My Boo Dumped Me Cos I Am Muslim And Now He Is Dating His Cousin!....Blog Visitor Sob Story

After Four years relationship,two abortions,he dumps me and say cos I'm muslim and now he's dating his cousin.

I never believed that one day,I'll have this time or result to telling my story to the public. I won't give out a lot because I don't want to be known but I'll try as much as possible to give a full clear story. Its was about four years ago,I was going through a bad abusive relationship but it was all because the guy I was dating at the time was so obsessed about me. 

I met this young guy we got talking, he talked me out of my present boyfriend, he treated me in a different nice way,I was content with it so I left my present boyfriend and started dating him. Little did I know that he was in a relationship, when he realised I knew, we fought and made up and he assured me I'll be the only one. Then he was squatting with a friend,I didn't mind seeing that I was coming from a very comfortable relationship where my now ex was really well to do. I advised him to get a place that I'll support him. 

I paid an ample amount for him,at the time I had a promotion at my place of work and I took a car loan on his behalf, I was paying for it through my salary, he was so happy,we shared the car and he would drive me in it,sometimes we'd quarrel and I'd tell him to bring my car to me. I can't say all I did for him before he eventually could stand and do things for himself. Although when he was able to,he tried to do his job as a man and took care of me cos I lived at his place all the while we dated. Okay, in between all these we were having sex even before we got very serious, that really bonded us. He always made me feel like he wanted a baby, he would not use protection and he never bothered if I used pills,little did I know that he was using me to check his manhood. 

I got pregnant and he asked me o remove it. I had no choice and I loved him. He promised the relationship will take a new turn so I did it. We got closer and his family weren't comfortable with it. They said I was a muslim,his sisters and mother ganged

 against me but he stood by me, he said he'd marry me no matter what. I was really glad,I knew I had found my prince charming. He appreciated my support and didn't let me down because he was okay. I got pregnant again,but this time I had no problem taking it out because I was sure of his love and I knew we were not ready for a child. This made us so close. We started talking about marriage and he asked me to marry him and I accepted. It was such a precious and wonderful time for me. 

I felt everthing in place and I was glad. He never had a problem with my religion, he was not so much of a church goer and I also was not really into my religion. His family issue against my religion got so intense and I think it started telling on him. He changed and stopped doing a lot of things he was doing. He would go out and come back late, he would go out without saying where he was going to, strange phone calls from girls,he started doing a lot of travelling and he'd claim its the nature of his job. 

He'd look for reasons to fight with me and Soon he started talking about me changing to christianity. That really made me mad, I won't have had a problem changing especially if that has always been his plan, but it hurt me to know that the influence of his family was starting to affect him and our relationship. Everything changed between us, we broke up but we were still living together. After a while we got passed that, we rekindled our relationship especially when his mom took it personal and attacked me through calls and messages. We talked about it and decided to come back. But by then, the relationship was already rocky. A lot of men were on my case, I started getting distracted cos it seemed like my relationship wasn't taking me to a serious path. 

I turned down a lot of people just because of him and I thought that one day things will get back to normal. It did at some point, we went on a vacation and we came back

 happy and back but there were occassional issues. He started the whole conversion to christianity gist again, by then I knew I had lost my man and my four years of emotional and financial support. We had a serious conversation and we decided to try and get over each other. I decided to join a group to distract me, he kicked against the group and I felt it was a way to get him and get his attention back since he loves attention. Instead it made him worse, One of his Cousins which he claims he's close too and have nothing intimate with came over and his attention diverted and he didn't mind if I wasn't giving him any. She'd come to the house and will always be with him. I think she had a problem with where she was staying and she had to move in with us, that's not the 1st time someone has to come stay with us but I feel he was uncomfortable with me being in the house coupled with the fact that he has always been looking for an excuse to end our relationship. 

I went for a meeting pertaining to the group I joined and wasn't able to make it back on time and he called me and asked me not to return to his house again. I felt he was angry and it was just a threat, but I realised he was serious by the time I got back. I still felt it will take some days, so I decided to be visiting maybe he'll see me and things will change but everytime I came to the house,his cousin was always there and they would be in a cozzy mood. He would put up pictures of her and when I come over to the house she'd give me attitude. 

I resulted to confiding in one of his close friends who in return told me a lot of things I wasn't aware of. He didn't even know about a lot of things until I told him. He was shocked,he told me he'd find out and help me but that didn't work. Our efforts were frustrated. I tried to keep in touch but it wasn't just working. Now its certain that its really over. He has gotten so close with his cousin,she was supposed to be around for a little while but with the way things are she would be around for a long time. 

When I still had access into the house, I went there once and saw that her stuff was set,you would think they are couples. I don't know if I'm taking this too far or over reacting but I don't know what else to think or do. I think I have lost the man of my dreams to his cousin. 

*So wetin make we do?why are you crying?today is 31st for crying out loud....the greatest gift of all is learning to love yourself,please move on.......freaking move on and get your life back in lane.

MOVE ON AND STOP CRYING OVER SPLIT MILIKI!