Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives

Hmmm,The blog visitor Narratives sometimes make me wonder.....

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
BREAKING UP OVER NOTHING AND MAKING UP BECAUSE OF 'SOMETHING'

Good day Stella, after reading the post on reprobate ex I finally got the strenghth to send in my story .I will try my posible best not to be biased because I need constructive and sincere advise . I have been dating this said guy for almost 6 yrs , started when we we're both in school, after his graduation I was still in school but I had opportunity to secure a job for him , we both agreed to stand for each other and make things work so we could get married later on , its been 2 years he got this job and he earns almost 100 k but he hasn't given me a dime , instead he borrows money from me even his house rent I paid one third of the rent , I have even lost record ,( am not doing bad myself as am doing my nysc now and earning some change where I work ). 

About 2 months ago we had a honest heart to heart talk , and he was like the fire in this relationship is dead and asked me what i wanted, I told him anything he wants i am in , he was like let's give ourselves a break, then at last we concluded on working on our relationship,. So fast forward a week after that heart to heart talk, I spent the night at his , so in the morning I swept the house and made the bed , he was washing his car outside , so I went to gist him ,already I was very hungry , so after he finished washing his car he went inside and starting washing the toilet , so I went to meet him and ask him what he will like to have for breakfast so I could go and get it and start preparing it , coupled with my own hunger. When I got back from buying the things , he was like so you can't make bed well?

 I went I red-made the bed , then I went to kitchen to start preparing the food , the next thing he started re-sweeping the house and was like Common sweep I can't sweep and started making side comment , then I was like what's wrong with you , why are you acting talking like this as if its the first time am sweeping your house ?

My guy flared up and started talking plenty plenty , how he has been managing me for years thinking I will change, that this what girls are dying to do for him , bur his so called girlfriend can't even do it , that was I waiting for him to remind me that his clothes were dirty? 

 I was trying to explain to him that I wanted us to have breakfast first , then I will wash the clothes, he kept ranting and started insulting and reminding me how he has been managing me , then for the first time in this 6 yrs together i answered him back , I was like in short clean your house after all its your house and it not my responsibilty 

( note : the reason I said that was because this said guy has always told me its not his responsibility to provide for me because i am not yet his wife , this is someone I got him his present job and I paid one third of his rent o , I have not eaten a dime from him and i am corper - in short gist for another day).

 I got angry and left his house.a week went by and we didn't comunicate with each other, this is someone we always talked everyday, after a week I went on bbm and told him i am sorry and he gave me the answer k , but I still felt bruised , I felt he should also apologise, but he didn't.after every two to three days I kept greeting him on bbm but he kept giving me the point answer  K.

 I really wanted to reach out to him but my pride didn't let me. Exactly a month after he broke up with me through bbm ,I was shocked , disappointed and I felt this issue wasn't enough reason to end a relationship, to even think he hurt me on that said day too , so out of annoyance I deleted him from my bbm , after about an hour I added him back because I was just confused. I started calling all his friends I knew to beg him ,unknown to me he had already told my friends a day before he broke up with me that he was going to break up with me .

 I begged and begged and went to his house ,was crying and dude was laughing at me and chatting off with babes and was even flaunting them for me to see , I kept begging , I was messed up I couldn't sleep , I lost 8 kg In 3 days, on the third day on a Saturday I didn't sleep ,I called him and was crying over the phone then my mum barged into my room and saw me crying , then she started shouting at me that I will kill myself , I cut the call immediately .

 my guy went on bbm and said I should never call or text him again, that he doesn't love me any more , I called him back and asked him to tell me to my hearing that he doesn't love me , and he said it,, he was so hostile,, that same Saturday a call came in for a business I have been pursuing for over 7 months and they paid instantly .


The next being Sunday I ping my guy to tell him that the business had finally paid off because he was aware of the business from the onset, my guy was happy for me and became so nice  ,Monday morning he even became more nicer and started asking me lets work it out, I was surprised at the sudden change because this is a person that my friends called to beg on my behalf and she recorded their conversation and sent to me .
What do i do?

What do you do?PLEASE MANAGE THESE SLAPS TO reset your medulla oblangata,after that you will know what to do!!!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
SNOOP DOGGY BLOG VISITOR

Hello Stella,

I'm an ardent reader of your blog and I've learnt a lot, thanks for what you are doing.Please share my dilemma with your readers.

I just started dating this guy and he is always talking about how he will never cheat on me. This made me very curious and I decided to snoop , I went through his phone and I found some suspicious messages. I checked the girl's profile on Facebook and I confronted him. He said that the person is an elderly woman in his office , that he has to be nice to her to get her to do things for him. For a second I believed him, I decided to get her number and check on true caller , the picture and name that showed up was that of the girl I saw on Facebook.

I confronted him , can you imagine he started shouting at him, in his exact words " what the f**k is the meaning of this nonsense, how dare you check my phone" he yelled and yelled at me, he didn't stop there he called his friend and told him how silly I was...

That's not all this guy has a very bad temper , some days ago his gateman mistakenly spoilt his padlock and locked him out , the way he reacted got me so scared, he almost beat  the guy up.

The thing is he has called severally and sent texts begging. Should I accept his apologies or should I end things with him , I'm confused, our relationship is still very young.

Didnt you know that snooping has a price tag attached?You have snooped now and will want to do more,he will try to hide more as well,the trust in the relationship is gone right now...Think carefully about what you want before you go back becos the decision to go back to him lies with you alone.

*side eyes at #teamsnoop