Hi Stella, kindly publish this my personal story for single heartbroken women like myself. I'm sure everyone would find closure with it. THANKS.
My Love,
Its with tears I am writing this to you. I am writing this after series of heartaches and pain. Each time I meet someone, I mistake him for 'YOU'. It seems all sweet at first and then 'POW', the scales fall of my eyes and I realize this can never be YOU!
You'll never leave me broken, NO, you love me too much for that. You see through me and appreciate my shower of love and respect for you.
You won't treat me like those selfish jerks who dish out the very thing they wouldn't take!
Ife mi, I don't know exactly what you look like, but I know that you radiate sweetness, you appreciate the extremely good heart I have which has been stretched, broken and shredded by the people who deceived me into thinking they were YOU!
If only you know ife mi, if only you know how I wish you were here with me now. I wish you could pull me out of this emotional bondage. You do not know how painful it feels to be rejected.
I have faced enough rejection. Enough to last me a life time. It depresses me so much, I start to cry and wonder if it isn't best to remain single. But despite my travail, I still have space to think of you and the joy you'll bring me when I finally meet you.
Life is full of selfish people, I know that for sure. But I know you are not selfish because somewhere in your tiny heart, you are thinking of me too and wondering when I would come.
I know our children would be very beautiful and brilliant (from my genes)but if you are cute and intelligent too, then we'll produce geniuses!
I just want to let you know a few more things about me. I am chubby (a size 14) because I binge when I am sad,though I plan to start working out soon. I am dark, I am not after the bleaching craze, I am extremely loving and romantic, I would gladly spend my last dime just to see you smile as that would make me smile too. I am the most selfless person you would ever know. I don't like arguements, they break me. And I can't keep malice or bear to see us unhappy because of a flimsy quarrel.
I hope you like home cooked meal, because I absolutely love cooking and I hope you start learning how to dote on a woman because I love attention.
I do not ask for much financially, just be comfortable and show me you have prospects and we'll click cos I'm a home builder and I wouldn't mind extra motivation from you.
Let me stop here darling. It's one of those nights, I am broken, my eyes are running, my nose is blocked, my heart is heavy. But I am here, waiting for sleep to come and praying that in my dream tonight, I'll see you and you'll tell me precisely when you are coming.
I love you DFH, see you soon! XOXO
Dee.
Its with tears I am writing this to you. I am writing this after series of heartaches and pain. Each time I meet someone, I mistake him for 'YOU'. It seems all sweet at first and then 'POW', the scales fall of my eyes and I realize this can never be YOU!
You'll never leave me broken, NO, you love me too much for that. You see through me and appreciate my shower of love and respect for you.
You won't treat me like those selfish jerks who dish out the very thing they wouldn't take!
Ife mi, I don't know exactly what you look like, but I know that you radiate sweetness, you appreciate the extremely good heart I have which has been stretched, broken and shredded by the people who deceived me into thinking they were YOU!
If only you know ife mi, if only you know how I wish you were here with me now. I wish you could pull me out of this emotional bondage. You do not know how painful it feels to be rejected.
I have faced enough rejection. Enough to last me a life time. It depresses me so much, I start to cry and wonder if it isn't best to remain single. But despite my travail, I still have space to think of you and the joy you'll bring me when I finally meet you.
Life is full of selfish people, I know that for sure. But I know you are not selfish because somewhere in your tiny heart, you are thinking of me too and wondering when I would come.
I know our children would be very beautiful and brilliant (from my genes)but if you are cute and intelligent too, then we'll produce geniuses!
I just want to let you know a few more things about me. I am chubby (a size 14) because I binge when I am sad,though I plan to start working out soon. I am dark, I am not after the bleaching craze, I am extremely loving and romantic, I would gladly spend my last dime just to see you smile as that would make me smile too. I am the most selfless person you would ever know. I don't like arguements, they break me. And I can't keep malice or bear to see us unhappy because of a flimsy quarrel.
I hope you like home cooked meal, because I absolutely love cooking and I hope you start learning how to dote on a woman because I love attention.
I do not ask for much financially, just be comfortable and show me you have prospects and we'll click cos I'm a home builder and I wouldn't mind extra motivation from you.
Let me stop here darling. It's one of those nights, I am broken, my eyes are running, my nose is blocked, my heart is heavy. But I am here, waiting for sleep to come and praying that in my dream tonight, I'll see you and you'll tell me precisely when you are coming.
I love you DFH, see you soon! XOXO
Dee.
*wow!
Very DEEP...
ReplyDeleteIs well dear God will make a way.
DeleteI can so relate to this!
DeleteHmmmmm
Namesake God will answer your prayers.it's well,I was in the same situation 6yrs ago. I cried, prayed and asked God to inteverne. I did 21 days fasting and praying and he answered my prayers . God will surely bless you this year. Wipe your tears.
DeleteDee
Baby, search no more. I am he whom you have desired in your dreams. I'm young, tall, handsome, caring, loving, compassionate, selfless, generous, smart, religious, industrious, romantic... *Hang on, I think Victoria just walked in...*
ReplyDelete@memphis,U forgot to add 'retarded'
Delete*yawns * wetin con be this one naa stella
ReplyDeleteCrazy shit from a broken babe
ReplyDeleteI feel ur pain
Don't worry our wishes (I dey find too.... winks) ll come 2 past (AMEN)
Me too,Amen
DeleteYou got Me crying can't say much. God bless u real good n May u find dat special one soon.Amen
ReplyDeleteKeep searching for cute husband till ure 50,mtchew
ReplyDeleteI bet u know ure not,=))•´¨)
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Spirit Husband Tinz..............hmmm.......i used to dream of one too, until i realised reality is different from soaps.... In those days of early 2000 when mexican soaps were on our TV....my dream man facially was Migel and charaterwise Diego.....can't remember the soaps name now.
ReplyDeleteANYWAY may ur 'Ife mi' come while u r awake and may you not miss him IJN.....All the best sis.
Lmao.. 'When ur mine'.So u think migel is goodlooking hmmm
Deleterily wow dear future husband pls go to her quickly o
ReplyDeleteWao! I love dis.
ReplyDeleteHmmh,stella I believe God sent this my way tonight to give me hope!! Am just coming from church and I really felt dejected!!I have been asking God when all this rejection will stop and when I'll meet the one that was specially crafted and singled out just for me!! I always tell God what I want my man to be like and I know he will make all things perfect in its time which will be very soon!! God bless the person that wrote this,he will surely find u soon,just put ur heart in God's hand cos if u put it in dat of man,he will mishAndle it!! Put it in the hand of God and God will use his hand to give the one that is truly yours!! Stay positive dear,we shall see him very very soon!!
DeleteI tap to dis comment dear. GOD will remember me too oh. I wantu meet my hubby dis year oh. I will never lack my mate, Amen.. Oh, Lord, ur omniscient spirit knows who and where my mate is, pls proceed precious holy Spirit and arrange dat situation dat will bring us 2geda and unite us as u have already ordained.. AMEN
DeleteAmen to your prayer darling!
DeleteI tap into this comment too. Jehovah may my Adam locate me before Shiloh 2013, in Jesus name I pray, Amen ! My dearest one (Dee), wipe your tears Sweetheart. Everything good will come to you, including your Dear Future Husband. Just stay close to Jesus, and focus on fulfilling Destiny. God bless you immensely.
DeleteAmen and Amen
DeleteAwww...
ReplyDeleteI pray mr right locate u...in Jesus name amen.
ReplyDeleteAwwwww! I'm waiting for u too DFH n hope to see u too cos Dee just wrote how I feel too..Love u so much DFH n hope to see u soon#bbmsadface
ReplyDeleteHa! I'm sure I didn't write this but this describe me to a T. Everything!!! I'm so tired! I honestly want to remain single but the societal reprimand won't allow. I wonder what I did wrong to deserve this. Its well sha. God will prove Himself.
ReplyDeleteOf Course, God Never fails!!! Was in the same boat a while ago and God answered with my wonderful hubby this year... just keep believing.
DeleteThis piece brought tears to my eyes coz I'm feeling the same way right now. Was working in a town n a couple of months back was transfered to a smaller town. Making it more diff.to see any cool guy aroun.the single guys I know are emotionally unavailable. The married ones are all over me with lots of attention, money etc. I'm verry pretty, very respectful,dresses well, selfless, good company, high IG, good job etc but with no man to call my own. Phew!!! God na ur hand I dey o. I'm tired of being single n lonely.
ReplyDeleteI wish and want to be ur DFH! The only ting missin is I'm unemployed @ d moment but I'm a great guy! I can bet on that
DeleteIt doesn't matter where u are. God is too faithful and powerful to fail. Just keep believing. Trust me, I know the feeling.
Deleteme sef 4lo stella shout wow! 4 dis one o
ReplyDeleteI use this as a point of contact for all the single ladies looking for a life partner especially my best friend.
ReplyDeleteAmen. ....
DeleteAmen IJN. #Tok#
DeleteAmen
DeleteAaaaaaaw,Dear future husband,where are u?where?where?....m tired of all dese heart breakers...I feel ur pain Dee
ReplyDeleteBoring..
ReplyDeleteNot as boring or as painful as looking at your ugly face everyday must be for people that know you.... Its a shame you can't wear a mask everyday. Try smiling and being pleasant though, that might help a little.
DeletePele o,wit ur face like oil soaked buns....boring as if u can put togeda an articulate piece....yes I'm anon,do catch d next flight to hell....shior!
DeleteLol@hey and anon10:51,u guys just took the words right outta my mouth!! I am just wet my undies becos am laughing!! See tha face of the person wey dey talk!! I guess she's bored because she's soo ugly and no guy has ever chyked her before!! Ceobosslady,don't be too upset with ur looks,if u change ur behaviour I believe some guys will look past ur ugliness!!! Cheers
DeleteBut 4 real her face is so boring. ..girl but a smile in your face pls...
DeleteI'm single and I've had my fair share of rejection, disappointments and failed relationships but I cannot relate to this letter. When something serious keeps me up at night like this then it must be how to get ahead in life, how to further my career, how to make more money. I don't mean to be mean but this seems to me like an "advertisement", like ur marketing yourself, announcing your selling points to prospective suitors.... Oh well, if you're genuine then I wish you all the best. I sincerely hope he finds you soon, but in the mean, please enjoy your life and find ways to make yourself happy.
ReplyDeleteVALERIE.
Keep licking ur wounds darling,someone is expressing herself n inner tots n u r saying Shez marketing,yet na u cabash midnight prayer pass..keep building ur career n at d end of d day die a lonely old maid....I go come inherit alllllll ur career,moni n ur 'ahead in life'...*tongue out*
DeleteValerie,first and foremost,how is she advertising herself??? Did she send in the piece with her name,surname and phone number?? U just want to seek for notice its like u're bored!! Secondly,if u like be there forming independent woman!! When loneliness will hit u even with all ur cash,nah then ur eyes go open!! Why do u think many widows and widowers remarry,it is mostly for companionship to avoid loneliness!! Pls think before u talk or don't comment at all,she just expressed how she felt,allow her jooor!!
Delete@ Valerie,u need help oh!
DeleteCareer bawo? There will come a time when all that will not be enough!
Stop lieing to yourself,happens to the best of us and its ok to let it out.
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Valerie dear o ga eme gi voom na anya when you hit the big 50 and still lonely. Career woman indeed. We all need a partner in life just accept and stop lying to yourself. Hope you have upto 30million naira in your account,if you don't,then you're sitting on a long thing.
DeleteWe are many.. God help us.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry you feel this way! These boys can't just disappoint you, they are similar, let me not use the word "same".. I feel the same way too! But when the time is right. That special "man" will come.. T.K.O
ReplyDeleteMy future husband,pls locate me on time wherever you are! Tired of waiting fr u:(
ReplyDeleteI am broken, my eyes are running, my nose is blocked, my heart is heavy.
ReplyDeleteHian!all this for a man,chimo ooooo!@ poster,biko,how old are u?I ezewanyi that got married at 14 never got entangled in all this oooo,infact I carry caculator waka go husband house.love,love,love na love uwan chop.msewwww
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DeleteLol Eze wanyi u crack me up. He is a full grown man and not a woman. ...
DeleteThis woman got me laughing so hard...hahaha. NOW YOU GOT MY ATTENTION ON THIS BLOG...LMAO. God Bless You for the Laughs :-)
DeleteEzewanyi nnewi woman,u too like money.
DeleteLovely write up...but the truth is dat some ladies are still single because they they miss the Mr. right. Ladies my advise is dat u all should see the prospects in any man and not just his present state. We all have foresight and we Should make good use of it. Don't want for the prince charming or money miss road type.... Set your priorities, plan and execute them. I am a Living testimony and my prayer for other Single ladies to be happily hooked to a soul partner.God bless u all!
DeleteSometimes I wonder if am searching at the wrong place. Am still searching for that special person to call my wife. Someone I will give a million reasons to smile, someone who will travel with me through the journey of life, no matter how rough the road may look. I hope am not asking for the impossible.
ReplyDeleteOh dear, try nd hook up with me, am single nd ave found love in loving myself, pls come and change my last name to Ihekire.. Am so tired of living single.. Dear Stella, pls hook us up. Thanksyous
Delete@ LyndaSeptember 18, 2013 at 11:32 PM
DeleteI pity u,don't enter one chance oh,something is just off about this commenter!
Cried while reading this with Bryan Adams' 'I'll be right here waiting for you' playing on my phone... Hopefully this would be the last time I'll cry out of pain. He'll come soon, very soon...in Jesus name. Amen
ReplyDeleteAmen
DeleteMany? We plenty die LOL! God would give us the BEST if we believe
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Is that you Chizurum?
DeleteMy sis the competition is tense, too many ladies for few men.
ReplyDeleteGOD help us oo....
ReplyDeleteThank GOD am engaged.....to be married very soon
GoD help us all
@spy
Be fast o! Anything can happen. I know a girl dat said she is ready to disengage couples to have d engaged man marry her lol.
DeleteNa so....
ReplyDeleteJust pray and believe. #everythingispossibleifubelieve.
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@ceobosslady pls dont give up. He will come at the right time n dont let frustration take over you. Pele
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm lord hear d cry of ur beloved daughters of zion!
ReplyDeleteSounds like ur happiness solely depends on ur future husband... Pls be happy and cherish each moment that comes by.
ReplyDeleteI like this comment. God bless you Catherine. Dear Dee, no lover like Jesus. Find yourself in Him first. Don't worry, dear future Husband will come, and soon, but be complete in God first, so your union will be as solid as a rock. God bless you Sweetie. And blessed be God !
DeleteI like this comment. God bless you Catherine. Dear Dee, no lover like Jesus. Find yourself in Him first. Don't worry, dear future Husband will come, and soon, but be complete in God first, so your union will be as solid as a rock. God bless you Sweetie. And blessed be God !
DeleteWorrisdis? You re planning to be a doormat? What if he wants a strong woman to grow with him? You just wanna be mrs? Do you know what life has become for those whose ambition was to exchange their last name for anyone' just to be accepted? Abegi! You re already limiting ur needs and parading domestic skills? Someone should tell this babe that all the 'bitches' re married! That's the way of the world! Don't over compensate!Be yourself. Ok u don't want much financially.Meaning you won't mind bringing home the beacon. Well done o.After una go dey cuss monalisa as provider! If you get your DFH by stooping unreasonably, u will be here again lamenting . Am not hating. Its called tough love!And Yes! I do ve a man! Signed:wide eyed!
ReplyDeleteNne abeg take several seats, if u dnt know wat to post, just read and pass. Thank you
DeleteWide eyed has a point. She does.
DeleteWide eyed has a point. She does.
DeleteWide eyed, well said! I thought so too...EEE!!!
DeleteDear Wide Eyed,I agree with you totally but I don't think that is what she meant.
DeleteBut if it is,you are 100% correct. Infact,its not worth it if you have to be someone else!
Atimes I wonder If ♍γ̲̣̣̥ mr right Ȋ̝̊̅§ someone I hv already met or sm1 am yet τ̅☺ meet..pls come show Ūя̲̅ self already am tired of meetin the wrong guys..baba God I dey Ūя̲̅ hand oo
ReplyDeleteI feel your pain, buh u must know that u have to learn to be happy without a man. don't make a man ur priority, build urself n be strong. Don't be the woman that needs a man, be the woman a man needs.
ReplyDeleteWord!!!!!!
DeleteGod bless u anon 12:02am.. U will live long.. This is the best comment so far.. The best thing a woman can do 4 herself is becoming d woman men need!!
DeleteWord !!! I love this comment ! God bless you for this !
DeleteThank you my darling sis! Be that woman a man needs.when you are that woman that needs a man,who will attract users and loosers! Be happy! Make your self the best woman around and before you know it,you will be dancing Azonto at your wedding.May God give the writer a good man in the end! Signed:wide eyed!
DeleteAmen my darlings! may God bless us all with a good man in his faithfulness.
DeleteMy heart tells me you look for that love that doesn't recognise you and all the effort and the love u give in return, I know how it feels cuz u ain't in dis alone.. ( heavy heart, sleepless night) but your love will find a way! Stay strong, and don't stop that love in ur heart. Cuz u just made my love stronger.
ReplyDeleteMy heart tells me you look for that love that doesn't recognise you and all the effort and the love u give in return, I know how it feels cuz u ain't in dis alone.. ( heavy heart, sleepless night) but your love will find a way! Stay strong, and don't stop that love in ur heart. Cuz u just made my love stronger.
ReplyDeleteThank u Jare. This sorta thinking is the exact reason u keep getting rejected. Men don't like women that let them walk all over them in the name of love. U better toughen up and begin to appreciate ur self more and be more 4 ur self. PS. I'm married. So speaking from experience. #nawa4futureneedywifesha.
ReplyDeleteI wish dia wz a radar, dat indicates d right man! I wish I cld ear d pim...pim..pim signal as I get closa to my man!
ReplyDeleteAs soon as I ear d Pim.Pim.pi.p. Omo! If I site d guy ehn, I go first whooze d gy SLAP, for keepin me waitin! and den I wld hug him till I break his ribs!
To my future hubby, am a handful, u have to b a very patient n understndin man n u av to promise me fine children #Smiles!
And ur slap de await u, don't kip me waitin for too long.
Lol..and after d slap,he wud dissApear into thin air n then d search begins...lmao.PJ
DeleteStella. ℓ̊ av seen τ̣̣ђℓ̊s b4. U̶̲̥̅̊ won cum d̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ johnes u§.
ReplyDeleteWhat about broken hearted dudes like me? Well I think about my future beautiful daughter. She's the best thing that's gonna ever happen to me.
ReplyDeleteAs for those who break hearts, karma is biatch. Ff @CALL_ME_ELL
Speechless, I'm just speechless but my dear I have an advice for u, it is better to b lonely than to marry d wrong person, I used to b afraid of loneliness, I almost settled for wat I now called my worse nightmares all bcos of societal pressure, a date was fixed for my wedding, everytin was bought nd paid for but I wasn't happy, When my sisters saw my attitude dey advice I took a day off to talk to myself nd I did , My dear friends dat was d end of dat Engagement, I'm alone now but guess wat? I'm happier, I see my supposed husband nd run away, can't even imagine I dated him talk more of planing to spend d rest of my life wit him. My dear, be strong as u wil find love soon just open ur heart, I believe so much in love nd as a result I couldn't settle for just anytin bcos of marriage, Love is all dat matters. Just be strong nd thank God for d gift of life #only d living can get married#**wink*
ReplyDeleteGOD will grant your heart desire with a good Man.But you have to love yourself first and be happy without a Man. Then true love will naturally locate you .
ReplyDeleteHe's gonna be with you sooner than you think just keep thanking God for him and pray to God to watch over him wherever he is. Pray for him everyday, that things go well at his job and that he's blessed, that he finds God and lives by his word. Your husband is close to you, don't EVER give up or let the thought and fear of being alone ever creep in cos it will mess with your faith. Xoxoxoxoxoxox darling, God has heard you and it's time for you to wipe away your tears and cry no more. This is the last time you would cry for The Lord will give you that which you have prayed for and believed.
ReplyDeleteDon't stop thanking and praising The Lord.
Same goes to all who have prayed and have faith and who use the above comment as a point of contact. The Lord has heard us all.
ReplyDeleteSome really desperate babes out here.
ReplyDeleteThis just makes me feel like throwing up in my mouth. It reeks of neediness. Must your life radiate around a man?? This attitude is probably what is chasing all those men away!
ReplyDeleteThe issue is never in the waiting, because the wait will sure end one day. The real issue is whether you will be prepared when the future husband comes? Sometimes the wait is to enable more maturity to a point where the girl's attitude can cope with the kind of man she will end up with.
ReplyDeleteBest approach is to enjoy being single, be hopeful and keep preparing. Marriage is a life changing decision and everybody should go in very very prepared such that they will keep standing when the storm comes.
Best of luck to our sisters, the single ladies..
With all your so called attributes yet no man! Why?because men smell desperation. Men want a good woman, not a doormat; men love challenges; men love women who are real and themselves; when a man loves you, your imperfections are perfect in his eyes. Be yourself, love yourself, improve yourself, and when you're not looking a good man may come calling.
ReplyDelete@ Ihekire Tony, pls are u lukin 4 sum1 2 give ur millions too or what.... Am available in dat aspect ooooo and am very beautiful. Dear God! Pls when u want to show me my future husband, let him kom with cool cash so I will quickly accept him. Cos if he koms alone. U go find anoda person 4 me ooo.
ReplyDeleteValerie's comments are always stupid. Is it just today you noticed it? She's the one who attacks Bloglord the most.
ReplyDeletePray that God restores all your lost glories. A lot of single women have their glories taken away by some people. There are people sitting on your marital glories. You need to break those things.
ReplyDeletehmmm same shoes with you.really need a transfer back to lag because in ph here no beta single man,na only married men.awwwww
ReplyDeleteLmao
ReplyDeleteLol...
ReplyDeleteEMI OKO WON LODE HOOOOOOOOOOO MA NA NAGERE MALO MA LO PE EMI OKO WON LODE HOOOOOOOOO
ReplyDeleteStella, I will advise that you create a post once every week where men and women looking for DFHs and DFWs can drop their BB pins or emails added with a little bit of self description albeit anonymously, and connect with each other. Help your single brethrens out!!
ReplyDeleteSupported!!!
DeleteNot a bad idea :) Supported here as well!!
DeleteLmao!
ReplyDeleteMy story so far....but am not giving up on love. It will find me cuz I ain't looking no more. U know how you start looking for something u did not misplace and when you stop looking it just creeps up on you? My dears, stop looking, love would find us all. Its well.
ReplyDeletelove yourself dear writer! happiness doesn't come from men! it starts from YOU!
ReplyDeleteisi gi
ReplyDeleteI hope u find the love that you so badly crave but plz u need to find contentment and happiness in urself first.
ReplyDeleteHow cld dis babe fall in love with somebody she has never met? Nna mehn some people can be very irritating mchewwwwwww
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