Dear Stella,
I'm writing to you because I need someone to pour out my heart to and I know yourself and readers can encourage me. I was born wt a silver spoon, but all that became a thing of the past immediately my mother retired. I dated a guy for six years, clothe him, fed him, sponsored him through school and got him a job, he left me immediately I got pregnant, turning me to a single parent.
I met another guy, he promised to be there for me and my daughter, but after six months, stole a huge some of money from me, my car and vanished into thin air, leaving me broke and since then it has been from one heart breaker to the other, someone even advised me to date a divorcee because I have a mature look, but same story.
I'm not praising myself but I know I'm not a bad person, I'm humble, spiritual and an introvert. I'm fed up with life because I'm so lonely, I cry myself to sleep all the time, thought of suicide severally, but I feel for my child,.
Stella can God still remember me?
*My Dear i only have this to tell you..........
Please remain strong in the lord: Does a father forget his child-No. He has not forgotten you and whatever you are going thru now in life is to make you stronger and better. Read your bible from genesis to revelations and you will receive a word that wiolll change your story ijn amen
ReplyDeleteDear poster,you would find the right one for you when the time is right.God hasn't forgotten you or any of us that's trusting him for one miracle or the other! Here is something I found online the other day,hope it makes u feel better "Just because you believed and it didn’t work out your way or on your timetable doesn’t mean that it’s over. God is planning something better-Joel Osteen"
ReplyDeleteIt is well with you poster...plssss hang in there...being with a man is not an assurance to happiness...love urself first..love God and everyother thing will fall into place when you least expect..it is well with you..
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ReplyDeleteYou considered suicide because you dont have a man? Na man dey important reach like that?
Please start visiting hospitals whenever you are idle. Perhaps you will learn to be grateful for what you have.
D tin taya me ooooo!
DeleteStella what happens to old things are past away? What happends to been a new creature. All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. If he forgives us, and doesn't forget our sins. Then where's the word, "Go and sin no more" coming from? His ways are not our ways oh, neither are his thoughts our thoughts. His grace his sufficient for everybody. Once u acknowledge genuinely from ur hrt to fall sinned and confessed, he forgives and forgets, and makes u a new creature. Let's be properly guided. But in the same vein, his grace is not a license for continues sins so that grace may abide. Dear poster, from your writing, you have done nothing wrong. Just ask God to forgive you and favour you before men. Place your life in his hands, And he will send a man that's worthy of you
ReplyDeleteAnon 8:47am, well said. To add to that, GOD still sort out Adam and Eve after they sinned against HIM, but they fled. GOD NEVER abandons us. Be penitent, dear poster, and HE'll forgive you. You say you're spiritual, but that is disputed if you're praying and Richard, who's not your husband, is snoring on your bed. Be penitent, and GOD will embrace you. Be Blessed.
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ReplyDeleteGOD is still in the business of performing Miracles
ReplyDeleteHE will see you through,,,dont forget,,HE loves u more than u eva can imagine
Cheers
It is well
@Galore
Anon 8:38am a father does forget his child... My father is alive and has neva spent a dime on me, am 22 now, working hard to make it. Then in future let him come and preach to me. Dear poster God is working on ur case, wen he's done u'll laugh d loudest....
ReplyDeleteDon't be a goat this morning n read well b4 answering..when she said"A father doesn't forget the child,she meant that God doesn't forget his creature. Dear poster,dnt even go thr or say God has forgotten u becos u re alive n thr is hope.what he is preparing for you is greater than what u can imagine.leave man business for now cos u have the means to take good care of yourself n your child.And dnt let anything deter your faith in God cos maybe something maybe distracting them from seeing the real you.In no time what will be yours will come packaged for you from God.hold on and dnt lose hope.Be of good cheer dear for God is awesome.
DeleteWhy call her a goat?Its not everyone that understand the Scripture.
DeleteWe should be polite in talking to people.
Poster, , God makes everything beautiful in His time. Have faith and don't be discourage because at the end of every tunnel there is a beautiful light shining to lead you to your wonderful future.
Relax God is in control.
don't give up on God , God will never give up on u. he is able to do exceedingly , more abundantly even above what we expect. i had similar experience with two kids but after all that have been said and done he answered me. it wasn't easy i had a lot of heartbreaks but when it was time for he that will come , he came and wiped away all my tears and pain. nobody knew he wasn't the father of my kids.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, all the issues you have has had to do with guys. one word: Forget them. Find something doing. Business, career, supplies.... focus more on your well being and that of your child. I was also born with a sliver spoon, but the turns my life has taken ehhhnn.... hmmmm *sealed lips* And i watch my friends who were less privileged than me marrying solid husbands and landing better jobs. But I won't question God. I am still single and i don't have a reasonable job now, but I know that God hasn't forgotten me. Be encouraged by these words. Stop thinking with your heart, think with your head. Men have ruined many. Press on without them.
ReplyDeleteTake your mind off men for now, concentrate on your daughter, job and pray more i strongly believe there is a man for every woman yours will come.
ReplyDeletedear poster ur idle, needy and weak, get busy, truth is ur spoilt rotten and because life hasn't come kissing your feet with a bed of roses ur sad and depressed.
ReplyDeletehear other strong women stories and see how they fight poverty taking care of terminally ill kids everyday doing the most degrading things to send their kids to school, why mortgage ur child's future wasting money on men rather than looking forward to sending her/him to Harvard.
go to modupe cole in Yaba go to house of gold hospice visit makoko and see people smiles as bright as the sun in the midst of adversary despite their tummy roaring in hunger with no hope for the next meal...
then my friend u would realize your folly and then count ur blessings.
Right on point! Its time we started being happy without men. If you can't be happy as a single woman, you can never be happy when you eventually get the man.
DeleteGod neva forgets his own. He loves us all and it grieves him so much whenever we err and being used cos he has original plans for us befor we were born. What am I sayin? Turn back to him genuinely and forget about the men for now, the right one will come.
ReplyDeleteMy dear you are looking for love in all the wrong places that's why you are feeling depressed,
ReplyDeleteWhen you stop thinking about yourself and start thinking about what you can do for other people, make them laugh, care for them, do something to help, you are giving love and therefore living in love and you will feel more connected and because we are social animals, this gives us meaning.
Did u read her story,cos I don't remember her saying she was a selfish/self centred person,she has been giving without getting anything ,she has always been used so what are you saying
DeletePoster you have to remember that You have been repeatedly sinning against God by fornicating. He had a reason for telling us not to engage in extra marital sex. And even after a man has abandoned you with a child, you have refused to change your ways. God is showing you repeatedly with every heartbreak that he is not happy with your ways and you chose to ignore it yet you co e here and say God is ignoring you. What about you? Aren't you ignoring God? At least hold up your end of the bargain before you cry wolf.
ReplyDeleteBuild yourself up, gain some self respect and love will fall into place.
Have you considered the fact that the problem is the way you date? When you notice a pattern, stop and examine yourself critically before you arrive @ a conclusion. When you nurture guys and spoil them with gifts and affection, guess what? You put them off so they take as much as they can from you and dump you like a bad habit! Men are hunters by nature, the thrill is in the chase. Make them work for and EARN your attention and your affection! The fundamental error we ladies make is, we try too hard to impress a guy. The guys are the ones who should impress you. Change your mindset on dating, you'll be surprised to see how things will change for the better. Dust yourself and wear confidence like a pear necklace and unleash the inner bombshell you possess as a woman and watch men fall @ your feet. Never sell yourself short because you have a daughter! Are you kidding me??? Do you have any idea what some women do to have a child? Set your heart on getting a young, hot and single man, pray to God about your desires and shut your ears to negativity, no matter how realistic they appear. You can only attain the level you put yourself. Cheers!
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteyou have joy right there with you, and you still worry?
You are financially upright, you have a beautiful daughter, whom you can take care of without stress....why do you worry???
"my mum has this saying...man matter, na shoulder dem de carry am, no be for head, otherwise, serious BP or even death" (God forbid)
be thankful for what you have, and ask God to grant you a good man at his own time. do not be desperate, stay focused, keep up your faith, love yourself and your daughter and trust in God.
my dear,...it will all end in praise!
Stop making men a priority in your life. You even want to commit suicide on top man matter I bet he would come to your funeral with d other woman. Children are a blessing. Make ur child your best friend. Learn new things everyday with your child. Learn french or Spanish together. Exchange knowledge. Impact that child's life with positive things and not looking for men. Plan vacations and educational trips. Plan for your child to go to Harvard. Have a big dream for that child. Then you wouldn't have money any money 1 two face low life would steal from you. Most of all be smart.
ReplyDeleteit seems like u have forgotten God. u cant buy a mans love my dear. pls just take some time to build ur self confidence ok
ReplyDeleteWhen there is life there is hope. Give ur life to christ. Its o.ly God that brings contentment. Get busy by helping d poor,work in Gids vineyard and be sincere in all ur dealings..God will send help to u as long as u look up to him
ReplyDeleteHello my dear lady,God never left you much less forgot you.why do you think you were blessed enough to be swindled? Rather,you forgot yourself completely.You sound like a gullible,naïve simpleton .Bear in mind that the world does not think like you. Just because you won't eat a lion doesn't mean the lion won't eat you! Work on yourself.Consider yourself before you throw your spirit, soul and body at any man that says 'I love you'.Be a 'bitch' for a change! Script a relationship in your head before going into it. If you re honest with yourself,you must ve known they were all users. Sweetness and generosity won't convince anyone to fall sincerely in love with you.what you ll get is a man acting for a while (eg:rolling his eyes behind your head when you smother him with long hugs).As soon as he gets the loot,he bolts! From your sos,its obvious you want love.look out for a man who wants that too.while scanning your 'toasters',please hide your desperation o.Anyone can smell the trait from miles away.Never let your money be a part of your love interests.You can't buy love.Men by nature are providers.Those Men you gave money in the past,in turn gave to other women. Pls be a regular single mum and let love find you.I ve single mums as pals and I see how men spend on their kids to get even the tiniest attention, or half hearted consideration from the mums.They are not as pretty as Queen of the coast;just that they play the game according to the rules. God never left you.You left you long ago.Return to thyself O daughter of zion. Goodluck!
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, God can never forget you. As a matter of fact, you forgot God. You have tried to fill in His place with Man, and that cannot happen. You have to realize that your relationship with your maker is Most supreme, no other can feel the void in your heart. You need to find peace with God, the Bible says "seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and every other thing shall be added unto you". You will continue to feel lonely and sad until God becomes the author and finisher of your faith. He is able to heal your broken heart and give you peace beyond human comprehension. He will help you love "you" and your child and help you forgive all who have hurt you. God's Grace...
ReplyDeleteAm not judging or trying to make you miserable but how can u say that God has forgotthen u when u are the one that forgot him, u claim u pray to God but considers ur own priority ist, he doesn't answer a sinful prayer especially wen u slept with these men even to the point of a having a child n espect him to turn ur situation around. My dear forget this men, focus on God, ur career, life n d little kid, he is a merciful lord n I know he has already forgiven u if u v sort for him genuinly, u may think ur case is worse but their are ppl out there that their's is worst. Have u ever thought about d blind, d barren praying for children n even ladies like u that v nvr received compliment from any man but all these are still happy n grateful for the gift of life. U trully v to love urself, focus on better things n do that which pleases God, every other thing will be added unto You.
ReplyDeleteWhen people post, let them say the truth not half truths or lies! Madam single mother please tell them the truth
ReplyDeleteAnonymous poster #5, its like you need glasses.
ReplyDeleteGood girls are always suckers for bad boys. That's proof enough. You'll be fine, give it time dear, healing will come. Are you working on nabbing the criminal who stole from you. Give it to change your enviroment a wee bit, take a holiday, travel with your baby for Christmas...you'll be fine.
ReplyDeleteDear poster my advice for u is to serve God like u are seeing him, love him wit all of ur being don't serve him cos u need a man , God is ur keeper , ur shield , Work hard for ur child nd trust me u wil smile soon. Pls don't take ur life cos No one wil take care of ur child like u, trust God, he's alive he hears u but serve him bcos u knw he's God. Maybe I should send my story to stella so u knw urs is a tip of d iceberg. Love ursef nd Love ur child nd Love God. The key of ur happiness is in ur pocket never allow any man hold it for u. We love u.
ReplyDeleteGod will never leave u nor farsake u. He feels ur pains and knows exactly wot u'r going through. Just wait on HIM.
ReplyDeleteAnon 9.00am,you must be a kid out of wedlock or your parents are divorced or separated.they always sound bitter.my dear the father being talked about here is God.thank God you are in the land of the living.
ReplyDelete@ d poster: dnt giv up on God cos he wnt giv up on u-He may not show up when you want Him, but He will be right on time .He is never late. Keep trusting God; ur faith really matters. He will giv u many reasons t smile again. Cheer up
ReplyDeleteeeyah, sorry but i have some guys that can help your situation on contract basis, you dont deserve to be lonely and feel rejected. Believe me you will get your groove back.
ReplyDeleteCommon zoom outta here u gigolo, u wanna worsen her situation, u don meet cheap ashawo yahoo yahoo cheap fraudster like U. GTFOH
Delete@anon 2:29 why is it paining you. The guy is ready to give cash back guaranteed service..... na wa for all this hypocrites oo
DeleteSTFU n run along with ya pateri Pant, hypocrites in indeed Agbaya
DeleteAt poster, You need to wake up my dear girl! What you need to realise first of all my dear is that a man is not the answer to your joy. God is! Here is my advice.. Get closer to God! Let him be your everything..envelop yourself in his love. No man can love you the way God does! God loves you so much, bask in that love. He will heal your broken heart. Join a bible Church..get active, develop your spiritual life. Be the best mother to your child. Stop sleeping with the guys you meet, stop spending money on them! As a matter of fact, don't be in a hurry to rush into the next relationship. Be patient and be wise! Don't open up to every guy that claims to love you. Bible says we should test all spirits! Don't trust just anybody. God makes everything beautiful in his own time. He will bring the right man for you in HIS time but stop waiting for your life to start when a man comes! Get busy, go out with friends, you are comfortable.. Help the less priviledged! Be HAPPY!! You don't need any man to make you happy, a man is still a human being..he will always let you down.. All this love you keep showering on them, shower it on God. Don't forget you have a child and she is watching you! Be her role model. Wake up!
ReplyDeleteGod bless You for dis wonderful comment pls Poster adhere to dis advises n see changes in ur life! It is well with U.
DeleteThank you all, some comments actually put a smile to my face. God bles u stella and everyone. I feel a lot better....POSTER
ReplyDeletelove love this comment change ur dating pattern from all u have said u are the one trying to keep the man if he loves u he would stay if not open the door for him and make sure nothing stands in his way of leaving ur a woman strength should be ur second nature no man shud eva walk all over you.
ReplyDeleteI meant God as our father. Dnt worry God will father you and provide for all your needs ijn amen. All is well
ReplyDelete*in Deitrick Haddon's voice* Don't give up on God cos he won't give up on you,He's able! God is able to do the least u expected. U are a single parent,working hard to make ends meet and don't av a man in your life. Hmmmm...try this: When u're down,listen to soul lifting songs(do more of singing),assume God is dere with u and pour out ur mind lyk u're seeing him and afterwards,pray. I'll see the magic. Then always look good,don't wear the dejected look,always wear a smile and be strong. God be with you #bless. Debby
ReplyDelete*in Deitrick Haddon's voice* Don't give up on God cos he won't give up on you,He's able! God is able to do the least u expected. U are a single parent,working hard to make ends meet and don't av a man in your life. Hmmmm...try this: When u're down,listen to soul lifting songs(do more of singing),assume God is dere with u and pour out ur mind lyk u're seeing him and afterwards,pray. I'll see the magic. Then always look good,don't wear the dejected look,always wear a smile and be strong. God be with you #bless. Debby
ReplyDeleteI don't get it, When married women or a lady planning to get married someday advices a lady to avoid men and be happy? That's a miserable life that nobody should ever think of wishing it to a lady, especially in a developing country like ours.
ReplyDeleteThat's by the way, for the poster, your problem seem to have stream from men. My prayer is that God will surely send a good husband to your way sooner to dry your tears, in Jesus name AMEN.
everything in life comes with time. Dear poster relax ur time will Deffinately come.
ReplyDeleteSweet Sister. You are Loved and Precious to Jesus, Be encouraged like David 1st Sam 30:6, Better days are ahead of you, Don't give up, May God come through for you!!!
ReplyDeletedear poster, my mum had me in are teen and my dad jilted her. she focus on her school by dropping me at my grandma's and going back to the uni. after are graduation she focus on looking for a job 9all this while sending me gifts and money) when she was settle came for me. Men well scare of her bcos of me and some came just to have their way but she refuse and focus on God. she joined MFm prayer program and build are spiritual life. In due time God gave her a new job and in her focus and enjoyment of the job she met her man. Here is the deal: focus on God and love your child then take good Care of u, finally love your work and you will meet a man God want you to have. ps: hope your character and behavour aint bad??? i mean violent, abusive and commanding (bossy). God will help you.
ReplyDeleteIt is well my sister, ur man wil surely locate u soon. Get closer to God and put ur trust in him.
ReplyDeleteMay God lift you up and make you whole, nothing is beyond God.
ReplyDeleteMy dear almost in d same shoes...u cn be happy without any man! I have a2yrs old son n he all dat matters.I knw wen d tym coms things wd fall in place my dear..we sud talk n share ideas.dolapo_bisi@yahoo.com
ReplyDeleteif u lonely and u need love;u can holla @ me;i will treat u like a lady;follow me on twitter @xjaylive;i'll be waiting for u;would love to see what u look like;send ur pics to sean.wayans@yahoo.com
ReplyDeleteStop sleeping with them and do it Gods way, hell suprise u!!
ReplyDeleteAnonymous get off this page u sound like a 419 with ur yeye twitter account....
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