Dear Ms Stella,
I have been married for 4years now with two wonderful kids. My husband is always withholding sex as punishment whenever we have misunderstanding. Even when he is the offending party. I am getting fed up with him. Sex with him is 2/10, not fulfilling at all, I am 30years with a high and healthy libido while he is 35years with low libido and doesn't last up to a minute before ejaculation. He won't even attempt to go second time.
Despite all these, i have been managing the crumbs he has been offering but he can withhold sex for up to a month even if when we are sleeping on the same bed. I am tired of having to beg for sex from him like a slut whenever i have the strong urge to make love.
Now the latest he did that prompted me to write to you is that he moved out of our bedroom into another room just because of a very minor misunderstanding we had. The day he moved out, I asked him what will happen to our sex life, he said he will think about it and let me know his decision. Its been over a month now we had sex and I am really getting to my wit's end.
Please I will like to hear from fellow married women how they cope in such situation. Do I buy a vibrator or continue begging my husband to make love to me. I am sooooo unhappy and unfulfilled maritally.
BTW I am very very clean with good body structure and tight (thanks to kegel) pussy so its not about my body.
*wow,i am confused.maybe he doesnt like sex?
Go to www.zeevirtualmedia.com and get urself a vibrator. Dis man isn't goin to change since he has a low libido. Atleast dat is better dan cheatin on him with anoda man. #My 2cents opinion#
ReplyDeleteMy wife needs to visit this post, maybe she will start appreciating me. I come to her almost every night and she has been complaining making it feel like am the one with the problem. I feel it's either you have it or you don't. He is not gay, he just doesn't have it.
DeleteU obviously noticed this when u were dating him but went ahead to marry him! We're so blinded by our anxiety to get married that we often ignore a lot of important things in a relationship.
DeleteIt's not the quarrel,but he's just using it as an excuse to conver his weakness!
DeleteBut I really wonder how u got urself into this,u no notice am while dating?
Either get urself a sex toy or get him libido enhancing drugs.
My ex hubby used to do the same ish. Even to the point of nt talking to me. Thanks to God I'm nt no longer married cos I can't deal wiv any childish men issues. Dating all the way.
DeleteBn married for 7mths n my man doin ds shit too,i hate d fact dt nobody to talk to in d hse,nau always on d fone wut my ex.
DeleteHe's going tru a midlife crisis,maybe?
ReplyDeleteLool u ve 2 say this all the time
DeleteMidlife ko midnight ni *rme*..madam pls n abeg ur husband is ur personal property,bone any self help or cheating...if ur hubby has a medical condition dats a diff case but if its just low libido,abeg by all means up it! catch am,grab am,mount him n screw him blue-black...b4 u start,jst stroll go aboki place n buy dat satchet energy drink called "passion"...make a drink for both of u,wear jst his singlet n b about ur business,..wen his general starts giving salutes na for u to collect alllll d sweet gbese wey him owe u for days n months...have a nice ride..*winks*
DeleteUr husband isn't punishing u!
ReplyDeleteD poor guy is embarrassed.
Its called 'defence mechanism'
All na BRAGADO!
U are asking d wrong question.
D rite question shld av bin,
How can I spice up my sex life?
And is ur husband willing to work dis. Out or az e given up totally.
Cos it tks 2 to tango.
I learnt 1 lesson frm ur post. I wld be careful to marry a man wu wld listen to me and ear me out.
Sex isn't d issue,intimacy is!
ReplyDeleteHe doesn't feel connected wit u emotionaly n dts Y he seem withdrawn n doesn't wanna do u/do u fast and get it over wit.U guys need 2 start dating-dates dt wuld actually involve u guys talking.That way u both cn tell eacoda how u really feel.You wuldnt be suprised if he steals a kiss at d end of d date...N frm der...U mite get Some ;)
P.S: Be kind and honest on d date,don't go into Bitch-mode n start complaining,gudluck!
He may also have problems keeping jnr up or maybe he swings the other way
DeleteGet a vibrator and help yourself out.
ReplyDeleteThat's why we strongly advocate for sex before marriage, now look at where it has landed you. Ndi church!
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha. Baddest!
DeleteLol!! Hahaha!! I love this comment. My dear my ex boy freind was like that. One minuite is even good sef. I use 2 count his penetration, "1, 2, 3, 4, 5 ejaculate". Na so I take off. Sex b4 marraiage will see ur sexual compactability when u r married. Pls its also a sin. Tnk God I didn't marry him. Cus he wasn't making any effort 2 change.if I married him I would have cheated. I've been single 4 6 months n haven't had sex all along n I feel better like this than being with a man that can't do well
DeleteLol!! Hahaha!! I love this comment. My dear my ex boy freind was like that. One minuite is even good sef. I use 2 count his penetration, "1, 2, 3, 4, 5 ejaculate". Na so I take off. Sex b4 marraiage will see ur sexual compactability when u r married. Pls its also a sin. Tnk God I didn't marry him. Cus he wasn't making any effort 2 change.if I married him I would have cheated. I've been single 4 6 months n haven't had sex all along n I feel better like this than being with a man that can't do well
DeleteI wish i hd sex wit myman b4 gettn married to him,d probability of mi cheatn on him is vry high nau, i mesn 90%,ur own case stil beta oooo.u nid to knw wat am goin through.
DeleteAt phrinkies,you are very very right o! Me I am married and before I met my husband,my ex and I used to have crazy mind blowing sex and he was so big. Everything crazy,was done and he used to last longer than any guy I know or hav heard of( apart from those on weed or other drugs sha). Problem is,the guy was insatiable,upon he was using his machine to wound me,he was giving me physical and emotional beating. I met my husband who is all I want in a man but the sex is 2/10 compared to that of my ex but my dear,I'm a lot happier here.i know many pastors are against masturbation but I believe God understands because it is better to do it than cheat on my husband.my friends have vibrators,some bought by their husbands but I have my own ways of satisfying myself. Bottom line is masturbate with porn movies or masturbate by fantasizing and save your marriage. I know there are many hypocrites here so let the casting of stones begin.
ReplyDeleteChop knuckle!
Delete@val, I was 1c in ur exact shoes!!! I tuk masturbatn so seriously dat sex wiv my hubby was no more enjoyable.....immediately I realised it was a sin 2 mast, I had a convenant wiv God dat any day I try mast again, he shud stirke me with leprosy!!! My sis, am nt throwin stones @ U o bt sinc den, I v bin contented wit ao my hubby givs it 2 me n we even joke about it lik me calling him mr 1 round d gentle bobo n he wld say"ma pa ketekete"(don't kil d camel). Its bin lik dat since we got married n we clocked 12yrs jan 2...... One lov
DeleteNa so!! Masturbate n vibrate. Masturbation and vibrator have saved so many marriages
DeleteTrue talk. He isn't going to change so you have to satisfy yourself by yourself. Fantasizing helps.
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Chop double knuckle abeg!
DeletePlease until you have a bible verse to support your claim(where it is) that it is a sin for married couples to masturbate or have oral sex,etc dont preach to me because too many pastors have destroyed homes unknowingly by forcing their beliefs on people and claiming that it is a sin!
DeletePlease until you have a bible verse to support your claim(where it is) that it is a sin for married couples to masturbate or have oral sex,etc dont preach to me because too many pastors have destroyed homes unknowingly by forcing their beliefs on people and claiming that it is a sin!
DeleteAwwwchhh this is serious,,,maybe his seeing someone maybe his goin through alot which he doent wana open up to you..
ReplyDeleteWell my own contribution i think u need 2 talk him,,infact go buy a vib..buh make e no see am oh e fit bring big problem btwn una..
BTW,,just my curiosity what is KEGEL plz..?
LOVETH
Kegel exercise is an exercise that tightens the muscle of the vagina. You can start doing it by voluntarily tightening your vagina while urinating, you wee and stop, tighten the muscle and stop, alternate this process until you finish weeing but remember not to hold your breath but your muscle. Continue the exercisee even when you are not urinating at least 20 times a day. In a month you will feel the difference.
DeleteNa wa o! Does he want you to cheat on him or what?! That's why I don't really buy this idea of sex after marriage only; She would have noticed this about him. Madame are you adventorous in bed? Maybe he is bored n has diz fanatasies that he wants to fulfil and you aint game. Learn to take charge in d room and wear stuffs that will make him 4get his low libido and just want to grab u. Please I hope you don't talk him down too cuz no one will want to enjoy a nasty wife. Take heart dear but please don't cheat.
ReplyDeleteEka
hes gay!
ReplyDeleteYaah das how men with low libido bhave, dey hate sex with passion same with my fiancy. Ur own even manage to last up too 1minute mine is jst seconds sometimes he cum wen we still romanncing and I also gate giving him bj cos each time I do it he cums in my mouth but I love him to bone sometimes I wonder if he uses jaz for aving me all to him sex cos I was once a spoilt brath.... Mydear jst try ignore him Dnt beg him if u can stay up to a month or more he come begging. Finger urself whenever u horny or get itself a dildo. Am talking now cos am in same situation. With u.
ReplyDeleteAnd you want to fwd match with your "Fiancy". When you write to stella we no go advice you o because you've seen the signs but you chose to ignore it. Good luck.
DeleteTru talk @ juliet! Madam AM listen now ooo... My two cents.
Delete@Juliet but I love him so wat else can I do? Wen I tried to breakup with him I almost loose my life and I know he feels dsame way two....we talking about love here.
DeleteUna nor go kee me for this blog!kai!hahahha na really "fiancy" and "fwd match"
DeleteIn everything in life, god always gives us a cause to thank him for our situation. Sis, i wish i were in your shoes, what should i say but that you should thankgod when i go without sex for 3-6 mths and sleep on same bed with hubby everyday. Pray thats all
ReplyDeleteYou're single.
DeleteAs in! My darling husband. I treasure you o. The man will gragra make up and do and if I'm not ready to make up, he'll convince my body to ignore my stubborn mind and do. Next morning, back to boning. But we've adopted something that has worked for us. No matter the fight, it has a 24hr expiration date. So make it work! Doesn't always happen but it forces us to resolve quicker than we ordinarily would have. Funny enough, he was a mummy and daddy kinda man with 5 mins of action max but with love and a Kama Sutra Vals day present with illustrations, he has gotten way better. He actually quotes pages for me now lol. I love my sugarbanana.
DeleteAnd if he's not ready to settle fight, I have my lovely La Senza numbers in pinks and blacks or I borrow his shirt with nothing else to cook and clean. The agro with which he hunts me down is one in town.
DeleteHe's gay!!!!!!!!!! Thank me later
ReplyDeletepls get a vibrator.and pray while at it.
ReplyDeleteFirst n foremost ur hubby must b a duchbag,then again ve u tried dressing up real sexy around the house,do it all the time wit my hubby and it works. I dress up wit minimal clothing,walk about the house and act like im not interested in him,,it works every single time,goodluck n cheers
ReplyDeleteI tried this same trick with mine he didn't even look my way, i practically seduced him and he still resisted. Such men are impossible blve me. Bustymum
DeleteThought I was d only one whose guy doesn't like sex,no 2nd round and if at all e does,he doesn't last 2 mins bfor coming. It's very dpressing I tel u. I tried talkin to him...story. So whta do I do nw? Anytym I av d urge,I replay d some of d best sex I've ever had with him and with odas in d past. It helps me a little. Bt rite nw, I'm thinkin of goin bk 2 a bf I had bak den just for him to f*ck me lyk I want since I'm nt gettin any frm anywher right nw.
ReplyDeleteI tire o my sister. I can so identify with you on this one. My hubby and I have 2 children also and been married for about 3 yrs. Do u know this yr we have had sex only about 10 times. Ok granted sometimes we are at different locations but even when he is around; sex does not happen. The thing is so annoying because it is not very African for the woman to initiate sex. Recently I have been asking myself severally "why did I marry this man????" Romantic he is not. Loving he is not. And it is even more annoying when u recall that as a miss u we're getting it regularly from former boyfriends and na u dey form for them say u no want o. I don't think my demands are out of line. God created sex for marriage. Why one party decides to withhold it is beyond me. He is so lucky I was raised well. But my patience is wearing very thin. I jut dey look am. I may soon have to take action with another man who is up to the task.
ReplyDeleteTomorrow now they will blame this woman for cheating! All this men with weak tools! mtcheew.. I am sure you know what to do.
ReplyDeleteWow! Clean body! Tight pussy! I'm already 9" hard. I can do the job for him. How do I get to you.
ReplyDeleteStart taking the initiative. Buy some tablets for him and start going down on him like mad.
ReplyDeleteLMAO....this reminds of a gist a friend gave me, she said her hubby denied her sex for 6mths and she had to buy him d blue pills secretly, cos of his stupid ego he wanked all night. Stupid man! Bustymum.
DeleteYour husband is gay. Not bisexual. He used you to cover face. Vibrators are good but they get boring after a while and you feel empty. Learn to use your hands while watching something hot so that you get the love you're missing #bigsmile.
ReplyDeleteNo adultery pls o. My hand no dey.
I kinda agree with u on this, he is likely gay. May God help us women. Bustymum
DeleteLMAO!!! @ begging for sex from him like a slut!!!! tf
ReplyDeleteOne thing is having a good body/look another is pulling off a sexy look, u know wat they say "different strokes for different folks" maybe you aint dishing it out to your husband the way he likes it, do you understand your husband sexually? BTW .....did u guys date at all?
My candid advice to you is to help yourself for the time being till you can get through to your man. but if you don't get through just file for a divorce and get a man that would appreciate what you have and give it to you the way you want, to avoid stories that touch. Biko.
The way u just said 'file for divorce' lol... as if it's easy and you you've been there. My dear it's not as easy as it sounds o.
DeleteGirls sometimes think am spoil when I advice them to "test run a car before purchase" marriage is not beans and sex is important in a marriage. God has indeed blessed me. My dear pls don't cheat on him. In d mean time get urself a dildo and enjoy. P.S don't beg him again for now. If he is not gay he wld ask the right questions.
DeleteMe I'll say he is cheating! Which yeye low sex drive? One whole month? Haba! Habatically!!
ReplyDeleteHe using withholding sex as an excuse since he knows he doesn't satisfy you.. its partly an ego problem. Advantage of being close to your partner when I was dating my hubby he had same problem, he doesn't last up to a min b4 coming and me coming from a relationship where ex-bf was a stud, we could go all night wthout him getting tired. I used to cry after sex with 1min man. We had a long talk and we tried everything together, he started seeing a doc, there was nothing medically wrong with him. We just started spicing things up ourselves we watched porn together, bought sex toys. @ some point we only did foreplay for like a month no penetration. Now la hubby can go an hour and not cum! My advise, become your hubby's bestie let him be able to open up to u. Sex should be fun not a chore
ReplyDelete10Q my sis!!! I used 2 cry after sex wiv my hubby cos he wld take me 2 3rd mainland bridge n J̲̥̅̊u̶̲̥̅̊s̶̲̥̅̊t̲̥̅̊ dump me!!! He wld den beg me n pet me 2 sleep n dat was why I tuk 2 masturbatn cos I wld neva cheat on my hubby ijn. Asides mast bin a sin, it makes U̶̲̥̅̊ feel so stupid after U̶̲̥̅̊ must v gotten ur orgasm! After my convenant wiv God, we helpd ourselves with tins lik him penetrating 4 1 min n I wld b asking him if he feels lik cuming(lol). 1c he says yes, I wil tell him 2 withdraw n den we'd strt wit romance allova!!! Romance 4 lik 3mins n ask him 2 insert again until he can no longer cntrl himself(tongueout).....we did ds 4 as long as I can rememba n 2dy, my hubby dat I used 2 cal mr 1 round d gentle bobo is nw called mr ogbontarigi(strong).....@ d poster, why nt try n find out if he has stuffs disturbin him cos wen my hubby is disturbed, his **daddy** doesn't cooperate even if U̶̲̥̅̊ rub til thy kingdom com!!! 10Q
DeleteHe's cheating on you with another woman or man.
ReplyDeleteLmao@ man
DeleteDear poster,
ReplyDeleteIs it only during an era of misunderstanding he starves you of sex? If yes, then try as much as possible to avoid issues with him. Sometimes we women ought to play the fool to get what we want. Not because we actually are, but its the smartest thing to do as far as marriage is concerned. (Gra gra never pays). Then again, try to locate his "mumu button" all men have it. Once you do, you have him at the back of your palm.
Having a successful marriage is not a day's job. You have to work hard, sacrifice and compromise to build that "perfect marriage".
Ps: if he isnt good at all in bed, then by all means get yourself some sextoys. To keep body n soul together.
E no easy, but it is well.
Bloglord, rightly said but some men's mumu button are just unreasonable, imagine the only way to get ur man's attention is by picking up 80% of the bills. If u bend to do certain tins for the sake of peace u are simply digging ur grave.
DeleteGood advice! Locate his mumu... Very true. And gra gra never pays! Truly indeed!
DeleteLoool @ mumu botton and gra gra never pays.
DeleteMy dear, u r not alone on this. I have been having the same experience but guess what I'm so cheating on him right now. And I don't regret it.
ReplyDeleteFear God plzzzzz! Marriage is neva a bed of roses!!
DeleteStop cheatin n focus on making ur marriage "werk"........
He is so GAY! I'm surprised you are here crying when you should have sorted all this during courtship. Abi na 'papa, mama, find me wife from village' una do??
ReplyDeleteNicely said. Dear poster for BLOGLord's advice.
ReplyDelete*Follow*
ReplyDeleteI can so relate to this, mine can withold sex for more than a year and also keep malice with u for months even tho he is at fault, he blves an african man shouldn't apologise and its equally wrong for a woman to initiate sex. We are so disconnected now, initially i thot he wld outgrow it but its getting worse. I got a vibrator and started using it, i didn't even hide it and he saw it, he never asked questions after awhile i got tired of it and decided to beg him once more and he treated me like filth(note: am not ugly, fat and unattractive, many pple don't blve i have 2sons cos am a perfect size 10). I feared cheating cos of fear of STD's(condoms are not 100% safe) i later found solace in an old lesbie friend of mine (at least its safer) she kips me a bit happy but i prefer the rod any day. Half bread is better than non.
ReplyDeleteLesbie, pls how's lesbian sex, I will like to be fucked by a girl. I'm not lesbian o. But I get turned on wen I see lesbian porn. Kai! Abi I'm I bisexual? *confused*
DeleteFrom frying pan to fire! Apart from the fact that it's a grave sin, you best believe you can catch STDs from ur lesbie o. BV, Herpes, genital warts... Google is your friend, girl.
DeleteLesbiian Sex turns me on! I don't get! I. See it as a problem! Once got my pussy ate by a girl n I came lik crazyyy! Sinz den I've Avoided Lesbi moves Cuz The guilt afterward terrible! Buh sincerely I crave d experience again *coverss face* Lesbi porn tho z beautiful.
Deleteu can try many of d advices here. But please please please NEVER beg him for sex.u wil only feel horrible when neglected&hate urself for it. It will also feed his wicked ego& know d power he has over u. Even when im angry with my wife i never use sex as a weapon. It may just b a calmer sex but its an act we have equal duty over. Use a vibrator, fantasize. Just don't beg. Look SEXY.&HAPPY don't giv him face
ReplyDeleteGreat piece of advice comming from a man, NEVER beg him for sex, good God gave women the strong will to hold there body. Just be urself and don't feel unattractive, dress hot and look good always.
DeleteGbam*
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I'm here crying because my boyfriend is killing with sex, someone is crying for not getting enough, abeg come and trade places with me. Word of caution though, this man can eat pussy non-stop for 1 hour and can go all night. By the time he is done, the whole pussy is swollen, it's just unbelievable.
ReplyDeleteLmao
Delete*crying*
DeleteMy hubby to be is the same i am the one always running
God dey
I don't really subscribe to sexual toys but you are your own person. I think you guys need counselling from a third trusted party though. This is really sad.
ReplyDeleteIf u can do kegel, den u shud try masturbation. When he sees that you dont beg him for sex..he will change and knw that its not all about him.
ReplyDeleteAdah-Adah
for him not to last long, maybe this is a strategy for him to hide his shame. All these so called men that dont last because of STD's they have gotten from years of womanising. Many guys have this problem and they still open their mouth in public and call themselves men
ReplyDeletemtcheeew
kai anony #37 just nailed it......hummmm i think i would go for that since my hubby wouldnt ever make me wet and i do have painful sex all the time due to his selfish act of him not wanting to go down(lick) on me as that my weak point
ReplyDeleteGet ky gel, it helps a lot.
DeleteMy hubby is so selfish aswell, he expects me to beg him for sex all the time. And the funniest thing is that the man has long and fairly big dick oo but he is just a 2 min man. Its so bad that I masturbate even after sex, after the idiot has snoored his life away. And to think that my ex can go 1 hour without cumming, fucks me hard and gived me a head is so painful. Can't wait to cheat on this foolish idiot cos i know that he has a girlfriend outside. Can't wait! Revenge is sweet abeg! He has been unfaithful to me.
ReplyDeleteThen y r u still in dat mariage if u feel dis way abt him...see how easy it is 4 u to insult him,n u wonder y he can't go down on u
DeleteOkbyeamouttahere
So, why didn't your ex marry you? It's because you fucked him like a whore and he saw the slut in you. Imagine you calling someone who paid your brideprice an idiot cos he doesn't suck you smelly pussy. Shame on you. Where were you when your so called ex married another woman? Ashewo.
DeleteI feel you dear, my ex can fuck me so hard for africa! His dick is something else. This guy sucks me passionately and loves me dearly. My hubby now is so selfish, he always wants a head but he wouldn't want to give me. He is so annoying! 1 min man for that matter. Mtweeshhh.
ReplyDeleteLoves you dearly ke. So why in come drop you na? Abi in neva marry? Shameless idiot.
Deleteits in d bible....man ur wife owns ur body n woman ur man owns ur body...kilode...force him jare anytime e hungry u...mtcheww
ReplyDeleteStella your blog has become a school. I'm learning everyday even though you can be so annoying sometimes I still gat gr8 luv for u
ReplyDeleteu r just so stupid for ds aDVICE .....OLD MAMA...useless things
ReplyDeleteI suspect his libido is very low. The fights maybe stage managed so he won't ve to ve sex at all.if he had erectile dysfunction,I would ve suggested u get some adult toys. Something must be done.At this point,I would do something sinister.No.I won't cheat.If he doesn't have issues with his blood pressure,then all his meals will be spiked with libido boosters! Natural and semi articial.'Burantashi' sef go find way into his soup. Before he knows it,he will be a walking 'hard on'. He's too young not to enjoy jare.
ReplyDeletestella where did u gather all your commentators from, their level of maturity and intelligence is out of this worlds. Mehn! They are all professionals in every topic or post u bring up. Thumbs up SDKers! And long live stella!
ReplyDeletestella where did u gather all your commentators from, their level of maturity and intelligence is out of this world. Mehn! They are all professionals in every topic or post u bring up. Thumbs up SDKers! And long live stella!
ReplyDelete"my hubby dat I used 2 cal mr 1 round d gentle bobo is nw called mr ogbontarigi(strong)."...haba... sexyboocallher
ReplyDeleteIfeanyi, i wu onye ara.
ReplyDeleteI have this problem too so I truly feel this poster. Sex with my husband was great at the start of our marriage. I loved having sex with him .But after he went through a series of job crisis, his libido dipped to an all time low. For a few years, I endured this 1,2,3,4 ejaculate syndrome which used to leave me very frustrated. I couldn't sleep well anymore. I began to get irritated quickly. My job started to suffer. I went for about 5 years, never experiencing a single orgasm. Then I met a man who came strongly after me. I had never cheated on my husband. Im quite good looking with a great figure so naturally, men show interest in me. But I always shunned any advance. I hated the idea of masturbation or sex toys. Gradually, I felt attracted to this man. The thirst for intimacy and fulfilling sex became overwhelming. I succumbed to him . Sex with him was simply wonderful. I experienced multiple orgasms for the first time in my life. I slept with him continuously for over a year and he became my close friend and confidant. He didn't want to let me go. I became much more calmer, able to handle stress and was able to focus on my career.But I had guilt feelings every time we had sex. I have stopped seeing him for over a year now-I had to put a stop to it- but the situation with my husband still remains the same. I am now thinking about getting a sex toy. But I really don't know if it will give me the same effect of closeness and intimacy that I long for.
ReplyDeleteEnjoying the comments here..u guys should keep it coming.LOL
ReplyDeleteAfter you have commented as annoymous!smh
DeleteMy dear sister, AS A MAN, I will advice u never ever beg a man 4 sex. Just kip urself sexy. Get a gud vibrator or use ur hand 2 masturbate. Pls DONT FORK OUTSIDE. Bless u. Dave.
ReplyDeleteI am seriously enjoying this..LMAO...stella will nt kill me
ReplyDeleteLes Les not necessarily means you give heads, les les *wink* could be ... finger p*** ,suck boobs, wank with your vibrator(rabbit ears) while your les friend suck your boobs and tickle your nipples...Me no dey suck pussy cos of STDs (does that make me a lesbian?who cares lol) cos you wouldn't know who is who....I love wanking myself and seeing my beautiful les partner(married of cos) looking at me while I do it...#priceless# (those in the game knows what am talking about )btw, hubby shuttles abroad and Nija ,I always look forward for him to travel abroad*tongue out* #talking about freedom##yippie#
ReplyDeleteBack to the matter, hey girl! Grab a vibrator and wank yourself!
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I love dis blog, Chai! Most SDKers re soooo mature, It jst feels lyk hme here, And Stella.... Infact, my love for yhu na Jackie Chan. Oya cme chop kiss.
ReplyDelete@Poster,,,i understand how u feel....infact ur self description suits mine( married for 4 years with two kids,30 years of age and hubby 35yrs).....sex with my hubby before marriage was beautifully terrific(if dere's anything like that),,, all thanks to my hubby's extra large and extra long rod.....it was something else,,my pussy gets swollen after the whole episode and am always left dehydrated and tired desperately looking for cold water/drink to cool me down......after we got married,,.some months after we had our first child,,,,things took a new turn between us,,,we lost intimacy and friendship between us bcos he was extremely stingy and selfish at that time and i felt it more cos i wasnt working then(thanks to my parents cos they were my pillar of support and always attending to my needs financially despite been married),,,,his mum too was an issue for me,,,she was always in support of my hubby's wrong attitude and she never for once corrected him and this really severed our relationship....as God would have it,,i got a very good job,,,with a good salary structure and i felt it was pay back time......i was the type that used to give financial support to my hubby before we married(cos am from wealthy background) and so i decided never to use my kobo to do anything that my hubby will benefit from in our home.....i was only spending for myself and our son.....our relationship turned sour and i denied him access to my body cos i found it so hard to forgive him of how he treated me when i had no job.....it was terrible and my hubby been an emotional person,,,, became affected with the whole thing,,,,,he never believed i could retaliate/revenge....he apologised several times but i just couldnt let go of the grudge cos i felt if my parents had not been there for me,,what would have been my fate???? we didnt have sex for close to a year(i was the one starving him ooo and at a point i was getting used to life without sex though there were times i had a strong urge for it),,,,infact the second pregnancy came sept 2011 and it was as a result of him forcing me(or should i call it rape) against my will one early morning and the next month,,,my period was gone......to cut the story short.....by the time i was able to talk to myself to let go of the grudges i had against my hubby,,,his sexual life had turned sour,,,it will take serious pulling(like am trying to start a generator),touching,rubbing and all sorts before he could have a very weak erection,,his erection was so weak that his rod wouldnt even enter my pussy before it goes down again(at this point we cried togeda so many times and he kept pleading bcos he was the genesis of our misunderstanding),,,we tried so many things,,he went to the hospital,,did series of test,,,but there was no solution..........i had to help out..HOW??? i did all could to put the past behind me(even though it still hurts when i rememba sometimes),,,,i tried to revive our relationship again like it was when we were dating and i created a very friendly atmosphere in our home,,,some weekends,,we take the kids to my parent's place and its just the two of us togeda at home,,we watch porn movies,,play games,,,anything we want,,,and we would stay nude thruout,,,,gradually things began to bounce back to normal and as i type this,,we are on top of our game,,now hubby can have very fully erection and maintain it for as long as we want it,,now we go 2 or 3 rounds,,,just yesterday morning,,,we had a very hot one,,,that left my pussy swollen(feeling so horny now...aarrrrggghh),,,it was mind blowing........
ReplyDelete@Poster,,,all am trying to point out with my story is dat ur hubby might be going thru some challenges that is weighing him down and making his sex life terrible,he may not be gay,,,,like someone said,,be ur hubby's best friend,,he may not be able to open up to u because of his ego but u should try to probe deep to know what he's going thru,sit him down,,let him know ur concerns and work it out together,,,it will definitely yield results........kpele dear,,it is well...
Had almost d same issue, found out he was cheating. But during dat time i used porn and fantasizing about our past excapes to satisfy my self. I wasnt bothered again cos i was almost having high bp.nw he found out about d porn and got so angry. I also used d opportunity to learn new tricks to spice up my relationship. I did things to him dat he couldnt stop me again. And also his mind cm back home after he was caught cheating.
ReplyDeleteContinuation frm d post of i watched porn and fantasizing. U can also try greenworld products fr him. Thy're super. But behqve like a fool, talk to him, with time he'll cm around and u'll be happy u helped him. Talking frm worse experience , but so happy now.
ReplyDeleteI feel u almost at the same situation,sex life is zero one minite nd I'm left with myself,8yrs marriage with 2kids.I chea(ed I'm loving it
ReplyDeletePls me I need help o,my situation isn't sex,its kissing...I love kissing like MAD even more than I do sex,buh hubby doesn't like kissing,I've brushed tire. I even ask ppl if I av odour n they say no,but my guy kisses small n forms "baby wait small,am tryin to catch my breath" meen he's drivin me nuts cos I watch a lot of romantic movies n series,so u can imagine how it feels...smtims am tempted to get a kissing budy-its dat serious.
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To all those who are asking if they didn't court, hmmm, d only constant thing in life, they say, is change! I've been in dis situation before, but while courting, my man won't let me rest, infact, sometimes, when he wakes me up in d midnyt and I say No, we'll have to fix time, say, like 4am, and , trust me, once its 4am, like an alrm clock he'll wake me up and say, it's time... Fast forward, we've been married for 4years plus and most times we quarrel cos he's always cheating with peeps around me, and once I demand dat we talk abt it, fight don start n as long as it continues, NO SEX!!! We've gone as far as 7months, tho I knew he was getting it outside, his movements were not straight! It was obvious, but did I beg him?? Fa fa fa FAO!! Wen it was time, things sorted themselves out!!
ReplyDeleteNever ever beg him for sex.....sit him down and have a heart to heart talk....tell him how you feel and ask him what exactly is his problem so you can both find a solution.....if he refuses, you need to let a third party you both respect and is mature enough to handle the matter wade in.....if nothing happens and it's obvious he is just being wicked then leave him alone and have an affair......am sick and tired of men being abusive to women...it's not only physical beating that is abuse and you do not need to continue suffering for another person,s immaturity.....when you have done all in your power ( nobody will tell you you will know) you will not feel guilty with any action you decide to take.....sex in marriage is not all about getting an orgasm, even with a sex toy or mastubation it's the intimacy of being with someone you care about that also matters.....so even after you come alone so many times you will still feel empty....maturity is knowing you have a problem and seeking help about it.....Jo need to beg him again don't let him continue the emotional abusive...
ReplyDeleteI'm amazed that a lot of women are going thru this same ordeal as I am!My advice to you sincerely is to get a seperation first..it won't be easy cause of the kids,but trust me he's never going to change!Idon't believe in sextoys and masturbation never done it and never will!I'm also on my way out b4 it's too late..I'm still in my 30s and I believe I can still find someone who can love me,satisfy me and treat me right!I'm also getting to the point where I think I can easily cheat and I don't want to..I'm raising children and I would'nt want to be a bad example to them!plus my conscience won't even let me..It's ironic and really sad that they're so many of us in this shoes..And if u don't find a solution you just won't function!!
ReplyDeleteMy hubby doesn't go more than one round of 20mins to 45mins and the lovemaking is WHOA! But, still I want more...what can I do to him to go for round 2? I have tried straddling him after round 1 and he swears it tickles him to high heavens as he gets too sensitive then and doesn't want to continue...
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Your husband is passive-aggressive. I bet sex is not the only thing he withholds form you, I bet he also gives you the silent treatment, or he is one of those who don't eat the meals you prepare. These men show up in all sorts of ways, but at the end of the day it's all the same.
ReplyDeleteI wish I could truly tell you how to deal with him, passive-aggression is personality disorder that manifest in all sorts of negative way. At the end of the day it takes it's toll, because you will never know what will set him off, and how he will react. Of course, this person will never feel that there is anything wrong with them, so suggesting counseling may not even work. Seek professional counselling if he is willing to go for it, and he needs some sessions alone. Scientific prayer is another option, keep an image in your mind of how you want to see him as a husband treat you all the time, think highly of him and see the best that is in him. This is mental work that you need to do to change the energy in the household.
Now if none of the above works, then phase two is for you to secure yourself f financially; stock, pile, and hide. You are dealing with someone who may strike you where it hurt most and that could manifest in any number of ways, don't be caught out in the cold. Make sure that you are the best mother possible, do not give him any opportunity to speak ill of you with anyone. Still treat him like a loving and devoted wife, because men like these are manipulators, make sure you make everyone around you see how well you treat him. Make sure everyone around you see how well of a mother you are. Wish you well!
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ReplyDeleteMany do not appreciate the effect of low lobido on men. It could be a psycological warfare that could lead to suicide if not controled. Talk to your man, be his best friend, help him regain his confidence.
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ReplyDelete1. premarital sex is good
2. don't marry "no testing"
Na wa oh. My own problem is the opposite. Married for donkey years and my husband doesn't let me rest. Once he sees me, his third leg starts saluting. These days, once I hear the horn of his car, I jump into bed and close my eyes tightly. Abeg, he likes the thing too much jare. Even at that, he starts tickling me because he knows my tricks. But unless I really want it too, I don't laugh. He is always saying I don't know I am a lucky woman. Hmmmmmm........Different strokes for different folks. Personally, I can do without sex for one year. Could care less.
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ReplyDeleteI can't really believe that i am with my Ex-Husband after when he broke up with me with 4 kids he is back , i thank Dr Okedi for helping me getting back my husband back, My Name is Vegadaly i am from USA and my man name is Phillip , my happiness turn to bitterness,my joy turn to sorrow,my love turn to hate when my husband broke up with me last week,i was so frustrated and i could not know what next to do again, i was so unthinkable and i could not concentrate anymore, i love my husband so much but he was cheating on me with another woman and this makes him broke up with me, so that he can be able to get marry to the other lady , i think she cast a spell on my husband to make him hate me and my kinds and this was so critical and uncalled-for,I cry all day and night for God to send me a helped to get back my man until a day when i was browsing on the on the internet i saw a post of a lady name Lizzy Brooklyn and who was having the same problem with me but she latter got her Husband back and i write her to asked her how she was able to get her husband back and she told me that their was a powerful spell caster in Africa that help her with a love spell in getting back lost lover's back and i decided to contacted the same Dr Okedi immediately and she told me what is needed to be done for me to have my man back and i did it although i doubted it but i did it and the Dr Okedi told me that i will get the result after 4 days , and he told me that my husband was going to call me by 10pm in my time and i still doubted his word, to my surprise my husband really called me and told me that he miss me so much Oh My God i was so happy and today i am happily with my man again and we are joyfully living together as one good family and i thank the powerful spell caster , he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the internet that good spell casters still exist and Dr Okedi is one of the good spell caster who i will always pray to live long to help his children in the time of trouble, if you are there and your lover is turning you down, or you have your husband moved to another woman, do not cry anymore contact the powerful spell caster Dr Okedi on his email: [okedisupernaturaltemple@gmail.com. and he will solve your problem for you , i am a living testimony and i will continue to testify of his goodness in my family,he turn my family to paradise and today we are all happy together Dr Okedi i say thank you in million times thanks Dr Okedi, or you can call him on +2348119020294..
ReplyDeleteI can't really believe that i am with my Ex-Husband after when he broke up with me with 4 kids he is back , i thank Dr Okedi for helping me getting back my husband back, My Name is Vegadaly i am from USA and my man name is Phillip , my happiness turn to bitterness,my joy turn to sorrow,my love turn to hate when my husband broke up with me last week,i was so frustrated and i could not know what next to do again, i was so unthinkable and i could not concentrate anymore, i love my husband so much but he was cheating on me with another woman and this makes him broke up with me, so that he can be able to get marry to the other lady , i think she cast a spell on my husband to make him hate me and my kinds and this was so critical and uncalled-for,I cry all day and night for God to send me a helped to get back my man until a day when i was browsing on the on the internet i saw a post of a lady name Lizzy Brooklyn and who was having the same problem with me but she latter got her Husband back and i write her to asked her how she was able to get her husband back and she told me that their was a powerful spell caster in Africa that help her with a love spell in getting back lost lover's back and i decided to contacted the same Dr Okedi immediately and she told me what is needed to be done for me to have my man back and i did it although i doubted it but i did it and the Dr Okedi told me that i will get the result after 4 days , and he told me that my husband was going to call me by 10pm in my time and i still doubted his word, to my surprise my husband really called me and told me that he miss me so much Oh My God i was so happy and today i am happily with my man again and we are joyfully living together as one good family and i thank the powerful spell caster , he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the internet that good spell casters still exist and Dr Okedi is one of the good spell caster who i will always pray to live long to help his children in the time of trouble, if you are there and your lover is turning you down, or you have your husband moved to another woman, do not cry anymore contact the powerful spell caster Dr Okedi on his email: [okedisupernaturaltemple@gmail.com. and he will solve your problem for you , i am a living testimony and i will continue to testify of his goodness in my family,he turn my family to paradise and today we are all happy together Dr Okedi i say thank you in million times thanks Dr Okedi, or you can call him on +2348119020294..
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