Love scam has become so rampant these days in Nigeria.....
Most times these men pretend to be single/widowed/divorced or just relocated from abroad and make it look like they desperately want to marry and settle down and they target seemingly desperate women,only for these women to find out the guy already has a wife and kids somewhere.
By the time these women realise that they were just a pawn in his game,he has already moved unto the next victim leaving them financially and emotionally battered.
Their target sometimes are single ladies who have good paying jobs.
Ever been a victim?Tell us your story!
Are you the wife of a serial love scammer?what did you do when you found out?
Happy new month to you Stella and to everyone who visits this blog.
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to this subject, it's sad that human beings cause unnecessary pain unto others. It will always be...
Looking at it from a critical angle, some women already know the truth but refuse to heed it. If your partner or whatever anyone chooses to define a lover, is not open about everything to you, then he / She is shady.
Selective hearing is a problem because in most, if not all cases, there are tell tale signs.
Cases of hearing 'ARO' and being bull headed by insisting you heard the word 'CAIRO' has blinded many women. So,if it's too good to be true, it ain't. Beware.
My own experience was kinda funny. The idiots name is Akintayo Akinade Olukola, but goes by Akintayo Long Ortega on FB. I can't remember where I met him, but we used to chat often and one day he asked for my bb pin, and we got chatting frequently. *one thing you must know about crooks like this dude is that they ain't scared of visiting you in the presence of your family, so they don't seem insincere* he visited me one day in the presence of my folks, and we went out in my neighbourhood, I noticed he kept on trying to get info on how much my salary was. I'm not the type that's too secretive about certain stuffs, so I told him. Then he asked for my age.... He actually guessed the answer, and was right. Like Stella rightly observed, they are looking for desperate ones. God saved me that I wasn't desperate... Marriage was still like 2 years away in my plan. This dude was a total smooth talker, I had to thank God I wasn't the kind who falls easily for smooth words. To cut the long story short, I travelled back to my place of work, and we kept chatting. During our chats one day, he said he was horny, that we should play dirty... He started asking for my naked pics.... *this he hoped to use in blackmailing me in the course of the plans he hatched* I told him point blank that "They have not given birth to d person that will make me send a naked pic, pls never ask me for this again".... He apologised and came back to his senses. One day, he pinged me, telling me of how his friends at work and home betrayed him, and got him into a serious mess at work, and he needed like 50k naira to clear his name from the police case that was made. Since I was not in town, and knowing how scarce jobs are in Naija, I wanted to help this evil being save his. So I asked two friends of mine to help me send some money to his acct, which he promised to repay at the end of the month. Two months later, he hadn't paid them back, I had to pay them myself, and was asking this lazy ass crook for my money, at first he was stalling and even trying to ask for more. When he saw I wasn't buying it, but kept on asking for the other, one day he said... "You were not the one that borrowed me money, I will pay it to your friends that sent it to me".... Imagine! After which he blocked me on fb and bbm... I begged, threatened, talked, I even took police to his place, and his friends said he had moved out. The police called him, at first, he didn't pick. Later he picked probably thinking it was a potential customer * he claims he runs a footwear company named Pivotal Footwear* when he found out it was the police, he started saying I was his gf, that the police should let us settle it. That he was not in town at the moment; meanwhile his last fb update made a few hours ago was done from Ikeja Plaza. The police issued a warrant for his arrest... *the warrant is still there at the Oko Oba police station*. I tried other means of looking for him, and contacted a friend who also knows him. She told me she was not in speaking terms with him cos his younger bro loaned some money from her and she had to let it go. *I just had the feeling they used the naked pics trick on her and it worked that was why she didn't pursue the case* as for me, I haven't dropped the case at all.
DeleteAnywhere I catch him, I'll call the nearest police on him, and they can confirm the warrant at the Oko Oba station. The worst part is that, when you look at his facebook posts, he talks about God, and sounds like a human being. But behind all that facade is a criminal who even has a young son. I sincerely wonder how much of a criminal he's raising his son to be.
DeleteYoung ladies out there, be very careful of the kind of Nigerian guys out there. It's no more the females who are gold diggers. Most of the men are lazy and looking for hard working girls to feed off. Stella Thank you for the awareness on this issue. As for you Akintayo, don't think I've forgotten o. I will still get you. You should even be grateful I've not reported you to my God yet.
Stupidity mixed with lies.
DeleteA guy you can't remember how u met? #lol
Check your life...& Try as much as possible to beg God for forgiveness.
Lmaoooooooo @anon 3:08pm gosh u killed me with ur comment. Thought I was d only one.... ok on to the next
Delete@Anon 3:08 so u can rememba where you met every single pesn u knw in ur dirty life? Hian! Or u be one of those kain guys? Shameless lot. @Anon 1:06 abeg kip us posted if u catch am.
DeleteMost definitely @Anon 3:08 is Akintayo himself or the other member of his family of crooks. So you read this blog too? That's good. Well now you know I'm still on your case, and you can bet your bottom dollar that I will get that money back. I can't remember where I met you cos you're forgettable, but my money is not. #lol
DeleteDis Akin of a guy must really be guilty afta readn d post y'day, I saw his name and profile on fb. Out of curiousity 2 si if hez rily anon 3:08 I checked, nd fb linked me to Pivotalfootwear Lagos. Hez changed his name kikikikiki. Warreva happened to clear conscience? U shld be ashamed of yaself bro.
DeleteHmmm this una matter confuse me o. Hold on, after reading the complaints, I also think the accused person is 3:08. Or maybe someone who should know.
DeleteBut my confusion is with anon 9:08pm. Ok, granted you searched him on FB bcos the complainant mentioned his details here right? But u said..."U were curious,just to see if he's anon 3:08"? But 3:08 didn't provide any info that depicts what the complainant has furnished us with. So How were u able to align anon3:08 to the said Akintayo on FB? Plus If he changed his name u couldn't have found him on FB unless you know him personally! Hmmm. No vex o...I just like to activate my discerning spirit once in a while.
Otherwise, am forced to believe that anon 9:08am is the actual complainant but under a guise too. Am just an onlooker o. Na when I read una tory I say make I play judge judy. Before any of u will come and say am the accused persons again. Lmaoooo!!! Goodluck in apprehending the debtor sha!
Hello Stella.It happened to me 2yrs ago.The bastard was single and just relocated from South Africa but we had been talking on the phone before he settled in Nigeria.He borrowed some money from me to furnish the apartment he rented.He later told me he was going to SA for just 4 days and 4days turned into months but I knew that he was lying about being in SA for that long,but I never went to his house to check.He was still asking me for more money while he was still in SA.I told him I didn't have any money again until he pays off what he is owing me.Few weeks later he told me he had been suspend from work and that was why he was still in SA.I decided to ask for my money and he became angry and told me that I was I insensitive as he told me he lost his job and I was still asking for my money.Had that time my eyes had opened and I was not ready to part with any more money.He came back telling different stories,his brother is sick and he was on the verge of committing suicide because he lost his job but I was not moved anymore as I now realized he was saying all these to get more money from me.We never saw each other again and I never got my money back-almost 500k but I have my sanity.
ReplyDeleteI once dated an agbaya here n d UK he is n his 30's. Though not married but a nuisance. He came to further his education but hadn't paid up his fees then dis useless boy will ask me for money, ask me to buy lebara top ups nfact most times complete his fees but the one wey pain me pass is that he will use d money on other girls. People who live in the UK know how xpensive black cabs are the mumu lived n west London but got a girl to get a black cab all d way from East London just to kerewa wa with her for over £100, nd he claims he was broke.
ReplyDeleteThe day I found out he was cheating I went to his house to cook for him nd got bored waiting for him so I took his laptop d boy was chatting to every chic on Facebook nd even went as far as promising to send her money for flight fares and all. Omo I leave d boy sharply nd made sure I didn't delete him of bb till I got married so e go pain am. Did I mention that he uses credit card to buy H&M stuffs n large quantities nd take them to naija to sell. Ole jati jati left him before police go carry me join. Na him use the love word pass nd he has no idea what it means.
Happy new month peeps. I think the society is not helping women. You must get married to validate yourself. Women are desperate and look the other way when these fake men show up. I have not had any experience with these low life men, but few friends have. They spend money on them, the guy moves in with them, drive their cars. The thing dey pain me. Choi. If you try to warn the friend, she would think you don't want her to settle down or you don't wish her well. So I go do my siddon look jeje. Awon faworaja oshi.
ReplyDeleteMost women that fall prey to these animals are easily moved with sweet words.. U tell em one sweet word ehn, their heads will begin to do 360 degree spinning.....
ReplyDeleteAll d same, as women dey take scam men, na so men dey take scam em..... Its a pathetic phenomenon
Tnx SDK for dis. Dis is a dilemma am presently battling with. I NEED VERY CRIOUS N CONSTRUCTIVE ADVICES PLS. U CAN CUSS ME N TEACH ME MORALS BUT JUST PRAY DAT U DONT FALL INTO WAT AV BEEN THRU IN LIFE N DONT FORGET TO DROP ADVICE AFTERWARDS. I was a virgin until my 1st marriage @ 26 some 10 yrs ago. Had to leave d guy cos his parents didnt approve of him marrying a non-indigene (we are both yorubas). Married anoda man 5yrs after d 1st divorce. D man cared and shwed me love but i culdnt conceive cos d man's divorced wife since 1990 was so diabolic n i managed to escape death twice. Met dis guy last Sept n he claimed he loved me @ 1st site. I dont bliv in such love n i made it knwn to him. He told me a story of hw his wife left him wit their dota 9yrs ago n followed anoda man he's always knwn has her cousin to Australia to marry courtesy of her mum's assistance. He told me he works wit Ecobank (ogbomosho). I accepted his rship offer eventually in Oct. He den called one day dat he lost his job n i bcame his 'maga' frm den. I had gift for dreams n i had one dat told me he had anoda child wit a lady. I asked him n he denied dat it wasnt true. So i kept quiet. He moved to Lag wit his imm younger bro to get anoda job. I den told him to move in wit me wen d bro was getting married dis May wit d expectatn dat i wil formally be introduced to his ppl @ d broda's party. He dodged my attending d wedding wit excuse dat it was a small get-togeda. I started getting suspicious of him having anoda lady dat wil attend d party dat probably everybody knws wit him. So, i became very vigilant. Frm d calls he receives wile living wit me, i found dat a lady was actually present @ d party wit his son n he has series of 'magas' like me dat he deceives to love n call 'wife'. I called for a discussion wit him to ask him all i found out abt his infidelity n d 'son' i discovered, but he denied all n turned it to a quarrel challenging i was accusing him wrongly. I kept calm cos i hate shouts wit a passion. Wat i did was to stop all d financial aids i'd bn offering gradually. My headache nw dat i'v been trying to get a headway is dat i discovered in July dat i am 3mths preg for dis guy. I told him abt it n he brought up a lot of attitude dat he's stil jobless n trying to survive n so is not ready for any child bearing nw. Inshort, he's denying d preg. I told him dat if he denys d preg nw, he shld put it in writing cos he wil neva hav d opportunity for eva to claim d child @ any point in tym. He didnt answer me but replied i was threatening him. Just since 2days ago i started tinking i shld meet his broda here in Lag, introduce myself n tell all dat has been going on. He didnt introduce me to any family member but he's taken me to d guy's house b4 wen he was living wit him. N i'v been able to get fone nos of his mum, dat bro n some family members on his fone witout him knwing. Shld i meet d broda or not. I cant abbort cos its neva been an option for me. I am ready to shoulder d baby's responsibilty( if dats my cross). Wat i wont take is after all dat wahala, one idiot wil den turn out in future to beg for forgiveness n den lay claim on my sweats n efforts to single handedly take care of d baby. Dats why i'm tinking i shld talk to d broda to either get him to accept d preg nw or forget dat he ever has a child by me nw or much later in future. Bimpe
ReplyDeleteBabe i dont want to insult u but its very hard not to. Forget his family and do it for urself. I want to.ask where was ur own family wen u were living with a man u were not married to? U still have not given up on this man that u want his family to.pressure him to marry u? Y do u want to contact them? My dear. Have ur baby. Take responsibility for ur actions. U were irresponsible and im.truly sorry to say but u dont sounds like an intelligent person. Anyway pls just forget him and his family
DeleteWell said,plus she should be able to cater for the child alone and move on with her life.At 36,you should know beta but in all,i pray you get wisdom from God bcos without it all dis talk will be for nothing.Best of luck
DeleteDear Bimpe...I think you should let his family know only so that ur baby would have a sense of belonging not bcos u need anything from them.
DeleteThen go on and have ur baby...finally u r gonna be a mom...CONGRATZ dear...Concentrate on building up financially so ur baby never lacks and forget that looser of a boyfriend.
forget the dumb a**s boyfriend ,but make the boy family know that you are pregnant for their son!
DeleteAnd just move on with your life and look after urself and d pregnancy .*best of luck in all you do and always pray*
The stone which the builder refused will end up being the master piece.
DeleteThat's my wish for ur child Bimpe. However, I suggest that u go ahead to inform a member of his family, for posterity sake. It will be important in d future.
Ironically I just finished watching a program on tv, where a lady explained that her daughter whom she took abroad when she had difficulties and couldn't keep up financially in Nigeria, that her grown child is now disturbing her that she wants to be reunited with her REAL father. Whom the mother doesn't know his whereabouts today!
Meanwhile the mother has since married a white man, and the man adopted and took care of her. Today that girl is a successful engineer. But she still wishes to meet her real dad.
Basically, no matter the issues we may av with our kid's father, whether he wishes to take care of the child or not, still, the child may grow up to love the absentee father. Or in a case where u can't find the child's father, the child may resolve to finding him at all cost.
This is why I tell single parents, never poison a child's mind against their missing parent. Some may end up to hate u in the long run, and they'll still love the parent that neglect them. Even if u are bitter and its obvious uv been treated bad by a man, don't involve the kid.
When such a child grows up to see ur struggles, they'll know who was right or wrong. Bimpe, all the best. Godspeed
Tnx SDK for dis. Dis is a dilemma am presently battling with. I NEED VERY CRIOUS N CONSTRUCTIVE ADVICES PLS. U CAN CUSS ME N TEACH ME MORALS BUT JUST PRAY DAT U DONT FALL INTO WAT AV BEEN THRU IN LIFE N DONT FORGET TO DROP ADVICE AFTERWARDS. I was a virgin until my 1st marriage @ 26 some 10 yrs ago. Had to leave d guy cos his parents didnt approve of him marrying a non-indigene (we are both yorubas). Married anoda man 5yrs after d 1st divorce. D man cared and shwed me love but i culdnt conceive cos d man's divorced wife since 1990 was so diabolic n i managed to escape death twice. Met dis guy last Sept n he claimed he loved me @ 1st site. I dont bliv in such love n i made it knwn to him. He told me a story of hw his wife left him wit their dota 9yrs ago n followed anoda man he's always knwn has her cousin to Australia to marry courtesy of her mum's assistance. He told me he works wit Ecobank (ogbomosho). I accepted his rship offer eventually in Oct. He den called one day dat he lost his job n i bcame his 'maga' frm den. I had gift for dreams n i had one dat told me he had anoda child wit a lady. I asked him n he denied dat it wasnt true. So i kept quiet. He moved to Lag wit his imm younger bro to get anoda job. I den told him to move in wit me wen d bro was getting married dis May wit d expectatn dat i wil formally be introduced to his ppl @ d broda's party. He dodged my attending d wedding wit excuse dat it was a small get-togeda. I started getting suspicious of him having anoda lady dat wil attend d party dat probably everybody knws wit him. So, i became very vigilant. Frm d calls he receives wile living wit me, i found dat a lady was actually present @ d party wit his son n he has series of 'magas' like me dat he deceives to love n call 'wife'. I called for a discussion wit him to ask him all i found out abt his infidelity n d 'son' i discovered, but he denied all n turned it to a quarrel challenging i was accusing him wrongly. I kept calm cos i hate shouts wit a passion. Wat i did was to stop all d financial aids i'd bn offering gradually. My headache nw dat i'v been trying to get a headway is dat i discovered in July dat i am 3mths preg for dis guy. I told him abt it n he brought up a lot of attitude dat he's stil jobless n trying to survive n so is not ready for any child bearing nw. Inshort, he's denying d preg. I told him dat if he denys d preg nw, he shld put it in writing cos he wil neva hav d opportunity for eva to claim d child @ any point in tym. He didnt answer me but replied i was threatening him. Just since 2days ago i started tinking i shld meet his broda here in Lag, introduce myself n tell all dat has been going on. He didnt introduce me to any family member but he's taken me to d guy's house b4 wen he was living wit him. N i'v been able to get fone nos of his mum, dat bro n some family members on his fone witout him knwing. Shld i meet d broda or not. I cant abbort cos its neva been an option for me. I am ready to shoulder d baby's responsibilty( if dats my cross). Wat i wont take is after all dat wahala, one idiot wil den turn out in future to beg for forgiveness n den lay claim on my sweats n efforts to single handedly take care of d baby. Dats why i'm tinking i shld talk to d broda to either get him to accept d preg nw or forget dat he ever has a child by me nw or much later in future. Bimpe
ReplyDeleteThank God no bobo has ever love-scammed o...Awon ole jati jati....HIV carrying....love peddling boyz ....hmmmm
ReplyDeleteNot ever a kobo....even since I recently got married, to comot moni buy ordinary buffday card for hubby dey hard me sef....Awon ole buruku boyz.
Na my fellow babes dey obtain hard currency from bobos use buy house,cars,shopping.
Mtscheeeew.
Wot of those dat wud wnt to marry a girl cos she lives abroad n can process for dem too to live abroad.May God deliver us frm dem.pj
ReplyDeleteIts happened to me last year oh! I was in love and the motherfucker just know the right things to say to get me......that's how he got me to send him credit to recharge hez BIS, money to sustain himself atimes. The one wey pain me pass was when he lied to me that he needed to borrow money to add up to a business he wanted to venture in. Thank God I only gave him part of the money b4 a friend of his told me it was a big lie oh. I still haven't got my money back buh am free of that parasitic relationship
ReplyDeleteStella its crazy! I thought they said it was the women that were materialistic gold diggers? Times have changed o!
ReplyDeleteYou meet this men and in a week they 'propose' therefore dangling the marriage bait. This is where my suspicion begins, and I am careful with giving out information especially my regular phone number or about where I live.
Then in less than a month they demand for money for this project, contract or lucrative investment; expect sex, and still expect you to do the whole home maker thing holding out the 'you are not submissive' card. LNGKM! Stella I work too hard for this money to let it go to one lazy, 'one chance', desperately gold digging man, so once it gets to the money stage I remove my sim card and disappear.
Truth be told, some women can sense this deadbeats from a distance but choose to stick to the romantic notion that they can be changed.
Its happens quite often this days.Even men are not left out.I read a newspaper som oda tym abt a nigerian guy hu had a rich spanish freind and the guy wanted to visit nigeria and the nigerian guy was willing to be his guide.He came n d other guy took him to a hotel n evritn was ok. The guy went out n came back,so the oyinbo guy drugged the drink n gave him.he mediately slept off n d guy used him for his gay rubbish.After coming back to his senses the man had left n he was sore frm behind.
ReplyDeleteSo all this is Not limited to Nigerians o ladies only,you just have to be aware and trust only your self
Yes men do it to each other too. In this case, who knows what the real story was? There could have been a mutual financial agreement which Latino Rico Suave flouted once he got to a different soil. Africa.
DeleteMaybe he bankrolled the whole trip on the grounds that he and his friend would have a good time and the other dude would be rewarded handsomely, only for Mr Latino to feel that he was not obliged and took matters into his own hands by spiking his friend's drink, and riding that "Hershey Highway" Black anal hole, free of charge.
There are always three sides to a story. One story, two stories and the truth but if this person was outright taken advantage of due to his naivete, may God punish that Molester,brown digger.
I am a victim of this,it happens a lot in Abuja here!
ReplyDeleteGbam! Ladies beware of abj boys. They are just out to suck u dry.I have not experienced any but learnt from victims of these gold-diggers.I fear abuja boys.
Delete@Abj Boys gist- I live and work here infact top financial institution managerial position fa. Once you meet a guy b4 u fuck or fall in Mumu love do your background check. I for once check their bank records or call up my friends in other Banks 2 do a background check 4 me. That way I place the guy sharply on his lane. Wake up chics.
Delete@Anon 5.05pm- your strategy bad gan. Abuja boys r meanies though. One has to be 12 steps ahead of them.
DeleteIt happened to me sm mths back.I'm 26 nd I wrk with a telecomm coy here in lagos.I'm comfortable on my own as I can afford wateva it is I want.I met chris at a frnds child dedication.we got talking sha nd I dnt knw I got to like d maga.dint knw he was one den sha)smhw smhw I found maself spending on him it got to a point mnthly I would send him airtime like it was a ritual.ma dear I talked to ma mum abt it oh.she told me to invite him ova na deir kasala burst.mind u he neva for one day gave me shishi cos I neva askd on ma own I cn tk kia of maself.so d day he visited mum chatted him up I managed to get hold of his fone nd lo nd behold I saw pictures of dis dude nd his wife nd kids.I broke down!!!we dug it out later I insulted hell outta him.nw I'm single nd loving God.praying nt to fall victim again.nd to all single ladies out dere pls be careful neva be desperate for a man.ur own will cm @ God's appointed time.ehen stella I love ur blog biko.
ReplyDeleteSorry dear...next time just be careful of those ole buruku boyz.
DeleteI am a gold 'miner' on steriods. Men do the giving and I do the taking. I pray they continue giving me so that God will keep blessing them cos God loves a cheerful giver. Lol. The only boy/man that I will spend my money on is my son and he is still unborn.
ReplyDeleteHehehe....feeling u dear Nina....we r on just d same boat.No spending on those thieving boyz...All my cash stored up for my kiddies
Delete@nina u mk sense joor! Sooo on point! Hehehehehehe
DeleteMiss lady, take am easy o wid ya "steroid induced Coal digging" cos d tin u dey think na gold na coal, small chop.
DeleteLet me korect masef. U saying u dey chop dese men money on a roll? Eat,drink and chop ti u tire but stop am soon.Dem psycho men dey out dia boku.
Bimpe- @ claiming the child in future, u cant avoid that. meet with his brother, call his mother let them know whats up. he doesnt have to take full reponsibility, just ensure ur child has a sense of belonging. in the near future, things will fall into place.
ReplyDeleteNawa oo...well I'm not disputing any of these. But pls y'all shld answer this: " what if these ladies or should I say women are the one forcing on you to have u at all cost nko o? Coz I as a young man do experience lot of it....they tempt u with all sorts of gifts and all that just to make sure they have u for themselves.....besides, some of you ladies do know d truth that d bobo is engaged or has a woman in his life bt still u no go send, saying "elemi lo ma last"...woh make I jst stop here o jare
ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha..Hehehehehehe, i laugh tire! Women don suffer! ( especially those ones that are between 30 and 50 years old and still single :) Make una take heart i beg. You see most women too like sweet mouth! Kai! Dear ladies run away from any man that talks too much, those smooth talkers are dangerous.
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ReplyDeleteI don't want anyone to curse me out please and kindly ignore all typos.
I had just broken up with my boyfriend (now husband) who cheated on me and I was so devasted cos I trusted him with all my heart. I met this guy (lets call him D) on the Internet. I wasn't looking for anything serious just something to keep my mind off S(my husband), moreover D wasn't my type of guy. He was too serious and way up there, I didn't like passing my social boundaries. Not like I lacked confidence but he was a director at a multi national company and I was still in the university. He told me he was divorced so it wasn't aristo level as I wasn't collecting money from him.
we started to spend time together, I continued to tell myself n him it wasn't serious, then S came begging, I love S with all my heart and wanted to go back, it was then I saw another side of D, he began to act jealous n laid claim to me as his gf. While visiting him one day I was bored n went into a room I had never entered I saw female clothes and shoes. I asked him abt it, he said they were for his ex wife. Then It was my birthday n we planned a party only he didn't show up just to tell me his ex wife's parent came begging???? My birthday fell on an Election Day, weeks after I was at his house n saw voters cards for him and a lady bearing his last name....wooooow. I asked he said it was his brothers wife who came. I asked if he was married he said no. He also came to my house with a wedding ring on his finger, when I asked he had an answer like always "just remembering my failed marriage". I can't believe now I fell for those obvious lies. One time he gave me his fone to take pics, I wanted to view the pics so I went to the gallery only to see pregnant belly shots with a similar ring on the females finger ?!!? My question "r u married, who is pregnant for you"? He got pissed n said I didn't trust him. I didn't argue much with him over this issue. I told my best friend my fears n she called me paranoid. The final blow came when he told me he was going for a seminar in The US, he didn't call for about a week I decided to check his Facebook only to find out he was in the US for the birth of his child by his wife. I waited for him to call he finally did, I let him tell me how much he had missed me and how tired he was from the seminar before congratulating him on the birth of his child. He was shocked cos I wasn't his Facebook friend (deleted him cos we had a lil spat). I told him what I thought of him and I walk out of the relationship
I didn't know how much I was into him until this happened. I cried and I missed him terribly. I missed our discussions and the love making was out of this world. I was hurt, I was in love with him. I stayed away from him for 5months and then he called I went running back to him but this time with vengeance. I demanded money and time like I had a right to him, I talked to him however I wanted, I had him in my hands and oh I played with him. I told him I had no problem being his second wife and led him on till I was ready to marry my husband S. it shocked him and hurt him, he begged n begged I told him "at least I am telling you he truth, you never gave me that chance." He shld have told me he was married and let me decide if I'm willing to be with a married man. He know I had moral values and I would never stoop that low cos I told him from the first day married men were out of bounds.
Evry SINGLE male nigerian musician or actor except MAYBE naeto C and davido who hav family money. ALL d other male celebrities have lived of women they make feel they will marry at som point just to get at their money. So dont ask the women. Ask our celebrities how they feel when they are scamming women. But will the women hear? If you want i will list all their names here even the coded ones. Abi no b our industry again?
ReplyDeleteDavido you say? You would be shocked! David's father never wanted anything to do with hos music ,his father cut him off for a while , he was living off a parole girl from leadcity uni called suzie!
DeleteIf you like call me stingy I don't bloody care. Eversince I started working for my money I have never given my one kobo to a guy. The moment a guy goes that 'asking for money path' I develop very cold hatred and disappear asap. I gat brothers to cater for not some lazy ass dudes who wanna live off women in the name of love. Infact the way its going sef I just pray it won't be difficult supporting my future husband with a dime. I don't buy that bullshit at all.
ReplyDeleteStella, I really don't understand some of your readers. Agreed in some cases women smell a rat and ignore it but most times they don't. It happened to me. See, my mum dated my dad in univeristy and he had nothing. They got married and built a life together (she helped financially at the initial time). They had us all and by God's grace, we're doing very well.
ReplyDeleteHelping your boyfriend in a relationship is not a bad thing. Its when you find out he's a fraudster and you were used that hurts. I met Chibuzor in 2011 at a function I attended with my cousin and friends. We chatted for a while and he introduced me to his sisters (who also came for the function) we later exchanged numbers. He invited me to his house and I met his mum and brother. Even went with him to his mum's church (mountain of fire) for programmes.
To cut a long story short, he said he wanted to expand his business and asked me for a loan. I gave him thinking with all the church he was preaching, he was legit. He proposed to me and we went to see my dad. He had told me earlier he was relocating from the UK hence the reason for the loan to expand his business in Nigeria.... Well, I stumbled into an email he sent a woman in London. That's when I got very suspicious. I stole his phone and went through it. Got the ladies number and called her....she was his wife who had two daughters for him. I had to tell her everything. She said it wasn't the first time she was getting a call from a lady her husband had scammed and she was tired. Also saw text messages from different ladies raining curses on him for their money. My sister, I quickly asked him to sign a post dated cheque for me for the full amount and drafted an agreement for him to sign. After that, I confronted him with all my facts and walked away last year.
Fast forward to this year, he took off and changed his number after I paid in the cheque and ofcourse it bounced. I've since filed a petition at the police station and there's a warrant for his arrest.
Yes, I want to settle down and yes, helping your boyfriend out is not a big deal but when you're being scammed, most times you can't tell especially if you know the guys entire family. It makes you feel somewhat secure.
Why should you be helping a boyfriend? Are you father Christmas or a bank ? Keep that mentality up u hear. Dem go chop ya money tire.
Delete1004 boys are likely gold diggers o.. Dont be fooled by the address many of them are in short lets.
DeleteVGC boys. Same story. But those ones also specialize in 419 &will introduce babes to stealing credit card information.
Stella write a memo to socialite SA. She's married to a well known gold digger that's why she bought her engagement ring & her father is bankrolling their wedding. He's lazy. Every thing he has was paid for by a woman. He targeted high level runs babes would dangle marriage in front of them & they'd start spending money then when he found the next maga he'd dump her & say he can never marry an ex runs babe. Sharon you don carry cursed man.
N6 low budget Ikechukwu lives off babes too. He prefers rich man pikin wey just return from abroad.
Aaron wicked guy. Had that YSL pay for wedding sef.
Actors stay looking for bankers
I have some names of some ikoyi/vi 'returnee' gold digging scum and I am almost tempted to list them as a warning to any potential maga that these 'fyneboy' men are very much married with kids, or have several baby mamas overseas
ReplyDeletePlease list them abeg. Afterall, they won't know the person. I'm tired of wasting my time on idiots we have as men.
DeletePlease name them and Shame them. Save a life! Plushgyal!!!
Deleteah ah please list them jor.
ReplyDelete@Anon5:15pm, y wait till u're scam? How can a ask me 4 money as per wht? Some bebes dey fall my hand. If man no spend 4 me make him no ask me 4 money na o ha...babes pls be wise up.
ReplyDelete#30 anon3:08 why so pained? or are you the dude in question? hehehehehehehehehe onye nzuzu, onu nkapi. all these men don't even have an iota of shame again. when vals day starts approaching now, they will be making jokes about girls as if they have kobo to even buy handkerchief. @Poster please keep us posted if yu eventually catch d morrafucker.
ReplyDeleteReally am so surprised at the rate men are so desperate to get down with u in order to steal frm u all ur hard earned money. Mine started with a recharge card and mostly these men are frm overseas after duping their victims they cum down to 9ja and look for fresh maga to suck.but I thank God I stoped him the earlier b4 e go cum destroy my life and I pray that the fire and sword of God will burn and strike all men with such motive to cause pain in the lives of single hard working ladies. Thank u.
ReplyDeleteLet's all be prayerful.... We live in the last days. It could happen to anyone I tell you. Some men will borrow and spend on a woman, propose to her, marry her then she'll know she was scammed maybe two kids down the line. Let's be prayerful that's all I can say. No one is too wise to be scammed. Let's not be too confident. These days men also target women from rich homes and marry them. The woman starts the spending inside marriage. I think they're also as guilty as those who start asking for money while dating. All na scam. Be prayerful. Thanks
ReplyDeleteMay God punish terribly all the guys who have done this shit to chics. AMEN!!
ReplyDeleteI hope my current boyfriend isnt one of them or else, heads will roll
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ReplyDeleteOh that's how I met one idiot too. We would chat on BB most of the time and I never got round to going on a date with him just yet. Then came a time he insisted we meet up to go to the pictures at the cinema in shoprite. Am not the type to lounge around malls, esp not the ones in Nigeria. As I imagine its for those small small kids that laze about malls. Lool. Anyway I finally agreed so he won't think am being an ass.
I remember that day was a saturday, they had been a heavy down pour of rain just before the agreed time to meet up. As I made to drive out he sent me a msg under duress. That he had earlier been to the barber's to get his hair cut, and that on his way back home (he lives in lekki phase1) his car hit a ditch that was filled with water from the rain, just by his house...and that the car had suddenly kaput. Therefore he was asking if I didn't mind to pick him up from home since he didn't want to cancel our date. I agreed.
We got to shoprite, he had lunch in one of the bars there, while I a drink. We watched the movie, I dropped him off, and we called it a day. But the days that followed was drama full. As he would constantly complain about his car. He said it was totaled and the mechanic was asking an exorbitant fee of 1M to fix it. And that he didn't have that kind of money to fix a car. Then I suggested that he seeks a 2nd opinion. That perhaps he could get it fixed cheaper. He just kept going on and on and on about how he's been spending almost 20k per day on cabs to run around his daily business.
It came to a point where I didn't know what else to say to him than...'Eya, it is well". Then I started to notice some defaults in him. Anytime I asked where he was, he had a template..."Just got home 15mins ago. Hectic day" or..."Am stuck in traffic". When clearly the background always seemed like he was home in an enclosed environment. Needless to say that he was always forming the bz mode......
Hahahahahahahaha....... Can't stop laughing. Thank God you escaped. He'll just move on to the next lady.Maybe with Stella's permission we'll start posting some real names so ladies out there can be on the look-out.
DeleteOh my dear u can say that again. I pity his next victim. I didn't even tell the whole tale here cos it won't contain this blog. Me I was even happy that I met a guy who's not into the BB lewd pics nonsense like most guys these days. So we never towed that line at all. Bet he must av studied me carefully to be a no nonsense person.
DeleteBut I was shocked d day I saw a pic of himself on his BB o, wanking himself. (Well so I thot). Actually, his face wasn't der. But he had been sending that pic of a dick to several females. But I think yawa gassed when one girl bursted him and said the dick in the pic def doesn't belong to him. Lwkmd!!!
The girl shamed him around town ehn...and to all d girls he would say they are the ones who turned him on before he snapped d pic. But he was found out in the end. He's such a mess.
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ReplyDeleteAnyway I kept a close tab on him, oblivious to himself. He told me he had been married but divorced. That he had a daughter who was with her mom. He said the most unprintable things about the woman. Which I hate to hear from any guy. Pls don't tell me how wicked or whatever ur ex was. Anyway he said she was very irresponsible etc.
One day I was minding my business when he started with his usual complaints. He said his ex had just told him that their daughter hadn't been to school for over a week then, bcos the school fees hadn't been paid. And her exam was fast approaching. Amazingly, he exclaimed that he already paid her but that she misappropriated the funds. Moreso, how she went ahead to embarrass him by telling all his friends that he didn't pay his daughter's school fees. So this was me thinking, so wetin make I do na?
So I advised that he pay the fee for posterity sake. And I also suggested he paid the school direct henceforth, for the avoidance of doubts. He agreed. But then he said shishi hin no get to pay. Say the fee na 250k. It was a school in the VGC axis. At this point I thot, what do u want me to do?
The one that knocked me off was when he said he's been asking all his friends for soft loan and they've been avoiding him. That he's amazed that not even his closest pal obliged him. He went to that ones house (his friend) to beg for money, this friend told him he had just 50k on him and he can't afford to remove a dime from it. Lmaooo!!
He started to curse the friend, and I quickly told him he was acting irascible. That if someone told him to give them 20k that day too, would he be able to give? That so he shouldn't condemn his friend o.
To cut the already long story short. He finally asked me to loan him the money, that he would pay back 6wks after. As he was expecting to be paid for a job he did. Mind u, till today, I couldn't tell u whether this man had a job. Even his office that he said was right behind my house, I never saw the office. A guy who was always home. Not to talk of a time he told me he was stuck on 3rd mainland bridge, that I should send him MTN bcos he couldn't find one. Even diesel for gen, he would stylishly ask me to buy.
Once I got hold of his BB, come and see how one girl took him to the laundry and back. That he owes the whole of Lagosians monies. If he doesn't tell u Lanre Nzeribe is owing him, he'll tell you that he just finished insulting Mike Adenuga for holding on to his money. And every payback time is 6wks...and 6wks after is another 6wks. So me I sha told him that I would try..I knew I wasn't giving him a dime tho.
So everyday he would ask.."How far" me will jejely answer.."Not too far". I left it at that until shame won't let him rest. He started to feel uncomfy, then he said I had changed..bcos he assumed I didn't respond to his BBM ontime as I used to. He was right! He became a turn off. I mean, how can a man over 40yrs of age be going up and down to beg for money? And this made me think in retrospect that the car issue was a big LIE. Bet he didn't even have a car sef! And if u see this man ehn, u will do thanksgiving in church that God has buttered ur bread with fine responsible guy. But all na wash, one chance!!!
Am sure his ex left him for obvious reasons. Girls need to be alert. That a man lives on the Island doesn't depict class or responsible. They are even worse, and that's why they prey on unsuspecting victims. Am not asking ladies to look out for the only rich ones o, but even if u are being modest and reasonable in ur search for a man, don't get entangled with the ones who will not only leave you to mind ur finances yourselves, but will also burden u with the little you have to take care of yourself.
Am not your mother, so am not obliged to cater for you. I can't tell u how much of my monies has gone to guys. But now I don sharp up!! Shikena!
Hahahahaha.....still laughing. My dear, this disease is spreading fast.
ReplyDeletetalking of abuja guys, theres a london returnee Chudi. tall and dark. he lies about everything. he lies about being a lawyer meanwhile he hasnt finished university. he would borrow money from you telling you all sorts of stories. he has all sorts of lies to say about every one male or female. if your a girl who he asked out and you didnt fall for his charms he would spread the worst lies about you. he forgets its a small world and continues to go around looking for well off independent and rich girls from rich homes to scam. hes been married and would even lie about that too. hes busy proposing marriage to any one who he can on. ladies be careful, chudi is a real scammer and liar from the pit of hell.
ReplyDeletetalking of abuja guys, theres a london returnee Chudi. tall and dark. he lies about everything. he lies about being a lawyer meanwhile he hasnt finished university. he would borrow money from you telling you all sorts of stories. he has all sorts of lies to say about every one male or female. if your a girl who he asked out and you didnt fall for his charms he would spread the worst lies about you. he forgets its a small world and continues to go around looking for well off independent and rich girls from rich homes to scam. hes been married and would even lie about that too. hes busy proposing marriage to any one who he can con. ladies be careful, chudi is a real scammer and liar from the pit of hell.
ReplyDeleteSome guys even go as far as marrying babes as long as he knws she has a means to provide for his needs.
ReplyDeleteStella, thank you for this topic! I had always primed myself as a sharp babe that will never fall victim to scammers until I met this guy(almost tempted to print his name). He was introduced to me by a mutual female friend whom he told that he was seriously looking for a wife. He came all out with marriage proposal and all sorts of promises. I fell for it all until this guy started complaining that he was being owed millions of naira in oil deals...started lamenting about his problems at every given opportunity. I eventually loaned him some money. Shortly after, it became obvious that this guy was full of lies and deceit. Mind you, he attends virtually every programme at MFM o! In short my eyes cleared and I began to harass him through texts and calls to get my money back. He began to pay me back in bits and I have just about 20k left out of N220k that I loaned him. I keep thanking God that I didn't end up marrying him.
ReplyDeletehmmm, i hope its not the same guy i'm after who also spends most of his time at MFM.....liar from the pit of hell. claimed to be an IT consultant in London with a masters degree in Business Information Systems but i found out he didn't go beyond secondary school. hehehehehehehe.........His name is Chibuzor U from Ohafia.
ReplyDeleteLummie john begg . thats all- hungry gold digger
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