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ADVICE NEEDED
One of my cousin is asking me to accommodate her over grown daughter to stay with me and write her WAEC. My challenge is that her daughter was staying with her sister (another of my cousin) the girl was so disrespectful, rude to her and that my cousin disciplined her but the girl ran away to go stay with a man.
Now her mother is asking me to keep the girl for 1 year, I have small stature, I don't have height and even younger than her mum plus her aunty that she ran away from her place. If that girl could disrespect that one and talks to her anyhow who is me that she will not beat someday?
My second point is that I will be getting married next month, how do I take an over grown girl to my husband house when we have already agreed that no family members is allowed to stay more than a night at our place till we have stayed up to 5 years in marriage.
This rule was set between us both cos we intend to understand and manage our home first before having third parties.
My marriage plan is not yet shared to her cos I want to have a private wedding here.
I need to speak to this my cousin cos I have been ignoring her calls cos I know she want ro ask me to help her out. Shes already told my brother's wife and that one said nope cos she has a toddler and she is afraid her good deed can turn to bad deed.
My marriage plan is not yet shared to her cos I want to have a private wedding here.
I need to speak to this my cousin cos I have been ignoring her calls cos I know she want ro ask me to help her out. Shes already told my brother's wife and that one said nope cos she has a toddler and she is afraid her good deed can turn to bad deed.
This my cousin stays in Owerri, why can't her daughter write the exam over there? why is the mum in support of her attitude towards her aunty plus she supported the daughter's actions. I don't want to use my hand to bring more problems to myself...
You know what? Tell her that Landlord has given you quit notice and that you have some your things to different places and thinking of where to stay for now....That lady you described might even take your husband and your aunt will support her......Be careful oh, nah family dey do person pass!!!
Just say NO. You are getting married next month. You and your hubby will need your privacy. Say NO.
ReplyDeleteLoL😂 Candy stop shouting... Poster listen to her and Stella and everyone else who screams No!!!!
DeleteNne please say NO. The mother should sort her daughter out since she encouraged the awesome character.
DeleteI have come to realise that some people find it difficult to say "NO" to people. I think the poster is one.
DeletePoster say NO and save your self this incoming stress
Don't say know outrightly so tomorrow they won't accuse you of not helping them when you could. Follow Stella's advice.
DeleteNa wa
DeleteI don’t know why some people find it difficult to say ‘no’.
ReplyDeletePick her call. Tell her you empathize with her situation but unfortunately you cannot accommodate her for now because you are going through something’s that makes it impossible for you to render her such help. If she ask what you are going through tell her it’s personal and you can’t share with her just yet. Your brother’s wife already did and her world did not crumble.
Do you. The world would adjust.
I go with Yvonne since you are not ready to tell about upcoming private wedding and you wouldn't want to tell a lie just tell are you going through somethings wish you can share with her for now and be ready not to care about what she might tell people about you, just focus on your own happiness. Omo olomo kò lè pá ìyá òníya.
DeleteGreat one Yvonne
DeleteGreat one Yvonne
DeleteSay no
ReplyDeleteYou are getting married soon and this is how you want to start?
ReplyDeleteHmm Stella, you don't have to lie to say your mind over any issue.
DeletePoster, just say no. She would not kill you. The Best decision for your marriage.
Just say no. Simple and short.
DeleteDon't allow her to come you will definitely regret it.
ReplyDeleteShe shouldn't come to your house since you're getting married, so say no. It's that simple
ReplyDeleteNormalise saying no. No I can’t be of help this time.
ReplyDeleteJust say no and support with exam fees if you have.
ReplyDeleteJust enumerate these points to your cousin. No hard feelings.
ReplyDeletePlease say no since you have all these reservations. Better to feel guilty instead of resentment.
ReplyDeletePlease, I beg you DO NOT TAKE HER. I beg you. I beg you.
ReplyDeletePlease for your peace and sanity sake, NO is also an answer.
ReplyDeleteDo you want to tell me that you don't have at least 70 percent conviction that such a girl can seduce your fiance?
Please put yourself first, this is 2025.
"Do you want to tell me that you don't have at least 70 percent conviction that such a girl can seduce your fiance?"
DeleteDo some of you women on this blog just 8 men or simply just like dissing them?
All or most of you women here appear to think that because a person is an adult female every man jumps horny at sight?
18:45
DeleteMen have a shityy WELL DESERVED ROTTEN REPUTATION. A normal man with empathy understands that, the burden of proof is on him. The young girl too has a history from the write up of questionable morals ie rudeness, running to meet man
18:45
DeleteMen have a shityy WELL DESERVED ROTTEN REPUTATION. A normal man with empathy understands that, the burden of proof is on him. The young girl too has a history from the write up of questionable morals ie rudeness, running to meet man
18:46 How many men can you count around you that has lived alone with a mature female in thesame house that has not tried to make passes at them? You will not be realistic now , you think majority of people commenting like that didn't do that out of experience they've had? What are you saying? Is it not thesame society that we love in?
DeleteTell her you are not able to help at this point. No should be your response.
ReplyDeleteFollow Madam Stella's advice.
ReplyDeletePlease say NO
ReplyDeleteI dont know why couples make rules that may not be possible at the end of the day like no relative for 5 years, I did the same but it was my wife's mother that took ill and decided to come stay with us a year after our wedding and she stayed for 3 years and other relatives started coming to visit her in our house
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DeleteFor real
Like can I turn back my sister if she needs a place to stay. God forbid
The rule was easily broken because it affected her and her family.
DeleteIf was your Mum that faced the challenge (God forbid) you would have known the rule is very easy to keep. How many chronicles have we not read on that here.
The reason for this chronicle is that the relative has "bad character".
This funny very nearly phony arrangement called marriage.
Primary care for even a mans mother is expected to fall on the wife, so it isn’t an equal opportunity moment. Marriage is not a funny arrangement, most people are emotionally, mentally, spiritually and financially unfit to marry especially men yet feel selfishly and destructively feel entitled to women and children , they are the funny ones
DeleteStella you want her to tell lies abi you have forgotten that bibles says all liar are going to hellfire .Abeg tell her no
ReplyDeleteWhere is the verse that says that
DeleteJust say no. That's how I brought my 20yo cousin to come write waec. After writing she said she wants to work as a pump attendant while waiting for results I agreed. That's how she started following boys. I advised her to be smart and use protection since I could not cage her. She began to stay out late. I quickly bundled her back tobher mom. She came back after some months to my city of residence, but didn't stay with me, she was living with boy. Her mom said I should leve her daughter long tht she's taking care of her. I have decided to mind my business.
ReplyDeleteThis one will do something like that and hwr mother will still say the same thing.
DeleteTell her nope cos you do not have space to accommodate anyone for now, things are so expensive, plus the girl doesn't have good character. Do nor use your hand to buy trouble that you will regret alone the line.
ReplyDeleteThe mother is nor a good person, tomorrow she will support her daughter's way of doing things and tag you terrible person. That girl could take your home from you, be wise.
Just tell her No after all later she will know the reason why you tell her no hope she will be informed about your marriage later? that time she will realize reason why you decline prior to this
ReplyDeleteJust tell her No after all later she will know the reason why you tell her no hope she will be informed about your marriage later? that time she will realize reason why you decline prior to this .. good luck to your wedding preparation jaree
ReplyDeletePoster I understand you very well,just go with ma'am Stella advised, since you can't tell her "No" I have my late sister's staying with me,this girl is so stubborn, children of this generation don't have an atom of respect for any one again.
ReplyDeleteJust tell her capital NO
ReplyDeleteHello iya Boys
No is a complete sentence. The woman cannot manage her own daughter and she is trying to palm her off on relatives. You need to boss up and tell her no with no explanations. Don't start what you cant finish.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm. Why can't the mother keep her? Always looking for who to take her. It shows the girl is problematic. Don't start what you cannot finish
ReplyDeleteUse Stella's excuse and keep her away. Its difficult accommodating people these days because it always ends badly.
ReplyDeleteSo what Stella said and when you and your husband start living together, tell her una dey squat for one room . No gree oo. Make she go put her daughter for boarding school. If not you go regret tire and na family matter, last last everybody go still blame you for not using your senses.
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