UPDATE:
Obys husband Mr Okoli visited her where she is squatting this evening ,he had told her earlier today that he wanted to tell her something.
He arrived with a pastor and knelt down begging her that the lady she saw earlier today is the lady he wants to marry as second wife....the pastor joined in begging oby to allow the second wife come in....Pastor???
This woman needs Jesus right now....Jesus!
This story has brought me down to my knees and i have been asking myself how i got involved in this..Probably God is trying to use me/you/us to reach out and touch this broken womans life...surely!
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I had been calling Mrs Oby Okoli to find out if she had been reading the comments relating to her cry out for help but the number was off all the times i tried.
She called me today and she was crying that "this life means nothing to me anymore and i am thinking of ending it all''.
I asked her what had happened and she said she has been in the hospital and that her hubby beat her and pushed her and she fell and hit her stomach on an iron rod and she is in deep pains.
She said she had run away to her sisters house for fear of being chased away by him and when she went back to take a change of clothing items thinking he would not be there,she met him with another lady and asked him who the lady was and if she was the reason he wanted her out.
He told her to mind her business and leave and she confronted the lady asking her what she was doing in her hubbys house,the lady asked her back who she was and the hubby intervened by beating her up and she ended up in hospital.
She said he has come to beg her and pay the bills and she has forgiven him but is desperate to end it all. she said He has told her to move back home and that he would tell her something this evening. (Today June 24,2013)
She said she has forgiven him but feels like killing herself. She was wailing and saying she needs prayers as there was nothing to live for anymore.
I have gotten mails from a few people who said they wanted to pray with her. Please her number is 08188165350
Please only call if you can minister to this lady, Call her and encourage her before she kills herself from the frustration of childlessness. We will all be part of her miracle story in Jesus name.
She also said that she read all the comments this morning and thanks everyone for their contributions to the earlier post.
My heart is heavy but I believe God will meet this lady at the point of her need... Please call and if possible speak to the husband.I am sure they are both acting out of the frustration of being childless
he is 42yrs old and his family are on his neck and she is 36yrs old and thinks the world has ended for her
This is an SOS!..please do not call to cuss out anyone!
Mrs Oby Okoli 08188165350
*forgive any error,my hands are shaking as i type*
Kill yourself and forever be damned. If this short sentence doesn't minister wisdom into your head, then you need to be sectioned.
ReplyDeleteDon't be like that. People react to situations differently! If u can't encourage her or say something positive then u don't have to say a fucking word!!! U could be in a worse situation today. Mind your words they can bring u misfortune.
Delete@Reime, you don't have to rebuke him/her; you should have known that some people are just mannerless when it comes to addressing issue. I guess he needs tongue reconstruction.
DeleteMadam let me start by telling you to give your life to Christ! At 36 you want to kill yourself becos you don't have a child yet(I won't say childless bcos with God all things are possible) am 38 and I don't even have a boyfriend let alone husband or a child but what can I do, killing myself is not in my book! Men don't call me it's as simple as that I don't know what's going on bcos am a beauty to behold, my father said I shld stop driving my car, that I shld enter public transport that men will see and talk to me but after a month I couldn't cope so am back to driving myself to work! What am trying to say is that just believe and trust in God and everything will come at the right time if you can't wait any longer go and adopt, there are many motherless babies crying for attention so pls don't KILL yourself bcos I know you'll smile soon! I won't advise you to leave your husband but pls be careful bcos my elder sister has been looking up to God for the past 14 yrs, she's 53 now in the proccess of looking for a child outside the HUSBAND infected her with HIV! Pls TRUST IN GOD and he'll give you a child that will stay with you till old age!
DeleteMadam, please without mincing words its time to pack out. Is it in this hateful condition you want to raise a child? Please which hospital are you right now? (which stella must verify) Also open an account which can be verified by Stella or her represenatives (sorry am not saying you are lying but experience has shown that due dilligence matters) and allow us donate to IN YOUR NAME to rent a place for you, so for 2 or 3 years you can rest and recover, then possibly start a small business for you..at least with time
ReplyDeleteHaba haba haba, such is life, ah women pls work hard o, save your money in whatever way you can!! Imagine after a 17years old marriage where is the love? IF HE WAS HARDHEARTED ENOUGH TO ASK YOU TO LEAVE AND BEAT YOU TO THE HOSPITAL BED, HE IS HEARTLESS ENOUGH TO HAVE SLEPT AROUND WITH BABES, WHY DIDNT ANY OF THEM GET PREGNANT??
MADAM ABEG ABEG ABEG DONT DO SUICIDE, LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL IT IS WONDERFUL, THE JOYS OF LIVING IS MORE MYSTERIOUS THAN HAVING NATURAL CHILDREN, IT IS PEACEFUL. YOU ARE FAR FAR TOOO YOUNG, WOMEN MUCH OLDER THAN YOU ARE LIVING IN PEACE WITHOUT HAVING NATURAL CHILDREN. GOD WHO GIVES LIFE IS BIGGER THAN YOUR CURRENT SORROWS. PLEASE FIGHT THIS DEPRESSION AND PLS CHOOSE LIFE AND IN JESUS NAME YOUR CASE SHALL BE A TURNING POINT FOR OTHERS GOING THROUGH SIMILAR ANGUISH.
Well said. I just sent her a message self
DeleteU don talk finish. 17 yrs of hard labour, ur mates don dey collect pension for other countries.
DeleteU still hv 30 years to make up for this loss b4 retirement, as for pregnancy me I don talk my own. Sample another man for 1 month and thank me later
The Lord that doeth hard things shall visit u by fire. Wait on The Lord, be of good courage and he must surely answer you. If you commit suicide and die, it's a one way straight ticket to hell fire no abegii!
ReplyDeleteMr or Mrs Ano easy oh stella dint say u shd curse na ewo ni ti epe
ReplyDeleteOmg
ReplyDeleteMrs oby,don't mind ur husband ,today he might act like all is well 2moro he might act worse or even to d extent of beatn u to death..jst bcareful.no human being on dis earth worth diein 4 cos if u die anoda woman will take dat position.life is sweet .trust God,he will surely bless u abundantly Amen.
ReplyDeleteMadam, I have been calling ur number and will keep trying. Be still and know He is God.
ReplyDeletePls she shldn't go alone ooo. He might do somefin worse. Pls stella advice her 2 be executed even if the person(s) wld just stay outside.. May God see her through and evry one goin thru same situation.
ReplyDeleteExecuted ke? Sure you meant 'escorted'
DeleteLOLz! Abeg no execute her o
DeletePls she shldn't go alone ooo. He might do somefin worse. Pls stella advice her 2 be executed even if the person(s) wld just stay outside.. May God see her through and evry one goin thru same situation.
ReplyDeleteMadam, in case we dont get to speak, my advice to you is not to return to that house. Give it time. You need to heal physically and emotionally. Give him space and take some space yourself. DO NOT GO TO HIS HOUSE TODAY. Discover who you really are. be happy with your life before you try to share it with anyone. May God give you grace. Remember that suicide ends all of Gods plans for your life and starts an eternal life of damnation. God bless you
ReplyDeleteWell, her life and her choice. If she would rather kill herself for a man than get a life. She is within her rights to do that. She will die, and he will get married to someone else. After 5yrs she will be a distant memory. In 10years, she would have been forgotten. And life will go on, it wouldnt stop. Did she come to this life with her husband? Dem born themon the same day? Must she die a mrs? Oshisko
ReplyDeleteAbi O°˚ help •̸Ϟﻉ ask her O°˚ even T̶̲̥̅̊h̶̲̥̅̊e̶̲̥̅̊ death she tinks is an option is not that easy(vry painful)+ hell fire gbege choi! Madam tink am abeg. Na God dey give children O°˚ have it in mind ∂Α̲̅T tomorrow is pregnant FO̶̲̥̅̊Я̩̥̊ U̶̲̥̅̊. So hold on and don't give up so easily cos of a man.
DeleteI Pray the God of the Helpless meets You at this Point, Please Suicide isn't an option. Look up to God not Man. **really short of words, sad much**
ReplyDeleteCP (space) show biz blog of the year (space) Stella Dimoko Korkus send to 33121.
Reimen what fucking tripe have you typed? If she likes let her kill herself. Hell fire awaits. What worse situation, when there is a Supreme Being called God? Keep chatting rubbish. What is your own contribution to this post? Anuofia.
ReplyDeleteU think remen or whatever d name is is chatting rubbish for confronting someone who's obviously insensitive? U're deeply troubled its so obvious from ur aggression. Go choke on a diseased dick u waste of human sperm!!!
DeleteHey I just sent u a message. Was gonna pretend wasn't me but dat Anuofia when u call me vex me die. But seriously let's support her, don't be hard on people who are weak. Encourage them. Sorry for insulting u too.
Delete@ anon 4:26, ur approach was wrong, no need to curse out reimen.d woman is already low,y not try to encourage her with soothing words, words dt would uplift and not condemn.u were and still are too harsh....
DeleteI ain't Reimen.
@ Reimen. ....lol
DeleteIt's sad what women go through, for the issue of a child, a friend of mine just gave birth even when the doctors confirmed the fallopian tubes were blocked and her womb ruptured, there is nothing God cannot do, but when you have n abusive husband, please leave! Find a reason to live...
ReplyDeleteCheck that your friend well. R u sure she dint disappear after 4months to go and give birth abroad? It is well
DeleteSelfish is wat i call dis crap......becos of one human being,becos of a man....hisssssss.....people are diein of terminal sickness,begging God 4 a 2nd chance.....and one woman wants 2 kill herself becos her hubby is carryin women n wants 2 throw her out..........ur hubby beating u is heart breakin n my heart bleeds for you,u wanting to kill urself is selfish......people shld take out time,n do charity work,voluntary work around d world or better still Africa,and see hw many people are suffering,hw many people beg to live,hw d poorest people still smile.....yet one full well n healthy woman wants 2 die becos of a man........And am suppose 2 feel sori 4 u.......
ReplyDeleteI've just called her and I was moved.
ReplyDeleteMrs Obi, please don't end your life. This life you are living isn't yours; it is GOD's. No life condition is permanent.
Like I told you ma, please move away from that environment to regain your sanity and esteem back. GOD forbid, if you decide to take your life, your husband will marry another lady quick quick.
You didn't come to this life because of him; you came to fulfil the purpose and mandate of GOD for your life.
She isn't answering her phone but I sent her a msg may God help her IJN amen.
ReplyDeleteMy dear Stella no man is worth all this trouble, most women in Nigeria let their men do almost everything for them, women should learn to be independent ( FINANCIALLY ) That is not to say you should disrespect your husband. Make your own money, go to the gym, the spa! If he make shakara for you, you too go make shakara for am. Take style let am know say as him dey chase women nah so men fit chase you. DON''T CHEAT O!
ReplyDeleteMrs Obi, you think by killing yourself people will blame your husband and he will realize what wrong he did to you? You are right but guess what? You will be dead and if wot they say about heaven and hell is true, you will be serving Satan dinner. So Its either you dust yourself up and look for a correct bobo to service your abuna and along the way give you pikin or kill urself because of ur husband that is already fucking another chic. the choice is urs. If you are good looking I can render my services to you for free. Just let me know under anoni and I will contact you.
ReplyDeleteLet me try to call her.Mrs Okoli Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! don't do any thing stupid.
ReplyDeletewhere there is life, there is hope!
@Stella tell her to read this imformations about her self since she has chosen to kill or take her own life,,from swiss,,,,,,,,,I have to copy nd pest it,,,,SO HERE......
ReplyDeleteYou should embrace:
The inner path, serenity, focus
You should avoid:
Lack of commitment, banality, mistrust
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etc,,she must know her real self with this,,nd MAY GOD BLESS HER,,I HOPE SHE UNDERSTAND IT MUCH
Oby, honestly I prayer for you and I have this believe that all you’re going through now will soon come out to be great joy and testimonies that others will emulate from your experience. I’m in no doubt that you’re one out of millions of women out there facing similar challenges. So ending your life now is like you telling God that he has no meaning to you, which Satan will be very pleased that he has succeeded to welcome you.
ReplyDeleteJust like I said earlier that I’ve seen cases even worse than yours and so I feel what you’re going through my sister, and I can assure you that suicide is not the best answer. See Oby I don’t know about you but I’ve this believe that you have overcome already and which I know you will be alive to tell the story.
And I can notice that your husband loves you so much just that he is not happy about the situation at hand, even looking at you he can’t imagine his recent attitudes towards you, but consternation from family, friends and people around has pushed him to start acting IGNORANTLY.
You can agree with me that he has turned into Drunker, Smoker and Womanizer these days and completely changed from your real husband and the man you know him to be. Don’t worry or blame him because he is not the one doing all that, though it may be difficult to understand but I know what I’m saying. Believe me Oby, your husband still loves you but pressure has taking over him and turning the love into hate and can only regrets his behaviors whenever he comes back to his right senses. That’s just the experience right?
I can advice you not to be afraid and feel free to meet with him to night and see what he has to say. And again, if medically and every other means you seek failed then I suggest deliverance because most times spiritual husband or wife does be involve in cases like this. You need to check your dreams because am very sure of that.
If may be a man usually comes to make love with you in dreams and you discover been pregnant and have babies in dream, then that’s exactly where the problem is coming from, spiritual husband or your physical husband can have spiritual wife that wants to separate the marriage by all means. And also, family generational courses either from your husband or your side can be the cause. In this case deliverance is the best solution and please don't call anybody witches or wizards.
Meanwhile you need to hear from him first as he said which the outcome will enable us know the next step on how to rescue you, and when it comes to financial support don’t worry my sister just name what you want and believe that with God all things are possible, so you can count on me. All I’m interested is that you will not die but live to tell this story to the glory of God.
Am already on my usually long comments, so I will give you call like I said and will like to speak to your husband as well if I have the means. Note, human sorry matters nothing so look up to God and never give up as he alone have the final say for in every situation God still have something to say. So take care of yourself.
Chibuzor.
Madam, please move on and try someone else. Atimes, couples may not have kids together for some scientific reasons(rhesus factor and co) but they can with other people. Life is too short to commit suicide, pls you will still eventually, why fast forward your time? As for the pastor, hmmmmnnnnn. End time is indeed close. May Allah protect you madam and guide you in the striaght path,amen. You are just 36, some of your mates are still in their father's houses or just preparing for marriage. Please, move on, look good and attract a 'baba alaye' that will care for you. Forget love, obviously your husband has moved on. No way you can conceive in this toxic environment. For your family's sake, be happy! *hugs*
ReplyDeleteCall dis lady 08035017843 and hear her own story. God is awesome! The long and short of her story is dat she stayed for 14 good yrs without a chiild. It was even when dey brought in a new girl, dat was when GOD steped in. Plz stay alive 4 ur family
ReplyDeleteHaa! #mouthwideopencannotclose#.
ReplyDeleteNa wa oh. Mrs Okoli what happened to your faith? What happened to going on your knees, talking and praying to God? So you want to kill yourself because of a man?A man abi?! What if this is a sign from God for you to leave this man you call your husband and move on! Abi is this marriage thing by fire by force with the wrong person?! Look Aunty, there are women who are 37,38,39 even in their 40s, still single no kids.........so what do you expect them to do? Kill themselves because they are not Mrs somebody or because they don't have children yet? God does things in his own time. Forgiving your husband? Very nice! Going back to him? Hell no! Someone who pushed you and you landed in the hospital? What if you are fell and landed on your head and your enemy died nko? On top what? It's easy to say and it will be easy to do but leave this man and move on with your life. At 36? And you believe there is no reason to live again because you ain't got no kids? Anyway I can't really blame you that much.......I blame our society and the nonsense pressure women go through.
ReplyDeleteOby Nne, please please, don't harm yourself. you are wonderfully made in the image of God. Killing urself will not solve ur problem . You can adopt for the time being while u wait on the lord for ur miracle because we are all his children and he loves us equally. A beautiful baby out there awaits to be adopted. Do that and be blessed in Jesus name. Ada.
ReplyDelete@Chibuzor...u said it all my brother...God bless u so much for ur kind / inspirational words. Dear Mrs Oby, I can never tell u that I know exactly how u feel inside and outside ur being....but pls take time to go through Chibuzor's message, I'm sure u'll definitely find one or two points to help u. My dear, if u're not truly a born again christian in spirit and in truth, u may find it difficult to overcome....for u fight not against flesh and blood, but against principalities and powers and rulers of darkness....so pls marry the WORD of GOD now and make prayer the food u eat....also try and study and also meditate on the WORD daily...trust me when I say u'll find all the answers u need....in Isaiah 41:10-13 God said that we should fear not! In Psalm 37:5 God said we should commit our ways unto HIM. In Matthew 7:7 God said we shall ask and it shall be given unto us...and so on...plenty promises of God for God is an unchangeable changer...His Word is yea and amen! He's the same yesterday, today and forever....for a broken and a contrite heart, God will not despise....pls my dear call upon HIM now for it is not too late...HE will surely answer u....completely wipe out the thought of taking ur own life and sincerely ask God to forgive u for ever thinking that for it is a sin and God doesn't like it...u're still alive for a reason....and it's by God's special grace that u're alive today...that means God is not finished with u dear...for ur joy shall come in the morning. God bless u. Pamela.
ReplyDeleteYour death will give your husband the excuse he needs to move to another woman with clean hands.
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ReplyDeleteOby, sweetie, stop insulting God wv ur lack of faith. U cnt live wvout dis man? Put it all on God. In a year, u'll forget him. Mine moved in his own while I was still dere. I was lied abt, beaten, insulted and ridiculed. God doesn't always cos change in our lives in quiet ways. Dere's no life after suicide so dat guilt u hope he'll feel will nvr b known by u
Please work out of that marriage! It is not by force! Your life is worth more that the trash ur getting
ReplyDeleteMrs Oby,pls don't committ sucide O.Lean on God and he ll wipe ur tears away
ReplyDelete@Anonymous June 25, 2013 at 2:57 PM #43, Honestly I feel touched about your comment, and i really wants to speak with you, i don't want to make it public pls. I need your number and name to give you call straight, email to: merlewilliam34@yahoo.com
ReplyDeleteLmao.....funny advice from your dad.
ReplyDeleteMrs Oby life they say is worthy to be enjoyed. Your case is quiet small in the eyes of God and guess what?? Miracles only occur when you believe.
ReplyDeleteI saw a man whose wife abandonned him cos he was declared impotent in India by the doctors after 18yrs of looking for a child. Guess what his story changed and not only did God give him a 50percent increase in sperm but a DNA proven twins.
Don't die but believe that God is taking u to where u will find peace. It seem tough but note and quote me any day that you won't regret making a move out of that marriage.
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