''Dear Stella.
I don't even know how to start this, I got married 2weeks ago and my husband
doesn't have sex with me. We have had sex just twice and I initiated it. Everything
is fine besides the sex. We cuddle but no sex. We joke around and seem to be happy
but no sex. As soon as we get into bed his sleeping. We had sex before we married,
but stopped like six months before the marriage. And no his not cheating. We both
are on leave from work and we are together 24hours. Please what could be wrong?
And what can I do.
Thanks....Blog visitor
*Chei,just two weeks and you are complaining?Your hubby is probably trying to
recover from something,why dont you find out what it is?when you guys where
dating,did you also initiate sex?
if your answer is yes,then you are the leader of your sex life....keep on initiating!
He's gay
ReplyDeleteHe has a spiritual wife so no reserve sperm for the physical.
DeleteGo confirm in MFM
Lol....MFM don suffer.
DeleteTalk to your man dear...
DeleteTell him your worries
That's the only way you'll know; that's if you'll know.
Bitch run with your two legs now! He gay! !
DeleteIt mustn't b Gay,mayb d guy has something weighing him down.babes talk 2 ur husband abt it.
Delete3days dry fasting plus 2days 6-6 with serious prayers, you'll surely testify! I think your hubby is thinking about money spent during wedding (no money equals flaccid cork)
DeleteYou dey kolo! Man nor fuck you 6months before the wedding, you don initial sex 2x by forces, and una dey cuddle, kissing, but no sex. Oh girl wake up. My advice to you. .. If your dumb ass husband ever decide to have sex, Pls say NO!!! Your need a sex therapist, with 6months counseling, doctor c heckup, for HBP, Blood sugar, depression, low sperms, and blood tests for diseases, if I were you, I move out of the house until he undergo!! Don't let this man fuck up your dreams, you don't need no prayer, fasting, or babalawo bullshits! Bitch, use your brain! Don't get stuck in " l get husband shits"
Delete@brokenenglish blah blah, wow! That's all I can say... My dear, you can never marry o, it's not a curse
DeleteThis is serious.
ReplyDeleteYou need to find out what is wrong. Try to connect with him so he will open up with you. Apply wisdom in handling the solution so he doesn't shut you out completely.
I wish you well.
He usually used to intiate it. And now most times he turns me down even wen I try to initiate it. I have tried to talk to him about it but there's no reasonable excuse. And please nobody should cuss me out. I want advice and a possible solution. I feel if its bad in two weeks what will be the case in 2yrs.
ReplyDeleteDear der is sumtin wrong sum where. Its rather too early for married couples not to have sex at dis stage.so find out wat is wrong and use wisdom.
DeleteHe has joined the GAY association of naija....just use style check his anus...you might be shocked!!!
DeleteHahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. Linda!!!! Nye kwa Chineke nsopuru. You are a sick child I swear. Very mad girl.
DeleteMy dear listen, I almost thot u were my wife cos I have almost the same experience.
DeleteSex was great while dating, stayed away from sex for a couple of months before wedding and after wedding I lost my libido!
No erection, no urge, no interest!
Maybe it was d wedding pressure, anxiety or watever, don't just know.
Took a while before I started getting my libido back.
So dear, I assure u ur hubby will come around soon, just encourage him to get enof rest, eat fruits, stay away from sugar and possibly get some food supplement drugs like GinChia from forever living products.
Cheers
My big guess is that he has an illness anf doesn't want to infect you. No he is not gay.
DeleteSDK u call 2wks just? Kweke oooo!!! For newly weds? Abeg abeg that is very abnormal, something is not rght, I get it if u both get so exhausted from planning the wedding to the main event, but after day1 or day3 latest u guys should be nacking anyhow o, even if u were fornicating b4 marriage, I'm very sure married sex will be Sweeter since u won't have any guilt or fear of getting pregnant, I blame u that's even allows him to sleep .lol..if na me by fire by force u must hard and we must do.
ReplyDeleteLol u are sick Nuvi, but u are correct.
DeleteMy dear poster, I see this to be more of a spiritual issue than the physical. Hence, there's nothing wrong with either of you.
Tell u what, a lot of unforseen circumstances happen during weddings. Anyone who's having a wedding, either big or small, will always have amongst their guests, witches and wizards. Call me crazy but I know what am saying. Which is the reason moat people operate a quiet wedding..or perhaps will only announce their weddings a week before hand. A lot of spiritual warfare is entangled with the ceremony called 'wedding'.
While some forces cannot stop a wedding from taking place mostimes, the likelihood is that they'll try to invoke bad luck on the couple for after their wedding. Pls don't think am trying to scare u, I am not. Am just being truthful to u so that you can understand that u need to pray fervently to restore your union..as sex is a major part of it. Sex is what will give u the fruit of the womb, and if he's not having sex with u, how do u get pregnant?
These evil doers lurk around after they've sent their spiritual mercenary on an errand to attack or to hinder the couple's atmosphere from enjoying a blissful union...these are the evil people who'll often ask why you are not pregnant after uv been married for a year? They never go away trust me.
Let me not bore u stiff with my analysis. But my dear, u do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities and powers of the world. The principality that they are trying to use here is your hubby and his urge for sex...to deprive and to frustrate you. thank God u attest that uv had sex before, so we eliminate that he's not capable of sleeping with a woman. So it is spiritual, please treat it as such. Pray, fast, and don't discuss it with anyone just yet until it goes out of hand. And if u must tell anyone, ensure it is one who can seek God in agreement with u, not someone who cannot proffer u a solution. Godspeed.
Mrs Zulu! Your old asss with your outdated thinking! You started from spiritual, to witches, wizards, and some kind of inner evildoers, that are out to destroyed! Then you back to God, fasting and prayer! All these because she's not getting fuck! Married woman like you be going from one native doctor to another! You didn't even talk about science. You need help!
DeleteSmtcheeeeeeeeew!!! Jus 2weeks and u are terribly complaining?? Abeg na food??? Go nd sit down joooor!!! Its sometimes like dat 4 most couples,,na wa 4 sum women sha...FURK NO B FOOD OOOOOOOOOOO!!!
DeleteAnon 3:27pm where do I begin to school a dunce like u? It is either u didn't go to school at all, or u failed English comprehension woefully. Go back and read what I wrote if u must, before u display ur crassness. Do u know my age? That i am Mrs means am old shey? Loll ode.
DeleteI told the girl to pray spiritually since its not like the guy has physical issues...what's wrong with that? Native doctor? Where and how? When I asked her to pray? U see how foolish u are? it is people like u dat die ignorantly when science has failed u. Give to caesar what is caesar's. Your mother needs help, not me. Idiot
See gobe,abeg oooo u guys should start nacking
ReplyDeleteHa. First two weeks of marriage that sex is like 2 to 3 times a day
ReplyDeletei agree with stella
ReplyDeleteHe has a low libido or he is gay
ReplyDeleteAbeg madam if mountain no go meet muhammed make muhammed carry jet go meet mountain oooo,its too early 4 dis
ReplyDeleteBy fire by force he must do oOoooo haba
DeleteAm having dinner right away. I will com back t read comments frm sexperts n counsellors.
ReplyDeleteAm out,
Brb
Always cooking or eating...,na wa
DeleteWhich yeye dinner?
DeleteIs it that garri and groundnut u soaked that u called dinner?
Biko take a back seat
Lepas shandy n orobo,u guys get a room
Delete@ Cutey FaV: yea I wanna port frm lepa t orobo dats y I luv t cook n eat.
Delete@ Lepa shandy: am glad u mentioned it o, am almost running out of supply. Pls supply me more garri n groundnut tmoro unfailingly. Tanx, I trust u my numb 1 supplier. #wink
@ Cutey FaV: yea I wanna port frm lepa t orobo dats y I luv t cook n eat.
Delete@ Lepa shandy: am glad u mentioned it o, am almost running out of stock. Pls supply me more garri n groundnut tmoro unfailingly. Tanx, I trust u my numb 1 supplier. #wink
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DeleteLepa Shandy Vs lepa Orobo...
DeleteLepa Orobo and Lepa Shady! Two lesbians, eating each other smelly pussy, una dey try.
DeleteSometin is wrong. The marriage is too young to have sexual hiccups. Infact this is when it is ur food. Unfortunetely, There is more to this issue.
ReplyDeleteUr hubby dey wank his fellow man.....look arund , be careful u will catch dem. Chyqueen.
ReplyDeleteSee gobe, anyway he might be gay coz it happened to someone I know, he married due to societal & family pressure but he wasn't that into her up until she found out.. Talk to him & make him open up, u never can tell was in a man's mind. Tafia from New York.
ReplyDeleteIs either ur husband have used his dick for rituals or he has a man who is screwing his anus.
ReplyDeleteGood day all.
ReplyDeleteAt poster.
One major requirement of a successful marriage is communication.
In my opinion, your marriage is too young for you to be seeking outside opinion on an issue such as this without talking first to your husband.
Is there any particular reason why you have not raised this subject with your husband yet?
From your story, it seems like you haven't.
I'm sorry to say this, but, there's nothing we are going to say here on this blog that will give you a perfect explanation as to why You're not having regular intercourse with your husband, the answer to that question lies with your husband.....all You're going to get here is speculations , that might only increase your sadness and create suspicion and depression.
My advice ...
Talk to your husband about this.
Good Luck....
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DeleteI love u
DeleteI love this comment...U're my kind of guy #Husband material# dats what u r Baby
DeleteMumu didn't u read she said she don try to talk to am taya
DeleteI guess u did not read where she said she has spoken to her husband.
DeleteWhat can we tell you when you've not discussed it with your husband to find out what the problem is?
ReplyDeleteYou want people to speculate. Linda Eze will say he has STDs, Galore will say he's gay, Lepa Shandy will send Thunder to his dick, Oluyomi will advice you to pray to Jesus or carry a sacrifice to a T junction, PJ will curse him out for no reason, Phrinkles and Tony Ihekire will thank God for their amazing every night nacking sex life, an anonymous will say her husband's dick is long, thick and he uses it well 6 times every night, Mrs D will preach to you about patience, Dr Lamina will try to diagnose the problem across seven seas, the teenagers will tell you to pack your load and run, Bloglord/Wideeyed/Memphis will give wise words that aren't necessarily practical, some closet sex therapists will offer all manner of aphrodisiac for him, sexy lingerie for you and BJ skills/kama sutra positions that will make him always ask for more. Most people will tell you to be patient, pray or seek medical attention.
I say, communicate with your husband. Let communication the bedrock of your marriage. Make it easy for the 2 of you to be able to tell each other everything.
U got me LMSAO!
DeleteLmao,ewo analysis 101
DeleteWow. You've studied almost everyone on sdkb.
DeleteMbok chop kiss, mwah!!!!
DeleteYou got me srzly laffing and whalahi memphis comments aint usually practical
DeleteOh Lord
Kai, uv killed me wit laughter ooooooooooo
DeleteI love u
DeleteMbok chop kiss, mwah!!!!
DeleteOMG galore you are so predictable! She actually said he was gay
DeleteLike!
DeleteI don laff sotay I start to cry! One million likes for dis comment. U don read all of them finish
DeleteI love u so much for dis analysis........abeg,,,,chop knuckle....
DeleteI love this...xoxo
DeleteFrm beautifulBella
Anon 8:39PM, u got me LMAO. U are a real comedian.
DeleteLwkmd
DeleteHahahaha u don make me wake my baby frm sleep due to my laff abi? Come and carry her o cos she has started crying...very funny analysis
DeleteTell him u need to seriously talk, let him know how u feel.....pls don't shout or show anger.....u are newly weds and still in that Luvy duvy stage.....and my dear start praying ASAP for God to reveal the true problem in case he doesn't tell you anything tangible....it's too early cos the first few years of marriage is still frequent sex and getting to really know urselves better....been married 8 years now and we make love like 3 times a week averagely.....and then again pls don't start panicking yet....relax, it might just be nothing serious......also don't start running your mouth to anyone yet, if you want to talk close your door and pour your heart to God first......wish u all the best darling
ReplyDeletedear,talk to him.communication is key in every rltnship.ask him y he has nt felt lyk mkn love,wat turns him on etc.just relax dear.take ur tym.all d best
ReplyDeleteStephanie said:
ReplyDeleteMaybe ur no longer attractive to him or he is gay.
Maybe you are a dirty woman. Or he's gay. Sorry. Initiate it now. "Rape" him sweetie
ReplyDeleteu don marry @UTI ''version''
ReplyDeleteSorry Madam
Ee go better
@Galore
Hahahaha u didn't disappoint d anon dat predicted wat u wud say
DeleteHmm! Do you know his status? Hope he's not hidding something from you.
ReplyDeleteTwo full weeks... That's a huge starvation for a newly wedded couple. There should be plenty of honey in the moon for you both. Sum Tin Rily Rung! Its too early to start experiencing this, you both need to sort yourselves out fast. Go for counselling too, both of you. I wish you good luck dear!!!
ReplyDeleteThe guy dey regret him life. Each time he looks at you and realized he's stuck with you forever, he's like " whish kain wahala I go put myself so?" and he just generally loses interest.
ReplyDeleteBabes abeg do something before something do you o cus if care is not taken, u go jus wake up one day and o boy don ja.
Hope he is not gay, sorry but that's what it seems!
ReplyDeleteHes probably gay,jst marry u2 cover face,impotent (nt so sure cos u said u2 nacked b 4 marriage),or hes jst bothered bout sumtin Dats made his penny dead... wateva it z find out !!!!! *insult me n see patience jonatan in ur dreams *
ReplyDeleteOnyx100k, see your mouth. Have you left High school that you are dishing out advice to married people?
DeleteHave you seen the difference now? Shey you people only discuss masturbation, homosexualty and Chris Brown/Rihannah over there?
How did you know all these?small boy like you enjoying *Senior Jokes*commot here osiso
DeleteHoney port back. Ain't no body gat time for that here! You've probably outstayed your welcome.
DeleteTwo full weeks! That's a huge starvation for a newly wedded couple. There should be plenty of honey in the moon for you both. Sum Tin Rily Rung! Its too earty to start experiencing this now, You both need to sort yourselves out fast. Go for counselling too, both of you. I wish you goodluck dear.
ReplyDeleteHe's nott sexually attracted to u sorry!
ReplyDeleteHe just will have sex sometimes to make babies (which is why he married u).
So make urself sexy in his eyes kk.
You are right. ......now I don't find my partner sexy at all. It's like I'm sleeping with an old man.whenever we are doing it, I always pray that he comes quickly and I hate when he touches my nipples too. So disgusting,
DeleteCheck if u haf Stopd doing those tiny tins DAT turns him on..if yes pls drive down and shop for new undies,make his special dish and seduce him.....lol am not married but I tink DAT can do d magic!!!!he he he oya married ppl pls take ova..
ReplyDeleteI hope he hasn't heard something nasty about you? You really need the wisdom of Solomon cos it's too early for you to go through this.
ReplyDeleteTalk to una pastor also try lacing his food with any aphrodisiac.
ReplyDeleteWhatever is wrong..as been wrong before d marraige...she said 6months before...why didn't u make a fuss then? You should've ..cos that way..ul know for sure if the issue is worth putting up with when married...
ReplyDeleteMy suggestion is..speak with him...let him know your concerns and fear...the awnser or solution is not in SDK blog...it's between both of you...don't worry..it appears you have d right foundation ...u said both of you are friends..cuddle etc...
Better to take the bull by the horns ...Ask GOd for wisdom..you will be fine IJN...
Congratulations on your marraige..it will work for good IJN..
Its either he is gay, low libido or he found out something u did before marriage, that whenever he remembers he will lose the urge to make love to you
ReplyDeleteStella u beta post my comment nw ooo Chyqueen.
ReplyDeleteThat 6 months abstinence before your wedding really killed his appetite. I hope someone here will really have good advice for you
ReplyDeleteUse weed to cook better okro soup. Anythn tht happens...happens. *asikwana nam si* *still sippn my zobo*
ReplyDeleteI want to believe that the dude has some emotional issues to sort out. Either, he is getting pissed with you slowly or he is into someone else somewhere. Bad as the truth may sound, it is so unusual for newly married to stay away from sex within the first few weeks of wedding. Again, it is too early to be confrotational on this and I will advise that you find the right time to softly ask him if there is anything wrong somewhere. Ask if you offended him or what could be wrong. NOTE: Dont sound as if you are worried or pissed off as that may ignite an unwanted situation.
ReplyDeleteWish you the best possible in your marriage and God bless you both.
@ Paster, two things are involved. 1. Does he freely hang around male friends? Does he have a particular make friend who frequently visits him? AND have you noticed any funny smile when he's with him/them? I guess you can answer that and handle that yourself. 2. Does he has/have a watery sperm? Does he release quickly? Then He might have a low sperm/ low Libido. If he has this then you need to see a doctor on his behalf. Tell him to cut down on his suger intake and acohol. Cheers...
ReplyDeleteMaybe He loves forceful sex.
ReplyDeleteThere's only one solution
RAPE HIm
Gbam
DeleteWhat do you expect naa?? When you have had all the sex when you were dating......what's new??? He don seee am finish...Karma na bitch e hear!!! Sorry.
ReplyDeleteMay b sex wit u feels like he is putting his cucumber in a well, disadvantage of toomany bf's in d past.
ReplyDeleteMy dear new wife,
ReplyDeleteYour husband is in love with another.
Case closed.
You alone can unravel the mystery behind his shying away from shagging you silly....especially since its just two weeks into matrimony.
ReplyDeleteNa honeymoon una suppose dey now?
Ok what you should do...What are his favourites? Food, accessory, clothing...what does he really like you think you can afford? Get it for him.
Spoil him! Breakfast in bed, run his bath, and do all you can. In all of this, talk, tease and make him relaxed.
What's his favourite movie? Lay on the couch with him and see it.
#seems like a lot yea? Nah its not! You are trying to re-possess your possession.
OK am talking too much now......you know where am headed???? Communication. A man will only open up to you when you show him so much attention and love.
Trust me on this!
Oh please blog lord. She said everything apart from sex is fine. He's not mad at her....they play around and all. So suggesting she makes him his best meal and all isn't the issue at this point. Ur advice is off note madame. Other than communication...yes.
DeleteNot to derail the post, but guys I need help. I'm tired. I don't have a social life, I can't boast abt my job (its really not all that). I'm no longer in love with my bf. I've been in and out of job interviews but the offers I've gotten so far have not been encouraging. I have no friend, no confidant, no lover. In summary, I'm lost, drained, unhappy and dissatisfied. I just need someone to talk to rite now. SOS!
ReplyDeleteHello dear, talk to Stella. Send her a mail. (((hugs))) Phgurl
DeleteI've been in a few situations like U mentioned above and I won't mind being a friend to U. I can't offer much but will be willing to be a listening ear. Feel free to call me: 08180162010. Cheers and have a great week ahead.
DeleteAwww. .....if you can drop your Email. I will add you on my whassap. Sometimes, everybody cries. It is well.. .
DeleteHe's now offering u listening ear n a shoulder to cry on,it will later turn to a dick to ride on...call him @ ur own risk,sha don't bring us any stupid story later
DeleteHe's now offering u listening ear n a shoulder to cry on,it will later turn to a dick to ride on...call him @ ur own risk,sha don't bring us any stupid story later
DeleteLol.....u get problem come carry am come meet witches and wizards for here? I hope all their comments have really helped? I pity you my dear, go and talk to your hubby then get on your knees and pray if symptoms persist......no real solution on this blog for this kind problem....
ReplyDeleteJust having out a heart t heart talk wt ur hubby might nt b enof for God knws d heart of evry man n He is d initiator of marriage. Go back t Him in prayers...
ReplyDelete1. Ask Him f mercy
2. Present d situation before him (although He knws even befor u ask)
3. Make out time f God (quiet time); study passages of d bible dat concerns marriage esp.
4 . Prophesy good things concerning ur marriage- u r already in n u must enjoy it.
5. Relax n trust God; He will definitely complete ur joy. Cheers
Twice in 2 weeks?how una wan take conceive na? Abeg tie dat man hand n leg,rape am...gbam
ReplyDeleteHe could have low testosterone, or regrets the marriage and long for someone else, maybe he masturbates a lot behind your back and have no desire for sex, maybe he hates sex, who know, it could be any number of things. So, my dear, you have to open your mouth and speak to him about it. How you marry a man and you can't even have the courage to speak to about matters like this? If you can't communicate, how do you expect this marriage to have any longevity? Talk to him and see what the issue is, and work toward a resolution.
ReplyDeleteI wish you well, and hope that you move forward from this rough patch very quickly.
Your guy is gay! :). Lol
ReplyDeleteFrom all what has bin said above, tink its best to talk to him. Pray to God. God be wif yhu. #TEEMAH
ReplyDelete@anon December 30, 2013 at 8:39 PM blogwhore as anon. typical vile oponu omode. same way you write. keep on blowing yourself up.
ReplyDeleteHe probably has some stuff he is thinking about. Though he should make an effort to satisfy you so talk to him and talk to God.
ReplyDeleteIf he is in love with someone, he probably wouldn't have married you since you say it started 6months before your wedding (Unless he didn't have the liver to backoff).
May God dwell in your home dear IJN. It is well.
I know how it feels dear, take heart & also watch his back! Investigate him, his calibre of frnds, his lifestyle & All he engages in that he derives joy from! SneAk into his phone coversationn social mediA & all he communicAtes with, sure U̶̲̥̅̊ will diScover things. This shld be done inline with prAying to God to reveal d deep secret of things to U̶̲̥̅̊. My ex Bf wAz life thAt we dateD for abt 6mnths without Anytin hAppening, he Was soo lAid back, gave him time, studied him & when clnt tk it Any more, I ended it. Am soo single now & dnt miss him one bit! Still cnt phantom what his problem waz gay/low teStoteron, or mAybe he didn't lov me or even had spiritual issues. Babes Advice U̶̲̥̅̊ to try ur best to discover, if no change still pls find ur exit door or U̶̲̥̅̊ will remain sad for d reSt of ur life!!! A lesson to us women let's study our men well enough B4 jumping inTo marriage. Al d best
ReplyDeleteDo you know if he has HBP and his on medication. Some guys with HBP normally get low libido and some drugs also decreases sex drive. Pls calmly communicate with him. Cheers. Phgurl
ReplyDelete'keep on initiating' i lik dat....Sochi
ReplyDeleteGurl u need to talk to ur Pastor dts if u both r committed to a church! There is smetin off smewhr sinc he's thing is functioning!and make sure he aint gay! Funny as it may sound many Najia men r secretly gay these days!smh I pray u find out d prob so u cn get a solution!gudluck dear.
ReplyDeleteTalk to your man....communication is key in relationships and marriage
ReplyDeleteIf I were you, I would not complain since he does not refuse when you initiate. May be he is not used to sleeping with women always. It is well. God will perfect everything concerning your marriage. Rose
ReplyDeleteThe might be feeling depressed about a know or unknown issues. Continue playing the loving wife that you are. Make sure you also initiate foreplay always, it could help
ReplyDeleteMaybe you wrongly accused him of deflowering you or cheated on him on your Spinster's eve or something! That's one of the few cases that can make a man go offline completely!
ReplyDeleteOde
DeleteThere is notting spiritual, he must be under financial stress after wedding or he is recovering still with the reality of being married. When men re under financial stress dick is no longer very active as it used to be, u turn to thinking a lot bc ur mind is not there. Give him time to recover from his stress, he is not so free to talk everything with u. No matter the love no man will tell u all he is going through. We tend to keep few stuff to ourselves.
ReplyDeleteI really don't think its big deal. Relax... He's mind is on something. Once the load is off. Your guy will be back to normal. This happened to me and we spoke about it, and he told me what was going thru this mind and it was solved... Sex life is back...
ReplyDeleteMy dear,a man is a very sensitive being. He might hv smtin worryin him or weighin him down. U mus seat him down and find out wat d prob is and u mus also understand watever he tells u. Wen u get pregnant 2 u mignt. Nt want 2 hv sex 4 almost 4months o! So biko try 2 discuss wit. Ur boo and find out wat is eatin him up. Congratulations on ur weddin,wishinig u congual bliss
ReplyDeleteSorry to deviate but i'm in same bad situation but not as bad tho(prob even worse...u judge). I got married a month ago, hubby lives in 'one room'(not even a ful sized room) and has his entire village in it, u gotta excuse urself to even get dressed, sex life is crippled, kisses are even stolen. Hubby is a good man but It's been hell!!! Yes! I saw it before we got married but he said he was gonna get a bigger apartment or send his grown bros to go live wit their mom, wedding date was fixed and money for the bigger apartment wasn't coming up, I wouldn't embarrass him by cancelling the wedding, so we went on wit it. I love him to bits and I know it was not very good getting married in a one single room but it was complicated, I wasn't preggy, No but I love hubby so much but this crowd is choking me, It is even more annoying when the grown siblings(abi na room mates) starts giving me an attitude. Cuss me out if u like but chip in some advice while at it pls
ReplyDeleteJust give him somtym, I believe he is planning hw to get a bigger house, wishn u d best
DeleteSorry to hear of your problems anon #119. You really should have postponed the marriage until you had a room to yourself. How can a newly married couple be sharing a room with other people, how come those people do not have the sensitivity to try to give you some personal time? The situation is an indignity for yourself and your husband. All I can suggest is that you work hard and save every penny you can, and pool your monies together to get a place of your own. Obviously your husband does not have the financial means on his own to get an apartment, you will have to bring money to the table to improve your lives. Love truly is blind.
ReplyDeleteA lot of people that write their comments here are a bit ignorant.
ReplyDeleteHe is probably has a temporary condition that can't make him get it up. I experienced that with my hubby and I must say that if we hadn't been making love before we decided to take it to the next level, I would have thought he didn't find me attractive. It takes men a while to talk about it and it's mainly down to ego but when he finds it convenient, he will. Please don't stress it as you have confirmed yourself you used to have sex before the wedding. My hubby had so much referrals and treatment s even seeing shrinks. Part of it is down to state of mind of the man and you don't want to add to the stress. Try and be understanding as possible and don't go sharing with people because when he is back to normal, the people you talk to will be the ones to sample him for you.
Wish you all the best.