Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

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 NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
BLOWING THE WHISTLE ON THE IN LAWS


   I met my guy 4years ago on a social network,we fell in love and have been comfortable with each other and because of me he decided to come back to Nigeria and it has been quite good. I literally moved in with him last two years and we have been living together, he even asked to get married and i told him that i have to finish schooling (which i did last year november) before i will.i was fine with everybody from his side.

         My problem started last December when i got to his village  to attend his grandmother's burial and i happened to meet one of his cousin,we got talking and  i suggested to my boyfriend that i would like for his cousin to come and live with us because  i hate seeing a young girl wasting away in the village.

My boyfriend refused and told me that he wouldnt want that but i insisted and he then accepted.she came in January this year.

My boyfriend travelled to Lagos and lefthis cousin and i at home .
she happened to bring a guy early in the morning of that same day,she asked me out and introduce him to me,i didnt say anything about the guy and later that night she came to me and asked me if that same guy would be able to sleep over.


I was surprised and told her a big no and when my boyfriend called i had to tell him all what transpired between us and my boyfriend angrily called his aunt and told her that she would be leaving his house because he had always been looking for an opportunity to throw her out 

Before i know what his aunt started calling me on phone raining curses on me that i want to single handedly throw away and seperate him from them.

My dear blog viistor they said everything could say.i was so surprised that these people would believe what they heard from her without questioning me.they even said that i should remember that i am not married to him and that i have no power.my dear i regretted suggesting she come stay with us.
       my boyfriend came back and told me to forget it that they dont matter and the rest but i havent hard a goodnight sleep.my worries now are:
should i pack out because of this issue?
Would i be accepted  even though they are only his maternal aunts,do they really matter?
Should i marry my boyfriend just to show them that i can marry him anytime i want,is that a good decision?
       Please just help me.i am 23 years old.


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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
THE CONFRONTATION

I will be 37yrs in 19th April. I got married traditionally in 2008. The guy left to Sudan for official assignment few months after and returned after 12 months.  I moved into his house. The white wedding we were planning was suspended. He got posted to another state two months after his return from Sudan. We lived differently. I worked, my redeployment from my office to his base but he rebuffed it with the excuse that he refers my base and is working towards being re-posted to my base which he never did.  I had to plead to be posted back to my base. He visits fortnightly, later it reduced to monthly, then to once in 2-3 months. No child between us.  The guy has two cars yet I jump okada. He refused to buy any property in our house in my base with the excuse that he will bring the once he had in his base when re-posted. Which he never did.   I beg my siblings for food most times. I work in a private company where our small salary come most times once in three months. If it comes, I must give account of how I spend every kobo.  He stopped me from having friends by accosting any friend he sees with me. 

My siblings dare not visit while he is around because he has told me severally how he hates people visiting me even my siblings.  He prefers me staying alone. They come only when he is not around.  Out of boredom, I took one of my small cousins to stay with me.  I pay his school fees with my salary, I cloth him yet he beats the boy without any serious reason. I had to send the boy to his parents to avoid more problems. The relationship became very violent.  He beats me at the slightest issue despite who is watching.  He instigates his siblings and parents against me.  They have severally staged a war against me in their village when I visited. This man had nothing, I mean nothing when we got married. He was newly employed then.  He has different buildings now which I personally supervised without removing a kobo to buy bra rather I spent on the projects, 

The beating and emotional abuse became constant. I started dreading his visits. I lost my peace, always going into depression, sleep and joy ran so far away from me. I became a shadow of my very self. Had panic attack that I fear when people talk around me.  I had no one to run to,  No one to stand for me.  He gave me the beating of my life middle last year over a little argument with his elder sister. He left me to die. I managed to call one of my sisters. Was rushed to the hospital.  My parents got to know about it.  Everyone insisted I most leave the marriage.  I joined my younger sister to her base.  Later raised some money and got a room for myself. Stella, since then, he has never asked after me. No member of his family had called to know what happened or how I am doing.  I swear, while with him, I never cheated on him. How can I, my land forbids it. Where did I go wrong. I have asked God several questions. My friend said I should confront him with a court case,.  My fellow BV's I need your kind advice.

To go and ask him what?are you not lucky you got out alive?please move on with your life and stop asking these kind of questions when you are starring at the answers