YEEPA!!!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
MARRIED TO A CHRONIC SERIAL CHEAT
Stella, this is the only place I can think of to tell my story as I'm hoping to get the best advice from blog visitors. I'll try to make this chronicle as short as possible.
I am married to a chronic serial cheat.
We've been married for 12 years with five kids.
In our first year of marriage, my husband slept with my sister and my cousin, and some of my close friends, which is the reason I don't have any close friends today.
My relationship with my family is also soured as my sister and I don't even talk anymore. My husband admitted to his infidelity and asked for forgiveness, even my sister and my cousin did not deny their roles too. I forgave them, but the problem is that my husband has continuously cheated, thus constantly reopening the old wounds I've been trying so hard to heal from.
He chats with random girls and calls them the same endearing names he calls me. The sad part is that my husband is very kind to me and treats me really nice, but I hurt every time I discover his misdemeanours, even with married women. He is always quick to apologise whenever I confront him with evidence but how long will I continue to forgive a man who can't stay faithful for even one week!
Recently he's been having some financial troubles and I'm the one barely sustaining the home with my meagre salary. I thought his poor financial status would deter him, but alas, how wrong I was!
Just last month, I saw a whatsapp chat between him and a married woman in which they were professing love to each other and the woman even sent nude pics.
Stella, I died a thousand times!
When I confronted him, as usual, he apologised profusely, and you wouldn't imagine the reason he gave me....he said he wasn't really cheating but was doing it to see if he could get some money from her and play his role in taking care of us.
My gawd, I was livid!
I threatened to also start cheating (I'm really not even considering such taboo), or better still leave him (but I really have no plans for divorce), and he fell on his knees pleading and swore it would never happen again.
Well, I reluctantly accepted as usual and thought nothing again of it until last week when I just had a hunch to check his social media handles. It turns out that my dear husband has met even new lovers amongst whom are also married women. They also chat on whatsapp but he has become "smart" enough to delete the chat, but from the history, I know the chats are very recent.
My problem now is I don't even know how to handle this matter anymore. I'm considering leaving him before he infects me with something I can't handle, but who will take care of these kids because my salary can barely feed us. I've prayed o, still praying, but I'm tired! If I could afford rent, I would've moved out and start afresh with my kids but I'm not even sure that's a good idea.
In fact, I am confused, hence I need your advice and that of blog visitors so that I can make a better decision. Did I even tell you that he's right in front of me as I type this mail, but he's busy chatting with "them" on Facebook.
I know because I have his password and I'm reading their conversations from my phone here. From what I see, this man is not about to change anytime soon unless something drastic happens.
WOW...Dunno what to say!!!
Speechless
ReplyDeleteBrb
That is the definition of a horse and ☝☝☝☝ with the horse in capital letters... The only thing remaining now is for him to start beating you and he will beg u and you will still say
DeleteIt's okay
Pls stay
We understand
Meanwhile hi five✋
This is seriously serious
DeleteMoney answers to this chronicle. I pray your helper locates you soon.
DeleteThis chronicle reminds me of a man I met sometime ago, this man! Very gentle by looking but devil himself when it comes to cheating, he cheats soteee he cheated with cleaners, security ladies in a particular bank, even the tellers, gush
DeleteThe day I met the wife, I cried for that woman, he even introduced her to me, funny enough the wife trusted him with her life, she can swore for him!!
The day I noticed he was making passes to me was the day I told him to say his last prayers in my mind, I played along with him, bought my land, My car, My business, infact there was nothing I did not collect from him, My first time to travel out was cutesy of him,i posted him till I gave him his shock of life,i collected money from him for my wedding, few days to my wedding I broke the news to him and adviced him to consider the poor innocent woman he kept at home, jeje na so I carry Waka,
its in their blood and nothing can change them till Christ come
After 12yrs of marriage ?
DeleteContinue enduring until u give urself hbp
Do what will make u happy......
Madam its either u leave,insist on him to condom to sleep wt u,stay and be infected wt std(I) or use black magic to "mumu" him
DeleteThis man has been cheating from day one and you knew it but still forced yourself to stay cos you wanted to get married.
DeleteYou ve been forgiving since courtship, why do you wanna stop now? Pray tell...
No matter what we say here, you ll still stay so just stop checking his phones/social media
You go soon get hbp
You stayed with a man that slept with ur own sister and cousin in the first year of ur marriage?and how are u sure he didn't sleep with ur mum when she came for omuguor?..gosh u disgust me,You even have the guts to be getting pregnant anyhow,till five kids?wow just wow,.And now u want to run,..no o,stay married, ...u made ur bed so lay on it, as for my advice,please stay with him till he sleeps with ur entire lineage...I must remain married, rubbish,nonsense woman,u definitely deserve what u are getting now,he will soon sleep with ur daughter,thats if he has not done that already, You just spoilt my day with this ur chronicle mtweeeet
DeleteNnukwunwanyi abeg colect high five!!!!! She can cut off family and friends but still living with the shameless he goat and typing chronicles. Madam poster you should have cut off man, sister and cousin from ur life immediately u found out. U forgave him rite?!! Oya keep forgiving till he sleeps with ur daughters. Maybe by den u shall receive sense.
DeleteNnukwuwanyi haba! Take it easy on her, it's not easy to understand someone's actions until u are in her shoes.
DeleteNnukwunwanyi abeg colect high five!!!!! She can cut off family and friends but still living with the shameless he goat and typing chronicles. Madam poster you should have cut off man, sister and cousin from ur life immediately u found out. U forgave him rite?!! Oya keep forgiving till he sleeps with ur daughters. Maybe by den u shall receive sense.
DeleteHe slept with your sister and you stayed there birthing children. You basically told him it's ok to cheat and now you a dieing a thousand times. Abegi stay with your horseband, it's too late to change anything
DeleteAnon 16:25 don't lie he fucked you too. You will reap what you sow.
DeleteHe even slept with your sister sef. If that didn't make you leave is it random married woman that will still go back to their husbands that will make you leave??? That's what happens when you ignore signs signs during courtship or court for a short while all cos you wanna be a Mrs so bad.
DeleteWhy are you insulting this woman? Pray you don't find yourself in her condition, you think it is easy? Nawao for you o! Nnukwu nwanyi
DeleteAbeg oo, what's with the insults?? She asked for help. No one knows what will happen or what you'll do if you are presented with your own brand of cheating husband. No one! So pls don't just insult her, if you don't have any clever thing to tell her, keep shut!!!
Delete1,000,000 likes!!! RUBBISH!
DeletePpl re alwys so quick to act judging judy,like your own. Life is perfect...well like they.he who face it,knows it ...so stop judging ppl anyhow,if. You cntbe logical it's nt. Compulsory yu comment,haba....@ nwayin Watever u re irritating n. those supporting re u re disgusting. There re better ways to say urshits n be rudeor sound stupid..hian. #editdshiturself#awon oponu I too kn
DeleteFor those of u insulting her, I believe most of you are single ladies. The truth is that most men cheat. Those who don't cheat area few that has a very strong control over their desire to explore their sexual conquest. What I will advice is that madam you should always make sure you sleep with him with protection and then ignore him. Its only God that can change him. If you leave him now won't you be tempted to start sleeping around with random men who will now see sleeping with you as if their are doing you a favour.
Deletechronicles..............
ReplyDeleteP.S I feel like the only reason you have a problem with it is cos isn't ok financially anymore. We both know if he was still you'll forgive this indiscretion. You just have to manage till your last child gets into uni. It's not easy to take care of 5 kids all by yourself.
DeleteNow I see why there are so many angry wives here.
DeleteAnyhoo, them never born that man wey go make me cut off from people I haven't made up my mind to for personal reasons.
If you can cut your family off why not the he-goat? 'You don't have money'. My dear, the bible says if yiu keep looking at the weather you will not sow. You never ready!!
One chance
ReplyDeleteEzigbote one chance. This kind of man no dey change o except God strikes him. Smh
DeleteD woman on today's ihn who shared on chronicles about how she slept with her hubby's friend to get d hubby out jail,do u know why I don't pity u? that's d kind of fate that befalls someone stupid enuff to follow the advice of a senseless,retarded,semi-illiterate like queen n boss(who can only hold dat title with her husband) n other single ladies who fight over stupid boys on single n mingle.
DeleteThis one no be one chance oh cos the woman carry open eye enter the marriage.
DeletePoster from her first year of marriage knew her husband was a serial cheat. Yet she still 'saye otule' de collect prick till 5kids drop. 12 years 5kids. In 15 years to come two more will be added. Did you not hear that once you know your husband is a cheat, you limit your production capacity to 2 or 3 kids. That way if you need to make an emergency exit from your marriage, its easier to deal with. But no, you tanda born 5 kids. Chinazu abi? Where exactly do you want to go with this lot? No good job, no good home, nothing. My advice is to continue from where you stopped oh and pray. All this while you did not remember sey infection de fly around.
Who has 5 kids these days? With a serial cheat? ?
DeleteUseless men everywhere. Just like the ones in yesterday's S&M asking for what they cannot afford. Forgetting that you must meet the requirements of your requirements.
ReplyDeleteBroke, rude asses looking for obedient, fertile, curvy and independent women. While they look like apparitions typing behind their curve 3
Chai. The man that made you this bitter does not know God, I swear.
DeleteQuicksilver did any of them force you to add them?? One man's meat is another man's poison. Frustrated Gwegw
Delete😅😅😅una no go kill person for dis blog
DeleteQuicksilver she haff vexed! Choi pele dear
DeleteI read the SnM post and frankly.. all i did was laugh my ass out jare
Everybody wants a working-class lady now, no student or jobless geh again o. It's well
Poster leave him already! At least you have a job. Your options are; (1) Leave Him. (2) Keep on praying for him. (3) Do better jazz for him. (4) Divorce him. (5) Start cheating too. (6) Watch War Room. (7) Ignore him and live for your kids. (8) Keep enduring like you've been doing. Choose anyone of the above
Hahahahahahahaa quickie ooooo hahahahahahaa
DeletePunch line on fleek!
Lolzzz...u just cracked my ribs
DeleteLmao! BV's oooo. No be small apparitions
DeleteQuicksilver you vex oh😁😀
DeleteQuicksilver you vex oh😁😀
DeleteBitter bitch who made ur live so?
DeleteMy dear, u just speak my mind, for the first time I participated in SnM, for a serious relationship that will lead to marriage, the guy that added me told me that he is jobless, n how long do I want the relationship to last b 4 marriage. I no fit shout.
DeleteNa wa o. Did you eat unwashed bitter leaf? You are terribly bitter. In fact you are a bitter silver... Whoever made you this bitter must be dead else he's soon gonna die if you ever set your eyes on him. Meanwhile, No be by before to add anybody on SnM, and if you add, did THE EFCC freeze your delete button? Abi na by force to make friend. Delete delete and delete,instead of hiding behind your chinco fone dey form big girl. Abeg gerrarahere jare make we see beta people.
DeleteWell you just said u wont divorce right? So what do u want us to tell u?
ReplyDeleteHe slept with yiur sister (of all women in the world) in your 1st yr of marriage and you forgave him? Abeg deal with ur issues. You prolly enjoy your situationship.
Some things for me should be unforgivable and sleeping with a friend/sibling of your spouse is one. Thats the height of disrespect.
...Word!!!
DeleteMadam, swear say u no know say ur husband dey cheat b 4 u marry am. Please deed with it. Cos u think that once he marry u, u will change him. U don turn to A PC
DeleteLmao @ APC
DeleteU are married to a poor man that cheats. Wow just wow
ReplyDeleteAsin ehhhnnn, double gbese...better get a side niggur aka ndi distraction
DeleteYou said you can't cheat on him and you can't divorce him as well, the ONLY OPTION left now is "NEVER CHECK HIS PHONE AGAIN". Don't ever log in to any of his SM account and belief it that he's not cheating on you. SIMPLE
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
@Larry, u ve said it all jare. what the hell!
DeleteYou just gave her the best advice..for her sanity,let her leave her life and forget his bad side.
Delete1000 likes for ur comment
So she should live in denial till HIV got up with her
DeletePoster, your husband needs deliverance. How can you have 5kids for a man that slept with your sister and cousin gosh
He has been a cheat before you married him.
My advice, stop having sex with him without protection till you have the courage to move or he change
best advice
DeleteYou have said it all. Since u can't divorce and can't leave your only option is to stop snooping and live your life and keep praying to God that he doesn't give you a disease.
DeleteNo comment.
ReplyDeleteSincerely I stopped at sleeping with your sister in your first year.
ReplyDeleteMadam and you stayed because? What kind of family are you even from? Your sister let your husband have intercourse with her or was she raped?
Your husband cannot respect you when your own family doesn't respect you enough not to eat for your own food.
Your family needs spiritual cleansing and you need to ask yourself what you hope to gain from that sham you call marriage.
But here you go again with the bulls hit of who will care for your kids.
Weak women piss the fuck out of me. 12 years and you couldn't plan and save, you were probably waiting for a miracle to happen and stop your husband's wandering penis.
You think if you die today in a loveless marriage, your children will stop living?
Admit that you like sex and you're scared of staying alone or what society will say instead of the children bullshit.
Don't they have a father? Can't you manage and use the little you earn while you work on getting more.
Don't widows manage with even more than 3 kids?
Abeg you're not ready. Stay there and be asking silly questions.
Are your parents late? Pardon me if I missed that part If you included it in your narrative but like I said I stopped at he slept with you sis and cousin in your first year.
I'm sure you also knew your hubby is shameless before marriage but you were praying do a miracle.
Gwegw Doppelganger keep waiting for the perfect man until you are 45
DeleteThey will soon tell her to watch war room now
DeleteYou nailed it!!! A lot of questions without answers in the narative.
DeleteSpot on
Deletewhy you come dey insult her nau,it is obvious that you are sad and lonely,i can feel d pain in your writing,sad lonely human being.
DeleteI agree with you doppelganger, she allowed it linger this long she should bear all consequences. Your husband sleeping with your sis and cousin is demeaning to say the least. You stomached it for 12 years and now you seek advice? I'm getting you..
Delete👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
DeleteWell said @doppelganger.
DeleteAbeg hold on with the praying, for how long will u pray? Who told u God has not heard? Who told u God doesn't want the man to change himself? If u keep praying for him who is praying for u? My sister had it been he was still having money I'd say sidown and be collecting, stop looking for love cos that is gone, stop hurting cos 12 yrs shud make u stronger.Like one of my sisters here will tell u to goan look for a rich bobo but me I'd say use what u have n take care of ur 5 kids and leave the man as he is let him be collecting from married women.If u don't cook let him look for food from the married women, and don't ever think u r not good enough he is just a PIG
ReplyDeleteYour husband is possesed, kai!
ReplyDeleteYou seem to be a cool-headed woman
Because, I can't imagine my man chatting with some random dogs
While I sit and watch patiently
Although his own case has passed 'becareful'
He needs deliverance, I am not kidding...
This kind husband go they give Deliverance Ministers hard time during deliverance prayer.Abeg report him to your Pastor or Family. You are slowly going into depression.
DeleteShe is already depressed.
DeleteI've been into masturbation for a while now.. I do it like 4 times in a week. Wanna know if it will have side effects on me, cause don't really want to start have sex up and down.. Pls help me.. I'm a man
ReplyDeleteYou'll just give yourself HBP!
ReplyDeleteAs u r reading their chats now, wahts ur gain?
Looks like u knew he's a cheat n married him Al d same cos u can't tell me he just started and u had to birth 5 kids ontop!
Madam enjoy!
Five wonderful kids for that man and some better men dey pray for just one!
DeleteGod ur ways are miraculous and unquestionable
You'll just give yourself HBP!
ReplyDeleteAs u r reading their chats now, wahts ur gain?
Looks like u knew he's a cheat n married him Al d same cos u can't tell me he just started and u had to birth 5 kids ontop!
Madam enjoy!
First, madam so u r among the people that type in other people"s email and password into their fones just to read chat? Ok o. Continue!!!
ReplyDeleteUr cup of tea sha
Where una dey see this fools marry anyway na long throat Carr y una go. Drink coconut oil
ReplyDeleteAnd watch war room 😂
DeleteIs he jobless? Since always on the fone chatting... Madam live the life of a single woman, am not saying you start cheating, forget he is your horseband, focus on your kids and look for a way to start up a small business in addition to your salary, when you are able to take care of yoursef and d kids without his help, take a walk,and stop collecting from him to avoid you catching STDs.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahah...
ReplyDeleteKwakwakwakwa...
Poster sorry for laughing at your predicaments...
Lwkmd!...
Why didn't you leave when he cheated with your sister and cousin?...
I don't advise married women to leave their marriages except for domestic violence...
Madam,you need to tie and chain his philandering spirit spiritually!...
Trust me after doing that,his prick will never rise when he is with another woman...na just small money e of cost you...
Meanwhile,start collecting money from him..he is broke at the moment but have the one he is spending on those women....
I'm sure he pays for the hotel and drink they take before having sex...
And lastly,Stop allowing him to have sex with you untill you are done chaining him!...
Gbam!!!
DeletePoster follow this advice
He should be chained like a dog
DeletePoster sorry but that's what ur horse of a band is
*go...
DeleteQueen of the coast. Lol.
DeleteI don't get this poster oh. U knew your horseband is this randy yet you went on to have 5 kids? 1 2 3 4 5!! Let me tell u. When I found out my own cheated, I stopped at 2 kids so if anything, I can take care of them and me. If I knew what I know now, I for don waka leave am tey tey. Even though he has stopped, I am still watching. One mistake, I am gone.
DeleteIf you musto leave at all,this is the time to do so. Uust have all the evidence in your hands. U will be suprised how you will be able to manage.
He k ow you will not be able to stand on your own that's why he is still doing what he does.
My own go dey talk say he knows if we seperare, I will be able to take care of things and I work part time. Shine your eye oh. 1e years is a long time to live in fury and pity. People always say they are staying for the kids but don't forget that one day, those kids will leave home and find their own lives that's when you would look at yourself and wonder about what you have left of yourself.
A word is enough for the wise. How can he sleep with your sister and you stayed?? I can't phantom that oh.where you so desperate to stay married or was it what society would say?
Hmm nawaoh
I think I know d poster....you just had twins abi?
DeletePoster says "I'm considering leaving him before he infects me with something I can't handle"... when last did u check ur status? If he hasnt infected you already! Too many unhappy wives, & to think the Wedding night gists are so nice, how does it all go sour? Its either you divorce him & leave or you keep 4gving his short comings & insist on a condom.
ReplyDeleteTyrionLannister: You need a proper, discreet swordsman.
As it happens, I have just the one.
JaimeLannister: My brother tells me you can keep your mouth shut, unusual talent for a sellsword.
Bronn: He tells me you shit gold just like your father.
JaimeLannister: Is this place safe?
Bronn: There's this knight, Leygood, got thunderbolts on his shield.
Uh-huh, Right here is where i fuck his wife, she's a screamer, that one.
If they don't hear her, they won't hear us.
#Tywin Lannister: What did you discuss?
DeleteOberyn Martell: The death of my sister.
Tywin Lannister: For which you blame me.
Oberyn Martell: She was raped and murdered by the Mountain. The Mountain follows your orders. Of course I blame you.
Tywin Lannister: Here I stand, unarmed, unguarded... should I be concerned?
Oberyn Martell: You are unarmed and unguarded because you know me better than that. I am a man of reason. If I cut your throat today, I will be drawn and quartered tomorrow.
Tywin Lannister: Men at war commit all kinds of crimes without their superiors' knowledge.
Oberyn Martell: So you deny involvement in Elia's murder?
[pause]
Tywin Lannister: Categorically...
For these GoT quotes, I love the two of you.Please don't stop.
DeleteAbi ooo, e be like sey WNB is the opposite of chronicles.
Delete@ olaide, thanks hon
DeleteMadam you are just a confused human being. See your narration. Am sure your husband had money then but you decided to stay and take shit. Thank God you no carry HIV or a bad disease.
ReplyDeleteSince you dont want to leave him, go and tie his blokus for inside bush na or you want me to tell you to go and watch WAR ROOM.
So your 'whoresband' cheats on you with your sister and cousin yet you went ahead and forgave him,gave birth to 5 kids but stiĺl not in talking terms with your sister???? maybe till he sleeps with your daughter before you will receive sense. you are broke,don't want a divorce and don't want to get infected with STD plus you are tired of praying and can't dream of cheating on him, so tell us what you want us to advice you??? Have you asked yourself what would have been your fate if you were the one caught cheating?? Abegi! you are not serious.
ReplyDeleteI weak o
DeleteLmao @whoresband.
DeleteI became weak after reading he slept with her sister and cousin. Such disrespect from both parties. You must have a forgiving heart to go ahead and have 5kids.....5. I will advice you go for tests to be sure you are healthy. Then try your best to stop monitoring his chats, sm handles so as not to hurt yourself emotionally. Try and save, no matter how little. Think of a business with high demand even with the economic situation of the country, write a business plan and apply for a loan from either microfinance, bank of industry or any financial institution. Channel your energy into making the business work, because caring for 5kids is no child play. Meanwhile you can either abstain from collecting or insist on using protection. When you have achieved financial stability, you can insist on separation before deciding if you want to divorce him or not.
Why do men really cheat. Stella I think we should dedicate a day for the married women to pray and break every York of cheating husbands in their lives. Infact this prayer should be general for nigeria men. It's getting outta hand o
ReplyDeleteTrust me some of them will still cheat!
DeleteSex is overated, Sex is overated.... Yet the cheating stories keep piling up like SnM comments from ladies.
DeleteWomen cheat also my dear.....
olodo please go and read the post again,abi u nor read where she say na both married women,you when dey write so,nobody know wetin u don do or dey do or go do in future.men and women cheat.
DeleteYou better stay and love that man, who will sleep with you after five children.... 😯😯😯
ReplyDeleteLmao
DeleteYa wicked!
Who sleeps with the mad women on the streets and gets them pregnant?
Delete....Many would if it's God's will. This is not hearsay, I know a woman who had 5 kids just like this poster but was widowed.
DeleteShe got married to a rich man who had no kids of his own and eventually had 2 together. The second child of their union is my good friend. So, one can find love again even in the most unlikely situation.
Thanks Tetrina. Anon15:13 wants poster to completely lose her self esteem because she has children and has suffered setbacks. Poster hold unto your self esteem for dear life and look unto God. Please stay away from him to avoid diseases. I repeat don't let him infect you. Live ooo, or you will die and leave your children behind.
DeleteSister,if checking his messages brings you so much heartache, why do you keep doing it? At this point,I'm forced to think your husband is cursed or something. How can someone cheat like it's a profession? I don't know if to advice you to leave him or stop snooping I just don't know what to say.
ReplyDeleteThis is a case of "God forbid"
Break his head immediately.......
ReplyDeleteKai! Serenity, you are not serene at all , lmao.
DeleteTht man is cursed!!! It is in his blood.Stop sleeping without protection with him and also think less.Forget about him and try to stop snopping!
ReplyDeleteU are also cursed @pussy doll
DeleteMy dear, its like cheating is his hobby, it is still prayers that can do the magic, if not wwhat else? U can pack out leaving ur children behind, maybe u should refuse him sex, or tell him to be using condom. Infact I don't even know what to say, may God help u.
ReplyDeleteLeave her children behind for this kind of man? Smh..
Deleteis only God that can save and deliver a cheating husband, why don;t you take this issue to God, and talk to him like daughter and father, tell him to check the man he blessed you with, tell Him that this was not what he promised you in the scripture concerning marriage, let him arrange his son cos He was the one that created him in the first place. Tell him you have no other person to run to but Him, talk to him, pour out your heart to God, this issue is not something for you to fight or move out of the house, you need your husband back, have you read the power of a praying wife? is not easy but staying without a man is not also easy.
ReplyDeleteFast and pray; fasting daily like till evening until you see the change. Be ready to see him totally penniless but know that that will be effective in the long run. It's happened before. But before that, be sure you surrender to Christ totally.
ReplyDeleteDon't disturb yourself fasting bcoz of him o
DeleteIs he willing to quit his way? If yes let him fast and pray by himself while you support
God doesn't force man to change since he's still enjoying his sinw
You better run and count yourself favoured because you don't have disease yet.You should have also left him when you discovered he slept with your sister and cousin.You are married to a very bad dog.
ReplyDeleteMadam am sorry but if i were you i would av gone a long long time ago.You deserve to be happy na.
ReplyDeleteHIANNN!!!! Aunty Stella when will the trumpet sound oh
ReplyDeleteWhich trumpet?
DeleteIf its the trumpet for Jesus to come, just forget about that one, he has changed his mind since 2000AD
Na trumpet you dey wait for? Sit down there make pant dey wear you.
DeleteLol, this anon don kill me here.
DeleteWatch War Room Part 2.
ReplyDelete#WhiteDiamondOut
And rub coconut oil on his manhood😂
DeleteWho war room epp?
Delete....hahahahaha, White Diamond!
DeleteWatch War Room and rub coconut oil on his dick? Chaii
DeleteUna go kill person with laugh here oo kikikikikikiki
And cross your legs like a mermaid😡
DeleteIbukunoluwa what your own with coconut oil na?,😂😂😂😂
which kian pant u marry,he has a psychological issue my dear,please go and see a psychologist for treatment',he is addicted and like all addictions it must b handled professionally.please act fast before he infects u all in the name of marriage.then don't relent in ur prayers so all ur effort will not be in vain.
ReplyDeleteHe is most likely a sex addict, or dey don do am from village make e useless...
DeleteAsin madam, chronicle gia rilu m onu okwu. Since u cnt take it anymore... somewer in the middle of this lies ur answer... either u stay n pretend he dont exist n by so doing give him every reason to cheat bt completely denying him sex. Or u leave!
ReplyDeletei want to advice you but i dont want to sound too diabolic. work on his peperenpe. go to the right place and lock the useless cock. it wont function outside on another woman's toto. that seem to be the only solution i can think of now that is not terrible or else i will say CHOP OFF HIS COCK.
ReplyDeleteBest advise so far.
DeleteWhat advise are you looking for now? abeg swerveeeeeeeeee
ReplyDeletego on 3 days dry fast for him to have erectile dysfunction and buy a dildo.
ReplyDeleteLmaooo
DeleteU people will not kill me lai lai😂😂
That's the only solution.
DeleteOne day, you will wake up and realize, you are the only one in that marriage.
ReplyDeleteHow can he sleep with your sister?
Tomorrow, when you leave him, he will send in Chronicles like that 'self righteous' poster that wants to marry the timid sister of his ex-wife. He will start telling the whole world that you left him when he had nothing.
Both of you should go for counseling?
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Counselling wetin?
DeleteWho says that'd help?
Even if they share the same bed with the pastor,
That mans dick has a mind of its own.....
Except its cut off!!
Bless you for this comment. I still reminisce over that stupid post and how lame ass BVs supported the idiot without wondering why he painted himself as a saint & the ex as the devil.
DeleteLike you Lily, I am still trying to wrap my head around how a man is trying to justify not just gbenshing, but marrying his wife's sister, when she is still alive. Even if she was dead I wouldn't support it, but it would have been better. Both the man and sister are poisonous people that can kill. Nothing justifies going down the wrong path. That is why 2 wrongs can never make a right. Even if the wife is the devil, it still does not justify marrying the sister. You have gbenshed, yet you are not satisfied, you are even boasting... kai! This world ooo...
DeleteBroke and unfaithful????
ReplyDeleteHow stupid can women be?
Singing(double wahala for deady body,yepa)*
Then leave him poster. Don't u have parents, take d kids to their grandparents. I caught mine in a hotel room. I read his chat with d woman in question, screenshot d convo and sent it to my fone. Played along with his game. He made an appointment with her, gave her d usual hotel address. So, I decided to pay them a visit. And the woman is a married woman o. Got to d hotel, lied dat I'm his sister and then gave d hotel attendants 10k. They just gave me d room number, I disguised as room service, guess who opened d door for me... My darling husband. Lol. The woman was inside, warming up for action. He was shocked and speechless. I asked him to lie down, took pictures with d camera I came with and den left. I forwarded the pictures to her husband's office as a beautiful package 🎁. Right now, they are divorced. U can call me wicked o, I don't care. For me, I left with my baby girl and we re living comfortably cos, I have a very good job. A well paying one at dat. Dude is trying to come back, but, for where?
ReplyDeleteHmm.... Hard to believe they allowed u taking pics, you didn't mention u had a gun oh.
DeleteYou have not left the marriage, it is people like you that will send chronicles later. If you left , how do you know he is trying to come back if you don't give him audience.
DeleteChop knuckle.
DeleteFeels like a movie, abegi! They hadn't started the action, but laid down obediently for you to take their pics? Except you went with two ferocious dudes, I doubt any man or woman will not fight his or her way out of the hotel room, when faced with just a single woman
DeleteBabe I admire you die!!!
DeleteThat the spirit oh...any guy that want to be stupid, I'll treat his fuck up.
Am studying to be a geological engineer..I can't fit shout oh!!
Wow!!
DeleteWell done job. 👏
DeleteNa, no one will call you names.
DeleteBut for the love of God, why are so many married women involved in extra marital affairs? Have we lost our values or what? How come we had very faithful mothers? Was it lack of opportunities, lack of sociam media and technology that made our mothers and grandmothers faithful irrespective of being with a faithful/unfaithful husband.
Sensa Greene
Pure Nigerian, dude fears my dad like kilode. My dad is d pillar of his company. All he was just saying was 'baby pls save my face, don't tell anybody, pls.' I said OK. On one condition. I will take ur pictures. Or I call my dad. He was just trembling. At d end they agreed. That's it. See, let me tell u. Ur husband is as vulnerable as anything when u catch him cheating unexpectedly. So forget matter.
DeleteAnon, I'm not giving him any attention. He's been bringing people to beg me. But, who cares? People don't really change. Once a cheat, will always be a cheat.
DeletePoster, sorry o. It beats my imagination when women say they can't start afresh...or so, bcs of their kids. I undstnd we mothers have this special love for our kids. But as far as I am concerned, if I am to start my life all over again due to a broken marriage, I won't take my kids along o, let their dad fend for them and see if what I have been doing all along is easy! Men tend to mess around more esp if u have kids, reason being that u won't be able to leave the kids behind. And if u eventually leave with the kids, d men will now start cruising life unto they have now bcome 'bachelors' while u de woman on the other hand will become worn out from stress of caring for the kids. So will u now pack all the kids and be the one hustling to make sure they are OK? Smh. I can't o, biko. Na two of us get the children kpatakpata,we share dem, den I fit dey visit dem frm time to time. Anyway poster, I am just saying my mind o!
ReplyDeleteMarry first and see if you would want another woman looking after your kids.
DeleteWhen u get married u will understand how hard it is even to leave ur kids behind with a nanny let alone. . .
DeleteLol. Anon16:18, are u the poster? FYI, I am a married woman with 3kids. Pls only say what u know!
DeleteI am with you best amongst, the men believing the women will leave with the kids even encourages them to send their wife out so they live like a bachelor and the woman can't even hustle well with kids in her custody
DeleteMrs Bee
am passing through a similar situation and though married for just three years,i have caught him several times with different women on facebook and whatup, only God can heal the broken heart of a woman with a man that is a serial cheat. i justcannt muster the courage to move on
ReplyDeleteDidn't you see the signs at first? Or you thought you could change him. Well, happy married life.
DeleteMadam you sound like you really love this man and always willing to give him a second chance hoping one day just one day he will change. Its not very easy to walk out of a marriage, its as difficult as breaking a covenant. But u have to take a decision and stop sleeping with him cos u aint safe. Please pray about it and let the spirit lead you.
ReplyDeleteWhat a chronicle;am so pissed off. poster u r a disaster to d women folk. Mschew low life women like u be taking rubbish from dia horsebands in d name of marriage?😠.
ReplyDeleteHow do u even sleepWhat a chronicle; poster u r a disaster to d women folk. Mschew low life women be taking rubbish from dia horsebands in d name of marriage?😠.
How do u even sleep all ds years hanging ur legs on d window with a man who consciously slept wt ur sister, cousin, some of ur friends.....tufiakwa. Hmmmm wetin remain again? Its for him to sleep wt ur mother n daughters na. Abi!
Oya clap for ursef for remaining in such a marriage n birthing 5kids. Sex wt him must really a life tonic for u but U get luck o, HIV Neva hook ur system yet....how ds u do it?
U r so funny How can u ask, 'What a chronicle; poster u r a disaster to d women folk. Mschew low life women be taking rubbish from dia horsebands in d name of marriage?😠. Are u such a low life? How do u even sleep all ds years with a man who consciously slept wt ur sister, cousin, some of ur friends.....tufiakwa. Hmmmm wetin remain again? Its for him to sleep wt ur mother n daughters na. Abi! Oya clap for ursef for remaining in such a marriage n birthing 5kids. U get luck o, HIV Neva permeate ur system yet....
How can u ask, 'how long will I continue to forgive a man who can't stay faithful for even one week!'? U must b a joker. Madam pls kip enduring till Jesus comes, trust me He is coming soon. Stick to ur prick wandering KEZAIAH horseband after all love conquers all.
A man that's so fixated on women can't prosper beyond a certain level. Now you want to leave after 12years,five kids,and numerous strange women? Where are you going to with five children? where do u want to start afresh from? Single girls never start afresh,na after 5 you wona start afresh? U should have left a long time ago. Get yourself a sugar daddy if ur body and face is still anything to write home about,stop sleeping with that dog u call ur husband,turn him into a flatmate and get urself jazz to tame him so u can live ur life. Turn him into your children's nanny while you hook yourself up with rich men that can help u financially. That's the answer. Isn't that what u want to hear?
ReplyDeleteWhen they ask u people to trust God and wait for his time,u damn the consequences and rush into the arms of the first prattling fool that asks u to marry him. Madam, this is the cross uve been called to bear,carry it and take your burdens to Jesus(if ure a Christian),cus only He can save you. Cry unto the God of Jacob, He alone has answers. The answer he gives you will liberate you and bring u to a place of everlasting peace. God is your answer. Don't forget to teach ur children that divine direction from the Almighty is the key to living a peaceful life. Everything done outside of the Holyspirit's leading brings nothing but shame and pain,and that's exactly what ure going through. If u wonder how unreligious people get it right in choosing patners,its because even they dont ignore that inexplainable peace that comes with meeting the right person and thats the first sign of the prescence of God because there is nothing peaceful about satan. The mistake has been made,so Just Give it over to Jesus madam,take each day as it comes,and every morning u wake up,give it over to Jesus and encourage urself in the Lord. I wish u the very best.
First time I caught my bf cheating,he begged me not to leave him paid in huge money into my account, 2nd time. He begged and sent me on vacation abroad,he actually thinks he will buy me with his money, I am jejely playing safe and gathering all I can till I find a better man.I no fit
ReplyDeleteMy dear, chop and invest jare. Best of luck.
DeleteU cant kill myself because someone cheated on u, u are not Jesus Christ, u not here to die for his sins. Stop checking hiss phone and emails just pretend as if u never knew he cheats, and live ur life. Shikina.
ReplyDeleteBabes u get heart oooo,he slept with ur sis ND cousin ND u still stood with him ,If u happen to be d one dat slept with his broda ND cousin u won't be married to him anymore.
ReplyDeleteMadam watch the movie WAR ROOM. Stop snooping on ur husband stop logging into his FB account just stop everything and face God alone keep praying don't get tired and one last advise don't sleep with him cos if u go carry HIV na OYO be ur matter. May God help u(nothing is impossible with God)
ReplyDeleteEhen lest I forget pls watch d movie WAR ROOM meanwile am dedicating the song "Can't give up now" below to u by Mary Mary. Enjoy. 😎
ReplyDeleteMARY MARY
There will be mountains
That I will have to climb
And there will be battles
That I will have to fight
But victory or defeat
It's up to me to decide
But how can I expect to win
If I never try
I just can't give up now
I've come too far from where
I started from
Nobody told me
The road would be easy
And I don't believe He's brought me this far
To leave me
Never said there wouldn't be trials
Never said I wouldn't fall
Never said that everything would go
The way I want it to go
But when my back is against the wall
And I feel all hope is gone
I'll just lift my head up to the sky
And say help me to be strong, oh
I just can't give up now
I've come too far from where
I started from
Nobody told me
The road would be easy
And I don't believe He's brought me this far
To leave me
Oh, I know You didn't bring me
Out here to leave me lonely, oh no
Even when I can't see clearly
I know that You are with me so I can't
I just can't give up now
I've come too far from where
I started from
Nobody told me
The road would be easy
And I don't believe He's brought me this far
To leave me
Read more: Mary Mary - Can't Give Up Now Lyrics | MetroLyrics .....
My question is...did this start after marriage? because this is ridiculous! 12years!!! And to think he slept with your sis and cousin. My dear, your hubby is an unrepentant cheat and it's either you live with it i.e never go through his phone and just pretend everything is fine or LEAVE! The decision is yours. Your hubby obviously has no respect for you. It's either that or he is cursed!
ReplyDeleteSo true yet funny...hehehehehehehe @ apparitions typing behind their curve 3...shining my 32
ReplyDeleteIts a pity that he doesn't know your worth or the worth of any woman, slept with ur sis n cousin yet u forgave him. What is ur heart made of? This is just the case of "let the sleeping dog lay", the dog is laying on ur bed so should u allow it sleep there while u manage da floor? Hell NO! Get down on ur kneels, pray a fervent prayer and do one week midnight praise and worship, believe it has been done. But like some people said earlier, he needs spiritual cleansing in the form of deliverance by a strong genuine man of God and he must be willing to change. God please take my life if I marry the right woman for me and cheat on her. So help me God.
ReplyDeleteA man you call your husband sleptbwith your sister of all women +cousin in the first year of your marriage and you forgave,went ahead to have 5kids and after 12 years you are complaining? No ma! You can't complain. He already gave ypu the highest disrespect 11yrs ago by splitting your family aand you allowed him get away with it simply cuz of d Mrs title. That simply means he can do anythin and get away with it. That's just how he feels. If there's anything,i wish you many more years of mrs. Youre a stupid woman. I feel like slappimg u.
ReplyDeleteHahaha I laughed because he always begged when caught. Women don suffer...chai!
ReplyDeleteWhere do you think you want to go? 5 kids in this Ajala's regime? To be honest, stop having SEX with him just behave as if you are his sister or roommate. Ignore him but look good, make yourself happy, I bet you one day he will come for SEX then remind him to be ready for test before you'll have sex with him because MEN don't change.
That was how my former oga died, had so many lovers and one even had 2 kids for him, got HIV incl the chic, but stop having sex with his wife and she complained and complained not knowing that her once prayer warrior turned womaniser hubby had contacted hiv. #Life
And I saw the hiv side chic this afternoon and she pretended not knowing me, the once sweet chic has turned to orobo, just yayashia herself.
Be prayerful.
Wow,just wow....please watch War Room part 4
ReplyDeleteDivorce him! Stay single, keep praying for him to turn around and it will all fall into place, because your staying back is making him believe he can get away with anytyn! Gudluck
ReplyDelete@ BVN Altheist, Ilike this game of throne reference. keep it up.
ReplyDeleteAs for the poster, The Lord is ur strength
Madam poster my advice for you is to leave ur kids with hubby and go get your life trust me...How can u even think of going with ur kids after all ur sufferings to see d grow there will still go back to their father so why d stress?
ReplyDeleteMadam poster my advice for you is to leave ur kids with ur hubby and go get a life,ur children will even appreciate you more and would understand. Going with them will hinder so many things"talking from experience". Besides after suffering ur ass out for them they would still go back to their father so why d stress?
ReplyDeleteMinding your business is a good business.
ReplyDeletePossessed husband and stupid wife.
Mother Nature
Madam chronicler, I don't know what to tell you cause it seems you are ready to accommodate your husband's excesses. I fear your family though
ReplyDeleteSmh.... What nonsense!!!! My dear use ur tongue and your teeth... Be wish
ReplyDeleteBe wise
ReplyDeleteConfession time buh nt really. My cousin's husband seduced me then. Mehnnn, d man could smoosh. Anyway, I was a teenager in my 1st yr in Uni. I'm even thinking ds myt be my cousin writing ds chronicle. I did nt sleep wt him tho buh we did d rest. Funny thing was it ws happening in her house wen I went to visit and d man stl pesters me till tmrw even as I'm married wt kids.
ReplyDeleteAnd yea, I told my mum den, buh nt d details and she scolded me. I also told my hubby wen we started dating, I didnt want any blackmail later, take me or leave.
It's unfortunate, I feel sorry for her cos I suspect he was sleeping wt d sister and many oda people. He is really nice and adores d wife. He was gud to me, buh I analysed myself and stopped collecting things from him then to severe our ties and plead wt karma.
Sorry coz if u r reading ds. I know u later knew and was making side comments. U cld hv scolded me, u r like upto 15yrs older dan me buh u wr acting like I was about snatching ur husband. Nne, I was js acting out my hormones not wt my head. I was really a novice and ur husband did nt pressure me into giving him my virginity.
I grew up without a mother "God rest her soul" so I must first advice u that nobody can love ur children more than U.U owe it to those children to love urself, live and leave that man so u can be happy. Divorce is still not a crime last I checked people must talk but In this pursuit of happiness all u should care about is YOU. If u die of HBP while snooping na ur eye u go close go but every child deserves a mother's love.
ReplyDeleteYou are the only one that can help yourself. You wear the shoe.
ReplyDeleteSee forgiving him do far you don't wanna divorce or start over again.
Hmmmm....this is really heart breaking....keep praying ma,God will answer you
ReplyDeleteI rarely comment, but ur post provoked me to.When will women learn, when will we begin to see ourselves as more deserving than what we get in the name of marriage. Madam poster you are still with this man because you are worried about what people would say, what are they saying now???... I mean a man that so disregard s u to the extent of sleeping with members of ur family,and did not see it as a "taboo" as u so righteously put it, u gave birth to 5 children for an unrepentant philanderer... Just stay there o, till your children grow up thinking "its normal" or till u get infected or better still till he decides that "he is not doing again".. Please find a way out of this sham u call a marriage!
ReplyDeleteHmmm am speechless right now .....it's well with u,dat's all I can say . U knew all these b4 u said I do n u went ahead to say I do, God will intervene in ur marriage..and d house say AMEN
ReplyDeleteAll you guys making mouth here...I hope you'll know its your wives her husband has been screwing #justsaying
ReplyDeleteMadame what do you want to hear, after all you have being living with him for good 12yrs is it because he is now broke that you are now indirectly planning to move so that you can now say bv broke your marriage? Please start wearing condom to protect yourself or better still abstain since he is not getting full satisfaction from you.
ReplyDeleteThere's an edo girl with a long name whatever from the last SnM before Sunday. Very bossy thing, good thing she deleted me her sef I would have done it. Stella, there's a reason most female bvs are single.
ReplyDelete12 years a slave.
ReplyDeleteMy dear the two options you are dreading is the only thing you have to do....
ReplyDeletePoster pls face ur children, they ar ur husband, don't get high bp bcos of his cheating attitude, prayer is d key with time he will change.
ReplyDeleteSo you went ahead and had 5 kids for a man who cheated on you with your blood sister and cousin in your first year as a couple? bear your cross madam, you can't leave him now, how do you want to train 5kids? With your meagre salary?(according to you) Or you think he will train them if you leave? He will remarry sharp sharp and the new wife will take over! Stop snooping, don't check his facebook and chats anymore, stop having unprotected sex with him, work hard and save for the rainy day. *shakingmybighead*
ReplyDeleteSo you went ahead and had 5 kids for a man who cheated on you with your blood sister and cousin in your first year as a couple? bear your cross madam, you can't leave him now, how do you want to train 5kids? With your meagre salary?(according to you) Or you think he will train them if you leave? He will remarry sharp sharp and the new wife will take over! Stop snooping, don't check his facebook and chats anymore, stop having unprotected sex with him, work hard and save for the rainy day. *shakingmybighead*
ReplyDeleteBut nawa for this woman oo
ReplyDeleteYou actually had 1,2,3,4,5 kids for a cheating husband, I believe you thought plenty sex and the resultant babies will change him but nay! You kept collecting and birthing, you better go for tests, HIV no dey show for face ooo. And one more thing, don't follow the advice of those telling you to leave him ooo, they won't be there when your kids are crying for food and school fees ooo. Economy don scatter ooo.
I know some women who say that when you birth plenty kids for a womanizer, he would stop womanizing as he would be so burdened with the load at home that he won't have money to flirt with other women outside.
YOU ALL SHOULD READ ANON 16.50pm COMMENT
ReplyDeleteWhy should they read it? This woman came here anonymously for help, someone who thinks they k ow her decided to expose her. Clap for yourself. So what if it was someone else? She has succeeded in exposing someone else. Women sef.
DeleteCommunity penis. Its either u accept it or leave him. You already said it he wont change at least not till he has wasted his useful years
ReplyDeleteBut some men can be funny atimes.how can a married man be jumping from one place to the other. Na waoh for some men.mtchewwwwwwwwwww.
ReplyDeletePoster God is your strength, you have come this far already and it won't be worth it to leave anymore except you are abroad where your kids can get benefits and you can live freely too but if in Nja, I will advice you live like neighbors with your hubby. Leave snooping alone, he has done worse and I wonder what you are still searching for. Ignore him and his wayward life, don't spend your token on him or with him. Let him fend for his kids, he should find a way to make money and don't care if he gets it from another woman. Try to keep yourself active and happy, it's generally believed that table turns in marriages after 10years to favor the woman so i want to believe you will soon be in charge
ReplyDeleteImagine you divorced him and you now have a bf, what is your assurance that the bf belongs to you alone? Picture you divorced him and you choose to be alone with no man. Both of these imagination is possible even while still living with him right? All the best
She does not need advice oo,she already made up her mind. She can't divorce him neither can she cheat. This is because she knows he has always been a cheat even before she married him. That's y she cud not dump his ass from the begining, cos there was money now wey money done reduce she come dey use her head think. Abegi park one side.
ReplyDeleteNa wa for una ! Why putting salt to an injury?
ReplyDeleteJust pray u don't find ur self in such situation.
Nne, for the kids sake pls don't walk away but no sex without condom if possible double. If he no like am like that make he forget am. And if u're the type that likes sex pls and pls cut down for u to be able to say NO when he don't want to do as u wish. Is possible that such runs in his family But the good Lord will grant u wisdom iJn.
Na wa for una ! Why putting salt to an injury?
ReplyDeleteJust pray u don't find ur self in such situation.
Nne, for the kids sake pls don't walk away but no sex without condom if possible double. If he no like am like that make he forget am. And if u're the type that likes sex pls and pls cut down for u to be able to say NO when he don't want to do as u wish. Is possible that such runs in his family But the good Lord will grant u wisdom iJn.