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ADVICE NEEDED
I will try to explain this as much as possible so that as you read, you will understand why i am confused.
I am dating someone and we have been together for 7 months and i am three months pregnant for him....We didnt plan it but i was not looking forward to getting pregnant becos i have never been pregnant before.........
I am in my early 40's and was once briefly married to an impatient man who could not wait for me
to get pregnant and called me barren....I left the marriage for peace of mind...
I have been married over the years becos i noticed that i have never been pregnant and i always got careless cos i wanted to mistakenly get pregnant to see if i am OK.....
The man i am pregnant for is also in hi early 40*s but i am two years older...He doesnt mind.
The problem is that my boyfriend and i talked about pregnancy and hemade me understand he does not like kids and never wants to have one.....I told him that i have never been pregnant and have a medical disorder that prevents me from getting pregnant...He told me that he was careful about dating desparate becos he does not want to reproduce...
I am suprised that i am pregnant and will to let go of the relationship for this baby but how do i tell him? I need help on how to tell him
Take him out to lunch or dinner and just do it.........Do not stay in a private place and stand your groundDont mince words or start crying...
Simply tell him you are pregnant. He might leave because he told you he didn't want children, and you told him you had a medical disorder. At the back of his mind, he'd feel you are trying to trap him. Shaa, all the best when you tell him, and congrats on your pregnancy.
ReplyDeletePoster na wa oh....No matter how you wanted to take us on a rollercoaster 🎢 you got pregnant for utter motives...A case of cunny man die cunny bury am...
DeleteYou want to eat your cake, have it and still leave some in the refrigerator okwaya...I fear you but I no go run...
Congratulations 🎉
Only a truly pregnant woman could write something so confusing. Mommy brain in full effect.
ReplyDeleteThere is no special formula to breaking up with someone. You could ghost him or do as Stella suggested.
Whatever you do, do not abort. I will rather you call him over the phone and tell him make sure the call is recorded. Whatever reaction from him. He should be far from you so that he doesn't hit you etc. No matter what he says or tries to do, don't eat or drink from him. Safeguard this pregnancy with all you have got. All the best.
ReplyDeletePoster why are you bothered about this person instead of thanking God for this precious gift. You should careless on his feelings, even your family will support you. In old age do you think this man will be more important to you than your child? Please blank him until you give birth then you can tell him and keep your mind 50/50. You don’t need anything that will bother you now cos miscarriage is real oo, better be happy and carry your child to full term. I’m wishing you all the best
ReplyDeleteFan Emmanuel
Take this advice!!!
DeleteNo need for JAMB questions!
He doesn't want kids and was pounding raw. What was he expecting? I guess plasma or refrigerator.
ReplyDeleteHow do you come to the conclusion that you're medically unfit to reproduce? Where you told by a doctor? If no, then that was a deception from you.
I'll advise keep the baby and tell him. Either he walks away or accept it. In anything you do, don't get rid of that child going by your narration on how you've suffered conception.
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It is the carelessness for me.
ReplyDeleteIn your words OP, " i noticed that i have never been pregnant and i always got careless cos i wanted to mistakenly get pregnant to see if i am OK....."
This is the height of rank and utter stupidity. Bringing a life into the world not because you have an intentional mindset towards it but just because you just want to make sure you are okay. And you want to force a man into fatherhood even though he had clearly told you he didn't want children. So what happens when he asks you to terminate it? You gonna start wailing like a banshee?
You are a very selfish person. You planned this all along. I am only surprised you got a man who should have known better to fall for it. Enjoy your single motherhood
This is too harsh nau!
DeleteShe is permitted to be selfish as long as she doesn’t try to force or coerce the guy into taking responsibility.
Any single lady in her 40s who has the mind to fornicate, then get pregnant should take full responsibility for the child and not expect any support either physical, financial, emotional etc from the man. He just donated sperm unknown to him and should be treated as a donor.
I would only be concerned if he has some congenital issues that are transferable to his offspring hence his decision.
If I were you, I would ghost him and carry my pregnancy to term with pride.
No need trying to guilt trip him to change his mind.
Omo laso o, not oko…
Take it easy, you always sound harsh and off...
DeleteThis life sha, full of twist and turns
ReplyDeleteI wish you luck poster
This life sha, full of twist and turns
ReplyDeleteI wish you luck poster
Congratulations to you, just follow Stella's advice and if he still doesn't change his mind about having children receive strength and wisdom to raise your child alone.
ReplyDeleteExactly 👍
DeleteThat's a blessing you're carrying. I support you on letting go of the relationship if he feels upset. But do not terminate the blessing you're carrying. Also draw nearer to God because the pregnancy period is a critical period in a woman's life.
ReplyDeleteWell, congratulations to you. He already told you he doesn't want children. Don't beat yourself up, you probably thought you'll never get pregnant, I guess that's why you were careless with your sexual life.
ReplyDeleteYou should have a face to face conversation with him. The outcome of the discussion will determine your next step.
Goodluck!
This is like the story trending on X ,women pls when a man says he don't a child pls if you don't have the strength to cater for it alone abort mission, getting pregnant it's trapping/forcing the person to fatherhood .
ReplyDeleteParenthood should be a joint effort and agreement if you tell him and he leaves pls cater for your child alone since you ve had issues from the past concerning having a child.
Cheers to you safe delivery in advance
Is there any other way than to say what you planted has germinated pure and simple
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to you dear poster, you will carry the pregnancy to term in Jesus name, Amen
ReplyDeletePoster, keep your pregnancy. I hope you have gotten all the details about him like his family name and home town for future reference just in case he rejects you
ReplyDeleteHe told her upfront he does not want kids, she should not tread that path of involving his family members, he was truthful to her.
DeleteHe should not be forced to become a father.
Poster, don't coerce or force him, and don't let people make you believe he'll look for you and the child later in life, there are people who have made up their mind on procreation.
Someone sent a chronicle in that regards few years ago, Ayo Mogaji story is similar to it.
Felicity
Poster please don’t search for him. Respect his wishes. Just inform him and tell him that is why you want to end the relationship. Get ready to cater for the baby 💯 100 percent. If you’re not ready, please do the neeedful
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