Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

Three shorts narratives badly need your attention.please try to leave a word of advice for three of them.....

Thank you.

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

VIRGINS AND DATING

Good day Stella, It seems virgins are no longer valued or regarded in our society anymore. I Am 26yrs and by the Grace of God i have been able to keep myself till date. The problem i have is going into a relationship* By the grace of God am wonderfully and beautifully made. Lol* I get suitors,toasters on per daily basis but no one is ready for no sex before marriage. I keep hearing stuffs like i need to taste, i need to check if you are a woman, i need to check if you're complete,i need to confirm first,i need to know your skills in bed and so many others i can't remember right now. I keep wondering if God now create incomplete being. I respect their opinions though, but am getting frustrated like it has now become a crime for someone to keep herself,of  which i know its really not easy. This is something nobody in my family is aware of. I know a lot of ladies in this wonderful Sdk family are experiencing such. I speak on their behalf...Please we need advice and some words of encouragement to hold on. Thanks in advance.

 No matter what happens,do not give in and if meet someone who gives you conditions to date,please walk away......keeping your tohtoh hymen intact for the person who will marry you does not mean they might not mess up,but it gives you Joy knowing you did it right.

Shout out and a tight E-hug to all the virgins out there reading this!

Juest keep remembering that SEX IS OVER RATED!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

DATING SOMEONE WHO HAS NEVER BEEN IN LOVE...

Hi Stella,
My sis needs an urgent advise from you and fellow BVs
She's been dating a guy for a year and some months, the guy doesn't show her enough affection as she would want, he spends for her though, buys her stuffs, cares for her, she met his family and he said she's the first girl he would introduce to his family, his family likes her a lot and he communicates with her very well but that affection is still missing, she complained but he said he was sorry that he has a lot on his mind and he would get better, he was kind of better @a time but it wasn't enough, she even suspected that he's cheating and so she snooped but found out that he's not cheating, he was completely clean and he even told her even though they don't end up together, it won't be because of another woman but that affection was still missing, he found it hard to say he loves her unless she says it 1st, so one day during one of their heated argument, she asked what's up again and he said the truth is, he has never fallen in love before that he really likes her, has deep affection for her and he entered the relationship optimistic that the love would grow but it seems he's just failing each time he tries cause she ends up getting hurt which saddens him. It wasn't this worse at the initial stage of the relationship and he said it's because he thought his initial care would just escalate. She suggested break up but he said he would be hurt if she leaves and @the same time he doesn't like the way he's hurting her.
He said he never thought he would have to tell her that he hasn't fallen in love before because he knows he'll get to that stage where he would be able to return her love for him though the process might be real slow.
They are both @a cross road now. She really loves dis guy and doesn't want to leave, the guy himself can't bear to see her leave but he wants her to be happy.
Will come under anonymous to answer any question you would like to ask her, she's here with me and she knows i am doing this but she's too weak to type, her vision is so blurry from tears.

This guys explanation for not being in love with her sounds pathetic...NOBODY PLANS TO FALL IN LOVE,IT HAPPENS AND GLADDENS AND EXCITES THE HEART...if after so long together he aint feeling it then tell your sister to put on her shoes and talk a walk.

some people are incapable of feeling love becos of their painful childhood.

Tell her your sis that if she is waiting for him to wake up and start screaming hes in love with then i send her an E-Yimu.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER THREE

RELATIONSHIP ISH

Stella,I'm really confused about something and I need advise from everyone that is gonna reads this,  I've been dating my BF for 5yrs and I love and adore him,  in fact he is the best thing that has happened to me but the problem is he is a bastard womanizer.

  I know that it is in a man's DNA to cheat and even if you're the most sexiest woman on earth your man will still cheat,  but my le boo's own is too much,  I always get to know becos I snoop a lot #teamSnoop,  I am tired of forgiving him also am tired of fighting with him becos of the cheating issue,  becos technical cheating is the only problem I've got with him.

  I'm really Confused,  I don't know what to do. should I walk out of the relationship or should I pretend to be cheating also cos it works out especially in Nigeria movies,so he can feel the pain I have been feeling for 5yrs. Please guys I need your advice,  the whole thing is driving me insane,  most times some of those girls call me on fone to threaten me,  some even send me abusive messages .His mum always tells me to be patient with him.  I am tired.  

Please insult me if necessary,the important thing is I get wise counselling.  Thanks and God bless

what else do you expect the mother to tell you?Mothers protect their children even when they are wrong.His side chicks call you to insult you and you do what?

Your relationship sounds like the type they refer to as dead on arrival.Please get busy and stay away from toxic relationships like what you have now..Imagine asking to be insulted cos you want advise?

Work on yourself and dont accept what is dished out to you,you always have a choice to walk away dear.

If i include you are STUPID in my advice,you would accept that you are cos i am advising you even though i am wrong?

Thats what happens to you when you date someone that deflates your self worth!