After childbirth,sex is a different ball game for most women....especially those who birth their babies through their privates.
Some become loose from pushing out their babies and even though they were sewed up after the cut,they never regain elasticity.
Some under go the C-section and sex is never the same again.
Some begin to have the best sex after childbirth,it just varies for different women.
My sex life took a turn for the better after childbirth but that only happened after i stopped giving my babies breast milk...lol
What is your after child birth experience sex wise?Are you still struggling to find the G-spot experience after child birth?Did anything change for you?Are you wider down there?
Did your libido nose dive?
One lady told me some years back that she began shivering to have sex some hours after birthing her child and because she had taken a private room and her hubby stayed with her all through her stay in hospital,she was having sex every night after childbirth starting from the first night...she said it was the best sex ever.
Lets gist!
She was shivering to av sex same day after giving birth ?????? That's weird....does it mean she was not bleading or what? And remember menstrual bleeding differs from child birth bleeding.....anyways pple differ....
ReplyDeleteWhat is Kegel exercise please. Help a sister. Thanks
DeleteI'm a mother of 4 in my early 30's. I enjoyed sex very well wen I was preggy cos it gave me and my husband d opportunity to explore new styles. We did it from behind and @ times my husband did it from d front but was very careful not to press my tummy Lol. After childbirth my libido escalated, meeen I feel like being at it all d time and from d way my husband squeals dat my pussy is really da bomb during intercourse, I no not much has changed in my G area. Lol
DeleteHaba! That woman spoil oo, and the hubby too, with all that blood and that typical smell(unlike menstral blood) I became tighter after childbirth cause I had an episiotomy
ReplyDeletePls expansiate what's episiotomy yes I know google is M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ friend
DeleteEpisiotomy is a tear a woman has on her privates as a result of a large baby passing tru dere which is sown thereafter!
DeleteFor me stella, I had more sexual libido after childbirth and it was not as uncomfortable of cos bcos it was wider now so we cld try more positions. It even got better when I started exercising bcos the muscles became firmer. Anyway now we know how to hit the g spot and we just go for it. Loving sex in a commited relationship. I think its the best
ReplyDeleteI started enjoying sex after child birth. Before then i was like what's so special with this sex issue sex its not pleasurable. But after my first issue i understood. My husband was surprised when i started demanding for sex every day cuz i always turned him down before. And since then its hmmmm. Don't wanna think about it. I dey office. Haahhahaha
ReplyDeleteHahaha! I share the same experience as you.
DeleteSame here,it was after having my babies that I became a freak lol!
DeleteEven hubby wonders at the new me.#winks# cos I have always been lazy when it comes to dat.
Well I think it's cos they say a woman's libido is at its peak btw age 30 to 40yrs.
Humm..... itching to start reading the comments oo.lol
ReplyDeleteSex is always boring while I'm breasfeeding my kids, but once I wean them, it becomes good again. Though I had my babies per vaginum but I'm stl very tight dre. A lot of things also contribute to wether or nt sex wld be enjoyed, lik d stress of caring for kids, ur work etc. So our men, if u want to ve a good time wt ur wife, help her with d chores at home.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm....interesting topic,I like!
ReplyDeleteAre you a glorify virgin?
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ReplyDeleteNow this is gonna be so interesting, cuz I can't wait! ,*grabbing my fanta and gala*
ReplyDeleteGimme some ojare while we listen in. Any Asexual's out there?
DeleteLadies column only. Guys, no be una dey ask oooo.
ReplyDeleteI birthed my children via ECS (elective cs). strolled into the hospital pregnant, and out of hospital with my baby(ies).My vee remains same. I only have cramps sometimes on my lower abdomen while having sex with my husband.
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ReplyDeleteSex the night after childbirth? Is she a nympho? That's a bit OTT. But whatever works for the couple involved.
I resumed sex about 4 weeks after vaginal delivery on both occasions. I did my kegels faithfully while pregnant and after delivery so I guessed that helped. Plus my doctor said he did a trick knot there while stitching the episiotomy. In fact, vajayjay was tighter after the 2nd delivery. Sex is as good as it used to be.
Hian,
ReplyDeleteI'm still a virgin for ds kind matter
So, I will pass :)
~ stella's biggest fan
Let me just sit down and take a chill pill while I wait 4 comments frm experts in d house to roll in. Am nt married and av nt given birth. Oya Mamas in d house over to una.
ReplyDeleteMind your grammar abeg. Which one b the birthing and birth their babies.
ReplyDeleteMaybe you should expand your Vocabulary. They are right Mamacita @ 11.54am
DeleteMamacita@11.54am shay you want them to say 'put to bed?' A term so old and wrong as it sounds? No way, Hosay (Jose).
DeleteMamacita@11.54am shay you want them to say 'put to bed?' A term so old and wrong as it sounds? No way, Hosay (Jose).
DeleteStella of life, 2day na monday naaa.. We r supposed 2b focused bt u wan distract us.. Let's gist ppl
ReplyDeleteBefore child birth I found it difficult to get wet, my husband had to go the extra mile just for me to get wet. But after child birth all he had to do was touch me and my pants are soaked, I'm a bit wider but sex is sweeter now than it was before. Even for my husband; anytime we "nack" it is mind blowing. I can come over and over again.
ReplyDeleteKool Blend, please come to my house. Bring your OWENA Damn. Laugh it off, it's Monday.
DeleteLOL@ Owena damn, choi! Una no go kill persin.
Delete@ Anon 3:00pm ,for my hubby only! Can't wait to get home, LOL!
DeleteFor the woman who had sex from day 1, abeg the post partum bleeding don stop abi na so them take do am?!? Well after child birth (3), I seem to get multiple orgasms now than before. Go figure!!!
ReplyDeleteafter childbirth, when the sex is hawt, deres dis funny loud sound my pussy makes constantly (fart like) and its rily offensive... had my child thru a CS... am confused and disturbed and shy to speak abt it to my doctor!!!
ReplyDeleteIts called qweefing. You have a dirty pussy
DeleteIts called queefing or Vart and NO!she doesn't have a dirty pussy.why are u being mean?
Delete@nana: bush grl like you.. Dirty pussy indeed! If you don't know what varting/queefing is just shut up instead of spreading a rumour.. @anon:it's nothing, just your vagaina trapping air during sex.. Nothing to be shy of. Perform kegel exercises.. Cheers
DeleteIt took me like 6months(good one o) be i could get nacked by my husband after my first. very painful dat i always form excuses when i know he wants it.
ReplyDeleteI could count the number of times i had sex before i had my second. but took me like 3months after. i prefer it now than before(when i had my first).
i was stitched during my first and second.
im not married oooo, but hope to enjoy sex after marriage oooo. Heard kegel exercise helps if u are already do so b4 childbirth.
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I had my 1st daughter at 20 n in my 2nd year in d university. The next day,I went to school to write my exams. Sex-wise,if no be oga wey dey agitate for sex,I for no do again in my life ooo cos the pain of labor n childbirth was something else. I didn't feel anything n he had to go down on me. That happened four weeks after childbirth n there was no more after childbirth discharges.
ReplyDeleteWill comment as anon..*tongueOut
ReplyDeleteMe am pregnant and I don't even want to have sex lol! Wonder what will happen when the baby comes. I guess I just have to do it
ReplyDeleteDon't have a child yet so would not know how it feel but I love the way the baby is looking @mum n dad wondering what is going on LOL
ReplyDeleteThe first tru CS, the 2nd by myself. Nothing prepared me for the pain. It was like I was being disvirgined all again. And this was after 8 weeks! Mehnn!!! The pain no be here o
ReplyDeleteHad a baby eight weeks ago. Afraid to have sex with the hubby. So this post is going to be very insightful for me. And my vjay jay also makes the fart noise sometimes. Sex life was great before childbirth though didn't get orgasms.
ReplyDeleteStop sitting on soft chairs. Use the wooden chair(kitchen chair).do that fast ooooooo
DeleteWell Stella, breastfeeding makes my uterus go back to its position fast. And i mean exclusive breastfeeding!! no baby formulae in between. I stayed off sex for about a month and when we tried, it felt so sore. But later, i became relaxed. I have three kids and when i breastfeed only, i loose all that fat very fast and my kids hardly fall sick. They have wonderful skin, bright eyes etc. I breastfeed for 6month(breast milk only) and the remaining 6month, i introduce cereal and light solids plus breast milk. My hubby says the place is still the same and my gynecologist says my uterus goes back to its shape quickly because of the breast feeding. However, its a very hard job, i must warn you!!! But your child would be very happy, attached to you and hubby would have his pussy intact.
ReplyDeleteAlso, for new mothers, when i first had my first child, i looked at my pussy and noticed that it was no longer a smooth 'pipe'. It was rough looking. I was quite worried and ran to my doctor, who assured me all was well. Its normal. I do not support women having sex after birth with lucia(blood from childbirth) coming out. Its the biggest way of getting an infection and getting pregnant quickly again.
Lucia keh?
DeleteLochia you mean
Its 'Lochia' dear not lucia
DeleteHmmmm! With d trend of this comments am so happy knowing that after childbirth my sex life will improve more! Plz mothers roll in more contributions
ReplyDeleteM̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ veejay makes dt fart-like sound durin sex. Dnt knw y. Blesyn
ReplyDeleteU didn't sit on hot water and hard surface well, its not too late you can start with kegels exercise.
DeleteHmmmmmm........sex for me was sweeter wen I was pegnant...I furked enter labour room 0! But after childbirth,,I just lost it real...and just a last month,d urge starts coming cos I stoped breastfeeding ma chiboy..........yinkus
ReplyDeleteIn my own case, ever since I had my second baby sex is no longer interesting for me o, bt I trie to make my hubby happy by giving anytime he ask o
ReplyDeleteAww! Bless u stella for this post! Lemme sit and wait for comments from mothers like me.. I m a first time mom and am yet to have sex after 8weeks of giving birth
ReplyDeleteAm nt a mom yet,cos i had a via miscarriage. Bt whn i wz preggo..LORD BE MERCIFUL !! my man wz totalli amazed,i wz horny almst evry 24/7,lik a he-goat,it wz so embarassing 2me,bt he wz luving it,smtyms he jst has 2 do sm foreplay 4me 2cum,no sex alway,cos he wz scared smfin wil go wrng wif 24/7 sex,bt i wz alwaiz horny. Am guessing whn i finally get preggo & give birth,my sex drive wil b sm oda story 4sm oda day
ReplyDeleteRigorous sex during pregnancy is not good for some pple, it causes uterine contractions which may finally lead to loss of pregnancy. When next u re pregnant, pls reduce d frequency n intensity of ur sex especially in d 1st trimester. May God give u d fruit of d womb soon.
DeleteI am a first time mom and I had an elective CS...I had sex 20days after I had my baby and I swear it was pure bliss...hubby was a bit scared @ 1st, but he got used to it...ps: we didn't have too much sex while I was preggo, cuz hubby was scared...so u see why I couldn't wait to romp the sack after baby...
ReplyDeletePs: Stella post ma comment o...
farting toto syndrome...i neva knew it happns 4reali i thought u hv 2 mk it hpn urslf,cos i mk dat fartin sound myslf jst 4fun while fcking my man & its funi & he absolutely luvs it,whn i made d sound 4d 1st tym unintentionali,i wz embarassed i felt lik"thunder shld strike me dead instantly"....bt whn i knew hw 2mk d sound intentionally,it jst bcm smfin 2laff ova..*yes call us disgustin* ...bt wateva mks us hapi or kips us hapi is all we nid.....gurl pls go see a gynea,its reali imprtnt,u myt nid sm medical hlp 4it
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DeleteA's for me I was more honey when I was pregnant,infact d day I gave birth to my boy,we made love and wen my boy came,der was semen all over his head
ReplyDeletePple like u put the 'L' in Lying...hian
DeleteLooool...ori buruku!! Sperm head!
DeleteLmao! Sounds untrue tho
DeleteAnon 4.13pm you are mean!!!hehehehehehehe.some pple can tell baseless lies sha.
DeleteI swear! Some pple lie without the fear of God!
DeleteLiar of d century,meaning ur baby no dey inside amniontic sac,he jst dey float inside ur belle.
DeleteShe may be right..
DeleteThe noise the vagina makes during intercourse is known as QUEEFING: When too much air builds up during insertion from the penis. When the penis is removed it results in the excretion of air buildup and is released without female control.
ReplyDeleteVaginal flatulence is an emission or expulsion of air from the vagina. It may occur during or after sexual intercourse or during other sexual acts, stretching or exercise. The sound is somewhat comparable to flatulence from the anus but does not involve waste gases and thus often has no specific odor associated. Slang terms for vaginal flatulence include vart, queef and fanny fart. OC
Chai! You just copied and pasted here. Big shoutout to Google.
DeleteI have never reached an orgasm before, i hope someone can give me tips on how to reach this. i enjoy sex n all, but reaching that point has been so difficult *sobs*
ReplyDeleteYou dey miss oh!
DeleteNot all women climax having penetrative sex. Learn your body and try other things apart from penetrative sex and just enjoy yourself. You will get there.
DeleteYou need to be rubbing your clit during penetration it really helps me. Also ur mind needs to be focused on what u r doing! Trust me organsm will come to you
DeleteYou need jesus
ReplyDeleteSDK,pls write on orgasms. Pls
ReplyDeletehehehehe
ReplyDeleteSorry Lochia. Was too much in a hurry typing, Lol. Made some other typo's, please bear with me. Hope my message wasn't lost though!
ReplyDeleteDear Stella, I must commend you for informative posts like this. Even though am not yet married, I still get to learn from the comments. Knowledge is power and would help us all in the future. Thumbs up.
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Hmmm everyone is claiming pussy gets tighter and sweeter......na wa ooooo....naija women and lie lie...God is wAtching in 100D oooo....
ReplyDeleteAunty stella,pls write on sex n orgasms..we truly nid it.I've neva reached orgasm b4 plus sex is rily painful 4 me.I neva luk 4ward 2 it.
ReplyDeleteSame here o...aunty stella pls help some sisters out o
DeleteSame o
DeleteHad a baby four weeks ago.and since then sex has been far from my mind.Before the baby came, I was chasing hubby everywhere around the house.So tay Oga say so u want make i use my penis remove the pikin or what?lol.Waiting for my sex drive to return but till then...........
ReplyDeleteStella blog don spoil me oooh!! Joe badoo
ReplyDeletei hav sex cos of orgasm, if deres no orgasm den d sex is worthless. Afta havin my fourth baby initially i was enjoyin sex bt nw i v startd wrkin plus stress equals to no desire for sex again n am jst twenty six. Chyqueen.
ReplyDeleteWow, four kids at 26. I envy u o
DeleteI had to wait for 4 gud month. The episiotomy was really bad, d stitches did nt disappear. Aft dt 4 mnth of starvin oga, sex was as if sumone was cuttin my vay jj. Menh I didn't enjoy it. I used hot water n sait dt mornin again. Still breastfeedin my year old boy bt enjoyin sex small small. Breastfeedin keeps me in shape.
ReplyDeleteSeriously peeps I av only reach organism twice in 5 yrs of marriage and 6 yrs of having. sex, I dnt jst like sex, love foreplay 2 a fault, but sex is like sufferness for me o... Hubby not happy abt dis, I neva ask for it, but when I watch on TV am always horney, pls wat can I do after 2 kids, veejay is still tight n painful at times, dnt even like styles at all it makes it more painful, n my hubby wud tink am enjoying it when am screaming..lol
ReplyDeleteLol no be only organism na organisation
DeleteI wonder y some people make it their duty 2 be grammatical error prefect,this is not an english class abeg.Meanwhile I luv this topic ,its very educative esp 4 we dat are not married yet,I hav hope nau dat I wud enjoy sex after marriage.
DeleteWe didn't ve sex until 3mths after childbirth n my veejay was still tight cos I was properly stitched.for me its still normal cos I ve never reached orgasm.wnt to no if there ll b changes after breastfeeding.pls anyone wit an idea on how to reach orgasm n enjoy sex?
ReplyDeleteStella ose jare.For me sex was fantastic after childbirth. It took months but when we started we couldnt stop.Its definitely better, even my husband says so aftter 11 yrs married lol
ReplyDeleteStella,u wnt kill me.I remember when I was pregnant I was so horny ehhh.at a point my husband was forming not feeling fine cos I was insatiable.he was asking me where I got all d energy from even when I was 9months.but after having my son,I lost intwrest totally.he kept joking he will be getting me prwgnant everyyear.adter my baby sex was painful ooo.chei.but am back now and my libido is out of dis world.I knack everyday ooo and orgasm .yep am a little wider but my hubby says am not.
ReplyDeleteNa wa oh and my hussy is not around now .Am horny oooo
ReplyDeleteNawah oo.I wish 2 get married soonest,bcs I want 2 enjoy some interesting experience
ReplyDeleteMy own comments is to d ladies that has not experienced orgasm. Over 80% of women don't reach their orgasm through penetration (d penis can not pleasure d clitoris sametime) but many claim they do coz of how romance magazines describe both partners reaching orgasm same time as sex made in wonderland. Truth is, either a woman reaches orgasm bf d man penetrates or after d man reaches his own. Let ur man finger u, stroke ur clitoris gently in d process, suck ur boobs teething ur nipples @ d same time, d rest will sure be history. U have to exploit ur body during foul play.
ReplyDeleteOya now..naija womens,let's goes there's.I no sey na this kain thn una dey like.
ReplyDeletei didnt have sex for atleast 2 months.the doctor advised 6 weeks, but it took me another 2 weeks to convince my husband it was ok.lol..but the sex is still as good as it was before pregnancy...noting different.still the same.
ReplyDeleteam not married bt ve lost interest in sex already....
ReplyDeleteStella, u have sex...??
ReplyDeleteNot true o. My husband has perfected fingering and penetrating at the same time. The contractions and extra lube ensure we come at almost the same time. Kai, 5 o clock, where art thou? My husband is in for it tonight.
ReplyDeleteremember she said she was intimate with hher husband on d day she had her baby. So its most likely her amniotic sac was already broken. so there's a possibility d baby was born with .... on his head
ReplyDeleteDuring pregnancy a woman's cervix is blocked so no sperm can get past the cervix.So u can't get pregnant in addition to the one u already have.Even if na one gallon of sperm ur man ejaculate it will remain in the vagina there for no purpose.So there is every possibility that a baby born on a day sex took place could have some sperm on his or her hair.
ReplyDeleteRomeo
For those farting thru VJJ. Pls learn to sit with ur thighs closed, especially after childbirth. Anon 1.54; start doing this asap b4 ur body stiffen up.
ReplyDeleteHad sex like 6 months after child birth, it was really painful and no rhythm at all. I started enjoying sex like 2 years later. Now am preggie again, getting wet is serious job. My hubby has to do a lot of foreplay to make me wet. I tell him, no wuruwuru to d answer, u av to work d equation one by one to get d desired result. Lol...I don't know how it will be after I birth this one though
ReplyDeletelol no be only foul play.....
ReplyDeleteabeg most of una dey lie.mine is loose and sometimes my hubby has to ask ..is it inside?i need help to tighten up abeg
ReplyDeleteWell vagina queefing (the sound you talk about) happens after you give birth but will reduce with time. Honestly, your husband may like it, don't feel bad. Then, most women don't even understand their bodies (sad but true). Stop thinking about the dishes And just have fun. ASK him how he wants it and give him that pussy.
ReplyDeletehummmm, stella, thanks for this educative platform. For the 1st time l patiently read all the 108 comments. l lost my 1st pregnancy at 5 months old but during the pregnancy, l hated sex like shit and l did not have it at all but was begging my hubby for sex 1 week after the evacuation.i feel horny everytime than wen l hadn't experience pregnancy. l'm a bit loose despite the fact that the baby was just 0.4kg. I av decided to do CS once l get pregnant again for subsequent babies so that the G area will still be firm. I look forward to getting pregnant again by God's grace and having my baby so that l can contribute extensively to this topic next year.
ReplyDeleteLwkmd u guy no go kill person shaaaaa! Damn d lingua I learnt today can last me a life time. First time ever reading comments on a blog talkless of da whole damn thing! Wish y'all we'll and more fruit of da womb to every woman on here. Amen
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