Oration at the Grave-side of Late Yetunde Omodolapo Olotu-Jagha on June 14,2013 in Dublin,Ireland by her father.
I really dont know what to say,this is really so sad!
His daughter Yetunde wrote a letter to her abuser before she died.see the mail by clicking here
The fathers Oration reads
'' It is indeed agonizing to write this story; it is about our beloved daughter Yetunde Omodolapo Olotu Jagha, she had a happy and enviable childhood, committed parents, a dream secondary school, her dream university and graduated a truthful, fulfilled, Christ- loving adult.
1. Yetunde Omodolapo had just gained an admission into the federal University of Technology, Akure, Nigeriafor a master degree program when suddenly she brought Mr.Noble Oritsemeyin Jagha(Oti) for marriage. It was marriage or nothing as they had agreed to suspend that admission for another year which never materialized.
2.The entire (Idano) betrothal obligation that was expected to be provided by the husband’s family according to Yoruba tradition was not provided. We bore the cost of these betrothal obligations: the entertainment at the engagement ceremony and the after-marriage party. This was done in good faith just as we accepted the husband in all sincerity not minding his financial status. We took him as a son.
3. Not long after the birth of their first child, news started filtering to my wife and I that Oti as the husband was fondly called stayed out late and had at some stages beat his wife even with belt. “I wonder why my daughter had to undergo this brutish act, despite the fact that she was betrothed to him a virgin; a virtuous woman she was!
4. In this quest my daughter departed to Dublin, he continued in his night crawling; leaving their little child alone all the time. He was also involved in loads of unhealthy relationship with strange women. This information became known to through his driver when my wife and I stayed a night in his house while he was said to have traveled. He even brought home women laundry. We did not inform our daughter about this discovery because we wanted to save their marriage which was at the verge of dissolution. Hence, we encouraged Oti to join his wife.
5 The first sign of financial unreliability we experienced from Mr. Jagha was when my wife’s nephew who lived in London sent Oti some money to be deposited into his bank account in a bank where Oti worked in Ibadan,Nigeria. Up till date, the money has not been recovered from him.
6 .Then came his involvement in fraud which led to his flee from Nigeria. My wife also loaned him an amount of N1.2 million to repay his debt but he did not. Instead, he used the money as fare to flee Nigeria to London while he abandoned the entire family belongings. The Criminal Investigative Department officers that were laying siege on their home were subsequently led to us in Akure from Ibadan by his office driver with a view to apprehending me. This great loss of assets and dignity was another reason our late daughter became fed up with the unwholesome corrupt life style of this ignoble Oti as a husband. But after his pressure on us by incessant telephone calls and the fact that their innocent first, nursery age child was with him, also suffering in London, we persuaded our daughter to allow him join her in Dublin hoping that he would change for the better. Unfortunately, he never changed, he proved correct the Yoruba adage which says “the character of a man never leaves him because it is in- borne.” He started his ignoble life style; fighting his wife over allowances from government that was meant for the children’s maintenance, the wife’s earnings from her daily toils, and his free life style. Rather than pick up a job to join in the maintenance of the family, he prefers to loiter the street in quest for flings and speaking on the phone for hours with women.
7 .He finally made his wife to have another pregnancy that gave them the twin baby girls for which reason the stone- hearted husband abandoned the wife in the hospital because none of the twins is a male child. From that time, he boasted to me several times on telephone, that he must have a male child from any other source. He hated the idea of our daughter not having a male child, he blamed and frustrated her for it even unto death. I pleaded with him that countries like Britain, Germany, India, Liberia etc had females as head of governments of their countries but this meant nothing to his resolute decision.
8. Jagha was accused severally of having affairs with married women in the church whose husbands in return made dolapo’s life a living hell sending her texts and emails of curses and of threatening nature coupled with what she was facing at home and having to work 6 days a week to maintain the whole family, not long after, our daughter was diagnosed of breast cancer. According to Mr. Jagha, he knew when the attack (Satanic Arrow) was sent to him and the wife but he dodged it while his wife could not. He did not agree with the wife to see a doctor when the lump was initially found and disagreed it should be removed when advised by doctors. He insisted on prayer alone and our daughter succumbed to his wicked advice wanting to be obedient. However when it worsened she had to be hospitalized. The husband‘s main concern all the time had not always been the health of the wife but to extort money for his free life style, even though he refused to take up any Job. The wife finally had to approach the court for a safety and protection order/ judicial separation when she could no longer bear the physical and mental abuse she suffered in the hands of Oti. The church persuaded our daughter to withdraw any legal action which she did in obedience. The church claimed that Oti resolved to be of good behavior and pleaded return back to their home which he had abandoned with the family car so that dolapo had to trek with the children to school in bad weather while under treatment until her condition grew worse, he was never supportive despite all appeal to him from quarters including his wife until she was moved to the hospice.
9.From the Yoruba perspective, it should be inferred that the so-called arrow of cancer was Oti’s diabolic act. So that once the wife was eliminated; he would be free to marry another wife as permitted by Christian faith, he had promised a certain lady in the church he was having an affair with that he would marry her when his wife dies, this was revealed to dolapo by the lady’s friends. It may surprise you that this man is a “PASTOR.” One is therefore surprised that such an ignoble Mr. Noble Jagha could be appointed a Pastor of that reputable church in which he worships even against his wife’s plea that he needed to change, grow and restitute (she was ignored). As the father of late Yetunde Omodolapo, it is my conclusion that her husband was responsible for her untimely cruel death; out of demonic acts and charms, long drawn oppression and neglect even on her final sick bed.
Oti was the primary killer while cancer was just a secondary cause of death, and why is this not a surprise for someone who tried to kill his own blood sister.Throughout the time she was hospitalized her friends and church members drew a 24hrs roaster to take turns in taking care of her. The husband turned up once in a while to see if she was still breathing and urges her to transfer money to his account every week. He stole her bank card at the hospital and robbed her a sum of One thousand Euros plus and transferred money from the deceased’s account to an unknown account of a man in Athlone (An elder in the church whom we gathered he owes) and also fuelled his car and enjoyed the luxury of our daughters stipend in company of her girlfriends in Athlone on the grounds that he was getting paid for looking after his own children. We reliably gathered that on the day our daughter died, her estranged husband’s first concern was seizure of the death certificate and the approach of her late wife’s office for information of how to collect her terminal retirement financial benefits. How dare you lay claim on the benefit of a woman you cruelly hated and sent to her early grave, and whose corpse was yet to be buried? This is unacceptable Mr Jagha!
10.When Mr. Jagha arrived Dublin, I advised him to engage himself in a meaningful employment from which he would be able to earn good money from which he could repay and restitute the embezzled money from the bank and become a free man rather than hide in Europe. He bluntly refused; the image of a wanted criminal meant nothing to him.
11.One could see, therefore, why late Yetunde could never be comfortable with a man without a conscience. A man who chose to cover his slothful, ignoble, secret and sinful life style with the title of a “PASTOR”. This accounts for his hidden agenda to eliminate his wife for not bearing a male child.
12.Mr. Noble Oritsetimeyin Jagha boasted several times that he would assemble his prayer warriors and hold vigils to hasten her death; no wonder my daughter was not shocked when she saw the prayer points in Noble Jagha’s purse which he forgot at the hospice while he came to ask for money from the wife as usual; the prayer-point stated that God should strike Yetunde’s heart and that she should do no other thing except what he (Jagha) orders her to do. Little wonder, if this is the ideal prayer that a dying woman required on her sick bed. When she even pleaded with her husband to pray for her, he bluntly refused.
On the night before the death of my daughter, while my daughter could hardly speak, he was in another bout of accusations about who said what about who reported to the child-protection agency that he left the kids at home for two days on a row to go to school and sleep all by themselves while he visited his concubine in Athlone while Yetunde was at the hospice. Now that she is dead, how then, can Mr. Noble Jagha suddenly develop sincere love and concern for these innocent female children after the death of their mother? We are aware that you see them as your meal ticket/money bag and nothing else…….
The wicked shall not go unpunished therefore; a so-called pastor who has not a fruit of the spirit to show for the prayer power he claims to demonstrate is another Elymasthe sorcerer and shall disappear into hell suddenly as such at God’s appointed time.
Therefore, no one seeking the true God, and therefore true success, true prosperity here on earth, and eternal life for that matter, should worship under such a pastor regardless of what powers of prayer he demonstrates (Matt 7 -21-23). God’s word stand for ever “Surely the wicked shall be caught in his own craftiness; he shall not go scot-free.
13 As our daughter is interred into her eternal rest, all parents, friends, on lookers must strive hard that their children, and relations do not fall into the nets of the satanic wicked spouse. Christian churches of the living God should strive hard that they do not hire pastors like the ignoble; Satan- possessed Mr. Noble Jagha that will send their innocent worshippers into eternal doom.
Yetunde, my beloved daughter, rest in perfect peace, in the bosom of the living God of vengeance till we meet to part no more''.
Source: Dare Lasisi
Am glad dare lasisi brought this story on here as well..mr jagha shld come out n tell his own side of the story instead of threatening d journalist involved...may Dolapo's soul rest in peace,n may God watch over her almost orphan kids...
ReplyDeleteGod will surely punish dis man.....
ReplyDeleteAmen in Jesus name. Amen.
DeleteThis is so painful. I'm so sad. Lord have mercy on us.
ReplyDeleteThis story is too sorrowful and it will sure keep me sad all day....Mr Jagha is indeed a DEVIL! I'm short of words...am sad.
ReplyDeleteDo you know this evil man he lives near me him nd Sheila L jagah he deserves a painful life
DeleteNa wa oh! Religious organisations shd stop encouraging bartered women return to their wayward husbands.
ReplyDeleteRIP yetunde
Tru tlk! Dt is d point: bt all dey kip sayin is dt God is against divorce... Am jst speechless! May d soul of d departed RIP.
DeleteǺ♍ telling U̶̲̥̅̊ d churches shuld stop encouraging battered women Τ̅☺ still stay in their marriage, S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡ sad. Yetunde may U̶̲̥̅̊я soul rest in peace.
DeleteIm from athlone nd this man is living with the woman sheila luzembo hes evil nd I feel so sad for this women nd now hes engaged.to a women with 5 kids nd living with 9 kids now just for.the money hes an animal no other word for.him sorry for the loss of your daughter
Delete*heavy sigh*
ReplyDeleteIt is well
This is so sad I don't know what to say but pray for dolapo for peace where ever she is now may almighty God bless ur soul. To the parents God almighty will give u the heart to bear diz loss and d kids God will take care of u and his love will never depart from u kids u r d best and will be d best ijn. And to u Mr jagha oti God sees whatsoever is hidden but u'll sure pay for this on earth and in heaven.
ReplyDeleteStella God bless u, we human hate each other, y marry a woman when u don't love her or cannot love her?
Me say so
So touching, R.I.P
ReplyDeleteThe heart of man is indeed desperately wicked. Lord please direct our steps to Men who are indeed after ur own heart! I'm certain marriage can be beautiful. Not all men are beasts.
ReplyDeleteNa wa ooooo.... Am just speechless..... Have Mercy on every lady going through abuse from their spouses....Fear just dey grip me...
ReplyDeleteRest In Peace Yetunde
This is heartbreaking. Honestly, that man won't go unpunished. It's so sad sha.
ReplyDeleteShe should have divorced him and had primary custody of her children. Hope he will not abuse his kids
ReplyDeleteThe parents also have a hand in killing their daughter. They kept encouraging him to go back to him! When she had a lump, why did they not insist that it gets taken out. I've never commented here but this is truly disgusting and makes me even more wary of men.
ReplyDeleteWomen, be careful! Being a virtuous virgin does not guarantee you a good man, it's very painful that her short life ended under such a cloud of pain and sorrow. LEAVE and have peace, DON'T let people who don't know what you're suffering dictate to you.
Ohhhh my dear. Why advice her to stay with him? And what sort of obedience will make me ignore my health for marriage? Especially when married to such a man? Ladies a bad man is a bad man. No matter how good you are he won't change. Maybe she would still be alive if she had gone for treatment as soon as she noticed the lump. Now she has left those lovely girls for this beast.
DeleteSeconded!
DeleteParents were careless!
And she shouldn't have allowed people dictate to her!
Me,I don't deceive myself,we women should learn not to think of the shame of being single or divorced in situations like this!
I have noticed that women are ready to marry "anything" and stay in abusive relationships,mental or physical,just to be called "mrs".
God is not an author of confusion,so HE CANNOT give u such an unberable husband or wife!
Why is the father writing this now?He would have fought for the daughter.... They are living outside this country and are priviledged to have laws protecting women. I still don't understand why she stayed in that union because it was not marriage. Why didn't the parents hand the guy over to the bank he defrauded? So many questions. The bottom line women should know when to take a leave. Rest in peace Yetunde
DeleteSo sad. All in d name of marriage. May devil punish u seriously!
ReplyDeleteOh! What a pity, she should have left this idiot oooooo,n taken care of her children. It's possible he sent d arrow of cancer. He will die a miserable death.
ReplyDelete#rme
DeleteWhich one is arrow of cancer again?
Please be serious!
'Now there was a day when the sons of God came to present themselves before the Lord and satan also came among them" Job 1:6.
ReplyDeleteIts not everybody that goes to church that is a Christian and not every body that answers Pastor is of God. Let us all (men and women) be watchful because there are Wolves among sheep and foxes among hens. Oti, run to God fast and let your wifes death be a turning point for good. Treat her children with the love (NOT THE NACKING TYPE O) and respect that you deprived her. Dolapo, go and receive your recompense.
I can neva for any reason marry a Pastor i promised my late grand mum that.my senior sister married to a pastor with Deeper Life Bible church is also facing same fate. PASTOR IS JUST A TITTLE.SO SO SAD.
ReplyDeleteHello dear, not all pastors are bad!
DeleteThe problem is that people feel that everybody that calls himself is Godly!
I can neva for any reason marry a Pastor i promised my late grand mum that.my senior sister married to a pastor with Deeper Life Bible church is also facing same fate. PASTOR IS JUST A TITTLE.SO SO SAD.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous 7.34pm am afraid I may have to concur with you a bit on that. Dint this woman deserve some peace before she died and y dint her parents make her leave ds joke she called marriage? Why was she still with this monster? Y? Even on her dying bed n last moments, I know y, our society is sick, we need a make over, we push people into a state of desperation to marry and woe betide the person if the marriage is a bad one, ma wa dale mosu, go n die there, go n pray. I agree it is ok to resolve issues but what of where it is life threatening? She didn't want to be seen as a failure so she endured, not fair at all. Now how will the monster take Kia of d kids, there welfare etc when he couldn't when she was sick, sad story. I am pained jagha u have murdered sleep and you shall sleep no more if this is true, peace will elude you, what sort of servant of God are u? Shame , rip in peace dear, u r in a better place.
ReplyDeleteGod have mercy!!!!Sorry for your lost.
ReplyDeleteMay the soul of Yetunde RIP. God have mercy on us and our dauthers. Do not allow us to see such evil. Let your will be done to the so call husband/Pastor.
ReplyDeleteAunty Yetunde,may ur soul rest in peace.You were a good christian,the last time I saw u was when ur first daughter was a baby...I met ur husband then,he looked responsible but I didn't know he was d devil's rep on earth.where on earth did u meet him???He will surely pay for his sins as long as christ lives.May God comfort ur parents n ur siblings.RIP dear sis...
ReplyDeleteHer huzzy I thk was with old Standard Trust Bank....so over to You,management of UBA,go and arrest one of the pple dat defrauded ur bank,Mr Timeyin Noble Jagha.He lives in Dublin.
ReplyDeleteOga o. May her gentle soul rest in perfect peace. God bless Jagunmolu for bringing ds up.
ReplyDeleteAunty Yetunde,may ur soul rest in peace.You were a good christian,the last time I saw u was when ur first daughter was a baby...I met ur husband then,he looked responsible but I didn't know he was d devil's rep on earth.where on earth did u meet him???He will surely pay for his sins as long as christ lives.May God comfort ur parents n ur siblings.RIP dear sis...
ReplyDeleteIm from Athlone this man is very evil nd his wife only died since last year nd hes nearly married to another congo woman Sheila luzembo
Deletethe Evil woman he was having an affair with.. they drive jeeps nd I heard they both from yetundes funeral money.. they tell ppl they can cure cancer her name is sheila L jagah on facebook...I hope god gives these people everything they deserve
May Her Soul RIP!
ReplyDeleteMay God protect her kids!
I leave Mr Oti to God.
I think the parents should have done more for their daughter since they were aware of the man's behaviour from the beginning!
RIP yettty. But I blame u parent too. Why did u ve to leave her with such a man after u know d kind of behaviour he has and u know ur daughter was innocent. It is well but don't worry dat man will meet his own soon.
ReplyDeleteThe father of the deceased woman did not do enough to protect her from that monster. This is simply parental carelessness and stupid obedience.
ReplyDeleteHow could you have encouraged or allowed him to join your daughter in Dublin after you had witnessed the irresponsible and criminal lifestyle he lived in Nigeria and after he had stolen money from the bank where he worked and was wanted by the police.
As I read this story,i had to read again because I felt so sick that a lady could allow her life to be wasted by an ordinary man.I find it so difficult to believe especially as it happened in Dublin and in 2013.I am a CAC pastor's daughter but when we were growing up my daddy treated my mummy like a precious being(not all the time of course like every other marriage)but allowing your husband to dictate your healthcare(fasting and praying after she was diagonised with breast cancer was totally out of place)WHY DIDNT SHE SPEAK OUT SAY ONE YEAR AGO?Even if she died she would have seen some judgement melted out on her behalf.Where are the man's family members?dont they have daughters too?Sooo angry
ReplyDeleteHes living in Moate Athlone.hes an evil person for me.he shud not b in this society or near any.kids for.what he has done to this poor.lady may she R.I.P
DeleteI blame the parents too. You married her off. The lazy goat called Oti did not contribute a dime to the wedding, rubbish. Women pls shine your eyes, this has to stop. It's happening to a friends sister as we speak. The husband does not have a dime, he is lazy, did not even go to school, all the engagement stuffs were bought by the brides family. This lazy bros carries her ATM card around. What is this world turning into?
ReplyDeleteI weep for the pains she went through, may God grant her eternal rest. As for "Oti", the Lord will judge him accordingly.
ReplyDeleteThe parents of this lady failed her also...her parents should have taken their daughter away, marriage is not a do or die affair!
ReplyDeleteI hope he will not abuse these innocent girls. Jagha please do not ill treat or kill these girls. They are your blood and flesh. You will suffer in agony if you do. I leave you to God's vengeance on Yetunde's case.
ReplyDeleteI am not comfortable with these girls with you. Rest in Peace Yetunde
Let's not be quick to blame the parents, no parent will knowingly let their child suffer, let's just learn from their loss and pray we never ve to suffer the same. R.I.P Yetunde, smile with the angels. May God strengthen her parents and watch over her home. As for oti, I leave God to judge you.
ReplyDeleteI am not shocked about this story. The day ALL CHRISTIAN WOMEN READ 1st BOOK OF CORINTHIANS, CHAPTER 7 , they will be free from pastors' advice and FOLLOW PAUL'S suggestion!
ReplyDeleteWho can understand the state of mind of an emotionally abused person? I am moved to tears at this story but to be sincere I think the blame lies with her (May God rest her Soul, please I hope what am saying is not harsh) but I feel its true, it also lies with the church/society. I say her because her age during her 12 years marriage was between 29 and 41, she is not a child that her parents or the church or society should dictate her state of happiness, She was an adult, and a working adult, so that issue of being too dependent on a spouse wasnt there. She was aware of all the hurt her so called 'husband' did for those years, she even made some efforts to reduce the hurt but for some reasons had to stay put. At 40 what can one parents do? Is it legal to physically remove a 40year old from her home without facing charges without her express consent? even if the parents had said she was abused and proceeded to remove her, if she herself didnt lay the compaint, the parents can possibly be charged. As adult we are responsible for our actions (unless mentally incapacitated). . Another thing is Our society including the church places value on married women regardless of if her face is battered daily, regardless of if her outlook is depressed or gloomy, her eyes are now permanently on the floor due to years of low esteem, her physical appearance has drastically changed from before the marriage or her utterances has changed from sweet words to bitter words..Society stilll believes such women should stay put! In the same breath our society including the church diminishes the value of divorcees, single mothers and to an extent single women. Some churches dont even want these people to attend their church and do not want to support their children. This is why women stick through even till a brutal death.
ReplyDeleteAll that said the lady at the end of the day won, she has told her story, she has dictated in very clear terms how her survivors should be treated, she has adequate backing by the law. She stood up for herself. She is now at peace. I wish i knew her to comfort her :(
God bless the survivors and if you are still in it please choose life!!!!!
Mena
Here is a victim of domestic abuse and how she solved it..agree or not?
http://efemenaoreoluwa.blogspot.com/2013/05/how-she-got-out-of-abusive-relationship.html
Mr Jagha wants a male child??But as a male himself,what positive impact has he made on the country he lives or at least on his family???I pray we don't have more devilish male children like him.
ReplyDeleteI believe very strongly that before a man is ordained a pastor of a church,he ought to have been successful in his home as a husband n father...charity they say,begins from home....
May Sis Yetunde's soul rest in peace,amen.
I hope her innocent children will be taken away from Mr jagha......May God keep them.It is well.
Emannuella I miss u so much sorry about your may she rest in perfect peace.
ReplyDeleteHes in Athlone I see him all the time.married to Sheila L hes s nd shes verck if.I new the man im living withjagahhesshim is like this id run quickly...
DeletePls send Emannuella my love. From a friend in colaiste pobail setanta. We all miss you and love from rang ruairi .
ReplyDeleteThis so call Pastor jagah brake my marrige he will pay for it on earth anty Dolapo rest in peace
ReplyDeleteHe's in Athlone the animal
DeleteSe una don hear ooo ! We should be thankful that this woman and her father have told their story so many women in Nigeria home and abroad are suffering Abuse and living a miserable ldoublw pretentious life to the public, pls use this publication and learn about what happens when you stay in an abusive relationship.
ReplyDeleteFor as long as some churches say Copley can't divorce as long as a partner is still alive then you will have partners wishing death on the other partner , so many women are suffering in their homes becos of the church law and I actually wonder if it is the will of God who is such a merciful God .
As for the Church , hmmmm I have also been deceived by a so called serious Christian , so ladies don't be deceived by churchious boy who claim to be men of God let their character let you make your decision .
no i don't blame the parents im married with two kids..i hide so many things from my parents even though friends will tell them,i will try to cover out..i think that is what was happening her parents were not sure cause it was here say and she is their daughter and they will take her word..im in the process uf my divorse..RIP lady
ReplyDeleteThis man is now working in Athlone Credit Union or so his facebook says, i wonder do they know of his history with frauds in Nigeria, maybe not but it wont be long before they do because i will personally tell them myself, anywhere there is money you will find jagha, what an evil evil man and he proves the word to be right where it talks about wolves in sheep clothing, he is definitely one of those
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