You are happily married and have the right number of kids planned out ooops.. you wake up pregnant and the man you love,the father of your children,tells you to go and flush out the baby he just offloaded into you.
Isnt Being married one of the best reasons not to have an abortion?
What would you do if your husband asks you to flush out the baby or get out?
you are standing between the devil and the deep blue sea!
''Ok Stella let me cut it short now......... I have been married for 5years and blessed with two sons but prior to my marriage my hubby had a daughter and she lives with us.
i have been on contraceptives and often times withdrawal method during sex as my hubby said we didn't need more kids for now .
The problem now is I just found out i'm pregnant again and he said I should abort it,in my heart I dont want to abort but before we went to the clinic I prayed that God should make every plan futile so we went and the doctor said my bp was too high and that he wouldn't advise us to abort it.
however he placed me on bp drugs now my hubby is telling me to calm down so my bp will be normal so we can have the abortion this weekend or i won't have the child in his house!
imagine,I'm so disappointed,hurt and upset,please what do i do?''
*Sweetheart DO NOT ABORT THAT child.DO NOT TOUCH THAT CHILD...God will see you through...
Have u tried violent midnight prayers backs with the word of God? Is there anything to hard for God to do. The heart of the king is in God's hands and He turns it where He wants it to go.. ur case is a small case with God, only if uld get praying and confessing God's word. People are just too lazy to fight their way out of situations.. too lazy!
ReplyDeleteshut up there......is it all your prayers that have been answered yet? idiot, u people will come here and be forming spiri for others.....
DeleteIt's either you please man (ur husband) or God who frowns at abortion. If i were you, i won't abort the baby. I will damn whatever consequence that comes with my decision. You will be forever quilty if you do. You will be surprised that ur hubby will even call you a murderer in the near future. Pls and pls keep the baby. Give him/her a chance to life. If possible involve your families. What if something goes wrong during/after the abortion? Who will take care of ur kids? Pls be guided.
DeleteMehn men can be realy irrational oh,,wat nonesense av an abortion,I mean u go through all dis as a single girl and still go tru dat married again? I dnt just get it,its so annoyin,dnt even abort d baby let him do his worst,he's even threatening u,is he not d 1 dat put it in there,I hate selfish,self centered men,mehn women go through a lot oh,abeg tke stella's advice
DeleteHow very selfish,@ d dentriment of ur own health,wat if u av complications afterwards?am so vexed reading dis
Delete@ poster, let me share my story with u...this is actually happening in my family...many yrs ago, my family was really having a hard time, we cudnt even eat n den my mum got pregnant after 3 children...den d husband (dad) advised dat she abort it (giving d financial situation, we were rolling in poverty)...she agreed and took drugs upon drugs to terminate d pregnancy..d child just didn't die..she eventually gave birth to a boy but a deformed child..d child is 17yrs today, everyday my mum cries bcos of dis child....so, poster, u see...wat u sow, u will definately reap, u need to stand firm in ur decision n keep d child..don't do something dat will cause u sorrow in d future
DeleteAnon 2:49 Very touching. I'm not sure ur mum will ever forgive her self. If any1 here ever thinks of aborting which is so so wrong but pple will still do it, never go 4 drugs they r injurious 2 ur organs n d abv story may just be d result. Poster stand ur ground in a subtle yet firm way. I hope u r working 2 earn a living if push comes 2 shove.
DeleteBLOG ANALYSER: madame calm down nd take it to prayers. Clearly he is looking at the fiancial angle. If he is capable of taking care of four children, find a way to convince him. Like I said earlier prayer is the key.
ReplyDeleteIf ur husband doesn't want another baby,why not obey him?
DeleteWomen are the architects of their own calamity most times.
Have u seen d population of Nigeria yet?
Interesting opinion, so u feel she is more accountable to her husband than God who created both her and her husband? The result of sex is pregnancy so he should deal with it. Obey God my ear cos only God has the power to destroy both body and soul o!
DeleteHi dear, didn't your mom teach you not to say anything when you don't have anything nice to say ? your comment is too insensitive.........no wonder they say women are their own worst enemies. What stopped the man from taking precautions too or are they not in it together ?
Deletemamie retarded comment as usual.......if u support abortion then u are a murderer......foolish woman
DeleteM-amie is right though, I know women that think its ok to keep popping kids out because they are "blessings" but what is wrong with using implants? Or use the "coil" thingy? Pills ate so useless.. I pity the guy o..he knows what he is talking about but still he can't expect you to have an abortion .. Men think all we need to do is open our legs and have it taken out, they dont know the emotional trauma that comes with it... If you want to keep it, keep it. Just make sure you involve family members (I hope that shit still works).. And please sis , get a proper method of contraception..
Delete*am out*
@ M-amie: nawa 4u ooo ds comment of urs shows dat u r not living d word (of God) dat u preach. I used t admire ur comments cos more often than not u usually hav bible verse(s) t back up evry post. U fall my hand no b small wt ds ur comment. Wot has her having a 3rd child got t do with d population of Nigeria? Dd d poster tel u dat dey r not financially stable t feed an extra mouth. Abeg keep mum if u hav nothing positive t say cos indirectly u r in support of abortion n dat makes u r murderer. Evry child has a right t life.
Delete@mamie....wen u open ur mouth to talk, it is usually offensive..as always, u didn't dissappoint me...@blog analyser..never encourage anyone to kill in other to please ur fellow man
Delete@mamie....wen u open ur mouth to talk, it is usually offensive..as always, u didn't dissappoint me...@blog analyser..never encourage anyone to kill in other to please ur fellow man
Deletey didnt u av birth control? r u a fowl? u want to av a girl too so he doesnt shower all his love on his other girl
DeleteI still remain the preacher that I am n I am totally against abortion especially when there is a legal binding between both parties.
DeleteU mustn't pick on everything I say cos it's Mamie.
I'm unique in my own way,reason my answers usually don't comply with urs.
Who told u guys the poster didn't purposely get pregnant to counterbalance the girl child her hubby has dat she's stressing.
She comes off as being selfish with her decision n here she is playing victim.
Pls drop ur opinion,this is mine n I'm unapologetic!
Shut the fuck up Mamie n stick ur opinion in ur vagina where it belongs. Sounding like a wicked sister-in-law. Who made you judge n jury? How do you know that she may have taken in on purpose because of d previous girl? Are girls that much of a threat? Idiot! U r still a preacher kor, a demon ni... who dash u? when the devil goes up to God, he uses the word too you know.... same as you. Oya defent your pro abortion stance. you are not even putting her health into consideration!!! Goodness! You are a wicked soul. I swear down
DeleteAnon 3:42pm....U're an idiotic fool....what do u mean by "why didnt she have birth control"??....is it dat u cant read well or u cant comprehend at all?? didnt you read where she said she uses contraceptives and they practice withdrawal method too??? are you also so foolish not to know that contraceptives/birth control sometimes fail??? and y cant u ask why her man didnt use sperm control(if it exists)??? y are we so quick to judge women all the time??? and look at ur stupid african mentality....that poster wants to have a girl bcos she doesnt want hubby to shower all his love on the other girl....boy or girl...which one no be pikin??? U are a FOWL just like you asked the poster....mtcheeeeewwww
DeletePoster...pls dont do abortion oooo....aside from the fact that its a sin,,,if anything goes wrong with you,,,ur hubby will continue to live his life.......why was he "doing" when he knows he doesnt want kids anymore??? moreover,,,men too can do family planning,,he should have gone for family planning too......pls pally/plan with your doctor to tell ur hubby u cant do the abortion bcos it will be a risk to ur life(doctors know what to say and how to say such things).......and dont forget to pray too....
@ Anonymous 3:42pm, are u a stupid cunt or didn't you read the part where the poster said she used pills and her hubby did withdrawal method? Its obvious your just a fucktard who wants to tal bcoz u feel like instead of talking bcoz u have somtin meaningful to say.
Delete@ sleekreek I fully support u
#Ama#
@grandma mamie av lost it finally!
DeleteDo u know d poster that u alrdy concluded she wants a girl becos of 1thing 1thing?
When every1 is saying A u will be saying Z, is your brain functioning well @all?
Stop hyping yourself u r not important to any1 on this blog becos No1 knows U and those that know u won't associate themself with a Jobless liar like u! Such an hypocrite always quoting Bible! My God can not be mocked u hear!
See your comments like som1 that don lost am finally for Oblongata..Mtsheew
Poster Pls read every1s comment but don't read grandma mamie's comments or else...hmm
God will touch your husband and make him see things in a different way.
He doesn't even know maybe na future Goodluck Jonah or Mama peace una won born sef..
God will help you change his mind and he will surely intervene in your matter.
D LORD is your strenght...
Stella dis ur blog na wah ooooh.
DeleteMy dear poster tell ur husband u'll get the abortion if and at the same time he is getting a vasectiomy,let's see how he'll deal with that! Men are sooo selfish!!
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Anon 10.32am, u are very correct. Men should learn to take responsibility for their actions too. The thing Don enter, why he no just leave am and be more careful next time? Now he's asking poster to have an abortion. This abortion thing has eaten deep into married couples o. Mist of the abortions done these days are by married people. Hia! Oh!! God guide ur pikins right o Abeg.
DeleteAnon 10:32 End of discussion seriously! I hands off dis matter.
Deletethis is the strongest part of marriage,omo na prayers can soften the heart of that man,i don talk my own ,i don waka pass
ReplyDeleteDear Poster. I have been your situation before. Take it to God in prayers and ask that his WIll be done. I didn't take out mine. We went through a really bad patch. I was miserable. It was the most difficult of times for me. The baby is here now and almost 4 months old and we are Thankful for him. Truth is God takes care of his own but because we are human, most times our fears' doubts and worries get the better part of us.
DeleteIf u never marry wahala, if u still marry wahala shuooo different wahala for dead body, , please like stella said don't touch dat baby my dear let ur man go to helll and born to ashes for all I care.....
ReplyDeleteYu started well buh hw can you say her Man shld go to hell?? Will yu takia of her 2 kids nd d unborn child?
DeleteMy dear poster, pray to God nd talk to your husband. Tell him God is in control. Tell him abortion is a sin against God nd against dat innocent unborn child.
Maybe ur Husband is seeing d situation from d financial aspect, let him know God will takia of d situation. If he doesn't want more kids then he shld do d right thing. I think dere s a way couples prevent pregnancy na, so you guys shld prevent it, nt going for abortion anytime pregnancy comes up bcos am sure if you guys don't prevent it, you will keep getting pregnant.
Or if it happens afta dis abortion again will you still abort d next, next nd d next??!!
So pls you guys shld do it ryt. Nd its nt only ur fault dat you're pregnant, its also his fault. So he shld stop acting all bossy like you impregnated yasef. May God help you.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry but your husband is irresponsible. If you wanted the abortion too for whatever reason, then its fine. But for him to keep piling on pressure on you to do something against your wish? I don't see him as a caring and reliable person.
You are obviously a good, obedient wife but stand up to him. You've done him enough favour by taking in his daughter.
'Enough favour by taking in his daughter'? People like you ehn....
DeleteEnough favour? Pray tell, what she have done with the girl?
DeleteThis is a delicate one...What happend to family planning?....Poster,don't mind ur hubby,that's what dey always say....don't abort it....smh...Men are the same everywhere
ReplyDeleteDo not abort the innocent child because you want to keep a man. What gives you the impression that he will not give you a boot in the future for other reasons.
ReplyDeleteMy concern here is that if you are hypertensive, it may also not be good for pregnancy. Pray for God's direction and seek the advice of a good obgyn. Rose
The Lord is your strength. Why are men so selfish?
ReplyDeletepls do not abort the baby
ReplyDeletewhat is wrong with your husband?
ope he is ok ?
Jane he is OK, sometimes men fear the finances involved in raising a child, its not just giving birth to a child that matters but proper and adequate training which involves paying a lot if bills,i hope you understand.
Delete@kaycee yes we no he has to pay bills but abortion? What if she dies in the process. Please poster keep your baby and afternow do better family planning. The pill fails one a lot cos it has a lot of dos especially with the time. Try using the coil its one of the safest method of family planning.
Deleteso the baby should be aborted?
DeleteThe man should have kept his johnny in his pants then! Honestly, it takes 2 to tango. If he didn't want another child, he should have made sure the wife had great family planning or better still, go for the snip!
DeleteAm not saying she should abort the baby,i will never support abortion, Jane asked if the man is OK?thats why i had to explain.
DeleteAm not in support of abortion,just explaining things better to Jane,the question hope is OK?sounded harsh.
Deletepls do not abort the baby
ReplyDeletewhat is wrong with your husband?
ope he is ok ?
This is quite huge but please don't take that baby's life, pray fervently am sure God will touch your hubby and he will have a rethink.
ReplyDeleteFrom your write up, I can guess you played your husband. You wanted another child and he has said no for now. I would be angry if I was him But then wouldn't advice you to abort the child.
ReplyDeleteWhat do you mean she played him...in marriage again
DeleteNo be fuck him dey fuck her, abi you think its everytime you pills would work
Even the withdrawal nko, mayb somehting had alredy entered, if the man knows he dint want another pikin, why dint he do something about his own sperm or even use a condom, men would just be filling like gods...mtcheww
Abeg keep that pikin o, children are the ones who would be there for you when you are old
what do you mean by played? is d husband not responsible for the pregnancy ? abeg nobody should blame the woman alone and if she had wanted to "play" her hubby she wouldn't have brought it here!
DeleteIts so sad to get married to somone u fear. Fear nd respect re different thns. If he loves u, he won't giv u such an ultimatum. Pls, stand ur ground nd refuse to oblige him. Mak him understand dt kids re blessings frm God, besides its not lik u already hav too much. Abortion is murder, dnt forget that. Plead wt him nd cry if u can, bt stand ur ground. He wl com around in due time
ReplyDeleteCristiano Ronaldo was an unwanted child, he was born to a poor family. Infact his parent didn't plan for another child after 4 kids, so he was a 'mistake'. So both parrents plan to abort the child, but then the father changed his mind just at the hospital. Today he's the family's saviour.
ReplyDeleteDuring one oF his award presentation, he cried and said his only regret is that his father did not live to see his fame.
Why did he fuck you without condom? If he is so sure he doesn't want the child, why was he relying on the pills you take? Mcheeeew
ReplyDeleteBut whatever happened to family planning? Then abortion is not safe but I don't see anyone blame this poster but her husband. You Nigerians are hypocrites, if her husband goes broke and can't take care of the children anymore, u all will be calling names like "irresponsible", "lazy", "jobless" et al. For God's sake, he already told her he wasn't having anymore, she should have gone for family planning. But am very sure she wants a daughter, that's y she had to get pregnant. You women are wicked, selfish and heartless. School fees will come up and y'all will frustrate the hell out of men and push them to go commit offences. You women better let ur heads be correct, plan with ur men and do the right thing. What a selfish and wicked world.
DeleteThank you oo, God bless you for this comment.
DeleteMy dear when you are on birth control, you are birth control. Everybody is blaming the man, but can't see the fact that woman had this all worked out. She purposefully took in because she wanted another child.
DeleteBut still thats not a reason to abort the child
Hehehehe.. Bobo ti hot o! Guys don't vex o
DeleteSee men yarning dust ooo.....what makes u guys think birth control dont fail sometimes???......and why must it be the woman alone that must bear the burden of family planning???....if d man feels he has enof kids....then let him go for vasectomy or forever zip up nah.....now u remember diaper;skool fees.....but wen he was"doing"....he never thought the outcome will need diapers and skool fees.....let him bear his cross ooo......or maybe he tot it was milk coming out of his blokos that will serve as balanced diet for his wife.......mtcheeeewww...
Delete@Sleekreek, that u r a woman doesn't mean u should spill rubbish. Firstly,I didn't see u say both of them should go for family planning but the man, who needs family planning more if not the woman that conceives. Then u said he should zip up, later the woman will go on blogs and complain that her husband had refused her of sex, and y'all will come up with stupid comments that he is cheating on her. SMH, one cannot just satisfy you people especially Nigerians.
Deleteyou men are here yarning rubbish.........she did not use family planning ....fact........should she abort.....capital no.......this post is not about blaming her for not using family planning.she has already made the mistake but to tell her to pack out cos of that he needs his head examined...some men think cos they are the head of the home they should go crazy and treat u like trash...anonymous 12: 29 you are a proper idiot for your comment....so cos of poverty she should abort abi? all you hiding under diff reasons stop the hypocrisy and just say u support abortion........if the man can feed 3 kids then he can feed four....he is just stupid, wicked and utterly self centered rolled into one
DeleteAnon 8:17am......didnt u read where the poster said she has been using contraceptives?? obviously her choice of family planning failed which sometimes happen......the man has not been on any family planning method yet he is the one positioning his wife for danger by insisting she goes for an abortion...if the woman dies in the process,,will the man not continue living,,marry another woman who will still bear children that he is screaming he has had enough of??? they are both in this so they should bear the consequences together and go extra miles to prevent any future occurence.....not him pushing his wife to d hot zone by giving silly options of "abort or leave my house".......
DeleteI just dey pass. *mouth sealed*
ReplyDeleteMy husband actually wanted me to abort my third pregnancy... It was unplanned... And me, I already had a date from d hospital until God ministered and I decided to take it... Today, my Gorgeous son is almost six years old... He is a beauty to behold * finer than most girls*.
ReplyDeleteKeep your pregnancy Op... God has a reason for it just like God has a reason for making keep mine.... D quarrels with your hubby can only last for sometime.
HmmmmMm.....you don't know how closes to home this is for me...just discovered my bro had his wife abort just becauses he doesn't want more that two children....am so distraught and upset,this is. Someone I hold in very high esteem...Poster pls don't abort this baby for whatever reason,don't join the bandwagon of a morally decaying society that God will soon judge,He gave you the child,He will see you thru...cheers
ReplyDeleteThis ur grammar reach for pregnancy to comet Sef. Lol
DeleteBut why are you upset over the choice of another person's household. You come off as judgmental. If you love and respect your brother then continue to love and respect him even in the things that you don't agree with. The greater issue is for people to make use of vasectomies and getting their tubes tied if they no longer want to have children.
DeleteBang. Bang. Bang, Una just de go oh, bang bang bang. As una de knack una no know say sometin fit enter. Now u de ask us for advise. Show us a sex video to prove it first then we will respond appropriately. No give ur husband highBP sha.
ReplyDeleteYou really are blonde
DeleteWell said aunty stella L♥√ع @poster: pls never you give a second thought to such evil act.. Now read this, i Have a friend that gat pregnant after she with the husby has four kids already&the husby was so mad and asserted she aborted it, the woman after seeking advice like u did, gave deaf ears to what the husby wanted&went down the valley of prayers...things persisted&she struggled thru with the help&protection of God..@last she had the baby&who can bet how much luck this baby brought to their family? Everything started turning around in the family&the husby instantly started building a new house at abuja, bought a new car last xmas, he over pimped their house and until now he never jokes with that baby...he went on telling his friends this baby is a blessed child&sholud never be joked with...amongst the 5kids now, this last rejected baby has turned the pillar of the family&most adored by families&friends... Pls, just be very wise, apart from this allusion, ABORTION is a sin btw God&man, no one has the right to take away life esp that of an infancy not to talk of the unborn...... Have you thought of loosing ur life in the act of abortion&how ur husby without a second thought will be in a haste to get his self another wife??? Listen ooooo, and be very wise dear, am not used to epistle, but went outta of my way to do it to tell you how deeply hurt i get with issues like this hun; okay, There is another lady again that has 3kids(2girls&a boy) got pregnant&the husby demanded for an abortion saying things are hard...the woman seeked advice like the prior did&ended up keeping the baby..last three years, she had the baby and it was a boy..... Then last year, the 15yr old son(used to be only son) died in a ghastly car accident ........Now, you see the reason why God keeps sending us impromptu babies most times??? There is a reason for everything that happens in this world&mind you the gift of God added no sorrows to us but joy... People may tend to laugh@us aftermath but they won't have to do that forever..... Pls@poster.......this ain't a matter of discretion, but letting the will of God be done in ur life. Its well sweet, henceforth u will always be in my prayers. God Bless you as u adhere right!!! Resist the devil&his advice(via people like mi-amie&co)&victory will be urs bfr u knw it. @i_Choptas_Not
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Delete@poster don't abort. Funny enough d child might turn out to be daddy's favourite. Jst like my kid bro, same story but now he z grown up and dad's favourite.
What if you die during the process the process of aborting dat innocent child?what wud you tell your creator.who wud take care of your kids.difinetly your hubby wud marry another woman and she wud hv dat same kid you hubby didn't want.
ReplyDeleteAbortion is a personal decision my dear,if you want it,please keep it,its maybe difficult for him to accept but with God and your prayers,the lord will change his heart;God bless you ma.
ReplyDeleteDs story reminds me of my parents.my mum took in after 10 yrs of child birth.my dad told her t abort it but my mum being an EFAC member refused.pple mocked her n even we d children were ashamed.wen d baby was born,he was d most handsome creature God has ever created.my mum and dad always quarrel cos dad spoils him silly and mum doesnt like it.dad tks him everywere he goes including burials.hes always seen wt dad.ds is d same man dt made life miserable fr mum during pregnancy.btw.d boy is soo brillant and smart.he s 9yrs old now.
ReplyDeletehe is an idiot for saying that....i will not take it out and i will not get out...if he leaves the house for me fine.....so far i have a job life goes on....wont even bother praying about anything........no man is worth the drama
ReplyDeleteWafiaaaaaa.... I heading you Jor! It's good to be hard sometimes
DeleteDon't even try it! Abort what ? Is he not responsible for it? If you abort and God forbid, doe in the process, he will hand over your sons to another women whom he will marry as wife replacing you.
ReplyDeleteKeep your baby! He is the father! He has to deal with it. Next time, while on withdrawal method, he will be fast enough to jump out before he releases his sperm. Wen e de sweet am e nor know. If I hear?
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selfish self centered man.....how many is four kids that he wants to abort? just ignore him.....he will want to make ur life miserable but just be strong and dont bother yourself cos of your bp.......i pray you have a job and can take care of yourself cos am sure he will deny you funds too.....no need to fight even if he tries too, and don't move an inch out except he carries u physically and even then it cannot be the end of your life, worse case you go your papa house...at least no be for bad thing dem take drive you......no man is worth the trouble i tell u the truth......so under no circumstances should you abort the baby......but after this time go and do proper family planning to avoid stories that touch part 2.......
ReplyDeleteSo lemme try to understand ur husband,what happens if u dont take it out?he throws u out and brings in another woman right? Well that woman must be barren o,cus no sane woman who is single will refuse to have children,and if she's an older woman,she'l definitely have had kids before,or maybe ur husband wont ever re-marry,u see things like this are 4ny,if ur husband kicks u out the truth is one yeye girl will definitely get pregnant for him outside,i know im ranting!but to me ur husband sounds like a man stressed up wiv bills and all,he wants the best for his 3kids and he feels one more will put a strain on Him.i dont think u shud have an abortion sha.u need to start praying about this more than u talk about it,Trust God, go on ur knees in Prayer,its only burdens that are casted on Jesus that he handles.cus its only God that can handle ur situation and make every outcome favourable for u and ur husband.************ Godchic.
ReplyDeleteThis is a tough one. Prayer is key in this mattter oh. Do not abort the baby.
ReplyDeletei had this issue two years ago,clearly we couldnt afford another baby and my birth control failed so i could understand my husband pain but i couldnt see myself aborting am not a saint but i prayed and insisted on keeping the baby my husband quarrelled with me for almost 4months but with prayers he caved in. today we have our beautiful baby girl she is so adorable and guess who loves her the most.... my hubby. pray and trust God
ReplyDeleteMy dear dis is a delicate issue..i think family members will have to be invited(sorry in dis case u hv to break d 2 is a crowd rule)pray before inviting dem for d talk..God will swing it in ur favour!u can't take out dat child.ps:ask him dis question,If smthn goes horribly wrong during d abortion cos of ur health issue,what will he tell ur kids?
ReplyDeleteI won't abort if I was in ur posItion. U never know wot God's plans r 4 ur family n d baby. I don't lyk d way ur husband is going abt it wit an ultimatum considering dat u didn't make d baby alone.
ReplyDeleteDe mamie girl sef.to even think i admire u cos of d way u quote and make references t d bible.na she dey quote bible pass.anyway satan also knws d bible.
ReplyDeleteSo she sld obey d hub and disobey God.
hum
Dnt mind M-amie: she is a hypocrite.
DeleteDear Poster in as much as d bible says we shud b submissive t our husband doesn't mean we shud please dem n displease God cos in d end u n ur hubby will still b answerable t ur creator God. If u abort dat baby n end up loosing ur two sons (n u can no longer produce by then), wot will u fall back on? How do u knw d child dat will do well in d future (d unborn child might b greater)? U probably might b carrying a future 'Mandela' or "Sirleaf" in ur womb. Take d matter t God n he will take charge of ur situation.
ReplyDeletehnmm poster God never leaves his own.i was in same situation last year.i got to know i was pregnant bt hubby wasn't happy about it because things were very very difficult and we hv a daughter to tk care of.hubby asked me to get an abortion i said never! i was purnished,i was neglected,i starved sometyms,i was nt goin to antenantal cos he wouldn't gv me money,i cried,bt i stood my ground,it was hell,i became his enemy my marriage almost broke ,i was crying everyday there was no body to console me except my 17 mths old daughter who would always kneel beside me and wipe my tears with her dress.after 9mths my son arrived ,very healthy,cute and very big,although it was through Csection cause he was weak they said i had no food or water in me so he was week they had to bring him out quickly! i never regretted it the pains were all worth it cos the happiness i feel now is unmeasureable he's 7mths now and daddy is proud he has 2kids .is difficult to forgive him even though he has been begging and begging is still very difficult to forget ,he sings for him,buys him lot of things ,always sayin my son ,my son..boastin to his friend now dat he's a real man ,dat he has a boy and a girl wat els does he want? Kamsi came wit blessings ..yes God blessed us more than we could believe and everythin is more than normal now! he dont joke with his son he's even tellin me to get pregnant again, so poster keep ur baby it might nt be easy o..bt u'll definitely laugh last!
ReplyDeleteAwwwwww..... nice story!
DeleteDear Poster, wot if u die in d process of aborting d child?
ReplyDeleteR u d 1st person t undergo abort? No
Will u b d last person t undergo abort? No
Hav ppl died due t complication frm abortion? Yes
Does God support abortion? No.
Be wise.
What has happened as happened...Pls dont abort that baby. My contraceptive failed too, My husband too wanted me to abort for health reasons concerning the baby, and I argued with him at first but then the holy spirit ministered to me to ask him to wait until the baby is 10 weeks so we can do a test. With prayers and praises, we did the test and baby is perfectly healthy with no health complications. My husband who asked me to abort has become like a different man, so loving, caring, almost apologetic in his gestures towards me for his initial suggestion. He even confessed that he asked God to forgive him for initially suggesting such. Please pray about it, ask God to heal your husband's fears (financial in your own case), and use the baby as a turn around point for your entire family in a positive way.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing too hard for God. The enemy might just be waging war against the glorious destiny you are about to bring to the world.
but after this one.. abeg ttry and no do again o. lol
Y not speak to d Doctor/counsellor n share u concern with him.......They she speak to ur hubby n make him understand is a gift from God n it adds no sorrow..pls don't abort cos no mata wat u will definitely live with d guilt foreva...please God wu can destroy ur body n soul n cast into d lake of fire not husband wu is a pencil in d hands of God...Be wise in ur decision plssssssssss.
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God will see you through, please do not abort that pregnancy. The heart of kings are in his hands and he will cause the heart of your hubby to work in your favour.
ReplyDelete@poster go to d hospital after dz time and insert an IUD in ur arms. dnt break ur home becus u want to av a girl that will compete with his daughter
ReplyDeleteWhat is wrong with human I just pray God is not regreting creating man of all things God created man is the only thing that gives him trouble look at the sea, birds, anaimals, trees they all gloryfing God. Am here fasting praying craying beging God to give me a child after five years of marriage now sombody is somewhere telling the wife to abort if I give my husband this news he will throw a party I go for thanksgiving. Pls do not abort the innocent child I beg you in the name of God.
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't the man go for a vasectomy if he really didn't want to father another child....he's not serz. why must the woman bear the burden of everytin. Na she go take contraceptive, if dere isn't any child she wld b blamed even if it might be the man's fault, time for family planning she wld b d one to tie her tubes...n now she Shld do an abortion the man should plz go an drink alomo bitters moron he doesn't want another child but yet took no steps himself to prevent it. Doesn't he know that women on the pills can still get pregnant. He should have tied his prick!!!!
ReplyDeleteA s just selfish, kids are gift from God, atleast it wasn't planned so it isn't ur fault. U are a woman and its ur body dats involved here. If u can live wit abort it if u can't then keep it. Its ur body ur choice. Linda........
ReplyDeletePlz let him go get sipped, what he needs is a vasectomy not an abortion. I don't see why u should be d only one paying for both your mistake! Arielle
ReplyDeleteWoman know ye that ur body is the temple of The Holy Spirit! I aint lerring any heifer of a husband soil my body. Anon 3:54 said it all. Umu nwanyi no dey carry this marriage matter 4 head all the time. 2 can tango! Man wey go leave u go leave u no matter wat u do. And 4 those silly beings blaming the woman dat she did it on purpose cos she wants a girl of her own shd rest biko. Whats wrong in wanting ur own baby? Eeeh my own is my own. My hubby's own is his. 4 kids in a home is ideal. Above all madam pray pray pray. Don't stick ur neck 4 dat ur selfish horseband, if u die tryin to pls him six months is too long 4 him to mourn u. Of course u and I know that another "sherri koko" go land to "comfort" Him. Cheers. #Belle
ReplyDeleteI ve seen ds happen to two family friends. One was lucky as d unwanted baby became d most wanted after 4 boys. D father now dotes on her bc she is d only girl. In d second case, d man left bc in actual fact, he wanted just one and he did all he cld to make sure it was just one but d woman tricked him each time and dy became three. He cldnt handle it and he left. So for me, there ought to be compromise in situation like ds. D man shd pls accept it. Avoid abortion as much as u can. It cld cost u ur life!
ReplyDeleteDo not abort, if u do, you will regret it every single day. Apologize to your husband and try to make him understand that it is an expected and unplanned. Help quiet his fears. Let him know that an abortion is not something you feel comfortable with and your spirit is weighing down on you. Tell him, you are even scared that you loose your life in the process. Be calm, understanding but firm. Tell him you av given it a thought and you have prayed about it and if u go ahead with it, it will forever be a scar in ur mind and you won't be to emotionally and psychologically deal with it. Tell him an abortion is a permanent solution to temporary financial challenges you are facing. Play on his emotional and soft side. After that, expect him to be angry and even give attitude and behave badly, give him time to process it all and he will come around. He may give this attitude for a while o, and be mean all through your pregnancy, but remain calm but very firm. Please do not nag him or even tell him he is a horrible person for thinking that way. Do not involve parents and family except his behavior becomes life threatening. With love, understanding, patience and prayer, your husband will Come around. Please after this make sure you go to a gynecologist, and go and get proper and effective contraceptive. It's natural for him to worry about a baby coming, babies are expensive and children are extremely expensive. Support him and let him know it will work out.
ReplyDeleteTanx dearies ur comments sure strengthened me today,I have made up my mind to keep d baby,I've been praying,tanx for ur kind words,u don't know how much dis means,tanx Stella for posting dis on ur blog.poster
ReplyDeleteAbortion- When Your Girlfriend says take it out and you have not finished.
ReplyDeleteI swear naija women give men too much power. A man that leaves because of this already wanted to leave. Ask him if he will marry another woman. If he says yes, remind him that she will bring her kids along or she will have her own. Either way, he has an extra mouth to feed. I'm not saying women should just be birthing anyhow but one birth control failure should be accommodated.
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