There are so many Nigerian men walking around with low sperm count,they don't believe such exists and they have been put the guilt of their childless marriage on their wives head!
I happen to know of someone who went for checkup,was diagnosed of having low sperm count,rejected it in Jesus' name and continued believing God for a child whilst his family members have tagged his wife a 'witch'
DO NOT BRING RELIGION INTO LOW SPERM COUNT PROBLEM PLEASE!
Please go for check up and start taking your treatment if you are in this category..low sperm count is not a life sentence in jail,it is just a medical condition that can be handled.
Some women are presently living with men who have refused to go for treatment,some have been trying their luck with other women.....story.
That brings me to the question..is there a local cure for low sperm count?what about people who mix small stout with egg and say it thickens the sperm?
low sperm count has nothing to do with old age oh..i don't know if serial lovers suffer from this sha.
Do you know you have low sperm count but have refused to go for help?you let people call your wife names because you would rather it is her than you?that is so unfair!
Are you a wife who is looking for ways to convince your man to go for medical checkup to see whats wrong?you are scared lest he says you refer to him as being less of a man?
Abeg tell us your stories,some men will read this and hopefully have a change of heart and go get help....NOW!
Is there any enlightened man that takes likely the issue of Low Sperm Count these days? I don't think so, but if there is, that's quite foolish. It's like taking the issue of HIV/AIDS likely.
ReplyDeleteHa!
DeleteThey are many oh!forget enlightenment talk,they are called typical African men'!
These men have gone to find out they are the cause of the childlessness in the home,but as typical African men' that can never be wrong,they keep quiet and let the brunt be passed to their wives!may God find it in his heart to forgive such men,Amen!
Talk to a specialist. We got help at Nodica fertility center ikoyi. There r 1 daful people.
DeleteAmen @ going 4 help. Der bloated egos won't let dem.
ReplyDeleteBabe,How far?
DeleteIts my first time commenting on ur blog SDK. Your blog has very mature contents. Kudos to you and may God keep blessing you. Don't relent on ur oars.
ReplyDeleteSDKers, pls I need you help. We all know dat saying about "an idle mind being the devils workshop". I just finished from Law school and won't be going to serve until March 2014 which means Oct to Feb are gonna be idle months 4me. I'm tired of being idle. Is there anyone out there who is willing to employ a law graduate or willing to hook me up wif someone who's willing to employ me. I can do any kinda job being dat I'm jus a law graduate .Pls I'd appreciate if someone decides to help me so I don't become d devils instrument. Thank u all.
NGOs with the tag #ChildNotPride# are employing in Abuja. No special qualification. So I heard from my cousin over there though. You'll get at least N20000 as salary. Good luck.
Deletei just finished lawskl too, i'm learning tailoring
Deletei just finished lawskl too, i'm learning tailoring
DeleteD kobo I get to gv u is to learn somthin my dear sis. I tell u wish I was gven dt idea durin my service year. Now I av no tym to and I wish to make more money plus d monthly salary. Or rather get some money ans stat a sensibl biz.
DeleteMy dear go and learn handiwork o. This free time can not come again in life. And work will never pay u enuf
Deletethank you stella for this post, im a man and i do have this problem and really hope to find a solution to it here. what can i do?
ReplyDeleteFirst of all,be sure abt your diagnosis,because there are different causes of low sperm count,because my husband had blood infection,so it after he treated it that he was placed on drugs ∂α̲̅t will help improve the sperm quality and motility. But please look for a good hospital,where they can give you a correct breakdown of the causes,becuse that is one of the reasons I have suffered till we met Dr Gearge. God bless ∂α̲̅t man for me.
DeleteThere's a way you soak bitter kola dat boost ur sperm count, it hs worked for many. Wud get d receipe and post it. I ve seen those it helped includin a couple who ve being childless for 12yrs
DeleteThank you, for this post aunty stella,my husband has low count(OLIGOSPERMIA) and since we were told it was a condition that could be handled,I chose to stay with him till,he treats himself. But while waiting he decided to try someone else outside cos according to him,his friend suggested that medical results could faulty at times, and trust me, he confessed to me after he had tried and failed outside. I forgave him because at least,he came out clean to me.although sometimes, It crosses my mind that he cheated. I just pray he completes his treatment soonest and hopefully his count would have improved,so I can get pregnant and have my very own baby,because I have gone through a lot while thinking I was the one with the fault,did series of test and the most painful one I did was H.S.G,which my new doctor later told me wasn't necessary cos I have been preggnant before.
ReplyDeleteCos I have never been pregnant,sorry abt the typos.
DeleteBeing pregnant b4 or not doesn't count wen it coms 2 HSG my dear! Its alwys a test ur gynae wil recomend @ d early stage of ur TTC....4 d women out there, HSG is no more painful @al n I am a living witness.
DeleteTwo of my friends did HSG in Lagos, one of them was admitted for 3 days. It was quite painful.
DeleteI was so scared of HSG 4 yrs dat if a doc suggested it, I wil stop goin 2 dat hospital!!! Until a fellow woman introduced me 2 total image.....**crying** If I had known ds place earlier, mayb I wud v had lik 3 kids by now bor God knows best!!!! Try total image n 10k God U̶̲̥̅̊ did
DeleteMen with low sperm count won't go for medical check up cos of deir pride. Dey will kip blaming d wife who is innocent. Nonsense. Thank God am still single, if any man refuses to go 4 medical check up with me in d future, I swear I will drug him and carry him dere myself. Selfish men.
ReplyDeleteFunny u
DeleteThank you Stella for putting this up for many to read. We come from a background where obvious problems to us are seen as a spiritual ones. Unfortunately, some men and mother in-laws will not learn and people are not there to help in enlightening many of our families on this kind of problem.
ReplyDeleteOn the case of stout and egg, it is not really a remedy for low sperm count. If it thickens the sperm, it does not mean that it has solved the ailment. However, there are some herbal medicines claimed by Herbal doctors to be a good remedy for low sperm count. I have not heard of anyone commenting about their potency.
Things we should learn about low sperm count are the reasons for it and how to treat it. If we do this, then it will really help us.
Tell them make them hear! The one that make"s me laugh is, Nigeria men ( most ) will so stress their poor wive"s to the extent that the poor woman will go get pregnant by another man! For the naming ceremony the man go dey laugh like goat wen dem roast :) LOL. Make una go do DNA! MUMUS!
ReplyDeleteNo b lie u talk my sister
DeleteLadies! This is important, before Marriage while doing ur Genotype, Bloodgroup, Retroviral test, insist that he goes for Sperm count test oo, especially if u have a Godly relationship, the type that won't touch u b4 Marriage cos of Religious Reasons(some use that one to cover up some things, worst things than the topic).because u will be the one to be blamed later.
ReplyDeleteRecently a Friend that got married this year, started having problems with her husband, I don't think they are still together, most people assumed she was the cause because before Marriage she led A very rough life, but it is been whispered that the Man has azoospermia(no sperm count) how Devastating, the poor girl is just they acceptiing all the blame because she doesn't wont to let out the real reason.
For Oligospermia it can be boosted Medically , I'm seeing some google results for treatment of Azoospermia but I'm not too sure.
**bigsmile** U̶̲̥̅ shud undastnd!
DeleteYes Nigerian men always blaming the women, when they can have kids. Their stupid machismo/ ego makes me sick. They use that opportunity to have a mistress/ 2nd wife, yet those women too can concieve. I really despise when some of these men make the lives of their wives a living hell, instead of going to the doctor and have an examination done on them. Nigerian men keep your bloated egos in check, we are not in the stone age.
ReplyDeleteMy own sperm na akande, if I shake woman hand she go get belle
ReplyDeleteU be 2face broda
DeleteEven if they go for test before marriage something might happen along the line,but I don't know abt azoospermia
ReplyDeleteHnnm! I am a victim of dis. Got married to a man who refused to go to d hosp. Managed to get him check his sperm count. Zero. Harrassed d living daylight out of M̶̲̥̅Ƹ. Blaming M̶̲̥̅Ƹ for our childlessness. I move out 12yrs after. He got married immediately to someone else. 6yrs after nothing has happened. I got married in ♍Æ” mid 30' s. So I am over 50.
ReplyDeleteChai my sister,so sorry oooo,dat man jst wasted ur productive years bt God'll conpensate u
Delete....please tell them let them hear and heed warning. A woman can't get pregnant ...'ohhh! She is barren! Its all her fault'
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile they haven't checked themselves.
S to D K, tell them!
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ReplyDeleteLol! U didn't hide the identity well.. He should just talk to her,after making her very happy.. She will feel embarrassed at 1st but she would be grateful
DeleteDamn phone !!!!!
DeleteMa friend's gon kill me now !!
Thanks nuvi
Its so unfortunate men are the way they are. I know a man diagnosed with low sperm count whose wife eventually left him for another man . His wife now has four kids with another man. Deliberately, the abandoned husband chose to marry a single woman, advanced in age, with no children. Now everyone thinks that only the woman is the one who has got a problem. Only one or two people in the family know the real truth! Unfortunately, his new wife only also later found out his true condition after she had got married to him. Now she bears all the comments from people over her 'childlessness' and cannot explain to people that she could have at least had a slim chance if her husband had been virile. The things that men do!!
ReplyDeleteWomen annoy me sometimes with their foolishness. If your husband won't go for testing, you are sure the problem isn't with you, and you want to stay in the marriage, quietly find another man to impregnate you. Chop, clean mouth! A man that can't even entertain the possibility that he might have fertility issues is probably too egotistic to question who scored the goal. He'll take credit for it and everyone is happy. Just make sure he doesn't catch you cheating though! Sometimes you have to think like a man. I am a man and I am telling you what most men would do if they were in your shoes. Stop suffering yourself because of foolishness please.
ReplyDeleteMost of these men who smoke igbo and take drugs beware. It affects the sperm.
ReplyDeleteThat is very true, those tests are the key, i wont make such a stupid mistake again, i got married to a man that was already rendered impotent by diabetes. He told he was diabetic but kept the erection problem secret, i found out after d marriage. Before i get married again, dude must do all tests required esp SPERM COUNT TEST, if not, he can GO AWAY!
ReplyDeleteThat is very true, those tests are the key, i wont make such a stupid mistake again, i got married to a man that was already rendered impotent by diabetes. He told he was diabetic but kept the erection problem secret, i found out after d marriage. Before i get married again, dude must do all tests required esp SPERM COUNT TEST, if not, he can GO AWAY!
ReplyDeleteThat is very true, those tests are the key, i wont make such a stupid mistake again, i got married to a man that was already rendered impotent by diabetes. He told he was diabetic but kept the erection problem secret, i found out after d marriage. Before i get married again, dude must do all tests required esp SPERM COUNT TEST, if not, he can GO AWAY!
ReplyDeleteThat is very true, those tests are the key, i wont make such a stupid mistake again, i got married to a man that was already rendered impotent by diabetes. He told he was diabetic but kept the erection problem secret, i found out after d marriage. Before i get married again, dude must do all tests required esp SPERM COUNT TEST, if not, he can GO AWAY!
ReplyDeleteHey everyone, i'm a 31 year old dude and after 1.5 years with no child in my marriage, I went for semen analysis test. Results came out and sperm count was very low. Started treatment March last year and by June my wife was pregnant. Now we have the cutest 5 months old baby boy in the universe. Low sperm count ain't a curse so MEN out there should get tested and stop believing that the fault lies with the woman. I also didn't let family members harass my wife cos I told my folks the issue was from my end. We were all matured about it and all happy at the end of the day.
ReplyDelete...Proud dad
My own husband has the opposite of low sperm count. We got married 4 months ago and I'm currently 4 months pregnant. I no even fit enjoy the marriage because na so so vomit everyday.
ReplyDeleteLike your encouraging words comment #32.
ReplyDeleteSensitive issues such as these should be discussed intelligently and with the sensitivity it deserves. The way and manner Stella brings up all these issues relating to men is beginning to sound like being bitchy.
ReplyDeleteWhile I am in support of people supporting their spouses and getting tested, I resent the way and manner these conversations are handled. Hopefully, some women will not be led to go confront their men and ending up with swollen eyes.
Let us discuss these issues maturedly.
Pls how do we recognise low sperm. Count or is it visible only with medical test. Biko I need answers
ReplyDeleteRecognise?
DeleteHian!
Hmmn...dis blog just gave me goose pimples...esp d one abt doin a semen analysis before marriage...I am gettn married 6 weeks frm now...tho we r abt doin all d blood tests now ( we r both doctors..we know al our statuses ...lol...genotype, HIV , hepatitis et al) as we r required to do des tests time n again....we av bn together for 5 years and no sex (we r nt afraid of STDs or gettin preg as we knw wat to do if na that one...just out of respect for each others wishes...we r both virgins too...hmmn)....I am just hopin n prayin as regards dis sperm test of a thing...cos its too late to consider leavn him wateva d outcome of d test...plus I dont think il feel ok if he leaves me for any reason...we av invested so much in each other...I will just pray n hope al is well wt both of us...and rely on our enlightened n learned selves to b able to handle wateva comes our way...we r very quick to do medical checkups weneva d need arises...we r christians, very prayerful n reliant on God and wt d way things have turned out ...I think we both value each oda n place our happiness above other things ...say child inclusive....atleast majority of things dt wld av broken relationships av only made us stronger...distance, very low finances at some points, family issues n preferences etc...so fingers crossed all wl be well...by Gods grace no regrets for keepin ourselves....amen
ReplyDeleteGod's will is always perfect, there's Nothing to fear.
DeleteBoth vigins?
DeleteDoes he have a hymen or how did you confirm his virginity?
Thanks for the encouragement...I believe all is well..cos God has bn extremely faithful to us n we av more reason to depend on him...we started out so small n full of uncertainties bt now...all we can say is all glory to God.
Delete@anon 9.58...
DeleteLol @does he have a hymen....well some ppl r stl truthful even in dis time n age....I am his first gf....and if he blivs me without askin to confirm my virginity...y shldnt I believe him?...bsides, we av knwn each oda for ova 10 yrs n we were best friends before we started to date....he knew wen I was wt my ex, he knew al dt happened, was even friends wt my ex, he knew al d ppl dt were askin me out n y I decided nt to date any of dem....he neva wanted to date anyone till he was ready to get married tho everyone in schl tot he was a bad boy...u knw al des guy dt r friends wt al d big girls n schl...av so many ppl running around dem etc...bt just bcos of his principles he decided nt to date....he lost his mum wen he was just 4 yrs n he made some promises to himself while growin up...to make sure his momma wil b proud of him wherever she is...so now he is a doctor, plans to b d husband of one wife n he is doin well for now...I too had diff things I went thru in life dt made me decide I was nt goin to date till I was 22yrs n I planned to marry a virgin...which so far I av kept to except dt I had to leave my ex as he wasnt on same page wt me if u knw wat I mean....we have built our relationship on love n trust n wen we met each oda we knew we were gonna b bffs weather we get married or not cos our ideals, values n convictions seem to b at par...and lastly we both grew up in a very conservative church tho we neva knew each oda as he was in a diff state n we only met years after we had left d church...I think dis was wat helped us stay strong individually as youths...wen we met it was like...wow, ur journey in life has bn very similar to mine....dont worry abt us we wl be fine....by Gods grace.
It will be absolutely stupid of any man with infertility issues to refuse to be tested for low sperm count and treated appropriately. I am a man and a living example. Had a similar situation several years ago, sought and was appropriately treated by a urologic surgeon. It was a miracle. Prayers help, but treatment is the right way ro go
ReplyDeleteMasturbation will help with the boost.
ReplyDelete*PUFFS SMOKE*
Thanks.
ReplyDelete...Proud dad
Go to a good lab and get tested. No other way around it. A lot of things cause low sperm count like tight undies(boxers short perferably instead of briefs), consistent bath with hot water, laptop use of laps, poor diet,etc.
ReplyDeleteThe testicles are very delicate that is why they are located outside our warm body, take good care of yours.
Interesting topic and some encouraging responses. I have a friend in that situation, they r willing to go for help but confused on where to go. I'll appreciate if I can get the contacts or email or bbpin of those dat have been blessed with kids after treatment or referral to the doctors or clinic ,so dat I can tell my friend.
ReplyDeleteThank you
Anonymous No. 32 please what is the name of the medication you used to help a bro. thanks for this post madam dimmorkokus
ReplyDeletePls can somebody tel mi, ow to knw low sperm count, honestly u wldnt believ ds av bn married for 2mths n my husby hs refused to touch mi n hs nt bn sleepin on the same bed with me.we dated for 4yrs n stay in texas( i jst joined him last month), but his parent hs been sending him stuff to bath with n to rub his penis, the day i saw all ds while cleaning the house, i wept all days, i que him but said dere is nothing wrong with him, he hd distanced relationship for 2yrs n we never saw each other nakeness.honestly, have been down n nobody to talk too,am a 24yrs old girl n he is 30yrs old.its is real.
ReplyDeletePls r u for real?? so u mean u guys av not had sex since u got married abi he stopped wen u had a quarrel?.if d former is d case den his own no be low sperm count matter, mayb na erectile dysfuntion. well, I think u av to open up to a very neutral person....pastor, elder in d community, respected friend ...just anyone cos u cant die in silence...der is nothin new under d sun and until u open up, no one wl offer u help. He definitely has somethin to hide. I stl cant bliv dis cos na for movies I see am last. God wl help u dear.
DeleteNtooooo.
DeleteAm sure u had one bobo in Nigeria who was liking u, but ur long throat for obodo oyibo made u go for long distance relationship.
Now u're seeing fian!
Endure ur low sperm count long distance relationship husband.
Aggrieved boyfriend dumper by his babe for obodo oyibo husband
Wow! wat a cute story. I am about to leave my 10 year old marriage cos of child issue. Hubby didnt do test for 7 years. and after he agreed , was found azospermia. no sperm at all. In my mid 30tties now. Wat a waste. the family member especially mother inlwa cant stand me at all. all are blaming me and he never defends me. d point is... kudos for getting tested and really loving ur wife. Aolat
ReplyDeleteMay be he has hiv an he doest not want to infect you open ur eyes sister. Dis life is very. Deep
ReplyDelete@ comments 55 and 56, I visited Dr Amole of Lister Medical centre of 10B Obanta Avenue, Off Ajao Road, Off Adeniyi Jones, Ikeja (01-9504783, 08033028743 ) based on a friend's referral. He is very good and would recommend the right tests for you to run at the lab. Results of the test would determine the treatment you require. My treatment might not be what is needed because I required a serious sperm count boost. Took quite a number of injections to get it sorted out. Sorry I cant remember the name again.
ReplyDeleteAlternatively you can walk into Pathcare Lab (thats where I ran my tests twice as directed by my Dr) opposite DSTV office on Tiamiyu Savage V/Island for a semen analysis test. If there is a problem with the result, then you can take it to Dr Amole or any other good doctor for analysis and commence treatment.
.....Proud dad
I got married Aug last year...prior to that, I lead a very clean life; my hubby was my 2nd r/ship/boyfriend so I never had multiple sex partners, never had STD, never got pregnant so no D & C history.
ReplyDeleteI really wasn't expecting to get pregnant immediately after the wedding even though all my friends who got married the same period were showcasing babies all over the place, I wasn't perturbed ( it will come when it will come abi? naive me)
Due to my mother's persistence, during a routine medical check up together with my hubby (he is prone to hbp so is on medication) I brought the issue up; doctor was like 'since the marriage is yet to clock one year he is not really worried but since we are heading towards the one year mark he will run some tests'. I went for follicle tracking tests which came out ok (in fact, the woman that did the tracking said I have beautiful eggs...yeah but beautiful babies sound better; am not planning to make an omelette abeg)
Hubby was told to go for a sperm count & he did without any hassles (yeah he is that kind of man cos I know some guys who will never agree to do such thinking they are deceiving the woman not knowing they are fooling themselves) & lo & behold, it turned out that his count is low.
He broke down & I could feel how heartbroken he was ( he is crazy about babies & is forever spoiling my nephews & niece so I know how bad he felt) he kept saying ' so I'm the one who has been delaying our babies' & kept apologizing
He did nothing wrong so there was nothing to forgive & I told him so. He is currently on drugs & is due for another test in 3 weeks time (hopefully the count will be up)
What am I trying to say? Our men should man up & undergo tests so as to know if there is anything wrong. Women keep getting the side looks & brunt of the blame anytime there is delayed pregnancy & some doctors are not even helping out ( some shield the men & will refuse to discuss anything in the presence of the wife, leaving the wife in the dark but the wife's wahala will be broadcasted everywhere ) mine is handling our issues in the open & it is helping us manage the situation better ( I sometimes purchase the drugs if my hubby couldn't make out the time to)
Impregnating Doris, Bisi & Alice when you were sowing your wild oats does not mean the sperm count will forever touch the skies, it can fluctuate & you won't know unless you go for tests.
sorry to hear about your case @ comment61(Aolat). God will give you the joy of being a mother and your desired wish soon. Yea, the story looks cute but it had lots of challenges before I got tested untill we had our baby. God bless us all
ReplyDelete....Proud dad
the man may get tested b4 marriage and the test will not be bad. I've got the experience. I got pregnant after my traditional wedding in 2011. I wedded in 2012. By April 2012, I delivered a beautiful baby girl but she died the next day. After months, I couldn't take in again and we did test and we found that hubby has a low sperm count. This is passed 1yr and 6months that iv bn trying to conceive so my dear the question is what happened to the sperm quality all of a sudden. So my dear, test b4 marriage is not a prove that sperm can't be low anytime.
ReplyDeleteGood leads on clinics. Also try urology department at LUTH. There is also a Professor Layi Shittu in UCH, Ibadan.
ReplyDeleteYes I have it and it's been attended to. I never blame my wife for one day because i knew it was my problem. I only told her to be more patience, though i did not tell her. Thanks....
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