I was forced into marriage immediately after high school, I managed to graduate from a partime university. My marriage is now 13yrs and i have three kids with hubby. I am still in it because I wouldn't want to bring shame to myself and my parents and also for the sake of my kids. Hubby doesn't 'really' beat me (the second time he tried beating me, I made sure I gave him a permanent mark so since then he tries to control his temper when we are arguing).
My hubby is a NAG (he complains unnecessarily) and you know when a couple is arguing, the female voice is usually the loudest but in my own case, hubby's the loudest.
My major problem which I want you to share with your readers is this: my husband is always saying that since I came into his life he has known no progress; I have tried comparing him with the way he was when we newly got married and I can see progress, though we don't have any property of our own yet (we have a land in Lagos but haven't developed it yet).
Stella, do you know that I had to give this man my business capital when he was in need of money yet he still has the mind to call me an enemy of his progress. What I recently started giving as a reply is this: "you have fucked out your luck on other girls". Stella, my hubby is a dog; he has no taste and class, he just fucks anything in skirt (Sometimes I wonder if it's because he didn't attend college) so that's my reason for giving such reply. They say " you can't eat your cake and have it". I have asked him to send me back the way he came and took me from my parents so he will be free form me and start making progress but he refused.
Please I want you to share this with your readers so I can know how to tackle this because its making me loose my self esteem and see my self as a failure.
The lord lead you aright
ReplyDeleteNa wa...
Singles will cry,,GOD y hath thou forsaken me?...am not married bla bla blA
Married women will cry,,,,GOD,,,,ds marriage ,,am tired already,,,i cant cope anymore...i prefer being single
Which way now?
GOD WILL HEAL OUR HOMES....AMEN
@GALORE
You are so right. God help us all, Amen
DeleteMy dear poster u are not a failure,jst keep surrounding urself wth positive things nd people,go out more often mk friends,by the time u come bk home wth ur kids u won't even hv time for his nagging..if he too nag or curse u,make sure u throw it bk at him where it will hurt him the most,in a subdued way sha,mk he nor blow ur eye.buh quietly be throwing big big words at him that will mk him think his life!as in tell him some home truths,don't jst let him put u down or talk u down..u too make him loose his self esteem..tell him to go and see his mates and what they are doing for their wives..tell him that if not for him that came to tie down ur life,u wld have been like so so and so or u wld have been wth so so and so..jst form any big man name..and above all try to be happy no matter what.chanel all ur love and happiness towards ur kids,u are not a failure to them..they are the most important in ur life right now..
DeleteAh! I'm not married but I don't think this advise is ok o. This would make the marriage full of hatred now. Ok what if he beats her up? Ah! Mio mo o
DeleteR.S
Julit...where r u? Miss u.#no homo
DeleteNot a good advice to make a man look less/emasculated o! The results r u horrible. But dear poster biko find something to keep u active and busy. Church activities, serious business pursuits.
DeleteI'm single o but I don't leave my shop till 9/10pm sometimes when I get home I'm too tired too deal with my "annoying" sister(cant give. Details).
And I have learnt not to hold any grudges: my father taught me it's wrong to keep bringing past events into today's argument if one wants peace&reconciliiation. I truly fear to tell u to be more patient (like you haven't been doing that) but don't let your. patience run out please.
BUT get positively active my sister. An idle mind is the devil's breeding ground for u to focus on the negatives. Even my "sister of life" was complaining about my excitement just yesterday like iis anything new happening at work that I ate a horrible food and smiled 2ruout and said thankyou. She's like this your positivity don dey fear me o even ontop bad food. Lol.
God guide and strengthen U in Jesus name. Look to him for peace in your home for with God nothing is shall be impossible
it is well
ReplyDeleteI thought I was a nagger until I met my bf, I couldn't believe I could keep quiet to listen to some else nag. I go just weak dey look am
DeleteSweetheart, u took d word ryt outta ma mouth!...I tot I was d only one who noticed guys nowadays NAG more than ladies.... My coz kips saying his million n one girls nag n he tells it to dier faces, buh God, dis guy nags like hell, I had to tell him, guy u fucking nag too much! D tables have finally turned, am waiting for more, when guys will sit n CRY saying, "dat girl just dumped me, or "she took my virginity(hahaha).......GUYS NAG, its so true!
DeleteWhy won't they turn around and become nags when they have become unambitious and lazy!can't imagine how someone will blame his wife for not making it?huh?
DeleteIn d days of our fathers',most mothers were full time housewives,and the men provided without complaining.something is truely wrong with most guys dese days.
Infact that time women will toast them,use and dump them is already here!
Guys better wake up!
I feel 4u my dear, u are not n would never be a failure, he is d failure cos he failed to kip his marriage vows...some men just don't knw dat sleeping wit strange women can tk away ur luck...I pray 4u darl, stay strong
ReplyDeleteYou are so right cos if you are to achieve a 100% in life, with committing adultery and all sorts of fornication you will achieve far less in life. My take in life. Keep away from strange men and women.
DeleteI'm nt married o,but sometime my guy can like to shout,bt he will tell you he is nt shouting but trying to emphasize,so most time when we are quarreling and nagging unnecessarily I try not to say anything I just keep quiet and trust me it scares him a lot then he will decide to keep quiet.my advice is when he is nagging don't say anything just say sorry and let it go,i pray it works
ReplyDeleteMy dear even if she keeps quiet when he nags,,it still won't heal her self esteem,or make her stop feeing like a failure..cos most times wen men nag,they rain insults on u too.you won't understand cos it boyfriend and girlfriend,by the time u graduate to husband and wife,I bet u,u will almost go crazy..to nag different from to shout oh.
DeleteI hope u will continue to keep quiet afta marriage o
DeleteWhat I recently started giving as a reply is this: "you have fucked out your luck on other girls" Very good line. Men beware of omo omi.
ReplyDeleteHello dear, I know what and how it feels to be belittled worse still from a non graduate, all I will advice you is find that which gives you joy, that which makes you feel beautiful learn to tune his voice out from your head when his talking....with time when you recover your self esteem sure you will be better I had to find my own identity when I got married too... Most people that have low esteem or feel inadequate always try to bring their partner down to their level dude have seen you have something he lacks and instead of working on himself he feels bitter. You will be fine for now concentrate on yourself and your lovely kids
ReplyDeleteMy dear pls don't loose ur life cos of that trash he his saying am also in ur shoe just allittle different.my husband do refer to me as enemy of progress but one thing am sure of is he doesn't sleeping around NO and this my husband the month he meant me he was promoted when our baby was 1yr 6mth he was given another promotion and yet my legs are not gud dear just put urself in prayers and tell God to fight for cos from his sleeping around he meant has gone to sleep wt an ill luck lady that has collected all he has to make it in life. My advice is go on ur kness,fast and pray so he will not affect u wt his own. Gud luck
ReplyDeleteGbagaun!!!
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DeleteWho get panadol here? I need am o
DeleteMadam pidgin is allowed here
DeleteHe is just a lame arse guy like my hubby.....they always insult you to make themselves feel better.....my hubby is a dog, has no respect for the marriage, doesn't give me any allowance cos I earn more than him yet he says I have not added anything to his life since I married him.....we have been waiting for kids 8 years.....I do everything for myself cos he lives abroad, yet he claims I have not added value to his life...yet he takes the glory and feel like a king when people compliment how I look and how he is taking care of me......I have had 3 miscarriages and have done IVF thrice but nothing yet.....as soon as I have a baby am out.....no man is worth the drama
ReplyDelete"..as soon as I have a baby am out..." really? Ur plans doesn't make sense at all. Why not leave him now that there is no baby or u want to bring a baby without a father figure?
DeleteWat kind of telephone marriage are u in? Did d bible ever state dat husband nd wife wld live apart? My dear u re married but single get it right nd clear , almost all guys abroad have a child , take it or leave it. Stop wasting ur time . Move on biko.
Deletehmn na wa o. Husband open mouth call wife enemy of im own progress. hmn....i was in a similar situation though this was not marriage, it was just a bf/gf relationship. Well needless to say, we are no longer together anyway. i don't understand why some naija men take pride in putting their wives or their partners down. some of them do not understand that your role as a man is to raise and lift your spouse up, make your spouse smile and forever cherish them. some people its a pity feel that as long as i married you, give you my name, just be grateful. i bow o why you still dey call am marriage sef, wen you know say im dey stick im thing inside anyone, left, right centre... its amazing what the nigerian woman puts up with sha all because "we don't want to bring shame to our marriage". him wen dey sleep around dey make small pikin laugh you for street nko... na wa sha.... some idiots will reply now and say "put it all in God's hands" as if our God likes ugliness.... there's this saying God don't like Ugly and neither should us nigerian women, we should be proud, stand up tall and train our children with the same standards.... anyway, keep putting up with it, until the day im carry Aids come give you. Then that rubbish marriage you dey try to keep, will foreva be gone.
ReplyDeleteMust u call ppl idiots to lay emphasis, u sound so pained n frustrated. U really need help ASAP
DeleteMy dear women find a way to make yourselves happy. Believe me you don't need any man to do that for you. By the time they see that you are happy and living your life even while with them they will start running after you like a dog.
ReplyDeleteNigerian men kee3p on deceiving themselves. If you sleep with women outside your marriage, your luck diminishes. I have a neighbour that is extremely faithful to his wife. You should see how this man wins government contracts and he hardly leaves his home. But Naija men no go hear word o. They will keep on f*cking their luck out of their lives
ReplyDeleteThat's what they do not know...how can you keep sinning and expect God to bless you just like that, just for free asin.
Deletewhat about the ones that are unfaithful and yet they still win government contracts? Your logic is flawed.
DeleteWhat about women that sleep around and amass wealth. Being unfaithful is bad but please stop the religious cause and effect talk.
My goodness.
ReplyDeleteI ask and ask again. Women why do u put up with this shit??? What the f*** is wrong with u people???
Word of advice to all the singles out there. Before u get married make sure u have something doing. Get a job, get a degree, learn a trade, be an apprentice. Anything. Just do something that would uplift u while married. 13 yrs in marriage. U didn't tell us whether u have improved yourself during this time. Are u still dependent on ur husband for even the air u breathe in??
Nigerian women wake up from it self inflicted slumber. How can anyone stay with a man that continually brings her down and then cheats on her??? Madam poster are u a dog???? Even nearly dead dogs bite after a while. What is wrong with Nigerian women???? Gosh. This is abuse my dear poster and the reason it continues is that u have given ur abuser power over u.
I just love d part word of advice u gave, am super single, just finished Nysc,am even learning tailoring nd I promise myself if I don't do masters nd get a good job no marriage.
DeleteThe question is why can't we be like these white women that walk out of their marriages nd still get paid
My greatest fear is making it wrong in marriage
The prblem is the nigerian law does not favor married women, otherwise alot of men would have been kicked out of their homes or paying half their earnings as alimony. Advice look well and develop yourself
DeleteMemphis, darling now dat my God has wrestled u away 4rm d grip of Victoria; can we hook up?, pretty pleaseeeeeeeeeee!
ReplyDeleteWinifred is dat u??? Welcome oooo.
DeletePhrinkies...LMAO. Na only sabi who Winifred be o :D
DeleteMemphis, Hmmmmmm. #lipsealed#
DeleteI usually feel shocked or rather bemused wen supposedly matured women kom here and enunciate d role of a man in a relationship or marriage. Why do we think marriage wil not bring out d best and d worst in all of us. Wen its gud, it goes unnoticed, wen tins turns awry, d man bekoms a scapegoat. Women shld learn to be humble, faithful and submissive in a relationship. Wit time, tins wil gradually take shape. Make concerted efforts, women, to make ur marriage work. Perseverance is key to a long lasting union. No man hasn't got irritating tendencies. Finally try nt to underestimate the power of prayer and God factor in our homes too.
ReplyDeleteSo women should be submissive bla bla bla ba? I'm sure you tell your sisters same thing sha
DeleteI hate nagging like HIv, nvr had anytn to do with dem nagina not even my ex. Prays dt my future hubby won't nag.
ReplyDeleteWhat even causes all this abuse thingy? How can one nip this monster @ bud. My relative whose been married for just a year already wants out of her marriage and me get men on my neck and don't know who to choose! God please oooo I can't stand abuse in any form pls help me choose right ooo.
ReplyDelete@trina
God created us in His own image, therefore you are not a failure! He has already made himself a failure. Thank God there is no domestic violence and abuse involved yet. Obviously, you don't love him you are only concerned about your kids.
ReplyDeleteLet me give you some hints that could help you:
1. Ignore him when he nags (if possible, leave the scene) if you argue with him, he will tell you things that will affect your self esteem and may even hit you. Some people are not usually lucky with domestic violence.
2. Discover your SELF-WORTH and dwell in it.
3. make your kids your friends and husband.
4. while he's busy with his girls, take your kids out and show them love.
5. try your best to cook good food.
6. be independent, if you are not educated, acquire a skill to be able to take care of yourself.
7. don't deny him sex its a sin to God, even if you have to face the wall or just lie there when he's done, he goes. if you discover that he's infected, use a condom.
8. get a dildo for self-satisfaction and ignore him.
9. occupy your time with things that make you happy - books, bible, TV, etc. talk to good friends.
10. Pray to God to give you peace, patience. Live your life for YOU. If you develop High BP, you will leave the kids to suffer because he will ignore the children and flirt more with the girls.
Good luck.
U re th problem with the women folk in this country. She should sleep with a man who sleeps with women outside?? Pray tell me is there a disease meter that she can buy and test on her husband every time befor she lies down and faces he wall like u suggest???? U make me sick. Tueeeh. I spit on u. WTF do u people put up wih abuse??? Why? Why? Why? Shit
DeleteIs she wood that she should sleep with him even it means facing wall, u people think women don't ve emotion abi, by the time she will discover he is infected is when she is infected and on a life time of ARV
DeleteImagine..if u notice there is infection, pls use condom. Ow will she know that he has infection. Abeg my sister HIV is real ooo.
DeleteAnon 3:20, your definition of a matured woman is a doormat. It is only in our society that men are not tasked to be leaders in the home and steer the marriage aright. It is the woman's responsibility to bear adultery but men do not have to...it is a woman's responsibility to shut up and not anger a man when he is using her as a punching bag...it is a woman's responsibility to uplift an irresponsible man who does not know his own gender and needs someone to make him feel like the man that he is. Please you all should stop encouraging foolishness. I am not one to shout divorce but I will always say it, I do not take advice from Nigerians when it comes to marriage. Y'all have the must unfulfilled lives and marriages. Women living in misery just to save face. HIV is so rampant and you all have turned God into some kind of oracle. He is sleeping with Eastern Nigeria, pray and he will change...he is beating you, pray and he will change (mind you he was doing all this before she said I do). It is really sad that a people that are seen as confident and Africa's forerunners can not be progressive when it comes to quality of life.
ReplyDeleteTrust and believe God and have some common sense. It is annoying how your women suffer (not that other women don't) but Naija women take the most nonsense with absolutely nothing to show for it.
God bless u for this comment. Nigerian women make me puke. God forbid. Little wonder their men treat them like rags
DeleteU so right, nd dis actually comin frm a man.
DeleteMy dear... U don talk am finish.... U need not say more.
DeleteMy hubby acts funny at times and when he does.... I give it back to him.... I hate a man who lies down and watches his wife bear responsibilities meant for a man.... Sometimes, I ask him if I were his sister, would he lie down and watch me do all the heavy work I do in a place like d UK where we have no help.
Well.... Most times I pretend he no longer exists... I just feel he wants to distract me from God's plans for me.
At 33 yrs, after 9 yrs of marriage, 3 boys and 1 girl, an M.sc degree and recently an MBA degree.... I feel God has been very very faithful to me and no man, I repeat no man can bring me down....
So my Darl girl... U owe urself d duty of being the best you can be.... Sometimes our so- called husband do not even want us to attain certain heights in life....I remember when my hubby kept saying, I was wasting my time acquiring degrees from Naija to UK, I didn't mind him o,I kept my eyes only on my dreams.... Look beyond the physical.... Look into the spiritual and push urself even when it seems so tough.... Successfully combining ur career and ur home would make u, a winner and you would surely have the last laugh.
I believe in delayed gratification.... At the appointed time, ur children would honour you and call u blessed. The husband will make a 360degree turn and sing only of your praise.
Keep pushing and learn to ignore him.... See him as oh... A roommate I must have to live with and then, don't forget to dutifully do everything you should do.
We are strong black women... What does not kill you, only makes you stronger.
Anon 6.25 pm simply put, u are an inspiration.thanks.
DeleteO and I am a man. A married one. Please do not be offended by my rants. I decided against raising my daughters in a place that would encourage this train of thought. I have girls and I hate them to turn into what I see today. My wife is strong and I love her for this. I did not want my daughters ever saying...If I just keep quiet maybe he will not slap me again.
ReplyDeleteRead this story and be shocked!!! Women dey suffer!!
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All the marriage posts on this blog be making me get scared of marriage seriously..so I ask,is marriage always this bitter?...God please oo,I wana have a happy family..@poster,U aint a failure..ur man doesn't just appreciate u,just try and stay happy..God loves u!!
ReplyDeleteMy bf nags to like hell he even said dat women re never allowed to talk back wen a man is talking, he accuses me of any little thing, like wen the rechargeable lamb got burnt by electricity he said it fell from my hand that's why it got damaged.
ReplyDeleteU are a shame to ur parents
DeleteAfi lamb! Sheep nko? Sigh
DeleteMy bf nags to like hell he even said dat women re never allowed to talk back wen a man is talking, he accuses me of any little thing, like wen the rechargeable lamb got burnt by electricity he said it fell from my hand that's why it got damaged.
ReplyDeleteMy dad does d same exact thing to my mum. I love him, but he has rili messed up dat woman's self esteem. But she has taken solace in us. We re her besties, we give her a reason to breathe, she made friends and took her mind off him. The insults still hurt, but you have to disregard most of them, know that he is d one with a problem. U re wonderfully and fearfully made by God. Pray and learn to silent treat d bitch. Ignore hm, move on wtout hm. He ll try to catch up later. Nandy
ReplyDeleteNandy dear its nt only ur dad o,my dad does d same too & d worst part is dat he has finally abandoned her n he's presently stayn wit his 2nd wife,weneva pple ask him he tries 2paint my mum as a bad person in deir presence.wen myself n my sis asked her one day she sed wen dey first met dat he (claimed)he luvd her,she sed if sme1 had told her he'll bcum such a monster she wud av doubted. Weneva I luk at my mum I jst feel pity 4her n I always say 2myself dat I'll mke up 4all her sufferings..tho he pays our skl fees buh he doesn't care abt my mum's welfare.I jst hpe he realises his mistakes b4 its too late n I pray God gives my mum d strength 2grow stronger..I doubt if I'm ever goin 2marry tho cuz I can't bear 2suffer in d hands of any man
DeleteNa wa ooo! If married women dey complain like these, wetin single ladies go do na. Poster just do wat makes U happy.
ReplyDeleteSDK later i will share my stories just dont have the nerve to do so now.
My father n one of my brothers can nag for africa. My dad tormented my mum eh, gosh that man is evil.
ReplyDeleteThank God for us her kids, now my dad dey envy her...the only thing I feel for him is hate. May God help me.
You married a loser, plain and simple. So as with all losers they find someone to blame for their lack of success in life. Of course you will be the most likely person, who else can he blame, if he refuses to blame himself? Nuh your burden to bear. You say you will be with him to the end, so all you have to do is grin and bear it and take whatever he dishes out verbally, because he is yours until death do you part.
ReplyDeleteIgnore ur hubby my dear,he's not matured.Don't let the things he says affect u.Face ur career and kids.He'll realize his mistake one day.
ReplyDeleteMy spouse nags too but now we just live together like flatmates and our marraige is just 6yrs with 2 kids. Am really unhappy
ReplyDeleteI like your comment # 26.
ReplyDeleteI believe in prayer strongly, but Nigerians take it overboard!
The bible told us to be wise as a serpent and humble as a dove and Faith without works is dead!
MONEY and SEX are the 2 issues holding women back from walking out of a marriage! Taking care of 2-6 children alone is no joke since our judicial system makes mockery of divorce settlement! And sex outside marriage is completely frowned on!
ReplyDeleteSo these women endure all the craps from their men.
Believe me, if 60% of the man's income/assets goes to wives in divorce proceedings as done abroad, many women would jump out of these abusive marriages at the drop of a hat!
I totally agree with u!. A marriage that cant nuture a woman is no marriage but slavery. And men need to know that when a wife is happy with her husband, the man is automatically blessed.
DeleteMoney and sex bo? Not true. It varies for some women. My mum took shit from my dad for a long time. Infact the 1st time he beat her up, she cried for a week cos she couldn't believe he was capable of such. Now, my dad is a good man but somewhere along the line, he lost it. He didn't have a job at the time and my mom's little kiosk was generating a lot of income and she wasn't so educated. So I guess a part of him was jealous. Other times were slaps and bullying. The next time he tried beating her, she took matters into her hands. Took a pestle and a bottle and dared him to make a move. Mum's a hot head. Because of marriage, she became calm but that day, my father knew craze jam craze as she wouldn't stop. Guess wat, he stopped beating her. They later got a divorce and mum had to support 5 kids with just a kiosk where she sold snacks and drinks. We were her life and went to good schools and wore good clothes, denying herself good things. It wasn't easy taking care of 5 kids with no support coming from anywhere but she did. Long story short, she's reaping all she has sown.
DeleteWen I n my fiance strted 2 date,he ws all swit n lovey dovey lyk all new rltnshps,as tym went on,wen we argue,he wuld expect me 2 kip quiet even wen he says sumtins am displeased wit,I told,Mr man if u want a woman dat wuld take anytin n evrytin 4rm u witout respondin den I am nt d woman 4 u,u beta go find a walk over cos I wuld neva b such.....he is alwaz jokin abt hw I am d 2nd Margret Thatcher....ofcourse,I knw wen 2 rily kip quiet n listen,Ladies,b4 marriage,dnt pretend,show ur true colors,if u dnt lyk sumtin,say it....nt dat u wuld pretend 2 b ok wit wateva ur man does den wen ur married n settled in,u start complaining,ofcourse,d man wuld see u as a "bad woman".....wat u wuld nt eat @ all,never smell!dats my 2bits 4 y'all ladies in d house
ReplyDeleteMy ex GF nagged so much that my brain aftr sumtime shut down my hearing abilities, so I only see her lips moving buh cnt hear a thing, its like a gift now..
ReplyDeleteLet me share my story,i once dated a secondary school drop out.At first he was so nice and caring then at a point his nagging skill started coming out.First rule is anytime i see his incoming call,i should drop any call am answering and pick his call.Second rule anytime i want to answer my own call,i should put it in speaker whenever he is with me,Rule no 3,that he doesn't want to see me playing wit any male folks my cousins,his blood brothers inclusive that anything can happen that he want to guide me jealously,Rule no 4,Anytime he calls me that whenever i pick his call,i should call him baby.My dear,i just left d relationship quietly.This was my childhood friend ,i met him recently after 12yrs.The lesson i learnt is,never go back to the trash,never give an ex a chance because there are better things ahead.I have learnt my lessons.He lies,he cheats,he smokes,he drinks i keep regretin why i gave him a second chance.I still reserve my most painful experiences and what i passed through in his hand.I leave him in the hands of God.
ReplyDeleteWhat can I say? That's marriage for you! My hubby tells me that I am a misfortune, since he met me he has never seen happiness, bla, bla, bla! Before I used to almost kill myself when he starts talking, I almost went insane, but now I don't let what he says get to me, it has become a normal routine now, and it really doesn't matter to me anymore! I just tell myself that he is saying it to hurt me and it is not true, so whatever!
ReplyDeleteTo know more about my story visit my blog koolblend.blogspot.com
Some men are not worth that title...beasts in human form! My sister is married to such, abusive, nagging, sanctimonious bastard! The man can nag one to death. His kids are sooo afraid of him & his 5 years old son told him one day that he behaves like one woman that sells fish at their estate ( a well known wahala madam) he didn't believe his ears that day
ReplyDeleteA man on whom our family has spent close to 5 million trying to uplift his life & business for the well being of our sister & his 3 beautiful boys will open his dirty mouth & say our sister is the reason for his downfall, a witch that does not want his happiness! (forgetting that it was his bloody cousin that ran away with his chicken change & left him in his condition! forgetting that she is the one lobbying us to raise money for her him) and still beat her on top & rape her! (yes marital rape is real)
But we pass am...we will give him the shocker of his life very soon & we will make him regret ever nursing evil thoughts towards our sister who loved him till he pushed her to the brink of insanity & made her question the usefulness of her life with him.
Never get entangled with a frustrated man...he is deadlier than an aggrieved venomous snake, deadlier than a wounded lion or a spooked elephant.
@anon 49- you are my sister from another mother! I want to go for my masters next year from my small kobo kobo i have save. my current bf who is singing marriage is seriously trying to discourage me. but i am now deaf and dumb to all that. cos i know these things. i have seen it in my house, when my father discouraged my mum from furthering her career. now my mum regrets till today. my greatest fear in life is entering a man's house without a good source of income. cos i no wan dey look outside. i sabi myself. and all these men, they can change by d second. generous can become stingy. nice can become queer. d list is endless.
ReplyDeletedear poster, get a job or learn a trade. its obvious u have too much time for ur husband and he is taking advantage of that. biko, find something doing. for d sake of ur kids. so that if ur husband has messed up his luck, u are sure of ur kids future through ur income. good luck, ma.
@anon 40- God bless you madam. I pray he continues to strengthen u. no slowing down. its not over until it is over. i am truly motivated.
ReplyDelete@anon #64- err.... not 100% but the poster has a point. him fit don mate with mami water or girl wey dey possessed. and it will affect him. some are lucky, others are not. okay?
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