Deep Reflections..''It Is The Soul That Needs Surgery.....''

''It's 7:45pm Friday evening and I'm stuck in traffic,i turn to my radio for solace and after a few infomercials the song 'Pretty Hurts' by Beyonce comes on. I do not particularly like Beyonce but I listened to the lyrics anyway because truly there was nothing else to do,the traffic was terrible. The first lines hit me and I completely zoned out...
"Mama said,you're a pretty girl
What's in your head,doesn't matter
Brush your hair,fix your teeth
What you wear,that's all that matters"



Sad but true,that's the society we find ourselves in,where perishable beauty and acquisition is celebrated. 


Where the pressure to be accepted and perceived as perfect is insatiable forgetting that perfection is nothing but a mirage..a little botox here,a little lift there,a little tuck,a little butt firming,a little lightening,a little blasting,a little defining,a little retouching...and as time rolls by,that person you were initially is lost because admit it or not every of those little changes brings in a new dimension to you.



 I met with a Nigerian actress recently and we talked deep. She said to me "All the pictures on instagram 'its for show,you know we have fans make we no fall hand". 


Amongst these fans are young gullible girls who actually believe that is all there is in life.;Nice hair,nice accent,nice clothes,nice party invites,nice friends and at the top of it all a nice man. C'mon ladies,theres more to being alive.


   Don't get me wrong,EVERY woman must look after herself,*if you dont,who will?* In this century there is no room for the woman who cannot clean up,be you Housewife,Corporate exec,Student,Entrepreneur et al..the apogee of the matter is to not lose yourself while at it .


 Be fabulous in and out,get an education,it doesn't necessarily have to be a varsity classroom (you have no idea how many doors your gift can open for you,provbs 18:16 backs it up).


Read enlightening books,attend seminars,conferences,conventions,stand firmly on your beliefs,live life freely,make mistakes and learn from them,feed your soul,let your aspirations be long term (getting married and owning a business isn't enough) leave a mark on the sands of time even if only a handful of persons know about it. 


make an impact. Be beautiful and even more so when you open your mouth to speak,let men drool over how competent you are not how well your backside 'twerks'. 



Let this generation of women be one of Beautiful,intellectual,All rounded women.


 Above all,surround yourself with people who would add value to you and not diminish it. I know a lot of young women who deliberately go dumb in order to fit into a certain circle,i was one of such..you might enjoy the tide,the attention and recognition you get from being around them,oh the invites to exotic places,the unending luxuries of being part of that clique but hey soul sister,if they do not share same ideals as yours,its time to cut off and stand out,don't just stand out BE OUTSTANDING.


The refrain of the song goes on to say.   "It's the Soul that needs surgery"....

  Then I hear honking and curses that bring me back to reality..Ah at last,the truck that broke down has been moved and traffic lessened steadily..Leona Lewis 'I just want to be happy' plays on as I head home.. TAKE CARE SOUL SISTERS!


Signed ST