Dear Stella,
I'm a regular reader of your blog and I need your blog readers to advise me as objectively as possible.
My boyfriend and I have been together for roughly a year. He's a very nice and humble guy. He has a very successful business in fact he's everything a lady could wish for in a guy but there's just one thing...he's the first son of a very wealthy family well known in Lagos.
He has taken me to meet his mum and she has accepted me as her son's girlfriend. About 4 months ago, I
received an email from a lady that used to be his childhood sweetheart abusing me and calling me all sorts of names. If you read this email,you will feel sorry for me. I confronted my B.F. and he said that they broke up after secondary school. From what I was told, the lady is very wild and drinks a lot. Ever since then, the lady has just been making life difficult for me.
The last straw was at a friend's birthday party, just because I ignored her because she was quite intoxicated. She poured a glass of chapman/punch/some red liquid on my white top and started shouting unprintable names at me. I have never been so embarrassed in my life!
Now the situation is that his father has said he doesn't want to meet me, that as far as he's concerned, the lady is his daughter-in-law to be. He wants him to marry the lady in question because her family is also very wealthy and her dad is very good friend.
Stella, I know say my papa no get plenty money but he's not suffering sha. I have a good job and I pay my bills abi I never try?
Also, the Canadian permanent residency visa I had been working on since last year just pulled through and I've been granted a PR visa.
My boyfriend has been begging me to stay and for us to work it out. He even fell out with his dad about it. I feel so sorry for him.
I really love my boyfriend but I'm terrified of his dad. I've heard that he can be mean if he wants to.
Besides, I don't want to cause any problems within his family after all, they say when you marry a man, you marry his family, right? Besides, I'm a lover not a fighter.
So, should I stay and see if things will change or should I just resign from my job and go to Canada to live in peace?? It will be very difficult for me to leave him but I can't take anymore insults from that crazy lady land also his dad.
New country, new life? What do you advise?
P.S. I don't want to give away any incriminating details because, your readers fit decode as they're very sharp people.
Sorry if there are any typos... abeg help me beg Busy Body Correcter.
My advise?..........STAY AND WORK IT OUT!
*waffy go say 'oturugbeke!
*Lmao at busyvody correcter.hehehehe
Go to canada and start a life,my dear since the dad knows his daughter inlaw already,u r not the one,,what if u get married today and God forbid dere is delay in child bearing,even ur loving boyfrend will go to his dad's side oo and den the initial child hood sweet heart will come and take her place,its normal for one to have mother inlaw wahala,but if dey papa no like u,just run,,cos father inlaws wahala can even cause miscarriage ooo,Go to canada and marry a sweet half cast that will love and cherish u forever,,,is dis ur sweetheart talking marriage abi na boyfrend una go dey be...go to canada oooo,run away,
ReplyDeleteSo because someone's parents doesn't like you, your relationship should just end like that based on someone else's opinion, its a pity what we've reduced marriage to these days. On top your own life decision its another person that will help you make a choice.... Na wa o
DeleteWhat's with the marrying sweet half caste?? Smh this one is lost in the inferior land!
DeleteJust listen 2 sexy Bitch! She ve said it all...the one infront will always be better than "the now". My sister run 4 ur life. Fighting a man over his family sounds stupid cos whaever it is, blood is thicker than water. Take care!
DeleteI agree with stella, stay and work it out on your knees too. I dont know why some gals are so desperate. and i know she will not be able to give him joy, she still dey put head. My dear stay and ignore the childhood ex.
ReplyDeleteDear just be wise of the part u are treading, u are still a girlfriend and u can be dumped at any moment, unless he want to put a ring on it fast.
ReplyDeleteGod bless u tony.U've spoken well.Babe u stil b girlfriend ooooooo.Na 21stcentury we dey.people no dey foolish again oooooo.wht abt if u stay back and stil nothing hpns btw u bth.wht will u do? Or u will go sayin o ooo had I knwn.Babe d guys dad doesn't like U.dust ur shoes oooooooooo.U love him so much yes u I undastand bt swt it wnt b nyc if u loose@d end of d day.Go 2 ur canada and start afresh.If he is 4 u swt@u bth will always connect.God help u.kindly snub all errors.
DeleteMy dear pack ur things and GO! Wealthy family *smh* u neva see insult ooooo!
DeleteI will just say this. U know when u break up with the one u love due to no fault of urs? Either bcos of infidelity or any other reason at all. It will seem as tho ur heart will stop beating, u will feel so unwanted and miserable. Inshort, u may wish to even die at some point. But then....someone else will come ur way to show u love again. It may take the longest time to gv in to the new person, cos ur heart is still with ur ex. And boom, finally, u start to love n live again. Suddenly, in retrospect, u'll just smile and wonder why u thot ur ex was all u could ever live for. Then in the corner of ur heart u'll start to thank God and ur ex for the grave disappointment that allowed u find ur present joy and love. Then the past will seem a foolish one bcos at the end of every tunnel comes a shine again.
DeleteWhat am saying young lady is that if u do not give ur future the chance to blossom, u may get stuck in the gloomy past. I av no doubt in my mind that u love ur boyfriend and he loves u too. But is ur future worth the risks? Would he do same for u? Would u be happy staying back against all odds? I know true love can withstand the test of time. But my dear, are u sure this boy is man enough to fight both ur battles before his folks, their affluence and family friend? Would u win? Would the opportunity to go to Canada, say it doesn't work out, still be available?
Go to Canada if u wish, and if ur man is for u, he'll come get u. Otherwise, don't forfeit ur certainty for uncertainty. Godspeed!
Yoruba people go say, you fit marry bad husband but you can't have bad in-laws, direct interpretation. In-laws will scatter your relationship/marriage and even your so called partner won't be able to come to your defense, so my dear run while you can. Ok bye
ReplyDeleteMy dear I think u shld pray very Well before making ur decisions.I would also advice u not to push anything,if the family doesn't like u its better u look for another man n family dat deeply accepts and apprC8 u!marriage no b joke ooo!hmmn
ReplyDeleteRelocate to Canada wt bobo and start a new life far from his Dad if his mum accepts. Ur bobo seem nice mesef don fall in love wt him. Ignore the ex, she's just an over pampered brat from a rich family, them plenty eg LUCBREECE. God help u
ReplyDeleteEh? Luca rich ke? That squatter? Abegi.
DeleteI agree with stella, stay n work things out since its just the father that is kicking against ur union(maybe the ex has some dirt on ur bf's dad that's why hez vouching for her). Nobody wants a wayward girl for a daughter-in-law so I blv with time ur bf's mum will probably talk on ur behalf.
ReplyDeleteWish u the best
Madea's daughter
If you love him, you have to fight this fight for him.
ReplyDeleteThe lady you described here will kill him if he marries her. Will you be happy if that eventually happens?
Really saddening situation.i wonder why wealthy/rich parents always behave like gods when it comes to having their way.without this girl saying i am 100% sure the BF's family are Yoruba,its our parents who mostly behave this way.
ReplyDeletewhile i wish GOD will touch the heart of the father,i am afraid the truth is that the boy will eventually toe the father's line..the most used and effective threat the man will use is "i will disown you" or "i will cut you out of my will" and the boy will quickly comply no matter what ..i have seen it,witnessed it,lived it happen several times.
i will advice the girl and her bf to approach extended family members or close friends who the man listens to and continue praying fervently..till today one of my elder sisters has never forgiven my dad for not allowing her to marry a man she brought to him for some reason only the 3 of them know
I wud say pls leave and start afresh..a similar thing happened to me also,in my own case wen we refused to budge d father used juju to scatter us,his dad also wanted him to marry his biz associate,my dear pls run for ur dear life,all dis rich biz men can do and undo if anything is in their way,na mouth him still take talk say he no want make u marry him son,my dear no let am use action o
DeleteThe reason this is common in Nigeria is bcos some so called rich men belong to a fraternity. The "oath of allegiance" btw them is unbreakable. No kindergaten kid can withstand the hassle. Its beyond wanting to bear a big man's name, its deeper and best avoided if u can. But these days their unions do not last. I av seen many of such.
DeleteI would say just leave it all and start afresh in Canada. There is no working around eggshells here. The father is very rich and powerful and u against him for his son? Naa, I don't think so. If u guys were destined to be 2geda, it will happen else free it my dear,I sense u hate fights,quarrels and confrontations jst as mch as I do,therz rily no need for dat.Life's only gonna get more difficult wiv dat.As hard as it is, just move on, and u'll find d happiness u deserve in no time. Cheers.
ReplyDeleteMy dear Izzy,
DeleteI'm with you. Like you, I also don't like fights, arguments, confrontations and brouhaha. I love peace and tranquillity.
If I were in the poster's shoes, I'll just leave the guy jare.
As far as I'm concerned, it's the guy's business to handle this and protect her from all these confrontations.
Like I said, I love peace!
My dear, travel.. Cos you are traveling don't mean y'all can't work things out, he's a rich guy, he can always travel to come see you, and vice versa.. You are saving your head by doing this. You got an opportunity others are dying for, take it. Who said you can't kill two birds with a stone? It's a matter of talking to your boo, him being understanding and supportive. You didn't come to this life to live another mans life/dream.. You come first, you are bettering yourself.. With that being said, may the peace of The Lord be with you and yours. Xx
DeleteNne try n work it out n see how it goes,if it doesn't seem to be positive or bobo is not getting u engaged, run to *Canada abeg. By the way how did u manage to get the PR visa to *Canada from Nigeria? Please n please link a sister up, whether na agency o, lemme know. My hubby think say e fit marry me leave me here for Naija abi? Useless man!
ReplyDeleteWow !!! Why call ur man a useless man,my dear its not easy u know,,he might be trying to bring u over but mayb no way,,,tell us the truth how u got PR visa,while in nigeria,,abeg tell us,,
DeleteMy dear he has a way n didn't wanna use it cos he didn't wanna use it. Î have confirmation he has another woman there but I want to start afresh some other place. Lemme not start my story here, it actually falls under DV dairies.
DeleteSdk ur DV diaries have helped me a great deal, u have no idea...it saved my life, made me strong n fearless to take the right decision. God bless u plenty! Mwaaaahhh!
I wish I came across this blog about a year Ago I would have learnt so much, wouldn't have found myself in this mess!
DeleteBiko which one is dv diaries? I'm interested.. And sorry my dear sexy mama.. As my aunt would say, you can't put all your trust in a man.. But nothing in life is easy as well.. I wish you Gods strength, and all that you wish yourself.. Mwah
DeletePls help a sister out o..how did u get d link 4 d Canada PR visa??? Abeg link me o...
DeleteBtw: if d guy truly loves u, he would visit u in Canada...and pls, pls...go there and start afresh...and stop listening to peeps telling u to pray...God gives us sign in many ways...this is one of such...
Pls help a sister out o..how did u get d link 4 d Canada PR visa??? Abeg link me o...
DeleteBtw: if d guy truly loves u, he would visit u in Canada...and pls, pls...go there and start afresh...and stop listening to peeps telling u to pray...God gives us sign in many ways...this is one of such...
My sincere advice to u, pls just go to canada and start a new life, God will make u see anoda guy who will be far better dan ur ex. Remember when u marry a man, u marry d family too.
ReplyDeleteLol @ begging BBC
ReplyDeleteHow can a reasonable father prefer an alcoholic daughter in law to a hardworking, cool one?
What if both fathers are in a cult and have sealed the destinies of their children?
If you have the liver, stay and fight but i think you are too soft for the roforofo fight that will ensue
Work wetin out? Abeg abeg....my people say a girl doesn't marry only her husband, she marries the whole family. Go to canada, study a while, get a job, live happy n fall in love again.....
ReplyDeleteRich dad n kids sha.....mtcheww
P.s, lucabree, some1 named u as an example of a spoilt rich brat above and ur comment about your sister just confirmed it....hmmmmmm. Just wondering why you overlooked the comment and if u didn't see it, I'm calling your attention to it.
i really feel your pain. so hard not to be with the one you love because of external factors. i think you should stay for a while longer and try and work things out. like someone suggested, you and ur boo should approach members of his extended family to reason with the dad. if he doesnt want to marry the ex, the father should be able to listen to his reasons. and of course pray about it too. but having said that, if the father is still against it and you've exhausted all your efforts, my dear pack ur load and go. it will be painful but you will have to leave him. cuz there will be no amount of love that will cushion u once things start going pear shaped if you marry him against his father's wishes. you will just be inviting trouble for yourself. and later on the guy may have issues with u as he may see you as the person who separated him from his family. i have a friend who married his gf against her father's wishes cuz of religious differences. and the girl was so close to her dad. they've started having serious problems now just a little over a year later and the girl doesn't even live in his house. she refused to move out of her parents house! my dear, try ur best to make it work, but if your best isnt good enough, move on. who knows, this could be God's way of saving u from a future disaster.
ReplyDeleteIts sad rilly owing to d fact that the dude is a nice person by ur account..
ReplyDeleteAnd d fact dat his mother accepts u(cos mothers are always d ones causing trouble for their daughter-in-law), I fink ur challenges are not that much
Then again, the man might be very fetish and may harm u.. So its jes sum rilly dicey ish... Best advise is for u to jes avoid all d drama and move on peacefully with life.. Or u cld stay and fight for him if u got the strength... The ball is in ur court.. Cos any of the two choices u make is good to me... Wish u all d best
Ps - most importantly, pray
Pls go start a new life in Canada . Don't put ur life on hold for any man especially one dt ur not even married to and ur not even sure of the future. Your boyfriend might succumb to pressure from his father and where does dt leave u? Abeg just move on!
ReplyDeleteAll things works together for good, I will advise you to relocate to Canada, your visa working out now is for a divine purpose. You both can still work it out while you are away if indeed the guy wants to marry you at the long run. Make sure you take an action that you will not leave to regret.
ReplyDeleteForget stella advice. Go to canada. U cant win against a family. Esp not a father in law. Leave him. Better will come. Pls ur life is not worth ending for a man. These ppl can kill for name oh! A word to the wise is enuff
ReplyDeleteMadam pray about it, that's the best advise you're going to get. If you leave let it not be because of someone else, their feelings towards you or their antics but because you're not happy of fulfilled.
ReplyDeleteHi, its a two edge sword. my advice take a 3 day fast and ask God to show you what to do in this matter and it will be clear to you which way to go. Prov. 3: 5-6. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your path. However, if you go to Canada for a while if the 2 of you are destined to be together, it will surely come to pass of course with serious prayers. All the best.
ReplyDeleteDis is a very sensitive issue I must say....jus prayerfully make a ryte decision dat u won't regret at d end...also seek adviz from elderly people n be careful also with d Ex,cos most razz chic can go any length to terminate or disfigure U..Ma Dear is not worth d hustle.if I was to make a choice wud let go d whole nigeria Mess n leave for canada..Maybe wen ur bf has sorted himsef out.U both can nah start on a fresh page.God be with U in dis difficult time.Amen
ReplyDeleteI've been in the same shoes. Mine happened like 15years ago. If he's yours he will come back. For now, go to Canada. Move on with your life. He WILL NEVER disobey his dad for you. That's the only life he knows. I bet he works for his dad. He would be cut off everything and everyone he knows, he would be miserable and blame you every step of the way. It is not worth it.
ReplyDeleteAs for me, his parents insisted he married a particular lady some 15 years back while we were still in the university. He just couldn't fight for me. Life goes on. Today he's back and we are married. Whatever is yours will always be yours. For now he will do their bidding because he doesn't know another type of life, till he's matured enough, then he can fight for you.
I know you idiot, u haven't completed the story, you hungry fool! By the way Stella, publish this!
ReplyDeleteEx gf u came here again?? Hian!!! I pity d man dat will marry u eventually.. Smh!
DeleteLmao! Okwu esetiena ooo are you the drunk ex?
DeleteMadam carry your two legs and run to canada. I have been there this time it was his mum that rejected me as much as i love my x, he was my world, the reason i breath, he was my life, my everything. He was my ride or die. But i had to leave because in the physical they hated me & in the spiritual they attacked me. Omo i dropped him as am the only child. A year later my met the bone of my bone & flesh of my flesh, i love my husband more than i ever loved my x. So drop ur bobo & hold on to God because God will give u another bobo way better dan this ur boo.
ReplyDeleteAf said my own, pls ignore stella o cuz its ur life. If dat x go n kidnap u nko n give u some serious beating, you better run for your life.
I sympathize with the lady but if I were to be the boyfriend the world would know this: No Man, Woman, Beast, or Freak would stop me from marrying the love of my life, whether it's a family member or not. It's MY LIFE, I can't live it to suit any other person. A good example of such a *rebel* was Bianca Ojukwu. (abi? I think so, not so sure. Before her voltrons fire me. LOL)
ReplyDeleteI will advice you to go to Canada and start a new life, life is too short for all this wahala, you know when you marry a Nigerian you marry all the family ( i think all over Africa it is the same ) so my dear if you like listen to my advice. That girl will not have the guts to fight you if your boy friend has truly shown and told her in clear terms that he can't spend the rest of his life wit her. Men can lie, you don't know what he tell's that girl about you when you turn your back.
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ReplyDeleteMy dear, family pressure is a very strong one and parental bond is a very strong bond. No matter how much that man loves you, parents always by hook or crook win. My advice? Don't leave him, but do not also put your life on hold as well. God has given you a way out......Canada....please proceed with the next phase of your life and emigrate to Canada, it's going to be tough, you're going to go through getting yourself settled and getting established. This might be the test both of you need of your love. If you truly love each other, it will stand the initial distance before he can join you, if not, then you can both move on.
ReplyDeleteSo the Canadian Visa you've been working hard on just pulled through and you want to let it go? To be part of a family where the No1 head does not want you? Believe me when I say that going into a family where you are not welcome is real tough business. Also keep in mind this 'acid treatments' going around these days.
ReplyDeleteTake your tongue count your teeth.
I don talk my own.
Abeg, go to canada.
ReplyDeleteThen do papers for him and u guyz can live together over there, away from his family.
Pls dont stay here and lose the canadian thing o. What if it doesnt work out with the gjy? Then you have lost both ways.
Pls pls pls, tel the guy, that u will go and do the canadian thing, and u guyz can still be tohether.
U can be shuffling btw both countries for a while and even decide you dont even like tje canada sef. But abeg, dont lose the opportunity.
-babe
Babe, go to Canada, that guy's dad won't let you be oo, y'all aren't married yet and see all the palava hppening. Just move on asap, before things get messy.
ReplyDeleteMost marriages where there's parental disapproval do not end well. No need getting into a battlefield of a marriage. If they disapprove physically, you no hear, they will come at you spiritually. You get married, you have no peace and then start running from pillar to post. No need abeg. Move on, your own God ordained peaceful marriage will locate you.
ReplyDeletePrincess abeg talk the one you know!!! Are you saying the father saw something good in the wayward Ex?...so why generalise that all marriages without parental consent do not end well.. I have seen couples whose parents were in support of their marriages, and such marriages have crumbled! I married my wife 8years ago, my Father and Mother were against it, we approached so many extended elder families, but they wouldnt bulge! I was disowned, they used manipulative techniques, emotional black mail..etc. But we had the support of my wife's parents..they prayed alond with us. I will not say it was easy, my father still doesnt talk to me, my siblings execpt 1 get in contact.. My mother calls once in a while..we have kids and we are doing great. I wouldnt say it was easy... WHEW! If you know you could go through all these ...there would be days...where you would feel like quitting. If you know you no get liver..abeg relocate to Canada.
DeleteMy dear, please ignore all these desperadoes advising you to fight for your man. You are a woman and the apple of someone's eyes. Don't devalue yourself by fighting for any man. As a woman, you shouldn't be fighting for any man's love. A man either loves you or he doesn't. Fighting for a man's love will only land you in deep shit. The man should be fighting for you.
ReplyDeleteI am a guy and I know how guys think. In a situation like this, the guy must love you enough to fight for you and defy his father. His love must be strong enough to shield you from his father's hostility. A love that strong will not let go even if you move to Canada.
I have learned from my Mum's life story that you must never defer your dreams for any man, especially if he hasn't put a ring on it. Don't play yourself. Go to Canada and live your dream. You say this guy is rich so I am sure he can afford plane tickets. If he truly loves you enough to defy his father, he will pursue you to Canada.
I will advice u waka and allow him settle fully with his dad about you, but then ur absence could also make him settle 4 another. Babe if u truly love and want to marry this guy, abeg stay.
ReplyDelete#my2centsopinion# Please travel! if it is meant for the 2 of u to be together distance will not come between u two. You have only been together for a year so u don't ve much to loose if it doesn't work out for good. This your story is similar to mine but it happened to me like 12yrs ago he was my 1st and we dated for 5 years when he graduated and wanted to relocate to the UK cos thats where he was born he wanted to formalize what we had so i could join him when i graduated his mum and sisters didn't want to hear about it i was only good for girlfriend not wife.They wanted him to marry their family friend who lived in London he fought his family for 3 years making us 8 years in the relationship one of the times he came back i was serving and got pregnant for d 1st time for him only for him to ask me to abort it so his family won't say i was trying to trap him with it. After that i made up my mind to leave him and move on it wasn't easy but i did. Met a nice guy whom i took as a friend and told my story not knowing he would be my husband. Cut long story short when i told him it was over he didn't want to let go was still calling sending me money, i got into another relationship 2 yrs later he was still claiming single, he got married 3 months after i got married. So girl move on some battles are not meant to be fought.
ReplyDeleteMy dear i think the answer is pretty obvious. The only practical thing is to leave him and move on. Don't think the guy is "one chance". After him there might be a fantastic guy and his family wey go love you die. Or not. But u'll never know until you venture. Love alone cannot sustain a marriage o. Your inner peace is paramount. Take care.
ReplyDeleteYou have a dream if you ask me personally I will tell you to live your dream,if that guy actually fits into your dream he will come to canada after you....
ReplyDeleteBelieve me these are early signs of a very bad family war,just let it work itself out let them know you are no gold digger...
Nigerian factor.
Rich in-laws
Move to Canada. Sometimes, we have to look out for what is in our best interest and sometimes, we have to fight the odds but my dear, in this case, your best interest lies in moving on. You may never know peace if you do defy the father to marry his son. It is not worth it. If the guy really wants you, he will come after you in Canada at which time the father will realize that it is either he allows the son have his way or nothing. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteLady my holy advice for you is to move move mover,,
ReplyDeletehe will locate you when ever he has finished his Syria war at his family home,,
let him fellow the ex,girl,and made the whole mistakes in the presence of his father,,
then or later his father will be the one to call you and beg
Honey...this ain't nollywood and you are not Genevieve. See you see signs of kasala. Do the right thing and move on. Let me tell you something, Ms Ex is not quite the Ex. She has the audacity to be so vile because she has some power. I am sure your parents still want you alive and kicking. There are many fish in the sea(sorry to be cliche). Face your future in Canada. This is not your man.
ReplyDeleteIn the other story the other gal is desperate and will stop at nothing to gain her way she maybe giving the father inlaw some ass little wonder he is on her side... #inmygossipmood
ReplyDeletemy dear, am so sorry that you are in this situation, pls pray to God to guide u in ur decision. but in my humble opinion i think you shd relocate to canada, start a new life, its a developed country, you get a good job and take care of ur family and by the time u know it, u'll fall in love again, remember u re a girl friend, not a fiancee yet, or even a wife, so anything can happen along the way, and father in-law to be does not want you, there is no need to struggle with the other girl making life miserable for you. do not throw away the bright future God has given you to move to canada for a quality life, i see that as a good sign that you shd leave.for you to marry this guy and enjoy ur marriage, remeber that his father wud have to give his consent.
ReplyDeleteI think u should pray n fast to seek God's face about the situation.Ask God to give u a sign.Don't rush to take a decision my dear.If u involve him,u'll choose right.All the best!
ReplyDeleteI'll say ask God for direction. Ask God to reveal what to do to you. While doing this, stay away from the young man as long as possible until your mind is clear on what to do. I know it is easier said than done, but you will feel much better if you have to truly end the relationship. Ans who says you can't find another man in Nigeria? If you want to relocate, let it be something you really want to do and not because of your troubled relationship.
ReplyDeleteStay Blessed. I hope you up with a solution soon.
@miss d
ReplyDeleteyou dey mind him/her? how did i confirm anything?
there is nowhere i have ever stated that my father is rich or wealthy o,all i said was fathers especially yoruba have the same mindset.if my comment inferred such then ignore it na typo
Go to Canada and start a new life.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing to work out!
If he marries you, you have his father and ex to contend with throughout your marriage and don't be surprise if he keeps his ex as his mistress or marry her as a 2nd wife.
Never lay your carpet on broken bottles.Like you already know,Your boyfriend is a weakling.I apologise. There's no nice way to put it.Every man has a childhood love.Why is your man still tied to his ex' bikini strings? She gave you a cocktail shower in public and on his day? Are freaking kidding me? You mean she was there live displaying 'action'? after all the stalking, he still gave her an invite?Your Boyfriend didn't put his foot down? Newsflash:They re still doing it! If he marries you,it won't stop! She may even conceive before you! It has happened before. As for his Dad,I ve nothing to say about a man whose aim is to choose a spouse for his son! Someone should educate him on the demerits of such stone age practise.while at it,throw his way true life references about how such unions perished in magistrate courts; to the shame of the facilitators. Now to you. Did you come into the country on the behest of your boyfriend? If you prefer life here;Considering your job,family and friends,why relocate? If you go to canada to start a new life and you find new love that must come with new set of challenges,are you going to leave again? Don't be a gypsy pls! I don't advocate running to the ends of the earth because of any man! If its over, then it is! People without Visas marry after several breakups and in same city too.Walk away from the relationship. Don't walk away from your comfort Zone. Signed wide eyed!
ReplyDeleteCousin wide!!!
DeleteYou stressed finish to get Canadian visa and you want to forfeit all that for a man whom you are not sure would marry you at the end of the day? Do you know how many people wish to have what you are ready to throw away?
ReplyDelete* oh! Thought u meant his party? My bad! He's still a weakling tho;For letting the drama go on.Ex and Dad? Too much too much... Signed:wide eyed!
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ReplyDeletelool you got it jarey,where i wan thief am.my father is a railway airline retiree collecting his 50,000 naira pension jejely
If you love something (someone),set it (him) free. If it(he) comes back to you, its(he's) yours. If it (he) doesn't, it(he) never was.
ReplyDeletePray and follow your heart.
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