Hi Stella/blog visitors,
My name is Andre. and i need you guys advice regarding my current situation.
I am currently single now however i have this guy i have been friends with for 7 years.i met this guy at a party 7 years ago and since then we have been friends. He told me everything including having a child at a young age,i didnt have a problem with this.We became close and could tell the more we got talking the more he liked me but as time went by I noticed he was not interested in going out me instead he wanted me as his friend.
Didnt mind then as i was young, had so many people on my case. Over the years we both were in relationship but still kept in touch. Whenever we talk we have this chemistry that i dont even have with boyfriends.
Fastforward 2013 am single educated , average looks ,hardworking,working but looking for a serious relationship(previous relationship didnt work out). My friend of 7years still in the picture single too. we got talking asked him why he opted out from asking me out then said he met someone else the same week he met me and then he was into bum and breast he chose her.
Recently am begining to realise i really like him. Have people on my case but for some reason i dont have any form of connection with them. My friend is educated,nice,kind,
christien,average look,intelligent,Ambitious,neat,focused, working my type of man. He claims right now that Before he enters a relationship he rather take his time.as previous relationship have all ended in disaster because they could not deal with him having a child and he rushed into it.However i dont know what he wants from me ,i keep getting mixed signals.
Should i pursue this , let it ride and see were it leads or simply ask him.
*My Dear give it a shot ojare.
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Give it a shot biko. Man nor die, man nor rotten.
ReplyDeletePls dnt give it anyshot. Calm down. Let him tell u if he wants u . Smpeople r best as frnds than lovers ooooo.
DeleteAm impressed with ur very simple advice.. If d guy has been an intimate friend for 7 Ɣrs and He still hasn't asked her out despite d fact he s single and not seeing anyone, d babe shud please park well and let him crave for her or else dat shot stella is askin u to give it could hurt for a lifetime..
DeleteTruth is he may love u so dearly but is scared to open up to u. Cos he doesn't know how uld take it since uv bin frnds for dat long, u on d oda hand love him too so I tink u shld tell him. If u do, u may jst b freeing him frm d bondage of having to tell u. He wuld b so glad u helped him out. Trust me.
DeleteIf u keep quiet abt it, both of u can still move on well and even get married to som1 else den uld hav regrets for d rest of ur natural lives. If u r as close to each oda as u made us bliv den derz no biggie in letting it out. If it doesn't work uld both overlok it and move on.
DeleteStella, GBAM! u hit d nail on d head... My dear go for it jor.... Its obvious u guys both love each oda bt fear is d main problem here. Pls make d move and pls invite us 4 ur weddin ooooooo.
ReplyDeleteWhat obvious pls?
DeleteI was friends wit dis guy for 5yrs b4 I realised I had feelings for him. In our case no one did d asking out, we realised we wer deeply in L♥√ع wit ourslvs and we Jst started dating. He was swit, did things for me lyk a lover in dos 5yrs but neva askd me out. I even used to visit him in his house. We watched a movie togeda one day, we wer both lying on d bed den we kissed and dat was wer d magic sprung from. He loved me and culdnt say it, same thing wit me so u c? In my opinion, jst tell him
Delete#in celine an Barbra's voices# Tell him...Tell him that the sun an moon rise in his eyes...reach out to him e e e e...Haw haw haw. Jokes aside now. Years ago,I had a friend who was giving me signals.He went as far as taking me out almost every night,buying me gifts,doing things a lover should do.The only aspect missing was intimacy.Thank goodness I never assumed we had crossed the friendship line. He travelled out of town for a couple of days and called me two days later to speak with his girlfriend.I was to assure her that I was just a friend. That was the first time I heard "girlfriend" in his mouth. I nicely told her what we were Just friends. He returned to base. We continued our friendship.I was wiser for it. I thinned out on many activities with him so I could make myself available to who didn't have a girlfriend! Sure enough,I started dating a cool Dude. Mr 'girlfriend' hardly saw me.I couldn't even take his calls most of the time.Silent mode biko.Would you believe months later,my 'just friends' guy came to me and confessed he loved me all along? Making me speak to his girlfriend was a ploy to challenge me to fight for him. What he didn't know was,dem nor dey challenge Niger Delta pickin o. Ship had sailed. Our stories are different.what am saying in this epistle is do not tell him o.challenge him! Create some harmless competition for him.See what comes out of it. Happy loving!
ReplyDeleteYour story no de finish?
DeleteRemember the "am scared, so afraid to show I care, will he think me weak.........." Part too oh!
DeleteYou are right wide eyed dont ask him out just encourage him
DeleteLooool @ ifeanyi.
DeleteWide u be Naija Delta pikin! Thot u claimed kinship with Mercy Johnson who is from Kogi. Okay! I get it! U be nigerian...lolzzzz
DeleteTopaz,what do you understand by the term "in~ law"? So your in~laws from another state are your kinsmen? Ok o.
Deletewide eyed there is no need for silent competiting,they have both been thuru several relationshipsing which they both knewed of...let her asked him,its simplule.if he saysd no she can moved on,if he agrees then good.they have both probabully missed the challenges they set out for each ther.
ReplyDeletelet her askd,they are both singlue,before she will waste times and he willy meet someone es.
Move on from the platonic friendship as well? If she asks and gets a 'No',she would be humiliated,degraded and shamed. Call me old fashioned,but its a man's call.A woman can only push his attention to make that call.
DeleteHian! English no be by force naw!!..
DeleteThuru, relationshipsing, simplule, saysd, probabully, singlue and willy!
DeleteWhat's all dis? Are u ok? Like seriously?
Wide eyed is sooo right; babe, don't ever ask him out, you obviously love dis guy so much, n it seems som1 is doing the loving more than the other(YOU!) If he really wants to date you, let him ask you..... 4rm ur story, he's not a shy guy cos he's bn asking other babes out. The best you can do is sit him down and ask him straight up dat wot does he really want with you.
DeleteI had a similar experience a few years back. This guy kept coming to see me, travln down 4m Lagos to Ibadan, he knew I loved him so much, yet ask me out, he no gree. I sat him down n askd him strait up. He complained of the distance(Lagos to Ibadan) and dat he'll prefer a bustier lady. I decided to cut all communications off completely wv him, focused on other things. Met someone else dat completely adores me and travels down from Lag to Ibadan every 2wks or weekly cos of me,we've been 2geda 4 2years now. Fomer guy still cals me to say som rubbish somtimes. I've concluded dat he's just a confused guy who probably liked me but not enough to date me. Don't Ever Ask dat guy out! Peace out!
@ AnonymousOctober 14, 2013 at 2:00 PM
DeleteYour english is painful to read, hanhan!
Social media has been exposing a lot of people,like you!
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If ur still singlue, tell him simuplue. Engrish is nt by force biko nu. U 4 jeje speak pidgin na. Hw she wan tk understnd u ehn kwa. He willy meet som1 es smh nna mehn engrish dikwa hardi.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahaha. Wickedness dey your body I swear.
DeleteHaaaaahaaaaaa, abeg have mercy!
DeleteSigning in as me. Your comment cracked me up. Take it easy on him/her....LMAO!
DeleteSigning in as me...LMAO! Ur comment cracked me up. Stella u are doing a good job keep it up ok!
Delete7years is too long for someone to keep giving mixed signals!i
ReplyDeletets either he's into u or not!and in ur case I don't think he is into u,he just wants u as a friend.
If u try going ahead to pursue something else,u will only get urself heartbroken.
God bless you jare
DeleteI am not sure about this. Naturally, men do the "chasing". If he truly wants you, he will chase you.
ReplyDeleteI will advise you not to tell him directly. If you do, trust me he will say yes. But come 6 months or 1 year down the lane, things might start getting out of hand because he never did the chasing. He never kind of struggled to have you - if you get what I mean.
On your part, try and kind of play the part that will enhance him into asking you. If you tell him directly, trust me, sooner or later he will come back and tell you to your face that he didn't kind of want you but you forced yourself on him.
If he wants you, he should ask if he's the near-perfect man you have described him to be!
I have a male colleague who categorically said if a woman asks him out, that relationship will not last more than two months. But when he does the chasing, he values that relationship more. I was equally surprised to hear other men voice the same opinion.
DeleteUna wicked o, y dear Aunty Stella why this kain advice. Andrea, this guy never made a move? He is obviously not painfully shy, he wants y'all to stay friends. You can take the chance and make a move but all signs are showing that he is not thinking in that way. He knows you don't mind his child and he definitely knows you like him. As a guy, I will tell you this...if you have been my friend for a while and I see opening, I will make the move with no need for too many signals. Just my two cents.
ReplyDeleteIm old fashion ooo i dont support a girl asking a guy out that the man job to do dt the only thing u cn do is give him clues dt u like him bt pls dnt ask him out.there are some reason why the guy is nt asking you out it might be that he is scared of ur life style or u are nt hs type of woman.nd u stop giving him all d benefit of a bf jare go out and hv fun.hv u asked ursef if d girls he dated asked him out? Pls forget this guy jare if he loves he will b all over you.
ReplyDeleteWide eyed I'm with you on this one. Babe get it done stylishly.
ReplyDeletena dream I for dey romance f*ck my own den. Well I no wan decode tumuch jor cos he visits dis blog regularly I introduce Stella blog to him lol..... As am about to work down d aisle everybody dey laugh am say he wife wan marry leave das how close we were, same primary and sec. and we still growing stronger
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DeleteI've bin in almst T̅ђє̲̣̥ same situation b4. I met a guy abt 4yrs thru a frnd. We kicked off almst immediately. We became veri closer dt M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ frnd dt introduced us got angry n had a misundastndin with ♍ƺ cs she had filins 4 T̅ђє̲̣̥ guy. The guy preferred ♍ƺ to ha I actually liked him n we became veri close tho we neva admitted to each oda.I wuz expectin him to at least say sumtin bt he didnt n I didnt wnt to luk cheap by admitin M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ filins to him S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡ I kept shut. Afta sumtym, I grew tired of waitin 4 him S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴͡ I went into relationshps jst to make him jealous bt he didnt make any muv. He wuz stil thr 4 ♍ƺ n wuz jst willin to do anytin 4 ♍ƺ. I had a misundastndin with him dt we weren't even talkin to each oda. I rily cnt explain ƜЂa†̥ happened bt I kept him at arm's length, pride also set in(which I rily regret nw all bcs I got a bb. I felt I had T̅ђє̲̣̥ whole world at M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ feet. I luked dwn on him).he gave ♍ƺ space. Den I met sum1 else bt got preg almst immediately which wuznt planed. I contemplated abrtion cs I cudnt bear to face T̅ђє̲̣̥ shame bt I didnt av T̅ђє̲̣̥ mind to do it. Pregnancy wuz hell. T̅ђє̲̣̥ new guy wuznt supportive. Tnk G̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡D̶̲̥̅ 4 M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ savings. Bayo saw hw broken n devastated I wuz cs of T̅ђє̲̣̥ preg n dt wuz ƜЂa†̥ brot him bak to ♍ƺ. He came bak n we became close once again bt I wuz preg 4 T̅ђє̲̣̥ new guy. At dt moment, I wished I wuznt preg. Bayo stiLl cared 4 ♍ƺ. He wuz ready to do anytin as in anytin to make ♍ƺ comfortable. Jst a call 4rm ♍ƺ, brot him runnin. If I had allowed him, he wud av bin thr wen I gave birth bt I didnt allow him cs of T̅ђє̲̣̥ new guy. All tru M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ relationshp į̸̸̨ƭƕ T̅ђє̲̣̥ new guy, I told bayo evrytin n anytin. He wuz M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ best frnd, M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ 2nd hrt n he cared genuinely 4 ♍ƺ. He apriciated ♍ƺ n accepted ♍ƺ 4 who I am. He always told me T̅ђє̲̣̥ truth weda I liked it or nt. He also likes M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ son like hs own. He always wished he wuz hs own. He said I shud always tnk M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ son cs twuz M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ son dt brot him bak to ♍ƺ. All tru wen I dated T̅ђє̲̣̥ new guy, I still had filins 4 bayo bt he gave ♍ƺ dt space. T̅ђє̲̣̥ new guy n I tried to make tins wrk btw us cs of T̅ђє̲̣̥ baby bt it jst didnt wrk S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡ we had to break up. He met sum1 else almst immediately. A nurse who wuz servin at ijebu ode. M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ son's expenses wuz solely on M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ head. It has always bin lyk dt except 4 lil money he drops at tyms n dt will b afta series of fights o. I'll pay 4 daycare cs I wrk, buy hs fud, diaper, clothins n all. T̅ђє̲̣̥ burden wuz jst too much 4rm M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ peanut salary. House rent is almst expired. Nid a beta place. Av to save 4 dt. Even if I get M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ salary, I go broke even b4 T̅ђє̲̣̥ 5th of evry mnth afta remuvin all T̅ђє̲̣̥ expenses, I'll av virtually nufin left. T̅ђє̲̣̥ new guy claimed he had met hs woman n will get married to ha I decided to b open to bayo n tell him abt M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ filins towards him cs i wuz tired of waitin. I wntd him to define ƜЂa†̥ wuz btw us. Bayo admittted he had filins 4 ♍ƺ bt we cnt b mre dan frnds cs of T̅ђє̲̣̥ misundstndin dt happened btw us sumtym ago he said he had made up hs mind thr n den dt he will nt av anytin to do į̸̸̨ƭƕ ♍ƺ apart 4rm being frnds. He said its rily difficult 4 him bt he cnt go bak n dt its nt bcs I av a baby. ♍ƺ avin a baby doesnt stop him 4rm datin n gettin married to me. Dis wuz abt a mnth ago. I wept profusely dt dae. I developed a fever immediately. I wuz shiverin badly n my mouth wuz bita. I wuz rejcted by T̅ђє̲̣̥ 1st n only person i Wud eva L♥√. I cudnt function well at wrk.den I decided to 4get him, twuz veri difficult. I had to stop comunicatin with him bt its nt easy. At least nw I knw I av to muv on. S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡ babe, ask him to define u̶̲̥̅̊я relationshp with him S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡ U̶̲̥̅̊ 'll knw if U̶̲̥̅̊ shud wait 4 him or muv on
ReplyDeleteToo long story, I didn't even bother to read it. Rubbish
DeleteNobody is begging you yo read na! You too rubbish
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Delete*dancin* @pealie...u v FINALLY chnged ur SAGGED BOOBS avi? Ow sweet! I hope we never get 2 see any of dat SHIT on ds blog or any blog 4 dat matter again....
Delete*dancin* @pealie...u v FINALLY chnged ur SAGGED BOOBS avi? Ow sweet! I hope we never get 2 see any of dat SHIT on ds blog or any blog 4 dat matter again....
DeleteAwwww I just shed a tear for you, the ending broke my heart, was really hoping you and Bayo would end up together (well I still belive u guys will someday)..stay courageous babe. Lool,#smh like I don't know Yuu but from this story I love you already. Bless you and yours and your baby too !
Delete@anon 8.56pm, this is real life o, no be mills & boon! Pple dont live happily ever after in real life.
DeleteIf not because you said should i ask him! i was thinking someone was sharing my story already,anyway on my case i simply told him how i felt and also told him to man up by asking me out with lots of threats on moving on so he did after 7yrs of being my very good friend. My two cent is present your case and make him ask you out
ReplyDeleteI av a friend wit dis kind of story..sh met dis guy durin her service in abj..dey liked each oda n dey had serious chemistry buh he was realy shy 2 ask her out.dey kept pretendin 2 each oda until she left abj..fast4ward 2 2013 she met him again in abj n dey had hot sex on their 1st 9t..last last he got d guts 2 ask her out b4 she left town..fast4ward 2 3mnths l8r she's nw pregnant n he vowed nt 2 av anythin2 do wit d baby..dis was a guy dat was soooo gud'harmless infact he was lik an angel..buh anywayz she's determined 2 av d baby..so my dear if he's t askin u out dnt throw ursef on him..let him c ur value himsef 'live like he's nt dere..if he's serious wit u he'll look 4 u
ReplyDeleteHow did you know that the sex was hot? Be truthful, you are the girl not your friend . Lol
DeleteOlodo cuz it resulted 2 a baby'
Delete@pealie Nd ow d hell z dat ur bisness?! Get a breast lift bitch!
DeletePlease o, be careful asking a guy out. I have been a close friend with a particular lady for 3 years, and I wasn't ready for what happened 3 months ago; she asked for a relationship. You see, woman are delicate and emotional. A guy can bear rejection, but a woman, that's a terrible thing to her. It was weird. I was so confused I was looking silly in her presence. What would I say? "No, it can't work" for someone who mustered the courage of Hercules to declare her love for you? CHAI! I withdrew from her for 3 weeks; no communication. After that, I took her to a fast food spot and explained things nicely to her, trying not to shatter her feelings. The message was clear, and we're still close. So please, I don't support you asking him for a relationship. What if he rejects? It's more traumatic and disgusting for women. If you truly love him, pray about it. He, or the right person, will come to you. #myopinion.
ReplyDeleteSo memphis,tell me,what are u doin with a girl u don't like for 3years?
DeleteFearless, I didn't say I don't like her. I just don't want a relationship with her, that's all. And I hope you didn't misunderstand my comment because this your question.... :D
DeleteI think it's insensitive and selfish to be close to a girl you are not going to date.
DeleteYea rite! I av very few male friends dt i am very close to and it doesn't mean I want to date dem. Nt every friend is datable.# any friendship btw d opp sex dt is more dan 2 years shld shld jst b defIned as a "friendship" and memphis isn't being insensitive...he's only being real. Was friends wit ds rily cute guy. Initially I had a crush on him bt wen we bcame so close(too close dt every1 thot we were dating) I realised I jst cldnt date him...he jst wasn't my kind of guy. Fastfoward had anoda friend( a guy) nd he was Swit has a friend. He was dere for me wen I broke up wit my bf. Nw he's askin me out..I av politely tld him I am nt interested bt ds guy won't give. He even offered me moni to date him....#pls who does?. For me, I dnt think u shld ask him out. Am sure he tinks of u only as his friend. Take ur mind off him nd move on to oda guys
DeleteThey want friends with benefit
DeleteFor now I don't think he wants more than just a friend,.maybe tomorrow he will but am afraid he may never. Am a guy, if a guy can keep you as just friends for 7yrs without doing anything silly and naughty..... forget it.
ReplyDeleteBut wait it seems to me that you only want him now because your relationship has failed...those days you were busy with some guys you never wanted him.
@Anon 2.00pm u are the real bomb!!!
ReplyDelete@Anon 2.17pm no be small thing oh.
my belly is seriously aching coupled with tears......hahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa........................................................... OMG! Engrish oh Engrish why art thou forsaken pple
Omo, police don upgrade oh, dis is d call center numba 112. There was a robbery in my neighbour's house and I called them... next thing I heard was.
ReplyDeleteWelcome to Nigeria Police Emergency Center... for English press. 1, for Igbo press 2, for Yoruba press 3. Then I pressed 1... then another voice came up....For Car Accident press 1, for Armed Robbery press 2, for Boko haram please hang up...Den I pressed 2, another voice came up...If they're with knives press 1, pistols press 2, AK 47 press 3, machine guns press 4, bomb press 5, all of the above press 6...Then I checked and saw they were with all of them then I pressed 6... another a voice came up saying...
Hmmmm...! My brother, if your brother dey police u go gree make im come
The point of this stale joke here is?
DeleteI think i agree with Wide Eye... Dont plainly tell him,just challenge him. And if he still doesnt mk any move,dust your slippers and move on. Best relationships starts from friendships tho. All in all,marry yhur best friend.
ReplyDeleteBtw... I always love your comments Wide eye. Yhu seem smart.
Stella plz ur email or who ever has it plz paste it
ReplyDeleteDon't do it ooooo,was in the same shoe,10whole bloody years,he kept blowing hot and cold.my friends kept saying tell him,tell him,what's the worst that could happen,well I went ahead and told him how I felt he just kept quiet like a chopped off goat head,didn't say nufn,didn't even respond.I felt like a fool,fast forward to 2013,he's been on my case saying he's coming bk to Nigeria and wants to see me,well guess what?I so do not care.that ship has sailed.if u tell him can u deal wiv a No cus babe u'l feel like the Queen of fools.
ReplyDeleteHonestly don't ..u only like him cos u r keen on his mata nd I guess dats y ur oda relationship didn't work! If he can't c d signal by now its cos he doesn't c u that way as his woman and once u've been friendzoned u get to knw way too much abt each other and it makes it difficult to even date or get married trust me so just open up to other men in your life nd stop restricting urself cos of som1 that obviously doesn't want u even afta 7yrs! And I guess u can tell dt he's nt d shy type!
ReplyDeleteHonestly don't ..u only like him cos u r keen on his mata nd I guess dats y ur oda relationship didn't work! If he can't c d signal by now its cos he doesn't c u that way as his woman and once u've been friendzoned u get to knw way too much abt each other and it makes it difficult to even date or get married trust me so just open up to other men in your life nd stop restricting urself cos of som1 that obviously doesn't want u even afta 7yrs! And I guess u can tell dt he's nt d shy type!
ReplyDeleteMy dear Andre, if you've been with this dude as friends for so long as 7 years and he is still in close contact with you yet fiegns love for another, trust me girl, we are missing a puzzle piece.
ReplyDeleteU too act up! Play his game! But DO NOT ASK HIM OUT O! You go just spoil everyyyyy.
Beat him to his game, if he doesn't act jealous or fights to have you all for himself, then just maybe he sincerely prefers to have you as a platonic friend.
What you do? Move on....spend time more with another guy you fancy, put him on the back seat.
Everything will fall Into place that way. Allow things flow naturally.....asking him out may only lead him to accept u out of sympathy and then you may get hurt at the end.
Bloglord weldone !!!..Best comment yet.quite agree with you.
DeleteThe last girl I dated, asked me out, and it worked, though she is married now. It all depends on the type of person and his reactions towards issues. Start by doing things u think a girl should be doing for his guy, or treating him the way u treat ur boyfriend, and see if he will reciprocate.
ReplyDelete@Tony,,,no wonder you are so ''pained''
DeleteInsulting women all over blogs
So,,ur girlfrnd left u and got married
Abeg shift jarre.
If you are not his girlfriend don't act like one,no nid cooking or doing all those stuffs,just free this guy he doesn't love you.
DeleteDon't ask him out, cos if he was into u he would have asked u out since u guys know yourselves for seven years , he said he is into breast and bums which I think u don't have so I would advise u to start dressing smartly , change your look, if u are d type that don't makeup , start doing it but correctly thou , they are men that says they only like a certain type of woman and still ends up with d opposite, slim woman can be sexy , get him with your appearance! U don't have to expose anything, just dress to your body type That's all!
ReplyDeleteBuahahahahaaaaaaaa @ anon 4 and 6.
ReplyDeleteYour english ehnnnnnn.....hehehehe...omo grammar, Na for dictionary o'jare!
Lolest
Nooooooooooooooooo.
ReplyDeletePls no.
Being there. Done that.
He will nicely use you and carefully dump you.
X0x0 ....BUSH GIRL
WORD!!!
ReplyDeleteNa wa o! R u dat desperate? U no b him spec if not e 4 toast u tey tey. Even 4 chop n clean mouth, him no even consider u. Then u r there deceiving urself. Na wa o! I feel so sorry 4 u. Dats d shit with most girls. U c a guy n plan ur whole future wen e neva toast u. Last last if u ask him out him go use u hold body and then wen he meets a girl he actually likes and is allover her u will now send a stupid letter to stella to post about how u want to commit suicide cuz he dumped u and married a girl he met in one month. Save urself d stress. Matter of fact save us all d stress
ReplyDeleteblunt but so true.
DeleteHey dear, try getting him to a very a place you both will feel very comfortable and talk about defining your relationship. Rather than asking directly if he wants to date you, you could ask him where he thinks your friendship is headed.......just make him define the relationship and help yourself afterwards by drawing or crossing the line. In my case I just asked: hey, can we define this relationship cos we are ordinarily getting too close for comfort.
ReplyDeleteAndre, ( I like your name)
ReplyDeleteFor some reason I feel other relationships didn't work out because you were too involved with a guy that has stuck you in the Friend-zone.
If he can't take your hints, try to get on with your life. You sound like you'll be an asset to any guy.
Goodluck!
With all ds contrasting comments, I think u guys are confusing her d more.
ReplyDelete#Dearest Andre my advice is go with the flow, move on with ur life, dnt tell him anything, dnt ask him out, dnt ask him to define ur relationship, jst move on after all u said other guys are on ur matter, jst pick 1 out of them and transfer all ds love and feelings to him.
Its nt dt hard nw.
@ Wide Eyed, couldn"t agree more!
ReplyDeleteDO NOT TELL HIM! If I hear! i like guys that are sensitive, if he is oblivious of your feelings now, there is a good chance that he would always be.
ReplyDeleteon the other hand, he may be holding back because he is scared of the pain your rejection will cause him.
so i suggest that you let him have some competition like wide eyes suggested!
plus you know guys are funny,, if you tell him now, he may think you are getting desperate cos he knows most of your story for 7 years.
All the best :)
Please don't. Just send him signals with your body language, don't ask him out. Moreover he said he is into boobs and all which I assume you don't have. Be patient your man will come.
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Please People,I want to ask,does anyone have Mrs. Stella's e-mail address?, I can't seem to get it on the website... Thanks alot. I'd appreciate if I could get a response.
ReplyDeleteMy first real relationship was one I had to get the guy to ask me out. He was single, I was recently single at that time and we were good friends. We met thru a mutual friend in PH and just remained platonic. Fast forward 2 years, I was in Lagos for a brief hols, and he was in Lagos too for business. I started talking about dating just about d very next guy I met, cos I was tired of being single... d jealous "man" in him woke up and he asked me out that same day! Tho d relationship didn't last more than 8 months, but till date its my best relationship ever.
ReplyDeleteMy point: be smart enough to "get"(describe wonderful scenarios of prospective/ existing relationship) him to ask u out, but if u notice he is not responding to stimulus then move on. Always remember that the best relationship for ladies is always when the guy loves u more.
just tell him codedly. U̶̲̥̅̊ know ђã† ℓ̊ mean.
ReplyDeleteabbeg dont give him a shot oo
ReplyDeleteSdk no go dey dere if u start to dey cry oooo
I think you guys are better off as friends than ''lovers''
This same mistakes some ladies keep ''making''.......just be his frnd alone....let him ''crave'' for you,,,his own way
Take a clue from pple dt have been dere bfor
Pple like @Frank Edoho and beautiful ex wife @Catherin Obiang.....
They were better as frnds,,,not lovers.....dey married,,,,and ''kasala'' burst
It is well dear...let GOD lead you.
Stella wey my comment? U don take am fry kulin kulin bah? Issorait! #GodiswatchingU#
ReplyDeleteyou are too available for him. step back and give him competition, if he is your man, he will step up. personally I prefer a man that knows what he wants and goes for it. how can you be friends with him for 7 years and yet he might like you and not make a move.
ReplyDeletePoster, clear well and make yourself available to other guys.
ReplyDeleteThat guy is not into you, I swear down. He wants you as a friend nothing more. Don't put him on the spot. He might date you out of sympathy and you will both regret it later.
@Galore da bitch
ReplyDelete@Anon d Second Bitch
DeleteMthceww...silly ass.
Problems dey his side now and u want to go and wake him up,ooo
ReplyDeletetomorrow u will come here again and begin dey tell how men take be wicked and cowards,woman should learn how to allowed men talk to them first,you will look cheap to him tomorrow,
for me friendship is better,becos any woman dat is dreaming a marriage with me is a big joker,pushing a man in a marriage things,,nawaaaaa
I am two months in a relship with a girl i liked very much b4.She cares too much.Call too much.Lov too much.I had to be ina relship wid her cos i saw too many gd thns and was fast forward.
ReplyDeleteThose i lov her bt was nt ready 4 a relship.Right now,i think d lov is nt strong and am beggining to take her for grant..if u hate for this,God wl punish you!
I am two months in a relship with a girl i liked very much b4.She cares too much.Call too much.Lov too much.I had to be ina relship wid her cos i saw too many gd thns and was fast forward.
ReplyDeleteThose i lov her bt was nt ready 4 a relship.Right now,i think d lov is nt strong and am beggining to take her for grant..if u hate for this,God wl punish you!
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