WTF is this?proof of what?..I need to clean my ears!
This brings me to the point to alert and warn you ladies out there.once you marry him,whether he is rich or poor,keep the marriage certificate,IT IS YOUR PROPERTY....exactly as you are told at the registry....it is the only proof you have when his family begins acting funny,especially if he is/was rich.
I hope this is a joke......abi Bianca and Ojukwu were just living together,married by word of the mouth?
And those of you ladies who are doing live in lovers all the name of love and waiting for him to propose and getting preggy and reproducing in the process,i hand your cases over to God.
You will be the loser in the end unless you are ready to fight dirty!
*i don talk my own...am off to make dinner.normal blogging will resume soon.lol
Whaaaaaat? Am I hearing well?
ReplyDeleteIn the end all is vanity... if u must be rich, make ur own money and get as much as u can from the man while he is alive. U myt ve all the certificates in d world, crt, trad n white wedding cert and find urself in d midst of greedy n troublesome pple who ll still fight u for riches of ur late spouse.
Deleteam sure @Kemi olunloyo will be dancing ''Skelewu'' by now
DeleteI dont know why she is full of hatred
Chaai....mental case
@Bianca....be strong....you will overcome ds ''storm''
And @Sdk...thanks for d advice,,,,bcos @ times,,,we let ''love'' blind us.
Stella pls wats ur email
Deleteeven if she never marry (and we all saw the pictures in Prime People biko! Bianca's brother gave her away) she is definitely a common law wife. They should try something else
ReplyDeleteThose people must be very ignorant. How can they be asking for the marriage certificate as proof when under the law if you have lived with a man for a certain number of years in that capacity you are deemed to be his wife under common law. Certificate or no certificate. SMH
ReplyDeleteSTELLA SHE MARRIED HIM IN THE ANGLICAN CHURCH AND IF YOU LOOK FOR BACK ISSUES OF OVATION U WILL SEE HER TRADITIONAL WEDDING TO OJUKWU BEFORE HER FATHER DIED.HE FORGAVE HER AND OJUKWU PAID HER BRIDE PRICE I TILL HAVE A COPY OF THAT OVATION MAGAZINE.............ALL THIS ONE NA LIE LIE THEM DEY TALK ,BESIDES IN IGBO LAND ITS THE NATIVE MARRIAGE THAT IS RECORGNIZED.
ReplyDeleteDint mind them, if na me ehn.by the time i use that pikin wey be ojukwu carbon copy smack them for head,them go ask me again for proof.shegu yan tusa kawai.mschwwwwww.
DeleteWhen they got married in church in Abuja it was all over the papers. What will they do with the proof or lack of?
ReplyDeleteNa wa ooooo. Make she show dem weddin certificates nw and weddin photoes.
ReplyDeleteWhat proof??? This must be a joke!!!
ReplyDeletethat's why its bad to marry someone for the wrong reason. she married him coz of thirst for POWER AND CONNECTION n money.
ReplyDeleteYou are stupid
DeleteSee this ignorant fowl. You're a crab. Not everyone will do that cos it's obvious that's the reason you'd marry someone. Loser. Gaan find out who her father was. Ewu!
DeleteStella you have spoken well I when I get home now I have to go and check where I kept mine maybe. Is still there
ReplyDeleteWhat is d name of dis paper?
ReplyDeleteI watched dia weddin on tv
Hahahhhahahahahahaahahahhahahahahahha, i hear u oh
ReplyDeleteStella, it is *LIVING TOGETHER* not *LEAVING TOGETHER*
ReplyDeleteONE LOVE!
Yah!!! BBC is back. Wia have u been? Been looking for u all dis while. Pls send me details hw I can reach u. Need to improve my spoken English biko. Pls help a sister
DeleteBBC don renew hin subscription, yayyyyyy! *tongueout*
DeleteHahahahahahahahahaha
DeleteONE LOVE
Err....Oga BBC, its "corrector" not "correcter" tnk me ltr.
DeleteLmao! Mr. Corrector can't even spell 'corrector'. Correcter indeed!
Delete- Diaries Brown-
Hahaa, after how many children? Evidence ke. We are watching and learning.
ReplyDeleteIf this is for real, them pls Madam Bianca, leave this family you can raise your kids on your own! I mean WTF first of Ojukwu gives u an ultimatum that everything u got from him should be seized if you ever remarry. Abeg bone this confused family ffind your way before them kill u join o biko kwa
ReplyDeleteBefore a man u married put such a clause that goes to show he didn't trust hs wife or maybe hs wife ws cheating on him so dnt blame him
DeleteHaba! The land she inherited in his village reverts to his kin if she remarries. Stop making shit up.
DeleteI knew you were goin to blog ds and u didn't add the part where they said that bianca kids are not for ojukwu hehe anyway let the comments start coming in
ReplyDeleteWHAT!!!! Bianka kids are not for Ojukwu??, then where she get those ugly children from? Those kids na carbon copy of ugly Ojukwu.. checkout their head of life (in stella' dimokokus' voice)
Delete..and okpolo eyes of existence. People are just plain mean.
DeleteChei...see gobe!!But that's soo unfair.After how many kids???Some families wicked sha.Were they asleep when Ojukwu was going everywhere with her and enjoying her?Madam Bianca...show dem pepper jorrrr!
ReplyDeleteAunty stella relax your body biko amebo who tell you say bianca no marry ojukwu mcheew no mk me pour you hot water o
ReplyDeletelmao@busybody correcter...where u dey snce na?welcome back oh.
ReplyDeleteAll diz stupid families, y didn't d say or print such in d news paper while he wz alive...mtchwww Greedy n selfishness, y wud d progress, its 2run after d wealth of a dead man.I'm sure d killed him
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm! This is very funny. I just think every woman should work really had and be independent and self suficent because the only person you can trust is GOD n yourself. At least whatever the case at the end of the day bianca can take care of herself n her kids.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of family is dat?all these cos of inheritance? Smh
ReplyDeleteI am sure they were all lovey_dovey around her while he was alive.
Thank God she's doing well on her own,she should let them 'eat it all',the thing with such is that it will choke them and in no time they will come back begging her,dats when she would take her own pound of flesh!
Btw in laws in africa are mostly evil someone need to dine with them with a lonnng knife.
Dats wat happen wen a woman is trying to over shadow men in a wise men family,take hearts
ReplyDeleteMoney money money. Thats the root cause of all this wahala.
ReplyDeleteMr anonymous
Abegi! Make dem leave dis woman matter jor.person wey FFK don almost fuck her toto comot.rubbish
ReplyDeletehahaha! i told my bf i was broke because i lost my job and he sent me 5k, in this day and age and this is som1 who earns a reasonable amount of money. i just thought to myself so if i marry this boy and i need financial assistance, it is 5k he would be givng me. it just helped me make up my mind not to depend on any man for any money whatsoever. never ever.
ReplyDeleteIs he supposed to send you his ATM and pin???
DeleteShetup! What can 5k do for her. Be reasonable. It's different thing when one doesn't have. But when one is being stingy its disgusting.
DeleteIs your bf from ibo?na their way,stingy set of people
DeleteUr boyfriend harsh ooooo. Haba, 5k too small nw. Wetin she wan use am buy....
DeleteWho says d guy doesn't have his own problems too and how would coming to SDK increase 5K to 50K.
DeleteMy boyfriend is stinger than yours. He adores me to death BUT he doesn't give me 10 kobo! If he gives, it's chicken change compared to what he has. If you love him, stay with him and wipe d monetary aspect.
DeleteAll these useless traditions and customs of brothers inheriting their late brother's properties leaving the wife and children to nothing has to be stopped. This is one out of millions of such cases especially in the east. The good thing is Bianca can stand up for herself and children against those lazy bones. My heart goes out for those ones (widows) who can speak for themselves.
ReplyDeleteI am not supporting this family members o but then again, they are fighting over Sir Louis Ojukwu's property not Ikembas property. Ojukwu's father owned those properties in Ikoyi!!! Even these family members took Ojukwu to court before his demise. Bianca now wants to continue? Bianca, Bianca Bianca, if you love your self and your children, run. If it were your husbands property, we would fight and shout for you.
ReplyDeleteThis gal no dey fear? Married your fathers friend that carried you at your naming ceremony? Of course her father was mad. Abeg just make the most of your appointment, biko, and leave all these family people.
ReplyDeleteThings like ds is very very common in d eastern part of Nigeria, it happens in other parts too o, bt not as much as theirs, I'm 4rm there, so I'm not tribalistic, I can't believe such can also happen in a family as wealthy as this, why do pple like oppressing widows, why, why, this is not fair, if this can happen to a woman as influential as this, then it is well for others o. So annoying
ReplyDeleteNawa oo
ReplyDeleteMarriage under the act has been discussed extensively in www.oyenikealliyu-adebiyi.blogspot.com, it will help women both married and single to know if their marriage is recognized or void under the law. Thanks aunty Stella for always posting this link
ReplyDelete@ anon 5:26 PM,let me correct you.Bianca never married Ojukwu coz of connection or fame.her father nd Ojukwu were friends...Her father was once a governor sef
ReplyDeleteWhat proof again. Were they not legally married. Hope this will not end in gobe.
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irrespective of her stance and justification,ojukwu himself should not have put her in that position neither should she still be dragging properties with them.
ReplyDeletethe goodwill,political connections and name the man has left for her and the children made her what she is today.her children can never suffer especially amongst their people of the south east.
this is Africa not western world where all that matters is the letter of the law,in Nigeria the tradition and customs right or wrong also has a place before judgement.
when you marry a man who not only has grown up children,but these children are eminent and accomplished in their own right you are looking for trouble if you try and usurp what they see as their right.especially the role of first born son amongst the Igbos..
even if the whole money involved is 100,000 naira it is symbolic of something deeper i.e a woman taking over the role of the men in the family so they will not allow her any peace until she succumbs
What are you saying now???
DeleteLuca, you just summed it up nicely, wisely and correctly.
DeleteWisest saying so far. U dont just walk in and take d right of grown men, just cos a lustful old man took u in as a wife. NO ibo man ll tolerate dat, its crap.
DeleteHmmm na wa o. There's a yoruba proverb that says..one who marries an old person should be ready to buy his coffin. I can imagine Shade Okoya will be smiling sheepishly now, cos she ensured that the man married her legally. And I thot to myself then, that it is possible that okoya's first wife was never legally married to him... eventho she was his recognized wife b4 shade. So I think today, it is only that shade that is legally married to the man. Under the law the other women who bore him kids (including his first wife)...are baby mamas. Traditional wedding, yes. But if they no marry the man for court na long thing o. Wakeup call to all the young babes that are 'married' to the likes of Ojukwu.
ReplyDeleteThank you o. These days chic buy rings and wear them and lie that they are 'married.' In the long run let's hope such chic don't end up singing that song 'who's zooming who.' by Aretha Franklin, thinking because they bore babies, in a court of law they have much to say. It doesn't always turn out that easy.
DeleteAre u aware that traditional marriage is recognised in a court of law?
DeleteMrs Zulu, from a Lawyer's point of advise, Shade Okoya's legal marriage is null and void ab initio. If she wanted a court marriage under the act, Okoya would have dissolved his traditional wedding with his first wife, so that he can marry just as one man, one wife. So according to the law, Shade is not Okoya's wife, she is just cohabiting. But the only thing is if Okoya wishes to take more wives, he can do so, by conducting traditional weddings, not court marriages. And it depends on your tribe. As an ibo person, if you marry under the act without a traditional marriage, you are not married. You are living as boyfriend girlfriend. Even the Nigerian courts admits the traditional marriages of ibos to be valid over a court wedding. So be careful. Always find things out and know what works for you
DeleteAnon 12:16. Err there's a bit of contradiction in ur analysis. U say traditional marriage is recognized in court right? And then u said shade's is not valid? Being that she did both the court and d trad, and if the man had a wife under the law ab-inito, why would he marry shade in court again? And if trad wedding is acceptable, say he did trad with his other wives too...errr? Who's is the legal one? If u are saying the ibo trad is recognized, fine, I wouldn't knw cos am yoruba. But does that also apply to non ibos according to d law?
DeleteMy understanding of legal weddings in Nigeria is such that the trad is more important bcos of our respective cultures. However, the legal certificate is what binds u under the law, therefore u cannot marry 2pple except u divorced one. So where does this leave the others, if perhaps they've been married off traditionally and u say it is also acceptable??
What Money, What Connection?.
ReplyDeleteBianca was Chief Christian Onoh's daughter. ( an ex governor) so she had money.
She was a beauty queen, so she had fame.
So my people Bianca married Ojukwu for love.
*Adah Adah**
Anon #8 how do you know she married him for the wrong reasons? I once read an interview where she described Ojukwu's personality and why she loved him. I was quite young then, but it was music to my ears. You can't replace true love with money and fame. It's unfortunate they can't settle their problems amicably. But I suppose Bianca is fighting so that her children would not disinherited at the end of the day, not necessarily that she is not wealthy on her own.
ReplyDeleteCan this woman breathe????
ReplyDeleteFfk, kemi omololu, in laws?
O ga ju!
Hope this will make Kemi realise that Bianca has
DeleteReal issues and serious businesses to handle and would never even dream of exchanging childish banter with her on fb wether real or imagined.
Psychotic old hag.
That piece of paper even though to some might just be 'a piece of paper' but hold on to it. It could mean a matter of poverty or wealth in countries where the records of marriages and so on could be tampered with. In this case, it smells like a rat, someone is using a ' pound of flesh' trickery to cheat this woman out of some assets.
ReplyDeleteMrs Zulu, Okoya is a muslim, your theory doesn't work here.
ReplyDeleteIgnoramus what is is your bf from ibo? Illiterate.
ReplyDeleteAs long as its nt gonna callof dz damn strike**ko kan mi**ejoo le fe ro***hawt lawyer
ReplyDeleteStella, most people are not aware of the Marriage situation in Nigeria. A valid marriage depends on your tribe and religion. In the case of Bianca, if she never carried out her traditional wedding with. Odimegwu, she was never married,she was just cohabiting. Let her produce a court marriage certificate from President Obama, according to Ibo traditional marriage which the court recognises and supercedes marriage act, she isn't married. And the kids she had for Ojukwu, the Onohs can claim those children. So all you women that think they are married to ibo men without traditional wedding, it is a sham piece of paper. Always find out before leaping. Same goes for men also.
ReplyDeleteWe have corrected BBC many times about that C word. That's why i don't take her seriously. She can't spell herself.
ReplyDelete@ anon October 25, 2013 at 12:08 PM she married him traditionally. Rant over.
ReplyDeleteI dont think Sade Okoya had a court marriage o, she nly did traditional marriage which the man did for his first wife and even the other one that left (i think she relocated to UK or so)
ReplyDeleteIts not a big deal in yoruba and to do traditional marriage esp for muslims, he has to do it so his wives can cook for him during ramadan, they call it WONKA, that Mama Kuburat is and will remain his 1st and authe wife, she shd save for her future - finito!!!
Sorry Lady Bianca - this too shall pass, hold unto ur job well, ur husband has paved way for u, dont kill urself cause of d late man's properties!
HYBunny
my own is that Bianca should leave this people and run i don't care if she married for love or out of hate, she should just dust her slippers and run..she is the ambassador to Spain, has political connections, she has enough for her and her children...its just the physical fight that we are even seeing o, the spiritual ones nko??
ReplyDeleteYou think Bianca isn't powerful herself? Queen of the coast. Just like Sade Okoya. When you see women fighting families you think it's ordinary eye? Don't be fooled they are strong women. Alhaja Kuburat save for her future? Poor woman she doesn't even have shishi. Wasted it all on gold and laces.
ReplyDeleteWhy is will necessary? Who can make a will? What are the advantages of making a will? So many questions on will...... I bring to you good news visit www.oyenikealliyu-adebiyi.blogspot.com for all your answers on will and other interesting topics.
ReplyDeleteThanks Aunty Stella,i hope u won't get tired of me thanking you because I will still come
Mrs Zulu, let me explain these things to you. In Nigeria, marriage under the Act is recognised, but due to our cultural differences, other cultures tradition had to be accepted and recognised. For example the Yorubas have no problem if they marry under the act, either going to court or church, it is binding. But if an ibo person does that, he or she isn't married until the traditional marriage is done. If the traditional marriage isn't done, and they married under the act, it is no marriage. On the Okoyas, if Shade did traditional marriage before the court wedding, then she is a wife, if not she is just cohabiting and laying eggs. Okoya's other wives are recognised irrespective of any other court wedding Shade might have done. If a man marries traditionally in Yorubaland, he is allowed to take more wives and is marriage is recognised under the law, but if he chooses to do a court marriage, he would have to divorce his wives traditionally before having a court marriage. If he goes ahead with the court wedding, it's no marrige. It's void ab initio
ReplyDeleteOhhkk then I gat you. I understand the Islamic aspect of marrying many wives under the tradition etc. But marrying everyone traditionally, but then including the court union with just one of the lot is what got me confused. Anyhow thanks for the explanation
DeleteEVERYONE WHO WAS ANYONE BACK THEN WENT FOR THE WEDDING AT ABUJA; AND THE TRADITION WEDDING IN HER FATHER'S COMPOUND 13YEARS LATER WHEN HER FATHER CAME ROUND ON THE WHOLE THING!
ReplyDeleteIt's a pity, but a man once told me that a lot of things happen to women when their father If CC ONOH was alive, would they treat her like that?