Roy and Sharon are originally from Nigeria, both of them currently reside in the United States. They have been dating for more than two years and have a very beautiful relationship. Finally, they decided to take this beautiful relationship a step further by getting married despite their age difference. Roy is 40, whileSharon is 22 years.
The couple who strongly believe in their tradition, decided to inform their relatives back home in Nigeria and make all the necessary preparation for their traditional marriage. Sharon also sent her fiancee's (Roy) photo back home to her mum, who got the shock of her life because she recognized the person in the picture as her former lover.
To be truly sure there were no mistakes on her part, she did some more investigations and found out that the guy (in the photo) who bears another name while in Nigeria was indeed her childhood lover. He had impregnated her when they were both youths, but abandoned her and moved on never to be heard of again until now.
So how did it happen that father and daughter has been dating and sleeping with each other for more than two years without even realizing it?
Well back in Nigeria, Sharon grew up with her step father who happens to be the only father she knew, having never met her biological father before or know much about him. Also, Sharon was a name she picked up in the United States because back home in Nigeria, she was known by her traditional name though she still bears the surname of her stepfather. Same thing with Roy, who did not only change his first name in the United States, but also his last name because back in Nigeria, he bears different names. Roy who loved Sharon deeply never kept anything from her, so she knew that as a youth, he fathered a child who might be her age mate.
As sad and troubling as this incident might be, it should also serve as a very big lesson to Men who impregnates women and abandon them.
Questions to ponder upon:
1. What is going to happen to these two love birds who have suddenly been saddled with the unthinkable and unimaginable?
2. What if Sharon is already pregnant for Roy?
3. Who should be blamed for this Taboo?
By: Lenny .A. Khiran
(The Netherlands)
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Sacrilege!
ReplyDeleteAbomination!
If she's pregnant,there's an option of termination (sad as it may sound)
They both need spiritual cleansing cos their body/soul has been contaminated.
But again,what will a 22 yr old b doing with a 40yr old?
Well they're both adults,I understand there are young looking 40yr old men .
Chai! So her stepfather will be the one to walk her down d aisle not her real father, what a sad story!...........T
DeleteLMAO while dodging shoes, cups, plates and stones........T
Guilty of actually stoning you with all those. Looooooooool
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@T,I be don stone you with heavier stuffs o....LMAO,u actually made me smile...Hehehehe.
Delete@ M-amie ope u r back on ur feet now.
DeleteBack 2 the matter #in star Boyz voice. Age is nothing but a number. If @ all this is a an ordinary case of younger gul marrying an older man,(that is not her father) i think that will be heaven on earth. Could u ve preferred a 22yr old married 2 a 25? Naaahhhh.... what ever makes one sleep @ night tho.
Destiny should be blamed for this unimaginable taboo!
ReplyDeleteIf she is pregnant, she should keep the baby. It an abomination Iknow, but the did has been done.
Of course the love relationship has to be put to an end
Are you for real??? Have which baby???? Na wah o
DeleteSteph u need to check ur brain.. Have which baby???? Back to d story... The father *ROY* is to be blammed...
DeleteStephanie, you crase small. Do you know the dangers of having such a baby? You are mad!
DeleteStephanie the joker!!
DeleteThe stupid 40 yr old fool should be blamed. For impregnating a woman and never looking for her again. O lord such a stupid act. Why didn't he tell the daughter he abandoned the woman he impregnated? Serious karma has caught up with him
DeleteIMHO, no one should be blamed for Roy and Sharon's relationship; that was their fate.
ReplyDeleteWhat we don't know is whether Sharon was ever told of her birth dad. Now that they're both aware, I'm sure the right thing to do is to split as there's def gonna be some sort of bitterness from daughter to father whose abandoned her since childhood.
Good luck to them on whatever decision they take...
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I blame both parents; roy for abandoning his child n nevr lookn back. And d mum for not telling d girl about her father or showing her a picture (if she had one).
DeleteIf Sharon is already expectn, d only option is for her to abort.
Moving on,
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That relationship should be brought to a STOP. Incest without being known has been taking place....now that the cat has been let out of the bag, stop!
ReplyDeleteBlame? Father a major share of it. For never contacting his baby mama to know about his love child, what she looked like or how she is faring if bonding will be too much to ask.
Mother to be blamed as well. Doesn't she have a photo of him to show her daughter telling him this is what your father looks like???? And probably tell her the story knowing she had come of age?
Once we birth kids regardless of the circumstance, it is paramount to become wise, smart and responsible in raising that child lest any mistake on the part of the child is hugely caused by the parents
I blame the mum who hid the fact from her! It happened to a friend in PH but sadly she took her own life when she found out that her 12yr old daughter's father is her own biological dad!
DeleteStories that are unimaginable. But for Leo baby the professional talkinson... ah this one sef pass me. Ive got no words. Oga mi na you ask o, na go come answer am too. #am out! hehehehe
ReplyDeleteOh...and I forgot to add, if she is pregnant, she's got to birth the baby. That's the price all parties involved has to pay. And I hope she tells the baby (who then would have become a young man or lady) how she came into existence to avoid a pattern....re.occurrence.....history repitition.
ReplyDeleteNollywood things.......i blame d girl for dating a man twice her age.
ReplyDeleteStrange things do happen you know! It happened to a friend in PH & she took her own life bcos of the shame
DeleteD man is silly
ReplyDeleteNa wa oooo
ReplyDelete1. Break up definitely, that relationship shoukd never have kicked off in the first place.
Delete2. Give birth to the child of course, two wrongs don't make it right and no point visiting the sins of parents on the innocent, no point commiting murder too, what if that child is meant to be the founder of the cure for aids/cancer/leaukamia etc....Hehehehehe
3. Blame the father/lover, everyone ,makes mistakes, however, he should never have abandoned her mother when she was pregnant with his child/lover, if he had participated in the growing up of the lady, he woulda known his daughter.
That said, the only person my heart goes out to is that innocent baby if ( she's actually pregnant), whose life is hanging in a balance now, due to no fault of his....
*Nicole*
Nicole, even the Pope will support the termination of this pregnancy. It is an abomination!
Delete1. What will happen? They break up of course..
ReplyDelete2: She bares the child and give the baby up or abort the baby..
3. The man for not taking up his responsibility as a father when he should have..
Hmm...
ReplyDeleteTufiakwa ife ojo
But the mother should have had a picture of the man who impregnated her and abandoned her, so that at least, the daughter would have a facial impression of her father.
This thing would have been avoidable if the right and proper things had been done
Hmm...
ReplyDeleteTufiakwa ife ojo
But the mother should have had a picture of the man who impregnated her and abandoned her, so that at least, the daughter would have a facial impression of her father.
This thing would have been avoidable if the right and proper things had been done
Gudmrn Stella, U gave me a big shocker dis morning, I'm presently pregnant for a monster nd becos of d betrayal nd stuff I have decided dat my child wld bear my dad's name, u won't bliv dat just last nyt my mum was preaching nd begging me abt my decision but I'm still adamant abt it, relating to dis topic I reali don't knw whom to blame cos d girls mother did no wrong in my eyes cos have vowed to tell my child his father died during my pregnancy bcos of wat he did, so I feel same tin happened to d girl's mum. Hmmm! I'm just speechless.
ReplyDeleteI hope u can handle wat u are about to enter, if not pls abort dt pregnancy. My baby is 4 and bears my dads name, he has started asking questions already and its really scary.
DeleteYou wont be doing the child any good dear. Put the innocent child in your shoes... No matter what happens, the 'monster' is still your baby daddy, however you look at it. Plz reconsider
DeletePlease let the child bear his or her father's name biko. To avoid such confusion to come up in future.
DeleteIn this case d mother should hv told her daughter her father's name cos if she did, d gal would have told her 40yrs lover who her real Fada is tho I have neva met him. Then that would hv rung a bell in the man's head and ask questions about her mum.
God bless you MK, and the mother should have had a picture(s) to show her daughter.
Delete@ Anonymous 10:39 AM biko abort what pregnancy? why didn't u abort urs? see advice.
Delete@ Jite,please dont make the mistake of lying to ur child about his/her dad, and please let the child bear the fathers name no matter what! his blood still runs through your child and he is his father no matter what.
@ Jite, u want your child to bear ur child's name and u think that will solve the problem? I bore my so called mother's father's name and have never been told who or what part of the world my biological father comes from. I am married now but I still want to know who my real father is. In as much as I don't want to appear as the ungrateful child by not acknowledging the love that was bestowed on me by my mother's family, I still have that feeling of emptiness.
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JC I feel u. I just had to know for my sanity. My folks didnt understand.
DeleteWat kind of a man abandons his child for 20yrs? No matter wat, let's assume he was scared of responsibilty then wat abt wen he started working? Why didn't luk for d girl's mum? Nd besides, he's so irresponsible nd heartless.
ReplyDeleteJite if you take your own advice from your first comment, it can happen to you. Don't do it.
DeleteThe mother ni,4 not keeping d pics of her biological father or not telling her abt d biological father
ReplyDeleteThe relationship just has to end. Thank God sharons mum told her husband of sharons dad and I hope she told Sharon also.
ReplyDeleteIts all the mans fault. Sharon wasn't aborted, her mum kept her and her step dad took her in.
The question is why did the dude decide to change all his names? Wetin de pursue am?
1) They have no choice but to stop seeing each other. It might be hard for them but they just have to. They might need counselling. They also need spiritual cleansing. They need to get very close to God so he can cleans and heal them.
ReplyDelete2) I don't know what to answer o. I just pray she is not pregnant. It will be a disaster if she is.
3) Both should be blamed but he man has the major blame for abandoning his child. This goes to show that he is very irrespondible. He even changed all his names. SMH
They should also be blamed for having sex outside marriage and the girl should be blamed for not letting her mum know who she was dating for over 2 years. If she had introduced the guy to her mum earlier, things might not have gotten out of hand.
Lesson learnt, no matter how in love you are, don't be quick to jump into bed with that person. Make necessary enquiries first before the relationship becomes very serioius. Most importantly,let's learn to be open and truthful about our past relationships to our partner, don't withold any information. Had it been the man told Sharon his old name,the name of his baby mama etc, they might have not have been in this mess. I don't think Sharon would have been surprised to find out he has a baby mama. At 40 he must have had previous relationships.
Most importantly, men do not abandon your babies and baby mamas. If were careless enough to get a lady pregnant, please be responsible enough to have a good relatinship with your child.
Phew!
For pro-gays and sit-on-the-fence peeps: If gay relationship isn't a Taboo, then this one isn't a Taboo. Afterall, they're two consenting adults, and their relationship doesn't affect society, right? #SexualOrientationThings.
ReplyDeleteBack to the matter.
1) Painful revelation for them, but they have to see a psychologist and end the relationship ASAP.
2) If she's pregnant, it's sad and unfortunate. But the deed has been done, and she has to think about her unborn child, though trauma might call for abortion but that would be a terrible call, as the baby is innocent of the mistakes of the adults involved.
3) Who to blame? Let's ask people who think that absurd sexual orientation doesn't affect the society. This is one instance. Blame primarily the man for not repenting from his hit-n-run life. If he had repented, he would've known Sharon as his daughter before any possible copulation.
..only here to read My Memphis comments..*wink*wink*...#dodges acidic tongue of SDKers
Deletei am spirit filled, tongue talking believer and i do not believe God will want anyone jailed cos they are gay.....it is an abomination and if anyone decides to then its their business.....As a nation we have the right to refuse them marrying in the courts, churches and other accepted forms of marriages by the law.....but to jail them cos a man sleeps with a man is totally stupid and against their fundamental rights....even God does not force you to be born again, its a choice but as believers we must make them know where we stand and consequences.....all this sanctimonious bullcrap from people as if homosexuality is the only thing God hates is totally annoying....sin is sin so don't get it twisted.....banning gay marriage in Nigeria a total yes but jailing someone for who they want to sleep with is a big no no......pls no childish and retarded comments about am gay or closet gay bla bla, am proudly a straight female and that's my opinion....
DeleteSorry but how can the govt possibly make a law banning gay marriage in Nigeria without having a means of enforcing it? The possibility of bagging a jail term is the detergent to engaging in such acts.Remember,when u pick one end of a stick,u pick d other end too!Blessings!
DeleteThe guy who abandoned his childhood girlfrd cos she was pregnant for him is to be blamed. This story is very similar to one Nigerian film I watched. 'The Triangle'. So pathetic
ReplyDeleteCurse at its peak! Na wa ohh
ReplyDeleteSo she never showed him her mother's picture for 2 years. Or her mother's maiden name?
ReplyDeleteHaha! that is Karma returning to do her work. How do you father a child and not look back... Lesson for all the girls going out with men old enough to be theirr father... be absolutely certain you know your father.... bad story.. real abomination.
ReplyDeleteAbeg the mother stil have some blames,did she evr tel the girl she had a dad somewhere,no photograph to show nothing,carelessness on the part of the mother,for the man life has a stupid way of punishing us for our past,he just got his,is just the girl that I pity here she nEed to call it off and move ahead it was that bond btw father n child dat brought the attraction,that's y thy r so attracted to each other but they didn't know too bad call off every,and start afresh.
ReplyDeleteI blame the mother for this, she should have shown the girl her biological father, all these wouldn't have happened if she did. if she is already preggy, then, they'll have themselves to blame for having unprotected sex before marriage
ReplyDeleteI blame d guy because he was aware he had a child and he does not even bothered to check on her, a lot of guys are like that, even some of nigerian artistes are guilty of such action, to all guys even if u don't like d mother u should accept ur responsibility as a father, being a father to a child doesn't affect having another relationship anymore,
ReplyDeleteI think they should break up because the relationship isn't right - I'm not for incest, but, she should keep the baby is she's pregnant. No one is to blame in my opinion. They didn't know they were father and daughter. He never led her on instead he told her he had fathered a child some years back. And I'm sure Sharon wouldn't have gone out with her father if she had known from the beginning. That's a difficult one though
ReplyDeleteThis thing can happen to anyone, with the rate of divorce and numerous baby mamas of the rich. People should always go for DNA test when they are not sure of circumstances surrounding their birth.
ReplyDeleteKeep which pregnancy?let her abort d tin jare.how can a daughter have a child fr her father?what explanation wil she give to d child when he/she is grown?hian
ReplyDeleteI really don't have much to say tho! All I'll say is if u impregnate som1 as a man pls take responsibility nd if u aint ready for that,zip it! Had it been d man took responsibility I guess all party will b fine...Men pls nd pls don't abandon ur pregnant gf/spouse! @xclcuivexter!
ReplyDeleteI really don't have much to say tho! All I'll say is if u impregnate som1 as a man pls take responsibility nd if u aint ready for that,zip it! Had it been d man took responsibility I guess all party will b fine...Men pls nd pls don't abandon ur pregnant gf/spouse! @xclcuivexter!
ReplyDeletewell they have to break up no matter the love strong reach and if she's pregnant she has to abort it, then they have to go to church and ask God for forgiveness... the man is def to blame since he was that took off
ReplyDeleteI blame d Sharon's mother sha but d crux of d matter is we shud learn t say no to Pre marital sex...
ReplyDeleteZip up abeg cos na Zip down cause all d wahala.
taboo at its peak
ReplyDeletethe two lovebirds should separate
to me, everyone is to blame
All these tales by moonlight sef...*yawns* this writer is a very imaginative sha...hiss
ReplyDeleteJUST END THE WHOLE THING!!! IF SHE IS ALREADY PREGNANT?….SORRY THEM NO DEY KEEP THAT KIND THING I BEG.
ReplyDelete1.They have to end d relationship
ReplyDelete2.We pray she is not pregnant and if she is she has to get rid of it.
3.Father and Mother are to be blamed coz I see no reason y d mum dint tell her when shez old enuff to knw and not like d man is dead.If d father is Irresponsible I don't fink d mum who carried her for 9months shd act same.
If she is pregnant for Roy, she will be sinning more by terminating an innocent life. The relationship has to end, the mother and child have to talk things through and Roy should disappear from their lives forever!
ReplyDeleteD relationship must stop (dem nor evn nd somebody 2 tell dem dat one) if she pregnant dat child ve 2 b aborted (my opinion) cnt imagine her givin birth 2 her step sista/bro. D man is 2 take d blame cos he didnt evn 4 once ask afta his child. D moda has no reason keepin d photo of a man who abandoned her especially wen shes now hapily married unless she wants 2 hurt her husband. Am sure d gel shud knw d modas husbnd is not her biological fada she jst dnt knw who. N pls datin a 40yr old man @ 22 is not a crime cos i strongly believe most pple find luv in strange places
ReplyDeleteThis is what they call LIFE! Its meant to happen that way, there's nothing anyone can do to stop dis abomination from happening! God Forgive them all
ReplyDeleteGod bless NIGERIA
I believe people should start telling their children the truth no matter how it hurts cos truth always comes out in the end. I grew up in a family of 8 but later realized that I am actually the daughter of the one I refer to as my elder sister and that the one I call mother is my grandmother instead. All my efforts to find out who my father is have been unsuccessful. They told me they don't have any information to give me, not even a name or a hometown. I am happily married now but I still wish to know my biological father or meet my relatives from his side. I am also concerned about my children because, TRUTH ALWAYS COMES OUT IN THE END. I just pray it doesn't affect my innocent children by the time this one reveals itself.
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Was ur mum raped? If not someone shd know abt ur biological father. I couldnt get a straight story frm my mum but my grandma gave me a name. I still dont know the true story till date bcos even my father has his own version of what happened.
DeleteK let's be real here,do we really accept that this is a true story or a weave of imagination c'mon fellas. I knw shit happens bt this is too extreme.Is it dat d guy fathered her when he was 18,how old was the mother then.I dnt want to bliv dat d girl never inquired about her father.bt. AnywAyS dats y d holy book kickS against sex B4 marriage dres always a price to pay
ReplyDeleteK let's be real here,do we really accept that this is a true story or a weave of imagination c'mon fellas. I knw shit happens bt this is too extreme.Is it dat d guy fathered her when he was 18,how old was the mother then.I dnt want to bliv dat d girl never inquired about her father.bt. AnywAyS dats y d holy book kickS against sex B4 marriage dres always a price to pay
ReplyDeleteread again.
DeleteIt is because of this God made laws not to protect himself but us. If Sharon's mum or Sharon herself had not fornicated it wouldn't have resulted to this. Pls let's understand and follow Gods commandments.
ReplyDeleteFor all those asking why she wasnt shown a picture of the man by her mum. Am sure she most likely didnt have a picture of him. In my own case, the only evidence i had of my so called biological father was a complimentary card i found randomly at the age of 15. Tracked him down at 24 years old and got kicked out by him and his children. I couldnt even say anything because he is old and i didnt want to be responsible for any unpleasant health issues. They said they would contact their older siblings who live abroad and gave me a number to call back. When i called they said it was a wrong number. It was so painful for a long time. The whole thing played out like a nollywood movie. I had this uncanny resemblance with the daughter whose name begins with the letter R she even said as soon as she saw me in my nysc uniform she just knew but still... You are yoruba,your surname starts with the letter S and you live on Rabah Close Kaduna. I have forgiven you all and by the love and mercies of God am doing really great.
ReplyDeleteFor all those asking why she wasnt shown a picture of the man by her mum. Am sure she most likely didnt have a picture of him. In my own case, the only evidence i had of my so called biological father was a complimentary card i found randomly at the age of 15. Tracked him down at 24 years old and got kicked out by him and his children. I couldnt even say anything because he is old and i didnt want to be responsible for any unpleasant health issues. They said they would contact their older siblings who live abroad and gave me a number to call back. When i called they said it was a wrong number. It was so painful for a long time. The whole thing played out like a nollywood movie. I had this uncanny resemblance with the daughter whose name begins with the letter R she even said as soon as she saw me in my nysc uniform she just knew but still... You are yoruba,your surname starts with the letter S and you live on Rabah Close Kaduna. I have forgiven you all and by the love and mercies of God am doing really great.
ReplyDeleteMy dear pple like julit will come here and start sayn rubbish when we say pre-marital sex is a sin,if they had obeyed God they wouldn't be in this mess.keep having sex o Julit,na ur body e dey.
ReplyDeleteFor all those asking why she wasnt shown a picture of the man by her mum. Am sure she most likely didnt have a picture of him. In my own case, the only evidence i had of my so called biological father was a complimentary card i found randomly at the age of 15. Tracked him down at 24 years old and got kicked out by him and his children. I couldnt even say anything because he is old and i didnt want to be responsible for any unpleasant health issues. They said they would contact their older siblings who live abroad and gave me a number to call back. When i called they said it was a wrong number. It was so painful for a long time. The whole thing played out like a nollywood movie. I had this uncanny resemblance with the daughter whose name begins with the letter R she even said as soon as she saw me in my nysc uniform she just knew but still... You are yoruba,your surname starts with the letter S and you live on Rabah Close Kaduna. I have forgiven you all and by the love and mercies of God am doing really great.
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