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 NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE..

REJECTED VIRGINITY

Good day Stella, I love your blog and have learnt a lot from it.

I've been dating a guy since January this year and I must say that our love was out of this world. I'm 22 and he's 29. Within a month, I was introduced to his family members and he also came to see my parents. He was already planning to propose to me, I learnt that from a friend. We were always talking about marriage (already planning our wedding, contacted photographers for our pre-wedding photo shoot, calculated how much it would cost and all of that). In fact, we were planning to apply for a stay in Canada together, so he wanted us to have our introduction soonest so we would do our court wedding in order for us to be to apply.

He told my mum about our plans but my mum told him to wait till I come back from camp (was awaiting NYSC then). I went to camp and he travelled for an official assignment.Throughout my stay in camp, we were always in contact with each other. After I got back from camp, he never for once mentioned anything about the introduction again. My mum even asked me why he had not come to see her concerning it because you should have seen him talk about it. I told him about it and he said it was due to financial issues.

One day, he told me that we could stay in Nigeria to plan our lives together instead of travelling and I agreed with him.Then he told me about his married colleague that was always gisting him about his marital issues and he said that he doesn't think he wants to get married. I just ignored him and since then, I stopped mentioning anything about marriage to him.
I finally got a PPA and I told them that I would be coming just 2 days a week due to my accommodation issues. I was posted to Ogun state so I had to go home (Lagos) every weekend.

On the other hand, my mum thinks I go to work everyday and stay with a friend. But the truth is that, I stay with my boyfriend and that was the biggest mistake ever. He started complaining about so many things, we started quarrelling very frequently.Then came the issue of sex (I'm a virgin), we agreed we would wait till our wedding night but this guy started making me suffer for it. 

He said he was sexually frustrated, he started misbehaving towards me.

Long story short, he decided that we shouldn't be making out again. initially, I was in support of it but I noticed that he wouldn't talk to me nor hug me; he distanced himself from me emotionally. I would try to kiss him and make out with him but he wouldn't, he said we agreed not to make out and I asked if that meant he not kissing me randomly or stuffs like that.

We lived like total strangers and I became depressed, was always crying, didn't feel loved or desired. A day came, he told me it would be best we live apart and I was actually happy to hear that. I would be moving out soon but I'm still worried about some things.

With all these traits, do they mean he's just tired of me and trying to push me away? There was a day I decided to give him my virginity but he said he was not feeling the vibe anymore. Has he been saying something I haven't been listening to?

When we are together and a girl passes, he wouldn't hide the fact that he's staring at her and it will be obvious. He wouldn't even let me follow him to weddings and stuffs like that.

I need your sincere opinions and I wouldn't mind if they are bitter.Thanks.

*You are an emotional earthquake and you need to get a grip on yourself.When you havent married a man and so many things are wrong,what does that tell you?are you looking for a miracle to change him or what?Bro is clearly not ready for anything that you are ready for.....
Give yourself sense and stop crying!....take a break from this toxic relationship and get busy to get him off your mind for a while.perhaps the miracle you seek will happen,perhaps not!


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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP BROUHAHA.

Hi Stella,

I'm done racking my brain, hence my decision to write you.

I met this dude on SnM in August 2015. We started off as friends, best buddies  before it grew to a Lovely Relationship.

We've not met yet because he's in diaspora, though when he planned visit, I requested a change in plans till I'm due to take my leave.

Stella the problem here is, the love from my end is beginning drop, (He's still crazily in love with me).  Firstly, he plans to settle down in 2-3 years, I thought I could wait, but Stella I can't anymore. 

 I can't continue chasing suitors because of him. Although he reassures me of his undying love more often but that isn't enough. We can't get married till 3 years because he'll be a full citizen In 3years and his wife (Me) accrued full rights but till then we'll just continue bonding.

Secondly, the distance is killing me. I need someone I can always pour out my emotions on, any day n time, and one I can see his expression, disagree to agree (physically) not via Skype or phone.

He's a wonderful person, helps me in some financial situations, and above all He's Caring. He hasn't shown any negative threat in this first year of knowing him .

I've been acting strangely, and he's been bothered. Stella I asked for two weeks break from the relationship. He just called to check up on me now, that prompted me to mail you. He's a BV and might read this.

I NEED your pen on this and that of Bvs to give him a feedback. Love u.

*Why do women always look for cracks where there are none?Its simple,despite all his positive traits,if you cannot wait then walk away cos there is even no guarantee that after three years,he will marry you,there is even no guarantee that the relationship will survive the three years.

You are looking for someone to gbensh constantly abi?cos i dont see why you cannot make do with what you have if you are convinced he loves you.
Everything in life is a risk,take a chance or walk away.The decision lies with you honey.

Long distance relationships hardly work out these days because we no longer have the patience our forefathers had,however in rare cases,it does work out.
Hold on and take a big risk loving him and holding on or let go and pray love finds you again....you hear?