Hey Stella how are you doing.
I hope you get to post this email cos I'm on the verge of breaking up with my boyfriend cos of this issue o. First of all lemme start with the fact THAT I'm a nice and pretty girl,In summary I'm easy on the eyes. Now,my boyfriend is handsome and wen I mean handsome I mean gorgeous.over fine dey worry am.
My problem is he doesn't pay me compliments not at all. We have been dating for one year now and the highest compliment he has ever given me is to call me fine girl. Now I'm not sure but I think the problem is that he is always receiving compliments and doesn't know how to return the favour.
I'm a girl,I sometimes need someone to tell me I'm beautiful or at least I look nice.I won't have minded much if I was unpleasant to the eyes and I can assure you that I'm not .I have a lot of admirers and toasters and a couple of guys who want to marry me yet I'm sticking to this dude and he acts like he is doing me a favour by dating me. Its gone on for so long and I've tolerated it. Now the stroke that has broken the camels back is the fact that I just recently did a new hair, something I have never done before.
A lot of people admired it and told me it is beautiful. Stella,I own a mirror and I can tell you that i have never looked better. I changed my DP to one which was reflecting my new hair expecting my so called boyfriend to admire it he didn't oh. When he finally did what he could say was 'why the hell did you do this hair?,you look scary'.
I was so mad and I still am in fact and I'm thinking of breaking up with him cos I've decided that being single is better than being with a man who doesn't appreciate me amongst his other faults.
Just need a little advice Stella. I'm hoping other blog readers would help me in doing what is right. God bless you all.
*I am lost for words..have you discussed how his silence makes you feel?if you are sure the relationship is worth it,then have a heart to heart with him..no woman wants a man who only has ears and eyes for himself...talk to him first,if he doesnt change then take a walk..it wont get better.
nawao
ReplyDeleteshildren don they over populate this blog
asuu abeg call off strike
u sef sterra
no be every tin u go they pose here
Old lady, you shouldn't be here either. You're too ugly you've never been paid any compliment so don't hate when beautiful young girls who deserve it ask for it.
DeleteGod bless u Boss Lady. U have said it all.
DeleteI agree with you. If you need validation of your self worth from man you are on a long thing. De wait ok. No advice
DeleteLol, you are so right..LMAO!!!!
DeleteAt boss lady, my brother who has been married for years is having problems with his wife becos of this. He is my bro, but over fine the worry am too! How can you live with a woman and not for once tell her she's looking good? It's not like she no fine o, he just won't even notice.
DeleteMy sister you don see am na. Stella baby I'm constipated I can't shit. My left eyebrow is longer and fuller than the right. Should I wear my black bra or the nude one? I need blog visitors to help sort out these first world problems. Mtscheeew
DeleteOburokwa obele children odikwa egwu,hia oh nkea osikwa noo gini,odikwa egwu,ndi okala agbogho.make I ask u u be miss world nekwanu anya
DeleteSDK nawa oo!!! Which kind post bbe this one nau? Abeg dear blog readers my boo make sweet love 2 me on my ovulation abeg could I be pregenant?? I need una advice fast. *yawns* plus is milo better with sugar or honey? 10x all. Love Me...
DeleteAbi oo @ ik. Since that's the kind gist Stella dey bring this days. Okay! Bk 2 ur question. U r def pregnant ooo. Buhahhahahahahaaa.....ope I helped?
DeleteMen sef,,,,I hate it when they dnt appreciate what they have,,first to comment tho
ReplyDeleteIn ur Dreams.....
DeleteMen sef,,I hate it when they don't appreciate what they have
ReplyDeleteStella has said it all,talk to him and see what d outcome will be,I dated a guy like that too,he said it is his nature he can't give a girl complement he finds it very difficult,not because he doesn't notice that I look good or different that is just his nature but seriously I couldn't imagine myself been married to him so I had to end d relationship.
ReplyDeletedis guy is used 2 being d person hu always gts d compliments. He is probably insecure n he sees his physique as his cover wyl u dnt rily ve 2 do much 2 gt complimts. Its possible dat ur new hair do is goin 2 tek away his shine n trust me he wldnt want dat 2 happen. So al he has 2 do is mek u feel bad abt it diaby reducn ur self confidence.
DeleteMy dear, dis guy has got complex issues 1 n 2 hez nt worth it. Run 4 thy lyf as fast as ur 2 left legs can carry u!
So u nid Stella to gv u permission to break up wit him,u r very jobless
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahahahaha, every mallam with him kettle true true. Some guys are just like that, no vex. Maybe he truly didn't like the hair do and he generally just does not know how to pay compliments. Well, not enough reason to want to call it all off, do have a heart to heart talk with him like Stella already advised. You know what? Methinks your guy knows you are gorgeous and just doesn't want it to get into your head cus he already knows a lot of people tell you. Some guys are just like that.
ReplyDeleteYou better run! Nigga won't change for shit
ReplyDelete@poster,ur post is so funny and even thou it seem trivial,it should be handled cos that's where deep issues' are going to stem from!
ReplyDeleteUr BF is a selfish narcisst and he is envious.wants to be only one given attention.i used to have a girlfriend like that,she can never appreciate anything on u,only negative ones!such pple are usually not gud and should be cut off,everything to them is a competition.
U don't need such a man,cos he's only himself.such men always end up being gay!
Meaningless mail. Please Miss attention seeker, u better get a life. Give your life some meaning. Onukwu Igala... Ck
ReplyDelete@ AnonymousNovember 2, 2013 at 11:24 AM
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@poster,hot cyberslap,ure in need of a manual overide (˘̯˘ )
Fearless!
DeleteAbout your statement, not cool at all.
U shld have posted the hair style na lets see. Is possible is scary. Cos its only sum1 dat loves u dat wld tell u d truth. Dat kind hair wey since u born u neva look better...na wa
ReplyDelete=))º°˚˚˚°ºLmaoº°˚˚˚°º°º=))
DeleteThat's true sef!
Lmaooo
DeleteDiFf strokes for diff folks abeg. Is stella a relationship consultant? *confused* there's a diff btw been needy and clingy and when ur bf is insensitive. Make sure ur case is not u been needy! Men are not emotional pple. They have a lot to deal with, they dnt think like us, they are not passionate, the fact that he doesn't pay u compliments all the time doesn't mean he don't love u. Its possible dos pple pay u compliments are doing it for selfish reason. Men are men, women are women. Calm ur fucking nerves down and tell ur man softly u love compliments and dnt mind if u get it frm him once in a while, it gives u a reassurance of his love for you. Good day
ReplyDeleteLOL! This is funny,Talk to him,if that doesn't work stop complimenting his looks and always find faults in his dressing
ReplyDeleteLoool,ur guy is just meSsing wv ur head jor,he knows u are beautiful nd hez just putting up a defensive mechanism just 2 hide his ego cos hez nt blind nd dt new hairstyle,I'm sure he was 'wowed' wn e saw it nd he had 2 hide it under sarcasm by saying u looked scary! I knw ds cos I used 2 be in d same situation nd I almost broke up cos his fwnds nd his colleagues wr always admiring me except him nd he wldnt say 'nice dp' nor 'nice shoes' nd all dt instead he'd be using mgbekes 4 dp,so wn I got tired nd I almost left him nd told him, he nw sed tis bcos 'ako mi ti poju' nd e ddnt want me feeling too fly but he rlly adores me nd all! So,maybe he sees u as a rival or competitor and paying u complement is like losing 2 u in a funny way,but u just av 2 sit him down nd make him realise dt him appreciating u won't make him less of a man and it doesn't show a sign of weakness,rather it would make u feel loved d more! Ok,if dt's his major flaw,pls don't brk up,just sit him down nd talk 2 him about it!
ReplyDeleteE pele,fellow teenager!
DeleteSo,compliments is what u need abi? And that is enough reason to end a relationship with a "good guy".
I will comment when u guys grow up and trust me,by then,u won't be needing my advise!
ASUU,you will not know peace oh,cos you have withdrawn the peace of mature minds!
Lmao!! Funny post indeed.. Dear poster I don't fink this a good enough reason to breakup with him, jst tell us u have other reasons aside this. Nyawiaz jst tell ur bf how u feel nd if he doesn't change nd u can't deal with it dn u can go ahead with the breakup. Now I de wonder if na compliment u wan chop or if itz compiments that will put food on ur table. All d best babes
ReplyDeleteGirl u better run. Soon he will be washing u down in public
DeleteDear Poster, I think his lack of complimenting you, isn't †ЂΞ real issue here. ɪ̣̝̇ts †ЂΞ little little things he does or fails †̥ do that makes you doubt yourself. Once you α̲̅®ε̲̣̣̣̥ in a relationship and it doesn't make you better or feel good about yourself, ɪ̣̝̇ts time †̥ work it out or take a walk. #my opinion#
ReplyDeleteMen will always talk down on a female with the same mouth he ate her pussy with.Poster,you need a matured guy.he is still a boy
ReplyDeleteAunty Linda, wetin concern pussy for this matter?
DeleteYour thought process is alarming and its made worse by the fact that you have kids!
SMH for u!
FYI - its mature and not matured!
Spend more time reading the dictionary and google than chatting BS, that should keep u busy!
I have been noticing your comments,I gave up on u when you posted that yeye inappropriate comment about your husband (Who does that? )and you have noyt disappointed me since then!
Fearless, how I L♥√e thee ƒσя this Ʊя̲̅ comment!!!!! Nobody else could have said it better
DeleteWho is this Linda Eze.Your a very shallow minded woman. I'm sure your hubby is in some other blog complaining abt you.
DeleteU be maga. So na make den say u fine be ur problem. U no get work. ASUU a beg o!!!
ReplyDeleteBabes, no b only u. I thought I was d only one sef. My current boyfriend doesn't do that @ all. I've never heard him compliment me. He's a very cute guy too and I'm gorgeous. In fact, there was a tym,I wantd to complain abt it,bt e told me b4 I sed anything that e appreciates me but he is not d kinda guy to pay compliment. Up til now o, e never does. Tired of d whole tin sef
ReplyDeletePls go back to primary school...hope u got my drift?
Deletethis is the most stupid thing i have ever seen on this blog. The girl is obviously a child or teenager. How can you break up with a guy cos of compliment biko? Very stupid reason. and highly childish
ReplyDeleteDear poster, get the five love languages by Gary Chapman read itand try to summarise it and send to ur partner. Ur love language is obviously words of affirmation; some people don't feel loved except when their partner affirms/compliments them and this is obviously what is going on with you. Like other people said, communication is important, have you told him how his not complimenting you makes you feel bad? Get that book and read. Cheers
ReplyDeleteGuys really need to appreciate their spouse (either girl friend or wife). It is only a guy that might take this for granted, babes know that compliment makes one's day...
ReplyDeleteBabe, i believe you should have a one on one with him, let him know how you feel. if he doesn't change or if he reacts funny, then take a hike sweet..
Well, may be, just may be you look scary to him :) On a serious note, fine boys too dey make shakara but is not enough to break a relationship up?!
ReplyDeletethis is childish. u r obviously dating him for his looks nothing else. to deal with it. stella wetin de happen na. dis story no follow at all oo. pls peeps watch wat u send. very soon somebody go send make dem help show her how to put penis for akpamu.
ReplyDeleteStella,I'm about to sleep and this is why...
ReplyDeleteMscheeewww (long African woman type teeth-kissing)
SDK,I'm warning you,stop insulting us with yeye stories!
I fail to see the rationale behind putting up this silly story!
Please start up a teen section on your blog so we mature minds will know what to read and what not to!
What kind of thing is this?
*RME
Mscheeewww (long African woman type teeth-kissing)
Madam mature, y not read and just skip to another story since this isnt ur type of story instead of ranting and crying and screaming and still posting comments, pls be careful in your house so u dont fall down while lamenting in d house, the post is for immature people, we have heard, just keep ur mouth and let reasonable people give their piece of advice. I will also like to know your age since you have issues with coping around undergraduates instead of you to go and sit down somewhere and get busy with your life, oshisco
Delete@ AnonymousNovember 2, 2013 at 8:38 PM
DeleteRelevance?!
For your mind u can talk abi?
U need to apply your advise first, why didn't you "read and skip" or move on without commenting!
Physician,heal thyself!
Relevance!
DeleteYou ought to have practiced what you preached above, "read and skip"
Physician,heal thyself!
OnIranu oshi!
Fearless, u are gradually becoming a nuisance! Watch it!
DeleteAbeg, fearless make sense. Too much crap on blogs these days, its becoming frustrating. When will asu end this strike make person hear word.
DeletePeople have real problems and u put this up,REALLY?!
ReplyDeletemy own is feeling himself becoz December is approaching and we talked about doing our marital rite! Now he doesn't call...na me dey always call am and bb am! Whether he is doing this so I can postpone our marital rites, I don't know! Anyway that's his business! I already sent him links to rings I lkie! I have put in work in this relationship for over 3 years! So if he like he should squeeze his face from now till chickens speak, he MUST marry me!
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahahaha lmao ooo
DeleteHia he must marry u na by force,if he by force slap u after the marriage u go begin come cry here for advice,make una de get sense biko
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ReplyDeleteStella, abeg post better thing a beg Na weekend we dey!
ReplyDeleteWettin be all this my boyfriend do this, my boyfriend no do that?
Abeg, do nack us better tori, the kids don follow their papa comot, no let this small free time wey I get just waste jare.
Aunty Stella u are always "short of words" short of words bawo?..lol. What is shorting ur words in this story now? Even when some1 writes and says "oh Stella I woke up this morning with a smelly mouth,what shld I do?" u go still say,"im short of words"
ReplyDeletemy bf is like that too, he claims he loves me very much, but before he will pay me a compliment,hmm! sometimes he would just look at me and say u r ugly, iv warned him bou it and he wil say he was just joking. and i know i am pretty and cute. im only with him cuz i have no better option and babez gotta get married but as soon as i find another, im out!
ReplyDeleteIf you are thinking of leaving once you get a better guy, LEAVE NOW!!! Its possible the one for you is not here now cos you are still occupied, let him go so you can work on urself and be ready when the best is set.
DeleteNice advise!☺
Deleteso this thing happens to other girls..hehe, its nice to know. Anyway, i once dated this guy who really loved it when i complimented him on his looks and stuff. meanwhile, he would never say anything nice about my beautiful dress sense, shoes, hair, general outlook etc. (no be like say him too fine o), instead he always spotted out my imperfections. infact, any day i mistakenly wear gele over french suit, thats d one his mouth wont stop wagging about, but when i looked stunning he'll just keep mute as if they cut off his tongue. anyway, i used to console myself with the very many compliments i got from other people, and i stopped complimenting him all together. it was a do me i do you affair *nd we lived happily ever after until breakup time came knocking*
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ReplyDeletePosters, always talk to the person concerned first before asking advice from SDKBers. It doesn't make sense that you leave the other party totally ignorant of the problem, rush here to lament and we all start advicing you to "talk to him first".
Talk to him, if he doesn't change, dump his sorry ass. No need putting up with a man who can't even appreciate nor compliment the very one he claims he is in love with.
ReplyDeleteNa so e dey start! U ignore this, he would pull up another stunt. Na from clap them de enter dance. If you are not happy, confront him. He is not changing, dump him.
Bye
What are you waiting for..
ReplyDeleteYou are probably 19 and he is 21..both of you are still kids so why bother...
People have real life issues and you are complaining of a guy who does not compliment you??? He is more beautiful than you are..all you probably give him is sex..nothing extraordinary..
The only reason its hurting you is cos he is handsome cos if he were an average looking guy you would have ditched his ass a long time ago.
Lets hear your real life issue that you want to share, mschew, that is d biggest problem she has and its her real life issue or you want her to come and start telling you guys how her father killed her mum or somthing, you guys just like hearing sad stories always, real life issues my ass, as if when the person comes with the real life issue u guys wont insult and bash the person, get busy my friend
DeleteI'm sure ure the same anon that replied my comment above, funny thing is, your "read and skip" whatever doesn't seem to work for you!
Delete=))º°˚˚˚°ºLmaoº°˚˚˚°º°º=))
Olodo!
See pot calling kettle black!
Do not look for validation from men (and women likewise)!
ReplyDeleteI understand what u are going through. Hold ur head up high and be happy with yourself. Once you look in the mirror and look good...then feel good.
A friend once told me that he doesn't compliment his wife so that it doesn't get to her head. I told him straight up that he's full of shit. He derives joy from making the sweet lady miserable. Anyway, she worked on her self esteem and now doesn't even wait to hear any word from him cuz she's appreciated outside by a lot of men and friends. Sadly, his opinion doesn't matter anymore.
Your excuse is not enough reason to break up with him....that is if u have confidence in yourself. Good luck
Good talk there
DeleteIf he doesn't appreciate you then I'm sorry he doesn't deserve you. You are right feeling this way a guy should always pay his girl some compliments.
ReplyDeleteIf he told u that u looked scary then he might be right cos only him can tell u the truth about ur looks. Don't mind those fake toasters and friends who admire everything cos they wanna please u. But I'm nt in support of him not appreciating ur beauty. Just discuss d issue with him b4 u make ur decision to quit.
ReplyDeleteFf @Call_Me_Ell
I also want to break up with my bf being that his ears is so big,like that of a rabbit...he calls me like 4times a day,and its really irritating...still very much confused..gosh! He's not romantic one bit..
ReplyDeleteWomen and their wahala, trouble if you give compliments, wahala if you don't. And this is just one of their many issues! Are you people permanently on PMS stress?
ReplyDeleteRoflmaooooooooo you people won't kill me. @anon 3:51 n co. Afi igba ti e je kin comment lori blog yi.onikaluku pelu ishoro ti e .na wah.
ReplyDeleteWhy do fools fall in love...so you want to dump a guy cos he dosent pay u compliments... Like seriously you want to dump a guy you LOVE over that? My dear you may know your beautiful but you obviously dont feel beautiful and it's not his JOB to make you feel tht way. Beauty comes from within and not your contoured face and dress sense. You hv to learn to love your self and be confident in yourself. You dont need a million compliments to feel awesome.I'm sure your boyfriend loves you in many other ways. Be realistic and set ur priorities right.
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