Blog visitors please I need help, is it true that some of the guys that stay in Europe most especially Britain and Italy are mostly broke except those that deal on drugs?
Someone from Italy is asking for my hand in marriage but my uncle who lives in USA refused cos he feels that I will end up suffering and am afraid of that too cos he has lived in Austria and Italy before and he is not usually the type that lies.
I have made some enquiries too and someone said same thing.
Please enligthen me a Little before I fall prey.
Thank you.
u idiot...dont u know the man who proposed? how the hell do we know. some ppl are just dumb. u dont know wat he does for a living? this is the problem with desperate women
ReplyDeleteWhy the insult...
DeleteWhy a u insulting her?u are a fool 4 callin her dumb,dis has shown dat u do nt have any home traininin,frustrated idiot
DeleteMy dia, pls find out wot he does for a living bf u enter one chance
DeleteUju Abuja
As much as this tale sounds like a made up story, with all the characters thrown across the globe, idea is need. Basically, it depends on the individual. Many men & women abroad go through struggles & get to a stage where you can classify them, lightly, as damaged goods. Not to say they are bad, in fact, they could be great but years of toiling away abroad, be it academically or for work takes its toll. And the longer one stays away, there's the possibility that the individual becomes a different person, culturally and socially, even " Lingo-lly" (joke). Not every man or woman that has lived or is living abroad sells drugs or is a pro- ho. It's just depends on the individual. Ultimately, in this case, buyer beware, use your eyes and ears. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably isn't. The thrills of traveling to marry a Near stranger is a too way street, headache or joy. So, look before you leap. Sometimes, the grass is not necessarily Greener on the other side but grey and full of dog's poo.
DeleteTo the individual that was a bit mean to the individual that paste the POST, you don't have to throw shade, it's just a n innocent question by an individual caught in between crossroads and SDK blog is a forum to voice positive and encouraging comments, not Clubber individuals into a hole. Thanks and happy November everyone.
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...and you have home training for insulting th person u just insulted. smh
Delete@anon 3.06pm May God punish u for insulting her, u freaking bloody Bastard, must u comment, it because of idiots like u the world is not a better place.... Bitter idiot..
DeleteThnk u o! Y r u insulting her.So bitter,clearly she feels he can be lying.you sound like someone that has been waiting to be proposed to but no show,all in due time u hear
DeleteThis beef is really personal O°˚ aunty pls take it easy on ur fellow lady ok she only asked for advice nnu? Don't worry the lord is ur muscle..he will send u a toaster soon.@bitter leave
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Na true talk you hear so.
ReplyDeleteHalf word is enough for the wise.
My dear, all of em jst dey form on fb and postn pix ni o they are as broke as they cum except for those doing "odu" and drugs and "wor-ing_ike" #UKnwWhatIMean!
DeleteI'm a livn proof!
Naija men are far far far better, a typical naija man wl wake up in d morn and go to work d only bad side abt naija men(men livn in nig) is dat they are promiscous n dats far better than d naija men in diaspora! Those ones are promiscous, get plenty baby momma, smoke like chimney and drink like hell! A good no of them are divorced too or dre wives feed them!
mate..... all men in the diaspora are not husband material. I am not talking about the money bit (this day and age a woman should not be looking for a man to take care of her). if that's your reason, you need help. my reason is that they become too irresponsible when they come over here... they lose all sense of morality and common sense and still feel you should be grateful that they want to be with you....if you have a boyfriend in Nigeria, sister, marry him.
ReplyDeleteTrust me they are broke, lazy and live off women! Fraud is their meal ticket ,just a few that work hard and make a living! I have lived in the uk for 15yrs so i know but in all be wise and ask God for guidance .....okbye
ReplyDeleteThere are also broke and lazy men in nigeria...People are different irrespective of where they live..We must pray for God to bring good people into our lives
DeleteWell, I know that some of them don't have a genuine means of livelihood. I also know that most of them like leaving their wife in Nigeria after marriage, then be coming back once in a year or so to get her pregnant. Inshort, most of them are not ready for the commitment and sacrifice that comes with marriage. Most of them are not husand materials jare (talking from what I have observed in my relatives and some friend's husbands in the Diaspora)
ReplyDeleteI won't advice any loved one to marry "di obodo oyibo" without checking out the guy well well.
Are you stupid? Why are you saying most of them, as if you are married to one..
Delete@pealie, u r such a fool.. Haba learn 2 respect pple biko.
Delete@pealie you are the stupid one. Mumu, she said MOST not ALL. That's her own two cents.
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May God forgive you pealie. It is well with your troubled soul... Go and sin NO MORE. OkBye.
DeleteThank God,u have removed that irritating display pic of your boobs.
DeleteOk, I am. Married to one and I won't advise any1 to go Into such marriage cos They are beasts
DeletePealie. What went wrong in your life? Is it your parents,are you sad or could it be a mental problem? Whatever it is,Jesus loves you my sister. Don't forget that whatever consumes your mind controls your life. There is a God,sister. Take it to him in prayers.
DeleteThat is just the misconception of most nigerians back home. I can only speak for my friends and acquaintances here in the UK. There are a lot of Nigerian professionals who work as GPs, Accountants, Lawyers, IT sectors etc. Yes, not all Nigerians here work as security guards or care workers. I'm talking about professionals that earn £40000 and above. They are God fearing and don't dabble in 419 or drugs.
ReplyDeleteMaybe ur Uncle got mixed up with the wrong crowd which is easy if you are greedy and discontent.
Very true my dear..
DeleteShe is talking about Italy and not UK and you can hardly find these proffessionals you mentioned there. Her uncle is very right. If I knew what I know today I would never make this mistake and I will never pray for my enemy to make the same mistake.
DeletePlease be cautious about Europe! Its quite a strange place,there are those that are successful but most immigrants find it difficult.Aljazeera once aired a documentary titled surprising Europe.Its not as good as it seems! Hey guys checkout affordable drinking bottled water in Lagos,Nigeria
ReplyDeleteMost of them are gatemen (monitoring supervisor)
ReplyDeleteTaxi driver (logistics manager)
Cleaner (key job)
shit packer (carer)
Barber (spa technician)
419: note that 419 get grade. They have the ones that collect money for people so they end up having western union businesses.
should I continue???.....
U are a big fool..A'int there security men, taxi drivers, cleaners and 419ners also in niaja??? At least they earn better than ppl doing those same job in niaja...
DeleteBut all these people you mentioned earn more money than your father... Oloshi..
DeleteYou this Julit is one miserable woman.They way u Generalize ppl living abroad bothers me.You claimed u used 2 live overseas.where exactly did u live ? I'm sure u visited or lived in the projects and that's why u don't know the other side I.e Legal Nigerians who are educated and have great jobs.Bcos u lived with/visited sum of ur illegal relatives overseas who gave u "crash classes" abt everybody else doesn't mean,every Nigerian lives that way.They only gv u dt story Or u only saw dt miserable life bcos u weren't here legaly and u didn't hv certificate to get a real job!
DeleteAmbulance driver
DeleteScammers
Drug pushers
Plate washers
Some marry nurses from naija then give her pocket money from the salary she will earn after marrying him and getting a job
Jealous Julit, don't judge, all said and done, the end justifies the means, if legal my dear. You would sprint at the opportunity to be one of these, abroad, that you listed if the opportunity arose. So, calm down.
DeleteAt least they got a job they are doing instead of wasting back home nd hey all dis jobs u mentioned pay for food,clothing nd puts a roof over there heads
DeleteYou really need to change your misconception of Nigerians in diaspora. You seem to think there are no Nigerian professionals in top of the mill jobs . I'm guessing you have either lived abroad as an illegal and obviously couldn't get a decent job and had to go back home in defeat or you have never even left the shores of Naija before cos all the embassies have refused you visas countless times!
DeleteEither way , you need to reinvent yourself girl and stop hating!
At Julit hahaha continue and dont mind people. It's funny. The hustle is real however we are know there are professionals as well. Person wey no get degree na the above be daily bread na
DeleteYes.. I agree with you. I am a Research Pharmacist here in the UK and own my company which consults for most of the major pharmaceutical companies in the world. Without sounding immodest I would say that there are so many responsible Nigerians in my feld and all earn in the excess of half a million to a million pounds yearly after tax. Not all Nigerian men are loafers and criminals here in the West, its just the negligible few that makes it seem that way. However as these minority have a lot of time on their hands, they are able to have the time to decieve women thereby causing a lot of havoc and creating the negative impression of diasporian male Nigerians that now sticks.
ReplyDeleteHard work in any sphere and clime of human existence would always pay off, so does making adequate plans ahead of taking any step.
There are so many great achievers amongst Nigerian men and women especially here in the West, despite the negative press, racism and acute generalisations that they suffer - they still keep up.
God bless you bro!
DeleteBoo@3.45 please are u married? Gimme your details. I am a hardworking woman too.
DeleteGlad to see I am not the only one echoing in an empty room on this subject. Many are so biased about what Nigerians do for a living they don't want to see the positive sides of things. Not every Nigerian does odd jobs and are illiterate. Truth is, most of those who are comfortable keep away.
DeleteOga phamarcist, u can be my guy u knw..*wink*
DeleteVeryyyy True
ReplyDeleteDon't you know the person that propped to you? ????
ReplyDeleteYou want to marry a man you don't know Jack shit about?????
Na wa to you o.
Smh..aint some of the men in nigeria also broke??..Where in this world aint there broke men??? Do u expect every nigerian abroad to be rich??? Mtcheew..Must we all marry rich people??
ReplyDeleteDid he tell u his occupation? U guys need to talk nd pls do ur underground checking too or won't u knw if u're in a relationship wit a responsible guy? Pls stop deceiving ursef.
ReplyDeleteStella thank you so much for publishing my story this way. Am so grateful for some of the comments here. Please am not the lazy type that wants to live off a man's sweat but I also want commitment and contribution too from a man I will marry, I don't want to be the only breadwinner that will suffer to raise my family cos am scared the way some men behaves now living full responsibilty for their wife, and talking from experience of a sister and close friend, whenever I visits her I shed tears cos of d way d irresponsible lazy husband treates a good n hardworking lady like that living the whole responsiblity of the house for her including buying recharge cards and Nepa bills. Please I don't pray for such experience in my life, marrying a Gigolo or runs man is more deadlier than HIV according to my own understanding.
ReplyDeleteSo if u know all these..Why bring your story here???..Some men all over the world are poor...Copy that...It has nothing to do with being in europe...Aint some men in niaja also poor??? Do u expect every nigerian abroad to be rich????...haba
DeleteYou are simply a gold digger.why are you so concerned about the man's financial statues? Anyways, here in Europe is 50/50 unlike in Nigeria that some women send our men to early grave through too much financial burden. Only the man will pay the house rent, food, children school fees, clothing and both in-laws responsibilities. Upon that complains
DeleteLol @ contribution. Have U thot abt wat U can do when U get to Italy plus the language?
DeleteSince you yearn this much for our advice, oya put down his full name here, let's give you d lowdown on him
DeleteWhy do all naija men have to pay for the stupidness of a few???
ReplyDeleteI live in England and most of my male friends are ambitious young and professionals on good pay checks, my husband inclusive
You attract who you are!!! An ambitious young lady should not be attracting low lives!!!
And don't get me wrong, a jobless man with ambition and drive doesn't fall under my "low life" categorisation so Pleaseeeeee do not generalise.
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First of all do u ur self av a job? Secondly uk guys most of them are lazy and broke! They would rather live off women and let them take care of them, most of dem no get Pali too so no decent job and then fraud is their specialty, I dated one mofo for years took care of him throughout uni and dumped his useless ass for a better man, he found one mums to marry him in naij tho but nothing has changed he is still ijobless and broke claiming to do contracts lol the mums girls eyes go soon open! Most uk guys r lazy and it's us women that put up with their lazy broke ass, imagine jobless broke idiot go dey toast and an dem dey do shina pass, awon oloshii
ReplyDeleteThis post is a bit STUPID ..........There are many young Nigerian working professionals in the UK doing well . Why put everyone inside the same box.
ReplyDeleteThe key is to find more information abt what the person does, educational background very impt and all . After that then you make a determination . Just come to Jesus house, brentcross and see loads young working professionals .
DRUGs indeed . Smh
Yes!!! I go to JH! Jh and many other places too!
DeleteAll these 'arrangee' marriages get as e be o. You want to enter into a lifelong contract with a man you know nothing about (not even what he does for a living) because he lives abroad. My dear, advice urself o... Even people that see their prospective spouses everyday sometimes get deceived. I think you shoul spend time communicating with him and actually get to know him before you make any decisions
ReplyDeleteAlso talk to God to help you in your decision making
My dear, listen to me....
ReplyDeleteI have lived in Italy for 13 years with my family. So this is coming from someone that knows.
Never EVER marry a guy that lives in Italy no exceptions, I don't care what he is telling you. Italy does not have a future for your kids. Uk is better because its an English speaking country and you can adapt or find a job even if it is brown collar job but in Italy, its not so. It will render you useless especially if you are an educated woman with a bright future (those ones feel it more). Italy has not gotten to the stage where foreigners are accepted....Germany is different so is Uk especially if you are educated but in Italy, your education means nothing.
First, you will sit in the house for years learning the language and their people are very racist especially in the north. There is still economic crises in Italy so many people don't have a job and many more are loosing theirs. Our people are suffering there!
I have friends there that tot they would do a masters in Italy or get a good job and send millions to their parents but that is not the case. This women ended up siting at home and producing children, talk of depression. Out of the people I know in the state I live, my both parent are the only ones with good and stable jobs even at that, they worry that the company can shut down at any time.
Please, don't make mistake by marrying the guy, I don't care if your love pass that of Romio and Juliet. Believe me, it would be the worst mistake of your life. Listen to me please, am trying to save you.
Even the UK is the same thing, many very well educated people are wasting away and those that are lucky to get reasonable jobs are under constant worry that they can lose it anytime. If you have a mortgage, forget it, the jealous Oyibo can cause you to lose your job for nothing, really. It's a rat race but then everyone has the right to decide for themselves.
Delete@julit. I am a taxi driver in the U.S. I am happy doing it because I am transition. Don't fool urself, except u arrive here with plenty money or u studied here, ur Nigerian degree is worth less. U need to go back to school in order to get a good job. I have 2 degrees from Nigeria. Did I mention I net $6K monthly driving cab.
ReplyDeleteIt isnamwhole lot better than fraudulent life many Nigerians live both at home at abroad.
immigrants generally take the path of doing these odd jobs and this is a society that doesn't judge you the way we do in Nigeria.
A hardworking man with ambition is better anyday. Its not about where u r coming from but about where u r going.
Dont mind julit...Aint nothing wrong with being a taxi driver or security here...They prolly even earn more than your so called office job...
DeleteThank u
DeleteDeceit! Come and drive taxi here in nigeria. If u like net 10k. How much be your own inside? Come home and hustle honourably my brother. God will honour you. Are your papers in tact?
DeleteAwwww ..1000 likes
DeleteAlex , God bless you for being honest but you taxi drivers mess around a lot with all these akata ladies...
DeleteAt least you are doing something. (Not fraud). A relative has been in the US for 12 yrs doing nothing. He can't even come to Naija as he no get pali. Always begging for money. Sad
DeleteAlex, good for you. One thing I disagree with is this talk about Nigerian degrees being worthless abroad. There are countless Nigerians with high powered jobs abroad who got their jobs with their already acquired Nigerian degrees but went through what is referred to as In - house training in their chosen fields, call it a remedial, also such individuals did brush up a little to come up to date in their chosen fields and were easily assimilated into the work field. A lot of People get confused when they are told by their resigned relatives that there's no hope for their JJC relative with their Nigerian education and therefore have to go drive cabs, work as "Nurses" or find menial jobs just like them
DeleteMany have fallen into this misleading hole and become resigned to fate and more or less out of jealous expect everyone to go through the same. For those of you planning to travel, especially to the U.S, as long as you have your PALI Correct, the sky is the limit for you. Don't listen to the jealous ones that would want you to be on their level. Back in the 80's Nd 90's a lot of Nigerians ended up working at Macdonald's because their relatives or friends who they stayed with made it seem there was no other way out but to go through that rite of passage, whereas there were alternative ways of earning. For those who have packed, about to ship out, try focusing on research before you land. The fact that your relative or friend has lived abroad for donkey years does not mean that they know it all. You will be surprised you surpass them in knowledge about certain aspects. What I am writing is a bit of a deviation, yes, but if it benefits one or two people then that's great. Like someone said, if you are in a relationship, don't start looking for faults to dump the one in Nigeria to justify marrying Ms Akata or Mr Jeri Curl. Do some soul searching and pray, God will show you the way. If your answer keeps coming up as No, No, No, then you probably are right. Shout out to Helen and Fidelis Aigbadon How Una dey?
My dear run for ur life,im married to an abroad husband,my husband is in holland n if I start with my story here it won't contain dis blog,infact stella u need to bring out a post for women with abroad husbands..bk to u,if u r not strong u just can't deal,so for u to come here n ask for advice den u r definitely not strong enough so ruuuuunNnnnn!!!!!
ReplyDeleteBabes, confirm that he is not married too o. Before awon London boys go carry you do play play.
ReplyDeletePls my sister,run 4 ur life.my sister is currently suffring bc of dis so called abroad marriage.d guy doesn't hv any source of livelihood n he is back in nigeria now eatin from my sis nysc alawi.ruuuuuuuun b4 it bcoms late
ReplyDeleteShine your eye O! Most of them are fake.
ReplyDelete@lagos is my home, do u attend jesus house, we can hook up much love from Gmoney
ReplyDeleteIts true...stella we need a post on husbands leaving abroad pls
ReplyDeleteNa wah o,
ReplyDeleteStella so you've not watched Toke's interview wiv liz yemoja.you too dey carry last
ReplyDeletewhy do you need a man to take care of you? are you disabled? can't you get a freaking job? you breed of filthy leaches, money hungry heffa. true love ask for nothing, dumb ass.
ReplyDeleteYimu!
DeleteEven d bible said a man shld tkcare of his household so wats ur point here? Or u think marriage is bf/gf biz? Pls wake up.
DeleteGot no personal experiences with them but ive heard that all these yankee men are never worth the trouble they put ladies into. however, theres always an exception to the rule, so he may be different, who knows. hey fellow blog visitors, experience variety @ www.raajusblog.blogspot.com ...see you soon. mmuahh!!
ReplyDeleteShine ur eyes bc. all dat glitters is nt gold
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ReplyDeletehttp://onubiyi.blogspot.co.uk/2013/11/funke-akindele-and-bastardisation-of.html
Spot on darl.
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ya'all right but regardless of your profession or pay grade, who you are is who you really are. having money just create a disguise for the ladies. but if you respect women in general, you will always keep it real with them.
ReplyDeletei advise you get to know his profile regardless of where he's from. i guess your blinded by the disapora things and youve barred other suitors back in nigeria. just play wise cos a wrong turn sticks like gum.
For those of you living in Nigeria, you will all soon be educated. *Something* is coming soon
ReplyDeleteMy sister, na true talk o! If i had been wise enough to find out information d way u are doing , am sure i would have made a better decision. I had a very good life in naija but i was brought up in a setting that believes a woman's life is incomplete without a man. Na hin i marry mr available. I abandoned everything in naija and, relocated to UK. Since i came here , it's been nothing but regrets. I could not get a good job and had to settle for a care job where i give personal care to old people i.e cleaning their bum and packing their shit o. Can u imagine. The man did not explain this to me . As if tha is not enough, my husband has refused to get a job o. He keeps on looking for a security job that is not available. He has refused to do the same care job that am doing and to think he got me this job but he refused to get one himself . I work althrough d week and at the end of lt all, i shoulder all d responsibilities in d house {pay rent , recharge electricity&gas,consul tax, tv license, buy food and even give money to hobby. I have been here for 4 years now and i can't even brag of £300 in my account. If someone had warned me, i would never have come. Am sooo unhappy .
ReplyDeleteIt is well!!!
ReplyDeleteBiko Aunty Stella, do a post on abroad husbands so people can learn. Thank you. I love ya blog and ur personality, ure a sensitive person like me.lol
ReplyDeleteAbroad husband is a dance of the spirits....if u can't do it, pls bail. You don't trust ur suitor cos if u did, u won't be on here asking for our opinion. Pls MOST abroad guys are double headed cobras. I've not hd a personal experience with any as God saved me early enough but my dear, I see women around me full of regrets for giving in to their wimps. It doesn't matter if he leaves u here or travels with u, it is as bad as it gets. Be careful.
ReplyDeletePS: stella pls pls do a post on Abroad husbands....too much to be learnt.
Pls do ooo,i want to learn
ReplyDeleteanonymous 3:06 you are the rude, uncultured idiot....you lack home training and manners......why call her an idiot cos she asked a question? if that is how your parents brought you up? not all of us who come to this blog where trained that way.....
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