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Ma'am,
Am really not good with writing e-mails but i will try to make this the best e-mail have written so far. Am a 17 years old teenager who loves the media. I came across your blog early this year and since then i have fallen in love with your blog.
I mean everywhere I go to all I hear is people talking about is Sex.. For example, there's this 14 years old girl I know, she was telling me that her mum said that before she must have sex with any guy, the guy must have a condom and the condom must be "Trojan".
She also said that she has given her ex-boyfriend a "Top" i.e. oral sex. I also heard her telling a guy she plans on having sex with that "pulling out" does not work. Am not trying to be a snitch but why would a 14 years old teenager be talking about sex.
I go to a high school in Texas and wherever i go, people around me are either talking about sex or marijuana. I mean WTF is wrong with our leaders of tomorrow? We recently did a survey in my health class and 70% of the guys wants to marry a virgin. My question is who will marry non-virgins?
Am not trying to be a hypocrite by saying have never thought of sex, I have but i do something else whenever the thought comes into my mind. My question is "Is there anything magnificent about sex that teenagers can't wait till they are emotionally matured to handle the pain and other emotions that goes along with having sex?"
N.B - Your blog keeps me updated about things going on in Nigeria. I love your blog and i love you.
Thanks
Shay :)
*Thanks Shay,you made me smile.
Wait until you're legally old enough (21) to drink in the US before having sex, that is if you can't wait until marriage (I hope you can wait until you're married). You shouldn't even know the brands of condoms yet. Where are your family members? Mom, sisters, aunties etc? They are better sources of advice than the internet. Go and read your books and stay away from bad friends.
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Deletecome to think of it...who no like sex?.its just that we live in a corrupt world so that s what everybody talks about...
ReplyDeleteD young generation we have now either smokes weed or drink codeine.Sex is not anymore a big deal as a lot of galz wld give u in a platter of gold.teenage galz dis days wanna xplore n feel wut d older ones r enjoyin.dude u jst have to keep your heads straight that's it.
ReplyDeleteNa wa oooo, see wht a crazy society has made this poor boy think.
ReplyDeleteMy dear life is not all about sex. Don't be deceived by wht you hear. Concentrate on ur books and work hard at being a better man, a good man. Don't let the crowd mislead you. Be a good boy for mummy.
Another curious cat.
DeleteTry it nah,at 17 you've come of age or wait till u get to 18.
Experience they say......
#teamvirgins
If I hear,u amie b virgin,d one wey u abort how cum,u b Jesus mother,o ni ro,bleaching bitch
DeleteWhy so much hate?? Not every fair lady bleaches o...
DeleteChia 2 ugly bitch n patner in crime complimentin each other,bitch pls I support anon
DeleteWhy the hate?and how do u knw she bleaches?the y'all are going about this bleaching thing,natural light skinned girls will start looking for ways to get dark,jst becos they don't want to be called a bleacher..
DeleteBitch shut up am a natural born light skinned person,u culd tell it is nt natural abi I lie amie,she won't dare lie,we base for d same place
DeleteIts simply the environment and the fact that people don't have respect for each other or themselves anymore.
ReplyDeleteSex isn't meant to be something that just goes by. Its meant to be a kind of ritual. Its a peaceful n sweet exchange. But these days, waiting has become stressful for lots of youth.
Besides, its the end time.
Shay im in my twenties and i m asking the same thing too. Americans are over sexualized. The sex sex sex thing is just too much! I got to know about sex in my 12th grade here. And just like you too i wondered why in the world a kid in my grade is talking about sex. well not just talking, doing it too.
ReplyDeleteAbout your question. Nne WAIT!Wait Wait Wait. Wait Wait Wait. I cant stress waiting for sex enough. Wait till the right God fearing man that will put a ring on your finger and proclaim his love for you to the whole world find you. Its true that sex is mindblowing and heart tugging and sweet and it connects two people in love and great exercise and every other good stuff. But that is NOT for the unmarried! True love waits.
Most guys want the cookie and when they get it they fleee! Please hold on to your cookie. Do not give it up. Abstain Abstain Abstain love. Your body is your pride and God's temple. You can wait. Also when you think about sex...pray. Cast and bind that devil that is trying to push you to sexual immorality. Call on God. Its hard to wait or hold out as Americans say but its totally worth it. It helps you see which man wants you for you and who just wants the "cookie".
I know some people will say Men cant wait. Well to heck with those who cant. Let them keep stepping. If they have to sleep with you so they can know you "love" them...Dump them like a bad habit. Your God Destined man will wait for you.
Also please dont engage in Oral Sex either. Or Anal sex. All join. Abstain means all forms of sexual contact. Youre still young girl. Focus on school and YOUR religious life you will be fine.
p.s.Dont fall for the just the tip line either...hahaha. Tell em no tipping here homie. Give them a packaged bible and holy water and say "Boy bye". Its gonna be a litle challenging but Just always remember HIV, STD'S, unwanted pregnancy is not your portion. Amen!
#drops mic.
wow u just made my day thanks
DeleteU hav said it all Leona, God bless d muscle u used in typing ds epistle. #gbamestcomment
DeleteLeona,am deeply in love with your comment...lol.Nice one babe!
DeleteBest comment ever Leona. I'm trying to talk with my teenage sister about the benefits of waiting and this just gave me a firm foothold (since I'm a man).thank you! One thing I have learnt from living in the USA and I tell my teenage sister always is that, "In all your getting, get wisdom". Always I ask God to bless her with wisdom beyond her age. Again, Thank you Leona. PS I stay in the DC area and if you stay around here would be good to meet a fellow Nigerian, and chat over a meal.
DeleteKeep repping us dear feddy... Xoxoxooxo proud of u... Always glad when i see people sharing same view with me on the consequences of premarital sex... With all that u have put up, i don't think it will be wise to still write...let her make do with yours.....its so vast that she can get all she wants from it.. God Bless you...@i_ChoPtas_Not
DeleteI also feel glad too seeing peeps sharing d same view with me....my bf left me after 4 years of relationship...all in d name of not wanting to sleep with him...so my dear....its worth d wait...ur pride as a virgin is what matters...focus on ur books n never loose d sight of God.
DeleteLeona. Ull live long... Well said
DeleteIt is refreshing to know a teenager in America has not bowed to peer pressure. Everything we see on the media paints sex as cool or potrays image of sexy models which in turn leads to imaginations; most people have sex in their head when they see half naked models on tv, some may do it eventually, others masturbate to ease the load.
ReplyDeleteParents don't give their wards sex education, so these kids end up learning lessons the hard way. My mum gave me every woman to read when I was 9 (JSS1) so when boys came around and were telling me "let's do it once, you won't get pregnant", I had my reply for them ready. Infact guys in my secondary school placed a bet on who will get me because they knew my stand.
Some people were starved of love and affection at home, so when they start dating, the fact that there is a lack somewhere that they are willing to pay any price to make up for makes them easy to manipulate to believe depriving your bf/gf of sex means you don't love him/her.
Sex is worth waiting for, am not overly religious but my bible tells me "marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled, but whoremongers and adulterers, God will judge".
Our culture is different from that of the whites but am glad the lady's mum told her about condoms. I overheard my mum lecturing my kid brother about condoms too when he was in JSS1.
Teenagers will always be teenagers, juvenile behaviours will definately be exhibited, teens want to experience and experiement but having open parents and elders who can talk to you without being too opinionated and judgemental will go a long way in putting a teenager on the right track.
Sex is worth waiting for Shay!
In the Western world, yes. Sex is a recurring theme and a joint/spliff is just like smoking a cigarette. Sad but true. From smoking a joint the tendency is that one day they will want to smoke something harder. That's how it starts. Wasn't it a while ago that a Swiss company said it was going to start producing condoms for teens?
ReplyDelete"The United States Center of Disease Control estimates that one half of all HIV infections occur in the under 24 age group. HIV is the sixth leading cause of death in ages 15-24. Three million cases of STD's occur in that age group and up to one million teens get pregnant each year." Scary!
Re-the survey, 70% of the men want to marry virgins but they will experiment sex with non-virgins until they are ready to marry. They will need to search very hard for virgins in that society..
Face your studies or your vocation and to answer your last question - No.
ReplyDeleteShay, thanks o. This is the situation we have found ourselves in. As you are a regular on SDKB, I'm sure you see the huge number of comments when the post is sex related.
Did you also see that almost 100% admitted to numerous abortions on the "Regret post"? The single mum who decided againt abortion to have her baby girl was almost given a National merit award on this Blog. I tell you the situation is worse in Naija. 12 year olds are so seriously sexually active, especially in the villages.
Stay true to yourself. You don't have to follow the crowd.
A colleague of mine is in a dilemma right now cos his brother of 18yrs just got their cousin (17yrs) pregnant,they both live with him!
DeleteCan u beat dat?...all bcos of the way sex has been commonised in the society! Hmmmm #endtimettings#
I was 17 my first time & I tot that was incredibly early as a lot of my friends said they would wait until marriage (they didn't). Personally, I would if teenagers waited till after they are 18, at least be legally an adult. Emotional maturity abt sex isn't tied to age, so nobody can really say when someone is old enough to handle some of d negative side of sex. So, 18 years for me. But lots of sex education - real sex education, not just saying "abstain" - has been given the person (boys & girls alike) to prepare them for the real world.
ReplyDeleteThanks Shay for for your honest concern. Our generation is becoming worst than Sodom and Gomorrah. Hold on to the tenet of the bible and you will surely overcome this evil eveloping our society. KENSPORT
ReplyDeleteOh Shay *kisses* #no homo. I love your innocence.
ReplyDeleteMy dear their is nothing magnifient about sex at young age, is only a pervet that will believe otherwise. Sex is like a farm product, wen harvested at d wrong time yields sickly n immature ones but wen u wait patiently for d right season, my dear u end up getting d best. Be patient enough n wait for d right time, atleast take a decision, make a diffrence n u will never regret it.
ReplyDeleteWorries from a disciplined child.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, this is the society we find ourselves today. Sex/drug/nudity.
Crazy!
Pls stay disciplined like I figure you are from your writeup. We live in a crazy world where morals have been flung out of the window.
eyes rolling. Ajuju
ReplyDeleteMy advice swthrt is stay away from such people/friend and face your study very well so that you can make a difference and be a role model to other young ones around you.
ReplyDeleteDarling Shay, I think I know how you feel, because, yes, society has really become sexualized, and young people face a lot of pressure. I've also wondered about the issue and asked the same questions you are asking. Right now, I am in my late twenties, and have a lot of friends who are married or sexually active, and in our conversations, you can only imagine what I have discovered-
ReplyDelete1. All my unmarried friends who were sexually active as teenagers and in their early 20s have said to me that sex is not a big deal. They all said that it was overrated and that they wish they had waited for real love first. Some said they wished they had waited for marriage. I'm always surprised when I hear this, because I often erroneously think that I am missing out.
2. The funny thing is that ALL my friends who waited for marriage before they had sex, have said to me that it was the MOST beautiful thing in the world. They say it with a blush and a glow, using incomplete sentences that make me know not to prod further for tales of something so beautiful that it cannot be described with words! ...That is what I'm waiting for Shay, and I think it is within my grasp now :-) You'll be alright in the wait, hon. God bless you
Hey Shay, ur question made me smile & got me worried. I'm a mom. I'm scared I'm gon' be too strict & my son is gon' rebel(God forbid). I can't seem to find a balance b/w being leniency & strictness.the social media has done more harm than good esp twitter. U're doing really well, shay...but for how long?
ReplyDeletei luv dis email so much, d best in stella's blog hv read so far. Dear u just wrote wat i had in mind. Our societies has turn dat word SEX to a norm. People no longer see it as sometin dat happens to only matured minds. People even come here to yarn about how dey satisfy deir bf nd gf. No wonder rape cases is high in d society, children see sex as everyday fun. Now even if u claim u re a virgin d next tin people will advise u is to give ur bf sex becos he is getting it outside which is a big fallacy. But my advise to u dear is dnt follow dis trend becos pre- marital sex is bad, no matter how d world paint it to be gud. Wait for d ryt tym dear.God bless u.
ReplyDeleteMoral decadence @ his peak. God help us.
ReplyDeleteGood... pls do not indulge in sex until you are married because it's so disgusting that sometimes you might even feel dirty after doing it.
ReplyDeletePealie na you be this
DeleteOya pikin pls listen to pealie...pls
Its not worth it, if you can even try to keep yourself until you geet married would be very gr8
My dear there is nothing maginificent about sex. Trust me. Its sweet but d troubles attached wit it is too much. Pls leave sex out for nw
ReplyDeletemy dear, this is part of the signs of the end times - perilous days- as recorded in the Bible (2 Tim 3:1-17 i.e. II Timothy chapter 3 verses 1 to end). God is our ONLY hope, let us ALL return to our Creator. Jesus Christ is the Saviour of the world.....Mrs. Samuel
ReplyDeleteHi,shay. One of the reasons teenagers talk about sex all the time is that they are constantly reminded of sex through music,movies, adverts etc. It's all up in their face and it gets them curious and inquisitive enough for someone to want to explore and get the experience.
ReplyDeleteAll I can say is it's not wrong to get the right information when it comes to sexuality issues but, you do not have to follow the crowd in exploring. Sex will not go extinct so, its best to wait and know you're mature enough to understand what it actually entails. STDs are real and can be transmitted orally so, being a virgin yet, having oral sex is not safe! Be there for those of your friends who indulge by informing them on the dangers but, relax and enjoy your childhood. You are a child for only a while but an adult for a long time to come. Make the right choice.
To you Stella, you are amazing and time will tell just how much. Mixing gossip with serious issues is a big up!
Wears kitto sandal heading to Linda eze's house.
ReplyDeleteKpai! Kpai!! Kpai!!! Onye n'a ???
Hian! Julit.....lmaaaoooo! Asili gbakwulute. Lol. J'ili nwayo. I sure say your kitto soles dey knack the back of ya scalp...sorry o, Linda j'elu afia! You must be a fun kinda person I'm real life! Jisike
DeleteSex comes with youthful exorbirant. On the attainment of puberty, sex is the next thing in the mind of youngsters because you can't really know how it feels untill u tasted it. Social media and technology too never help the matter. Are u still a virgin?
ReplyDeleteYouthful "exuberance" pls
DeleteFirst of all you are not young anymore, and the world develop as fast as possible everyday guess what will be happening in 2094 when everything in this world is made of high tech mechanism where a very high level of reasoning is expected. The world is not static so the more people develop the more our reasoning grow higher, there is nothing bad in thinking about sex infact this is the period you will be having high ecstasy for things you hear and can't practice and be cautious in dealing with opposite sex and remember to always protect yourself in any act you performing with the opposite sex have a good day #live and let's live#
ReplyDeleteDr. Akinwumi
Shay, please avoid anyone whom their daily conversation is all sex, nudity, drugs, guns and violence. They don't mean any good. Please think about how you want to be good for yourself. You could take extra classes, for example, dance..art..music..basketball..American football, even soccer. There's nothing glamorous about what's considered negative in living. Ask anyone with addictions, if they are honest with you, they'll inform you they have regrets. God bless you, Shay.
ReplyDeleteI think your pastor will answer you pretty good.... Leave us alone biko..
ReplyDeleteAnd u think u have a brain
DeleteThis is not your pastors blog
Since ur a pastor worshiper
sex is highly overrated u hear people saying stuffs like without sex u cant av a good relationship and all other tins like dat, some r in d act dey dont no how to stop some always regret it and some tell u its d best, just remain focused in the world but not of d world d Bible says so. Be urself, be unique. IZZZ
ReplyDeleteDear Anon this was the same thing my ex said to me. In fact he went ahead to say our relationship was boring without sex he gave me an ultimatum to have sex with him or never call his phone. I kept my virginity for 24 years of my life couldn't give it up so I broke up with him. The next man that came into my life I told him straight up no sex nd
DeleteHe agreed but months into the relationship he said he keeps having wet dreams and he wants sex he went further to say he would sleep with other girls but he promises not to have feelings for them. I thought he was being fair nd opened so I decided to let him go nd have all the sex in the world.
I got tired of trial and error relationships so I let it go nd focused on other things nd of course prayed. A year later I met my man the best gift in 2012 and we got married that same year. Hmmmm London boys showed me but I didn't give it up I had kept it for so long. And at 26 years my husband had the honour to declare it open. .lol. Glad I waited.
So my dear wait nd I mean wait nd be firm with this decision. Above all pray always. Shalom.
Shay remember where you're from and remember the son or daughter of who you are. In this day, all that sells is sex, turn on the tv and start flipping channels it's all sex, music videos Nko it's all scantily clad women and sex talks. What you need to do is keep your eyes on the price by getting good grades, making your parents proud, and getting a quality education. If a rapper can swipe a credit through a woman's booty crack then y'all know Jesus needs to come take the wheel quick concerning sex with this generation.
ReplyDeleteShay I want you to be yourself,do not allow peer pressure to confuse you.Pray against temptation so that you will be able to make the right decision at the right.God bless you
ReplyDeleteThe way you do ur face,
ReplyDeleteWhen she licks the tip.
Hehehe
Abeggo I Just wanted to say smthg silly.
Believe me if I say to u.
Sex is special,
U don't wanna share it with every guy.
Its for the most special guy u wld meet in future.
Guide it wit all ur hrt.
Till u meet dat man wu wld disarm u.
And plz spik to ur mum abt dis too.
She is in d best position to ans all dis.
I hope for a day I'l step out of my practise for a little while to educate ladies about the problems of premarital sex.I'm not a saint,never gone the whole 9yards with sex but God has kept me a virgin till my late 20's.Did i date several guys?oh!yes n very cute ones and i won't give it up till i'm married even tho i'm engaged n he doesn't even know.can't wait to shock him.bwhaha!Shay,pls keep urself for God before ur life gets messed up.therez nothing those boys will give u now that in d next few years wen u have a good paying job u can't get for yourself.connect urself to good friends that also believe in what u do.It seems like d whole world is doin it but that's just an illusion.Let the Holy spirit guide u n give u strength.much lov
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I hope for a day I'l step out of my practise for a little while to educate ladies about the problems of premarital sex.I'm not a saint,never gone the whole 9yards with sex but God has kept me a virgin till my late 20's.Did i date several guys?oh!yes n very cute ones and i won't give it up till i'm married even tho i'm engaged n he doesn't even know.can't wait to shock him.bwhaha!Shay,pls keep urself for God before ur life gets messed up.therez nothing those boys will give u now that in d next few years wen u have a good paying job u can't get for yourself.connect urself to good friends that also believe in what u do.It seems like d whole world is doin it but that's just an illusion.Let the Holy spirit guide u n give u strength.much lov
ReplyDeleteCece
The only thing constant in life is change...every other thing is in a state of a constant flux.
ReplyDeleteThe world has changed so badly and I think teenagers should be clued in on some of these things to help them make the right decisions.
I don't see anything erroneous in his question. What she needs right now is a good mentor or a teacher to make him understand things the way they really are and off course dissuade his mind from evil.
In as much as teenagers should wait, the parent of your 14yr old frnd was right in talking to her abt sex and protection
ReplyDeleteSex is good but it's for the married btw Sex is worth waiting for. Stop thinking abt it by taking your mind off it.engage yourself in things that wuld make you a better person,you can read your books and take your studies seriously. Abstain from bad friends because they say evil communication corrupts good manners. A good man will wait for you till you are ready for sex. To my humble opinion,i think sex is OverRated and the way the world is going,finding a virgin wuld be a difficult task
ReplyDeleteI am going to take this step by step.
ReplyDeleteQ1. Is the society we live in today about sex?
Over to you SDK, you are in a good position to answer that question since this your blog talks a whole lot about sex.
ANS: My answer though is unfortunately YES. Three major things rule the world: sex, money and power. Sex is leading the pack.
Q2. Who will marry the non-virgins?
We all know the answer to that one...Girl, the very guys planning to marry virgins while 'dis-virgining' at the moment are the ones who will marry them in future. Simple.
Q3. Is there anything magnificent about sex that teenagers can't wait till they are emotionally matured to handle the pain and other emotions that goes along with having sex?
ANS: NOTHING, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING magnificent about sex. It's a two - five minute race which is basically blown out of proportion. The before and during act is usually much more exciting than the after. In some cases even the during act is depressive.
As for why teenagers are in a hurry to 'enjoy' this sacred act? Just because it is naturally forbidden to them. Simple. The forbidden fruit remains forever the most tempting fruit.
Dear girl, sex is meant for married couples. But most of us want to have a 'taste' just so we can tell the 'thrill'. Reality is usually there is no thrill.
You will read different things and hear a whole lot of people glorifying sex and talking about how amazing it is, but truth be told a quiet moment with God is much more edifying; a nice book to read is much more enlightening; a run on the treadmill or a brisk walk is much more heart pumping and a chilled glass of wine is much more pleasurable.
The only time sex is great is when you share it with the one you love under the sacrament of marriage where you don't worry about breaking God's law and getting some disease or unwanted pregnancy. And when both of you are thoroughly and totally 'in the mood'.
Now I hope you don't read all the articles on SDK? Cos some of them are tagged 'Strictly Adult' and for me that means over 21 *winks*.
Shay, please try not to think about sex. It is highly over rated. Inshort I don't know how to explain it to you but it's not worth the hype. I love the fact that you are still very young and innocent. Please keep yourself. Don't allow yourself to be pressured into trying it. Always be strong. In a few years time, those your friends making noise about sex will be wishing they were like you. I'm talking from experience. I know most of my friends who were having sex as at the time were just 15 or so. Now most of them are unmarried and are regretting their past life. One use to call me a juu girl then but now she wishes she is me. So my dear, focus on your studies. Whenever the urge comes, (cos it will, you are human after all), don't dwell in it, try to remove your mind from it. Get a hobby that will always distract you from thinking about sex and always pray for the grace to be able to overcome. No one is perfect but you can do this if you really try.
ReplyDeleteAlways remember that there is no gain in having multiple sex partner in ones life time. It might seem cool at a time but with time you will feel disgusted by yourself. There is nothing that makes me proud when I walk around in the area where I grew up and schooled and no guy can ever come out and say he has seen my pants. I see those who were trying to decieve me then and they hide their face in shame. They can't even look me in the eyes and say Hi. But it's not same for some of my friends, everywhere they go they bump into one ex ot the other.
My dear, God bless you, keep yourself till marriage and you won't regret it. Remember to always advice those your friends,they might change and turn a new leaf. Be strong.
There is hope afterall, if a teenager can ask these questions that many adults have no clue about.
ReplyDeleteSDKers una can lie, let us go back to to pre-civilization era, kids within the ages of 13 nd 15 were already fathers and mothers, they'd learned to live on their own @dat age.
ReplyDeleteYes civilization has comes, yes we've come to realize that early sexual exploration may be harzadous, but kids still do it!
Shay, sex is not everything but if u want to experience/experiment with it please use a condom...
thanks guys for saying thanks and appreciating my opinion. @Anony like the poster, im in Texas too. xx
ReplyDeletePls sweetheart, never join the crowd.. Always try to check on more challenging things like being a virgin till after marriage... It pays more.. Forget anything that trends, they seem not to last, be that allusion for every growing youth..Am at my middle twenties and by Gods Grace still a virgin... Yes!!! You may never no how good it feels till u keep ur self.. Sex to me its punishment and really worth waiting for... There is time for everything sweet....pray more nopw and only keep friends that share same view with you.....@i_ChoPtas_Not
ReplyDeleteMy dear keep ur virginity. And yes most men want to marry virgins. Just remembered one time I overheard my husband's friends talking..n guess wat dey said ''its not the boot u wear for training that u actually wear 2 play @ d pitch'' . Think about this darling, and goodluck while u are @ it. Cheers.
ReplyDeleteShey Darling, May I Add that you GUARD your heart JEALOUSLY with all DILLIGENCE for out of it are the Issues of Life! Dare to be different, don't listen to music or watch videos that arouse your sexual senses. Concentrate on getting good grades and becoming a better YOU. May God help you...ICorin6:18
ReplyDeleteYou can determine not to have sex until you are married. I did. I live in the U.S where sex is overrated and I made up my mind very early at age 14 that I wasn't going to have sex until marriage. Well, I have my mum to thank for that as she brought us up with those moral values that made us feel that once you have sex with a guy, you have given him everything and what if you don't get married? I had two other sisters but I was the only one who didn't have sex before marriage. I just made up my mind not to. So shay, you can ignore all the sex mania if you want to. I joined a good Baptist gospel church choir that kept me very busy throughout school days and it helped me. I got married at 26 and was a virgin till my wedding night. You can make up your mind. You can Stand out from the crowd. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteYes darling it's all about sex!!!
ReplyDeleteI live in TX .
ReplyDelete@ 17, She is in high school where teenagers are experimenting with sex and drugs as a way of adventure.
She has make a decision and avoid such crowd. There are counselors in the school she can always discuss such things with, if she has so many questions.
Sex is over rated. Once ur done u regret doing it leaves u feeling worthless. Am one of those who have had premarital sex and I regret ever indulging in it. Am trying to stop cos I hate my self after the act and dread see anybody I ve engaged in it with cos I feel ave lost my respect in their eyes . There's no need rushing into it. Ps try and avoid novels that are very descriptive about sex it was curiousity that got me into it and I totally regret it.
ReplyDeleteAm also 17 years.. am just tired of this generation, i cant even hangout with 'some' of my guy friends normally cuz all they want is to make out and touch you and then when u don't do it, they make you feel like ur not cool or your to 'holy', and then they stop talking with you,which is just stupid and annoying.. I really think only prayers can help this our generation,nothing else can!
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