes into sight and everyone is looking at you to say yes,families have bonded and the wedding planner is just a dial away.........STOP!
........What did you say???
''Stella for so long I've been contemplating sending you this mail, cos I don't know what to do. I'm sooo confused! Please help me out.……
I've been in a relationship for over 6years with a guy I met while I was still in school. He was my very first cos when I met him, I was still a virgin. Up until last year, I was in love with him but I had a few reservations:
*Though he is a Christian, he is not very compatible with me as per Religion and my folks are quite reserved about that aspect - they won't support me forsaking my religious foundation although he is liberal and has promised he'll start attending my church when we marry. He even attends once in a while.
*He is not very tall or built and I like them tall and quite built though he is a bit taller than me
*I am not very proud to flaunt him as my boyfriend when we go out. We hardly hold hands, etc outside
Now the crux of the matter:
Last year, there was a lull in our relationship..…and I had an opportunity to taste someone else. The sex with this other guy (Who I can't marry cos he's unavailable) was mind blowing! He has a big dick and made me cum several times! It's so intense that even thinking of him gets me horny!
I am cheating on my good old boyfriend with this sexy, older, rich guy but pls don't crucify me yet. This is the issue:
*My boyfriend has a very small dick and doesn't satisfy me sexually. I didn't know any better until last year cos I was a newbie at sex.
Now, he's talking about marriage, wants an introduction this year, engagement, etc and I keep giving excuses cos to be candid, I'm not sure if he's the one I want to marry eventually. I don't want to cheat on my husband when we marry!
I am no longer sexually attracted to him! I don't think I can bear to have him touch me again! :( Don't get me wrong:
*He's a wonderful, amazing guy and out of the money he makes, he gives me some just to help me along
*He's very sacrificial and supportive and madly in love with me even tho I'm not so sure if I love him anymore
*His family and mine have grown closer and are very good friends now. His parents and mine are just like old school friends and they love me .My parents love him too
I am in a very crazy dilemma right now cos I don't know what to do!
I am afraid of breaking up with him and never finding anyone else who can love me like crazy like this guy (Everyone says better to have a guy who loves you more than you love him).
Also, age is not on my side as I'm 27years old now. I have no one else I can date right now and I'm scared of ending up single and lonely but also married and unsatisfied/unfulfilled….…oh God!
Please I know I may have done wrong, but don't insult me. I'm only human. Criticize me but constructively pls!
I need real advice. Thank you, Stella and SDKers''.
*dust your shoes,pack your bags and take a long walk from this now.he doesn't deserve you...maybe when he is gone,you will realise what you lost.
his dick is small?did he create himself?.you like them tall but he is taller than you?Poster Fear God oh!
I am sure you have flaws that he has overlooked as well...
i am not cussing you out but continue jumping on big prick oh,when you tire to nack and turn around to see no one loves you that your horny-ness will dry up like sahara desert!
Anyone stuck in a marriage like this?you complained but still went ahead and married the person?how do you cope?
this is exactly wat im goin tru bt im gona marry the.man kos he is vry God fearing and he luvs me soooo muh n ova luks ma flaws.i fik i wil luv him wif tym mayb kos we avnt ad sex yet bt i knw he wil b a fantastic fada n husband.
ReplyDeletePoster I may not be advanced in dis relationship thingy bt I knw for a fact dat u're are all intrested in d 'sex' mking it ur priority in choosing a life partner which is wrong I knw sex is vital but hey if he passed d oda criteria why not forfeit dis 1?,,I am reminded of the interview omotola's husband granted wen he was asked wat had kept his relationship wit his wify waxin stronger nd I quote him " a lot of men marry women cus of their hips,boobs,legs etc,but after d sex what happens? Does she have a gud character? My dear u can as well turn d questn around nd answer it genuely for dat bigger guy?,ur heart won't fail u,m nt instigating fear in you oh bt if u leave dat man all because of his 'dick' mehn dat won't be nice,u myt get sum1 else oh bt he myt nt want commitment or love u so very much,just do want u want girl.cus u knw d ryt tin to do u just fyting it
DeleteTo all those people insulting this babe, why don't you try to be objective?
DeletePoster, there are lots of questions you need to ask yourself. He is not as Spiritual as you need him to be, right? That is important. Especially as he may even be cheating on you too right now. Also, never marry out of pity or a feeling of indebtedness or fear. You may need to take some time away from your relationship and even the other sexy guy so you can re evaluate your feelings.
If you rush in, you will rush out oo. God help us all.
Mu dear, the issue herea is when u have sex with him, hope u will enjoy it cos sex and the mind work hand in hand. If u dont feel someone u cant enjoy sex wit him. I am speaking out of experience. Its not that easy, especially if the sex is crap. Mrs O
DeleteHow old are you? 15 i guess.
DeleteWhat you need to do is first of all brush up your terrible writing skills before you send the poor man to his early grave with horrible English.
I went tru same. My hubby, den boyfriend used to hav a smal dick n dint knw how to use it. He was a 1 sec guy. B4 d dick even enters he'l hav come n d dick was so small it practically swims in my veejay. Most tyms sex ends wit me in tears bt he was a great guy, loves me to pieces n can die 4 me. I knew fm d start he loved me more bt every single day i wondered if i could continue wit ds guy shld we get married. D diff btw mine n urs is dat he knew his prob unlike ur guy who doesnt knw wat u feel. So, he started to research online, ask his friends n did everytym possible to get things ryt. Well today we r married wit a beautiful son n i cant seem to get enough of d 'smal dick' wnt trade dat dick 4 any oda. My point is work it out wit him. Tell him wat u lyk n how u lyk it n i bet u, u'l sing a new song. Pls Marry him, i doubt u'l find anyone who loves u as much as he does. N i must add dat ryt now btw me n my hubby dnt evn knw who loves d oda more bt i knw his love 4 me is simply pristine jes lyk ur guys. Marry him, i knw his type. God help n bless you
DeleteMy case is similar but in my case... my bf has a very satisfying dick as in big, we have dated for 6 years right from uni he was my first too. Am 26, a year older than he is.
DeleteAv not cheated on him (F**ked another guy I mean) but my married elder sister and her friends keeps trying to link me with guys(older guys ooo) cos they feel he will not be ready in a year or two.
Commentors I wont lie o.. i get distracted by these guys cos most of them are very buoyant(dont really care bout moni I believe in working hard) , works in a multi national companies(companies I wish to work with) some are her husband's friends, most of them are more romantic in terms of gestures that can make a girl fall.. most of them are taller than i am(am 6ft and my bf is just an inch taller)and are ready to settle but then again I have a good ambitious sometimes annoying guy that Fears God... His family likes me upon they know am older in fact they invite my folks for any event they do......
Tell me what would you advice in this case stick to guy and pray he doesn't disappoint when it gets better
Or go with the ready to settle guys..
Poster I cant advice u on this sha.. but the question is did u feel a bit of guilt when u were screwing the other guy? Cos a simple kissing and touching I do gets me thinking and comparing... And most times I go with d devil I know.. Don't base your judgement on the physical cos if it was by physical mehn I would been long gone without coming here to say my problem... just be wise....
SDK kindly advice..
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DeleteAnon11.45, am speaking from experience oh, I thought same when I was to get married, I did not love him, I was under serious pressure from my family, they said he is God fearing, responsible, will be a good husband and father. My dear now I can't even bear his touch, we are just there.
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Deletesorry o! This advice... Please take it... The one Stella has just given. If his dick is too small for you, you can ask around i suppose there are somethings yoruba guys take to make it big, strong, huge and last for almost an hour. I suppose you are looking for horse power, yeah! You can introduce your guy to some of that. guess they are a lot in Ikorodu. On the other hand, do not use ur hand to destroy what God has given u or else u'd be an old maid with no-one to love u. Loneliness is bitter. I know... Another thing, u have no business sampling penises let alone comparing. Better close your legs girl. This unavailable guy may ruin you permanently. Be careful
DeleteNa wah....all this vanity upon vanity.
ReplyDeleteThe body n penis u crave for wld one day be food for maggots.
How do u girls even manage to date guys for years unending?
Are men that scarce in ur area?
The guy deserves better,if your problem is an extra large phalus,by all means go get it....as much as I like it HUGE,there is more to marriage than sex ....best wishes
DeleteChai! Stella, you mean o!
ReplyDeleteMean?
DeleteShe only said d truth
She doesn't deserve him and his 'small dick'
My ex jst left me wit excuses d@ he isn't sure hw he feels boutme or hw he wil feel in a year.
I'm still very sad nd depressed bt w@ can I do
I've let him go.
I knw I'm perfefct 4 himbt he jst cldnt see it.
His loss nt mine.
I loved him so so so much bt Life goes on.
*cough and clears throat*
DeleteU claim to be religious and u are busy sampling a married guy? Dat unavailable is complete bull crap!
What if u get a mr big dick can make u come 20 times, bt who doesn't luv? U will now be an addicted sorrowful sex slave!
Weight ur options! D fact dat ur bf's dick is not big doesn't mean he can't improve! So read books kama sultra and improve ur sex life! Even if his penis is as small d pinky finger, he can use his tongue or even toy on u! My dear if u leave dis guy dat loves u and go for mr sex expert that can bang like a lion, bt who doesn't love! Trust me all ur sexual desires will wipe out from ur face when he cheats on u and maltreats.
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Mean?
DeleteShe only said d truth my dear.
My ex jst left me cos he says he doesn't knw if he loves me enuf to stand d test. Of time.
Poor him
I pity him cos I knw I'm d best tin 4 him nd he wil neva find som1 like me.
I'm depressed nd sad bt lyf goes on.
His loss nt mine.
If he clda jst gotten ova his fears nd distrust 4 women, he woulda seen I'm d best tin 4 him.
Poster, I don't knw w@ to say. Na u wear shoe, knw whr e dey pain u nd hw to solve. Ur prob
Bt rememba nobody wil be dere 4 u wen yawagas
My love @ anon 3:37pm. Mine just left me too after so many years. He was too good to me for those years we were together and I know I am the best for him as well but its unfortunate he doesn't see it. Even after I forced myself to love him...oh well, his loss, not mine..better days ahead for me. Will be depressed but only for a lil while..life goes on!!
DeleteStella bia biko stop. Cant a woman complain of small dick again...forever is a long time to spend with a tiny dick. Men have the right to complain about small bum bum,big breast,short or tall but women cant. Do him a favor and walk away and be hopeful you will find someone else. It is obvious sex is much valuable to you.
ReplyDeleteGood guys truly finish last! What a pity.
DeleteDear Poster...you can never have it all better go and marry that man like SDK said u dnt deserve him..at 27 you want to start xplorin dick sizes sorry 4u
ReplyDelete....Philo...
I'm I the olny one that missed the part where she had sex with an unavilable guy pls xplain the "unavailable guy" like is he married
DeleteSister you really do not deserve such a good guy, but leaving him might be a mistake to, cus u cannot even have the unavailable one, where do you want to start from
You can leave him if you want but pls think again
Big dick is not the deal here babes oh... you have to teach your guy what you want him to do for you. You'll be amazed what a small dick guy can do. Yo don't only get satisfaction through sex, you can get it through other means !!!
ReplyDelete...... My dear all that glitters is not gold, don't let big dick and tall man-ness fool you....
But it won't hurt for you to leave him and look at your life 10 years down the line and see what you done to yourself.... You can only learn from your mistake abi.
Ur right girl, big dick is not the in thing it the way u use it . Small dick with experience can do crazy things to u.
DeleteBLOG ANALYSER: on spot annon 12.09 pm. However, u can only walk away once u have what u want. A bird at hand is worth two in the bush.
DeleteAm not claiming holier than thou o...if I was in somfin serious, like really serious, why wld I wanna cheat? If it was somfin dt is jst a fling ehn hen dt one, if u like sample africa, nobody go vex...u saying he's nt religious like u cos he dosnt attend church service always bt from what I can deduce, he is holier and more upright than u are......well now u av tested another dts is bigger than his own, u will still test another dt will be bigger than d oda one nd that how u will be doing ultimate search 4 bigger versions ba....like stella, untill ur bf is gone that's when u knw what uve lost...nd 2 think u are 27yrs o...nd u never mentioned dt d oda guy loves u talkless of settling down with u.....dem dey use ur picture fry garri 4 villa.....I wnt tell u to stay or leave o, u wear d shoe nd u know how e dey do u, its a 50/50 thing, its either u regreat ur action or u thank GOD u took a particular decision all I can say is, if u were faithful to ur partner, u won't be reading this mail now, we wld be getting wedding pix
ReplyDeleteGbamest!!! Love u phelee.
DeleteWell said!
DeleteWell said!
DeleteAs in!!!!!! You said it mehn! Also, poster, since you said he loves you he would try to please you more. I'm almost sure you've not suggested ways to him. The size isn't the issue o. Hmn..I've been with this guy with a relatively small disk but I had so much Orgasms!!! For all other things you mentioned Phelee and a few others have said it right.
DeleteAlso, that's if your heart swayed just because of the Sex o. Try making him improve, how to touch you by guiding his hands or movement etc. If you had other misgivings then you should think right and pray. It shouldn't be just Sex and height, he's even taller sef! But if those make your priorities, suit yourself dear. And make resolutions.
DeletePoster, I gat one word for you, "WICKED"
ReplyDeleteHow can you be so mean? Please save this guy eternal misery and leave him now.
Why did you stay for so long when U knew U cldnt stand his features?
So sad. Some women sha!!!
Tgirl am behind u abeg. I wonder why someone who has someone who loves n values her that much, ur imperfections included will come here n spill BS. Pls don't marry him,by d time u are done sampling big dicks n tall guys n d dude must have found d right woman for him, u'll still send sdk a mail asking her to help advertise guys wif small dick n u won't even mind a midget sef. Oloshi! This mail don pain me_ihe ndi ozo na-acho ka anuofia a ji egwu egwuregwu *Mtchew*
DeletePoster please kindly give me his details. I will marry him since you're not interested.
DeleteAbeg all of u should pack well, why wont d guy love her, with his small dick he knows he just has to be nice and good in every other way, disadvantaged men are always the nicest hence i dont appreciate it cos if the tables were to be turned they ll never be that nice.
DeleteYou have yourself to blame, if you had kept your cunt even when you guys had the lull you would still be happy with your guy, as they say "ignorance is bliss". My dear, please dump that nice, caring and loving man, is love food? Go after dick jor, afterall, sex is everything in a relationship and it is your own personal happiness that matters not that of those that love you. The guy is mad o, why didn't he "gym" his penis before he met you? Please enjoy the fat penis till your tin slack. Orgasm is everything
ReplyDeleteLmao is how big do Nigerian women like it 8inches or plus?
DeleteYou have yourself to blame, if you had kept your cunt even when you guys had the lull you would still be happy with your guy, as they say "ignorance is bliss". My dear, please dump that nice, caring and loving man, is love food? Go after dick jor, afterall, sex is everything in a relationship and it is your own personal happiness that matters not that of those that love you. The guy is mad o, why didn't he "gym" his penis before he met you? Please enjoy the fat penis till your tin slack. Orgasm is everything. Other girls will thank and pray for you when you leave him.
ReplyDeleteMoses A
Akuko ifo(Tales by moonlight)D lady doesn't know wat she has till she looses it. Big prick is not all it takes to satisfy a woman. Infact, good sex will hav been a prerequisite for a healthy marriage if all d marriage years are to be spent in d bedroom. Dear poster, the lenght of a man nor dat of his dick has little or nothin to contribute in marriage. Since u've sampled other products and now a professional,help him to perfect his skills. Better for u to marry a man dat luvs u. Who knows? as u continue to live together n share things, ur luv for him will grow instead of marrying Mr. Knacker who may end up knacking other ladies any time he's out of ur sight.
ReplyDeleteI know exactly what you are going thru dear cos I am currently in a relationship like that myself. In my own case, we have already even done the introduction! I met him at a point in my life when I was going thru heartbreak and he stepped in and helped heal my broken heart. Before him, I'd never dated a short guy before in my life, like urs, I also discovered he has a small dick but in my case he satisfies me cos he's very good with his tongue. However, one year into the relationship and I also cant stand him touching me, I also cant kiss him and like you am ashamed to introduce him to my friends cos of his height plus hes also a terrible dresser! Your story made me know im not alone in my plight and if we are to be honest, there are lots more women out there who are in this kind of relationship cos of the fear of not finding someone else. I'm currently trying to make some life changing decisions cos the truth is, better a broken engagement that a broken marriage! My advise to you then; if you know you cant find it in ur heart to love him, please end it now. Life is too short to spend with someone you don't love! Cheers.
ReplyDeletemy dear poster. it is really a dicey situation.
ReplyDeleteI never advice anyone to marry out of pity.
There are so many factors u cant cope with already, thus getting married to him trust me, will end up with two things
1 constant cheating
2. cold, loveless marriage and ultimately divorce.
Now, kindly do yourself, the young man and every family member the favour of calling off the relationship now.... the earlier the better. a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
For you, well, Pray to God to give you your spec though we don't always get what we want and no one is perfect.
have a nice day
Dear Poster just heed bloglord's advice. When I was reading ur story I was shocked at d similarities. Mine was long distance and we never met until he proposed cos of the cost of flying as we were students then but I didn't cheat on him. Anyway long story short, he became emotionally abusive and I realised I didn't know him at all so I lost interelst at the nick of time and couldn't pull out my naïve 20-21yr old self then. Thankfully, the annulment will be finalised soon (thank Ǥõϑ I didntt walk down the aisle at church). You have to be less confused when making such a decision. Search your heart well and be prepared for it. Its a lifelong decision you have to live with whether it works out or not. Pls have a clear head. Don't mind judgemental people. Its only people that haven't experienced it that have big mouths to comment harshly.
DeleteA beg free the lady jor, she knows how she feels and should completely follow her heart. Its all these management marriage that leads to untimely divorce. If there's too much patch patch in ur mind towards him, kindly let him go.
DeleteAll the people saying u waited for 6yrs before realizing this isnt what u want, have they also come across men whom u cant easily break away from? Cos the will beg and play the guilt game.
Sex is very important in marriage, it solves some invisible issues and gives our hearts rhythm to continue.
You are Lucky he's even small and gets erection, how about small ones which are puffy like wet bread. That its hard to know when there's erection or not. A beg, manage if u can or walk away now! Nobody, I mean non of these people arw going to be in this marriage with u.
Like I will always say, u alone can tell urself the truth. And not everyone will get married. Ask 60% of married people how they are weeping day and night.. chose what's best for you.
Poster pls leave this guy alone continue with your ten inches sex partner. your boyfriend deserve someone better than you. if you marry this guy out of pity, you are still gonna cheat on him and break his heart. Walk away.
ReplyDeletePOSTER YOU ARE A VERY WICKED WOMAN!! FOOLISH IDIOT! GO FOR MR NOT AVAILABLE AND BIG DICK! WHILE AT IT DONT FORGET TO CONTINUE TO THINK WITH YOUR TOHTOH YOU HEAR? ENJOY THE BIG UNAVAILABLE DICK, BY THE TIME YOU WAKE UP YOU WILL BE 40 OR 50 , BY THEN YOU FIT MARRY YOU HEAR?
ReplyDeleteGod bless ur comment...lol. Bia, don't worry @ 40 u wil find an available massive dick .
DeleteYou are very wicked for cussing her out you too!
DeleteOk
ReplyDeleteContinue fucking for free.abeg leave that guy alone make e marry girl that complements him.
He's not tall, he get small 'plick'.
Carry on
Filthy bitch!!!
Ehyah!
DeleteDis anony yaff take it P=personal!
Hehehe
".. he is not very compatible with me as per Religion" n u r busy fornicating wt him, wot makes u any different. Anyways woteva rockS ur boat, make haste y d sun shines!
ReplyDeleteThis right here, is why a woman should not cheat or be fwb. Women attach so much emotions to sex. A man cheats with his dick while his heart is elsewhere.
ReplyDeletePoster, you already know what you want to do. ...you just want reassurance from us.
Size of the dick matters (my ex had a pinky sized dick and he was so tall, dark and handsome with seductive eyes....I still feel very sorry for him. I cldnt imagine myself living with that), but as long as it's not pinky sized, it can still work wonders. And the sexperience of the small dick owner matters alot. You obviously just had sex with someone who is more experienced than your boyfriend.....big dicks dont make pple cum.
Jen
Ha! Na wa o! I really feel and pity guys with small Dick o! Ladies complian thay want a guy that is nice, caring, loving, affectionate, religious, God fearing blablabla and all those wonderful inner qualities a real man should have, yet when they find all this qualities, they are still not satisfied, what an odd world like they say, human wants are unlimited, we can never get satisfied, we as humans will always crave for more, and in desperation we will make regrettable mistakes #shakingmyhead
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If a guy has big dick and doesnt know how to use it a girl can take control of sex and take herself to orgasm and d guy will enjoy it but if its small dick and d guy cant use it, na wahala cos d easiest way to orgasm is oral sex the girl cant do nothing with that small dick. So guys with small dick should learn how to pleasure a girl with their hands, tongue, teeth, etc . Mrs O
DeleteYou are a very selfish person, hanging on to him for selfish reasons.
ReplyDeleteIf you find someone richer, with a bigger dick you will dump him in a minute. You are a selfish person and your reward will surely come.
I won't insult u cos I ve heard similar stories frm girls dt got married as virgins nd eventually got to cheat on their husbands, but I can tell u dt wat women need frm men is true undiluted love and attention. Many married women dt hav big dick husbands will gladly exchange plights wt u. Believ me wen I say dt if u ve had sex wt d new guy as long as u ve done wt ur boy friend, it would av stil got boring by now. Marriage is not all abt sex but true friendship nd love. Forget wat ppl mak of sex on d internet. Sex makes up 90% of a loveless mrg nd only 10% of a mrg btw two friends, filled wt love nd respect for each othr. Find a way to spice up ur sex life if u feel its boring but dnt ever leave dt guy cos I strongly believ u wl regret it. Ask urself if u wil prefer being fu*ked by big dick unavailable guys dt wont walk u down d aisle or loved by small dick available one. The answr is clear. Time waits for no woman ooo
ReplyDeleteU nid more time to grow up,u don't sound 27,u sound foolish,i hope he dumps u,silly girl.
ReplyDeleteUhmmm, I was in ds kind of situation bt I let d guy go,it ws getting bad, I always get upset weneva he's talking to me, I cldnt control it nd I felt bad I ws treating him like trash, d respect was no longer dere, I would shout at him,nd he will jes be calm...it wsnt fair on him nd I had to leave him so he cn find someone better dat deserves him...dnt knw if dt ws d best decision but my conscience wasn't taking d ill treatment I was giving him any longer..I jes had to leave...poster follow ur heart nd do dat which is right and just
ReplyDeleteOk..lemme chip in here,I have a frnd who is in dsame situation with u,d guy in que can die for dis my frnd,he's very caring and listens to her,buh my frnds problm is dat d guy is not physically attractd 2her n again his dick is very small , so she said she wudnt wana cheat on d guy if she marries him,so as it is now,she's def not gona marry him,So now @d poster u knw ur weakness,evn tho he takes care of u,does all kinds of stuffs 4u,if u knw u re gona cheat on him cox of ur reasons stated above pls leave him now, this is marriage,once u enter u hv entered, u re 27 so fucking what? (Nigerians mentality on age wid marriage though)My advise is if u knw u can't handle him later evn with his small dick,den let him be nw. Wait for some one u wil like his own,don't marry some1 out of pity cz u wil b doomed...tank me latr
ReplyDeleteIn one long sentence: If his imperfections can be worked upon, then stick to him, if not, fall out! You want a huge Dick...there are enlargement solutions everywhere, you want good sex, buy kamasutra books and videos. Nothing will ever change unless u work on it. Nkem.
ReplyDeleteGo and watch temptation featuring Kim k. You see person wey love you! You're busy talking about big dick. I guess u didn't read people's comments about ladies getting tired of sex after marriage because of other things begins to set in. I rest my case na u know as e dey do u.
ReplyDeleteLol,I cried on watching dat movie #sad tale bt learned from
DeleteSex isn't everything! Even the big dick will weary u after some time! But u CONSTANTLY need a man that loves u more than u love him. Face ur man and stop thinking of what's outside, if not u may lose this good guy... To be sincere, I tink he seserves someone better than u! Better re-trace ur steps before its late!
ReplyDeleteMy bf's dick is big but my sister I think/know I prefer smaller regular sized dicks. I even love a guy with smaller dick but na yahoo guy else my bf would have lost me long ago.
DeleteIn the end it's all about choice
If you have never being in situation believe me its diffucult to understand, poster I do understand ur dilema cause I was once in ur shoes, and you knw wat I did, I left the guy, and I do not regret making that decision.. Now the guy is abt to get married while am not even in any serious relationship but I know deep deep inside of that if I dare get married to that guy, ill remain miserable for the rest of my life... My advice u are the best person to make your own descision forget abt big or small dick.. If and if you are more than convinced you don't love him at all pls for the sake of both of you just let go.. But u had better do that prayerfully.
ReplyDeleteMarriage for me is deeper than sex,the problem now is you have a divided mind because you have tasted another man's strength which you were not suppose to do, all you just need to was simply make him the kind of man you want him to be,Do you know the mans stick can't get bigger, fatter and longer? Don't forget every stick started small,some things,some products, some kind of rough constant sex made it bigger and longer, you don't base your feelings in marriage because it's small but because he worships and adore you.
ReplyDeleteMy dear,go back to your first,and start work,tell him how you feel,like my brother Kenny will say,let him eat bolly(unripe one),give him bitter Kola constantly,if possible go and see your Docky,he will tell you much more because you have alot to do when the lights go off, control your mind and work on your man.if a guy has a small dick,it takes one SISI CAROL who can fire to make his dick longer,some women's nakedness is alone for a guys dick to tear,my dear am fasting, please blog visitor Onaise,face your mans dick;God bless.
Hmmmmn!
DeleteDocky oloye!
Big yimu @ marriage for me is greater dan sex.
Lie go finish u dia kaycee!
Abi u no be naija man? #Tah
Hahahahaha Pinky Oremi,let's encourage our sisi Nah,so she doesn't go looking for the big dicks instead of a good heart, but you talk true big stick is also a necessity.
DeleteNigerians and their holier than thou attitude , would you rather she cheats after marriage out of curiousity and find out she settled for less ? Most of u are married n cheat like crazy but would be the first to throw the stone , shez asking coz she wants to learn from other peoples experiences so as to be able to make the right decision and if you gat nothing nice to say then shut up .
ReplyDeleteOh well, i had same experience with some guy. My own was I never went back after the sex again o. I ran away after two months, no point being with him cos I was gonna cheat but somehow is it just me that noticed those kind of guys are very nice trying to make up for what they lack. I am with someone else who is nicer and satisfies me very well, he is even nicer. I'm happier and cheating has never crossed my mind cos he adores me.
DeleteMy dear u waited for two months, after d second sex with my then fiancee I picked race and called off d wedding. Tnank God I tried sex with him b4 d wedding. I couldn't stand anything about him and d sex made it worse. I would have been miserable or make myself happy by cheating on him. Mrs O
Delete@Mrs O, lol....i had to wait for two months before checking out so he doesn't suspect. lmao. I made it look like it was the distance between us that was too much. Thank God u left too, cos cheating would have been the next thing....
DeleteBlogLord your comment is more than right, sometimes we continue in a relationship because of one thing or the other, maybe because He or she cares for your need, and we tend to over look the most important aspects. Dear poster if you think you can't cope with your guy anymore you better pack your baggage and leave, you can always find someone who you will love because when you marry someone you don't love then you will know that happiness is so expensive. Had I know will be the companion to both of you
ReplyDeleteHave been married to my husband now for 12years, felt this way back then, he was not hot in bed or physically stunning but I knew he loved and still loves me, and he has been able to tolerate my flaws. Marriage is not all about sex or fine boy stuff, it goes beyond that, though I must admit it has not been too easy but some decisions r taken not only for yourself but the future of the kids too, making sure they av a good, committed, responsible father, a stable home etc.
ReplyDeletePls continue testing dicks! I have news for u..its that new dick u tasted that made it look like ur guy isn't perfect anymore..truth b told u'll keep searching for satisfaction like its suppose to fix everything but no dear,satisfaction is nt all u need! U 27 pls go nd settle down..tym no dey ursyd! @X!!!
ReplyDeleteUr so silly, is marriage an achievement. Shallow minded Nigerian, people are busy doing something profitable with their lives and ur busy talking trash. The only achievement in marriage is d kids and u dont have to be married to have kids. Mrs O
DeleteDear poster if ur mind is nt there please leave and dnt look back. I married my hubby out of pity and its been 3 years there's no adjective to qualify the way I feel now. **sobs**
ReplyDeleteWow you guys should calm down on the hate and attack. I was in this lady's shoes. Mine was even worst. i never like this guy, he was just so madly in love with me buys me stuffs and all, my friends and sisters ganged up against me and told my mum about him it was a big issue cos i sha started dating him out of all the pressure of hes ok... seems there's something wrong with you comments i was getting from everyone. Fast forward 6months the parents already met while i wasn't in the country, as in they did intro in my absence!Which i don't even know how all this happened, suddenly i was getting married it felt as if i was jazzed. I couldn't sleep with him all though while we dated for like a year, we had sex the first time 2weeks to the wedding because my aunt was whining me that what if he was impotent. The sex was ok. Fast forward 2yrs, we dont have a kid yet we have sex 3/4times a week. have never had an orgasm, am comfortable but not happy. Feels as if am just existing and not living. Hes a goood person though, i actually trust him sef, am like 98% sure he has never cheated. Just dont know why am not happy.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, I really feel you. Most times we allow friends/family and pressure from society to push us into marriage. Forgetting that we are the ones to bear the burden. Am married to a good man but mehn d sex is wack. Sex isnt the most important thing in a marriage no doubt but its also very important. Ive been wishing lately that I can cheat even if its just once, to get to feel like a woman again. Na just fear of God still dey keep me.
DeleteMy advice to the poster is, take some time out. Stop sleeping with mr big dick. Try to focus on ur relationship. Tell ur bf wat you want him to do. Teach him d things u ave learnt frm cheating on him. If you still feel the sex is bad den u can decide on if u want to go ahead with the marriage or not. But don't make the mistake of marrying him just cos of what people will say.
All this noise about big dick and small dick...
ReplyDeleteIs sex all there is to marriage?
Marriage requires much more than good sex to make it work. Or do you think you will spend all your marital life in the bedroom? Hahaha,na you go tire na.
This poster makes me laugh.
Well, if big dick and good sex is all you want in marriage, please kindly quit your relationship.
You brought this on yourself by cheating in the first place. Just like Eve, you have eaten the forbidden fruit and you are stuck.
Now devil wants to destroy the good relationship you have by making you feel the way you are feeling.
Good husbands are hard to find.
Do you know a guy with a small dick can still satisfy you if only you will tell him what you want and be ready to coach him.
How will you feel if that your bf had been the one to give silly excuse like he now realised that your breast is too small for him or something like that? You will fell bad right???
Fear God.
All that glitters is not gold.
Don't do something stupid because of sex.
I hope the man your are cheating with is not a married man o.
Meanwhile I won't advice you to marry your bf out of pity,nooo, don't try that. If deep down you feel you can nolonger cope with him, please quit. I just hope you don't regret it later when your eye clears.
A word is enough for the wise.
It's not the size of the dick that matters ooo, does ur fiancee kiss u well and smooch u well...somethings u come hard during foreplay more than u do through thrusting. So poster stay with ur fiance that loves u and come up with other ways to make ur sexlife mindblowing...ever heard of sex toys???
ReplyDeleteI feel for this poster cuz this is a tight situation. I will advise that you leave the guy ure dating now cuz it's loveless (u can't hold his hands in public or bear his touch). Its a lost effort. 27 ain't bad and if you let age limit your happiness you are on a long thing. But in moving on know this: Sex is just 1 part of a relationship. Infact u are my opposite. I don't really care for size, skill or height. Just treat me right, love me and make me know ure down for whatever. I will be 100% happy and that's what real relationships should be I believe.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, No marry out of pity. Your husband is expected to be your best friend and companion. Anything you cannot change while courting, believe me, It will be difficult to change while married. Look into yourself. Ask yourself some vital questions. Anyone that says sex does not matter in marriage is playing with fire. It matters alot. Above all, love conquers all. As per getting old without being married. Its better to get it right first before getting married than getting married at age 20 and live a miserable lonely life all through your life. Every woman deserves the best. Goodluck.
ReplyDeleteI married my hubby out obligation cos we were poor,I was in js 3 @14 my hubby is a very huge man,much older in fact u would think he was my mums hubby.however, I got married not knowing what was going on but I was d Center of attraction I had new clothes there was massive construction going on in our compound people who wouldn't want to associate with us were now our bestows
ReplyDeleteMy traditional and white wedding was a carnival.our first night together was hell,omg!I cried cos it hurt so much cos he is so huge and I always ran outside till one aunty told me to relax that it doesn't hurt but it did and I hated my hubby so much
Whenever he touches me I cringe
I hate d way he eats,talks in fact I wished he would just drop dead
Whenever he has sex with me I take in in fact I was always pregnant
@poster,let that man look for someone that loves him cos he won't love u always my hubby tolerated me cos of my age and he kept telling me I would outgrow it,well I haven't and truth be told I want to love him cos he is a role model.he is a very kind and generous man but d heart wants what it wants
I love him but not like romeo and Juliet kind of love but this man worships d ground I walk on and honestly speaking I don't deserve him cos I very given him plenty trouble
He doesn't know how to please me,he says I keep changing in fact he can't keep up with me
I am very grateful to him for bringing up our children in d way of God cos immediately I baptise my kids that's it as far as church is concerned
SDK,I ve found peace in this blog,I ve matured seriously cos when i compare other peoples story that was when I realized how selfish I ve been
Sorry for d epistle and gbagaun I got carried away
Ezewanyi!!!
DeleteHmmmmmmm.
DeleteHistory 101!
DeleteLecturer ezewanyi
BSC in intimate matters, Msc in gigiantic joystick, PHD in inter-racial intimacy(all terms written in nairaland lang)
Bia poster don't mind all dese hypocrites wey full dis blog.
Na u go dey inside d marriage
Marriage na life time tin.
If na big dick u want, by all means find 1.
Bia where is EJIKE BIG DICK, SOLEDAYO and PETER (as ezewanyi no gree reason dis guy matter)
Ezewanyi, your story was very moving. I actually got emotional. May God bless. Your marriage and please try and improve on your relationship with our lord Jesus. He is the way and rthe light and will direct u on how to improve your relationship with your husband and all things with work better for u
DeleteYou can do no wrong in my eyes
DeleteEzewanyi thank you for sharing your experiences I've learnt so much from you too.
DeleteAwwww
DeleteThanks all....
Lol this Ezewanyi is just a character. I couldn't help laughing even though I know u were being serious with this story. Don't beat yourself up too much. Do whatever makes you happy,if u feel it's sex,go for it...but bear in mind that we'll all have to deal with the consequences of our actions,if not here,then in the hereafter.....NewBie!
DeleteEzewanyi.....Anyanwu Ututu
DeleteI see you....and like anon 6.13 said, you can do no wrong in my eyes.... I remain everly loyal....lol
Ezewanyi......thanks for sharing ur story.....so much to learn from it....
DeleteMy mummy is also a victim of early marriage but unlike u my father raped and molested my mother everyday he even raped her once in our presence.can you believe my mum is 39years ,am her third born and am in my early 20s;you are a strong woman,my mum reads this blog because I told her about you and she always looks out for your comment
DeleteMay God bless you
Hey poster! It's not about the size of the dick, okay? It's about your sexual connection with your partner. Of all the guys I've ever dated, my current boyfriend has d smallest dick of all. But guess what? He was d first to give me an orgasm among them all, because he knew d right spots to touch and he gave me this sexual freedom that made me tell him what I want, when and how I want it. He loves me more than I even do and we're getting married soon. I'm not gonna trade him for any long dick o! It's either you teach your guy how to satisfy you or you let the poor guy go now, to avoid stories that touch the penis tomorrow. Lol. Na my two cents o!
ReplyDeleteDat was how I married my hubby cos he furks me like no other..left all d good nd rich guyz cos of him!! Now am regrettin bitterly had I known!
ReplyDeleteHehehe
DeleteMoral lesson!
Find a complementary good.
Big Dick + Deep pocket
Make una stop dey cuss this geh nah! She want help una dey cuss
ReplyDeleteStick to your man is better to be with a man dat loves u ,,forget big dick oh ,dat one na wicked pleasure and will land u in unforgiiven sin .
ReplyDeleteDear poster,I think this will be d most sincere advice....don't try and leave that man coz hez vry ok to me as u xplained. It is only for d prick and height.My sister,since hez taller than you,I think that is ok.Wot abt d pple dat re taller dan deir husbands? Nd for d prick issue,you can both talk abt wot ur desires are on bed,infact,you can't underestimate d power of a small dick i must tell you. My fiance has a small dick nd I enjoy sex wt him more dan anythn bcos we both know how to talk abt it and we make sex interactive btw us Wot if you find a long dick and @ d end of d day,he doesn't even love you like dis guy or may be his families now reject you or anything happens. Infact,by d tym you age,do you think any long dick will be as intact as it is now.At 27,you can't start looking for anoda rltnship coz of 'dick' Wise up abeg, Oko won lode oh
ReplyDeleteWow!
DeleteIntact? #InResting (aka INTERESTING in mariam amanabu's voiz)
Wat wld mk it not to be intact?
Abi iwo lo fe ja ni?
Why is everybody crucifying this girl
ReplyDeleteFrom her write up,the big or small dick
Is not her problem,she thinks she deserves better
And the guy knows too,that's why he is trying his best.
This isn't about sex at all.
If you are not proud to be seen with him
Please take a walk with no regret
Because in marriage love reduces,a lot of issues come up.
And when his love reduces (cuz it will)
U would be filled with regret,
Don't marry a man cuz he loves u and he is the ideal man.
Marry a man because you love him and he loves u equally and you have seen his flaws but u still accept him like that.
That way when you start having issues when you are married,you will be willing to fight for your marraige.
So the advice is...You are not doing anything wrong
Break up with him now,and keep searching hopefully you'll find someone,and if you don't,too bad but its still better than marrying this guy cuz he is nice and he loves u.
God bless you for your reply. I was in a similar situation,but dick isn't the problem and I didn't cheat on him, the love just reduced and when he noticed he started changing, he stopped being abusive (don't know if it was pretence tho') I left the relationship, cus my parents were beginning to drive me nuts, they wanted me to marry him by force and it made me hate him more. I am no more with him, and i am relieved and happier. I am really taking my time now before I enter into another relationship.
DeleteThank you dear. Everyone is just focusing on the big dick small dick issue. She even said it dat she can't marry mr big dick, so it isnt like she wants to leave her guy for him
DeleteThanks for the reply... people just talk abt age, age without happiness.. am in almost same situation.. i even tried to hard to pretend at some point. I tried to force the love buh it just stopped, should i continue cus he is nice and generous or because am scared nobody will love me again... i just couldn't do it again and i walked away. Happiness and inner peace is what i want
DeleteLadies if you're still living in the fantansy world of finding a guy who's 100% perfect, then you shall tarry till Jesus comes.
ReplyDeleteIt is high time we stopped using a man's physical looks to prioritise our marital decisions.
A lot of ladies have lost out on good men based on excuses like he's ugly, he's not tall, he's this, he's that...smh
Don't be surprised at the number of ladies pursuing this so called ugly guy.
There are men who can use their small dicks to satisfy women while there are men who are deep mess in bed despite having big dicks. It's not about the size, it's about having a knowledge of how to make use of your *instrument*
As far as am concerned this case is not a terrible one, your man only need to learn how to make use of his "instrument"
however, Dear poster if you decide to suit yourself by moving, in no time,your eyes will clear as soon as the guy satisfying you gets tired of you...oshisco
Don't marry him out of pity. U aint indebted to him. U may appear mean now...it's ok. I can't begin to comprehend d agony of being stuck with a man dt irritates u.
ReplyDeleteWhy will you want to throw away six years of your life because you tasted another dick.You didn't see anything wrong in him untill you cheated too bad.Make up your mind now stay with him learn how to enjoy his dick and stop finding fault more so you can not have for keep the bigger dick.He loves you and you love him oju kokoro ati agbere lo fe ko ba e.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is not all about sex. Frienship really matters in marriage
ReplyDeleteUv dated him for 6 yrs. You knw wt ur suffering from? The 'see finish syndrome'. That syndrome makes it appear like u dnt love him. But for you to hv stayed this long, my dear, you do. Imagine if you hadnt tasted d bigger dick, wld you knw he isn't that good? So u r at fault for cheating. You put urself in this fix. Id advise you to stay. Stay with someone who loves you, who adored you. Instead of ur unknown prince 'big dick' charming you arent sure isnt lost in a desert somewhere. You guys have dated too long dts y u r getting confused. Trust me, you won't regret if u marry him. Just as far as you don't keep thinking of mr bigger dick.
ReplyDeleteShe asked for advice ppl, not insults.....anyhow poster u shd answer sm questions for urself b4 u decide ;
ReplyDelete1. do u think he can make u happy?
2. If u tell him abt d sex ish wd he or can he improve? Or is there a way u can improve ur sex life?
3. U loved him once, is d reason u first loved him still there?,maybe u can find ur way back there n love him again....
Ur answers to these questions will mk choosing easier 4 u,wateva u decide u shd be sure it's wat mks u happy now,n wd still mk u happy 10 or more yrs frm now. N BTW wetin dey worry u? Y u dey sample penis dey go? U nor knw say those tins dey confuse girl wey sidon her own? Stop it o
Poster i feel you jare, don't mind all these goody two shoes filled here. Soon they will start blaming you and asking why you went ahead and married him.
ReplyDeleteAbeg, think of a way to stall his idea of getting married just yet, fuck as many people as you want, maybe in 3-4months you must have seen that its not all about the dick size *RME*, then agree to marry him.
Don't, I REPEAT, do not marry him just yet, you need to taste the waters and agree within your self and heart that he is a good man before you sign the dotted lines.
But you seriously slept with ONE man in your 26yrs on earth? WOW
Anony no vex!
DeleteHow many sugar stick u done ride? #Winks.
Hehehe Pink shell dey find troble.
E get som women ontop dis blog ehn..
If u carry hand give dem 'tawai' for nyash ehn
E fit be dick wey go jump out for front ooo.
Test waters ko, taste water ni.
Na food?
hehehehe......Pink shell...u dey find trouble true true......lol
DeleteNEVER MARRY OUT OF PITY, I'M A VICTIM, IT SUCKS! Now, I'm a getting a divorce. I am 35. The worst thing a woman can go thru is to be stuck in a loveless marriage like for ever. It kills u slowly but surely. Choose wisely, put God first. Please no mistakes.
ReplyDeleteShe started feeling like she dosnt love him after she fucked som1 else, dt means when she fucks another dick bigger than d one she's calling big now, she will send another mail 2 stella saying she dosnt love him again.......her problem now is big dick nt love...
DeleteIf he loves you, marry him u might not get another like him in a long while . This whole sex thing is highly overrated but then again take a realistic look at the situation except its so bad u know u will never enjoy sex with him even a little then don't marry him but if its something u can live with , pls marry him. Good sex is great but no substitute for character, love and care.
ReplyDeletePoster,,,,am not too sure u are in ur right senses,,,so after 6yrs,,u just realized he is not so tall??? how foolish can some people be.....if big dick,,horniness,,height is enough to sustain marriage..then we wont be having the so many divorce stories we hear around today.......keep test running men in the gulder ultimate search of big dicks,,,and by the time u see the one with the big dick u so much desire.....that same person will tell you ur punani is very loose and he needs a younger lady whose punani can grip his dick.....Oshisco..
ReplyDeleteYou are a very wicked and abusive person.
DeleteAll your comments are vile and the funny thing is that you look very puffy faced and ugly.
Why are you such a bitter person?
You correct people with insults,advice with curses why?
Were you molested as a child or did u grow under the bridge?
I've been watching you since you came on this blog.
If you don't change,I don't see any man taking you in and you're already aging out.
Bitter much!
Pls keep following me like twitter......anon.....have i insulted u before???its my opinion and i have a right to it.......why havent you faced so many others who insult others more than u think i do???so many people have said worst things than what i have said on dis thread and you didnt attack......faceless anon....show ur face not attacking me with a cover on ur face....mmand let me see how many slim faced people u have created in ur lifetime........dat person u see in dat pix has been married for almost 5yrs with two beautiful kids.....so i am not a lonely bitter soul like u........stay on ur lane..abeg
Delete@anonymous 3:47pm u are the bitter person.. someone gave her opinion and ure here doing prefect on what to say and what not to say.. "if u don't change"... ure a big joke. Get a life and stop bullying people. Face ur lane. I don't know sleekreek but ur rant was uncalled for jawe!
DeleteSleekreek is bitter biko! She hardly has anything nice to say. 5years 2kids my big fat as*
DeleteAnon is right! Sleekreek is a bitter woman! Never saying anything positive better repent biko
Deleteif there is no iota of love for the person,my advice is for you to backout,you dont marry out of pity
ReplyDeletePls leave d guy for a better lady cos d guy deserves some1 beta dan u. Nonsense! Bick dick ko, long dick ni
ReplyDeleteMadam you conveniently left out the fact that Mr Big Dick is married abi? Olojukokoro oshi. When you leave the good man you have that's when you'll discover that the world full of big dicks and no husbands. Dey enjoy big Dick you hear?anu nchi
ReplyDeletePoster sounds like a selfish brat. Anyways you know how e dey pinch you. You also can't eat your cake and have it. Which one is you are afraid to leave him because you don't know if you'll ever find that kinda person? You are self-centred! Make a decision damnit! If you don't love the dude anymore and are sure, then call the whole thing off. Stop wasting his frigging time.
ReplyDeleteyou all shut up that is a genuine concern for her......how does that make her wicked? is it every guy who was nice to you you had chemistry for......its obvious this relationship has gone long cos of family but that is not enough..
ReplyDeleteDear Poster please look for this movie and when you finish watching it decide for yourself "TEMPTATIONS - THE CONFESSION OF A MARRIAGE COUNCELLOR"
ReplyDeleteFor any relationship to work you must communicate with your partner. Anyways look for that movie and watch it, it will do you a world of good. Thank me later.
UB40
Hmmm. Since you are already cheating. And you feel you would cheat after being married to him, then kuku leave him alone.
ReplyDeleteJust ask for a break. A break is usually a good way to weigh things. You might either realize he is the one for you or realize you can go on without him.
About your age, I know 3 different couples that met and got married within 6 months. So don't worry about that.
Lastly, please don't marry out of pity. Forever is a very long time to be miserable.
Pls leave the big dick man and stick to your partner.
ReplyDeleteWhy are we all advising this lady to stick to a man she does not love?its not fair to her or the guy in question.babe love counts o because years down the line you will be filled with regrets,some women marry men they don't love and fall in love. With them later on in the marriage,some are not that lucky as the resentment they felt from day one will only increase with time.please follow your heart. Because the same people advising you to atick to this guy will be the first to castigate you when the marriage fails.meanwhile BIG DICKS work all the magic ooooo! Don't mind SDKers deceiving you.lol.
ReplyDeleteAll this holier than thou comments sef.... Let's face reality joor. Found myself in this kind of situation before... He loved me for everything, my flaws, imperfections but i couldnt love him... Was always rude to him and always pitied him. I let him go cos i wanted to preserve his self respect and find someone who will appreciate him better... and now i'm enjoyin a better relationship, cnt be happier. MIMI
ReplyDeleteLeave this guy and leave someones husband alone. When you start crying about the same issues in your own marriage, do not send my Aunty messages o. All these girls. Its someones husband that is opening your eyes to a better option.bwahahahaha ok.
ReplyDeleteWhat about the ones you are not physically attracted initially and pray oh it will work out because their "character " they presented to you at the time was good , within a year into it , introduce a good paying job and walah ! behavior changes and you have this person you neither can stand with a rotten personality and ZERO physically attraction. You cant look at him and say " oh I want to have sex with my hubby today or I want him to touch me" you tolerate when he comes around for sex and FAKE the heck out of it so he can leave you alone. Oh you think maybe we you work on it , read books so things will improve . Nah! he has no interest in that cos he believes he is a stud I guess LOL! he doesn't need improvement, cant use the short penis , doesn't want to learn how to pleasure a person any other way. because that would be accepting he is wrong . nothing needs to be fixed. You are your happiest when he is not around at least you don't have to bicker about irrelevant stuff like he loves to do. Any one have their car keys , cards, phone etc go missing whenever they argue with their significant other ??? lol internet disconnected ? the only car you guys use parked some where else so you cant find it ? LOL
ReplyDeleteFollow ur hrt!mind u,there is no perfect man waiting at the junction for u.
ReplyDeleteMy dear if u dont love hiim, dont marry him, am 28 and gettiing a diivorce cus am in a loveless marriage. I hate the way I treat him and am letting go. U better walk out now but truthfully follow ur inner heart
ReplyDeleteI'm in the same situation , maybe not exactly same , I dated a guy for four years & he has cheated on me severally & even insulted me so much during our last break up but now he wants a come back , he loves me so much & his family loves me 2 but d issue is I am in love with another & yes he is old enough to be my dad & has a 3 yrs old daughter & I really don't know what to do as my ex's family has been calling me and begging me & now my much older lover has proposed
ReplyDeleteDear poster... am in same shoes wit u... Am everytin ma boyfriend eva wanted in a wife n his d complete oposite of ma kinda man(his short,has 4 o'clock eyes,his sooo igbotic n can't speak evn pigin English properly,i disrespect him n talk 2 him any how I fil n he consoles himself by sayin am actin my age,his dress sense is poor,not gud in bed,I av neva kissed him since we started datin 4 2 yrs now cos his sight irritates me). But one tin dat has kept me in d r/ship is bcos dis guy luvs n worships me. He wanted us 2 get married since last yr,buh av bin postin him n tellin him dat I want 2 go 4 Law skul first b4 gettin married. And he stil agreed 2 wait! Am sooo confuse n don't no wat 2 do. I don't luv him n dnt want 2 marry him out of pity n @ same time I don't want 2 hurt him (tho av done evrytin I can 2 c if he wil undastand n just give up on me. It's since d more I disrespect him! D more d luv he has 4 me wax stronger!) @ times I tink his obssesed wit me. #Agony of a tired black sister# Sdk plz post dis...
ReplyDeleteMore like d 'agony of a greedy thief'
DeleteOle oloju kokoro!
Stay! U no wan stay
Comot! U no wan comot
U tanda for door.
Poor guy!
Anon 5:49pm......there are so many things u dont like about ur guy.......urs is a bit different from d poster's case.......pls let go of dat guy,,,its like there's nothing u like about him.....your own man will surely find u.....
DeleteMy married boyfriend's dick is so small. I haven't had sex with him but I have given him a handjob before and at erection it's like 3cms, very sad. So I decided this atoto isn't going to enter me lailai. And his wife will be forming team don't snatch my husband, I really feel bad for her. She is suffering in silence. Her sex life must be horrible. Well, I tossed him out of my life, I guess his dick is only good for his wife. And pls when they call men, please hesitate to come out. Ma yo ju o
ReplyDeleteEyah!
DeletePlz can u show us a pic of ur face n stop being anony!
And Plz don't waste d feeling on the wife alone.
Reserve some for ursef inugo.
U wld need it more.
Hand job ko, blow job ni.
I was in ur shoes dear poster.. In my case he was ma bestie before he asked me out..against my better judgement (cos e wasn't the type id normally go for) I agreed.he genuinely loved me. Everyone would tell me how lucky I was to have a man who took me more than his own mom
ReplyDeleteBut the problem was I never in love with him, and I had felt love with an ex. He was not good looking o but I could have died for him.
2years later I started getting tired, and ultimately I fell in love with somebody else cos my heart was never his to begin with.
Now am in love with ma bf who loves me to pieces.I see him and am happy and content and I know he is where I belong.
I held on to the other rshp for so long, thinking id never find anyone that could love me as much, but then I felt guilty cos I knew he deserved to be with someone who loved him
Now poster don't leave ur Bf cos of sex.No! Leave him because u are not in love with him.
Starting over could be daunting yes but u would find your man
Meanwhile put it in prayers ...fast and pray. Take his name to different churches and ask the elders to pray with you.
Good luck
My dear dont mind them follow ur heart thats how I was deceived into marrying this man and what next men am not happy cus I was 26 and am 28 getting a diivorce cus he hits and insults me at will.now everyone understands that am not happy there and they let me. When ur happy then u wiill understand that happiness is so expensive, u will do everything tocome out. Listen to ur iinner spiirit
ReplyDeleteYou are obviously an 18yr old stuck in a 27yr old's body. To even think that you had the mind to sleep with a fellow woman's bf/hubby.....it's obvious you don't love your bf and you are not mature enough to be in a serious relationship yet...Take your time and figure out want you really want in a man. If your bf doesn't fit in, let him go and find who deserves him.
ReplyDeleteSmh. Am sorry but you are a kid! You stayed for six years yet you are ashamed of flaunting him in public? Stella should stop posting some childish mails. What do you want us to do? Encourage you to keep cheating or what? I hope he dumps your sorry ass. Mtschew
ReplyDeleteAll I see are hypocrites!!
ReplyDeleteHorny married women pretending that sex doesn't count!
Stella! Stella!! Stella!!! How many times I call you? Abeg no let them turn our beloved blog to church oo.
Yet many of them jump from bed to bed fucking people's husband and boyfriends!
If she fucked a married man, so fucking what? @ least she's single! How many of una never fuck married man before? Every girl married and claim I never shagged a married man. Who them come they fuck? Ghost? Hahaha
Once them marry them go begin form holier than thou oshi !!
If your married and you claim you've never fucked a married man, post your real name here and I'll spool out your gist in 48hrs!
Why are you not correcting the poor girl in love. Instead of telling are how miserable marriage can be. Them they do cussing competition.
Marriage is sweet. Yet many of them hug their pillows in tears at night.
My dear, please do not marry out of pity or pressure oo. YES you can teach him to use what he has because the size may not be all that matters. But if you are not sexually attracted to him or emotionally drawn to him, please forget it.
There are many other factors to consider in choosing a life partner that extends far beyond care, attention, and yes even love! You must consider the family, religion, beliefs, background etc
My ex husband use to worship the very ground I walk on. And that was why everyone said marry him. But the day I signed and became Mrs, I met the real man I married!
Now I'm paying bills, school fees, rent, etc all by myself. There are many times I forgo things I'll love to have just because I have kids to care for.
Love! Hahaha when trouble show face that's when you can define love!
You are only 27 and you have 50,60,70 or even 80 years to be married. Why rush into it only to rush out of it?
Marry a man that you are proud to show to the world not the one you can't hold hands with. The one that even when he goes out and sleeps with all the other women will come home and you'll still love him equally.
In most cases only a woman's true love and commitment can sustain a marriage in most cases.
Many The Lord guide you as you make your decisions.
Note: just in case you are weak and your desperate for "Mrs" like many women these days, then go ahead and marry am oo.
I couldn't help but notice you made a lot of reference to sex and money. Sounds like they r quite important to u. Why marry a man u claim has been so good to u only to cause him a lifetime of pain. It's obvious you don't love him which I'm not criticizing u for so please let him go. Don't selfishly deny him the chance to find true and unconditional love. At 27 u still Hv enough time to find a tall, wealthy guy with a big dick.
ReplyDeleteClick my name for checklist before you say I do.
Sleek reek you are such a bloody rude creature. So so irritating...always sounding holier than thou.....didn't your parents teach you any manners? I wonder if you are married? If not I pity the man that will marry you.....you will obviously be a very rude wife.....gosh you are so irritating...always think you are wiser than everybody....ugly rude bitch
ReplyDeleteNa Wa oh...no comment
ReplyDelete@Ezenwanyi no wonder you talk like village woman so you married at 14 that is child abuse, your husband should be arrested and i see reason why you really talk like poor person always boasting about money because were born very poor. The abuse you suffered at 14 when you were fucked with big dick is still affecting your brain, you need help thou. You don't love your husband you love his money that's reason you are fucking outside. God will catch up with you soon. You have not matured fully we keep yabbing you until you stop lying.
ReplyDeleteLone voice in the wilderness
DeleteYour obsession with ezewanyi will kill you
Peter grow up! We are here to share experiences and learn.I'm female and every of Ezenwanyis comments make sense to me. Please rephrase the "we" will keep yabbing you part...my sincere opinion is that this woman has bruised your ego so much that you keep coming back to fight her. C'mmon man be a man. Her escapades her experiences cannot be turned around, as much as you detest her guts find a way to PRETEND she does not exist on this blog.
DeletePlease try not to be mad, but your feminine rants are becoming tiring!
She fucks around, she hates her husband, she needs help,she boasts eheeeeee enwe ife ozo?
These things are not new ooooo.
Peter be a MAN. Stop picking blog battles with women oooo.
Biko ooo Nnna, a sincere plea on behalf of all the women In your life .Quit bickering. Ozugozie.
Aku one million likes
DeletePeter please grow up
The person you claim to be yabbing is not feeling it on the contrary it uses you are in so much pain
The other time it was bunny,and now you let it rest
Lil@yabbing ezenwanyi until she stops lying
DeleteHow do you know she lies?
I have been following her comments for three years from WC and I can you that her story has not changed
This is a admitted that she was lost and very lonely but what do u do you say you want to yabb her more
More grease to your elbows Peter
*ezenwanyi,your admirer and bestie from WC it has not been the Same since you left
My ex-fiance was shorter n much older,i wasn't proud to introduce him to pple but d guy was very good to me and i cldnt leave him bcos of dat,i was just managing him. I kissed him just twice in all d 3yrs we were togeda and i was ready to marry him with all d reservations,but guess wat? He was d one dt left me bcos of a minor issue! It's d best tin dat happened to me though!
ReplyDeletePeter best comment. That marriage na abusive one.
ReplyDelete@Aku am not an asslicker like you are to ezenwayi as you love her randy comments with pride and lies so do most people hate her lies. This has notting to do with being a man my friend. Are women not meant to be told they lie or misbehave when they do?offcourse yes. If you are learning things from such woman means you are just like her. Am not the only one pointing out about her lies read posts. After reading her comment here now I see reasons she act the way she does. Anyone who take her as mentor are as bad as she is period. Am outspoken when you lie I tell you. So keep you peace because I got mine.
ReplyDeleteMr Peter .. be a man and stop ranting like a boy.. ah ah! Jeez men of nowadays have no respect for themselves again. Ranting like one child in playgroup.
DeleteEwwww@ the ass licker part..our words depict us. Tell the truth without taking it personal all the time..ever read comments from guys like Memphis, Kayce they speak their minds with no bias , without sounding like they are crushed or have personal scores to settle. Now that's the difference! Have a great weekend bro! Cheers.
DeleteAku,pls leave this half man goat he is not worth it
DeleteEzewanyi is who she is and there is nothing two hundred peter can about it
@Peter akpa amu,wetin dey do u
DeleteY are u crying more than d bereaved?
I am a queen,I ve never seen a man that behaves like u in my 34yrs of existence.
I would ve said it is Internet thing but when I read comments from Memphis, Kaycee,bonario,ace Bentley I weep for u;u are a scum in fact I shouldn't be wasting my time on you but hey am jobless" cos a man like u,hell no!counting u among men is an insult to real men
@Aku,thanks no one has ever defended me this before am very grateful
@anons,leave that castrated peter he doesn't know that time is going allow him to carry my matter for him bicycle seat head
This is Ezewanyi,d rising morning glory, d most beautiful and angelic woman
Peter,y does it hurt u so much?
I don't care u know cos it doesn't change a thing
@Aku i speak my mind that is reason I speak out. I can't be kaycee that man/woman who apologise for speaking his mind. I call most of you here cowards because none of you has pointed out to her that her husband marrying her at 14years is child abuse, whats the difference between her man and senator yerima. In a civilised country her comment is an indictment to her husband for sleeping with an underage. You ladies did not point out such absurd behaviour from her man and call her out but you rather choose to rant at me. I am sure if is someone else everyone will abuse her hypocrites applying feminist behaviours here all the time is what I despise.
DeleteWhy must you rope Kaycee into your nonsense
DeleteYou are a big disgrace to your lineage
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ReplyDeleteLol the funny part is she mentioned she was "religious". lol....I would rather murder myself then marry you a woman like you, I feel so bad for your boyfriend he sounds like a good man, you sound like a superficial whore no offense. Tell your boyfriend you fucked another guy, and let him leave in peace away from your evil ugly ass.
ReplyDeleteU guys talk about her being selfish and holding on to d guy,do u know whether she has asked 4 breakup but the guy wouldnt let go? Pls dat is my situation,i wanna go cos i dont love him but he cries and almost faints when i ask 4 breakup. Am confused, pls can someone tel me what to do to make him leave? Cos i think he deserves better...to an extent,i felt like d poster was telling my story!
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