The confession of a mother of five that her former boss was the biological father of her fourth child is now threatening her 25-year-old marriage.
Her husband, 57-year-old Isaac Jemibola, a civil servant, has approached an Ikole Customary Court in Ekiti State, seeking the dissolution of his marriage to the woman, 48-year-old Olayemi.
Jemibola based his divorce plea on the ground that the respondent confessed committing adultery in 2002.
He urged the court in the petition filed on January 21, to grant him custody of the five children from the marriage.
The petition told the court that he married Olayemi in 1989 according to the native law and custom.
According to him, ``after retiring to bed on January 19, my wife came to me and knelt down.
She confessed to have had an extramarital affair with her former boss which resulted in the pregnancy of the fourth child.
My wife said she had given her life to Christ and that her desire to make heaven made her confess based on the advice from her pastor.
She added that the paternity of the fourth child was in doubt since both the boss and I slept with her the same week,’’ he said.
Jemibola further told the court that he reported the matter to his parents who pleaded with the woman to reverse her confession.
“She however insisted that she was following the dictates of the Bible.
“I purposely don’t want to do the DNA test because I don’t want to hate the child.’’ he said.
Olayemi admitted committing the offence, but kicked against dissolution of the marriage.
“I did it because Jemibola was befriending another woman during the period which made him abandon me for almost six months.
“It was that same period that my former boss, who normally took me to work in his car, made love advances at me. Both men made love with me at almost the same period.
“After some years, I discovered that the child looked quite different from his siblings and out of guilt, I decided to tell him the truth.
“I pleaded for his forgiveness but he refused,’’ Olayemi said.
In her ruling, the court president, Mrs Yemisi Ojo, said: “In the interest of justice and in the spirit of promoting reconciliation between the two parties, the case will be adjourned till April 7 for report of settlement.’’culled
*wow.....this is serious oooh!
For real? Odikwa risky
ReplyDeleteHa! O wukwa obere risky, nka kariwara mmu.
DeleteI don't see the risk here, it can happen to anybody. Her husband had extra marital affair, so why shouldn't she have. The man should relax Jare. As for DNA, it is important. But I believe the man who slept with her first is the father.
DeleteHow would u see the risk when u skull is empty with ur cheating ass. The marriage and kids are at risk cos the family will be divided. Am sure u r a cheating wife with this ur comment and probably have given a bastard to ur husband. If this woman had endured, would all these be happening? What about a faithful husband whose wife cheats, does that give him the right to go cheat on his wife? No. Two wrongs don't make a right. Stop advising people stupidly cos u do the same and want people be like u
DeleteAnonymous 2:06 shut your stupid mouth.... The woman confessed to him why is he going to court? If he was the one will the whole world not beg her to forgive? He is a foolish man.... This is just so typical of men who believe they can do what they like and go scot free but if it's a woman then she must be disgraced.... Let him go, if she has truly repented before God then she is free and forgiven..... If he dies without forgiving her he will go to hell...
Deleteohoh, wahala dey.... good morning stella D
ReplyDeleteHmmmnnnnn, this is a tough one.
DeleteHaaaaa!!!! Na wa oh!!! Most Yoruba nd ibo women are guilty of dis...tufiakwa
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Yoruba and calabar women are to fucking promiscuous. One shouldn't even venture marrying them if one is not from that tribe. Na so them go dey fuck pple wife when them don go for that their yeye owambe party. Calabar is even the worse of all. Igbo women have self dignity so they hardly cheat when they are married. Igbo women rocks
DeleteOponu. Dey deceive urself there. Same igbo women abi? U must gave a stone in place of ur brain.
DeleteIgbo women f**k @ random,i have married igbo friends and I know wot they do
Delete@anon 13:39.....shut up ignorant mouth!!!! A Calabar women don't roll like that ....she may sleep around before marriage but it is crazy taboo once married and so they respect themselves...she's most likely to leave u or even kill than cheat and that is fact!!
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DeleteYou are forgiven my daughter. Go and sin no more.
ReplyDeleteMen are wicked...he can't forgive her abi...but if its the other way round,heaven will let lose...we will forgive and even accept the child....The woman should move on jare...what matters is God's forgiveness...
ReplyDeleteSeconded, abeg the man should go and sit down for potopoto.for all you care he may have children outside his matrimonial home and even a second wife plus concubines, let him not forgive nah, na only women sabi forgive, yeye dey smell.
DeleteMy dear isn't it crazy! My own hubby fathers two sons from both a European woman and an African woman,the European son I knew of, the African son I've just learnt of,what breaks my heart the most is the way this guy goes like....they are my sons,accept them or leave. And mind you i'll fight for the custody of our 3 kids. This same guy prohibits me from speaking to colleagues at work, and calls any unmarried woman with a child"after 1"......Men are mean I swear.
Deleteyels ke!!!
DeleteMove on to where?? Do you ever make any good comment at all?? Always making stupid comments.
DeleteU cheating married women should shut up and cover ur faces. At least men don't get pregnant and bring bastards into the house. Although It's bad for men to cheat on their wives but If ur husband cheats does not give u the justification to cheat. This is the end results when married women cheat. The stupid wife couldn't even let her boss use a condom. She is a liar. If her husband abandoned her, how come both men slept with her during the same period. She just ruined a 25 year old marriage cos of 5 minutes sex with her boss. Another divorce on the way. I just wish the government could just ban this marriage of a thing, cos it's all deceit. I get pissed everyday when I hear stories like this, as in why marry when u cannot endure? Endurance, love and trust is what marriage is all about, but nowadays, marriage is a joke. As for the stupid boss that took advantage of the married woman with 4 kids, hell is where he belongs. Of all billions of single ladies in the world, na married woman u see sleep with. U r doomed. Woman, carry ur cross.
DeleteI think she took the moral highway, even though it's the road less travelled. Nothing beats being at peace with yourself. That's courage.
DeleteMost men are being fathers to children that are not theirs especially the first children....sometimes men are the one pushing women out to cheat now woman are the master of the game hehe.God will give her strength to overcome
ReplyDeleteThe woman should let her husband be cos if she refuses to go, she'll be unhappy 4 d rest of her life. I really don't wanna be in d 4th child's shoes...the poor child.
ReplyDeleteIts nt serious joor. Bcos its d'woman in dis case abi? Men that can cheat 4 Africa and yet expect us 2 look d'other way. Nt supporting wht d'woman did oo, but den c'mmon she repented and confessed oo she shud b 4given. Afterall, d'men hav children with other women whil stil married to their wives. He shud pls find a place in his hrt 2 give her though I knw it wud neva be the same. I hope d'woman holds her repentance wella sha, make she no go fall back.
ReplyDeleteThis is a very tough one to call..
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I understand why the woman confessed. Before I was genuinely born again(not just by going to church o) l did all sorts. Thank God for Christ. I am doing my best now to rectify my errors though I feel my best might never be enuf.
ReplyDeleteThe man is obviously hurt, but divorce is not the answer (seperation cud come in to deal with the situation) He sjd even thank his star the woman fears God to the point of confessing. There are so many secrets spouses esp. Women k3ep from each other cos they know men's ego might destroy the marriage if they confess. The fear of God and the world after death should be our motivation to be Good.God help us all.
Some people can misinterpret this whole born again shit.
ReplyDeleteShe isn't gonna even make heaven so why punish herself on earth.
Don't tell me nonsense
What she did is called restitution madam.
DeleteYou see how you keep displaying the kind of idiot you are?
DeleteSo she had a child for another man while married to another means she will go to heaven?
P.A to Lucifer! Idiot M-amie. Idiot personified! Nonsense! Mumu. Agbaya! You better shave off the hair on your chest and chin.
And when u see lucifer today, as usual, tell him I said hi. Go and rot!
This m-amie is as stupid and as senseless as all her comments. Am begining to wonder what she smokes or sniffs before posting comments. Is this m-manie really someone's gf or wife? Bcuz she is so empty in thoughts and am sure same applicable in her character motherfucker.
DeleteDamn @Anon 10:16am, Na M-amie u diss like this? U harsh o. I can't just take that
DeleteLatewr now U̶̲̥̅̊ will be forming christain to the core and telling us how U̶̲̥̅̊ spent the whole of valentine praying and casting out demons...and U̶̲̥̅̊ will be quoting bible passages you Crammed....YES! Crammed cos U̶̲̥̅̊ don't put it to practise. You Α̲̅я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ a hypocrite.........may self righteousness not book you an executive position i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̅ hell. If you have nothing to add, you can simply keep quiet on the matter, you musnt be heard always.
DeleteM-Amie who re u to determine her going to heaven or not? Sho ara re o...
DeleteMamie-water! When did you become deputy God that you can now decide who will go to heaven and who will not? Check the meaning of restitution, Google is your friend.
DeleteMamie you are a total idiot..... Your husband must be a total dunce to still remain married to a fool like you..... After u will be quoting scriptures.... What cheap drugs do you sniff? For your information u mumu, if she repents she will make heaven and if the hubby does not forgive he will go to hell... Men expect to be forgiven when they cheat then women should be killed when they do same..... To hell with them
DeleteMost men r the cause of women infidelity. They hardly show love, care and affection towards the women. God hears the cry of a woman. I have been married for 13 years and still not happy with the way my husband treats me. Am still in the unions because of my wonderful kids, believing God for the salvation of his soul
ReplyDeleteLiar, what care, love and affection do u want again? U women are never satisfied. If ur husband refuses to sleep with u for some periods, call his family's attention to it, if he doesn't change, endure and get a vibrator. He would come back to his senses one day.
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DeleteAnonymous 12:28 you are a very stupid idiot...... A total fool for your comment. Goat
DeleteNa weytin dey kill us be Dis shebi na she come Beg you for forgiveness Y nt forgive na wat of if you found out ur self kor nawa for some Men o, ther is No sin dat is nt worth forgiving, does God nt forgive you wenever you Sin ppl should learn to forgive and forget.
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Na weytin dey kill us be Dis shebi na she come Beg you for forgiveness Y nt forgive na wat of if you found out ur self kor nawa for some Men o, ther is No sin dat is nt worth forgiving, does God nt forgive you wenever you Sin ppl should learn to forgive and forget.
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This same thing happened to my uncle in 2009 his own case is worse because it happened that out of his three kids only one was his. After the wife of almost thirty years confessed to adultery . To me oh there are secrets women should take to their graves and this is one of them. Short of the story is my uncle accepted the kids but after he died of heart break two years ago. The kids despite grown feel unwelcomed in our family...
ReplyDeleteDear taking such secret to the grave means taking it straight to hell. I still have a serious burden on me to tell my Hus that i have been in contact with my ex- bf through phone conversations which i have ended for good because of the fear of God. God help us in our quest for salvation that is why im so confident that only few men will be available in heaven.
DeleteHmmm.... It just goes 2 show d women hv conscience. Its really tough. Its sad ur uncle died dat way. Its only God that can help us all. DNA shld provide d answer so everybody can rest. If d husband still insists on divorce d woman shld bear her cross. Time heals all wounds.
DeleteHmmm.... It just goes 2 show d women hv conscience. Its really tough. Its sad ur uncle died dat way. Its only God that can help us all. DNA shld provide d answer so everybody can rest. If d husband still insists on divorce d woman shld bear her cross. Time heals all wounds.
DeleteBefore a woman makes a confession like this to her husband, just be ready for the outcome.
ReplyDeleteHe might kick you out.
He might resent you for all your life.
He might use another woman to hurt you.
He might forgive u but will never trust again.
Just be ready for the outcome.
You may suffer for years, but if your conscience is free, it justifies your suffering.
It is bad enough for a married woman to cheat but I see it as wickedness, taking in for the man outside and bringing the baby to your husband. Knowing that ur wife cheated is easy to forgive but seeing the fruit of that cheating everyday breaks ones heart repeatedly, and it takes only the grace of GOD for a man not to die from such heartbreak. It drains you in and out and makes you as a man, lose yourself worth and esteem. It is what a man should never witness in his life time. If a married woman cheats, must she also carry belle for that man ? Its pure wickedness.
DeleteAbi o, tell these Sluts of women o. How married woman go carry belle for another man after 3 kids? What else does she want? Women get guts o. She even had another child for her husband after the bastard she brought home. Who knows if the 5th is even her husbands'. She did it purposely and should face the consequences. Such a heartless woman
DeleteThunder fire una mouth dere ..... Idiots, it is not wickedness for a man to do the same abi? If it is the man the woman will be mandated to forgive but as na woman she must be punished..anonymous 2:21 it is your mother who is the proper slut....stupid goat as if men are more superior than women..... With all the randy he goat running all over u open ur gutter mouth to insult women..... Your mama
DeleteCan't even imagine what it will be like to be that 4th child right about now
ReplyDeleteMeeeen nw dats gangster,and brave! Oga please forgive her its nt easy and nt all women will b dis honest(evn with DNA result)lemme do small amebo dis mrn*wispers*do you guyz kno dat my neighbours last child isnt 4 d husband!!and gues who d fada is my oda neighbours husband,d boy is d exact replica of d man.and dis woman dey cheat 4 africa.geeeez am nt lying o.me and her don meet 4 jungle b4 sef.*flips 30inches sponged darling yaki and walk and twerks my yansh pad*
ReplyDeleteMadam jungle, hmm, sha take am easy be4 u go jam lion one day.
DeleteHahah your amebo no be here
DeletePhewwww neva knew gossip could be dis fun.
ReplyDeleteDo you realise what you've just done. You have your name & pics here then still went ahead to blurt this rubbish on the net. You are also a woman.
DeleteMissy
Am only sorry for d poor child,d stigma cannt be ereased, as for d man ranting ,if she didn't confess wud u have known abt it? U d woman self, dat ur husband was cheating is not enough for u to do same,@ d end of d day is a man's world.
ReplyDeleteEven if it's not a man's world. Two wrongs can never make a right. She was supposed to go into prayers so her husband could come to his senses. She even had the effrontery to allow the stupid boss not use a condom. Dem suppose flog this kind woman stokes of cane I swear
DeleteFuck the mans world, what is good for the goose is good for the gander..... Don't expect fidelity from your wife when you don't give it
DeleteI have two frenemies that are always claiming born again. Claiming born again because they are both 'gossip personified', always very pessimistic, very jealous creatures who always wants to see people fall. One of them is a pastors wife who is guilty of adultery with many accomplices. The other is one I'd call a master hypocrite and the most judgemental human I've ever met. In one of their conversations, pastor's wife told the other that she wasn't clean. That she was an adultress. Madam chief judge told her to go and confess her sins to her husband and even if he kicks her out she should bear the consequence. She used to call the pastors wife almost everyday to remind her to confess her sins till they fell apart because of their gossip gossip.
ReplyDeleteHow did I know? They both told me their own sides of the story, gossiped and backbited each other to me after they fell apart. Meanwhile, madam chief judge is not even a faithful wife. She is also a lesbian.
Characters! Always fooling themselves.
From all the gist u just spewed, there's no way u can tell me u are not the 3rd person in that gossip group.
Delete@Swerve,or even the ******* herself!
DeleteOne was a friend in second. School. The pastor's wife @ university. An older lady. The two of them met at their church. Pastor's wife was always gossiping to the other about everyone in my class (school stuff). Then she gossiped about me not knowing that the other one knows me. The other one told me all she said and I confronted both together. Come and see drama and lies that day. I detest judgemental people. Did I tell my classmates all what I heard she said? No! They would have finished her and made school miserable for her.
DeleteThat's gross!but this sh#t is even more Rampant these days,no more a biggie,i have a relation dat d paternity of his first and third daughter is still in doubt,and d wife still plays away match as a matter of two can play d game' cos even he is not a saint at alll!...hmmm dis generation,we are all going to hell!!*except me abeg!*runs away*
ReplyDeleteReally.make I follow u run.........lol
DeleteIt's really true what they say. Only a woman knows the father of her children.
ReplyDeleteThey should go for DNA test to be sure. Oh I pitty d poor child.
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DeleteI applaud her effontery for coming clean. However, some secrets are best taken to the grave to avoid unlimited castigations that comes with spewing such.
ReplyDeleteFrom grave to hellfire abi?
DeleteGod is a merciful Father. Heb 11 : 31, a prostitute's name was even mentioned in God's hall of fame. Jasmine, nobody can decide for God.
DeleteSwerve, I'm not deciding for God but no sin is worth taking to the grave o...read your bible abeg,
DeleteAwwwww Restitution is the most difficult part of Christianity, most Christians are born again but refuse to go through the restitution process because of shame,disgrace or neglect like Mrs Olayemi,but its crystal clear she wants to make heaven and damn the consequences; its the same bible that said if one eye will make you miss heaven,do cut it off.
ReplyDeleteThank you dear...restitution is the most difficult o, wish the bible can just remove that part
DeleteHe is divorcing her bc she confessed dat their 4th child is not his yet he's seekin custody of all d kids includin d one that is not his. What a wicked man! Make thunder fire dat his rotten mouth. D woman shld cry unto God, if indeed she has a geniune repentance,even if @ d end, d man drives her away, heaven will always be her provider.
ReplyDeleteAll his focus is on her confession. He is not mentioning his affair which is d source of d problem. He now thinks he is more righteous. God have mercy.
ReplyDeleteAll his focus is on her confession. He is not mentioning his affair which is d source of d problem. He now thinks he is more righteous. God have mercy.
ReplyDeleteThat source of problem is not an excuse. If everyone sins does not give one right to sin. Stop spewing rubbish. At least he didn't bring a bastard into the house
DeleteShut your stupid mouth.... Men will never accept responsibility for adultery......if it was the man that had the child they will give him an award...... He should go and ask God do grace to forgive her if not hell awaits him.... Stupid man she confessed yet he has told the whole world as if he is a saint...
DeleteI fear these born again people more than i fear the so called frenemies. May God Deliver us all
ReplyDelete@i_ChoPtas_Not
He should forgive her. Divorce is not the answer. He is not God n not perfect either. Overcoming this can only make them stronger. What if she hadn't said anything? It's painful I know but he should Pls forgive her.
ReplyDeleteNot anonymous anymore
Going out to fuck one idiot because you are not having enough sex or your husband is cheating is stupid.... If man give woman belle for outside na him pikin... But if you use your ashawo totoh carry belle you go bring your bastard come house as your husband pikin and live in constant fear... This is difference btw playing away matches by men and women
ReplyDeleteRetarded fool so the mans prick is more superior than her toto abi? She knows the name of the other man so what rubbish are u saying....the boy is now a bastard cos na dey woman commit adultery but will be a child if na the man.... Thunder fire your stupid mouth there..... Ewu gambia
Delete@anon9:52,,,,me just loveeeee ur replies!
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