What would you do if this happened to you woman?Would you stay and find out what went wrong and try to rebuild or would you leave it all and walk away?
This happened to the Sister in law of a BV......
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Wednesday, July 13, 2016
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Well, I'm short of words. Has the man agreed to marry the lady as second wife or just take responsibilities on the baby?
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Annie has given us the perfect answer.
DeleteHmmmmmmm
DeleteThis is tricky.....I will read comment
I really do not know what I would do. I'll be shattered and broken for a long time. I might forgive him eventually though. I guess it depends mostly on how remorseful he is, and how willingly he is to win back my love...
DeleteTake it God in prayer. Lean not on ur own understanding. In all ur ways trust the Lord.
In all honesty I won't lose sleep over the issue. Men are so.... some it's after their demise you will see 3 children that he never told you about.
DeleteHmmmmm
DeleteI forbid this situation for me!
But should in case it happens, what I would do is to give him dead silence and allow him do whatever his mind tells him (could care less about his money cos I got mine!!!)
The good news is that I will become FREE!!! He should just forget faithfulness/loyalty on my part towards him.
I won't run off to the next dick, but will cool down and find me another beautiful heart to connect with! That way, him o, his new baby o and baby mama won't even scratch me! Will just focus on my HAPPINESS and my children! Will never advice him again so that he'll crash like a pack of cards!
Will only stop hurting him back if the spirit leads me or I get tired!
If the anger doesn't go away after all these, I just may leave him! If it goes away, we will continue managing*; but things just may never be thesame again!
My answer is " WILL THE HUSBAND ACCEPT THE WIFE BACK IF SHE IS PREGNANT FOR ANOTHER MAN?? IDIOT MEN. SORRY I AM BETTER OFF WITHOUT YOU!!!
DeleteCan't say anything till i get to that bridge
ReplyDeleteHouse, does anyone know if macaroots work to increase the butt and has no side effects? Or does anyone have other safe suggestions?
DeleteAccording to BVNs,any woman who stays with a cheat has low self esteem.
DeleteYou all had better divorce that cheat else you have severe low esteem issues.
Don't forget he cheated repeatedly without condoms and even got her pregnant.
Hahahaha.......
Annal Sex 10x daily. . .
DeleteAbi o @karmaisabitch. Hahaha
DeleteEven those wey dey talk about using juju, acid and sending thugs to beat up their hubby side chick now want to accept the baby and stay in the marriage. Na wa o
DeleteLa fresh don't you dare shade Linda. I will fight like a market woman just because of her. Maintain your lane if you don't want wahala. Jealous bitch!
Deleteah!
ReplyDeleteOn no account will I leave ,extend I know what my hubby did was bad,we thrash the issue together,am not in support of two wives but leaving my home for anoda woman,that Is what I won't do,
DeleteYou have low self esteem.
DeleteLmao!
You have low self esteem
DeleteShe will born the baby and bring the child for me to raise!..
ReplyDeleteHian...
What do you want me to say?...to divorce my husband?..
Odiro possible!...
I million kisses for u o,I luv ur comment abeg
DeleteBorn her baby for YOU to raise. You are in the 21st century, that does not happen again unless the woman is irresponsible
DeleteYou think the other woman will give up her child just like that
DeleteOdiro possible
I love you scatter. This one wan turn to obsession
DeleteU just soke my mind,i'm not leaving my hubby becos of that,i'm going to take good care of the baby
DeleteLol I kinda luv ur bluntness in this..
DeleteMe too. She'll bring the baby and I'll raise the child. I won't leave my husband for anyone
DeleteYou have low self esteem, because he will do it again and you keep being the nanny, until finally he gives you HIV, and you will stay and nurse it till death do you part.
DeleteLol
Lolol which woman will allow you raise her child for her?
DeleteLow self esteem! Lol fool
You guys are funny,except the side chick is an illiterate or a village girl. Give you her child to raise in 2016? Joke of the century.
DeleteHmmmmmm...no woman prays it happens but then, if it does...
ReplyDeleteThis is difficult mehn! I think it will take someone in this situation to answer this because i can't even imagine it in my head. Also, it's depending on the circumstances surrounding their gbenshing. Were they having an affair? Was it a one time thing? A mistake? These questions need to be answered first.
This colloquial word "gbensh" is so crude. Can u just say it out loud for urself to hear? I bet u would feel a cold chill of disgust when u hear it.
DeleteRight? Whatever happened to just saying 'have sex'. These vulgar and crude slangs are quite disgusting
DeleteFinallyyyyyy!!! Someone bears to speak on it! That term is the most disgusting classless term I have ever come across. And to see people using is sooo easily is mind-boggling. Pls my people stop! Just stop! "Collect" is even better... #phew
DeleteHmmmm! That's d result for cheating. That's gonna be a big blow to my face. But, am definitely not leaving my home for another woman to come in. He better pack out and go meet her. Cos the house will be hell for him.
ReplyDeleteYou have low self esteem.
DeleteLmao!
To be honest, i will just get d ladies address and arrange some boys to bring her to me. With 5k worth of weed she will be in territory before her people will know shes missing. I would then get a qualified doctor to remove the bastard from her body and the doctor will be handsomely rewarded.
DeleteAs for the foetus i will serve it to him as dinner that evening, am sure after such gory sight for dinner,he will never cheat on our marriage again.
Some people will say this is just joke bt no husband of mine having seen what i did with his sidechick would dare go out of our marriage to get someone pregnant again.
If u think am joking, pls try me n see. Not all women are angelic trust me.
Low self esteem! ! Lolol all this contradicting and hypocritical BVs that will say one thing and then say another
DeleteWell I will try and find out what went wrong and make sure my husband breaks all ties with her but accepts the baby after DNA.my husband too will go through comprehensive medical check up since he's gbenshing without condom.Last but not the least,I will find myself a fuck mate too.
ReplyDeleteJAMES WIFE!!!
James u don hear ur wife?
DeleteBig time low self esteem, you can't leave because you want to remain 'MRS' but you can cheat with another man and probably have a side kid too.
DeletePs, what makes you think the woman will give up her baby for a co-sex partner to take care of, yes! That's what you are to the side chick.
Nothing show dem luv
ReplyDeleteOgwu oke go sure pass for the man sha...Make Dh try am!
DeleteChukwu aju
ReplyDeleteThe question should be "What would you do if your husband impregnated another woman"?
ReplyDeleteI am not married yet but my husband's reaction would determine my actions.
If I don't leave him,our marriage would never remain thesame and I will never trust him!
am not married yet, but if this happens to me, i will stand by my husband. Accept the child and try to rebuild my home.
ReplyDeletePray not to experience it, it's easier said than done.
DeleteTalk is cheap
DeleteExactly. Easier said than done
DeleteThis Adanne is bitter! Ha!
DeleteSure. Until it happens, your tone will change. If you cheated and the reverse happen, do you think future hubby will be so quick as to say the same thing? Think about it. Men will sure leave you with the quickness.
DeletePresent twice....
DeleteThis Adanne and Karmaisabitch trolling people's comment and talking trash are fools, why dont u 2 soak the so called high self esteem in hot water and sprinkle as Baptism to the whole of ur generation so that they can avoid having LSE.
Idiot Ikot iwa.
reading comments.
ReplyDeleteUntil one is in this condition ,one won't know what to do.
ReplyDeleteToke makinwa was in a similar condition ,she walked out and in her own case the lady was someone from her husbands past...
Honestly I don't know what to say here..married women in the house please help out.
Stop this please. Why bring an innocent woman into this post? This is not fair
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ReplyDeleteOfcourse I would want to find out what went wrong afterwards I will leave
ReplyDeleteWhat would you rather I do, kill her/him/them?
ReplyDeleteOk, id cry my eyeballs out then pick them up and do nothing. Continue with ma life as if nothing hapoened maybe later start dating.
I will do anything but committing murder or leaving my home for.the intruder.
ReplyDeleteIf your hubby is a muslim that is entitled to many wives then you can stay put.
ReplyDeleteBut if he's a Christian then do what Toke did
Dump his sloppy ass.
As a Muslim, I will stay if my husband is not married to the lady. In Islam any child conceived out of wedlock cannot inherit anything from the father, even if he later marries her. As long as that child was conceived before marriage, nothing for the child.
DeleteLies! I have attended a lot of nikkais with pregnant brides.
DeleteMadam is it the inheritance that you are bothered about? It's really disgusting when a man cheats on his wife.
DeleteThat they did nikkah while pregnant doesn't make it right .. Or what are you saying ?
DeleteHmmm. Na until e happen now. Oh God, I reject it IJN.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm..
ReplyDeleteI don't even want to know what I would do.
Anyways, It SHALL NOT happen, God won't give me a temptation higher than I can bear....
But IF, a certain thing I know is I will MOVE OUT of his house na if e go kom b temporarily or permanently I no know for now.
Factors to consider; 1) How wealthy is the supposed husband? 2) How many mansions have we acquired in diaspora ? Then only can I know what action to take. No time for poverty stricken husband drama..As for bv's sis in law, what would you gain or loose by leaving or staying? Weigh your options and decide on what you would gain the most from. Kponqwim
ReplyDeleteSo you're not married or you're considering getting married to a poverty striken man just like you hence all the questions.
DeleteEyah. See painment. No be me send you to marry poor man oh.Enjoy porverty and own it ok? Onye nwuranwu na g'ije
DeleteNo woman will take my husband because of one yeye pregnancy o,I will remain in my house, fold my arms and watch.
ReplyDeleteOk
DeleteWith all this blabing...I won't leave my husband you guys are talking abt is the reason men will keep cheating. Imagine! And you will keep fighting side chics.
DeleteYou all will say one thing today and another tomorrow, never follow any1s opinion.
Are Men Gold? While if you do as much as cheat not even get pregnant he will throw you out. Hypocrites!
Trust has been destroyed but the patient and faithful wife will work it out; if the man is repentant. However, know that the wife has the right to walk away.
ReplyDeleteI will not walk away. Because I love him, I will wait to see if he still wants me and more so love me.
In one case I know of, the lady walked away. The man "married" the woman that bore him a son. They wanted to "relocate abroad" only for the DNA test to prove that the child is not the man's. Marriage scattered and the man was sulking. By then the other wife was already in a relationship.
Serves him right, wonder why it's so difficult for some men to respect their vows
DeleteI'd love the baby cuz it's part of my hubby. This happened to me so I'm speaking from experience. The baby is now 6 months old and she stays with us
ReplyDeleteMy dear that makes two of us, I'm still in a confused state. Not knowing how to go about it. Very painful experience
DeleteY u dey lie lie? Except u dont have a child of ur own or you guys are really old in d marriage, u wont 'love the baby' as easily as u claim. Madam, no dey lie. No woman would give u her 6 month old baby jst like dat without any drama. Madam.. No woman would accept a love child who is still an infant bcos infants require more attention. EXCEPT the wife has no Child or the marriage is already old and perhaps all her kids are grown
DeleteEven Sarah dat allowed Abraham to go outside nd have an issue bcos she couldnt bear her own. See as her true colour show when her own child came.. madam no dey lie lie under anonymous biko.
DeleteWow, welldone.
DeleteU are nice
DeleteTo Annoy 14:46 and 14:43, I have kids, 3 kids. My oldest is 17 and youngest is 8 so childlessness didn't make me do this. I love my husband, we all make mistakes,he did.its not an excuse,its fact and it so happens the baby,Fejiro,looks so much like my hubby so accepting her was very easy. I've been married for 23 years now,i was 23 when I got married. So believe me when I say, if you love your husband you will accept the baby cuz she didn't ask to come or be saddled with the anger u have. Karma will visit the culprits later. As for the mum, she's in our lives but not in the home...my story is for another day dearest...I don't blame your scepticism...
DeleteHmmmmm Very hard pill to swallow.
ReplyDeleteIf he's stinkingly rich and not voilent,I will accept the baby. If he's remorseful that is.
ReplyDeleteHe's baby mama should also go her way after birthing and find her own hubby(that way peace is restored).
Albiet,If she tries rubbish,na to light a red caDle by the sea for her noni. 'in adetokunbo's voice'.
The wife should support and treat the pregnant woman as ur your younger sister.
ReplyDeleteThen she should find out why ur horseband cheated on her.Most Nigerian usually women allow themselves to become too fat after marriage.
Hahahahahaha...
DeleteAnakogheri!...
James,we are saying one thing and you are saying another thing...smh
Lol James limited!!! You just don't cease to make me wonder if the igbo u smoke is made in aba
DeleteAre u sure james is not fat
DeleteI'll wake up from the dream and shower. After which I'll buy malaria medicine. The malaria must be very serious..
ReplyDeleteThis can make any woman go wild aswear.
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing she can do other than the man willing all his property(s) to her and her kids asap. She shouldn't leave because of her husband mistress.
But why some girls like giving some women headache/heartaches?
If the man is begging her to forgive him, she should use the opportunity to draft some documents and let the man sign it, ...everything will be in her favour with the help of a lawyer and a monthly pay incl.
May God help her get through it.
Women get 2 mouths shaa. I'm seeing a lot of 'stay' here. Tomorrow,these same women will advise another BV to dump the sorry ass of a cheating partner/husband.
ReplyDeleteLmao!
DeleteDon't mind them.
Last week we all blasted and lambasted the "all men cheat and women cannot win the battle..." poster, this week, the women are embracing their cheating husband...lol...marriage don pass bale of okrika be that o...*side eyes at queen L.E
DeleteWelcome to SDKB
DeletePipi Lee thank u, it's just disgusting
DeleteNo be small thing.
Delete#Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it*
ReplyDeleteHello St. FranKool, why am I drawn to you. How are you doing?
DeleteSeconded, no time to have high BP over a cheating husband God forbid she dies husband will marry mistress and they will BOTH maltreat her children.
DeleteThis is hard ooo.
ReplyDeleteThat is how @pweetycy went to get pregnant for someone's husband and gave birth to triplet. And she flaunts it to the wife's face and I heard the woman is TTC.
God get a lot of work to do on judgment day
😱 you don't say. I feel for the woman ttc
DeleteNawa. I just checked her out on IG.
DeleteI will just pretend it doesn't happen.
ReplyDeleteI can accept anything from him including cheating, but having a child outside that is a deal breaker.
ReplyDeleteWow...May God give you all the grace to live in peace.
ReplyDeleteLast question ,how about the mother of the lil baby? Is she with you too? Cos a baby at 6 months most times is still on breast milk just managing to get introduced to other meals.
Wow...May God give you all the grace to live in peace.
ReplyDeleteLast question ,how about the mother of the lil baby? Is she with you too? Cos a baby at 6 months most times is still on breast milk just managing to get introduced to other meals.
No she's not. She visits but is not in our home. We started Feji on similac but she's big now,graduating to cereal et al. I think the fact she looks like my hubby made it easier for me but when I think of all that transpired and anger wells up in me,i look at Feji and think,she didn't ask for this and I let it go.. it is well...Amen to your prayers
DeleteWow. ..God be with you all
Delete@the woman with 6 months love child.
DeleteI can't help but comment because I find your story intriguing and quite unusual. I cannot stress myself to look after my husband's love child who will always put her mother first before me when she is older.
Is your husband rich? Do you work? I might forgive my husband and ignore the mistress and her child but to bring her into my matrimonial home is a big NO! You try o! What kind of love do you have for your husband? There is something you are not telling us? Did you date married men before you married? Do you take it as your nemesis? Or you are using feji to make your husband love you? It reeks of desperation to me. He will still be sleeping with her and the mistress will be seeing herself as second wife already.
No, I will not divorce him if it happens to me just to spite the mistress and to make his life a living hell with my sudden change in character. And the reason for not leaving him is not because I am foolishly in love, because my teacher's salary cannot train my children to university and I won't deny him that responsibilities, so he will go and spend his money on his mistress and their love child.
You married at 23 and your marriage is 23 years old, and your first child is 17 and youngest 8? You didn't have children on time? Maybe your reason to accept feji into your home?
I am curious? WHAT IS THE MAIN REASON YOU ACCEPTED YOUR HUSBAND'SLEPT LOVE CHILD INTO YOUR HOME?
Good question Stellz. Won't leave my hubby coz of that. Will discuss it my hubby if he loves me. We'll both talk with d lady. She has only one option: bring the baby for me to raise after 6months n she'll go n look elsewhere for her husband. During which there will be no communication with my hubby without my consent. If she declines, then let her do d raising herself without a dime from us (myself n hubby). She chose to sleep with him so she'd deal with it. As for hubby, his own punishment dey pocket. Mistakes happen. Love hurts. But in a home where love resides, compromises are made. Stay n fight for your marriage, so long as d man already regrets his actions n keeps professing his undying love for you
ReplyDeleteYou will be so shocked husband sneaks behind you to see his baby mama.
DeleteIt just means I've more children! My husband and I will collect our child, she only gets to visit if she wants to, no claims*striaghtface*
ReplyDeleteIt depends on his financial state . If very rich, I will stay to frustrate the ashawo. If poor, I will dump his poverty stricken ass.
ReplyDeleteHe is rich,she is the 'ashawo' but poor and he is an ass?hmmm.....
DeleteDepends on how it happens.
ReplyDeleteTruly,i can't imagine myself in such situation but if it happens to a close person,i would advice her to totally ignore d situation and keep calm.Do all ur normal duties and still giv him d best fuck.NeVER for once confront him.This will be hard but trust me,the guy will be in total confusion as he won't knw ur plan(even wen u might have non) he will be so scared to hurt u again
Trust me,patience,calmness n prayers will work.Even wen he tries bringing up d topic,cover wt another topic and never discuss it,if d guy has blood in his veins,we go fear n respect u die
Trust you?Trust you?
DeleteOkay.Trust her.She is an authority on pregnant side chicks.
Lmao!
Nobody wants to divorce?no talk of low self esteem?
Choi!
Hmmmmm
ReplyDeleteIt's easy to preach walk away, I used to preach it when I was single. Now that the story has changed, I don't think it's that easy to walk away.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is a different game entirely, don't let single people fool you: it's not just a boy-girl relationship.
What would I do? Sincerely, I don't know.
Actually here,the singles are being fooled by the married ones.Always saying walk away else you have low self esteem.Shockingly,they now all want to embrace low self esteem and stay.
DeleteOr we should not let the married ones fool us?
DeleteI will find my square root sharp sharp.
ReplyDeleteI sincerely don't know what my reaction will be. Part of me will want to raise the kid another part of me will start planning my divorce. Just hope such doesn't happen.
ReplyDeleteEnd time pregnancy
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
ReplyDelete.
Ladies bussiness...
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
My actions will be based on my hubbys own.... A child is a blessing no matter Ow it was conceived!!!
ReplyDeleteHmm. Na wa. So what would your husband do if u get pregnant for another man? Would he also be so quick to stand by you like many of you sed you would?
ReplyDeleteWow! Stells, that's a rather vague question with zero facts. I hope the lady involved wouldn't take our opinions to heart and act accordingly because each case has different facts. She should read our comments for what they truly are, comments. If she needs advice, perhaps it should come under the Chronicles Post where we can be furnished with more information.
ReplyDeleteI was/am lucky and blessed to marry the man after my heart and we love each other more with each passing day. It's almost 14 years of one of the best adventures of my life and what I feel for him is so solid and real that I can't imagine a scenario where I would end my marriage, certainly not over something Iike having a baby outside wedlock. Would that break me? Oh for sure! I already feel sick trying to imagine it. Still, I wouldn't consider it grievous enough to end my marriage.
When I've gone through all the emotions and I now have clarity of mind, I would want to know why it happened and be sure I am blameless in what transpired to be sure it was purely his indiscretions. God forbid he has strong feelings for the lady in question because that would make everything more complicated. Whatever it is, it would be more prudent to bring the baby home and pray for God to give me the grace to love the innocent child like one of mine. It gets tricky if the mum refuses to let go of her baby. You can't force a mother to give up her child.
No matter how you slice it or dice it, it is a horrible situation which no wife should go through but what's done is done and cannot be undone. It's left for the couple involved to make the best out of an unfortunate situation. This is where patience and forgiveness would be tried and tested. I know that it wouldn't be easy but a praying wife can survive anything with God fighting for her.
I wouldn't know what i will do! There are times when things happened to other people, the way one would react will be different if same thing happens to you.
ReplyDeleteSo, in this case, i will try and keep my cool. If one is able to keep her cool, it will be easier for me to think of what i will do after interrogating my husband, maybe the woman too.
I pray never to witness or experience such heartbreak. I knew what one of my older sister went through when she found out that her fiance impregnated some girl after being with the guy for more than 12years. She spent 3months on the hospital bed. It was even the period they were planning their wedding back then. So, no one can really determine how they can react to such news.
Been married for 4 years now and still TTC, this is a question that has gone through my mind several times and to be honest its a deal breaker for me. I can't take care of another woman's child as I would my own.......sorry I'm just being honest. and i definitely won't stay either
ReplyDeleteAm also ttc for 3 years now and such crosses my mind and what I always say is "I want the baby but not the mother"..i love kids so much and have this bond with my husband so I will embrace his baby though I will feel pain as a human but then that baby is innocent...the woman and hubby will face God's judgement not mine but I will face God's wrath more than them if I resent that innocent baby...
Delete@Eni, I like your honesty. I cannot look after a mistress child! I will be hurting too much. Maybe later in years when the child is older, and my kids are adults, I can have a cordial relationship with the child. After,I have tutored my own children well to know he or she is a step sibling and there are invisible boundaries. Because no man will accept another woman's child into his own home wholeheartedly! Then why should I accept his own mistake?
DeleteMy husband no fit try am self. what will i do, na sit down look na. I sabi that one self
ReplyDeleteHmm. with all the comments of I will stay in my home coming from BVs. I want to ask.
ReplyDeletewho are those BVs that always suggest to women to leave their marriages?
I will use Kayan mata and correct my husband's head, e be like say him head no dey dere so i go make him head to dey dere permanently. O na apu ara biko?
ReplyDeletefin sis..i sight u
Deleteit happened to me and I cried my eyes out....meanwhile the stupid bitch thought my husband will marry her but he refused.....I prayed and told GOD TO CUT HER OFF FROM MY HOME....I gave my husband hell at the beginning tho but I later calmed down...the most painful to me was that we did not have kids yet and he was dogging around..i know all the miscarriages and pains I went through looking for a child..me I sha was praying and fasting for God to judge them, I cried to God from the dept of my pained soul....she had the daughter very premature but the baby later died....I wasn't happy the baby died but I guess GOD FOUGHT MY BATTLE AS HE WANTED....I CANNOT BE IN A MARRIAGE AND BE FAITHFUL TO YOU THEN YOU TREAT ME LIKE A DOG....I have told hubby that if I hear of another affair na dia my own groove go start...
ReplyDeleteI have my own 2 children now to the glory of God....I know I cannot blame the woman cos it was my hubby who went after her but when you find out a man is married and cos the woman has no child you go there and try to remove her so you can be wife na u go fail....if all women stay away from wandering dicks men will stay faithful. If u suspect your man is not faithful then by all means snoop, it can save you plenty heartache.....
it happened to me and I cried my eyes out....meanwhile the stupid bitch thought my husband will marry her but he refused.....I prayed and told GOD TO CUT HER OFF FROM MY HOME....I gave my husband hell at the beginning tho but I later calmed down...the most painful to me was that we did not have kids yet and he was dogging around..i know all the miscarriages and pains I went through looking for a child..me I sha was praying and fasting for God to judge them, I cried to God from the dept of my pained soul....she had the daughter very premature but the baby later died....I wasn't happy the baby died but I guess GOD FOUGHT MY BATTLE AS HE WANTED....I CANNOT BE IN A MARRIAGE AND BE FAITHFUL TO YOU THEN YOU TREAT ME LIKE A DOG....I have told hubby that if I hear of another affair na dia my own groove go start...
ReplyDeleteI have my own 2 children now to the glory of God....I know I cannot blame the woman cos it was my hubby who went after her but when you find out a man is married and cos the woman has no child you go there and try to remove her so you can be wife na u go fail....if all women stay away from wandering dicks men will stay faithful. If u suspect your man is not faithful then by all means snoop, it can save you plenty heartache.....
which one is find out what went wrong na? let me tell you what went wrong. her horseband dipped his cock inside another womans punani and got her pregnant period. it has happened and nothing can be done bout it. i can take it if he cheats on me coz men cheat its their nature and that i cant change but i cant take it if he cheats on me without a condom and get a bitch pregnant. oooh my he will regret the day he said yes i do to me. i wont hate the child but that child will be a reminder of how messed up his life is gonna be for a long time.
ReplyDeleteWhat if the man in question is not remorseful? What if he flaunts the woman and her child with reckless abandon? I'm sorry but i will not play the "good wife" and stay like everyone is saying... I will only stay and try to forgive him after a very long time after i must have shown him pepper and depending on how hard he trys to win me back..
ReplyDeleteI won't be able to take it. If the tables were turned, no man would tolerate such, so why must we women always put up with whatever nonsense thrown at us? If such happens in my household, I would immediately file for divorce and spousal support plus child support if we have kids.... (These may not fully apply in nigeria but in the society we live in, I will be guaranteed all this and more) ...Ill get myself a new place and I'll move out. The thought of my husband all over the place having unprotected sex is just totally repulsive and unacceptable to me. I'm sorry to say but many Nigerian men do this and it's so wrong! Any man that lives such a life has no regards for his wife and deserves to get what ever treatment will come to him.
ReplyDeleteIn James voice... The wife obviously don't know how to gbensh or she's too fat, that's why the horseband and outside to get a woman preggers.
ReplyDeleteOK, if it happens and she moves out, who go lose? Abeg woman, don't make it easier for him by leaving, but if he leaves, don't go after him because that signifies the death of your relationship.
Well 2 of my aunties looked after deir husband's children till adulthood. If dey don't tell u dt my aunties didn't gv birth to dem u won't knw. Though I can't imagine it. But if it does happen, I wld just tell d lady to gv up her child for us. I no send u to get belle for married man. If she refuse OYO is her case. Cos hubby go sign court order sat he won't hv any thing to do with the lady again. As for hubby I will make sure I rob him blind. It's obvious he has too much money as he has mind to get girl friend. I will make sure I chop him to brokenness.
ReplyDeleteWell, shit happens
ReplyDeleteIf we haven't got any child(ren) together, i'll walk away. If we have children together, our account would be separated and focus on those children.
ReplyDeleteStella pls ask Toke Makinwa this question nah! Why ask us. Mtcheeeeewwwww!
ReplyDeleteStory of my life right now.. But we r separated right now.. Cos m so fucking pissed.. I can't stand it.... The Lord will judge them without mercy,peace will elude them, making me go thru pains of betrayal like this. N we v a child ooo
ReplyDeleteSdk, it depends on the individual and the elements surrounding the situation. Some will stay, some will walk out! Factors like money, sex, age and family support comes to play.
ReplyDeleteIf it happened to a woman in her 40's-60'a, where does she wants to go? All her hardwork will go down the drain? MBanu!
If the man is wealthy, she will leave him for the other woman and child to enjoy it? MBanu! What will happen to her children's inheritance?
If her family don't believe in divorce or give her their support, where will she go? She will stay put in the marriage because there is nothing new under the sun and our culture support polygamy even the church will tell her to forgive and forget!
To the bv sil, STAY PUT in your marriage!
Let the mistress forever bear the title BABYMAMA!Don't give her the satisfaction to be wived by your husband. And SIT UP by being wise and planning for your children's future and your happiness because he has a second family.