Her picture is that of a very beautiful young lady and she sent in this mail with her name and picture but begged for her identity to be sheilded.
She wants advice on what to do next...Omg what is happening to our youth?
Please this could be your daughter or even sister,so dont cuss her out,just advice her with love so that we do not mislead her.
Please try to guide her..she will be reading,she sounded really on edge!
AS for my say oh..........she needs to dump him and move on!
Heres her mail
''I'm a lady of 25 yrs I stay a different location from my boyfriend due
to my NYSC,we have dated for a year and he is always asking me to send my
nude pics to him,I used to do that but stopped when I saw some girls'
pics surfaced on the net.
Because i refused to send my nude pics,now he told me its over.
he always tells me about girls that disturb him,when I
tell him about mine,he gets angry.
I tried talking to him about why i cant keep sending him nude pics anymore
but he has ended our relationship because of that and I am in shock and heartbroken.
Do you think he loves me and will come back if I give him that space?I often
visit him where he is based when I get the chance!
he send me girls pics and tells me that they are just friends even when i didnt ask him.
I feel he does that to get me either jealous or get some kind of reaction.
I am at a loss and dont know why he wont understand that sending nude pics is dangerous now and i cant do that anymore.
I really need advice on what to do next.
I am really disturbed.''
Dump his ass! move on!
ReplyDelete#1 - ur boyfriend is sick, and i promise you all those pictures you are sending him, u'll be shocked he's being sharing them with some other people to make jest of you
ReplyDeletedrop like a hot coal, u know what? no man is worth having ache over, you still have a long way to go in life, why are you disturbed and @ a loss cause of a man that does not even love you?
If i were you my priority will be how to finish my service, land myself a good job, take care of myself and keep my body clean for d man God has destined to know my value
You should know there are many men out there these days and few of them are really good
be wise and do the needful
goodluck!
HYBunny
Could not have said it better...your service and getting a good job should be your priority now, not some douchebag! You should know what and who matters more in your life @ 25 oh! Some silly boy constantly asking you to send nude pictures should be discarded asap. All the best with your decision.
DeleteHoney, real love WON'T run you up the wall and cause you pain intentionally, only an INSECURE YOUNGMAN would send you fotos of other females to validate himself. Fashi the long English I've been there walked out on a psycho like that and moved on.
ReplyDeleteA li'l piece of advice:
1. Make new friends
2. Pick up new hobbies
3. Talk to VERY dependent FAMILY members about it.
4. Change your wardrobe
5. Change your hairdo and never EVER be alone.
Ur BF is a psycho and in dire need of psychological evaluation. You were a SEX object to him, he NEVER loved you.
My point tooo..kuku
DeleteTank u 4 dat
DeleteDUMP him sharply cos that is not a healthy relationship to keep....you body is the temple of God, don't defile it for any man...the man who loves u will cherish ur body n keep it sacred...let him focus on other girls n while u focus on making a better you for u husband to be
ReplyDeleteGOLD
This doesn't even sound like a relationship to me. Dump the guys ass and move on. He's just using you to catch cruise. You're 25. U shudnt be sending nudes to a guy at ur age. Leave it for the young girls that are yet to know what life is all about. B
ReplyDeleteThe guy seems to me as a Pervert.. And I'm sure he will eventually leak those nude pictures to get back at you. It's best you leave him alone and move on with your life. There are more responsible guys out there.
ReplyDeleteSeriously,that relationship is not what it,I tell you,a guy that loves a girl would not tell the girl to send such"only a runs man does" n if u have made d mistake of sending a pic wit ur face showing den d worst is yet to happen,but if not,don't dear it......mehn r never to be trusted!be resevered n wait 4 d right man...A word is enough 4 the wise,no bcos oof love go fall fool n cheap,Good love would fine you.
ReplyDeleteThat guy will not marry you dear. Please move on to a responsible and matured guy.
ReplyDelete*Mature not matured.. Mature doesn't have a past tense
DeleteEnglish teacher. Mature has a past tense and it's matured. If school didn't do it for you there is another option and it's called google. Overdsabi
DeleteThe guy was just using u to satisfy his fantasy. He was never into u n will never be. Close his chapter n start afresh.
ReplyDeleteThis shediot can't be 25 cos its impossible to be this stupid at 25. What kind of stupid question is this? MscheeeeeeeeW
ReplyDeletePls give constructive advice and dont insult the girl. Did u read Stella's write-up at all? If u have nothing good to say then be shut pls. You must not comment.
DeleteFool u bera close dat ur pit mouth if u dnt kno wht 2 say! People lyk u are in worse situation n ur hear sayin buhaha... Pls have several sit.Mtcheeew
Delete1 dump him!
ReplyDelete2 dump him!!
3 dump him!!!
Oh My!itznt easy,u shld b fynkin of settling dwn wif him moi guess,n nw this!Ma dear sister,u did d ryt tyn o!u cnt continue to please n displease urself n worst still God!Am sure u re oon reserve for d man u deserve o,even if he comez back(which moi doubt)make him suffer!Be strong.H.L
ReplyDeleteBabe u need to run for your dear life i went through this same path. This is my story i dated this guy called johnson he stays in lagos and i stay in warri, he explained to me that his house is in lagos so we are going to be seeing ourselves in a hotel till he get another apartment in warri. He comes back once in a month and he will have sex with me till he goes back to lagos giving me #1,000 after promising me heaven on earth for good 8 months. He begged to snap me naked and i refuse but i allowed him to snap my boobs hiding my face cos he said he loves me. So when i get fed up that i can no longer continue the relationship the beast threated to post my naked pix online and he will also pay a popular magazine to publish my pix, when he noticed that am not moved cos i told him to make me a celeb like overnight atleast my face will be on a magazine and i will use the opportunity, immediately he started sending me love text mgs that he was just kidding since then we have not seen eachother, just yesterday he has the gods to called me to come and see him in a hotel. Pls dear SDK readers do not cussed me out i want so fooled and blinfolded by this man that i could not even get of the relationship; but now am out and pls dn,t mind my english. I just felt like crying but it is too late. AUNTY STELLA PLS POST MY COMMENT GOD WILL BLESS U. FROM A CONFUSED SISTER.
ReplyDeleteNa wa ooo,you dated a useless dude that had no regards for u,ladies pls carry yourselves well o
DeletePele my dear, bt ur english na wa ooo....had headache while reading.
DeleteBabe, I'm happy you are done with whatever you had with him.
DeleteYour saving grace was because your face didn't appear if not, you would have pleaded with him and even become his doormat!
I wish ladies would start giving themselves brain and see themselves as women of dignity and substance and not a sex object!
The way you carry yourself is the same way a man will carry/ treat you.
My dear thk God left the dumb ass !.
Delete.,don't worry a man that value you will come your way!...take care!..
Hmmmmm some gurls na wa oo dem use jazz for u! U beta quit dat rubbish u call r/ship n move on wiv ur life u will get a man that know ur worth n will treat u like a queen which u re!
ReplyDeleteYou have 2 alternatives,(1) continue d madness of sending your nude pics or (2) opt out of the relationship, coz u re jst his sex toy/play thing.
ReplyDeleteWell the choice is urs, do whatever pleases u....
Hahaha... @Anon 11:34pm ur case is equivalent to osho free, abeg shine ur eye nxt time..
RUN!!! AS FAST AS YOU CAN!! Please I beg you, RUN!! I had a guy like that once, don't be surprised if you find out he is sharing your naked pics with his friends.. He is a tool.. And if you feel you must keep him, do not include your face in any naked picture, OK? But please he is not worth it..
ReplyDeletePls ignore the guy and let him go, if he really loves he will come back otherwise God is able jare.......u will find another prince charming that will treat u beta and adore u.
ReplyDeleteif he is sending you other girls pics then trust me he will most definitely send your picture out. Todays world is the type where almost nothing is hidden in secret any more due to social media and also bear in mind there are hackers. What if he did not show the picture out but his friend picked up his phone or laptop or whatever and looked at it without his permission?. Point is don't let him fool you he is just trying to use your head and he could use the pictures against you.
ReplyDeletethat guy na serious scammer this type of thing has happened to me before but now i have overcome. the idiot is an irresponsible no good piece of shit and he and all of his kind need to burn in hell seriously. Boo you better dump that ass wipe and do dump him very very good.
ReplyDeleteif he is sending you other girls pics then trust me he will most definitely send your picture out. Todays world is the type where almost nothing is hidden in secret any more due to social media and also bear in mind there are hackers. What if he did not show the picture out but his friend picked up his phone or laptop or whatever and looked at it without his permission?. Point is don't let him fool you he is just trying to use your head and he could use the pictures against you.
ReplyDeletei had a useless guy do something like this to me before. He is the son of a very popular lawyer in warri. very useless no good bastard with no shame. I have now overcome bottom line don't ever let a guy use your head. if he is asking for something like that then he is sooooooooooo not worth it
ReplyDeleteLadies pls never ever send nude pics or videos to a guy ,even your Husband,the truth is a man that loves a girl will never ask for nude pics,i have been there and i know,and most guys want to use it to deal with the Lady once the relationship is over,as for the writer,that dude doesnt love you one bit,you better run,move one and pray for the right guy,the guy doesnt love you
ReplyDeleteLadies pls never ever send nude pics or videos to a guy ,even your Husband,the truth is a man that loves a girl will never ask for nude pics,i have been there and i know,and most guys want to use it to deal with the Lady once the relationship is over,as for the writer,that dude doesnt love you one bit,you better run,move one and pray for the right guy,the guy doesnt love you
ReplyDeleteThe Guy is Immature and Evil, is that Ï„̣̣Ñ’Ñ‘ Kind of person who wanna spend Ï„̣̣Ñ’Ñ‘ rest of ur life with? How far will Ï„̣̣Ñ’Ñ‘ lust (relationship) go? If he truly loves γφυ he wount be doing these shit. Wise up nd move on madam
ReplyDeleteThe Guy is Immature and Evil, is that Ï„̣̣Ñ’Ñ‘ Kind of person you wanna spend Ï„̣̣Ñ’Ñ‘ rest of ur life with? How far will Ï„̣̣Ñ’Ñ‘ lust (relationship) go? If he truly loves γφυ he wount be doing such shit. Wise up nd move on madam
ReplyDeleteThe Guy is Immature and Evil, is that Ï„̣̣Ñ’Ñ‘ Kind of person you wanna spend Ï„̣̣Ñ’Ñ‘ rest of ur life with? How far will Ï„̣̣Ñ’Ñ‘ lust (relationship) go? If he truly loves γφυ he wount be doing such shit. Wise up nd move on madam
ReplyDeleteMy advice for you is to flee from dat r/ship,he dosent worth it.pls dia is something I want to let some ladies know.at times some so calld bf blocks ur blessing n God won't bless u cos he is a hinderance except if u r prayerful u won't know .please ladies if u r in any relationship,use ur brain not ur emotions n den always pray cos of this I jst mentioned above n last but not d least leave dat ur so calld bf n pray n fast.believe it within some times u wl get a beta man dat wl treat u rite. I rest my case here
ReplyDeleteYu hav expressed truly yur luv 4dis man. God luvs ALL men, even in dia animalistic, unappreciative nature. Yu can't cope wit dis unreplicated luv. Any man, who dwells on d nakedness of women as a means of pleasure, doesn't respect dem 1 bit. Yur man falls in dat category. Painful as it may sound cos of yur luv 4him, yu must move on. The BIG GUY upstairs knows all nd sees all, nd HE will giv yu a beta person. Bcos HE reveals HIMSELF 2 only dos dat appreciate HIM, not dos HE luvs, wich is ALL of us. Learn 4rm dat.
ReplyDeleteDump him
ReplyDeleteMy daer, your boyfriend is a very immature and insecure person. please discontinue your relationship with him before he damages your self esteem.
ReplyDeleteMy dear tell him to send his own full nude pics with his face n see what he will say. He is an irresponsible guy. Plz end d relationship to avoid regrets later on. A good man will definitely come. Pray n tell God what u want . Cheers
ReplyDeletePls pls ladies beware of some certain guys u call bf.I am a living testimony.I dated dis guy for 6yrs n d 7th year,my mind was telling me dis guy is not my husband so I left d guy but he still comes arnd,calls n begs me dat I don't see him any longer but am still convinced with wot my mind tld me.I don't call him any longer.but when I left I bcame a changed person(prayerful,no sex etc) after 4 months serious prayers n fasting I met my hubby n u know wot after like 1month,he propsed n we got married,our marriage is 6yrs n we r blessed wit a child n happy.so my dear leave dat ur bf n run to God.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, call ur bobo n make-up, tell him ow much he means to u and ow willing you are to make amends, then ask him to send a naked pic of him. Lobatan.
ReplyDeleteStella i kkow this is off topic but i want to applaud you. You have taken this blog to higher heights. This is what blogging is about. Changing womens lives for the better and educating us on social issues. I can homestly say that you are the best blogger out there right now. Im proud to be your reader and i foresee greater things ahead
ReplyDeleteI doubt the story. Girls are not this dumb these days.
ReplyDeletePlease don't discredit this story; we are in perilous times. You would be amazed at what some ladies do for the sake of "LOVE"?
DeleteWell said!i concur wt u a 110%
ReplyDeleteplease run as fast as ur legs can carry you, the guy has come to steal, to kill and to destroy. keep praying and God will give u a better man
ReplyDeleteAbegi 25 yrs you still no get sense when u go come get! Abeg dump him o
ReplyDeleteDump him but before u you do, try and get back all the nude pics you've sent to him. Very important cos of d future.
ReplyDeletemy dear please run...don't walk out of the relationship o! runnnn....
ReplyDeletethese are the kind of men that bathe their "lover" with acid.
my hand no dey o!
#to be fore-warned is to be fore-armed
And guy before u leave the relationship make sure u steal his fone to delete your nude pix
ReplyDeleteGood idea but what if he has saved it in other storage devices or his friends have copies too?
DeleteBabe, you see what mess you might get into? I wish you well.
And guy before u leave the relationship make sure u steal his fone to delete your nude pix
ReplyDeleteFirst of all a real man is supposed to protect u and shield u, not ask for nude pictures dat can expose u. Dere is definitely no guarantee dat he won't expose ur pics on d net, wot guarantee do u have dat he is isn't or hasn't showing dem off to his friends already. Babe u obviously have a complex, u have a problem with defining ur self worth and value or else u shld have realized dis guy was bad news 4m d 1st day he asked for a nude pic sorry but u need some #toughLove hon. My advice, Move on and improve on urself so u don't end up forming a pattern with d same type of guys.
ReplyDeleteSorry dear, I think its about time you left. My story is similar. I met this guy through a friends sister, nice, goodlooking,extremely handsome, polished and what have you. We started dating since june last year. The relationship started off very well. I was happy until I started noticing stuffs about him. He just came back from england after his msc,he is 32 and still lives with his mum, annoying proud. Instead of waking up in the morning to go hussle likes his mates, he would rather eat sleep ping instagram facebook. I was really surprised because I didn't understand why a guy of his age should be on about all that. He has never used my picture on his dp or post my picture on instagram. When I put up his pic on my dp he would even ask me to take it off. I posted our pic on instagram onece, anytime we had a fight he'd ask me to delete it. He did not get me any gift for my birthday neither did he wish happy birthday on bbm. We fought and fought. He would never call to beg. I am always the big person that calls for us to make up. He looks down on my friends. I got tired and reaLly fed up. The height of it was when he hit me twice cos we were having an arguement over my friend he doesn't like for God knows what reason. I was shocked because that was the first time I got hit by any man. He apologized and we made up. I am a very pretty girl, I have a good job at 23 and an official car. All through the relationship he made feel less of myself. All the money he gave me through out the relationship amounted to 50k. I got pregnant and did an abortion for the first time in my life. Instead of paying my hostipal bills, he was on about how he wasn't sure the pregnancy was for him. He gave me 10k as part payment for the abortion I completed the payment with my money. We had a lot of fights because trust issues because I started talking to other guys so I could move on, I was so inlove with the bastard. He found out and called me all sort of names, he asked me to take off the password on my phone which I did but I was never allowed to touch his phone or even think of it. He has this weird fantasy of anal sex, that it would make our relationship stronger bla bla bla..I never obliged up untiL two weeks, he practically raped me while we were making love, I cried and begged him to stop he didn't even care.I wanted to go home that night, he seized my phones and walked me out of his house the next morning because I deleted him off my bb. He didn't call to check on me until after two days to apologize and say he was even angry because I see him not good enough to have anal sex with, that he won't beg me for too long because I know other girls want him..Can you imagine? It took me this long to make up mind to move on..I have moved on to a new phase....
ReplyDeleteYou went through a lot! That's sad! Thank God you moved on! But please, ask God for forgiveness and start your life afresh! Fornicating and abortion is a big no no! Pray you find the right man for yourself! :)
DeleteSweetie, please I'm begging and pleading with you to drop him like hot potato burning your fingers!
ReplyDeleteI'm 100% confident that when you have moved on to better and greater things, the yeye guy will do a "come back to me" scene and if you don't give in, all the nudes pictures you have previously sent could be used to blackmail you.
Babe, for your peace of mind, I sincerely pray the blackmail doesn't happen.
I wish ladies these days think deeply about their actions today so that they won't regret tomorrow.
Some of you are future first ladies and big time executives; so please think very well about what you do with your bodies so that no idiotas will blackmail your later or insult your husband!
My dear leave his sorry ass ooo. I dated a guy like dat. He asked 4 my nude pics, I sent him 1 (without my face). We quarelled sumtime last year n d idiot said I shldnt 4get he has my nude pic. I told him 2 do wat he wants wit d pic afta all my face no show. He later came bk 2 beg me. We settled. Only 4 him 2 ping me n tell me he's horny o dat I shld talk dirty 2 him. I told him am sleepin. He said if I love him I will do it. I told him if he wants 2 base d love I hav 4 him on dat he shld feel free. N I said gd nite. Haven't heard 4rm him since den. N I don't giv a damn.
ReplyDeleteMy Dear!..please just drop the dumb ass fast!!!fast!!!!...is very clear he does not Love you!...
ReplyDeleteFinish ur service and do something new you enjoy,delect his numbers fast and him from ur system....he his not worth having a sleepless for!...Babe!life goes on...enjoy urself ,look after urself and take care.
If I were you, I wouldn't be so fast to dump him! He just might want to get back at you! You know 'some guys'! Hian!! How? By posting your nude pics on the internet or showing his friends to make jest of you! Don't send him any pictures but be patient with him until you're able to visit him and get the chance to delete all your nude pics! From there, dump the asshole! Goodluck!
ReplyDeletemy dear some mehn are bastards oh. I dated this guy for about 2yrs this boy used my head left right and centre. He beat me, stole my money, stole my property, raped me and even went back to his university and spoilt my name. Some of you reading this may even knw my story but it is all in the past now atleast for me. Bottom line is i was young then about 16 or 17 i have become wiser over the past few years and one thing i have learnt is that if you are not willing to do something dont let anyone force you to do it in any way. i mean i spent money on that relationship and time too even when i was warned by every one else to run be cause he was a monster i finally saw that monster. Any man that ask me for that dont bother calln my fone no cos i will never pick up.
ReplyDeleteyou are still asking questions, please dump him immediately and take away anything that will bring his memory to you. NONSENSE
ReplyDeleteMy dear, its not a Responsible thing to do. What he's asking of you is like the Order of the Day. Go on Twitter and see what Young Girls have become. If your Relationship has to end this way, then So be it. Keep your Pride and Joy Safe. #BeBrave
ReplyDeletePvbs 14:12 states, "There is a way which seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death." You have removed yourself from God's protection by violating his words. If you weren't sleeping with this guy, you wouldn't be sending him nude pictures in the first place and all this could have been avoided. Don't let this man destroy your mind and body and the glorious future God has planned for you. This guy is still very immature. He doesn't need a woman in his life and his actions obviously show that. Move on sister and go back to God's protection by listening and obeying his words which forbids premarital sex. It is truly a protective measure that most people misconstrue as a restrictive measure. God bless!
ReplyDeleteDump him fast and move on with your life.
ReplyDeletemy dear, first ask God for forgiveness, den ask him for grace to see you through. tactfully get his fone, or any other device he has that may have the shots, delete them and then leave him. God has greater plans for you, so do not waste your time and life on this guy. pray and ask God for leading in all aspects of your life especially relationship and marriage wise because these days it is failed relationships and broken marriages that is the order of the day.. stay blessed and connected! God bless you and he loves you too.
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