Hi Stella,
Hope you are doing OK. I love the good job you are doing with your blog.
I need your advice and that of your readers.
I have been married for 10yrs and i love my husband very much.
The problem is that his mother keeps meddling in our
home and causing problems but so far the issues never
got out of hand thank God!
The one that is giving me heart ache now is that she told
my husband that our kids school fees was too much and my
husband agreed with her and asked that the kids ages 8,6 and 4 be put
in a cheaper school their reason being that
my husband and his siblings went to public schools. Stella i also
went to public school but the public school of our days
are different from today's public school. Our kids used to go to school
that one person's school fees was 150k a term
my husband told me he was not going to pay more than 50k
for a child anymore after the mum came up with how he
was paying too much i had to call her and talk to her and gave her
reasons why public school was a no no she then
suggested cheaper schools how she got to know how much we were
paying for sch fees i don't know all these happened
before the new sch term started i decided to obey my husband since i saw
that he was serious.
The cheapest nicest
sch i found was 85k which he agreed to pay. My husband makes
over 1million a month,i earn 250k a month and my contribution
is to feed the family, every other expense except food is taken care of by hubby,
we live in a rented apartment
although we are building. the house my mother in law lives in was
built by my husband 3yrs ago. anytime he is doing stuff for
his people i don't interfere meanwhile he is no 3 out of 5 children but the only one doing well.
Now the issue i have is that since my kids started attending this new
school my 8yrs old daughter comes home saying waka! ntooo!
bastard! i just can't deal its driving me nuts. I asked their dad if he was okay
with all these grammar our child is using and he told
me to keep correcting her.
I didn't use my money to buy food this month but asked him for money
because I'm saving to change
them back to the school they were before but i don't know if i can continue
like this or if i want to be the one paying for our kids school fees. I am an American citizen and i am honestly thinking of eloping with my kids but i don't want to break
my marriage by
this action.My sister in America is advising i come this Xmas with my kids
i have already gotten them visas it will be easy
to file for them when we are there but seriously i don't know
if its a wise thing to do and i don't want to threaten my husband with
this cos I'm not sure what his reaction would be. I have been praying for
him to have a change of heart i don't know how long my
patience can hold.
I really need Ur advice.
Thanks.
*I have a mother in law who puts her nose in everything all her children does..everything.
I had my own naija method of dealing before she let go and i cannot reccommend it to anyone cos one mans meat is another mans poison....study your mother in law and look for a way to become her best friend,she might not stop but you will know first hand what she is up to...lol
Running away is not a good option as well.
Goodluck
Sowie dear I understand! Its a matter of patient o,
ReplyDeleteReally? One million a month? Wow!!! Income really nice. Okay My advice is 4 u 2 pray. Their is nothing God cannot do. My husband was like that years b4 we got married. Its so painful that after mking decisions with ur husband his family members will say other wise. My dear Pray. Mean it when u Pray. God never sleeps. Plz dnt run away with ur kids. Is not better out there.
Delete150k per term for each kid is too much na haba! They are still in primary schs sef... it's not like you guys are billionaires. There are other good 85k schs around u can change them to if the one they are currently in is not good enough for you or better still, if your hubby gives u 85k,use your own money to complete it. My friend in schooll is going through the same problem. Her father doesn't want any of his kids to be private unis so he gives them the exact amount the federal school he wants them to attend pays and then their mother completes it.
Delete150k is too much??!!!...for a man dt earns 1mm monthly??!!! My dear I'm a single mum of a 4yr old, if I see a school of 150k fees with same standard as d current school my child attends, I'll dive at it. The man is just a mummy's boy. Dts his future he's compromising. Waka, ntooo? Really?
DeleteHmmmm! Abeg no take your hand pour sand sand for your marriage biko! Eloping wit your kids is definitely a NO NO! Pls watch n pray ooo!
ReplyDeleteHian! Which type of mother in law is dat. My dear, pls take it easy with her. U av to kip talkin to ur husband to make him see reasons y dat school is nt gud 4 ur kids. Patience is d key....
ReplyDeleteHey woman, i think u wrote ur post with ur hormones. Take a chill pill and relax. Then think again. The problem with today's parenting is that everything is left for the teachers to do which is very wrong. Woman!! Correct ur kids. Besides your kids r getting street wise. Even Prince Williams n Harry all use abusive words n they are doing pretty gud. This is because their mum wanted the to have a normal upbringing not the royal way. The boys couldnt be any happier. The moment u see ur mother inlaw as an enemy, u cannot reason anymore. So try to be on the same page. Explore your kids potential and raise them. 85k is very ok. Believe me, breaking ur home is not an esay way out. Am a married woman with 3kids and 5 sister inlaws. Relax!!! Take a deep breathe and focus on the great things of life
DeleteDear poster, first of all ur hubby is a mummy's boy nd don't expect him to change...I'm sorry to say dis but only death can stable him, secondly wat sort of man will build a house for his mum wen he's still in a rented apartment? Truth b told: ur mother inlaw is bad if not she cld had adviced him to complete him own first b4 building for her as to secure his kids future. Thirdly, do u think paying over 400k out of his salary for fees is convinent for him? Maybe he complained to d mum nd she suggested u guys cut it, my dear men re always 2face cutlass wen it has to do it their mum, dis is a very sensitive issue nd u have to be careful. Sitdown nd do a calculation from there u wld knw if he's just wicked or not. Goodluck.
ReplyDeleteNne sorry to say the school fees is too much biko besides the woman meant well for u and ur husband.biko take it easy wit ur mother inlaw ,also remember that you will become old mama someday and am very very sure that you will get stroke if u ever hear that ur own daughter inlaw ran away wit ur grand children,we women are naturally are jealous even till old age en am sure u will jealous of ur own kids when the time comes,so biko pray for love and peace in ur family that's all.
DeleteSweetie, he earns 1mill in a mnth.....there are 3 terns in a year so if he pays 400k per term, he ends up paying 1.2 a year out of 12 mill....is it too much for your kids?
DeletePoster, talk to your husband well....communicate and I don't advise sending them back to that other school by yourself.....men have massive ego and for a mummys boy like your hubby, you might not like his reaction.85k schools are still okay, though I'm of the opinion that a childs foundation has to be solid, if hubby doesn't agree, start cautioning your children because they will definitely learn waka, you de crase etc from somewhere else.
The MIL is obviously interested in having d man take his children to cheaper skls so there will more money available for her to squander..Selfish woman.
DeleteChaii decided to comment under anonymous, did u say 150k each for d kids wen d both of u don't earn upto 2million a month with other project at hand, abeg liv dem for the one of 80k bikoo. If to say u guys are billonaires I would v adviced you change them back, all d best though. Wey Tony ihekhire abi wot com hear tori as u no dey earn upto 40k, so begin plan ur kids fees now before u start to write epistle to Stella wanting advice
ReplyDeletestella just said what is on my mind ,just try and be friends with your mother inlaw ,bribe her with gifts and money ,let her just be your friend and u will see her leave you and your family alone
ReplyDeleteWoman, you want to leave your home foor your MIL? Did her own MIL chase her out of her husband's home. You better find a formula sround it and stay with your husband. Stella has said it all. You don't have to be 5/6 with her, just have a a cordial relationship finiish. I am in a smiiar boat.
ReplyDeleteElope don't try it. 85k school is not bad, but since u r not satisfy, gently talk to ur hubby that u will make up d difference, that u don't like how ur kids r turning out, since they changed school.
ReplyDeleteAunty Stella - 10x for the advice. That was pretty good.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, please do not allow the devil in the form of your mother-in-law to break your home. You say your marriage is 10yrs old, meaning you should know your husband pretty well by now. Why not discuss with him again, probably, watch his mood and tell him how you can't keep dealing with the children's change in moral attitude because trust me, they spend more time in school than they spend at home, so i understand your difficulty in dealing with such attitude.
And as for your mother-in-law, i think its high time you came out plain with how you feel, am sure its long overdue now....*10yrs no be beans ooh*
May God help you. Cheers!
Tell ur husband u will bring out the balance to make up d childrens school fees so u can send them back to thier previous school.this matter u have to be diplomatic in how u go about it.nigeria is no longer a country that if u can afford it u dont do anything to boost ur children.their future's r bright and can be brighter.
ReplyDeleteI believe u should threaten ur hubby nd c his reaction! I knw he won't want to lose his kids..moreso what is wrong wt MIL dis days? Abeg ooo @xclucivexter
ReplyDeleteThreaten husband ke???? Pls don't ever do that because he might suprise you and trust me u'll be the one to loose out.
DeleteThe lady that teaches my kids lesson did that and now she's a single mother of two!
Kill her.Dats d only best way.Dats Y I always prayd neva 2 meet a man dat has his moda alive.I was luky inof dat she died a year before I marid my hubby n I dint kill her. She died a natural death :)
ReplyDeleteIdiot! Somebody will also pray 4 the death of ur mother b4 she marries ur brother or ur future daughter in law, will pray that u die 4 u see ur children. Idiot! I prayed 4 a good MIL n God blessed me wit one. Smh 4 u!
DeleteI hope u don't have male children becos before u know it their future wives wuld be praying that their MIL is dead!
Delete*hiss*
You must not also live to see your daughters inlaw oooooo.
DeleteU will die a natural death before ur children get married too.it's not a curse
DeleteU will die a natural death before ur children get married too.it's not a curse
DeleteThat mean you have to double that prayer of yours even if it means cursing anyone making you unhappy or causing confusion between you and your husband.
ReplyDeletePeeps, pls does anyone have an idea how much glo pays manager(sales) and conditions of service for people outside lagos
ReplyDeleteMy cousin is a Glo sales manager in Lagos n he earns 6 million per annum. No idea about outside Lagos
DeletePeeps, pls does anyone have an idea how much glo pays manager(sales) and conditions of service for people outside lagos
ReplyDeletelmao @ the kids saying waka,bastard
ReplyDeleteAm happy to see dis post hop i will get som gud advice here. My mother in law dat woman wont giv me high blood pressure, she's staying wit us in a two bed room flat cos shes aving an accomodation problem. I advice and beg hubby den to rent apartment for her bt he insist she must stay wit us although she a bit nyc bt she sabi poke nose,if i want to do A she will insist its B dat is ok in short shes ruling my home for me, i let her b bcos of my mother advice dat i sud endure,dat it wont b forever. D worst part of it is dat she allow my sisters inlaw to bring in der children witout my permission during d weekend or during holiday. U cant imagine how dis children frm age one to seven scream,shout and make noise during d day wen i sud b resting after sleepless night cos i gav birth nt quiet long all dis inside two bed room flat o. Stella i cant take dis shit anymore wen hubby com back dis month ending we must trash it out or else i will tell his sisters to hold der house and allow me 2 av peace of mind cos i knw my hubby is in d habit of supportin dem. Av neva enjoy marriage,i see my hubby only four tym in a month,during dat four days dey wont allow me to av nyc tym wit him,sex zero,privacy zero,peace of mind zero. How i wish i can get out of dis marriage am tired i dont knw wat to do again.
ReplyDeleteOh my God,same here oooo!mine is 8yrs now she's bbin living wit us,if her daughters beg her 2 come stay wit d kids for dem,she'll refuse and tell dem 2 come over 2 my house dat mine is spacious and she can't go and inconvinient herslf,chai,marrying 1st son no easy ooo,hw I've bin copin 4 d past 8yrs of marriage wit her living wit us is jst d grace of God.u wake up on d wrong side of u bed and get out witout greetin her cheerfully na wahala,my kids don't go 2 her,she'll say I'm teachin dem 2 aviod her,she calls my parents all sorts of names,dey've stopped comin 2 my house,it's really sad
Deletecongratulations on ur new baby!..abeg just tell ur sister inlaw to hold their kids...,if they can't they shd take their mama to look after the kids for them.
DeleteAs for ur MIL ,talk to ur hubby to rent for his mum;let him
see reasons with b4 u loss it....
all d best!!!
Lack of sleep is not good 4 a woman dat jst delivered o,u shd talk 2 ur hubby abt d lack of sleep tin o,I've seen first hand wat it can cause,or u cd go visit ur parents unto omuguo tins,cos tins won't change n if u shout at d kids they'll call it jealousy...all d best hun n congrats on ur nu baby
DeleteOkbyeamouttahere
Lol! My dear, u hav to open ur mouth and say ya mind as well as put ur foot down. Na cooking of beans morning afternoon and night I use chase every body comot for my house. Infact their plan of staying 3weeks was shortened to 3 days wen they saw wat was happening...I no send!
DeleteIs she Patience Ozokwor?
ReplyDeleteNtoo, bastard!! Kwakwakwakwa. Maybe they need to tell their grandma waka so that she go learn. Blood clart!
ReplyDeleteThat's why people pray that their husbands are motherless before they get there but that's such a bad prayer because wife sef too get mama and brothers perhaps!
Hope you also know that as a woman, you are also a potential mother in law...Pls don't type trash...If u can't advice get move on.
DeleteYou're very stupid and a bloody illiterate. Did u read or you just want to comment? Dustbin!
DeleteLMAO!@ Julit. Dat dey shuld say waka to d MIL ...abi o!
DeleteYour Husband is the like I call "Omo Mummy" type. Patience is needed though. So U dont get in your mother inlaw's bad book.
ReplyDeleteAny woman that has a son is authomaticall a mother in law. What you use to measure for your m.I.l would be use for. In the future BE VERY CAREFUL. As for the changing of school , you as the mother should do your work very well ,don't leave it all to the teachers. All schools are the same, there is no school that has the answer to 1+1 as 3 it must be 2.Don't spend all your money in primary school ,there is secondary.and university school.BE WISE DON'T SCATTER YOUR MARRIAGE B/COS YOU WILL REGRATE IT.THANKS
ReplyDeleteI disagree wit u,if u hv d money,spend it on dia nursery and primary sch in very good schools,dat is dia foundation and it goes a long way,even if u eventually put dem in a public secondary sch,dey'll excel dia cos dey hv a sound foundation
DeleteMy dear, you saw this in the beginning and you let it go. The trick is to fight it in the very beginning. My mum-in-law is trying this ish and I ain't having it and my hubby knows I ain't having it!!!
ReplyDeleteI feel u my dear,please don't elope with the kids.It looks like u have a happy marriage,don't worry,lay all ur worries at the feet of Christ,u'll be surprised ur husband will change his mind n ur kids will attend the school u want.Meanwhile,while they are still in the school u don't like,u have to do more by teaching them at home.Build a family altar if u don't have one presently.Pray together every evening or morning,share a verse of the scripture with them,u'll be surprised there will be changes.Let them learn scripture verses off hand.
ReplyDeletePlease don't relocate to the US without your husband's consent,it can cause a major separation which you will regret later in life.May God intervene on ur behalf and cause Mama to mind her business.
Good luck sis!!
Your priority is your children and their future. Let me be honest, if your hubby does not want to take their education seriously, save up your money and spend it on their education. When he and his stupid mother realizes that your are not waiting for them, shame will force him to pay their school fees. Sometimes, a married woman has to 'crase' small in her marriage for her voice to be heard. This old witch had no problems with her son building her a house but she has problems with the school fees of her grandchildren. She should be ashamed of herself!!!
ReplyDeleteWell spoken
DeleteGod bless you oh. My kids school fees is half a million per term and we r bloody civil servant that doesnt earn up to a million per year. 85k school fees is as good ass public school in my area. Pray n fast over ds matter. Don't elope. Pray n fast oh. Let ur love be d 1st thing in ur hubby's heart. All other thing wud add up after that.
DeleteNtooo,nwaka,bastard....lmao.am sry,cnt jst help it.“prayer”mai dear,dats jst d key
ReplyDeleteDon't elope, your children need their father also, sit your your mother in-law down and talk to her like you will talk to your own mother, believe me she will listen, talk to your husband also , The problem is most women just hate their mother in-law! Remember you too will become a mother in-law one day? so communication with respect and love will do the magic. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteNa wao this can be so frustrating, don't like men who take orders from their mum, work on ur husband, make him see reasons why his children should change sch, trust me u can't pay their fees alone with ur salary, but don't think this is enough to destroy ur marriage but i also know dat u want the best for ur kids, i know u are fighting for their right, for now divorce should be the last option, when they come of age u can send them to America to live with ur sister and sch there. Gd luck.
ReplyDeleteTHE MAN ANONYMOUS WRITING: I once worked in a hospital where a big oil tycoon was rushed in after a fatal accident. He had head injury and died within minutes. All his brothers melted away as soon as he was pronounced dead . . . and guess what, they scrambled for his assets and even found his bank papers, they claimed everything. The grieving wife had to borrow money to settle the little hospital bill. Of course the dude's assets were not even in the wife's or kid's name. The widow and her orphans began begging from day one.
ReplyDeleteMost folks do not understand what "marriage is". What is the meaning of "my money", "his money". Because you said you prayed, I assume that you're a Christian. Didn't the Scripture say that the two shall become one (flesh); that is talking about being like "Christ and the Church', sharing everything together. Imagine when Christ was with those 12 (minus one), they had a common purse; didn't they? And to think of it, it was given to "the thief"; wasn't it. Well that was talking about "Christ and his Bride". Now why do folks come to marriage with "personal baggage?" Beloved, there is a fundamental problem b/w you and your husband; you are not yet one and I pray that you may be one. Since you can as well "save your money for . . ." he can as well be "saving his money to marry another wife . . .in case you elope". Well I hope you heed Stella's advice on this one.Advice; sit your husband and talk with him over this matter and your "oneness generally" and work the talk. 2. You are your kid's first teacher; especially with regards to manners.
Kindly study Ephesians chapter five. Good wishes.
*In everything ALL HER CHILDREN DOES*????????
ReplyDeleteSDK! Hmmmmm
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God will give you a job
DeleteAmen !
DeleteIs it not obvious that BBC has a job? You people just write rubbish about any regular person adding spice to the blog. I enjoy BBC and miss the character already bcus he/she has become scarce probably due to tight work schedule and you are here writing nonsense. Take ya time and leave my BBC alone o.
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ReplyDeleteYou saw the handwriting on the wall before you married her son. So deal with it. Of course Stella most of these people do not tell the real stories. I know of one that before she went to do her sham marriage, insulted her bros in law,mother and father in law, in short the whole family. Now she is complaining that they are making life unbearable for her. Of which she isn't even desisting from her bad ways. Now they are pressing for divorce for her. What was she expecting? Reception? So these people don't tell you the full truth
ReplyDeleteMy dear 150 is much for a term for one chlid even if he is geting millions lik u said he is d only rich one in his famliy he has to take care of his poeple too, he is also buliding than wil he not save for raining days? think u shld go to d school an complin to them . Corrct her as ur hubby said don't allow ur anger to mak u see things from a wrong view,as for using ur money don't begin what u can not finish as for going overs it a NO NO stay put it for a short while,
ReplyDeleteTHE MAN ANONYMOUS CONTD: Girl, American citizenship is not a family o. You don't know what you have until you lose it. And what about when your son gets married and his American citizen wife elopes with your grand kids; good payback isn't it? Do to others as you will have them do unto you; okay? Besides, is it the same America (USA) where kids can't be disciplined at school? A kid can use "f" word , "B" word (all in full) on the teachers and get away with it. s it the same American schools where elementary kids smoke on the bus stop? Is is the same American schools where teenage pregnancy is on the rise (check your statistics)? Who flogs kids in American schools? Know also that some states in the US have legalized weeds (marijuana, "igbo"), so it depends on which state you're talking about. Girl, it's worse here o; your sister should tell you the whole truth. Again, coming from the psychological point of view those three kids will take it out on you by sheer "rebellion" when they get here. Their grouse will be simple; you denied them of their dad's care. Hope you saw the "Musa" story we read earlier on this blog; didn't you? That's the common trend here; especially knowing that you will have less time for them (since you'd become the bread "and butter" winner). Fortunate you if they end up only with 20 years in jail, they could as well be killed by the cops and then, you become "without husband", "without kids". That time, your eyes "go clear well well". All the folks that are giving you advice to elope will only be "miserable sympathizers".
ReplyDelete@waka...ntoo...bastard...it really got me laughing.....my dear easy does all...make ur hubby see reasons with u cos its not advisable for u to elope with ur kids cos u don't know what plans ur mother inlaw has b4 she came with d tactics of school issue...so be wise....
ReplyDeleteFile for your children how? Are they US citizens? Everyone thinks that getting stay in America is as easy as filing. Don't listen to that because I don't see how that's going to work. Stay in Nigeria and work out the issues with your MIL.
ReplyDeleteAs per she's a US citizen, she can apply for citizenship for her kids. Its not a difficult process.
Deletesave ur money if he brings 85k den use ur money n complete it and put them back in that school. ur working for ur kids to give dem d best so plz deny urslf of every shopping n invest in ur kids. as for ur mother in law put her in prayers, that is not nice of her.
ReplyDeleteElope ke?? Untop wetin naaa!
ReplyDeleteDo not run away sister. Please talk to your husband. It is his fault. In my opinion, the husband can decide the level her parents, brothers or sister will get involved in issues. Even the bible our people read everyday says it clearly that the man suppose commot from his family to build a new one.
ReplyDeleteJust work on it. You shall overcome.
Hello Stella,
ReplyDeleteI have been the child in this sort of situation before. My mother chose to take us to America and although it was hard adjusting to living with just my mother and she had to work overtime to feed, clothe, educate and house us, I am SO VERY GRATEFUL that she did this. My father took his hands off since she refused to return us to Nigeria. He didn't send a single dime towards our upbringing from the time I was 10 to adulthood.
Having a quality education and growing up in the US afforded me opportunities that I would never have had if my father had his way to invest less in our future. When I was growing up I really couldn't understand what was happening and I resented not seeing my mom as often as I wanted, because she worked 12 hour shifts 7 days a week to support us alone. Today, there's nothing she can ask for that's within my power that I won't give her. She sacrificed her comfort for us because sometimes that's what being a mother is. I thank her.
I don't know what to advise you, but your children have only one life, the onus is on you as a parent to give them the best foundation possible. In as much as children need both parents to be balanced and adjusted as adults, they also need a sound education for a better chance at a successful life.
Have you tried just to talk to your husband? Tell him about how your children are not thriving in their new environment and it's not just about correction but they just aren't as sharp as before? I don't even understand, he can easily afford their tuition on ONE paycheck. :( Na wa.
Not enough reason for you to elope with the kids. But Nigerian parents should learn how to allow their children deal with some their marital issues as major of divorce are caused by inlaws (mothers, fathers, relatives, etc).
ReplyDeleteinstead of running away why nt look on d brighter side save the change or invest it on ur kids 65k cn go a long way if save it on each child per term, d future of nigeria holds no water 4 dis kids buh u cn pave way for dem nt jst by taking em to "big schools" buh creating oda opportunities for dem. Talk wiv ur hubby, n kip on correcting ur daughter spank ha ass weneva she uses such words ...
ReplyDeleteMy 2 cents
am still a kid i myt b wrong
ReplyDeleteNo, you are not! You are just a wise kid. Pray for more wisdom
Deleteyour life is better and you are complain g.School of 85k in Nigeria is supposed to be a standard school.My kids started in a school of 70k,hubby has made me withdrawal change their schools twice from 70k to 50k now 25k yet he will never bring the money in full and on time.he keeps asking how much did his father pay for him.with a job below 100k,i struggle to pay their school fees,foods,wears and every other thing they need.yet he will still borrow money from me and never pay back.he is nonchalant on every thing including house rent. we must be threatened to be thrown out before he pays.The most painful part is that if i refuse to borrow him money,he will ask me to stop work as he sees no benefit why i should be going to work. In order to keep my work,i will go and borrow and give him which i have succeeded in putting an end to.so my dear relax i see a man a man who can bring out 85k to pay for school fees as a good man and most times we can not determine the quality of schools with the amount they pay because my kids are still doing fine in the 25k school.
ReplyDeleteFamily planning is key. Hv children according to ur pocket. U sound like u're struggling.
DeleteRunning away is not the solution, don't listen to your sister, and I also don't agree with you paying the school fees, how long will you be able to do that coz once you start, you cannot stop. I will tell you what I would do, then you see if it will work in your case coz everyone is diff.......I would cut down on sex and claim to be too tired from giving the kids extra lessons since the school they go to doesn't teach them well, in a very sincere and nice way. I think you should look for what he really likes and use that.
ReplyDeleteAnd he'll get a very free girl outside that will give him all the sex u can't give and lots more..
DeleteAnd he would contact HIV or STD,abegiiiii go n park well,stop having that mentality,that's why most women become embittered slaves in their marriages cos they cnt steer their husbands towards making them happy,be it subtly or brashly,maybe you dnt know that some of these men dnt know the right things to do at times until you help them out.
DeleteThis is not difficult naw? You earn 250K a month. The school charges abt 150k per term making 450K per term for your 3 kids. Your husband is already paying 85K per child, meaning he is paying N255K out of N450K school fees per term. If you really wan the best for your kids, you can squeeze out the balance of N195K school fees out of N750K you currently earn in about 3 months (1 term)!. That is my candid advice for you. I am a man, and I do not earn anything close to what your husband earn per month, and trust me, I keep my kids in one of the best schools in this Lagos. I struggle to do that. Many of my friends who earn a lot more than me don't even spend as much as I spend on kids education and they think i'm crazy. That's fine with me, so long as i dont borrow money from no one. Look, 4get about your mother inlaw. Thats exactly what he has always wanted and and his mum is only a catalyst. If you love yourself, u better dont do anything stupid. Agree with your husband to keep paying what he is paying currently, and u balance up if you love your kids that much. Otherwise, pray for God to give you a better job. My 2 kobo.
ReplyDeletei would suggest u discuss with ur hubby and tell him you will pay the balance of the fees to keep them in their old school. Dat way ur hubby is paying what he is comfortable with and u make up the difference since ur salary is equally good and school fees is every 3 Months so the strain wont be much on you at the same time you can still afford to buy food for the house. This will be much better than than bailing on your marriage, you never know ur husband may eventually change his mind when he sees ur sacrifice. Running away with the kids will just complicate issues and his mother wont be there forever u know.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, na same boat me and you dey. But as it is now, I am now ready to face her full on, if she tries any further rubbish with me she will be politely put in her place.
ReplyDeleteIf I even start my story this place no go contain am but truth is you have to nip it in the bud as soon as possible.
I cannot say much on this issue cos like Stella rightly said, you know her best and you would know how to cut ''those branches before it begins to sprout and even produce fruits''.
Thank God you have a job, you should also know how to ''tax'' your hubby for money. My dear no slack na wetin I go tell you be that.
Don't elope with your kids please, that's a bad idea, but find a way to make your husband do what you want. Men are very easy to control, if you know them well, and as for your mother in law putting her nose where its not needed, don't worry, she will be dead soon...OK?
ReplyDeleteDarling running away is not d best option,stay back strategize and know what's best..for me attending all dos expensive sch doesn't make a child brilliant than dos in pub sch,as for ur kids using dos languages,is something kids do,cuz even in my private school dey use F-words which puts dem on d same page.. Patience is d key..and ur husband also is right when it comes to paying over d amount..and if its possible he shld set up his other siblings so d load on his head will reduce..then for ur mother in law just watch her closely and make sure tins don't go outta hand..Never leave ur home cuz of mere problems u caan sort out..God bless
ReplyDeleteI've had this sort of issue before and I used emotional blackmail,that's bcos I know my husband and I know what works for him coz my friend did the same thing and it didn't work for her.......what worked for her was seducing him, giving him the best sex ever, petting him and eventually telling him what she wanted, he did it sharp sharp.......you have to try and figure out what would work but pls don't leave, it's not that serious na.....Haba
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Deletemy dear your own is better, at least it's his mother that is interfering, but in my case it's one woman he(my husband) calls god mother, who he has no kind of blood relationship with and she is not his god mother in the real sense of it. my dear pray to God for wisdom which is what i am doing now.
ReplyDeleteBut seriouly 150k a term? Make I eat finish I dey come, chroma
ReplyDeleteU and ur husband seriously need to do a growing up. How dear u guys allow the old woman to ruin ur home, and all u care of, is running away with ur kids. That is why I don't support children getting married.
ReplyDelete@tony, u r so stupid... Omo ale jatijati is she ur mate... No be ur fault nah.
DeleteThis tony guy! You are all sorta stupid. If u cant advise her reasonably, then look away. Must u comment? Ode!
DeleteHmmmmm... This story is one kin! First off, if you are a US citizen your children don't need visa, they are automatic citizens it doesn't matter where you birth them. Get your facts right if you wan lie, lie well.
ReplyDeleteUS Citizen.
You sound so stupid!Pele o,US citizen
DeleteWhy are u pained? That's the truth! You sound more stupid. Unfortunate fellow.
DeletePele US immigration, maybe you should go and do your research before spewing rubbish here.
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DeleteUS citizen, give yourself a brain.
So with Naija passports, no US visa, no US passports yet, the kids will just enter plane and claim US citizens?
Tell them ooo.That was d exact thing I was thinking.I was actually suprised nobody said anythin abt it.Naija people an their Zobo! If one of the parents is an american citizen,they wuldnt grant the kids any kind of visa(visit like she claimed).They would refuse u and say u knw what to do I.e file for ur kid.Also,another aspect of that story dt doesn't make much sense is dt she said she's been married for 10yrs,it means she's been living in naija for 10yrs..well how does she pay her US taxes? Cos being a US citizen is more dan jst d pali..u must file for taxes whether or not u live there.The only way you wouldn't do dt is if u denouce ur citizenship...dis story get Kleg! If she gave us Zobo about the "visa" she already gt for kids,what else is she lieing about? Perherps,her hubby 1million salaray aint true? Let's always think bfr we reply all this sob stories.Also,dt annonimous man up der saying US kids can call teachers d B word and get away wit it..LIAR!!! What slum in the US are u exactly talking about ? Even in the hoods/ghetto/slums,NO student can use the B word on a teacher and get away with it.They hv rules and regulations too...U use profanities in school,u get kicked out! My nephew got in trouble with her teacher just for saying "heck"-What the heck-Not the actual HELL-bad word oo.U are here saying things u don't knw.Cos u watch it in movies doesn't mean it actually happens!
DeleteHaaaa oga o which kind witch mother inlaw be diz ooo is dat how her inlaws Controls her own daughter's home? Don't leave ur home For her. Put her in her right place straight! No time. Quality Education is best u can give to ur children! Empress
ReplyDeletepls don't go!...the children need you ,just as much as they need their dad!...patient is the word!!!....fast & pray on ur MIL & ur hubby ....and be a nice friend to her ...treat her d way
ReplyDeleteu will want ur own daughter inlaw to treat you .. ..there is not gain in a broken home .....pls don't break it and give room for 3rd party!....be prayerful.
nothing God can not Do!!!!....
Please don't elope with your kids oh! Your children can do better if you keep correcting them. Try and beg him to change his mind and put them back in their original school. Like Stella said get close to your mother in law, it just might save your marriage and give you peace of mind.
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It's well dear, be patient with him and communicate your reasons backed up with evidence where possible. Also pray for your mom in law and hubby for a good heart and listening Ear.# good luck
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, getting close to her as Stella said is the thing. In all thy doing, get close and keep praying as well. Don't relent in telling your hubster the importance of proper education for this kids.
ReplyDeleteI'll advice you don't use your money to change them back to avoid causing greater misunderstanding between you two.
Marriage calls for patience and discretion
Haba Dear Poster,E never reach this kain level,apply wisdom,may God lead you........Benedicta
ReplyDeleteMy dear, leaving your marriage is like going into involuntary divorce (speaking from experience, it will hunt you later). i think itz best you workout having a better relationshp with your mother-in-law it makes things easier for you with your husband. I dont think you should be paying for your children's school fees, try to sweet talk your husband into reasoning with you on taking them back to the old school and most importantly, keep praying.
ReplyDeleteWish u all the best.
Just be nice to her and pray cuz God can do impossible things at the right time.am writing from the same experience. And God help me out now my house is like fire for her she has seen that my God is no nonsense God.
ReplyDeleteI just sent my parents in a law a text, asking them to back off. I don't understand why people can't move on and let your children enjoy their lives. My dear, do what you have to do...tell your mother in law to back off!
ReplyDeleteAnon no 5 I pity it kids. So even with 1m a month a 150k school is expensive???? Kuku homeschool ur kids. Stingy and miserly woman.
ReplyDeleteAnon 31 u r an idiot. How did she see the handwriting? Idiot. I'm sure u r not married.
ReplyDeleteMy dear if ur hubby is it on ur side then nothing for u. My MIL tried it initially but her son put her in her place. Work on him or else he will keep listening to mummy. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteMy dear! Don't know about running away for good but u need a breather ! Take ur kids and to on holiday
ReplyDelete@anonymous 4:36 ITK, so as she born for nigeria US birth registration and passport office go send instant birth citificate and passport for her? Abeg talk waiting u no, lie lie, if u cause me go go back to sender, I dey US
ReplyDeleteGoogle is ur friend my dear,no need for "cause".She would file for them in Naija,the would do DNA test,they wuld den give her immigrant Visa(not visit-non immigrant).Then at the point of entry,they wuld do more paper works and then they would go get the kids SSN,then continue d process till the get d citizenship! U dey US dey yarn dust.SMH! I live here too and jst finished the process for my son!
Delete@anonymous 4:36 ITK, so as she born for nigeria US birth registration and passport office go send instant birth citificate and passport for her? Abeg talk waiting u no, lie lie, if u cause me go go back to sender, I dey US
ReplyDeleteThis poster is a Fucking liar! I know her oooh! She sounds like Nkiru who is married to Chidi. Yes, Chidi's mother is a difficult and controlling woman no doubt but Nkiru is an idiot! She wants Chidi to do more than his power. She likes living fake Lagos big girl life. Chidi works with Chevron and I doubt he earns up to N1M a month. This is how she keeps inflating herself and her husband. She even wanted to put the kids in Meadow Hall in Lekki just to feel among but Chidi refused. Chidi didn't even build house for his mother oh, he renovated the house for her. He wanted to buy a house on the mainland oh but she said they should rent on the island if he couldn't afford to buy on the island yet. And the house the thief wanted costs N90M. Nkiru, abeg cut ur coat according to ur size please. She only hates her mother inlaw because the woman will not allow her over spend her son's money
ReplyDeleteHian!Okwa Chidi and Nkiru tins oh!Lwkmd!
DeleteSelfish women, when they have nothing to say, these are the type of stories they come up with, I hv an aunt who came to jist my mum(her sister) this same story abt her hubby and my mum told her off. It's actually more abt status than care for the kids. I dont know hw high cost of fees equals better education.But madam sha if you wanna elope with your kids pls do and make sure you dont return cos there is always gonna be someone for your hubby mtcheew
DeleteU r a big big fool.
DeleteU r very stupid Anonymous 9:02pm. How do u know if it is nkiru and chidi. And even if it were, is it ur beeswax?! Do u have d right to judge anoda woman who is fighting to have d best for her kidz! People like u r the ones dat spoil ur husband and probably do everything in d house wit ur own money! Stop beefing and get a life....u frustrated woman! *loudest hiss*
DeleteI jst knew sumthing wasn't right about that story...SMH
DeleteA term is 3 months. The family earns 3,750,000 in those 3 months, the school fees is only 450k. It's not a matter of too expensive,
ReplyDeleteAnytime your MIL is around start a prayer session that will focus on her primarily . Let it be so loud and go something like this. " anybody trying to come between me and my husband, or that is trying not to let me enjoy my marriage , Holy Ghost........." Put anything in the blanks . At least you didn't mention anybody 's name. If you do this at least 3 times she comes to your house, she 'll stop meddling. My two cents.
ReplyDeleteVery well said CC..May God bless you. Poster should not leave her home but should try and give her kids the best education. Some MILs though... I was engaged to be married but the mother made sure she kicked me out even with a kid. She never calls to know how grandchild is doing.
ReplyDeleteMy mother in law did the same thing. My two boys goes to daycare (Not even in school yet). We pay about $600 on a child per month and my mother in law called me and told me the day care is too much. Immediatelt after talking to me, my husband called me and told me the same thing that we will have to take one out of daycare. I told him ok that he should go back and tell his mum that the outcome of the discussion is that we agreed to withdraw one from daycare that my husband will take our son to mechanic workshop to learn. Maybe that will be better (Our kids are 2 and 3 respectively). After telling him that, he kept quiet and didnt say anything. Since then, she didnt say anything about the daycare again. U have to put ur feet on the ground and not let any mil interfer. Contribute towards ur children's tuition and u will have a say when they wanna say anything.
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Deleteanon October 31, 2013 at 4:36 PM #56 . You have to apply for ur kids before the can be citizens it is not automatic get ur facts right ode! Madam writer e neva reach u to run nah! take Stella advice everything na wisdom follow am with patience.
ReplyDeletePut ur MIL where she belongs. do it urself since ur hubby is a mummy's boy. if u dont do it now....she will still do worse things. iv bin married for ova 4yrs and my MIL is a pokenoser too.some months back...she got to her peak telling me to leave my hubby and handover my kids to her. i talked back at her for d first time and i asked her if she was d one who had episotomy to give birth to my first child or a CS to give birth to my second child.i told her to look for her children elsewhere.she was shocked to her marrows.she didnt believe what was happening....that i talked back at her....she thought it was before when i'll cry for her.since then she has not stepped her feet in my house........dear poster...defend urself...its ur home not hers....
ReplyDeleteTheyRe not auto citizens till u apply esp if u no born dem dere
ReplyDeleteall u shouting 150k is too much abeg which part of Nigeria do u all live? I believe the lady stays in Lagos or Abuja i stay in surulere and my children's sch fees range from 185k without sch uniforms o! and i earn 550k while my wife makes 120k. I believe my children are my best investment. From her story i believe the child picked up those foul language from this new sch so those of you saying she should train her kids not leave everything to the teachers una do well. You can never place a price on ur child never#my2centsopinion#
ReplyDeletehonestly speaking, i feel u have a problem. i am guessing you live in Abuja and that u r a banker. if your children learn all those slangs, what is there? How can your husband be wasting 150K on each child when he can use it to do something better? You learnt all those slangs in school and it dint make you irresponsible. Allow you kids to grow responsibly with normal people. In expensive schools, many of the kids there lack home training and are spoilt. Do u want to have irresponsible kids in future or children who will be giving you a headache? Allow them to school with average people so they will know the value of money. If you leave your husband and take your kids to U.S., your marriage will crash. And konji will kill you unless you resort to sleeping around. How many men will want to marry a single mother of three? Use your sense. I suspect that you have boasted to your friends and colleagues about putting your kids in an expensive school so you want them back in the 150K school to save face. I understand that it is not good for a mother-in-law to put nose in your affairs but in this case, she is right and you are being selfish. If your husband has 4 siblings who are not too financially stable, he will have a lot of responsibilities and people depending on him. If the financial strain on him is too much, he can get high blood pressure which may reduce his life span. Is that what you want? Be wise when making financial decisions. You only pay for feeding so you wont understand the pressure on him. Most people in Abuja are fed up of the high rents and are desperate for their own personal house. Your husband may be saving to buy land and you wont know. Allow your children to continue in that school. A broken home is not the best way to raise your kids. As for your sister, the way she is seeing things is different from the way you are seeing things. Look at it in the long run and do what you feel will benefit everyone in your family. Dont be selfish. In marriage, the man and woman have to cooperate. No marriage is perfect no matter how perfect it may seem. If you leave him and remarry, you may end up with a worse guy. How many men earn up to a million a month? You should be grateful. How many of your colleagues can afford to put their kids in a 150K school? When making these decisions, use your head so you dont make a mistake you will regret in the long run
ReplyDeletePls I love ur response, can we b friend....I need sum1 lik u 2 talk 2 becos I think am loosing it gradually
DeleteAre you married at all? Do you have children? I doubt it. If you do, I don't know if I pity them or you.
DeleteSome people go about spewing rubbish.his responsibility is first to his wife and children. Before parents den sibling.so if he has siblings dat r jobless den deir demands should cut down too. Hwcan u be taking care of adults and expect them not to remain dependent? If he earns 1 million a month he can afford 450k for thier school fees once every 3 months. And yes she has a right to be selfish she is married to him for better or for worse.when he is sick she takes care of him, when he is down and depressed she is dere for him as his wife.if he is horny she is dere as well. Why didnt he complain about d fees b4 now? Why wait till his mom tells him to? Is she geniuely concerned cos of his family or she is concerned that she wont get as much money from her son?spending 450k once in 3 months is not too much if u hav the childen's interest at heart.
Deletetell her again
ReplyDeletebad advice. Cut your coat according to your size
ReplyDeletewhat worked for you may not work for another. How will she get the money to pay their U.S. tuition? Some People in america are doing 3 to 4 jobs daily. Some things are easier said than done.
ReplyDeleteWhat tuition in the United States ? Public schools in the states are not like public schools in naija, so get ur facts right. And where do you get this idea people work 3 to. 4 jobs to survive and don't have time for their kids ? I work 7 days only in 14 days (RN money baby) and I live good.
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ReplyDeleteAbeg madame kindly take a sit and let people with real mom inlaw issues talk.Attending the most expensive schools dosent make ur kids the most brilliant.Did you just say tht the cheapest school you found for your kids is abt 80k? I wonder wht he has been paying before on fees.so because a man earn more than a mill his money shld be lavished senselessly on you and your kids alone.your daughter is using slangs in an 80k school, why dont you discipline her.sorry to say I think ur a lousy mother.Your husband listens to his mother because he thinks she makes better sense than you.sending your kids to schools abroad wldnt stop ur kids from being daft if they wanna.Be a mother and handle your home.
ReplyDeleteSilly woman! You will soon be back to tell us the real issue with your mother in law. Better still, kill your husband so you can do whatever you like.
ReplyDeletePeople like you disgust me, is it too much to have heart to heart talk with your husband without disrespecting him? Men are easy to work on if you know the button to push, and you should know if you are truly his wife.
My dear it starts like this.taking your kids back to the old school and paying the difference on their fees is no the solution....you have to nip this problem in the bud....try to make your husband realize he is married to you and not his mother, and as such decisions pertaining to your home and children should be made by both of you....if you pay the difference in their school fees now, be rest assured that the next time your husband decides to cut corners where your kids are concerned, he will do it freely because he knows you will cover up with your own money...your kids are old enough to know not to say certain things....caution them and If need be punish them, cos truth be told, even if they are in the more expensive school they will mix with kids when they go for parties or to church and are likely to pick stuff up......will that make you stop them from going to church? Your problem is the kids say curse words and not that the kids are affected psychologically or are no longer as smart due to the change...my advice would be that you get a tutor who comes to you're house for your kids....Also be more considerate...from what you said your husband has a lot of responsibilities...building a house is not come chop....plus helping out his siblings....I know you and your kids should come first but if you were in his sites won't you also help your siblings....try to be more objective and to look for who is trying to marginalize you in your own home...take care and God bless and help youto make the right decisions....
ReplyDeleteSorry if there were typos..I was breast feeding and typing at the same time...
ReplyDeleteWhy pray for someone's mother to die all because you dread MIL. Ain't you gonna become a mother inlaw in the future??? If same is wished on you, how would you feel? Be guided
ReplyDeleteAll you ranting that the school fees is too much get a life and know that giving your children the best foundation is key. The woman even contributes to the home thats a plus to her i know of some family that its only the man that pays all the bills even though the wife is working he doesn't care about what she earns neither does he ask her for money and his 3 kids go to corona go find out how much corona is. Madam pray and 10yrs is not worth throwing away put ur feet on the ground and take the kids back to the school they were b4 if ur husband refuses tell him they won't be going to school.
ReplyDeleteI'm impressed with your comment.
ReplyDelete@ #93; Please take it easy madam(your gender is obvious with this comment). There are millions of wives with similar issues, so please avoid pointing fingers and making specific accusations.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile, did the Chidi you claim to know show you his payslip, that you know he does not earn up to N1M? Please tread with caution. Thank you
The problem is not just the payment of school fees but a foundational problem of MIL interfering. If you add money to what your husband is paying does not solve the problem as other problems will still show up since his mother is interfering. Deal with the root cause and not the symptoms.
ReplyDeleteThe problem is not just the payment of school fees but a foundational problem of MIL interfering. If you add money to what your husband is paying does not solve the problem as other problems will still show up since his mother is interfering. Deal with the root acid and the symptoms
ReplyDeleteAll of you telling her not to pay fees and not to leave hubby, so what do u want her to do? today, it is reduction in school quality because his mother says so. not like he cant afford it. tomorrow, it will be 'go to LASU instead of foreign university, even though I can afford it. I need to open business for my mother' aren't u ppl seeing the big picture? hes a mummy's boy who listens to his mum and places his family above his wife and kids!!!!! I grew up in that setting oh, and (as calabar man go say) e work eeh! because when my father saw the repercussions of what he did, he apologizes till today.
ReplyDeletethere was a time we were to relocate to UK with my mum, cos she was supposed to go and do a course that would have qualified her for a job at the French embassy because she studied French and psychology. all she needed was that job to gain entry at a certain level and she had to be away for 3years to study. plan was to take all of us with her to give us d exposure. and maybe return after sometime leaving my two elder ones (wh would have been in university at d time of course completion) in UK and return with the 3 of us. my dad was doing sooo well then. he could afford it and more. he woke up one morning: 'errr.... if u leave who will take care of my younger ones with me? my father too. there are good schools in Nigeria. let them manage. and u don't need that job, i make enough for us. pls be a housewife for now. let me think. hahahahaha! things were good for a few years. this is my story twenty ye
ars down d line: dad lost his job, my mum didn't have any career and ended up teaching just to make ends meet. i don't even want u to know what my siblings and i went thru, just because of no money. my only brother who was among the elder ones to be in university at the time we would leave UK, he couldn't take the change of lifestyle as much as we did. he is over 30, not a graduate, and has suffered depression most of his life. i don't want to say he is mental, but he looks for opportunities to beat those of us still at home. talks incoherently, u might call him a mental case if u choose to.
this is all as a repercussion of ONE DECISION. Just ONE!!!
let me not tell u how we don't have jobs or have very little jobs that we support our parents with, still. because they have never been able to bounce back.
family FIRST!!! people need to learn. all those my dads younger ones, where are they? they have moved on, doing well and insult him as they choose. because he doesn't hv money again. his father has died, d ones he sacrificed our future and my mums career for.
do whatever you have to, to secure your children, their education and their welfare. men think through their anus sometimes. few years later, he would tell u sorry when ur son mixes up with bad company from a hooligan filled school. or when ur daughter makes friends that spoil her diction and dent her character. if you are a Christian, the holy spirit might be trying to tell u to take ur kids away from that school. listen well!!
You are simply advising her to be a single mum. That's all. The major problem is not the education per se but the undue interference of the MIL. Ok, if she succeeds in putting them in more expensive schools and d husband angrily decides to hands off? Supposing other issues crop up. Does she tow her own line too?
DeleteIt's not by expensive school o. The people who have ruled Nigeria from time immemorial did not go to expensive schools o. Even if he earns 2 million a month, what you should always have in mind at every point in time as a woman is, what if things go bad tomorrow, will I be able to continue with this lifestyle? O me. You don't have a problem here o except your MIL and you can subdue her with intensive prayers
My dear insist and take your kids to a better school. when my son started preschool i took him to a school because of price every day he came home with one issue or other if its not bump on his head its a cut on his leg or one child poked him with spoon or it will be cold or cough. i couldn't take it i had to change his school asap before the term ran out to another that cost 30k extra. that 30k saved hospital waka, gave me peace of mind, my son was in a safer environment.
ReplyDeleteSeriously this mother in law issue is getting out of hand every where. I don't why these horrible mother's wouldn't let their son be. My own situation is so bad that my husband only tries to please his mum.
ReplyDeleteMy own mother inlaw na witch o. She has never called me to ask after me or her grand kids the only thing she does is to find fault with all I do. I really wish all her daughters mother inlaws like her, so she can know how it feels. She is a heartless bitch!
ReplyDeleteMy honest opinion is only u know wats best,if ur husband is a good and responsible man then u as a lady will know how best to talk to him cos in most cases its not about d mothers in law! It's about d husband themselves! I once had a MIL who made my life miserable! To her I was married to his son bcos of his money;he bought me a car when I had my 1st daughter and my MIL told d driver to take her to ibadan with it and she never returned it.d driver took a public transport to Lagos nd a lot more terrible stuffs! She just hated me for no reason ofcourse d marriage broke down nd am now married to an amazing guy!initially bcos I hav kids from my previous marriage my MIL won't hear of it but my husband stood his ground and today my MIL and I are best of friends! We travel together and I take care of her.looking back now I realised all d problems I had in my 1st marriage was becos my ex husband refused to be a man! Men always do whatever they want to do anyway so find a way to his heart nd see if u can let him see reasons with u.good luck
ReplyDeleteMadam you need to refocus your energy to bonding with your hubby not fighting with his mum, I know what she doing can be very irritat but ignore her focus your energy on making your hubby your best friend, respect his mum and don't talk bad bout her to him, if its ur mum you wouldn't want anyone talking bad about her. With constant patience he will see ur point of view.
ReplyDeleteYour husband says he can afford a school of 85 k dont fight and start paying the school fees urself, this will build resentment, this marriage thing na sense my sister, ok start scouting for schools that pay that range but are very good [ and pls dont tell me they dont exist ] do your home work talk to people, you will find one, dont jump to make life changing decisions because u didn't have your way . Always make yourself appear considerate when things are discussed so he can trust you. All those telling u to fight will not be there to handle the trouble when it comes.I ve been married for 6years and my dear u need to be wise and still maintain the peace. Stella pls kindly post this thanks
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