''If you read this,please advice me because I'm so confused right now..
i started dating this guy wen i was 17years old and we have been together for 6years now.. Stella he is the only man i have ever known.. i lost my virginity to him and He is a wonderful man.loving, kind, nice, caring, treats me like a queen and very tolerant of my excesses.
In 2010 he went abroad for his masters program, spent some months and came back to Nigeria.he left again and the next time he returned, i discovered he had started seeing another female student there.
He claimed i pushed him away because of my behaviour while he was away and promised to stop seeing her.He even called her in front of me and ended things..
Stella, he went back in May this year and was showering so much attention through calls and pings for the 6months he was gone. When i asked about the particular girl, he claimed they don't see eye to eye again and just gave sketchy details. He returned this October and i discovered he has still been seeing the girl but kept lying to me.
I also discovered a sex tape of him and another girl he made in his house here in Nigeria..
Stella he begged and cried and said it was a mistake and i have tried to forgive him because i really do love this man.. i'm just so confused cos he proposed on my birthday which was shortly after and i said yes but i cant just forget scenes of that video.. Him making love to the girl and telling her how her body is the bomb and how he will miss her..
He claims it was a one night stand but i know he is lying because he does that a lot when it comes to him cheating.. I have tried to forget it but it keeps creeping up in our discussions and hurting us both...
Please advice me.. Is there hope for us or should i end a relationship of 6years. i'm so hurt and i cant stop crying.. ''
*Just sit him down and tell him to come clean,after that you can decide on what to do...if he is a serial liar then search yourself,deep down you will find the answers on whether you should end the relationship or not..just know that it is not a must that you must stay with him because he disvirgined you
na wa for your advise o madam stella..
ReplyDeletefirst at 23yrs old i expect the lady to be emotionally matured enough to see the handwriting on the wall.
a man cheats on you multiple times,then you discover incriminating evidence and STILL you are asking what to do from total strangers on a blog.
you know the right thing to do but are soliciting for comments that will validate and justify your continued sticking with a guy that is clearly no good.
pls continue staying with him,after sowing his wild oats abroad you have first option of being side chick if one of the ladies abroad plays their cards right
If a mans philandering ways bothers you why not keep it moving. This life is too short if you make the wrong decision it will be soooooooooooooooooooooo long. Na disturb you go dey disturb God.
DeleteAye e a ma da o Luca.
DeleteSit down with him and discuss what sef? Poster, I'm surprised you are still with the fool you call a fiance. If you like marry him, then come and pepper us with "I'm suffering" mails.
Desperate girl, sticking with rubbish!
Julit am with u on these jor!
DeleteStella my husband dey ask me say shey me and u get contract?my laptop spoil i could nt read ur blog my husband went quickly to buy me anoda 1 so i go fit dey read STELLA D KOKO as he calls u,he says since it mks me happy .anytym i laff my husband would ask na Stella blog u dey read? i love u Madam Stella u always mk my day an d its my first tym to comment by d way ,Love u scatter ..
ReplyDeleteLol. Stella's blog is very addictive but in a positive sort of way because of her intelligent posts that contribute to mankind's living.
DeleteStella keep it up.
Me too oh! Lol, I always gist my hubby about what I read frm Stella's blog each tym he comes bk frm work, and he enjoys it, but he hardly read blogs. Keep it up stella, ur blog is unique.
DeleteStella muahhh. Rove u SDK
DeleteStella go make una dey goooo smooth, make you happy all day, abeg do not let her into your bedroom oo! Humm! Tatafoo, gossiper, BBC! She go write scripts, print, take pictures, when you wake up the next day, all your shits will be on the front page. Busy body!! Don't forget what she do for living. If una cry reach here say Stella do this, and that? I go laugh that day well well oo.
DeleteStella has said it all.
ReplyDeleteSit him down and have a heart to heart talk.
I wish you all the best.
Shut up jare.
DeleteStella has said what all?
Follow-follow oshi, you and Stella dey share the same brain? Think and put your own opinion down.
Na wa for wire road. Men most sheet. All ladies should ave dis at d coner of dia mind.
DeleteYour written english sucks, big time!
DeleteHe's just a randy person,if u think u can cope then go ahead,cos such pple never change except thru deliverance sessions *rme*
ReplyDeleteBtw I also bet there are other sex tapes with other gals,maybe urs too might be there o!#thinking#search am well o!#yeye guy#
Bia poster, don't deceive ursef o there's no man dat doesn't lie, understand dat only 2% of men out of 100 doesn't cheat or tell lies even in marriage..... I have a frd dat has been married for 11yrs her husband is d best man anyone cld have but guess wat he can turn water to wine nd the wife hails him whenever she notice any lie nd they laugh abt it , life goes on, according to her dat is his weakness nd she's learnt to live wit him like dat cos on all oda aspect he's a sweet husband $ father. So pls don't throw ur man away cos of a little mistake. #Myopinion#
ReplyDeleteGbam,i like ur comment just like people like comments on facebook
DeleteLove your comment
DeleteBabe stick to your guy since he has proposed, all guys have their main chick, and the fact that he nacks another girl or some other girls doesnt change anything thats not cheating its just fun.... imagine he even recorded it, he will never record you and him togeda cos u are the main chick.
DeleteDoes her husband also cheat on her and record d sex?....just asking
DeleteSo if this guy infects her with HIV, would you still say it's a little mistake?!!!. Women! We are our own worst enemy !
DeleteThe wife that laughs off every lie that her husband says is laughing her way into depression
Why are young capable women like this now. Because akon states all men cheat means it is so? We need to start demanding more from our men. It is never okay to cheat and can never be. Keep the bible aside, a man hides his cheating ways from the one he claims to love because he knows it is wrong. And what is wrong is wrong. No justification in this world will make me see cheating as normal by both sexes, it is a deal breaker and should be inculcated in both men and women from childhood to see cheating as wrong. Please, women do not settle for less there is so much more in this life to live for than putting yourselves at risk both emotionally and physically. Ps. Men can be faithful let no one tell you any different!!!
Delete10x Mrs D. Not just cheating be the wahala here. If the man carry HIV cum give am nko? If u ask me, 23is not too late 4 marriage. My sister plz take a walk now while u r stil healthy. A cheating man only gets worse after marriage. 10x!!
Delete@YKiluminating on Yahoo plu$ plu$, with this ur mentality, u shd get tested for hiv and std's. Also let ur main chick know u re in to other chicks so that she can always protect herself from ur infected semen
Delete@ anon 3:10 as a bad sharp guy condom is just 500naira
DeleteI beg you in God's name, if you want to have peace of mind in your marriage RUN from this guy.. He will always always cheat.
ReplyDeleteMust you stay with him because he disvirgined u? You are 23 and young. Find a man who won't make u doubt him. There's nothing like trus in a relationship. You might hurt a little when you leave him but isn't it going to be better to hurt now than to hurt for the rest of your life???
ReplyDeleteYou even know he lies and cheats.....well, give yourself time to decide what you want
Mrs D, u av said part of my mind. The remaining part is that this guy knows whenever he fucks up all he has to do his shed crocodile tears and say its a mistake to convince you cos in hishead u re still that naïve 17yr old. If u like heartbreaks go ahead and marry him
DeleteMy dear just leave him & move on.. He won't stop, it wil even get worst when u marry him. He's a lier and a cheat.
ReplyDeleteLiar not lier** thank me later
Deleteworse not worst ** keep the thank you
Deleteworse not worst ** keep the thank you
DeleteAm tongue tied o, he is a serial cheat n wnt change, so if u can cope with that then no problem.
ReplyDeleteA broken relationship is much more better than a broken marriage. Don't indict yourself with the duration of the relationship or the loosing of your vaginity to him.
ReplyDeleteVaginity ke? 0 ga ☺º°˚˚°º
DeleteLmaooooo,
DeleteBabes I would advice u to leave him alone. He has gotten tired of the relationship nd wants to back out cos its not like he cheated once + he made a sex tape nd if I'm not wrong sex tapes r for memories guys don't want to forget nd he recorded it while he was nigeria so he has been cheatn from the begining nd he is so much in love with the tape that he didn't think he should delete it. That a guys tears is crocodiles' tears cos he would keep doing it nd u would keep hurtn ueself. Pls walk out of the relationship.ut u can also decide to stay cos u seem to b the main chick nd the other girls r just side chicks. U just have to understand that guys can't really date one girl but what u have to b sure about is that u r the main and important girl in his life. *CHIZZY*
ReplyDeleteThis is what I call warning signs, marraige is a long life deal. Better to have a failed relationship that a failed marriage. Warning signs are not meant to be ignored. A word is enough
ReplyDeleteThis is funny, i feel sorry for you dear.; Please take time to check and watch his true character. Marriage is a permanent contract you know. Watch and pray dear. Its well.
ReplyDeleteNo hard feelings but you should dump him and move on! I'm a guy and I know we don't attach much feelings to that first girl we slept with(that's if we even remember who exactly it was). He z banging lots of girls while u was still with him, such a n!gg be banging others while u re married. Just find u some other guy plz
ReplyDeleteAll of you saying she should leave him alone, hian! 90 % of men all over are cheats. They just want to taste another woman even if its a one night stand. Nowadays, a faithful man is hard to come by. A man might love u, but that little man between his legs can make him sleep with a woman he won't like to be seen with in broad daylight. My own man is among the 10% that are faithful. I'm yet to meet him. When I meet him, I don't want to struggle with any woman. So, dear poster, pls take the man you have and walk away. Faithful men are not meant for everybody. *tongue out*
ReplyDeleteStupid comment alert!!
DeleteWish unto others what you would wish on yourself
Its only desperate women that have resigned to the theory that all men are cheats therefore they put up with rubbish even contacting hiv/aids in the process and they die #true story#
DeleteGbam!! Luv ur comment. Pls chop knucle! Wats wit all dis nonsense theory dat all cheat and women should accept that and live wit it? Every woman deserves a faithdul man and there are still faithful men out there. We need to start demanding fidelity from our men and stop condoning unfaithfulness. We deserve better as women. If u can take me to church and swear before God and man to be faithful and true to me,then dammit!...that wat I expect from u,no more no less. We can't continue to make excuses for this stupid,cheating,no good men. Aids is real,nt to talk of other std's and all the negative effect of cheating on the woman. I am nt settling for any lying,cheating bastard just cos I want to get married. I wld rada be on my own than be in a miserable marriage. Naomi .
DeleteSo let me see if l got this right ....
ReplyDelete1, He cheated on you when he was abroad
2, He claimed it was YOUR fault because you pushed him away
3, He's still seeing the girl and lying behind your back
4, He made a sex tape with ANOTHER girl
5, You don't trust him because he lies a lot when it comes to cheating
I think that covers everything
Now Poster, if a friend were to tell you all these about a boyfriend, would you advise her to MARRY him?!!!!
No! To be a cheat and be truly apologetic for it is one thing. To be a serial cheat and be claiming a mistake all the time is another. Most men that are serial cheats don't use condoms. Pray I never meet such men. Temptations will always come for both men and women but some don't even get tempted, they are the ones that go about waking the devil. You are still young, pls don't condemn ur self to a life with this man. Subsequent relationships u go into pls don't waste time, study the guy if you find out he is a douche bag move on to the next.
DeleteNB: you don't have to sleep with all the men you date. If you feel like getting laid fine, but otherwise don't until you find that special one
I feel u gal. I guess am nearly in d same boat wit u bt I guess mine's worse than urs. I won't seek advice on d blog cos by nd large d decision 2 stay or move on rests solely wit u. On d long run if u chose 2 stay against ppls advice nd it doesn't turn out well, ur regrets will b heavier. Jst tk a decision nd mk sure u won't blame any1 or regret in future. It's neva hw fast/far bt hw well. Am telling u same thg am saying 2 myself ryt now.
ReplyDeleteLuca my brother, couldn't have been said any better.
ReplyDeleteSDK, hmmmm....The last episode, the guy came out clean, you told the babe to run, then you fainted. This episode, the guy is murderously dangerous with the girl's emotions, and your advice is to..what?.."Just sit him down and tell him to come clean.."??? Hehehe. I'm watching this episode in 3D.
I always love your comments memphis.
DeleteThis is a decision you have to make, if a man lies that's a different thing like the part 1, the man lied but opened up before marriage and I supported the lady stays with her man. Your case is different I really really can't stand men that cheat, it's just too heart breaking u'll spend many nights crying and crying. I was ones in that kind of relationship and my ex was a dog couldn't stay without sleeping with a girl even my friends were not left out I had to dump him fast because I got tired of crying then I met the most amazing selfless man in the world and so the story goes.
ReplyDeleteI am happy you have moved on. Serial cheats are very dangerous they not only endanger their wives but also the nursing baby cos hiv can be contacted that way (its happened in some families) sad though, this is what the wife signed up for when she decided to stick with her serial cheating hubby. Women out there esp nursing mothers pls protect urself if ur hubby is a serial cheat or u suspect he is cheating at a particular time
DeleteWho is a saint ehnn?? My dear, Ʊ can ask God to TRANSFORM him!! If Ʊ truly love nd cherish ur man nothing is impossible!! Prayer is ∂ key: a prayerful wife always wins ∂ battle. Dnt leave him cos of cheating...
DeleteI DON'T LIKE THE TITLE OF THIS POST. Both men and women lie, in fact one of the thing that differentiate us(humans ) from animals is our ability to tell lies.Women even tell more lies than men these days.
ReplyDeleteFew years ago, I noticed an unusual relationship between my ex girlfriend and one guy like that. When I confronted her, she told me that nothing was going on that she was using him to pay some bill which I frowned at. Little did I know she was sleeping with the guy. I was very much ashamed of myself the day I found out even now I feel intimidated any time I run into the guy. What are I saying? ENOUGH OF ALL THESE POST WHICH PAINT MEN AS LIERS, WOMEN LIE TOO.
Ndewonu!
Who asked you if u like the title? Did anyone force you to open it? Pls take a long walk to the park, there are many seats there! Rubbish!
DeleteIfeanyi Ifeanyi "What are I saying?". I hail ☺º°˚˚°
DeleteAnon.12:43, take time oooo!
DeleteChenille, It's typographical error.... biko.
mrs k you are so stupid.....i pray your husband will continue to cheat on you till he brings you HIV......stupid woman it is idiots like you that make men think God made a mistake by creating them......did God wire them with adultery? is God foolish for giving men a brain?......stupid woman, before you marry a man he must show you he has the ability to be faithful.....you call serial cheating and making sex tape with another woman a little mistake....your friend is married so she has no choice but to remain there but you do not tolerate cheating from someone you are yet to be married to.......this is a warning sign that the guy is a chronic cheat so you better watch out before you make the mistake of your life......if you like be listening to advice from foolish women with stupid opinion like mrs K.......
ReplyDeleteShe is a divorcee
DeleteU didn't have to insult her na? She made her comment, she didn't insult anyone! Make yr comment to and waka away! U sound like somebody dat has a shifted brain. Ekwensu like u!
DeleteDon't mind the mrs k, its women like her that make men think its normal to cheat. Its women like her that put condom in their hubbys bag to encourage them to cheat. Its like saying u can't perform ur duty so let other women perform it.Smh for some desperate women
DeleteMy dear d devil u knw is beta dan d angel u knw not. No relationship is perfect. Both of u shld try n draw closer to God. Notyn God can't do. Stick to ur man he has nt done d abominable.
ReplyDeleteE clear say your bf don do you strong thing before...so much anger 4 this ya comment
DeleteListen to urself, "he has not done the abominable", what could be worse a serial cheat, liar and he videos himself while having sex. Pls run o. Yes! No relatnship is perfect but this is not what u shd be praying to God abt cos u re not married plus the sin of fornication is on ur neck so what are u praying about? U are even lucky God is showing you the signs that ur guy will be a destructive hubby if u marry him
DeleteMy dear d devil u knw is beta dan d angel u knw not. No relationship is perfect. Both of u shld try n draw closer to God. Notyn God can't do. Stick to ur man he has nt done d abominable.
ReplyDeleteMy dear d devil u knw is beta dan d angel u knw not. No relationship is perfect. Both of u shld try n draw closer to God. Notyn God can't do. Stick to ur man he has nt done d abominable.
ReplyDeleteWhat do u call d abominable?
DeleteListen to urself, "he has not done the abominable", what could be worse a serial cheat, liar and he videos himself while having sex. Pls run o. Yes! No relatnship is perfect but this is not what u shd be praying to God abt cos u re not married plus the sin of fornication is on ur neck so what are u praying about? U are even lucky God is showing you the signs that ur guy will be a destructive hubby if u marry him
DeleteMy brother i tire o! It is so obvious women don't even know what they want. Every woman always trying to keep "her man." Do women ever let men keep their women? It is quite a pity and so annoying to hear what women do just to be in a relationship, they tolerate so much nonsense like the men are doing them a favour just to be with them. TUFIAKWA! Everyone deserves a second chance but when messing up become a life style please flee! You deserve someone better, you are just 23 and maybe haven't met your life partner.
ReplyDeleteParagon7ven.
My brother i tire o! It is so obvious women don't even know what they want. Every woman always trying to keep "her man." Do women ever let men keep their women? It is quite a pity and so annoying to hear what women do just to be in a relationship, they tolerate so much nonsense like the men are doing them a favour just to be with them. TUFIAKWA! Everyone deserves a second chance but when messing up become a life style please flee! You deserve someone better, you are just 23 and maybe haven't met your life partner.
ReplyDeleteParagon7ven.
These are simply danger signals and it would be wise if u dont ignore them. if all these is happening now, what do you thing will happen in marriage...abi divorce is sweet where you come from. Anyway because i'm ur friend, i'll help you. .
ReplyDeletefollow these steps
1. use ur index finger to lift up ur upper eyes lids firmly
2. now that ur eyes are wide open, use them to see clearly
3. now, ruuuuunnnnnnn for your future generation.
#thank me later#
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Hahahahahhahahaha. U got me rolling on d floor with tears of laughter. Abeg make I no wake my kids o. U r just a clown.
DeletePls don't leave ur man if u luv him... All of u saying she should leave him should swear ur bfs and husbands don't cheat... Just sit him down and talk to him... I don't like it when people say leave him like they have left the ones they are with and men change for those saying men don't change...... Change is the only constant thing in life
ReplyDelete"A man might love u and still cheat on u........its just in their nature to cheat"........ I got to know dis first line of my comment years back from a movie i watched(Games women play),,,,and its just so real dis days,,,,u hardly come across a man that is 100% faithful,,,they just believe its a way of life.....having said that,,,even if my man is gonna cheat on me,,he should not rub it in my face,,,,there are ways men play their games in a very neat way that their partners wont even suspect them not to talk of knowing anything about it........@Poster,,ur man is rubbing his cheating spree in ur face and is disrespecting u by doing dat,,,,if he loves u so much,,,he should do his cheating codedly,,,the ball is in ur court,,,,if u think u can handle it,,,stay.....if not(its obvious u cant),,,,end things with him and move on.......Men who cheat dont change in marriage,,they only get worse except they have a sincere encounter with God,,,,dont let him use marriage proposal do abrakadabra for u oooo.......goodluck as u make ur decision!!!
ReplyDeleteIt is because of these types of comments that our men have the audacity to live like dogs. Men, you should be ashamed of yourselves that women have reduced you to animals with low to no self control. I would be offended if I were a man. Dear, there are men of standard...yes stop accepting these disease carrying men. It is not just about diseases even, he will come and complicate your life either with babies from everywhere else or some desperate girl that will be out to eliminate you. Ladies and gents, it is better to be without a partner than live the life of constant heartache from a careless partner. Your sole mission on earth is not just to have a man. The minute we embrace this, that will be the time some of these men will act like they have some sense.
ReplyDeleteI want to tell all those ladies categorically that your guys are cheating on u, and those who are not cheating are planning to but no chance/game yet, d default mode of a guy is cheat, he'll have a confirm gal and wud play around when he has d chance to, let's b sincere with ourselves!
ReplyDeleteAm a guy, and I have the most beautiful relationship in the world, I met my gal a virgin and we've been dating for 4yrs now, but I have cheated several times but she hasn't caught me coz I'l never let her see what will make her sad!
So my dear, if ur man is satisfying u and u think u can cope, go with him but u have to warn him to stop cheating or u'l leave him jst to put fear in his mind!
Even if u leave him what's d assurance that u'l get anoda guy dat has all d qualities u want! Nobody is perfect, what if he dosent cheat but beats u, or stingy or not good on bed or not caring or not romantic!
No relationship is perfect young lady, u will never get a guy dat has all d qualities, how many guys do u think u'll go to?
Abegi
Let HIV infest thAt ur penis. Watch out it is coming soon
DeleteLove is really blind, with d way I c this post, I don't think that this lady is ready to leave the guy. Dear poster belv it or not, dis dude is a serial cheater, if you are able to cope with his numerous lies n cheat, marry him but if not my dear abeg com borrow bicycle run. Atimes I fear men wit sugar coated tongues, na dem lie pass(promise n fail).
ReplyDeleteStella dikoko! your interactive sessions are da bomb. u too much jare. feels like I know you personally already.
ReplyDeleteWhat can I say? You started sex too early that's the problem.
ReplyDelete@ anon 11:39, 11:41, 11:42... Ehn we've heard now, you didn't need to post 3ce to emphasize ur point
ReplyDelete@poster. There's something called instinct, and most times it never leads you astray, listen to that inner voice and pray, only U know what u're going thru. My 2kobo
2 m d sex tape destroyed it al,so dear tak ke o b4 he wil vidio urs wit im n sel it out 4 sm bar,jst 4low ur hat sha.my humbl locomacy.RANZY IN CAli twn.
ReplyDeleteAm sure u re not Nigerian or from any English speaking country or educated, haba
DeleteMy thots exactly! Reading this was so irritating
DeletePls cn sm1 hlp me wit d meaning of *rme*..#tnx...Ehen, bk to d matta- Jes follow ur hrt Ms poster &seek God's wisdom.
ReplyDeleteRolling my eyes
DeleteWhen u reach ur limit u wud nt be asking us cos u wud know,truely its ur decision to make but I pray u make the right one, u are d main chick but doesn't give him d excuse to be a casanova,put a pause on the marriage,pray to God to direct you and reveal all that you would need in making that decision to stay or walk away.
ReplyDeleteNa wa o, u didn't even reach 18 years b4 u started sex. Use your head lady.
ReplyDeletei am dissapointed in you use ur brain girl man don finish ni mcheew u no what to do
ReplyDeleteTake a walk darling....he ain't gonna change. My instinct never lies. He's messing with your head and emotions knowing you love him silly.
ReplyDeleteIf You forgive him and go ahead,then you just opened a fresh chapter for another round of his cheating episode. You catch him, na sorry go end am..and then unto the next one.
So......Move! Waka! Run! He is no good for u.
Do you want to keep making yourself unhappy? Then stay with this guy. There's no light at the end of the tunnel. Only unhappiness. You already have a preview of what life with him is going to be like. If you get married and have to be apart for a few months, he will cheat. Bet he made that sex tape right under your nose. You cannot have happiness with this guy. Only thinking, heartaches , pain, constant back-watching, phone-checking, email searching etc. Fancy that kind of life?You are so hurt you can't stop crying? Well ,if you plan to marry him, this will be a very good rehearsal.
ReplyDeleteAnon@1.57 please- if you've got a beautiful relationship with a girl, you met her a virgin, pray, tell me, what in the world is it that makes you cheat on her? Greed? Adventure? A curse? And 'you don't want her to discover because you don't want to make her sad'. I just don't get it.. .
ReplyDeleteAs in the guy is just plainly stupid
DeleteMy sister, follow your heart because i know u already know what to do just that you are not too sure of urself. But my little advise 4 u is dat, u can NEVER find a perfect man. If u leave dis one, how sure u are not going to end up with another one that is worse than this one? This one cheats, d next one might be a wife beater or one who doesn't appreciate u or ur effort. But there is every possibility dat u might end up with one better than dis. The spirit of discernment let it come upon you. Amen.
ReplyDelete#smiles#
Marry him like that, afterall, you can handle cheating, innit?
ReplyDeleteTnx much @Anon 4:28pm.
ReplyDeleteTowel of babel. So much confused speech going on here. Aunty stella many times there are so much dissenting and opposing views that i wonder how on earth the problem that was asked can ever get solved. All i see here is a shouting contest. More like an interhouse sport competition.
ReplyDeleteMr anonymous
I can not believe ppl condone cheating! My parents been married for 30 years and my Dad has NEVER cheated because he is a genuine child of God! I can never stay with a cheating man! I'm married and I know my hubby can NEVER cheat! Not because of his ability but because of the God in him. I pray for him daily! Ladies pray for ur men!!! But if u are involved in premarital sex what face are u going to take to the throne room of God! I'm sorry ppl attract their same kind. If your man can be happy enough to sleep with u outside of marriage be sure he will cheat. The only solution to cheating is the ABSOLUTE fear of God in the heart of a person. And stop saying all men cheat cus what u say u will possess.
ReplyDeleteI can not believe ppl condone cheating! My parents been married for 30 years and my Dad has NEVER cheated because he is a genuine child of God! I can never stay with a cheating man! I'm married and I know my hubby can NEVER cheat! Not because of his ability but because of the God in him. I pray for him daily! Ladies pray for ur men!!! But if u are involved in premarital sex what face are u going to take to the throne room of God! I'm sorry ppl attract their same kind. If your man can be happy enough to sleep with u outside of marriage be sure he will cheat. The only solution to cheating is the ABSOLUTE fear of God in the heart of a person. And stop saying all men cheat cus what u say u will possess.
ReplyDeleteIt's bad that your man cheats...It's unforgivable that he constantly dis respects you by getting caught all the time. What you don't know won't hurt you.
ReplyDeleteRemember men mostly apologise for getting caught and not for cheating.
If he can't be smart enough to make you feel like the ONLY one, then you're better off without him.
Be sincere to yourself.
I agree with u Queenbee he is a serial cheat n abroad nd even back home there is 100% chance he will "get some" wherever he goes Abeg d guy na pure ashewo. Dear poster u know the answer already dunno why u still asking for advice but I will say this if u want to live d rest of your life with him n fear nd lies then go ahead but it's everyone's right to have peace of mind in their marriages. PS: He is still seeing d chic in Uk abi na US nd whenever he goes abroad he will pansh her live he lacks self discipline so much that he made a sex video. Mshewwwwwwwww
ReplyDeleteYour comment is as STUPID as u. Had to emphasise it in capital letters for u to know d gravity of what u have typed. Mshewwww it's men like u that drag other good guys n d mud feeling like a sharp guy with yourself u will be shocked to know your so called virgin gf is also getting some nd playing her cards right she might even know u re cheating. My dear poster don't under estimate yourself Abeg forget all those trash about none being perfect, that shit goes for certain bad habits that can be corrected like : impatience, snoring, lack of full trust, among other things nd not dealing with a liar, a serial cheat, a man that lacks self discipline before marriage.
ReplyDeleteBy d way that was for Mr sharp guy anon 1:57.................. Feeling like a playa learn d game well.
ReplyDeleteMatters of the heart sha! Leave him! Leave him!! Leave him!!! I'm sure Annie Macaulay sorry Idibia, got this same advice. Anyway I'm not going 2 advice you, just follow your heart. You alone know what you are going through and what you want. All the best.
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I like your blog Stella. I discuss what I read here with my pastor husband a lot. It helps a lot of people. Real life issues. And counsel coming from so many people ranging from the ridiculous to the sincere. Sometimes, outrightly hilarious. But reading your blog, I always remember the Bible passage "in the multitude of counsel, there is safety". Thank you Stella. Keep up the good work.
ReplyDeleteThe only comment i will make is that because he begged and cried does not mean he will change..do not be deceived. It is still up to you though.
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