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Good day house,
Please how do I make friends and be sociable,
I'm a 34 year old lady, no husband or boyfriend, I don't also have female friends, I'm an introvert, I go to work in morning and come back in the evening to retire to my room....
I'm a 34 year old lady, no husband or boyfriend, I don't also have female friends, I'm an introvert, I go to work in morning and come back in the evening to retire to my room....
I'm tired of such life, please I need recommendations on how to go about it, I stay in the Eastern part of the country.
So now you are looking for how to get female friends and a boyfriend? You sabi gossip?what kind of work do you do?Hang out more in church, stay back after service, join one of the department, you will see both of what you are looking for...If there is cinema anywhere around you, you can also invite anyone from work or church to go with....Please avoid men for now cos you dont sound sharp, make dem no go use you do suya give you chop....
Poster as you want to come out from that lonely shell. Friendship both male and female starts from meeting and conversations.
ReplyDeleteGo out often or join group where you can meet people.
Dear Poster, Great that you know about yourself...You can try taking yourself on dates, like go to the cinema, shopping malls like enjoy your own company...
ReplyDeleteThen to make friends start from joining WhatsApp groups, start from church groups, social clubs like Village Youth meeting, Rotaract, Rotary Wheel or NGOs to genuinely get to know people before you talk of friendship...Start by asking random questions like how are you doing? How do you see the weather? How is work or business?
Start your conversations from there; don't ask intrusive questions.. Just be yourself and be consistent with time you will attract people to you.. .
Please choose your friends; don't let them choose you....Public outings always; as the East is hot right now....No private or home meeting whether man or woman...
All the best
You need to go out more. Go to fancy and not so fancy restaurants for lunch, dinner etc and you’ll meet new people.
ReplyDeleteJoin group in your church, chat with your colleagues and you will develop friendship. People are running away from friends while you want to have friends. Hope you are ready.
ReplyDeleteGo to place where you know your kind of people are like church and public place for relaxation bit avoid beer parlour of evil doers who have no value for their lives please
ReplyDeleteChai, I hear you, love. You’re tired of the lonely routine, and you want more - connection, companionship, and maybe even love (although I don’t think you are ready for this). Stella has said it all, it is not a quick fix: friendships and relationships don’t magically appear while you’re curled up in your room after work or in your world. They happen when you show up - for yourself and others. Right now, your life seems like a predictable loop. Work, home, bed, repeat. If you want something different, you have to do something different - surprise yourself with random tweaks and quirks.
ReplyDeleteYou don’t have to become a social butterfly overnight, the only challenge will be your exact location in the east with the insecurities - town or hinterland. Just start small. Change your routine. Make your weekends more useful, or pick random days of the week to stop somewhere else first before getting home - maybe a utility shop or store, the market, a church class or a group, or even a quiet eatery (not your local bar) where people gather. It doesn’t have to be loud and wild - just public.
And if you have a viewing centre, Saturday afternoon could be a good choice if you have 'just' a little interest in football. Or simply linger a little longer in places where people naturally connect. Smile at a colleague/co-worker more often. Say hello to the woman you always see at the bus stop, or the people you regularly find on your way to and from work. Friendship isn’t about grand gestures; it’s about consistency.
And about the “no husband or boyfriend” part - love doesn’t find you if you’re hiding. Be present. Be findable. Be flexible. Not by forcing it, but by being open to new interactions. Say yes more often. Let people see you. Be open to the idea of trying new things. But while at it, don't entertain the quest to lose yourself - your naivety is of concern. So, have your boundaries intact and, at the same time, be approachable - relearn how you interact with others.
It’ll feel awkward at first, but that’s how change works. Change is always uncomfortable - don't rush it. You’re not incapable of making friends - you just haven’t been practising. So start now. One small step at a time - that's everyone you admired or wished you were became good at it. But be your good self.
😳 stellaaaa 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 thé last line though 😂
ReplyDeleteChai … Stella no go kill person . I agree with her because she never open eye before they use her play football … lol
DeleteI find it funny when i hear grown up say they dont have friends.....
ReplyDeleteJust be careful sha because you wouldn't know how peaceful it is without so much drama in your life.
Try online dating. fast and straight to the point. Also, do you have at least one friend or a sister. Reach out and say you'd like to go out more and ask for ideas. you could also reach out to anyone that you admire for how social he/she is and say take me when you go. I've done that for people in the past. But be sure to contribute your part. Not that they'll always give you ticket to events and you won't reimburse till they ask. They will drop you
ReplyDeleteIf you Attend Church you can walk up to two or three ladies that you just wanna be their Friends o
ReplyDeleteCollect their whatapp no make una dey Chart first ..no Visit o cos he get as Country be ooo..
May God help you To Make Godly Friends ooo..
Hello iya Boys
Big Stella u ba. Which one be say she no sharp. They must do her like suya so that she go wise up. I pray God direct you to your man and friends that are perfect for u . They will cherish and value you. Hope for the best dear
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