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Dear Stella,
Certain circumstances has pushed me into sending this mail to you and i strongly believe that God almighty will help me through your blog.
I am a 29years old, married, a mother of 1, currently 9months pregnant and due for delivery in the first week of February.
My husband and i have not been finding it easy since we got married in 2010. We have been having serious compatibility issues. He doesn't believe in family or marriage. Got married to me just to shut his family and the society up.
It has been terrible for me. He has never treated me like a wife neither does he have single regards for our marriage. Till date, he calls himself a "Machelor -meaning married bachelor ".
Our first seperation was in 2011 when i first got pregnant with our first child. My asking for ante- natal registration money led to me being beaten by him. This was on 22nd of May, 2011.
We seperated after that and even though we were still in the same locality, he never showed any concern or care towards the pregnancy.
Even when i delivered my baby, neither him nor his family came. After about 2years of seperation, i decided to finalize the end of the marriage and move on with my life. I got a divorce letter from the court ( i will scan and send it to you but for your eyes only) and sent him his own copy.
He started begging, saying how he wanted the marriage to continue. Honestly i didnt want anything to do with him at all but somehow families met and i felt pity for my son and decided to give the marriage another try believing that he will take the marriage more seriously. All these while, i was back to my parents home.
After the reconciliation, we moved back to join him in Abuja. The first one month was ok. I was even happy i was back and made sure i was a very good wife.
But just like a Leopard that doesn't change its spots, my husband started acting his drama again.
Right from the beginning of the marriage, he has always loved keeping malice with me. He loved being free and single to do what he likes. Avoid bringing money for feeding, flirt, club and return home any time he liked (12am to 2pm).
Whenever we have issues no matter how minor or irrelevant the issue is, he capitalizes on it and will walk out of our marriage and wont return home till the next day. The first time he walked out of our marriage was 4days after we did our Traditional marriage. He walked out because i pleaded with him to assist me to fetch water. I begged him to carry the gerican while i carry the buckets. I fetched the water from the well and pleaded for his assistance but he accused me of interrupting the film he was watching, said i wanted to turn him to a houseboy, picked some clothes and left the house for 3days.
Anyway back to the present, things started deteriorating again, i wept and regretted coming back. He was even ready to send me away with our son but i was already pregnant again. The first trimester was hell. I was all alone, he never showed any concern towards me at all. I was a married woman but lonliness was my best friend. He never assisted me with any housework. Never spent time with me at all. ALways preferred the company of his bachelor friends. He would never spend time at home with us. Always running to be with men.
At a point i was totally fed up. I begged for his love, affection and attention but he always said he doesn't know how to love me differently from the way he loves everyother person. But he is always chatting and professing love to girls on whatsapp and and BBM.
Never cares about me, the pregnancy. I am no different from a glorified house girl.
Just recently he said that after i deliver the child am carrying, i should leave his home with "my children", that he wants to bring in another woman. He said even if we don't leave, he wont renew the rent come March.
I HAVE ASKED HIM WHY HE CAME BACK WHEN HE KNEW HE WASN'T READY FOR MARRIAGE, HIS SAID I should have rejected him when he came back that afterall he didnt force me to return.
Stella this where i need a little help. Thankfully my parents has promised to raise money for me to open a shop so i can start my business fully. At least with that, i wont be a liability to anyone.
But i dont have the financial means to pay for house rent here in Abuja. I badly need help in this regard.
I dont want to return to my parents home and become a liability to them. I have a God given talent that has been fetching me little little cash since i stopped work.
I want to remain here in Abuja and struggle it out. I know i will be a success. I just need an accommodation for my kids and myself. I dont even need any money from any one. Just an accommodation in Mararaba/Yanyan/Karu. At least i will be able to renew the rent in any of these areas.
Also i dont know how to go about the issue of child welfare/support from him. Anyone with info on that should please advice me.
Thank you Stella.
*wwow!i am tongue tied..i wish you a safe delivery.
Na wa! Stories like dis jst break me down, wot has marriage turned into.....y r men becoming unbearable? I really feel for n pls if he asks u to liv after delivery never go back to him n dnt allow him hv access to d kids cos he's an heartless fellow,hes a weak man.....and soon enuf he wud meet his waterloo, tk care of urself n dnt panic over anything, look at a bigger pic,i wish I was in Abj wud hv met u in person....for now pls mk sure u deliver safely,take care.
ReplyDeleteThis is so sad. Poster, I can't imagine what you are going through but God is still on the throne. He sees your pain and will make a way where there's none.
DeletePls SDKers in Abuja, God will bless you as you help.
Eiyaaa, that's d same thing that would befall anyone that would marry Benneth Nkwocha. He's d same as ur ex hubby if not worse. Dude slept with his wife 's sis on d wedding night (amongst his other atrocities) right under the "wife's" nose and wasn't remorseful about it- dude sure is messed up. Ladies beware!
DeleteI'm extremely sure other female blog visitors know him ; he really is on the prowl.
I read ur comment and my heart skipped a beat. This guy is lucifa. Ladies pleae beware. He impregnate girls and his mother pays for their abortions. He did this to my friend in law school. Sad thing is he ll keep finding naive and younger girls to deceive.
DeleteIf we all bring our problems out here and ask for financial help, this blog won't "contain" us. Dear Poster, i'm sorry this is happening to you. Everything will be fine by God's grace. I understand how you feel but pls stay with your folks till you're on your feet. Let them help you
DeleteU know him?
DeleteTesting
Delete@kk, I have never commented on stella's blog before though I'm an ardent reader. Ur comment caught my attention. I know Ben Nkwocha, his family and mine were family friends till the death of his father, R.O Nkwocha. Though he was about 16yrs older than me we dated briefly and he proposed, then I was just about turning 19 (in 2004) and a student in a UK uni. He would travel to see me etc. I could die for that guy at the time but I saw character traits in him that I couldn't just comprehend. I told my mum that he had proposed and she told me not to even think about it. She said both families might be close but everyone knows benneth's character. My dear, I had to start withdrawing o. And as I started to withdraw from him my eyes began to open and I started seeing his true colours in the midst of the dizzy luv that I had for him. Didn't even know he had married but what u just said isn't surprising. That ben for u.
DeleteAnonymous, Ewoooo, he never travelled 2 c u o, he travelled for d sake of travelling o and made it seem like he travelled to see u. That's what he did to one girl that lives in d UK
DeleteYour mother advised u well
Please, there's a Benneth Nkwocha who has been trying to get me in bed for a while now. He's a Prince from Anambra State. Are you all referring to him?
DeleteHe's not a prince o! Run!!
DeleteHe's d one! Run!
DeleteHe's d one, run!
DeleteTnk God 4 d kind of husband he gives me he can never beat me he kiss me in d morning nd he luv me to d moon at back i am bless among women tnk u
ReplyDeletemama bomboy
Anon fish brain, how has this solved her problem? Are you making mockery of her situation or wat? @ Poster, God will see you through in Jesus name.
DeleteAnon fish brain, how has this solved her problem? Are you making mockery of her situation or wat? @ Poster, God will see you through in Jesus name.
DeleteAr u mad?so u want her 2 gt jealous nf feel more pains,stupid idiot,u ask u monkey,pple lyk una nai de suffer 4 marriage but nor fit talk
DeleteSo ow is dis a solution? Pls dnt blow ur trumpet or else God wuld humble U. Help if u can
DeleteNot funny and u sound so retarded
DeleteThis is not the time to boast about ur husband! The poster doesn't need this type of pathetic shit right now! Tell ur husband to enrol u in night school for English lessons! That's what u need now!
DeleteI mean ! Is this the time for this ?
DeleteOoooh! Jehovah please do not allow me n my siblings and also blog visitors who aren't married yet, marry a wrong partner IJNA.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, God will send you a helper for I pray.
Amen!
DeleteOmg!!! Did I just cry now?? Omg!!!!!!! *smh* why r men so wicked. This is exactly the point I ve always tried 2 make. Happiness is all that matters in marriage. I rather be a 2nd or 3rd wife to a man as old as my ancestors that love, respect,adore and worship me than to this lucifer of a man as his 1st wife.
DeleteDear Poster,plz I beg u in the name of God be STRONG. A least 4 ur child and the unborn baby. Am crying as am writing this. I ve been there before. I use 2 ve a man like ur husband. I cried everyday of my life for 1good year I was with him. Yet he claimed he loved me. Oh Lord! I was so scared of leaving him and being alone. I hate been alone. ...i spent majority of that year in a hospital cos of my low blood pressure...(Story 4 another day) 1day I walked away 4m him. 4m the pain, from the constant and emotional torture that tormented me day and night. I was STRONG. I was STRONG 4 myself, my future and my parents. I cried day in day out! Oh I cried..but I was STRONG. I took a vacation for 3weeks in UK along the line, one thing led 2 anothere Than I met my boo of life. He showed me what it means 2 be loved again. Whenever he tells me he "Loves me"I believe him. I see it in his eye. I go 2 bed everyday without the thought of losing him. Yes he's a bit older than my ex and people r talking but am happy. Am happy with him. Ofcos All of this couldn't ve been possible if I wasn't STRONG.
Plz sweet, try and just take all of this that u r going thru' now as if God is turning off all the lights 2 throw u a surprise party. This phase will pass. Sooner than u expect. All of these will never matter to u in 5-6years times. U will remember 2day and burst out laughing hard. Just like am doing now. And plz plz plz plzzzz never let go of God's hands. Good luck!
Sorry for your pains Madam. I think you should go to your parents if they are willing to take you back. You will find the necessary emotional support you require at this stage from them. You can then move to your own place when you and your kids are well balanced and adjusted.
ReplyDeleteHow I wish Stella can get the husband's side.
I agree with this poster and I have an idea of what you're going thru. I'm currently pregnant after choosing to keep my bundle of joy from my now ex fiance despite him dissapearing for months at 1st and with his family abdicating from responsibility. Its tough but I decided to swallow my pride, pray for God to heal my broken/bitter heart, move in with my family and get the emotional support I need while saving financially and coming up with a new life plan. So far, God has been so faithful to me, beyond what I can tell you in this little comment section. So my dear, its time to start charting a new course for your life & praying for a peace that surpasses all understanding in your life. You can't change your husband but you can start planning for a happier tomorrow for you and your kids. Just you wait and see, God will turn your tears/ashes into beauty
DeleteHmmmmm!
DeleteDear poster,my story is not far from urs,mine is even worse,him n his people wanted to take my 1st son away but I thank God,I was able to RUN with nothing but my son and then pregnancy,I thank God for my family,they were there to help in everyway,I almost lost it(this is why you need ur family NOW, go back to them till u r all wise stable,then u can get ur own place n move out). As for me n my boys,I thank God,its been a wonderful 2014 and beyond.
Am sure u r having another boy,be happy,only u can make that happen n that is all u need right now,it is well,God dey.
Hmmmmm!
DeleteDear poster,my story is not far from urs,mine is even worse,him n his people wanted to take my 1st son away but I thank God,I was able to RUN with nothing but my son and then pregnancy,I thank God for my family,they were there to help in everyway,I almost lost it(this is why you need ur family NOW, go back to them till u r all wise stable,then u can get ur own place n move out). As for me n my boys,I thank God,its been a wonderful 2014 and beyond.
Am sure u r having another boy,be happy,only u can make that happen n that is all u need right now,it is well,God dey.
He might be gay!
ReplyDeleteHmmm! Dis is serious o. I wld advice u stay wit ur parents for a while @ least ur mum can help wit d newborn while u think of ur next step. Move out first b4 u die of HBP.....U knw how it is wit pregnancy. God b wit u.
Deletejust shut your stupid mouth already.......everything is gay.......dont gay people have sense? or if you are gay then you stop being responsible....next time if u have nothing reasonable to contribute dont type
DeleteAm sorry for you but is it that women don't see this signs before they go into marriage. I pray u find d help u seek, gudluck.
ReplyDeleteLet me share this with u.
DeleteMy friend of many years had been experiencing serious tu7650631erbulence in her marriage for 5years. We are so close that she tells me everything. Her marriage started having issues barely 6months after they got married. It was very very bad. So bad that she became the shadow of her once vibrant and beautiful self.
All I could do was pray with her and console her anytime her husband started his trouble. I for one wil never advice anyone to leave their husband or even bf...so I just did whatever I could to make her happy.
She came up me recently as usual...and she asked what I think she should say in her speech to hubby...as we were planning their 5th year wedding anniversary. It was going to be a big event and she was at loss of what she would say. After all, both of us knew that her marriage to him so far was nothing to write home about. There was nothing to be thankful for except for life. Matter of fact, the anniversary party wasn't her idea but his..so we wondered what the show off was going to be about. Perhaps to create a fallacy of things.
Anyway while we deliberated on how to make d event a colorful one, we were stuck at what to make of her speech. As we knew we wouldn't be able to tell the truth, I suggested to her that we would have to tow the cliché line like every couple we see..the.."u have been the best hubby, my soul mate, I love u" nonsense that everyone recites in public even when their marriage has been a nightmare. . Only that I told her the twist to hers would be that she should write everything she wishes for him to be to her. More like a wish list ...instead of what he had truly been to her. That was our little secret. With that we continued to plan the big day.
I ensured that my friend looked her very best on that day. The event would be a colorful one. The D day came, few hours into the party and it was time for her hubby to make his speech.
He was full of eternal accolades of my friend..his wife. He spoke beautifully well and highly of her, everything he said were in fact the truth about her person. My eyes were fixated on my dear friend, and she was teary eyed all through, we all applauded him with a standing ovation for the mind blowing speech. Now it was my friend's turn to speak.
At this point I started to panic because I hoped that my friend will not betray her emotions. We wrote her speech down because I didn't want her to flunk the speech. She looked so radiant and happy. Soon as she started to speak, as was expected she rendered an astounding citation of her hubby. She stared at him in the eyes, and while to others she was appreciative of her hubby..but to her, hubby and myself, we knew she read her wish list.
Halfway through her speech her hubby took to his feet and made straight for her. He hugged and kissed her, taking the mic away from her hand. He looked at her and said..."Joy...(not her real name)...you have just lied and you know it. I have been nothing you have said so far. You know it and I know it too. I planned this party because I wanted to use this opportunity to apologise to u before our family and friends. As I imagine that most who are here today were there present 5years ago when we got married. I wanted this day to come so that I can ask God to give u the serenity to forgive me. I wanted this day to mark our renewal of vows before God and our friends. Joy I am deeply sorry for all I have caused you. Joy, u are indeed my wife and life. Please forgive me."
My friend had broken down wailing in tears, I was soaked in tears too..her husband tried to take his back, but soon enough he bursted out crying too. In fact everyone was crying. This was the end of that party because we couldn't contain ourselves. But I was happy it ended so...my friend really suffered.
She was lucky, not everyone will be this lucky. Not everyman will drop his ego and admit his wrong doings. Let's just say that God was kind to my dear friend. He made the latter worth her earlier agonies in her marriage....
Continued.....
DeleteI am not advocating that everyone should endure like my friend did. But like I said earlier, I am not in the business of telling anyone that they should leave their spouse. However, I believe that our destiny is in our hands. There are some things that God will not do for u that you have to do yourself. Nonetheless, make sure that u involve God in all ur affairs.
While u do all u can as a human being, allow God to do His in the celestial. Do not compromise ur happiness for anything in the world. Do what u have to do as at when due. It is never by force to be with anyone.
Also, not every man has the spirit of being reflective and sober to make amends when they've hurt u. My friend was just lucky to have been remembered by God..shesuffered grossly in silence without anyone knowing it except me, and of cos, God and her hubby. But God decided to give her victory in the presence of those who were oblivious to her long sufferings. That for me sufficed it. And Today she is happy.
Dear poster, only u know where your shoe pinches.. you are on track though, and u have my empathy. I pray that God will restore and remember you too, like he did my friend. Godspeed.
Its quit touching..... You re right!
DeleteMrs Zulu. May God continue 2 bless u. May all ur prayers cum thru'. Seriously I can't place my hands on y am being so emotional abt this post.omg! Plz take it easy dear poster. Trust me God is turning off all lights 2 throw u a suprise party. Itz well okay? I stay in Abuja but am out of the country now. Will be there next week by His Grace. I will try my best 2 help. Plz I will send my number now via ur mail. Be Strong.
DeleteDamn Mrs zulu am crying here. I have read dis 3x and am still numb. Hmmmm amazing wat so many women endure in their marriages. I met one pretty lawyer recently, when I heard her tales about her marital woes I shivered. May God restore near broken homes.
DeleteSome people are better off separated or divorced than what they endure for the sake of what the damn society will say. I think that is the number one issue that nigerian women have. I have non nigerian friends who are married, and they are ahead of us becos they lay it bare and do not condone excessive secrecy or sentiments in their marriages. As marriage to them is an open book.
In my 20years or more of living and schooling outside Nigeria, I have never seen nor heard of the sorts of gross neglect and mental abuse that nigerian women endure, all for the sake of staying married.
Except we change our mental orientation as regards marriage, we will not be emancipated from the self inflicted agony or slavery that we indulge ourselves in the institution called marriage. We have a long way to go. This story,I must say is so touching.
Mrs zulu ur friend is a very brave woman. And I think she's lucky to have u as a friend too. Gosh
May God be your strength.
ReplyDeleteAs a married woman with kids i know how hard it is to accept the men when they come crawling back, so I won't blame you. But my first thought about the man is that he might be gay that's why he Is so callous(might not be true). Or that he just doesn't love you and does not want to be responsible for his family. Once beaten they say, when he comes back again do not accept him. My 2cents.
ReplyDeleteMadam, dd u marry ur husband over the internet?
ReplyDeleteA man wlked out on ur trady marriage, yet u went ahead n moved in wit him.
Dis is a man wu wasn't dia for wen u had ur 1st baby, wu beat u up ova ante natal fees, u still went ahed and had anoda baby.
Plz acess ursef,
Madam u no try at all ooo.
I pray n hope to God u avnt payd the mony for d shop in ABJ.
So if u get d mony for a rent in ABJ wu wld pay for the next rent(cos I no its quite xpensive)
And wu wld takia of ur babies!
Abi na d shop proceedings?
My advice is...
Go back home to ur parents
Give ursef a target, say 2yrs to stand back on ur feet.
U wld get free accomodation, u wld even get help to watch ova ur babies as u hustle.
MADAM U DON ENTER AM!
Its too bad u are a young lady.
I hate epistles, cos I don't read dem mysef, lemme stop ere.
I pray God guides u, kpele!
Pinkshell, u r a very insensitive person. You are obviously not married. Neither do you have any responsibilities. If u did u won't open that gutter u call a mouth to type the filth u just did. If u have nothing postive to say to her. Please keep quiet. Everyone makes mistakes. You are definately in no position to judge
Delete@ Anon 8;39, I don't no if u are d poster, and am not trying to spoil market for u ooo!
DeleteWhoeva u are, u are a very silly individual!
And am not judging d lady in question here, am oly asking her to acess hersef.
I no I mite sound harsh atimes, but its the truth.
My life aint perfect eida.
@ Poster, abeg try n learn d habit of saving. Person no dey use 10 fingers chop ooo!
Pinkshell is right. We see the signs but we hang on to nothing. There is no free meal anywhere, even in freetown. Move into your parents house, you did not comit any crime. Go and get a job asap. That is what you need now. The rest will follow. A job is what you need now.
DeleteWow! Am more tongue tied than you Stella. But my question is why she wants to remain in Abuja?
ReplyDeleteST, Please verify this story and let us know, let it not be like dat stupid woman that used u to gain audience to her rubbish blog.
ReplyDeleteSis, I wish you a safe delivery. This man is not going to pay child support anything, and you will end up spending money on lawyer fees for a man that will not budge. Just forget collecting money from him. God bless your folks for offering you money to start a business. Gather all the support you can and forget that this man exists. Your kids will not grow up happier with a father that does not want them. It is better for their father not to be in the picture than for him to openly reject them the way he is doing. Pull yourself up by your bootstraps, get your life together and take care of yourself and those kids. Stop getting pregnant for this man as well, it will not change him. Only God can and that will be when the man opens his heart to change. Until then, face your front and mind your kids future. I hope people here will come up with housing options in Abuja.
ReplyDeleteEiyaaa, that's d same thing that would befall anyone that would marry Benneth Nkwocha. He's d same as ur ex hubby if not worse. Dude slept with his wife 's sis on d wedding night (amongst his other atrocities) right under the "wife's" nose and wasn't remorseful about it- dude sure is messed up. Ladies beware!
ReplyDeleteI'm extremely sure other female blog visitors know him ; he really is on the prowl.
Abeg bring gist !!!!!!!
DeleteU know him? Well, I wonder what goes on in his messed up head. Word about town is that his father may have used him for juju before he died- his father was a very rich contractor but all d money disappeared after his death.
DeleteThe guy is a working corpse but he doesn't know. Sleeps with girls everyday. - new day, new girl. He thinks d world of himself but I just wonder what he sees when he looks in the mirror.
His "wife" was on her period on d night of her traditional marriage and he told her to leave d room and went and slept with d "wife's" sis in d same house without any atom of guilt.
He tells a girl he wants to settle down and oh well, d girl would fall for him and after d sex, he would never open d gate, when d gal comes knocking.
Eiyaaaaa, I pity one gal he deceived for years in d UK. The gal is still single at 33 and is forever hurt cos she posts words connoting her Tears By Moonlight.
He's 45 but tells gals he's 35. He uses money he doesn't have to pay for first class tickets to the UK just to deceive poor, innocent souls. After the travel, he comes back broke and hungry to subsist on meagre handouts from one mumu like that.
Beware!! He's on the prowl. He really really hates women, but still fucks them.
oh thats serious.I should mention my ex too.Run away from Mark Duru,his ibo name is Chukwuemeka.He is married and lies all over abuja that he is single and ofcourse he doesnt wear wedding band.He got me pregnant twice,making me abort and all.I just found out he is married through a friend that met him in my house.Run run run people.
DeleteThis shitheads are plenty,i hear the wife is from the popular Iluobay filling station family in Abuja.sigh
Any one knows Olusegun Yusuf?
DeleteHmmmmm I'm tongue-tied like stella. I pray that God sees Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ thru dis trying time.
ReplyDeleteThe stories I hear jezt gives me the creeps abt marriage! While dating they wil be soo sweet after marriage dey will become monsters! GOD!
ReplyDeleteMy dear ii jst weak oo I fear marriage pass maself now
DeleteNobody said marriage Ȋ̝̊̅§ a fairy tale!...by the way, always pray for your own bone of bone α̲̅πϑ flesh of flesh! From the above, this people were never I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ L♥√ with each other! The marriage was more like a contract....if you marry me cos i want †Φ satisfy ♏v̶̲̥̅ family, i'll take care of your need....anyways, am pregnant α̲̅πϑ ai never wish †Φ be pregnant for a man who doesn't care about me cos its not easy! Madam poster, †Φ survive I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ Abuja without finance Ȋ̝̊̅§ very hard....yet you Ǎ̜̣̍я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ pregnant with a toddler †Φ take care of! Pls go back home †Φ your parents. You need their emotional support α̲̅πϑ care. Also, they'll help with your kids. Forget anoutvthis man cos he never loved you. Pls go back home α̲̅πϑ start all over! May God see you through. Pls pray like never before α̲̅πϑ never lose faith. He will Ans you I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ a miraculous way!
DeleteThank you for posting this. I am currents in the hospital for my weekly ante natal. Will reply comments as much as i can.
ReplyDeleteMy dear really feel for u. Dint u court him to note all dez b4 u got in. Pray help comes soon. That man is evil tout children bond der parents both his own is diff.
ReplyDeleteI wish u safe delivery...Don't think too much, God will see you through....
ReplyDeleteoh my Goodness wen will Africa men learn how to respect women? Am not asking dem to love by force but respect, d humiliation we women get from dem is hell tumuch! Thank God am in a country were women RULE dia world.
ReplyDeleteDear sister,
ReplyDeleteTry God!!! Repent of your sins and Cry to your God and read him out Ps 126. Then go out and win souls for Christ. After winning even just 3 souls, look for the anointing water and sticker from T.B Joshua and secretly spray it on his clothes, food and water and decree with your tongue all that you want. God will restor your marriage, give you the strength to forgive and change your husband's heart.
Destroy the spirit that seeks to destroy your husband...please don't fight his flesh and blood.
Oooo chineke! There surely is a difference between laws, routines, methods, religion and being a true follower of Christ.
Delete@Lil Mis Sunshine, there's no evil spirit at work here. Most people are like that; they prefer their single status to *caged* married status. It doesn't mean they are evil or lack the will to take responsibilities.
DeleteDear Poster, your husband had made it clear since morning that he dreads marriage. Societal pressure pushed him into it. That's unfortunate. Please return to your parents where there's abundance of blissful emotions. You can then sort things out at a time. We may not know the full story but from the little you've told us, the man loves being single. Though I detest the aspect of him being violent towards you, that single status suits him. Take your kids and leave ASAP. Be Blessed.
Please, whatever you do don't go to TB Joshua. Go to God or any trusted man of God or Pastor.
DeleteYou all see why women in the Church are stuck in these horrible situations and on the cusp of death and depression. She should do all the things mentioned (winning souls, giving to the poor) as an act of service and as what we should do. She cannot change his mind, and Ms. Sunshine...everything is not evil spirit. Sometimes, we walk into situations that are not God's will. Please let us be accepting of the truth, we stay and fast and pray and all God does in His mercy is to show you a solution, yet you hang around for the man to change. You can not change a man...ever. Let Nollywood not be deceiving all of you. Besides our Father is not some oracle that you do all sorts to get Him to give you an answer. Please poster, use your brain and sift through some of these comments. God in His infinite mercy has given you an out, go and raise those kids and be careful and prayerful next time. Ms. Sunshine, please when you do marry, marry someone that is God's will not who any man of God points to and says is yours. Cause no amount of secret "spraying" can change a man when it is not God's will. Let us learn to see God's will for what it is abeg. His things no dey get confusion and chaos, there is always peace (even in the storm).
DeleteKai @ Lill Mis Sunshin. "Love your neighbour as you've loved yourself." c'mon, can you even do half of what you just ask her to do??? She should win souls, untop her 9mths pregnancy? And "Give to the poor" with which money? Someone who is badly in need of help? Don't be a Hypocrites pls.
Deletetb joshua is demonic.....dont go there....no true man of god will be selling water...please dont jump from fyring pan to fire.....nothing wrong with prayers, repentance and winning souls its the duty of every believer but tb joshua......mbanana.......dont go there
DeleteD marriage was built on a wrong foundation from inception. She prolly saw it coming but chose to wave it aside thinking d man wud change. Fast forwod later now she 's alone n dejected wt two kids t cater for. Dats y its always wise to seek God's consent befor giving any man our heart f a lifetime. Anyways I pray God gives her d grace to pick up d remains of battered hersef n move on cos d man aint worth her. No b say if dem help her finish, tmoro d man go com beg heaven n she go com forgive n caRry anoda belle again(cos we women can't b dumb most times; we reason wt our heart insted of our head).
ReplyDeleteHmmmm.The things women go thru...and if I talk,one jay Moore will come to say I was disappointed by men.Do u think i'll let myself get disappointed?I can't be so foolish to expect anything from any1,even my Husband inclusive.You get disappointed wen u expect pple to do things for u.And with this attitude of mine,my hubby takes it as a privilege to make me happy.
ReplyDeletePoster pls incase u get the hlp u desire,dnt ever go bck!
After reading this, all i can say is thank God i never went back to my ex hubby. This sounds like the same man. God help this woman.
ReplyDeleteU should file for divorce n put in d child support clause so d court can make him pay child support. As for accomodation,even if u got d money to rent a place I'd rather u stay wif ur parents cos ur gonna be needing a whole lot of moral support from people who actually care about u now,u need to be wif people who understand u so u won't do sth crazy if u stay alone wif d kids. Pls forget abt getting ur own place.
ReplyDelete'Some' men dnt understand wat it means 4 a woman 2 change her name, leave her family, friends n everyother stuff n stick wif dem..C'mon! Dosent d VOW infront of d altar of d Almighty mean nyfin 2 dem?..It baffles me o....Plz Madam, d God is ur strenght! He'ld surely make a way 4 u wia diaz none..Jst keep a clean slate n jst c God fight ur battle! Havnt u heard abt d stone whc was rejected by d builders dat turnd 2 d chief corner stone? Jst hold on...
ReplyDelete*African Barbie..
U should file for divorce n put in d child support clause so d court can make him pay child support. As for accomodation,even if u got d money to rent a place I'd rather u stay wif ur parents cos ur gonna be needing a whole lot of moral support from people who actually care about u now,u need to be wif people who understand u so u won't do sth crazy if u stay alone wif d kids. Pls forget abt getting ur own place.
ReplyDeleteChidinma, I no ebe a?
DeleteHmm, i thank God for my marriage!
ReplyDeleteAt times some stories de tire person. First of all, you married an overgrown and ill-mannered boy not man. Secondly, with your situation going from bad to worse, you still allowed yourself to get pregnant for the second child with the whole liability falling on you. Leave that man, and leave him for good. At times make we de use our tongue de count our teeth. Oya Abuja estate residents, over to una to help in in securing an affordable accommodation.
ReplyDeleteWhat manner of a husband. Sad.
ReplyDeleteYou can get respite from a child welfare court regarding your children's welfare. Discuss with your lawyer.
As per getting an accommodation, how do we reach you? I respect the fact that you are looking at areas where you can possibly pay unassisted when your business picks up , shows you are not comfortable being a liability.
Everything will be alright.
God bless you
centygirl2014@yahoo.com
DeleteOdde, see whr I deuy tire for women in general. U saw it at d early stage, got beaten at early conception cos u pregnant.. Tru d whole hustle n tustle u foolishly got pregnant d 2nd time n seeking foolish advise instead of u to ve been building urself for ds stage since u refused to leave earlier.
ReplyDeleteOMG! This is terrible.
ReplyDeleteThe marriage stories/experiences I read here are scary.
Omo I go marry so? Fear don de catch me o
@ poster: so so sorry hun. You dont deserve this. *hugs*Please be careful where you ask to be accommodated. Saints and Devils alike read blogs. Open up to family and friends about accommodation first, before a devil volunteers to house you.
ReplyDeleteI feel so bad for you. Raising cash for accommodation is a lot safer for you.
Stella, I know people expect you to be ; dear aunt Abby, govt crusader, activist etc, pardon me but if you investigate this and its true I'm willing to contribute something.
Am dying in need of sch fees like mofeku. No body wanna help being on dis fod over7months now and all too no avail. Am so shy to write stella abt it. Evendso called big fnds I have ran away and those who stayed gave unreasonable exuses.
DeleteNice comment
DeleteDarling, there is noting too big for God to do.I suggest u go down on ur jnees in prayer, God will definatly change your husband IJN. Amen.
ReplyDeleteThis is serious! he obviously doesnt love u & u cant force love, are u sure u didnt force urself on him? cos i want to believe u saw all this traits b4 u still went ahead with d relationship. i'll suggest u move back to ur parents house because u need alot of care at dis stage, after delivery get urself employed & empowered so dat u dont av to depend on pple for survival. Try to rebuild ur life & Continue praying God will offer u dbest
ReplyDeleteSister my advice for you is..Pray your way out....everything can be achieved and have been achieved through prayers....advice from earthly beings will never work half way as prayers will do for u to avoid people leading you the wrong way..just commit everything in prayers, make sacrifices, visit the motherless babies home, pay your tithes and less complains..after that, be chill and know that God is God and he surely liveth..it may take a while dePends, but not forever. Everyone has his/her own cross to carry....no testimony without temptation. Its well dearie. Yes! @i_ChoPtas_Not
ReplyDeleteStill...@i_ChoPtas_Not
DeleteSooo soooo true.U nid to settle dis issue on Ur kneels.Im a living testimony.God stil answers prayers.
DeleteSooo soooo true.U nid to settle dis issue on Ur kneels.Im a living testimony.God stil answers prayers.
Deletesome men sha! i feel for u o. really, marriage can be so depressing at times. having to stay wit someone who points out only ur faults and notin gud. may God see u thru.
ReplyDeleteContact Project Alert. They will surely assist but if you like doing your things privately, SDKers will reach out to you in our own little way. Remain happy
ReplyDeleteHello Stella, I would like to assist this lady even if it is to pay for house rent for a year for her in any of those areas, but my question is how does she take care of her children once she gives birth ?It's the struggle most women go through. My advice is that you go back to your parents at least for a while. They can help you take care of your kids while you build on your business there ,perhaps later when they are a little more grown you can come to back to abuja because for a single mother and a baby on the way with no support it is not the best decision in my opinion. However if Stella can confirm that your genuine I can send you some financial assistance.
ReplyDeleteThank you so. I hope you get to read this.
DeleteI have written to Stella and you can contact her directly or me and ask me for any kind of proof so you will know i am really genuine.
Please reach me via centygirl2014@yahoo.com.
Poster pls take several seats abeg. U can't have a baby in Feb n start any business with a toddler sef. I av a 2 bedroom in yanya n was just going to mail Stella. But going thru d comments n those u r replying looks fishy. If u r real pls send in 2 guarantors from ur church. They must be church workers and work in a govt organisation or Bank or multinational. Waiting for ur comment. Thanks Stella
DeleteHave u sent in d profiles of your guarantors? I am waiting.
DeleteLol at i should take several seats. My email is centygirl2014@yahoo.com. Lets start from there please an you will get whatever evidence you need even if you want to see me in person.
DeleteStella can verify very well if i am real or not.
Ok
Deletesola good you are helping but you are so terribly rude.....
DeleteNo matter hw madly inlove U̶̲̥̅̊ are, RUN away 4rm any STRIKER. it's beta 2 run away, dan 2 b deformed bcos of love. Relationship shud b ENJOYED not ENDURED. Only cowards and insecure men abuse women!
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm is all I can say 4 now.maybe I'll come back later to say somtin else.Abim
ReplyDeleteChoi speechless.
ReplyDeleteYou better pack to your parents house. Maybe your husband was in love with someone else and "seers" told him that 'God said'.
ReplyDeleteLadies be sure to ask about his ex and what went went wrong between them before signing the dotted lines. Some guys already have given their hearts to other ladies. And most times, its hard to let go, no matter how hard they try
I don't have any means to help you. But I will keep praying for you and your children. God will send help to you.
ReplyDeletehmmn. so sorry for wat u r experiencing. I just don't get how a man cud abandon a Preggy wife. its so emotionally destabilising. I pray God sends u help soonest. I can only pray for u even specially wen I visit d blessed sacrament. be strong don't think abt d lousy beast, it gonna be OK. I don't reside in ABJ wud hv loved to help.
ReplyDeleteTongue tied too.
ReplyDeleteOh God, turn our mistakes to miracles. Amen.
God will help you out. I hope you have talked to HIM.
Oh I had droplets of tears on readin ur ordeal,kai women go tru alot,,sorry to say bt dat man is heinous,honestly I wish I have to help you,I hate seeing women being maltreatd by men,God 'd raise helpers for you nd u'd have a safe delivery amen,nd I must say I admire ur courage u're indeed an industrous woman
ReplyDeleteWow! Am also tongue tie like Stellastica. Did u date or even court dis ur husband? Or was it an 'ARRANGIE' marriage? My dear leave ASAP and may God provide the needed help and also have a safest delivery...
ReplyDeleteTry all your possible best for him to love you. You have already lay yoye bed, learn to make it suit you
ReplyDeletena wa sad tale, what kind of man is that sef
ReplyDeletemy eyes full of tears ,omo life is sure not a bed of roses
ReplyDeleteSpeechless a lot of. Women suffer hell in d name of marriage some are just too unlucky,any man DAT call himself a beast shud never cross ma part.my dear sister d lord is ur strength he will c u tru all ur difficult moment. Ur helpers will locate u ijn.
ReplyDelete*hugs* Poster, u definitely need moral support now, that's y I'd suggest u go back to ur parents. Thank God ur not lazy or laid back, u can get a shop in lagos n save the house rent to equip ur shop n take care of ur kids. I understand how hard it must be for you but Pls u need to manage ursef till ur capable of somethings. Lastly, be very prayerful, it really helps. God be with u n the children.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about this. Some men re just heartless. I pray u find help from God.
ReplyDeleteSomeone who has been looking for a child should please house this woman. You don't know how God will bless you.
ReplyDeleteOmg,see goose pimples coming out of my body while reading this,i actually know someone who is undergoing something similar except that she is still in her hubby's house and she has more kids,its so sad and wicked that some men wud treat their wives this way,o lord may I not make a mistake in picking the right person.
ReplyDeleteYour hubby probably has commitment issues,he wants to be free forever,but life isn't like dat,such pple end up miserable in their old age when all the glits,glamour is over!
ReplyDeleteFor u pls go to ur parents first,give it time,let the two families try talking to fix d problem,afterward if it doesn't work,then u file for divorce finally and move on!
It's better from ur parents house dou cos ur family will assist with alot,pls don't go out there alone without any money cos u will become vulnerable,other men will take advantage of ur predicament and use u one after the other.#dats what most men love,vunerability!#
Most of all pls pray!God can change things.my wish for u is for ur marriage to work.best of luck hun.#tears in my eyes#
Please poster go back to your parents house for now till after you give birth and your baby is bigger. You need people around you for now to support you emotionally and your parents will do that. Also file for divorce asap. I will try and help you but i am not in naija. Please go back to your parents for now or for a few months because pregnancy and child birth no be beans o
ReplyDeleteSorry 4 d situation you are in...
ReplyDeleteMy advice
Run away to ur parents house, coz dis is not a time to be alone with ur kid especially since u'll soon put to bed so u'll def need ur mum around.
But plz don't leave his house empty...steal all the valuables you can and sell dem to support urself. Since he is not willing to take care of his kids.
My2kobo
No woman deserves to be treated like piece of sh**
ReplyDeleteOne thing is similar with all these save our soul marital stories,
The women involved are jobless and they lack steady income.
If you know where you are coming from and what you are about to enter into, you will brush aside any man's sweet talks and insist u must have ur own earnings before u marry no matter how small.
This commands a lot of respect on its own.
Most of these men capitalise on the fact that their wives don't have money thereby frustrating the hell outa them it's easy for our so called 'celebs' to walk out of their marriage cos they have steady income and their jobs to fall back on.
Not supporting peeps to walk outa their marriages neither do I support that they die there.
If you can make it work, pls do. If not, u know what's best for you
Pls poster am sorry to discourage you, if you don't have a steady job or business/income, abuja Is the wrongest place for you to stay cos house rent is neck breaking
Most civil servants here are even working transfer outa abj cos its not worth it talk more of smbdy who doesn't have any means of livelihood
Pls go and establish somewherelse so u dnt end up using all ur profit for house rent.
But if u insist it's abj, I wish u the very best
Thank you all for your various contributions, advice and prayers.
ReplyDelete* So many of you suggested that the best option for me is to go home. You guys are actually right but i dont want to go back home to my parents. My younger sister is staying with me (she is running a program here) and she is of immense help to me with regards to taking care my first son (My parents are responsible for her education).
I have to at least make an effort to make a life for myself and work something out before resorting to running back to my parents. I am hard working and still very strong. I know it wont be easy for me but i am willing to make attempt to struggle first.
Besides there will be nothing for me to do at home other than sit down and breast feed. The locality i am from has practically nothing to offer with regards to jobs or me making anything from my business.
I decided to opt for accommodation in the area mentioned because its not too expensive compared to housing inside Abuja town.
Whoever feels like helping shouldn't be discouraged please. Thank you.
My email is centygirl2014@yahoo.com.
Dear poster, I understand perfectly your not wanting to go back home. I have been in such a situation and all I wanted was to be on my own and make it. I can see determination to succeed and move on written all over you. God will help you out. If God wants u to stay in Abuja, He will provide a means for you, but if He knows going back home no matter what is the best for you, when u see the signs pls don't push it.
DeletePls remember you are carrying a precious one who is about to come into this world. Be careful. God protect and guide you. When "this" is all over, remember to share your good news with us cos I know "this" will end well.
My dear,if u know what Postnatal depression is,u will not think it twice to run to ur parents,we all know u r strong but I can't be strong @all time,u will break down @ a point,u really need ur parents NOW,we r talking about U n ur unborn baby,ur sis can take care of herself,GO HOME TO UR PARENT,if its d shame or wat peeps would say,forget it.
DeleteAfter u r healed,then u can relocate back to abj.
From a survival of worse case.
You've said it all. @anon 10:37pm.
Delete@Poster, what kind of program is your sister doing? If she can manage with me in Asokoro, then tell her to email me on Binacyril@gmail.com. I will still stick on my advise for you to return to your parents house as have earlier said. Request money from them and start a little trade in front of their house or in any secondary sch. Then If you still resort in returning back to abuja, fine.
DeleteLadies, never let love blind you into staying in an abusive relationship. Many women have died in the hands of abusive men and nothing came out of it. If u choose to die cos of a man, other women will still be wit the man after u r gone. D wreath on ur grave will not be dry b4 an abusive husband moves on. My two cents, he beats u once, please dust ur shoes and run as fast as ur legs can take u. Dnt let d numerous excuses a man will give u blind u to d fact that he is a demon. Dear poster, i hope this second walk u are takin frm ds marriage will be d last frm d marriage. Thank God u hav a business plan ahead, so ur children wont starve. askin for accommodation frm strangers isnt so advisable. Pls go back to ur family and settle for a while. U need d comfort that only a family can provide at ths time. God help women to know how to walk away from abusive marriages! Pls visit kyrahsspace.blogspot.com for enlightening topics and discussions.
ReplyDeleteLike! Like! Like! Well said.
DeleteHmmm.....well my hubby is almost like dis,still wif him thou bt I make sure is just dat one child btw us! I no fit overload myself abeg.ui should'nt have gotten pregg again!
ReplyDeleteAnd what plans do u have for urself???
DeleteHmmm.....well my hubby is almost like dis,still wif him thou bt I make sure is just dat one child btw us! I no fit overload myself abeg.ui should'nt have gotten pregg again!
ReplyDeleteMy sis God ll deffinately see u through
ReplyDeleteSee me now I told my husband I am not feeling fine he left me with the kids to go and drink beer with those his friends that after drinking they ll tax him for cash that am entitiled to steal. Very lazy man
May God bless him
@Poster, you are due to have a baby in a couple of weeks, this isn't the time to look for a new apartment. Assume you don't have anyone to help you and return to your parents/other family. Its even dangerous to be seeking accommodation from complete strangers at this time.
ReplyDeletePoster go to National Human Rights Commission, 19 Aguiyi Ironsi Road, Maitama, drop your complaints there and they will handle the issue of child support from your husband. It's free, they will assign a lawyer to work with you and you will not pay a dime.God bless and keep you. Phgurl
ReplyDeleteThank you so much.
DeleteWhat is it with people saying she should go bck home now, if u dnt have anything to offer jst say a word of prayer for her.. Dear poster I undrstnd ur reasoning for not wanting 2 go bck home, hw can some1 who is "married" give birth 2 d first child in her parent house n now d second, pls its not easy, let her jst hide there in Abuja 4rm shame n reproach, its not as easy as u people see it. What will going bck home do 2 her? Like other people rightly said pray, hope n believe dat God will visit u evn b4 d delievery of ur child. The Lord will vindicate you and He will put smile on ur face.
ReplyDelete@ poster you write so well, and your English is impeccable, I wonder how you did not make a better marriage match on every level, not just emotionally. You need to look into your own self and know your worth and value and not allow anybody, man or woman to allow you to settle for less. The dissolution of the marriage is a blessing in disguise. Go use your God-given talents and make your way, you have your children already, so you don't have to worry about growing old and childless, you can now put your total focus on creating a successful and financially stable life. Maybe you can offer some tutoring service to local students in the meantime, capitalize on your good English skills, or expertise in other subjects and earn some extra cash. Also, look into some women's group or ngo in your local area to see what can be done for you, some of them can help with finding housing and offer small loans to help women start their businesses, you are a perfect candidate for their assistance.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is supposed to uplift a woman in ever way and if a man cannot offer you better than your father provided then there is no point in marrying him. I cannot believe that this man could not even find a place to put you that has the convenience of running water. Let those seeking husbands read your story and use wisdom in making their choice.
I actually cried reading this. Thanks.
Delete@Poster, be careful not to jump into the hands to deceitful people either from the ones who may portray themselves as man of god, just to take advantage of your situation. That aside, My advise for you is pls kindly return to your parent house.... Cos at this situation of your, you need emotional, psycological and physical support and besides, you are pregnant too. Go back to your parent for the main time so they can also help in training your first child. Trust me Life here in Abuja is not to too rosey... You need to have a good job, or run a good business with two/three streams of income for backup, trust me you can't cope. Coupled with 3-4monthly bills. If I ask you to come stay with me in my apartment, how will you cope when It happens at the period am not financially bouyant to stock my house with food stuff? So for the main time, keep shame aside and move to your parents house even if they stay in the village, manage with them, go to the farm with them so they will be food for your 2children, and keep in mind you're doing this bcos for your children. Then while in the village or where ever they stay, plan your life. Between 4-6mths after delivery, request some money from your them to start a trade, maybe in front of their house. It can be minerals, recharge card etc. With Gods help and with your qualification, you can get a civil service Job in your state or teaching job. NB: As you leave your children's fathers house in abuja, endavour not to forget your certificates. And always pray and ask God to guide and direct your step daily. Pardon my typing errors. Its well with you.
ReplyDeleteAm so heart broken I feel ur pain but pls poster channel ur strength in making sure u have a safe delivery n d lord will see u thru
ReplyDeletePOSTERS IDENTITY HAS BEEN CONFIRMED BY ME,SHE IS ONE OF THE REGULARS ON THIS BLOG.PLEASE CONTACT HER VIA THE EMAIL AT THE TOP OF THE POST IF YOU WANT TO HELP...SHE IS HEAVILY PREGNANT AND UNDER STRESS SO ITS POSSIBLE SHE MIGHT NOT PLEASE EVERYONE WITH HER EXPLANATIONS...I CANNOT FORCE HER TO REVEAL HER IDENTITY BUT SHE IS NOT FAKE.
ReplyDeletePLEASE PLEASE HELP IF YOU CAN.
Thank you Stella for this.
DeleteI understand the reason some persons are skeptical in helping. Too many fraudulent activities online and people taking advantage of other people's kindness.
I am not a scam. I would have used my real name to post this but some SDKERs will label me for life like they constantly call that lady (can't remember her name) "beggi beggi" because of certain comment she made on Linda's blog.
All hope is not lost. God will see me through this tough time.
It is well.
Please if you can help the poster please do,stop telling her to go back home. How can you ask someone who is 36 weeks pregnant or 37 I am guessing since she's due in Feb to start travelling knowing she would go by road... With all the gallop and stress,what if something happens to the baby... Abi you don't know she can't travel now since she's almost due. What if the stress of the road induce labour or you think she must reach her due date before she gives birth. Abi you want her to travel to her parents place immediately she gives birth,carrying a new born baby and entering the road? Haba! You all should think well before giving out advice
ReplyDeleteShe's even a hard working person that's why she opted for that and she has a sister who would help her.. Her sister would take care of her,besides when she gives birth,she wouldn't be needing so much help since its her first baby,so she should already know how to do the basic things... Really,there is nothing the parents can't do for her now either than watch her everyday.... So please I am begging,if you can help,please help her and God would bless you immensely
Please,poster,I don't leave in abuja and don't have the fund to help now but I pray help findd you because you really need it. Leave that man please and never return to him again.... Don't even be deceived when he comes back again begging even if he cries blood... I would contact you right about the time you give birth or after you do and render any help cos I would be able to help by then
Sorry 'for the epistle
ReplyDeletePlease if you can help the poster please do,stop telling her to go back home. How can you ask someone who is 36 weeks pregnant or 37 I am guessing since she's due in Feb to start travelling knowing she would go by road... With all the gallop and stress,what if something happens to the baby... Abi you don't know she can't travel now since she's almost due. What if the stress of the road induce labour or you think she must reach her due date before she gives birth. Abi you want her to travel to her parents place immediately she gives birth,carrying a new born baby and entering the road? Haba! You all should think well before giving out advice
She's even a hard working person that's why she opted for that and she has a sister who would help her.. Her sister would take care of her,besides when she gives birth,she wouldn't be needing so much help since its her first baby,so she should already know how to do the basic things... Really,there is nothing the parents can't do for her now either than watch her everyday.... So please I am begging,if you can help,please help her and God would bless you immensely
Please,poster,I don't leave in abuja and don't have the fund to help now but I pray help findd you because you really need it. Leave that man please and never return to him again.... Don't even be deceived when he comes back again begging even if he cries blood... I would contact you right about the time you give birth or after you do and render any help cos I would be able to help by then
Sorry 'for the epistle
@anon, She can ask her relative to come stay and assist her until after delivery then she move with her parent temporally. Have you thought about the Psychological and physical trauma a pregnant/ nursing/ divorced mother will go through living alone all to herself? Pls think about that. Its not like she put to bed today then next week she's off on the road start doing business cos she's determined, focus and hardworking No. She needs time to rest and plan her life afresh. Thank God the man does not raise his hands on her, then she should manage with him in the house untill after delivery, then she move out as instructed by the man. I would have love to help and ask her to move in with me, but God knows I'm not financially bouyant atm. God will surely send her help by any means.
Delete@kk why will you mention people's name publicly,is not right pls.
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