Errrrrm....*Whispering*
Hello #Teamsnoop* anybody home?
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
SNOOPING THAT BACKFIRED.
Hi Mrs Korkus,
So jobless on a Monday afternoon and have decided to tell you the reason behind the#random question on relationship breakup!
I met this real nice chic and things were perfect, left to me,we would have married after a while but she planned on doing that at least after graduating.
Fast forward sometime and her family decided to relocate to Yankee. She really did not want to go but her dad (a professor) got a new job and so she ended up going to school there.
After a few months the communication started dwindling. Sincerely, before she left I thought it wise to breakup with her because of all i heard about long distant relationship,but, I felt no matter what, we would work. Lool, I pray o, who long distance relationship done help?
At a point I remembered she gave me her password once to check a mail for her. So like the#teamsnoop, I did a lot of poke nosing and found out my bae still retained communication with one of her ex. This particular ex ehen stella, the gist she gave me about them no be today story. To anyone, the chats were just........checking up on you things, how you dey and stuffs like that. But to me, it hurt cause, lets say Its natural to be jealous#side eyes.
Anyways, na so I call the bae, I know explain why but I told her........lets give ourselves a break! My mindset was, You face your school, I face my hustling, we would see what time would tell. Na so my bae take am personal, delete me as far as facebook, bbm and whatsapp. Till date we haven't spoken.
When I sent the message, I did it so i would concentrate on work and making money cause i was getting really depressed and work was seriously dropping due to over thinking. I thought we would work things overtime and cement things if she comes back cos she promised she would. Lol, but na backfire happen. I heard she has come back sha and am still facing my work and not dating anyone yet. No line of communication though. Lol, I would like to marry next year, but all thanks to #snoop it wont happen.
But maybe God had other plans, who knows? I wish I could turn back time though.I know I might be cursed for been irrational and making such a swift decision but when I told her that, I can swear down that breakup was never on my mind. I still have not moved on and I wonder when I would sha. Between, Kenny, thanks for the explanation. If I knew what it meant then, I would not have made that choice!!!!
So teamsnoopers, snooping aint worth it!!!!!!
Thanks Stella.:-)
P.s- I am still hopeful. I got this perspective that if the person is right one, at end things would just work out fine.
So,one member less from the snooping association of Nigeria!..LMAO!
I still stand my ground that snooping is wrong and a violation of another person's privacy.If you do not trust the person you are dating,then dont marry them.Someone said in one of the snoop chronicles that perhaps i married a man who cheats on me and i am so used to it that i cannot stand snooping,does that sentence make sense?
Some of you say snooping exposed that your spouse was having an affair,did it solve the issue or cause more problems?
I stare at all #teamsnoop members eye ball to eyeball and scream that SNOOPING IS ALL SHADES OF WRONG!
I have not insulted anyone here now,just said my piece of mind,you can say yours without being insulting otherwise you will type in vain.The comment pot is empty.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
DEPRESSED BECAUSE OF LOVE.
I am a pretty lady,cool headed,in my late 20s. I love love but love has not being fair to me. In all my years on earth,i haven't being in a tangible relationship.good guys don't just get attracted to me.i didn't have any a sold relationship all through days in the university.the guys i liked and wanted to date were always dodging me while the ones i didnt like were always chasing me.i decided i was just going to focus on my books and that after school, maybe it would get better.But to my surprise,it only got worse..I left school, went for NYSC and yet nothing. During service, it was so bad that only married men were disturbing me.
I later met a guy about 3 years ago that i felt i could settle down with.he looked cool, nice and there was this connection between us. i later realised he had issues i wasn't too comfortable with, he had a child, was in a secret society,drinks,smokes etc but i felt i was already in love and that it was going to be hard to get someone else.i held on to the relationship thinking we could overcome all these issues but soon after we broke up.all these happened within six months.
I couldnt handle the break up as i lost so much weight and fell into depression.it was so bad that i begged my ex to take me back a couple of times but we only ended up having sex those times.
I couldnt handle the break up as i lost so much weight and fell into depression.it was so bad that i begged my ex to take me back a couple of times but we only ended up having sex those times.
Stella,would you believe that since then i haven't had any other relationship.guys are not even asking me out or toasting me.when i tell some friends i am single, they don't believe me because I am a beautiful lady.I have prayed, done deliverance,tried online dating including your singles and mingles, i attend functions occasionally but nothing seems to be working.i am getting frustrated and lonely these days,i am approaching 30 and yet no man to call my own.only married men keep coming my way and i have refused to date them.
Sometimes i just feel i am under a curse(my mother used to say negative things to me when i was growing up) or maybe i am not destined to have someone to love me on this earth.please, i need advice because i am graduated losing my mind.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER THREE.
WHEN LOVE LEAVES A MARRIAGE...
Please i beg you,print my story. i need help don't want to die young
how are you and also keep up the good work with what you do daily. the story i want to tell you is about my wife, I met my wife about 5 years ago and we have been married 3 and a half years,but i can tell you that i have not known peace since day one that i married this woman. i have never met anyone like this woman before and to tell you the truth i am falling out of love with her, i will prefer not to be around her or even want to hear her voice everyday since i know i would be provided with peace of mind.
When we got married i decided that i will be a patient loving husband, always providing to her needs, bt she has shown herself to be stubborn head strong and very proud.
theres no day that she does not call me names, if it is not dumb ass today, it is foolish idiot, i can tell you that since we have been married this woman has slapped me like a 100 times, but i just take it and eventually come and apologize to her.
During our first year of marriage she left the country to go and further her studies, i was so happy that at last peace will reign, she still looked for a way to make my life a living hell.and the funny thing is she doesn't even try to compliment the financial aspect she will rather use money to buy frivolous things from the store, rather than save money for the rainy day.
she doesn't like the fact that i have friends, always looking for a way to drive a spanner between my friends and i.
Stella i need help as i have a heart condition and it is getting worse, due to her attitude, strong headiness and irritating behaviour.I am tired of being patient as i am scared i will do something that i will regret soon, i am falling out of love with her each day, even when i say i love her, i find myself doubting my own words.i cant divorce her as it is against my religion but i am scared i will do something i will regret soon.
Please i need advice and i have spoken to her about it but it became another issue,please help me.
Troubled one....
So you say you have tried everything?turned to God? i will not lie but i dont know what to tell you until i hear your wifes side of the story,only then will i be able to give you advice.please show her this page and what you wrote so that she can send in her own story....I cannot give advice from a one sided story.if you as good as you claim how come she cant see it?
Team snoop,anyday,anytym
ReplyDelete********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*********
Poster 1- Ignorance is bliss but kills faster . It's better to snoop and be guarded than be a fool at the end of the day. #Team snoop all day everyday.
DeletePoster 2- My dear, please don't be miss-mae-rized by any lamidey-sical fellow.
You deserve better biko.
Poster 3- talk to your wife. Communication is lacking in your marriage.
Forever Teamsnoop.... Poster one u went too far yoo! Sigh. Enjoy where ur jealousy don land u so.
DeleteTeam snoop a la viva forever!!! #dontdull
DeletePlenty Pros of snooping than Cons...
So long as invasion of privacy ain't a sin and e no kill anybody or injure any1 issokay! Heheheheh
Snooping HELP ME OOooo! E no help you no mean say e no help odas**** Snoop till forever!
DeleteI know snooping is bad, I miss my ex boyfriend, oil rice dey hungry me, I don't see the relevance of Nysc ooo, yes am just typing random things...hehehe
DeleteWhat's the point in snooping? Except if the partner is a dog. Trust is very important in any relationship. besides haven't y'all heard of "kill them with kindness" Any reasonable man that has a conscience won't want to even cheat on his wife when he sees how she treats him. Keyword is reasonable.
DeleteAnyway that's what I believe and what you believe is what works for you.
Dear troubled one, I would have said you seem nice from your write up oh but a certain miss have taught me to never judge a book by its cover. All I'm going to say to you is to take care of yourself. You said you have a heart condition? Please oh don't go and die over a non worthy cause.
Girl who meets bad men, are you sure there's something about you that you do not need to change? Look within yourself love, the answer might be there. Also face God for now. He's sure going to wipe away your tears
#againstsnooping #snoopingiswrong
@poster1 : come and wife one of our anuty gwegwegwe
DeleteThat girl wasn't into you in the first place.
She has been looking for an opportunity to dump u. So try and move on.
@poster2 : Go to God in prayers,if ur mum is still alive, ask her 4 forgiveness incase you have done anything wrong 2 her in time past. Go for a deliverance if necessary 2 remove the veil of the wicked ones
@poster3 : please if you are not happy in the marriage again, pls take a walk.
Your health and sanity is more important.
If u still want to stick around with her, then sit her down n tell her how you feel.
@poster2 is looking 4 a man to call her own and another woman somewhere is giving her husband HBP............this life self.
Make I no snoop,na jonzing be that nah....Stella doesn't just want to understand us
DeleteIt is well. But pls Poster 2 can U change ur mindset please? And have faith.
DeletePoster 3 pls don't do what U will regret o. Life is too short please
poster 2 o feel ur pain. i really do. i think ur problem is more spiritual han physical. i know a true man of God dt can help u. in as much as there are many fake pastors but Evang Ifeanyi Chukwunonyelum is different. he stays in mushin lagos. he is really a man of God. if he ever ask u for money,may anything good nevet come my way. if he ask u for spiritual bathing or cleansing,may i never see d light of another day. he he touches u,my personal thunder dey do press up. he wnt even pray fr u. he wil tell u ur problem and give u prayer points. if u are intrested contact me via,dimmaonuorah@gmail.com,so i can send u d add
DeletePoster 1. Oh myyyyy....is this a chronicle? Not at all.
Delete- you told her u ppl shud give urselves a break, that is more like a break-up. If a guy tells me that, I will take a walk, honestly. We even analyzed ds question last week on this blog! Wht you shud have done was let her know you never meant d real break-up. Haba!! Am sure she will apologise for taking it too far. Ladies re usu like that, please. It seemed to me that both of you love eachother and the rship is smooth (or are there oda major issues). I believe ppl shud break up bcoz of tangible reasons.....urs isn't one of dem. My take tho.
- you said the chats btw her and the ex is nothing intimate, Jus checking up. That's not baddddd, ppl still talk with their exes depending on how dey broke up. My friend still gists wt her ex, she is married Nw. And I knw der is nothing btw dem (although I hv warned her against it) some ppl see it as normal. If she lied that she doesn't talk wt her ex at all, den that's another issue. If you don't want her communicating wt her ex, have you told her that? Perhaps she would have heeded.
- the communication dwindling, may be bcoz of her school. Have u confronted her wt ur observation. Communication is key!
- u said you haven't moved on. Awwww, both of you are Jus missing each other. Why not talk things over with her, you can ask her abt her ex. I see the spark coming back when you see her again *side eyes*
You were already worried bcoz of what u heard abt long distance, it can be managed you know. Yours is partially long dist rship coz u guys started dating when she was in Nig. I see you love this girl.....she must feel same way too. She may not be hiding the chats, see how she left her password unchanged.
Whatever happens, I wish you the best.
"When you meet a good girl, wife her"
@ ....please show her this page and what you wrote so that she can send in her own story..... If it were a lady that sent in the 3rd chronicle, would she be asked to tell the husband to send in her own side of the story or show him this page???? Smh na waa oo
DeleteHmmmmmmmmmm
Delete#Teamsnoop of life
Delete@poster 2 drop ur bbm here please
Delete#SAYYESTOSNOOPING
DeleteTeam snoop oo any time any day... snooping saved a friends marriage.
DeletePoster 1 sounds unserious with the constant lol-ing all over the place, so dude, I gat no advice for u.
DeletePoster 2.... my dear u aren't cursed, in due time you'll meet your soul mate.
Poster 3. Your wife prolly doesn't know how hurt u are... I know you've talked to her and it didn't help. So, why not adopt another approach, just ignore her and she'll wonder why. Stop kissing her ass and be a man ok? Good luck
Poster 3
DeletePele!
In as much as I have some kinda tingly joyful feeling when I see a woman making a man sweat it, will still drop some words for u.
Sorry for what u are passing through. This is sad!! Y is she putting you through this? Pls, kindly concentrate on ur health for now! If u die, she'll still move on so well without you.
Please, start being the man of ur home. It may not be easy, but u have to try!!! Stop paying attention to every little thing she does. Re evaluate ur life and re invest effort in rebuilding ur self confidence. Register with a local gym, stay healthy and happy! Chat with other ladies (not cheat). Just free urself and be happy! She will be green with envy when she notices u don't give a Damn about her attitude anymore.
Moreso pray to God about ur marriage (if u still want to be with her). Could also sense u guys are not deeply connected with each other. Communicate more (that's after teaching her a lesson by ignoring her and building back ur self esteem o).
Pray God guards u! Stay blessed* #thistooshallpass#
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ReplyDeleteLet me make use of dis space...
DeletePoster one u have said ur own.... But I remain teams snoop .... Anyday anytime..... If u had not snooped u wont have found out dat she was still communicating with her ex........ Snooping helped u... Snooping updated u on wat has bin doing at ur back.... If u dont love being updated.... I love it.... I remain team snoop
Poster two... GOD WILL MAKE A WAY WHERE DERE SEEMS TO B NONE... HE WILL SURPRISE 😲 U... JUST TRUST IN HIM
Poster three...... Plz wat u just typed.. Can u kindly and calmly talk to ur wife about it......... U know ur problem in marriage is d fact dat u lack communication.... She is ur wife for God's sake.... U are suppose to tell her whatever is disturbing u.......... She shud listen... How i wish u can give her this link to read d comments....... Maybe it will help her to loosen up a Little....
But on a second tot... Bro don't u tink dere is something ur not doing.... Dis ur story is half baked... Does it mean ur wife has bin like b4 u marid her..... Or she just changed.... Plz tell us..... Well all d same talk to her
Poster1.i know snooping is bad but you broke up with her already so move on. Poster2.change your mindset and have faith.i feel your pain really,Pls look for a strong man of God that will pray for you and also i don't see anything wrong with guys that smoke and drink Poster3.Run from that your wife
DeleteMrs kork,pls correct urself there's nothing like insultive in the English dictionary, it is insulting.
ReplyDeleteTeam snoop all d long!!!
And there's nothing like team snoop all d long!!!
DeleteTeam snoop all day long.. hehehe
#teamsnoopalldayeverydaytitilayeeee!
Team snoop all day er'day! Poster if u no do this doggy style now how u for take know say d girl no send u ehn? See d way she dropped u like hot coal, no looking back. She was obviously done with u and didn't know how to tell u. Na so u for dey suffer dey deceive urself say u get gf for obodos, na wedding invitation she for take greet u when she come back. Dude keep snooping I tell u, it is profitable to a man
DeleteWho you help...use am go find work na @chizzy
DeleteBusybodys na una go die naaa.
DeleteMrs kork has already corrected herself. Better woman.i juxx pointed out a mistake wh nobody is above.
DeleteSnooping saving life since 1905, I'm not letting go e don save me taya
Deleteposter 2: i am sorry to say,but you are the problem here.work on your self esteem.do not be desperate,forward and clingy.let men come after you and not you wishing for that fine one at the corner.set standards and dont accept just anyone.
ReplyDeleteDon't be quick to judge, until u go through some things in life. .u will never understand. ...her case is clearly spiritual. ..it is caused by spirit husband..She needs deliverance...it could be a foundational problem...if u are not spiritual u won't understand..I pray that u never experience it
Delete@Poster 2, please darling go to MFM church...am talking as one that has been there, and done that...so trust me when I tell u.
Anon 18:44 na u biko jare...its not all about self-esteem.poster 2 said her mum used to curse her when she was young. Some moms r like that,may God help u dear,just make sure u always turn to God,fast and pray and he will see u through
Deletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
ReplyDelete.
One: rubbish post of the century..
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Two: desperado
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Three: person no teach yu courtship b4 marriage
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Four:Ed dreams is a dumb ass..kikikiki
DeleteProudly team snoop,mayb when I get married I will stop but b4 then I need to knw if d guy am dating is on same page with me.snooping won't change him from cheating but it will definitely give me brain to use my head¬ put all my eggs in one basket.
ReplyDeleteMy dear i be team snoop all the way. Before i got married, i dated a guy who told me he had a daughter, i felt i could cope with it so i agreed, moreso the daughter was living with her mother. After sometime my spirit was no longer at peace with the relationship. Na so bros come visit me for office, use my laptop check him facebook page come forget to log out. As i dey shut down for the day na im i notice am, na so i go check his msg, Wetin i see my mouth no fit talk. I got to know that he has three children with two baby mamas and loads of girlfriends coupled with the fact that he is a chronic liar. Na so i pick my shoe for hand tear race oooo. If you see this guy eh, you will never believe he has all these baggage with him. Snoop when the opportunity presents itself, no come dey say had i known in future.
DeleteDear Angel eyes, is the name of this guy Johnson O. Pls respond
DeleteDear anon, his name is not Johnson O.
DeleteLol @one down on teamsnoop
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2.
Put yourself together, it is well, this shall pass
Narrative 3
This also shall pass it's only a phase
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Poster 1: Wetin you want make we do now??
ReplyDeletePoster 2: so sorry about your ish. I feel it could be something spiritual, you really need a powerful man of God to pray with you. Also, be open minded, try to take the issue off your mind, be happy; you might just be surprise where you will meet the right man.
Parents, Please watch what you say to your kids.
Poster 3: This happens mostly when the woman is the breadwinner....get something pleaseeee.
I pray you find peace **side eyes**
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Correct me if I'm wrong but I didn't read where d poster 3 said he is jobless or that his wife is d breadwinner.
Delete@poster 2, u r DESPERATE. Babes, calm down now. Easy does it. Guys can smell desperate gals from afar. Ive been tru it n I've learnt my lessons. Ur own will come. Just cool down n stop begging ur ex to take u bak abeg. They will only use u as a door mat. Our men will locate us just let go n let God
Delete@poster 3, wat happened during courtship? Didn't u see all the signs?
Yeah Joy Eka, didn't read so too but I said his situation happens mostly when the woman is the breadwinner of the house.
DeletePoster1 what will be will be. Snooping didn't cause ur problem so forget it. She has always wanted to break up with u so forget this ur snooping caused it story.
ReplyDeletePoster2 try God, sincerely and with ur whole heart, body mind and soul.
Poster3 it is well with you. But you haven't tried God, pray to him to make ur wife love you as she should. Don't give up yet.
What is poster one talking about? Na immaturity dey worry you
DeletePoster 3, if you're no longer interested, let her go. All these I don't wanna do what i'll regret... don't go and kill somebody's daughter oooo
Poster 2, I don't have any advice. I just pray a Good man will locate you. Amen
I swear poster 1 is so immature. As I was reading I imagined myself in dat girl's shoes.I would av done d same.a guy has never broken up wit me o but if I smell any nonsense abi we fyt small fight I go don sharparly change him name from bae to whatever they named him...kikikiki
DeletePoster 1,
ReplyDeleteYou are not serious...can you swear you have never cheated on her before??...just because you saw a message with her ex and you have already concluded she is cheating...
Mtcheeeew....I don't think you really want to get married to her...and I like how she deleted you off...that's what I would do if it's me...
Poster 2,
You are not under any curse...even my own mum placed a curse on me when I was small...those things don't work....
Do you know why you attract only married men?...
You attract them cos you are FAT...single guys don't go for FAT girls...
Try and lose weight and see what will happen...
Poster 3,
Abeg make I laugh small...
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahhahahahahahahhah.....
She has slapped you more than 100 times...
Lemme laugh again...
Hahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahaahhahaha...
Am so happy that a woman is slapping her husband not the other way round...
I like your wife already....
Infact kiss her for me....
I wonder what you have done to her that is making her to be maltreating you...
How I wish she will send her own version of the story...
Oriegwu ohh...
So being fat is a sin abi? So because she's fat(even tho u don't know weather she's fat or slim, but u r assuming) she should go and jump into d lagoon? Smh for u, it is ur kind of woman that will tell her son not to marry his choice bcos she's fat, u easily pick faults, think u d only one who has tongue to talk pple down, baby girl, change, it's for ur own good. Ur comment sometimes makes me wonder if u are up to 18yrs.
DeleteExactly. If a guy told me we need a 'break', I will complete the sentence to 'break-up'. Poster 1, dats wat most confident ladies will do. It is interpreted that d guy is trying to end d rship and is giving it a soft landing. So d lady helps the guy finish d task.
DeleteSome ppl are saying ur gf has been waiting for an opportunity to dump you. How is ds true? When u don't hv any confirmation. So now u are uncertain. What if she is still loves u. You said said she wasn't even too keen on relocating.....
Sometimes ladies misunderstand things. I hv had issues and heated arguments wt my fiance and deleted him from social media apps, he called to know why I had to delete him and explained what he really meant. I quickly apologised and retraced my steps coz I went too far. I added him bk...lol he did shakara b4 accepting d request. I guess I bruised his ego. So poster, as a real man, you shudda called her after she acted up, hear from her, know what is going on in her mind. She may be hurting and hoping you wil try to get her back.
It's better u get d clearer pic of her stand dan assuming she is not into you, to avoid 'HAD I KNOWN' in future. If you are convinced she really wants out, then fine, your conscience is now clear.
Not all d thing we say 'what will be will be'. Sometimes, we need to act as well.
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Deleteposter 1:what do u know?ur story did not seem to make much sense cos whatever u saw of cos was not enuf to make u to tell her to face her work n u face urs,childishness dey worry u shikena.If na better snooping i for gree Team snoop wia r u ppl biko dis guy has not seen nada.N i will keep saying snooping has saved a lot of lives and correted the heads of some brain dead men and women.
ReplyDeleteposter 2 :Lemmi tell u that being in luv will never stop all ur depression ,so bcos u av no man to call ur own and nobody luvs u u r depressed?instead of u to be busy falling in luv with urself.Ok wait so bcos ur mates r married u think their lives r perfect, jump and enter one chance and see ur depression right bfor ur eyes.
poster 3:pls let ur wife write in let us know if u r d liar, the things we read these days need the 2nd and 3rd parts to it,ur wife cannot be that bad. Even u sef wetin be ur own fault?Nothing?if u have nt sated ur own faults n y ur wife is nw like that then nna ndo inugo buru obe gi gaa calvary
Poster 2; I pray for you too! Poster 3 i will go with Stella on this ,though most of this attributes can be found on some women but still in other to help you let us hear from her!
ReplyDeletethe federal government of Stella warns that SNOOPING is very dangerous to health of snoopers!
ReplyDeletePoster1 snooping didn't cause ur breakup,snoop isn't only about looking,ability to act upon wat u see,frm d way u talk self u do not luv ur ex,cos even b4 she traveled u were already considering breakup,and its was so easy for u to tell her,I believe stella wrote sometin of dat nature few days ago,breakup and giving each oda tym,wen she deleted u,she got d message of u breaking with her,and after she deleted u,u just stay bck,without making out effort to reach her @ all,now u heard she is back u re facing ur work,den why re u complaining,u better stop complaining and face ur hustle,mtewwwww,u sound so immature sorry to say,even wen u snooped u didn't even see anytin reasonable,yet u concluded,normally I don't type dis much,but u just provoke me.
ReplyDeleteMe sef dey vex. This is not even an issue. Poster, have u heard of things ppl see in a rship? and u didn't hold onto d good girl you have.
DeleteYou sounded a bit immature to me tho. If you try to break up wt a confident girl, she won't beg to be back coz she knows her worth. I hope u won't be bitter if another guy finds her and wifes her.
You can talk wt a married mature guy abt this, maybe a counselor,.....to hear another perspective. Anyway we commented based on d info u gave us here. We never hear ur girlfriend's side of d story.
Waiting for Ronalda to dish it hot to you
Poster 1, serves you Right! You thought she would act like some girls and beg you, im sure you were shocked at the extent to which she wiped you off her life.
ReplyDeleteShe has gone back to her ex simple, that explains why she got over you easily.
Your pride didn't even allow you call her, you are now righting to the blog, im sure she reads this blog and you know it, Sister don't reply him o, because you heard she back abi?
Poster 2 get over him already joor!
I'm sure people don't ask you out anymore cos you've probably flaunted him like a husband, that's why some people advise girls not to commit to one guy, don't be depressed again. Don't you have friends? If you die of this depression the guy would get married and have kmids and won't even remember your "death anniversary" it's not worth it.
Poster 3 im sooo sorry, talk to her, tell her even if you can't divorce her, if she doesn't change you would leave the house for her. Stella wont you have something to say? Didn't you see where he said he has chopped almost 100 slaps Silently? Any form of Violence is wrong, whether from a male or female , let's not be partial because she's a fellow woman.
I commend you for not hitting her back, but act fast before you would one day release all your pent up anger on her. All the best
Who has used clean9 or knows someone dat did does it work.?
ReplyDeleteN3: I really really feel sad for you, I detest violence of any kind, she has no right to heat you.
ReplyDeleteA man is supposed to be stern and decisive, maybe because you're too soft your wife is twisting you around her fingers. Begin to take charge of your home, common you're almost afraid of her, a bully has no power except the one you give him/her, so long as you tuck your tails between your legs and whimper, she will continue to wield that power; but if you stand up to her she will back down.
Do not heat her or do anything that you'll regret, worse come to worst you divorce her even the church will understand.
I have a friend that his wife is also maltreating... the funny thing is that this guy works in a gas company, he is d bread winner, his wife is in school abroad but she runs every thing from there, has all his passwords, monitor s his bank accounts, talks to him anyhow, abuses him at will.. he is so sad but I don't know why he doesn't want to be firm with her... things like dis happens o where the man is the one being abused. Asked him to go for counselling he declined it but is always unhappy...
DeleteNne, it's HIT not 'heat'
DeleteThank you Nemerem for that comment the poster should be a man and stop being a pussy its bcos sje knows that you can't divorce het that's why she's misbehaving TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR HOME
Deleteissorait keep eating the comment
ReplyDelete#GODWIN
Will just read comments
ReplyDeletebtw i just found out that a bv I AM CAL BIATCHEZ has been sleeping on my matter, nigga u don't oonly troll my comments here u still sent me a mail eh kwa,dude i am not of the same opinion as u so i must not lick ur ass to agree to what u opin.Pls do not ever send such message to me and insult me again or else u will not hear the last of it.I have calmly spoken with u
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2 PLEASE GET A JOB BE BUSY WITH YOUR LIFE: MEN ARE ATTRACTED TO LADIES WITH BRAINS NOT JUST BEAUTY.
ReplyDeleteN3, sit her down n av a chat wt her. U may think u re doing d right tin wt her but d right tin in ur dictionary may not mean same tin wt hers. So just av a heart to heart chat wt ur wife ok. Goodluck. N2 pray n leave everytin in d hand of God, go for deliverance too since u dated a cultist, God will surely see u tru. N1, I don't no what to tell u but, u broke up wt her so why complain. I had a guy like dt, he will send me break up text, n later he will call n say he did it bc he isn't in a good mode dt I should ignore. He did it like 2times or so n I got fed up. N I broke up wt him myself n since den he won't allow me to rest claiming am wicked n selfish dt I can't consider dt he is hurting n its only acting out, dt I should be considerate. He claimed I don't make him happy like I used to, so why is he still crying dt I should take him back if am all he said I am? D main tin is he broke up wt me severally n I got fed up. So I dont no if my story resemble urs. Men always think gals re nothing without dem n wen de see dt d gal is living well without dem, de turn around to cry n lament. So search urself n be truthful to urself. I don't like long distance rship too bc it's one of d main problem here. Date someone close to u. Bye
ReplyDeleteHow did snooping cause your problem
ReplyDeleteYou shld be grateful u found out earlier
poster2.It is well,
poster3.So u want to die of your heart condition abii
Stella, I have sent u my story via email several times and u have refused to acknowledge it. Odinma
ReplyDeleteAm proudly Team Snoop... Still has more advantages than disadvantages. Snooping helps to know what my partner is up to, prepare for the worst, not keeping all my eggs in one basket, acting unattached even before the breakup happens (not necessarily getting into another relationship or sleeping with another). Men ain't loyal and I love with my heart with my senses intact.
ReplyDeletePoster 3, no comments now till your wife's response is posted
Poster 2- I don't think you are cursed. Be patient, the guy that would treat you like the queen you are is just around the corner.
Poster 1, if she's yours, she would return to you. But if it doesn't happen, move on jare. Meanwhile learn your lessons. If you want to belong to team snoop be ready for anything and don't make stupid moves. You are still a learner is Snooping
Ever proud member of team snoop.
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DeleteGod Bless The 1st Day I discover Ur Blog, Stella, for Real Chronicles Of Blog Visitor Narrative has Realy Change My Perspective About Relationship, poster1, If realy U guys are meant for each Other, Something will Bring u guys back together.
ReplyDeletePoster2, God's tym Is the Best, when God Remember U it's ur tym, so Relax and Keep Praying.
Poster3, Ur wife No get Badmouth Reach My Mum ooo but they R still very Much together, they Just Celebrate their 25yrs Silver Jubilee Last Year, It's All About Understanding and communication, She Is A Human Being, and she Is Educated, Believe Me, She no what she is doing, I Pray You Find Peace In your Marriage just Like My Parents, I Wish U Well
HMmmmm,this love matter,God pls I don't want to experince all this kind of wahala o,
ReplyDeletePoster 1.you deserve it. I don't know why some guys think with their asses. Why will u break up with a girl, and u say u don't mean it. What do u expect her to do? To start running after you abi. Begging u. I bet if she had done that, u would not realise u loved her eh? Nonsense and ingredients. Babes, if a guy misbehaves, drop him like he's hot. No need interacting with an ex. Immediately he chooses to fuck off, GO NO CONTACT and let ex be equal to zero.
ReplyDeleteE speak lekwa @ Poster 3:
ReplyDeleteIs this the case of 'Bottled Leopard'
Woman slap you and you are sending Chronicle.
What do I know though ! !
Poster 1:
Case of snooping gone wrong wrong assumption.
What will be will be, they say if love a bird let it, at the end it will come back to you, if it is truly yours.
Poster 2:
Pray Pray and pray, No one will pray for you like yourself.
Do self deliverance for your self, Pray and Fast for this issue.
At the end of the Prayer and Fasting, buy Gift(s) for your Mum tell her to pray for you, base on that issue.
Sure you will see changes.
For once, someone has made some sense on this issue. ..people please let's be sensitive in our responses to the life issues of others....do not be quick to judge or say rash things. ..people suffer from depressions and various forms of issues, don't let fancy clothes and looks deceive u...some are on the brink of suicide. .one kind word could save a life..this insensitive attitude is what is killing Nigeria..."selfishness"
DeleteUS gov/organizations invest lots of resources in orientating people to be respectful to other members of the society which is why customer service here is a Big Deal...just a little kindness can go a long way to impact our world, and that change begins with U as an individual
#Quiet SDK Observer# #TeamPositiveChange#Better9ja#Youths of today;Great Leaders of Tomorrow#Social Responsibility@it's Peak#
Thank You All...
I remember the book bottled leopard
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DeleteI'm team snoop when I smell a rat,not all the time *shines teeth* poster 1,move on try your luck elsewhere,she's already taken by someone who appreciates her more than you did. Poster 2 stop being a desperado,work on yourself,look good,be trendy,work on your weight if you have to,use makeup and just face your work,the right guy will come when you least expect. Poster 3 your wife has some resentments against you,be sweet,take her out,try and talk things out in loving ways,change where you need to,pray about it,God turns hearts of gold into flesh. Ask God for new wine in your marriage,a successful marriage needs God's mercy. It is not of he that willeth or he that runneth. All will be well.
ReplyDelete3. It is well. Its also good to hear your wife's side of all you've said.
ReplyDeletelearnt my lesson about snooping, you get the fact and also an heart attack.
ReplyDeleteLol@comment pot is empty
ReplyDeleteStella, I am proud of you. The response you gave Poster 3 is on point. However, we will agree to disagree on the subject of snooping. I and my husband are one, so for me looking through his phone is not snooping, it is 'wise love'. The bible said be as wise as ...
ReplyDeleteLol @wise love
Delete#ProudlyTeamSnoop!
ReplyDeleteStella, cos its a guys chronicle now, u want to hear from d other side before giving Ur advice ba. But if its a woman, you'd know what to tell her immediately. Issorai.
ReplyDeletePoster1- immaturity dey worry you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: desperado tinz
Poster 3: your case dey God hand.
@Stella...i quite agree with you...the headache associated with snooping no here ooooo
ReplyDeleteposter 1: snooping didn't cause ur problem/break up. u probably had been using break up as a treat when u don't have ur way, couple with u not financially defendant.
ReplyDeleteposter 3; U dated her b4 marriage. it cant be this bad just barely a year after.
poster..you are weak. you need to be a man. be strong
ReplyDelete#Proudly Team Snoop!!.....BTW Aunt Stella I love the way you respond to all The Chronicle Of Blog Visitor!! (if u no sidon read comment)
ReplyDeleteposter 2, U wil surely find love @ the appointed time, thank God you are in ur late twenties. I am in mid thirty yet no show.
ReplyDeleteposter 3, i totally agree with stella, cant judge until i hear your wife's part of the story.
POSER 1,Good for you. u tried to do big boy by saying 'lets go on a break'. Shebi she has given u break. Men like doing dis shit. Now she has called ur bluff and ur complaining. Abeg shift
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2,ur story is not different from many girls. I myself iv been in and out of rlshps. my last ended in 2013 n havnt met sm1 worthwhile since. Bear in mind dat I look very beautiful, I don't just like d guys im meeting. Neva had much luck with men. Meanwhile I have a friend dat is very big,okay facially and has been married for 10yrs. She has neva been single 1day of her life. Neva known wat it feels like to be without a man since sec sch.
SOME WOMEN are just BLESSED like dat, without even looks. But some of us have to fast,pray,do vigil etc. DONT GIVE UP
POSTER 3, ur wife is not mad. There's smthn ur doing wrong. or maybe she neva loved u or wat she saw in d marriage isn't wat she expected. maybe she was cajoled in d marriage.................FOREVER 16
I'm right here and proud, so far the person I'm snooping on is my hubby, we r 1 after all.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 some ex's break up and remain friends but not intimate. 'How r u doing', 'just checking up on you' isn't enough to be worried except u found something intimate.
That isn't matured of u getting pissed off with hello and it likes.
Poster 2, go to ur mum, ask her to bless you if she's still alive.
Secondly drop that desperate/nobody wants me mentality, that's why u keep running into d wrong hands. Let me tell u something, u r wasting ur time the more settling for less Co's it won't last.
Poster 3, your story get k-leg, would like to hear from your wife b/4 concluding, u sound like u have ur own skeleton too
People who do not snoop have bigger secrets to hide. Privacy indeed! As if marriage does not contradict that word....
ReplyDeletePoster 1, so men also snoop?
ReplyDeletePoster 2, it is well with us. Women are going through a lot.
1: what can we do to help ?
ReplyDeleteBeg your ex girlfriend or what ?
2: I can feel your desperation from a mile away.
Go back to yesterday's chronicles and pick the advice you need/want.
3: I don't believe your story till we hear your wife's account.
Do you take care of your family expenses or not ?
If you can't cope, please take a walk before the devil gets invited to the tryst.
team snoop doggie i hail una o
ReplyDeletePoster 1: na u sabi. #team snoop
ReplyDeletePoster 2: patience my dear. Also check ur character.
Poster 3: give her some time alone. Go away, far away where she can't reach u and abandon everything 4 her. Let her do things herself for once and see if she might change.
Like Stella rightly said, we have learnt on this blog not to jump into conclusions when there is a partner/spouse that brings the other one up here to rant fire. From end last year till yesterday we have had like three cases of the other partner/spouse getting back to defend his/herself and it was shocking to know what really went down and we have already taken the other person to the cleaners based on what we heard and read from one partner/spouse. Just yesterday another partner came to clear the air on what his gf said. That said I only have one narrative to comment on, p2.......The spirit husband weh deh drag am with you wear jeans, polo shirt and ray ban glasses. I advice you to please rush and run to a powerful bible or deliverance church. If all other fails, Jesus never fails.
ReplyDeleteNarr 1:
ReplyDeleteYour narrative boring die. Park well!
Narr 2:
You too like man. Like poster 1, park well!
Narr 3:
BRB#
LADY IGO SAYS TO POSTER 2
ReplyDeleteYOU CURSED YOURSELF BUT GOD LOVES YOU
You the reader can join me in taking note of this statistics I mentioned a few days ago (also yesterday) about break ups and depression. 99% of ladies fall to depression when they had "opened their legs", aborted or both; this is my personal findings and anyone is free to differ. My dear poster, you cursed yourself by:
" it was so bad that i begged my ex to take me back a couple of times but we only ended up having sex those times." (Quoting you please)
Then you went to deliverance etc.; that's good . . .but have you decided in your heart of hearts to make Jesus your Lord or are you simply going to be delivered to go back and spread your legs again for the men that didn't care?
AL***'s depression after her "sex partner" (using her own words as she later realized he was no lover) left her reached to a point that she began to pull her hair and eat it! She caused so much pain to herself that she confessed that the only thing that will take away her pain is if she could stab him on the chest and cut off his pe*is. Even with counselling and . . .(well she was starving herself because she couldn't fast seeing that she was boiling with unforgiveness). It was when she had intestinal obstruction from eating her hair that she landed in an emergency theater for surgery. Al could not wake up from anesthesia for 3 good days. All around her were praying and fasting. The doctors said that probably, the anesthetic drugs in her fat cells (the girl has big buttocks and really men perch on it like flies) were responsible for her coma. Well on the third night, she woke up screaming "fire!, maggots! Lord help!" . . . It so happened that Al was live in the flames of hell where we were told that the fire quenches not and the worms do not die . . .She did say that while "briefly in hell, she was still eating her hair and gnashing her teeth" (really the doctors complained of her moving her mouth all through the surgery). She said that the "man that came and brought her out" showed her the reason why she was being sent back was to join. . . Al described the two ladies (she knows) who were fasting and praying for her but surprisingly described the third lady whom she had never met in real life and who was praying in another location outside the country (this lady confirmed she wore orange attires while she prayed on the third day in the church). No one needed to tell Al to fast and pray or forgive the heart breakers etc. She is not yet married but I can tell you that she's serving the Lord faithfully and has much peace. Al's main concern is to serve the Lord in bringing prostitutes to Christ aside from her work as a professional chef.
LADY IGO WITH REGARDS.
Il always snoop.. it's my own way of knowing my next move in a relationship....
ReplyDeletePoster 3 I am only interested in ur case. U kept repeating 'I don't want to do what I will regret' bros shey u are planning how to kill her abi
ReplyDeleteSee there is nothing like religion forbids divorce, instead of killing her pls find a way and leave her.
I don talk my own, cos if u kill her, na NTA and blog we go see your face with boxers and in chains
Stella, didn't the bible say when you are joined together in matrimony you have become ONE? Why then should there be secrecy when you are One. Believe it or not snooping has saved many marriages... It's painful to see, Yes but it helps. It helped me... Bae was chatting with this old friend inappropriately, I snooped, raised d roof, blew up like a torch while he grovelled and begged. I forgave but I want to believe he knows better now cos he knows I can live well without him and I won't condone cheating. It also helped me remove d scales from my eyes and I stopped viewing him with rose tinted glasses, now it's side eyes all the time. I realised that no one can guarantee your happiness except God... I used to trust that man with my life but now, I'm a little bit cautious in my loving him. Anyways, moral of the story? I think its good to snoop
ReplyDeleteGbam!!!! If I didn't snoop I wont have known I had contracted std. If it was aids nko? God forbid!#teamsnooptilljesuscomes
DeleteNarrative 2: You attract the wrong guys because you have wrong attitude. You probably want rich comfortable guys(who most of the times have baggage or not ready to settle down). You don't like those that are chasing you? Why? You're setting unnecessary standards for yourself. Probably they don't have a car or the livenin bq you go wait tire even old for house. If a guy has potential is enough.
ReplyDeleteStella, i nor like wetin u tell that man abeg...if na woman drop that message would you have waited for the man's side befor you say your own part? you want him to show his wife the narrative? you should have said he should just clarify some things like...Is he the bread winner? does she complain about certain things? what does he do to start the insults from her? Narrator 3, please explain more.
ReplyDeletePoster 1:: She is not meant for you. You dey compare yankee and Nija. The girl don waka go.. if it is you, you will do the same to her. Good she is the one that did you this.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Work on yourself. stop throwing your body on men. Get carraige abeg. God will do the work for you. Start attending a good church and be part of the workers there, you will see wonders of God.
Poster 3: your church is against divorce and you have a heart condition. you will just die for nothing. if you cant stay with her, let her go and have peace of mind. Church will not take you to heaven
Poster 1: you said you needed a break and bae gave you a total break! Enjoy it naw after all you asked for it!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: hmmmmmm your case is spiritual! You need deliverance. I recommend you go to mountain of fire for deliverance.
Poster 3: hahahahahahahahaha 100 slap no vex abeg but you are indeed a patient man! Turn to Jesus!
1- Good for you.
ReplyDelete2- Believe in God
3- Until we hear from yr wifey.
Hi stella I want to ask a very serious question about snooping.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, what is snooping?
Here's the dictionary's definition:
To investigate or look around furtively in an attempt to find out something, especially information about someone's private affairs.
This brings me back to my confusion, I don't think the word snooping was meant for partners in a relationship. Because once you are in a relationship,i believe the both party should be sincere and open, hence no private affairs, you should know each others friends, financial status and stuff. That's the only way there will be total trust and peace of mind and friendship will grow.
So once you are in a relationship and you are afraid of snooping or you are thinking of snooping then something is wrong and u might as well snoop.
Partners should have access to each others phones, computers, atms and all, if that transparency does not exist in your relationship then it's not sincere.
This is my opinion tho.
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ReplyDeleteP1 Get a life!
ReplyDeleteP2. Men can smell desperation from afar. Get your mind off relationship issues for now. Develop your personality (your self esteem needs a boost) focus on being the kind of woman a good man would want. Engage in new pursuits. Join a gym or go for long walks. Join a book club or read books. Don't seem too eager when a man approaches you. Just do any of these things and sometime when you least expect, your prince charming will find you.
P3. There are 3 sides to your story, your side, her side and the truth. There's more to your story than you're telling. Search yourself.
Dawn
Errrmmmm Poster 1
ReplyDeleteIs that what you call snooping in your dictionary? Orishirishi!
We are talking about women/men that have been able to avoid deadly diseases,cheating partners and you are here "baeing"
You saw innocent hello,hi messages and you decided to quit your relationship... I know you would have jumped up in joy if the girl gave a rat's ass about your so called break..
Oh well,life goes on...
#TeamSnoop
2nd Poster
I don't think you are cursed!
Please hope that Ex is permanently in the past now? Don't let desperation push you into wrong hands,never lower your moral standards again.
Enjoy your life dear... trust me,the right man will locate you.. keep looking nice,attend functions,go to cinemas... This year will not pass you by.Amen
Poster 3
Has your wife always acted this way?do you have kids? I know some women get depressed during pregnancy and childbirth and take it out on the nearest person.
I feel your pain dear.. I don't wish an unhappy marriage on even my worst enemy.
Please salvage the situation Oga..
Don't throw in the towel easily Sir.. i hate domestic violence,i fear that she might push you into committing murder.
Before you walk away.. Please just push beyond your boundaries and make this marriage work.
Remember this: It takes two people to wreck a marriage but one person to make it work..
I look forward to your Chronicle of Hope.
Hey you Mr Snooper! Be grateful you did as it has saved you from greater issues. You can see that she doesnt give a hoot about you,so she jumped on the opportunity that you snooped. Dont worry you will get over it. Your eyes cannot see the atrocities that you were saved from but God can.#TEAMSNOOPFOREVER.
ReplyDeletenO.2 Babe relax..... na only late 20s dey do you like dis easyooo. Love will find you.Refer to yesterday's BVN.
NO.1 Oga i supported Stella oooo but all these slap wey you dey receive so 'Diaris God oooo
Poster 1,it's well...wen d One comes,u wil know.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,Come here baby,come Take à hug.
U may think dere is no man for u at d mo.think no more sweets.God is taking His time in bringing sat spécial one for u.ok?
U know for gold to be gold,it has to pass via Fire.right?
So baby,try n relax.ok?
AnD while at it,Keep bn good and never Give in to À Married Man.
Believe me,ur Dream Man is on d way.
Sending u warm Hugs Sweet.
Póster 3,dont know wot to say.dat cry for help broke ma heart.
wish i understood how u guys met and all dat.and was she always like dat.so i'l know where to come from.
Buh from ur write up,i deduce oone thing and one thing only....u are a bn one annoying walk-over!
And pls wil u stop apologizing for her wrongs(she slapped u and u went to beg her Later)
Its ok to pamper a woman.
i am one very pampered wife buh dere are certainly some things i wont do.
Inukwa slapping d General!
How many times did u say again?100 abi.
Bros,Mba Mba Mba.No No No.
Thats not how to roll dear.
And Lemme Tel u one thing:
Women dont 'like' weak Men.
Remember This Bro.
Frame it and hang it in ur heart.
Engrave it in ur Mind's eye.
Its no excuse for her bad behaviour
Know how to say NO and mean it
Cut her allowance
Sit her down and have a heart to heart Talk Wit her
Tel her u DONT like her behaviuor and Wit d way things are going,u dOnt know Wots gonna happen.
buh whatever happens,u wont Remain in a loveless relationship. No way!
Dont just put d Fear of God in her.
make her feel the Fear.and ur Pain.
Stop bn weak Bro and be a Man.
Sending u warm Hugs and whispering up a prayer for u and ur broken heart.
Poster 3,,
ReplyDeletelike my fellow man i will like you to reasons this way,did u ever force her to marry you'''?are you much older than her'?do you smoke and drinks too much''?do you respect your person always'?like as you has said you are still the man on money matters,,has she told you before your friends was chassing her or wanted to force her on bed'?then was she cheating on you''?dose any of your friends knows anything about her secret? are you cheating on her with girls'?then if you have answer these questions and find out that she was never cheating on you,please find out her reasons ,happiness and her joy but if she was ever cheating on you ,menhh let her pack and go fast,and for beating and slaping u 100times,menhh even dangote daughter can never ever try such to me,,from swiss
To snoop or not to snoop, that's the question. I must admit that I have snooped and when I did it turned my marriage around for the better because it stopped DH from making a fool hardy decision. The truth is I snoop no more because I have no reason to but if DH gave me one you bet I'd be snooping away.
ReplyDeleteTo snoop or not to snoop, that's the question. I must admit that I have snooped and when I did it turned my marriage around for the better because it stopped DH from making a fool hardy decision. The truth is I snoop no more because I have no reason to but if DH gave me one you bet I'd be snooping away.
ReplyDeleteAddressing Narrative Three: Having a heading, nagging wife is worse than death. Your life will be shortened. Take my advise, you should not let a relationship as yours to kill you. invest your time and energy in order things that make you happy. If you don't have children... disappear with another woman who values you... you will find a 1000 and 1 women who will appreciate you outside there but look before you leap.
ReplyDeleteIf I were you, I would plan a grand disappearance, except you don't have money or you rely on her - relocate to another place, she will not be able to find you.
Poster 2, am so sorry and really touch by your chronicle. Am sure you have received lots of good advice but there is something I want you to try before you go to any ‘strong man of God’ to pray for you.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, I don’t believe you are under any curse and secondly I do believe you are the cause of your own problems.
Do you know how powerful you are…? Listen baby girl you are created in the image of God and you have every right to happiness, joy and success. The power lies within you, in your soul and the Holy Spirit that communicate with you through your sub-conscious.
The power of the sub-conscious mind is so great that it radiates out of you through forms of energy into the universe therefore whatever type of energy you give out, that is what you will receive.
You need to heal your heart from the years of pain you have experienced. It is simple yet hard. You need to bring to the fore front whatever emotions of pain within you that you have not deal with…. Confront it, deal with it and get rid of it. Let out all the negative energy within you.
You will next learn to love yourself. Fall in love with you, you are your biggest priority, spoil you, pamper and love YOURSELF. Find a hobby, play a sport, try swimming and spend time in nature.
Once all negativity has been eradicate, train you mind to focus only on the positive things that you need. What your heart desires will be attracted to you like a magnate.
Don’t settle for less or sell your soul short. You are very special and God is not going to pair you with a man less worthy for you. Certainly not after all the pain and heartbreak you have been through. So be sad no more, have a glass of wine, be happy or make someone smile and when you arise tomorrow morning, let it be with a new mind set for all is well and indeed you are blessed and highly favoured.
Please feel free to contact me for support through Stella. You have a very exciting future ahead
Thanks 4 sharing. I am not the author of the post but God also ministered to me what you said. Similar situation like poster. What even condemned me is mumu met false pastors mtchew... Doom n gloom - the Lord saved me
DeleteGod said accept me as your personal Lord n Savior- look to me to save u have redeemed u. Reminded me of my past pain addressed it and rest follows ad u eloquent said..God bless
Stella please don't come with that your mantra : snooping is violation of the other party's privacy. What nonsense privacy? in the case of boyfriend /girlfriend, didn't they accept to be exclusive ? In the case of married couples, didn't they promise before God and man to be 1?. Being a couple entails being open and united. I see nothing wrong in a couple going through each other 's things after all when a couple comes together, it ceases to be my thing but our thing.
ReplyDeleteIt is only a person afraid of something that prefers to live in ignorance which might turn out to be deadly in the long run.
Poster 1, you already wanted to break up with the girl before now, so be true to your self.
So, you didn't know you have to hustle before you asked her out or you didn't have the guts to ask after the innocent mail you read ; and you call yourself a man.
Maybe, you are now tired of the new girl that caught your fancy or you want to stylishly tell rich working class female BVs to contact you for marriage so that you can scam them. Sorry mister, this is 2015, female BVs are no more gullible.
Poster 2, how could you stay with him after you found out that he was a member of a secret cult? well, pray harder for God to exorcise the spirit of desperation and what ever evil spirit that your ex initiated into you.
Poster 3 , maybe you guys were not compatible right from the outset; maybe you saw the writing on the wall but went ahead because of what people will say.
You can cry to God to show you the path to follow, visit a marriage counsellor and also direct her to this page.
Maybe, your soliciting for advise on a blog is God's answer to your prayer if you will be bold enough to direct her to this page to read people's input.
#1: Please don't take this the wrong way and I'll even step it up a notch by apologising to you just in case I hit a nerve with this question. Sweetie, are you a guy? Because, this write-up emits female energy. There's something about this narrative that ...oh well! Maybe you're just in touch with your feminine side.
ReplyDeleteThough I don't believe in snooping, I find the example you gave to discourage snooping underwhelming. I doubt it will inspire a rookie snooper to stop snooping. Lol! Sorry my love, the facts may be right but the application is wrong. Your insecurities made you feel like testing her devotion with a breakup threat which backfired. This isn't one of those snooping gone wrong stories, after all, your snooping didn't reveal any incriminating evidence. It wouldn't be fair to blame your woes on snooping in this instance, it's misleading. I still maintain my stance on not snooping but I had to point this out.
Your attitude helped in worsening an already awkward situation. I hope you aren't being whimsical to mask the pain you feel? You're being rather goofy for a guy who just lost a girl he loves. Are you sure you really want her back? She's in town but you choose to look the other way? Is there no more fight left in you? Perhaps it's better this way, no?
Word of advice, don't play games with emotions, the stakes are usually too high. Words spoken or written can never be retrieved, please be very selective with your expressions. If you still want your girl, go fight to get her back before your attitude pushes her heart to beat for someone else.
#e-bearhugs.
Pride: Some men would not fight despite dying for the girl. God doesn't like untrustworthy people
DeleteFunny comments all d way. @loveme jeje, queen and boss of blog, bloglord, okija, nwunye G, na Ndi ozo I hail una. Una de make am happen for dis blog. I come in to comment, but after reading una own comot I de forget Wetin to type. Mrs Kork I hail u.
ReplyDeleteHailings babes!
DeleteLmao @ forget wetin to type.
Make u de jot am down before you start to read or comment first before reading.
Lol. Funny girl.
Olori baby,i dey hail u back nne.
DeleteHope u r good boo.
@olori Isis,,I dey hail back oooo!!
DeleteYes we make dis lovely blog fun from time immemorial!
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DeleteOlori,you are not serious...
hello poster 2.
ReplyDeleteam a guy in a relationship but am telling u i sumtime wish i was wit sum1 else dat luvs me much more dan lips service, wat i discovered was dat u jus nid to luv urself 1st b4 sum1 will luv n take u serious. and do u work,hw do u luk i mean d way u dress, if u r a plus size,join a gym. go out more,smile alot, treat urself out hang around frnds make urself happy. like wat sum1 sed here, men dnt jus want beauty dis days,we want beauty,brains n a body to die for.
wat u r askin 4 is nt too much nau. me ma no mind see u ooo.kip frnds, go to weddings, church activities n make urself approachable.i jus wish i can meet wit u.cheer up, it can neva get worst dan dis.afta midnite, morning will come.
#3, I will like to hear from the wife first before saying anything.
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Poster 2 i need your contact biko.!!!!
ReplyDeleteAbeg poster 3, divorce her!!!!!! End of story! Afterall that's what they would tell the woman,if the tables were turned. Dont waste oxygen praying for anybody, don't be patient with her. Tell her you're tired! Finish! Many people are mentally ill and they and those around them don't know it. Please you all should endeavour to read the DSM-5 criteria for psychological abnormalities. You'll discover many of your husbands and wives fall into various category. There's no remedy for such! Please divorce her and move on, except you also have mental issues, then both of you can be mad together.In my life, I can't phantom how a grown adult would be slapping or hitting another grown adult. Both the "hitter" and "hitee" are disturbed spiritually and psychologically. Mistchewwwww!
ReplyDelete#2: Aaawwwwww! Sweetheart, the solution is in your words but you seem oblivious to it. You wrote "...the guys I liked and wanted to date were always dodging me, while the ones I didn't like were always chasing me." therein lies the problem. Ignore the guys and they fight for your attention, give them too much attention and they withdraw and become distant. The trick is to find an equilibrium between both extremes.
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My darling, what makes you think you can't get a better man than the one with obvious character issues? Your self-esteem needs a major boost. I don't care if you're 20years or 40years, don't settle for less for fear of being alone. 6months of substandard treatment from a man shouldn't be mother's milk to you. Honey, you bring a sad smile to my face because I know there's are men who will treat you like priceless pearls and opens you up the sublimity of true love. Please don't give up hope. Don't allow frustration push you to the wrong guy. Hang in there, my love, he may just be around the corner.
You've done all you're supposed to do except deliver yourself from the power of your mind. You're held captive by your mind. A wrong mindset is even more dangerous than any evil spell or generational curses because, the latter can be broken through prayers and deliverance but the former can only be tackled by you. No one can renew your mind, you have to do it yourself.
You still have unresolved issues with your ex which leaves you spellbound. You haven't cut the emotional ties. You're still harbouring the hope that he will change his ways and come back to you, how then can you move on to greener pastures? Stop believing you're still under a curse or that feeling will be your albatross.
Learn to love yourself, aim for only the best. Love will find you if you are receptive and you believe you deserve to be loved. Calm down, don't be too eager. Married men have been known pester all shapes, sizes, colours and age range of women. You're not the only one married men fancy. Stop poisoning your mind with fear, stop assuming you wouldn't find happiness, stop second guessing yourself. You've allowed your ex have too much power over you, it's time you took your powers back. Once you've discovered your worth, things will begin to fall in pleasant places. Look into the mirror every morning and tell your reflection "I am royalty and only the best is good enough for me" "I am blessed and highly favoured" "my future is bright because the best is yet to come"."it will end in praise". Once fear creeps in, use these mantras to push it out. I wish you an amazing life filled with love, joy and prosperity.
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Stella forget dat thing o alot of women are like dat.very hard to please...any way lets hear d woman's side of d story.
ReplyDeletesomeone give me a counsellors contact.. I don't really understand anymore
ReplyDelete#3: Thank goodness u r able to ask 4 help at least from this blog. Really empathize with what u r going thru with a violent wife. One does not need to hear the other part to know violence/name-calling is WRONG regardless the gender of the bully. Naija culture makes it hard 4 men who face domestic violence to come out. But, you are strong and once you know you are not alone in this, you will heal in time. First though, you need to get out of that insane and unsafe environment as
ReplyDeletequickly as your legs can carry you. You deserve to be happy in life no matter what your church/family says. Divorce a no-good woman and get on with your life. Even better now since you don't have a child in question.
#3: Dear sir, why did you marry her? I'm curious because you knew her for about 18months before you decided to marry her. Was she always like this when you guys dated? You said from day one of your marriage, you've never known peace, that's odd.
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Unless your wife has mental issues or is under the influence of evil spirits, you must have done something to provoke her, knowingly or otherwise. Why would you stand still over the years and be slapped about 100 by your wife if a part of you didn't think you deserved it? You're the only one who knows the true positions of things. If you want your marriage to work, it will. Pray to God to restore your marriage and try a tenderness.
Be gentle and more loving. Surprise her with gifts just because it's a Thursday or some random day of the week , it mustn't be too expensive. Reserve 1 day of the week for date night, just the 2 of you. Take her out for dinner, spoil her with attention, whisper sweet nothings to her. Spring impromptu lunch dates and fun outings as well. Occasionally, walk up to her either in the kitchen or wherever and kiss her forehead without saying a word, oblige her with a smile and walk away. If she returns home after you return, welcome her with your warm embrace and a soft kiss. Give her foot massages if she allows you, you can even give her a bath or join her while she's taking a shower. Ignore whatever negative reaction she gives you because she isn't used to getting your affection, keep doing it anyway. Cuddle her at night but leave sex out of it for now. Tell her sweet words often, it doesn't have to be elaborate. A simple "Baby, I'm so glad you're mine" will suffice. Tell her she's beautiful, pay her compliments when she wears something nice or rocks a new hairdo. Don't stop even if she's driving you crazy with her attitude.She will break eventually and you'll be blown away when she reveals her loving side you've never seen. You want to save your marriage and fall in love all over again, yeah? That's the price you have to pay. Unless you secretly want to "check out" or justify an affair and was hoping to get encouragement from us.
I wish you the very best.
Poster 3: so your wife will wake up one morning and land you slaps just because she feels like slapping?? Please tell us the truth.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Snooping is very unhealthy as it gives rise to a lot of mistrust and confusion in relationship. Also some people will say it helps them know what they are up against, I sincerely don't think is necessary because you will only get more confused and heartbroken by your findings.If u must snoop then please be mature about your findings and observations.Don't be hasty to conclusions because you may just be acting wrongly.
ReplyDeletePoster 2:My dear girl,i understand how you feel.The truth is that frustration is calling on you and you are comfortably accepting the situation. Some of us are in worse situations but you know what,we don't sit and wallow in self pity.Pick yourself up,get occupied,love yourself and try to build a career for yourself.No man wants a clingy clingy desperado girl.If he sees you as confused and wanting trust me his going to play you so well till he dumps you.We all have different destinies so please stop comparing,be prayerful but be useful.Get your mind occupied and the right man will come wen u least expect.Like i said,some of us have seen worse despite been pretty,intelligent,domesticated bla bla bla,alwayz know that what won't be can never be even if you are the last woman standing.So stop the worry and be glad,you still have life because many that are married and have it all are 6ft down,some even want to rush out of the marriage,take it slow darling and enjoy your freedom now because am sure your testimony is knocking.
poster 3:Oga boss,please i know madam might be getting on your nerves but kindly do some soul searching.Ask yourself questions and try to discuss things with her.I don't think any woman will deliberately want to be running mad at home alwayz.I wish u a beta home and happiness.Thanks
poster 1- You gave her the perfect excuse she had been waiting for, move on. she doesn't want you.
ReplyDeleteposter2: You are not cursed, even if you were, all the deliverances you have done should have wiped out the curses, which means we are back to the basics, drop that standard of liking the wrong men who obviously are not interested in you, give one of the so called ones who seems to like you a chance and build up from there, these same standards you have set is why so many ladies are single and now over 40 years of age, most women who are married today and you seem to think have it all, spent time building life from scratch with a man that had NOTHING! Please, stop looking for tall dark and handsome, you may be 50 by the time you find one, give one of this so called regular guys you don't like a chance and let time show you that love hides in the least obvious places. please using common sense in some situations is important. All the single ladies out there are looking for these so called tall dark and handsome and most of them are now old ladies while still waiting, do you want to join them? use your head girl.
poster 3- please being a man means you are in control of your household and that means putting your wife in check before she sends you to an early grave given your heart condition. trust me, I will never dare disobey my husband because I know he can handle me, seek wise men an they will teach you how to be the man you were born to be without using any form of abuse.
I am TEAM SNOOP all the way, these men are not loyal and knowledge is POWER! The problem stems from what you do with the information and not from having it. For Team snoop members if you cant handle the heat get out of the kitchen, don't get paranoid or go nagging about. It will destroy you! But for those who know when and where to use this information to your advantage, CHOP KNUCKLE!! XoXo!
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ReplyDeleteposter 3 u sound like a man who has found a girlfriend. i want to hear from ur wife before i say anything. only one person with all these negetive traits??? if u r tired then kindly say so and stop making her seem bad. u r childish
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