Yesterday Part of I wish somebody had told me talked about the challenges that come with Marriage and how shocked some of us by the things we didn't know then,that we know now.
OMG...I wish somebody had told me all about pregnancy before i carried and birthed my patters of tiny feet.
I wish somebody had told me that having CS sounded easy until you are cut open and sewed up..OH THE PAIN!
I wish somebody had told me all about Morning sickness,nausea,throwing up and all the Preggy related brouhaha.
I wish somebody had told me that breastfeeding is so OMG..Especially when the breast tries to start pumping milk after the birth...Oh the fever that comes with it! #Respect to cows that get milked for us to have milk!
I wish somebody had told me that i will never get my cute nose back after pregnancy
I wish somebody had told me that after having CS your tummy hardly ever goes back to normal....Hisss!
The sleepless nights?Oh I wish somebody had told me about that!
I wish somebody had told me that diaper change was almost every five minutes...The first time i was given my baby in hospital and he was left with me for an hour,he needed diaper change almost five times,i broke down crying thinking something was wrong..lol
Yes,I wish somebody had prepared me for all the pain and life changing changes but No,all they do is tell you how sweet it is with Labour!
No regrets when i see my angels but oh HOW I WISH I KNEW back then what i know now..
You wish you knew?whats your I wish
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Thats deep!
ReplyDeleteI wish someone had told me to always put on a bra during pregnancy, no matter how uncomfortable I get. Now after 2 kids my breast don rest. It is well
DeleteI wish I didn't marry my husband,i wish I had dis my baby for a better man,left whn I needed him most,all thru d 9months nd had cs,to feed nd cloth my baby it's as not been easy bt thank God for my bundle of joy!mothers r supreme! To takecare of a child nor b joke o,i dust my hat for those wit lik 4 or 6,una too much
DeleteMy tummy normal die!! I had CS twice
DeleteI wish someone had told me about the first pee after delivery eww! How you can hardly wipe yourself due to the pain esp if you had an episiotomy. I wish someone had told me about the post delivery hemorrhoids. NO they only tell you the pain will vanish wen you see your baby. All na wash!
DeleteOh I forgot to mention the stretch marks and saggy boobs. I for still rock my mini skirts small before I drop. Lol!! But then the joys of motherhood is worth the stress and discomfort.
DeleteAwww stella u got me on... I wish somebody told me that I can never get my tummy back after CS **frowns face**. I wish they told me that I should enjoy all the privilege and time I had when I was single and I wish somebody told me that having boys in the house comes with me loosing my voice everyday coz the shouting. But all the same, am grateful Lord.
DeleteI wish someone had told me leaving my jb to come join hubby after wedding wasn't a good idea, now am broke no kid yet but still hopeful
DeleteI wish someone had told me leaving my jb to come join hubby after wedding wasn't a good idea, now am broke no kid yet but still hopeful
DeleteI wish I would get to the level of 'I wish'. I wouldn't mind the morning sickness, or labour pains, or painful suckling Lord, I just want to get pregnant. Lord hear my cry.
Delete@Jane so u still feel pain after delivery? Wow. So all these books are dashing me lies. That is how they said 2nd trimester is the easiest phase of ur pregnancy. My 1st trimester was better. Preggy is not easy mehn! What of the crying, mood swing. I can go on & on but I am thankful to God for the fruit. Sometimes, I am in awe of how I am carrying a living being in my belle.
Delete@NK, it will end in praise. I relocated to join my husband. It was not easy. Imagine leaving a 150k job for 30k job. In less than a year I was promoted twice. Be thankful and ask God to change ur story.
I wish someone had tld me abt d stretchmarks...hw dey scar ur belly for life! I wish sm1 had tld me hw draining it can be to raise kids! I love my babies to death but i need my "me" time smtimes!
DeleteAfter my first baby, I felt all the myth abt child labour was all false. I wish I knew how God was merciful towards me to av made it easy for me.
DeleteThe second was complete opposite. 2 days labour and then CS! I've tasted both sides and I just wish I was more prepared.
I also wish I knew stress is detrimental to pregnancy. Holding a 3 months dead foetus n feeling its hardness is sumthg I will never wish on any woman.
I just wish I knew all these and take life as easy as it comes. It is well with me though!
I wish I knew about the childbirth pain after for the first two weeks, belly pain,breast pain,choi stella, it wasn't easy o! I no dey remember am again!
ReplyDeleteLest I forget,labour pain na die, lol
ReplyDelete*justtoscareyou*
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
ReplyDelete.
For ndi di and nwunye..... No concern me...
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
I wish somebody really sat me down and told me the effects of post cesarean section, I would have opted for natural birth although.
ReplyDeleteThank God I had the opportunity of experiencing both. Now I know better.
What are the post cs effects?
DeleteEveryone has what works for him. To me CS is the easiest birth option. 2 CS and no effect so far. I thank God for the wonderful gifts he has given to me
DeleteBut wait! How do the whites get back that incredible flat tummy after CS. Am just wondering out loud...
ReplyDeleteExercise
DeleteOyibo have a difference body structure from Africans. Don't mill yourself competing with them.
DeleteWeasel
Sorry about your nose and belle but ive had 3 c sections and my stomach is flat, i even have small abs sef... Did you workout madam stella? Don't come here and scare people... Cs isnt that bad. Agree with everything else especially breastfeeding, hey! You don't know pain until you have an engorged breast or blocked milk ducts! All worth it for my kids sha
ReplyDeleteYour gene play a great role in get your flat abd back. Not disputing that exercise helps greatly
DeleteGene or no gene! You retained ur flat tummy most likely because the surgeon sewed ur muscles together wen closing you up. You don't want to know how much the muscles are stretched during a C/S. The muscles are usually not closed because adhesions will form and make the next surgery difficult. Exercise might burn the fat but toning the muscles might be difficult if they're not sewn together...
DeleteI've had both sides of labour and still maintain a slim figure n flat tummy. Its all d genes. I don't exercise at all, if I try am I go turn to bones...lolzzz
DeleteInteresting post.
ReplyDeleteLet comments begin to roll.
I wish I never accepted to be a side chic wen I later found out he has a serious relationship,I wish he didn't fuck me so well,I wish derez nothing to lose after been apart,I wish d guy dat loves me so dearly never has a body odour nd mouth odour,I wish he doesn't reason like a 4yr old,I wish he yield to corrections,I wish I love him nd never cheated on him,I wish he never get tired of my attitude nd leave for another lady...I can go on nd on...Oh God!pls see me tru
ReplyDeleteChai.
DeleteIt well dear.
Forget d past.
I wish what I knw abt relationship and love I've known them 2years ago, I wish some1 has told me never to say tins I wud regret wen am angry, I wish I said sumtin nice instead of d harsh words..i wish u fall inlove wit me coz am madly inlove with you. I wish am ur with you..i wish I never destroy things with my own hand... God! The pains tho.its well
DeleteJoy dearie i see u
DeleteTake it cool bae all will end in praise
DeleteJoy I see you.....
DeleteI wish I knew that love was never enough to sustain any healthy relationship, parted for few years now n have moved on but he hasn't n is almost ruined. Don't know how its my fault that u can't let go.( U )leave me the hell alone, stop acting like a raving lunatic n move on.
ReplyDeleteA word--young peeps pls don't fall inlove at a tender age. if care is not taken, u may miss ur destiny and glorious future, be wise n don't bring the book of chronicles.
I wish I knew, would have gone to priva uni
I wish I knew I would v smuggled myself into dt ship going to America, who knows I might be dinning with Obama by now
God know's the best.
Mydear,I agree with u on not falling in love at tender age.. I strted dating my ex at age 15..I wish I had obeyed my mum wen she warned me abt him.. I wish I ddnt let another serious guy go becos of u samuel.. I wish I can strt over again..not wit u but wit busayo.. I wish I ddnt hav.to wait for 3 years after u left for obodo oyinbo only for u to come back married wit a daughter.. I wish reverse was d case fo me.maybe u wud know how painful it is. Im so hurt right now .whr do I start from? @27? I dont hate u o nd I wont swear for u. I just wishn I was smart enough to let go off u even wen I caught u cheating wit lanre.. I wish...
DeleteBigb
I wish I have a child, I will never give my.heart to.any.man again .
ReplyDeleteAjoke, don't be angry or downcasted with yourself, just talk to God constantly, he will see you through and give you your heart desired man.
DeleteAmen, men are not worth the stress
DeleteNamesake...I feel u. Dats d best out jade. No men brouhaha
DeleteAmen and thanks .
DeleteWell always look on the bright side - the joys of motherhood :)
ReplyDeleteStella, you and this your nose sef! Lol. I wish someone told me that my breast will multiply in size after preggy, I wish I know that I know that no matter how gorgeously you dress, you must undress partially to breastfeed. I wish I know that I will not have my own time table after giving birth because the new baby draws the timetable. Notwithstanding all, motherhood rocks. I pray for every waiting Mum to get there soon and safely.
ReplyDelete*I wish I knew* Can't believe I typed these. Gush!!!
DeleteNo you must not undress in public. Express and take along with you.
DeleteYou dare not bring feeding bottle near my boy. He will throw tantrums immediately. He wants to get the breast from its direct source. Lol
DeleteHim papa pikin. Lol
DeleteOMG! I already hv big boobs. So it ll double in size?
DeleteOMG! I already hv big boobs. So it ll double in size?
DeleteBefore nko?Lol
DeleteI just hope 2 learn from oda people's wishes.
ReplyDeleteMake una continue, i go dey read comments.
ReplyDeleteI wish someone had told me that love is wicked.Some men don't deserve to be loved.
ReplyDeleteTrue talk
DeleteLove a man at ur own risk...even God s blueprint is for the man to love the wife and d wife to submit
DeleteAmen to those prayers up there...
ReplyDeleteOh darlyn Stella, tell me about it. Reading this with tears in my eyes. I can totally relate. Pregnant with my first baby. Wish someone had told me all about the pregnancy ish. Would have just enjoyed my marriage for a year before taking in. It's well oh. This too shall pass. The morning sickness no be here. God help me.
ReplyDeleteMorning sickness na die !!!! Especially the annoying acidic sour taste in my mouth... And everything smells awful! Jeezzzzzz .
DeleteAmen.
DeleteHe is ur strength
Take a hug, dear. I've been there so I know how that feels. It will soon pass...
Delete@ Martha, u can say that again. See me popping malaria drugs like a druggie. Thot it was malaria only for the doctor to tell me it's normal. Normal gini? Didn't know when I started crying infront of the doctor. He just kept on advising me that it will pass. @ Stella Maris, Amen oh.
DeletePlease no malaria meds while pregnant except when prescribed specifically by your doctor. It can harm the baby.
Delete@ms Viv please no malaria drugs... My doc said its normal it all comes with the preggy. Phewwwww may God see us through
DeleteStop taking drugs without subscription.
DeleteAnon, prescription pls
DeleteIf you are in first trimester just get BIO OIL to rub on your tummy to avoid stretch marks. Buy the big ones because they have plenty of fake in the small bottle.
DeleteSubscription?. Na DSTV?
DeleteSorry dear. Just a matter of time. Mine was terrible. 12 drips in a weekend, promethazine injection was my succour for incessant vomiting. Well, it's now in the past now. I only wish I was warned about this sleepless nights now, no be here o but the joy that comes within is enough. God will see you thru and you shall testify
DeleteSubscription bawo?
DeleteLol. Spell check is a bastard! Prescription. I hate Samsung.
DeleteI had an abortion so I don't know. I wish I knew wat I know now den! I wudnt have
ReplyDeleteIt well dear.
DeleteOya girls ,ladies n women in da house ,i dey wait make una come dey lament about una bf's husband's and sugar daddie's dem...
ReplyDeleteas na men always be criminal for una records!!!oya now let it flow i wanna read ,hey one pikin dia,abeg bring my glasses.....
Lmaoooo..
Hahahahahahahahaha@As na men always be criminal for una record.
DeleteI wish I can get my flat tummy bck after four kids,struggling to get d tummy bck everyday in d gym.
ReplyDeleteLol @ stella's comment. I understand you well because labour pain no bi small thing.
DeleteI wish mummy is alive to help after childbirth (omugwo)
I wish someone told me that after pushing your baby out, you should push the placenta out too
I wish someone told me about 4 months sleep regression (my 4 months old baby wakes up every hour at night)
I wish someone told me that it's better to have chicken pox as kid. I can't stop itching.
Shola,use lemon remedy n try sit ups. Avoid carbs n pls wear waist trainers too.
Delete8 month sleep regression is worse.
DeleteYesterday, about marriage, today still for married women. Is it dat we single ladies aren't allowed to partake??? Abeg make una give something more versatile.
ReplyDeleteLol. You are the only real person on this blog and nobody is stopping you.
DeleteI tire ooo if dem bring d single "I wish " now married women no go let we singles see place comments
DeleteI agree with u Joy. But then, even in the Nigerian society, single women are marginalised or ridiculed... Or just plain disregarded.
DeleteOne married woman will soon come here now and make some noise about gwegwegwes, whatever that is.
Stella, u don get assignment... Bring the one that only currently single girls or guys can relate with.
True talk !
DeleteInstead if u to learn. Akuko!
Delete*of
DeleteI wish some1 has told me that this man, wil dump me after trad, court and church wedding wit a baby and went off wit another woman. I cause d day I met u, now no igbo man wants a lady wit a child and who has being married b4
ReplyDeleteI can relate o,same tin is happening to me,i jst pray sumone come to my aids I don beg stella tire to put me for ihn I nor knw if I offend stella for our first life lol to feed my baby is really difficult for me,may God help me
DeleteI know many igbo men who married baby mamas and divorcees. Focus on your success and the right man will come. Most men won't mind as long as you're financially stable.
DeleteHave you tried dating men from other tribes? Your happiness is more important than his tribe.
Who told u dat no igbo man wants a lady wit a child..dats false.i dont believe u.when God says yes no one can say no..my dear believe dat ur case is different & things wil happen in ur life..tnx
DeleteMy uncle married a mother of two n they are living happily. They have 2 kids of their own
DeleteHmmmm.....God bless all mothers and potential mothers......nwanyi ga emecha fu ihe ibeya furu.....
ReplyDeleteTimely Post...Eight months gone, the strech mark no be here! this 2nd baby means business, the first left me with some strech mark and sagged bobby. this one just come finish work. and oh the fatigue of managing without a maid!!! Wish i was told oh
ReplyDeleteBabies know how to leave their signatures on our bodies. Ah!
DeleteBio oil and Shea butter every morning and night! It does wonders to the stretch marks.
DeleteEach time i look at the stretch marks on my belly,i just wanna cry but when my baby kicks i forget it all...lool
DeleteEdo finest,stop scratching d tummy. Rub it when it itches n use Pure Goya or any other Olive oil
DeleteWetin you for do? You for no born?
ReplyDeleteI wish someone has told me that I will stick to one prick 4 the rest of my life!
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed yesterday's comments......can't wait for 2day's own!
Nne ehh! It's not a small thing. I wish marriage has a remote, na 2 press "pause" Waka. When am done "dick tasting" n cooling off, i'll press play n continue. Odiegwu really.
DeleteWhore alert! Go buy dildos!
DeleteI wish someone had told me that raising a child alone wil b this stressful. I cry hearing other kids calling dad, while my little cutie won't even hav d opportunity of living wit both parent.
ReplyDeleteE hugs dearie...it will end in praise
DeleteI wish some1 has told me that this man, wil dump me after trad, court and church wedding wit a baby and went off wit another woman. I cause d day I met u, now no igbo man wants a lady wit a child and who has being married b4
ReplyDeleteWetin u do man, wey do trad , court n church wedding for u, only to dump u later.
DeleteMadam check yasef #InLadyStainlessVoiz(aka razziest Benin ashawo)
She fit nor do anyth,sum men r send frm d pit of hell,thy chicken out d min thy hav sum stress in marriage same tin is happening to me nd I knw 100 percent I did nothing to him
DeletePink Shell, if urs is pleasant, Pray to God it continues that way. No sane lady goes into marriage to end up single and frustrated, it also takes God"s favor so pls mock no one"s plight
DeleteAnonymous 15:15 and worried lady, we are in alike circumstances. Wish we could be friends and strengthen one another? May God see us through and other ladies in turbulent marriages and those having it blissful,May God continually continue His works in their lives
DeleteIf wishes were horses...
ReplyDeleteI wish someone had told me that my beauty sleep was gone for over. Like these days every whimper wakes me up!
ReplyDeleteI wish someone had told me that the first sexual intercourse was going to be like breaking into Dodan barracks! Omg!!!!!
Thank God baby centre helped with the other shocks,like the first poo after an episiotomy(cut) could be hell!
No matter how you are lectured about the labour pain... you have to experience it before ya know!! Lol but reading up about it was just so helpful, emptying your bladder constantly during your contractions helps you dilate faster.
Oh,i knew about colic but nothing prepared me for the incessant cries with my first child.
I wish someone gave me a clearer picture of what happens after my baby's 6weeks immunization. Mothers,always go with your baby paracetamol!!
My beauty sleep flew threw the window as soon as I had my first child!
DeleteThe first attempt intercourse was so hard that I knew it was impossible. Chai!
Indeed labour cannot be adequately described. It has to be experienced.
I wish I knew!
Hmmm.
DeleteMy first sex after was like hemehe. My mum was around n d first time,I no gree. The 2nd time he attempted n we do,I was scared n crying. Plate washing solved d problem.
All these labour talk is becoming scary .. Jesus! Am honestly scared .
DeleteIrene B...have you listened to Phyno and olamides collaboration on the act of "platewashing" *ochiatogbuolam*
DeleteOh dear!I hate any kind of pain..God pls help me o,
DeleteWas lucky there was no significant pain during my first poo. The doc wey suture me no nice at all, d closure was badly done. Thank God the healing is fast,it was just two weeks ago and I can now sit well. Seat bath in warm water is very helpful
DeleteI neva fit do 1st intercourse sef after 4 months of aving my baby.... D urge no even dey... Tank God for my kind of hubby else story go Don change.
DeleteAnon,4 months?. ...and oga doesn't mind?. There is problem then. Pls,do your wifely duties tonight.
DeleteHOW DO I SAY THIS OOOO?.
Ok,your oga is most def getting it elsewhere. So,pls,my fellow mum n wife,watch a porn vid today n be in d mood. Make it worthwhile for him.
I wish someone told me that Efik mothers are domineering. I will never love an only child again. They are forever tied to their mothers apron string. Sly,i will forever love you but your mum is a witch.
ReplyDeleteI wish someone told me that the bigger the penis,the harder it is to leave an ex
Lol at the bigger the penis the harder to leave. I agree with you that Efik women no be here, my neighbour is a typical example.
DeleteI wish I knew that I will hate sex after having a baby via CS. I wish I knew that being the only good daughter inlaw sucks. I wish I knew it is better to marry from ones tribe abeg.
Fallacy of hasty generalization...
DeleteAm the only daughter inlaw too so scared
DeleteWish I have a man to call my hubby been single for more than a year.
ReplyDeleteYes I wish
DeleteI wish someone had told me about morning sickness...Kai,it dealt seriously with me while pregnant with my first,that the thought of it alone scares the hell out of me about getting preggy again but God dey.
ReplyDeleteI wish someone had told me that I might not get my yellow pawpaw colour again after childbirth because my son took the whole of my complexion but I still thank God and I can't trade him for anything in this world.
To all women in the waiting room,you are next in line for a miracle,just BELIEVE!
Amen
DeleteI never thee up for once but my rule was No perfume in my house.
Delete*threw
Delete@tushmum use French Butter hydrating toning Lotion with Bearberry. I don't know how you get it but my sister in Nigeria got her skin back if not better using it after her baby.
DeleteI wish someone had told me its way easier carrying the baby in your uterus than when they are out!!! How you now have to schedule your entire life around the little one.
ReplyDeleteI wish someone had told me how packing for a two day trip radically changes from my throw jeans and tops in to back pack to" where is the sterilizer! Panic"
I wish someone had told me gone are the days i get on a flight and bring out my magazine or novel or even watch a movie, now its "sssh, dont kick the chair, please dont stare at the nice man behind us, # love my boos#
U just made me smile. I remembwr d last time I was on a flight wit my son. #Memories
DeleteYou write well...encore encore!!!!!!
DeleteMy dear. You sure I didn't type this?! Lmao!
DeleteStella,what kind of i wish is this na.Dont scare me biko..*runs outta post
ReplyDeleteI wish someone had told me that labor pains no here,
ReplyDeleteI wish someone had told me nipple pain after delivery wasn't easy
I wish someone had told me that I will always engage in night vigil because of motherhood.
I wish someone told me how to write my maternity leave letter,would've stayed longer to care for my patter of tiny feet.
I wish someone had told me how painful sutures at the vjay is.
I wish I wish I wish
I wish I knew it never really pays to be a lone-ranger, I would've had mature married people as friends back then before marriage.
ReplyDeleteI wish I knew earlier, that so many people do not work with their conscience, and lie without any remorse!
I wish I knew how tasking it is to be a pastor's wife, everyone feels u shouldbe super-human. They want to dictate EVERYTHING u do (ur dress,ur hairdo, ur sitting position in church, ur smiles.... Everything!)
I wish I knew a lot of couples wearing 'and co' and calling each other sweet names on the outside were most times putting up a charade.
I wish I knew fretting when a man hurts u, only makes him feel he has u in his palms....
I wish I knew it doesn't pay to be hundred percent trusting back then.
I wish I knew there are pains my kids would pass through which I wouldn't be able to help ease (like my girl's 1st immunization)
I wish I knew the things I experienced in the early years of my marriage were stepping stones.... After many years of tears and 'regrets'...God set in! It's still hard to believe... But I'm grateful..... My own 'honeymoon' is just beginning. (Still seems like a dream!)
Above all,I give God praise for lessons learnt
Church things and expectations. ..dem fit carry pressure and expectations wound you...I ran mehhhn
DeleteMay your blessings be permanent sis.
DeleteI wish someone had told me how difficult it will be to resume work at the office after been attached to your bundle of joy.#miss you hun
ReplyDeleteI wish someone told me how tough the first trimester is, i'm constantly tired, uncomfortable tummy cramps, nausea, feeling sleep deprived, can hardly get myself out of bed early enough to go to work, i still have 2 weeks old laundry left undone, cleaning the house nkor? that one na thug-of-war! seriously counting down to the end of my first trimester, i heard it gets better in the second. first time mom.
ReplyDeleteI wish someone had told m about breast engorgement after delivery! OMG!!! I almost died. I think as bad as labour pain was,engorged breast is even much worse especially since its immediately after delivery. I do not wish it on anyone. Instead they just be talking "hope you will breast feed" left and right.
ReplyDeleteI wish someone had told me that breastfeeding is not a walk in the park. Lol.
But for the belly thing you need to workout and maybe use waist trainers and watch what you are eating. Because my belly is back to normal.But the nose thing ..I totally agree with you. it doesn't go back ,I don't just understand it !!
It is all worth it for "my happy thought" though. love love love him!!!
God knows you made this post for me, Stella. I wish someone had told me that the pains of childbirth are unbelievable, shocking and indescribable. I felt like I was in a dungeon filled with demons and tortured by them... I practically visited hell. Click below to read how my first labour and childbirth were...
ReplyDeleteMy gruesome first childbirth experience
I wish i was not born first. Being the first child is tasking especially emotionally.
ReplyDeleteBefore even childbirth, pregnancy was epic. The nausea was something else. I looked different, felt different, acted differently. I even started snoring during my third trimester! Hah, life is full of surprises! Please read my experiences below.
ReplyDeleteFinding out I was pregnant: My reaction and the first shock
I rocked my second trimester
How my nose added weight
The snoring part got me. I go snor soteh, I go dey hear am for my sleep. Chei, God is just great
DeleteI wish i was not born first. Being the first child is tasking especially emotionally.
ReplyDeleteI wish i was not born first. Being the first child is tasking especially emotionally.
ReplyDeleteI wish I prepared hot jollof rice this afternoon.....the weather is suddenly so cold
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm brings back memories! I wish someone told me i'll have to mind the kind of stuffs I take when nursing.
ReplyDeleteI wish God will bless my DH so he can provide for us. I have been the sole provider since we got married and I am getting tired. I can even save cos everything goes in to our upkeep.He works but I earn more than him, that's why he leaves everything for me to do. I wish I could be hard hearted for once cos he is taking it for granted. Our baby is almost 2yrs now and he has never bought a piece of sock for him.He leaves everything for me to do. Don't even know if that's what is affecting my libido. we need another child but Ive lost every urge for sex. Wish I didn't look at my age and ended up marrying someone I feed and clothe. I married at 37.
ReplyDeleteThe secret is to act broke while youve got your stash in the bank....it can still be corrected. ..start bit by bit..stop buying everything regularly. .if he complains tell him sweetly that you ran out of cash cause of demands on the extended family front.
DeleteIf you stop spending he'll gradually readjust..start gradually don't get all the groceries you need at once..leave some out
Feeding a man is not good for ur health.It kills libido..Yes it does.But i wont tell u to stop cos it might bring problem im ur marriage.God hates divorce.Find away to discuss and sort it out witj ur husband.Even if he dont want to be d breadwinner of d home,atleast he can be d butter winner no matter how small.It will goa long way.
DeleteSTOP BUYING HIM THINGS. CURTAIL YOUR SPENDINGS TOO. ACT BROKE
DeleteI feel for you. But the best is to act broke as others advised. It's well
DeleteAfter going through the part 1 i was scared am in a serious relationship head
ReplyDeleteAfter going through the part 1 have been so scared am in a serious relationship heading towards marriage, but am worried, I had to direct my fiancee here to read .with so much going on in most marriages now lack of love , infidelity, domestic violence and emotional abuse etc.... . May God help me still doubting about marriage.
ReplyDeleteOk. I guess you all are saying to the single ladies 'take your time before choosing a life partner'. Only with the right person will it all be worth it
ReplyDeleteAh
ReplyDeleteIt is well
Be encouraged
I wish I listened to my parents that warned me not to marry him.I regret everything. He lied about his education, I found out he dropped out of school. He has no goal in life and that's because he is jobless and poor
ReplyDeleteNdo inUgo? Take things easy
Delete1st trimester wahala. The thought of my bundle of Joy makes it all worth it. But the discomfort no be here.
ReplyDeleteLolz
ReplyDeleteVery interesting.
I don't wish for anything
I just go for it
I wish my dad was alive my life wont be as messed up as it is ryt now. i wish i had known earlier that things wont turn out fine for me, i wish i had known that love & words are not enuf to keep a relationship. I wish i had known that dating a bitter soul from a broken home wont lead me anywhere bt drain me.
ReplyDeleteI wish I was told that scratching my itchy belly when I was Preggy would leave giant stretchmark on my Tommy after childbirth mmmmmm how I enjoyed using comb to scratch away not knowing the scars that would awaits. me, kai I wish I knew about ori and aloe vera when the scar was in it early stage now I feel so ashamed to stand bare before hubby but my consolation is seeing my children playing all over and am happy that God used me as a vessel for His creations.
ReplyDeleteI was told..I knew...I expected d stretch marks.I was past caring oh.
DeleteD itch no be here so i scratched on.
I scratch with anything on sight..Spoon,fork,needle,just name them.I dont think any pregnant woman would resist d itch.
Start using shea butter.I used it om mine.Right now my stretch marks are not visible.
Biko,is this I wish all about pregnancies?.
ReplyDeleteI want to know.
Anyways,in hall my pregnancies,I never vomited. Not for once. But during my 2nd pregnancy,a man (the plumber),came to the house smelling as if he swam in tank of that body spray called Cool River. I nearly gagged n asked my girl to tell him to wait for oga outside. (I smelt this perf from upstairs o.). I visited someone n when she served the food,I told her to pls mix my rice n veggie n reheat them in a pot n make it burn. Chai. She agreed n said she understood.
Pls,is my own normal?. My libido was always like 120% in my pregnancies. I dey fire die then. I was worried n raised that question at an antenatal n the women were busy laughing kikikikiki.
Lmao Lmao @ I dey fire die
DeleteChimo! N mumsi Don Dae sing ma friends r getting married! I ll rock dis single life of mine well b4 I think marriage oh biko.
ReplyDeleteGoing to get pregnant soon! Thank you mothers for your informative posts. Ah God help me.....
ReplyDeleteReading all these comments scare me more, I'm due in a month by God's grace and I've been told I might undergo CS if my baby doesn't turn in less than two weeks, I thought CS was an easy way out but every time people talk about the pain associated with it, I just get scared.
ReplyDeleteDon't be.
DeleteWhy is the post only about mothers? So all of you saying you wish this you wish that, would it have made you not get pregnant? Long hiss.
ReplyDeleteAmusu nwoke Kiiikiiiikiii
DeleteAnon 20:36... Forget my dear, CS is an easy way out. Atleast for me it was.... For my first child I had CS, on my baby's naming, I was dancing like there was no tomorrow... For my second child, I had a vaginal delivery. I had an episonomy and was sutured. Back home, cos my mum and mother in law is late, one elderly woman came to help me with hot water bath...my dear she used hot scalding water to destroy my vjayjay... The pain was out of this world, I was screaming like a cow. On the naming ceremony, I was limping so bad! the actual Labour nko? I saw heaven and came back...pushing out the baby nko? God is awesome! I tell everyone and anyone that my CS experience was better o! Slept and woke up with my baby beside me! the recovery period wasn't so bad, you have to be strong and you need some help, shikena... May you delivery safely,mama to be... Whichever way, your prize is your child. Remove the fear of CS from your mind. its not so bad...
ReplyDeleteAndy Sho
I wish I agreed to date my husband sooner and not wasted my time with my smelly exes (but then we probably would have broken up so maybe not), I wish I understood how immensely painful childbirth would be ( although that may have put too much fear in me), I wish I had not taken so much shit from those guys in my past (however I believe going through that helped me to see that my husband is Godsent and not taken him forgranted). I miss Nigeria, I wish to return, this England just bores me (but thank God for uninterrupted light, peace and quiet, no generator noise). I could keep wishing but I believe everything happens as it is destined to and I am greatful for all my negative and positive experiences as I learnt from them and they have made me the woman I am today.
ReplyDeletePregnancy hard e heard e hard but all of una don born born full ground.
ReplyDeleteAbeg make una let person hear word bf una fear people.
Abi una gt 4head no be people dey do am abeg e.
Oh my goodness!!
ReplyDeleteSee the way I dey shiver bikonu!!
I refuse to be scared oo, , my belly must carry my babies and Yea my labour will be peaceful..
The painfull engrossed breast won't be an issue cus hubby go help me hold am with his hand o, afterall na both of us do am together..
Mothers are jewels really, that is why I always pray that no woman should die without enjoying "ALL" the fruits of her labour.. Amen.
It is well with us
I so love this post, very educating..
Hold which breast?. Breast Wey strong like stone. I nearly bit my hubby's hand when he wanted to touch my engorged breast.
DeleteIt is painful o.
Interesting .......
ReplyDeleteI wish I could stop crushing on my best friend (married male) and face my cheating husband. It's hard to stay clean o. Especially when you feel cheated. But God will keep helping me. Make my chi no desert me.
ReplyDeleteDon't tell ur best friend. Let your eyes tell him how you feel.
DeleteI wish someone has told me the pain that comes with labour and veejay tear, I would have opted for cs to avoid it,
ReplyDeleteI wish someone have told me that I would always have to be half undressing even in church just to breastfeeding my baby, I would have invested in an electric Breast pump, the manual I have isn't working or maybe I don't know how to use it.
I wish that some has told me that there is no timetable when you have a baby, I wouldn't have made so much plans
I magine me thinking I would work and still graduate in record 3years while still taking care of the baby and home.
My hubby was laughing at me the whole time when I was blabbing on how I won't waste time at school like some of his female friends he told me about who has been studying gradually there at obodoyiobo .
I wish someone has told me that there is nothing like day or night with babies, they can chose to play around mid night, you better be awake to babble and play with them or else you will hear wailing.
Do to say its is sleeping time, where they are coming from, there is nothing like day and night.
God remains in control. The things women go through. Sigh
ReplyDeleteI wish .....*tearyeyes*
ReplyDeleteI could turn back the hands of time!...
Huh so scAred of all dis comments frm bvs it is well
ReplyDeleteI wish, I wish, I wish that I didn't have a heart.. Say na only stone dey deep inside, I didn't have a heart. Lool!
ReplyDeleteI wish too.....my heart is too soft
DeleteI wish u all would still realise ppl have different body types and the way they react to hormonal changes. I am a day into my third trimester. Never vomited,no morning sickness ( even stronger in d mornings and all day). No nausea, no stretchmarks, looking more beautiful, feel more sexy, i spray perfumes like my life depends on it. The only thing my pregnancy brought me is OCD. I jst cant stop cleaning. I have bought almost all cleaning liquids available... Gas cleaner, toilet, mirrow shiner, wood polisher.. Name them....i jst thank God though. Kudos to all mothers in the house
ReplyDeleteI wish I haven't called my mum in law for omugwo.
ReplyDeleteI wish I enjoyed my spinsterhiod well before giving birth. Taking care of a baby is not play ooo.hubby hasn't touched me since Nov last year up till now and I gave birth in April this year. He said his scared for the baby during Peggy and now scared for the babys milk again.
Ur hubby has a side chic,period!!!!
DeleteUr hubby is talking rubbish n pls tell him I said so.He is a confirm cheat.
ReplyDeleteHubby n I can't stay without s*x for a month not to talk of 9 good months.
Ur horseband is starving u n u need to voice out now being preggy or having delivered of a baby isn't a good excuse to starve your wife of sex.
@ oil money.....u just hit it. Marrying from your tribe is the best abeg.
ReplyDeleteI wish I didn't marry a yoruba man. Now we are separated. My joy is complete when I look at my kids. I know God will bless me with a good job to look after them. God will console me.
BTW, marriage is over rated, maybe it's cos I made a mistake in mine.
@ oil money.....u just hit it. Marrying from your tribe is the best abeg.
ReplyDeleteI wish I didn't marry a yoruba man. Now we are separated. My joy is complete when I look at my kids. I know God will bless me with a good job to look after them. God will console me.
BTW, marriage is over rated, maybe it's cos I made a mistake in mine.