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UNROMANTIC WIFE
My wife is not romantic the issue gives me thoughts if I should go for another wife ohh she is a good person and Godly but just that I don't enjoy her.I can't change her style of life. I have tried but it's not working. I am giving it a thought. What do you think?.
Because your wife is not romantic, you want to go into polygamy? Oga when the wahala starts, romance wont help you out at all...Did you not know that she was not romantic before you married her?Msscccchew!!!
Please go ahead after you finished with romanticism prepare for generational wahala
ReplyDeletePlease go ahead after you finished with romanticism prepare for generational wahala
ReplyDeleteYeye dey smell.
ReplyDeletePoster I'm sure you must have been cheating on her for thinking polygamy is a solution, what an excuse .Didn't you notice that while dating ?
ReplyDeleteBuy books for her or rather start teaching her by example. Also tell her how you feel I'm sure she will adjust if she is willing to learn.
Oga just say there’s another woman already.
ReplyDeleteFan Emmanuel
Dear Poster, Ahewo dey your eyes...You are just giving excuse to cheat on her....Oya go on and cheat on her.....
ReplyDeleteYou need to get your priority straight... Is it romance over love? So you rather loose the 80% to get the frivolous 20% outside because of Romance 💒...
Like yesterday's poster, choose your battles wisely...
All the best
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ReplyDeleteOga try look outside fes na there you go no say missionary style better pass Doggystyle. Nothing dey outside my brother, you're lucky she's well behaved, cultured and godly. Na just to tush her up remain.
Just teach and her correct her with love and affection she will adjust with time.
You can as well make it a personal prayer point. It sounds funny but there's nothing God cannot do.
Una no dey want rest. OGA go ahead and look for Wetin no lose
ReplyDeleteSee ehn, nothing can be done on this matter. Only the person (man or woman) can change by themselves any how that comes about.
ReplyDeleteThank you oh, @Stella.
ReplyDeletePoster didn't you notice she wasn't romantic before you married her?
I kinda feel you already have an eye for someone else. That's if you ain't cheating already and now looking for excuse or excuses to console yourself.
Go ahead and get another woman. Remember to come give us update when kasla burst.
You saw her like that yet decided to do life with her, now you have started looking for what is not lost.
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Poster, ahewo don already dey your eye. Sha update us when the wahala starts.
ReplyDeleteYes, you should go ahead and get a second wife as long as you are a perfect husband who is not short of everything she desires in a lifelong mate, and you can boldly hit your chest and brag that you tick all of her boxes. Why not?
ReplyDeleteI am shocked that the solution to an unromantic wife is a second wife, or do you have a pregnant mistress you want to bring into your home, and you feel you already have the perfect excuse?
Anyways, I highly doubt there is any marriage without romance. All you have to do is reflect, and you will realize it has been there all along, though maybe not in the way you have been programmed to think it ought to be presented. I believe anyone who says their partner isn't romantic has probably restricted the idea of it to fit into the expectation of what romance should be in their minds.
What's romantic or unromantic is subjective at the end of the day. Have you asked her what she considers romantic? You would find out it probably differs from your definition and expectations of what romance should be. You should call your wife one more time. Tell her what your idea of romance is, and listen to her own ideas as well, and see how you both can meet each other halfway.
I would also advise you to try to look into how much effort she puts into doing something nice for you, even though it is not done the exact way you would deem romantic, because one thing I have noticed is that there are a lot of small romantic acts that get overlooked because they don't really strike people as romantic.
There was a lady who was in your shoes but filed for a divorce. When asked what the husband did wrong, she said nothing. As a matter of fact, she praised him for being a good man, a responsible husband who helps around the home, a hands-on dad to their kids who never forgets important dates, but the only problem was he wasn't romantic. Ironically, to another lady, that was romantic enough.
Aside from talking with your wife in a bid to fix the issue, I hope you have also made sure to create a conducive space for romance in your home. It's unfair to expect that when and if she is stressed round the clock as a wife and a mom, and she lives a monotonous life devoid of excitement. I hope you are a romantic person yourself. Sometimes, people who are always in a hurry to replace others when they don't meet their expectations are usually lacking in that aspect they complain about themselves, and the unease they feel stems from the fact that they are reliant on others to be entertained and fulfilled. I say this because the law of reciprocity does not lie, so check yourself as well to see if you have actively carried out romantic gestures for her or led by example.
Still, if she doesn't change and you know romance for you is a priority, then you have the option to accept her the way she is or go ahead and divorce her to find someone else. I won't ask you when you went ahead to marry her knowing what you do know because a lot of people do not really know themselves before settling down, so maybe you never knew how much value you placed on romance until now, but I hope when you get the romance you seek with another, you won't be on the lookout for something else you never knew mattered.
You knew that you wanted a romantic woman but went ahead to marry unromantic wife, you should have gone for a romantic wife and allow her marry a man who want an unromantic woman.
ReplyDeleteSince you want romantic wife in place of peace of mind or peaceful home, go ahead. When you get that thing you are looking for you will come back with a bigger chronicle.
Already cheating and doing comparisons. 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteIn all you do. Fleeeeee polygamy..
ReplyDeleteDon't get tired of talking to her about it.
Can you not talk to her? People can change or learn new things. Have you showed her what you need? I get that ppl are different, maybe you need lots of affection and like the touchy feely way and she is not into that. Some ppl do not show affection openly because they did not grow up around that. Some also feel funny displaying affection where the children can see. Before you think to take on another wife, since she has never offended you as a wife. Just sit her down and talk to her about what your needs are.
ReplyDeleteNonsense and ingredients..
ReplyDeleteSo u think u don't have were u are lacking to her too and has she cheated on u.. This is how u start what u can't finish and later end up miserable..
But honestly, we all should endeavor to add fun, love and romance to our marriages na. Can’t even imagine being in a romance less relationship talk more of marriage but oga, polygamy is still not the solution or even cheating because like u said urself, she’s a good woman. Maybe teach her romance, step by step. Play with her often, tap her bum when u pass. Give her a hug from behind when she’s cooking or just standing. Take her to dinner. Have hotel getaways if possible. This may not get an immediate change from her but hopefully, with time she will start adjusting.
ReplyDeleteI don't know how folks do this.
ReplyDeleteI have been with my wife for 13 years now without sleeping with another woman.
My issue is this, once I smell stale sweat it is a turn off.
People's personal hygiene is an issue for me.
Even before I married my wife I could never share bathing soap with a visiting female once she leaves, i would throw the soap I to the bin....my Wife is my life💞
It is now you know she is not romantic when you were dating her you didnt see that . Is either you have being cheating on her or you are about to and you are looking for excuse .
ReplyDeleteYou better focus
You that is the Romantic one why dnt you teach her oooo..
ReplyDeleteTo learn to be Romantic no hard nahhh .
She pass your front tap bum bum , touch, touch nah😁She dey baff follow her baff..
Biko face your Home o.
Hello iya Boys
Polygamy is not the solution to your problem, talk to your wife.
ReplyDeleteOga don go test outside. Please your wife is a good wife. Work with her. Teach her how you want it and be patience.
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