NARRATIVE NUMBER 1
WHEN YOUR EX WANTS YOUR SIBLING...
Aunty Stella, I really want blog visitors to help me out of this crossroad that I am o. I am a lady of 32 years old and I will be getting married in the first quarter of next year(2015). I have done introduction and all is set. About eight years ago, I met this wonderful man. Then he was about 35 years old, married and with two kids. On the first day that circumstance brought us together, he was friendly yet firm, you could see straight away that he was well cultured and a man any lady would fall for.
Well I didn’t fall but we became close friends. Very close friends but there was nothing sexual between us o. Gradually he became my good friend, my mentor, my confidant, just like a big elder brother to me and frankly, he behaved himself all through and I never gave our relationship any thought beyond being platonic. I will tell him everything that was happening to me and he would advise me, make me laugh and be there for me. Even when I met my soon to be husband, I told him about it and in a way, he helped me accept to start a relationship with my husband to be. In fact if not for him, I wouldn’t have said yes to my husband to be
I really cannot explain how it all changed, but the bottom line was that three years ago, which was about five years after I knew him, our relationship moved from being platonic to being sexual. I am not laying the blame on anybody, but after I started a relationship with my soon to be husband, I kept comparing both men and frankly, the difference was like Coke and water.
While my older friend was friendly, and outgoing and fun and matured, my husband to be was dull and timid and uninteresting! I complained to my older friend and he would always encourage me to stick to my husband to be and with time I started loving my husband to be too in his own way.
Two years ago, this my older friend’s wife passed away. I felt like my own flesh and blood passed away, cause as much as I was involved with my older friend, the line of his family and wife, was a line I never crossed. He loved and cherished his wife and family so much that I always prayed for my husband to be to love and cherish me as such! Anyway, after his wife passed away, I saw my older friend’s pain and misery as he mourned his wife and I saw him gradually regain his self again.
About six months ago, we had a family engagement and he was invited. My entire family was present and he was also present. I introduced him to all my elder ones(I happen to be the last born o). My husband to be was also present and everybody got along great. The occasion was also very successful. Last week after my introduction, my older friend told me that he wanted to see me. When we saw, he started by apologising for what he had to say and told me that he would like to ask for my permission to talk to my elder sister for a relationship that might lead to marriage.
I just sat there tongue-tied. I couldn’t say anything then. Since then, I have been giving the whole talk deep thoughts. My elder sister is divorced with two kids, which my older friend knows. My sister is a nice, wify material who was unfortunate with her marriage. She has been divorced now for more than 15years. She is about the same age with my older friend and I know they would both make a wonderful couple together.
My dilemma is that me and my older friend have been involved severally sexually, now he wants to start a relationship with my elder sister. I have not given him a go ahead and I know that if I say no, he would respect my decision but I really love him and would want to see him happy and fulfilled just as he had made me happy and fulfilled all these years and noting that I too would be married soon, I would love my sister and my older friend to be happy too together(and I am sure they would make a wonderful couple.
Please I need reader’s advice fast, as my older friend has started disturbing me that I am yet to give him a reply to what he asked of me.
WHAT IF......?
make i siddon read comments..this isnt an easy one.
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ReplyDeletePoster u r liar! U were fucking him n I'm sure u were happy when d wife died! Be rest assured no matter how timid ir husband to be is, he will fuck outside n I'm sure u will still sleep with this man even if he. Marries ur sister...that's y it's difficult for u to give them d go-ahead..fuck off abeg.
DeleteMy dear, are u still sexually attracted to him? If yes, no comment.
DeleteIf not then pls give them ur blessing.
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Hey darling poster, I feel your pain. If you really love your sister and friend then let them get together but you must cut all sexual ties with your older friend and also limit the relationship between you two.
Delete*sigh* this is really difficult @poster...but lemme try my best to give you my 2cent..
DeleteFirst of all you ve been involved sexually with him..now come to think of it this way;dont you think its quite inappropriate for two blood sisters to have shared the same *blokos* from a particular man??
Now what if the two of them work things out and finally get married,how would you have a great discussion with him without looking him in the eye and remembering that you two have for once been involved sexually..my dear it isnt just proper..save your sister that respect if you love her and want her happiness..yea the two of them would make a good couple cos of their *status* but imagine your sister getting to know you ve slept with this man she is about to marry...dont you think she would feel bad?? Or do you think she would applaud you for linking them both together thus them getting married...
Personally i cant even think of dating a girl that has dated any of my male friends cos i believe its just too disrespectful;not to talk of a girl that once dated my blood brother!! Talkmore of getting married...
My dear just dont do it but even if you ve to;make sure you tell your sister all the adventures you ve had with this man;then if its owkay to her,you can then give this man the "green light"...
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DeleteHere we go again!
DeleteAnother sexually irresponsible fellow.
Poster! Why not free your poor husband to be and marry this your old friend already?
Lest I forget, hope you know you are a shameless slut? Even if no one has ever told you this, I'm telling you now.
Now you know.
How can any responsible person be in a serious relationship with someone, and still maintained close friendship with another guy to the extent the guy influenced tour decision in accepting your boo. To add insult to injury, you started having sex (severally oh) with him, a married man oh.
Tomorrow when your hubby starts cheating, you will start forming hurt.
I didn't read where you mentioned you guys have stopped having sex. Which means you still bang away with him.
Since you love sex with this man so much,and he is now officially available, why don't the tow of you just marry?
You both deserve each other.
I know you will still continue sleeping with him even if he marries your sister. So what's the point of marrying another a d putting him in misery?
My humble advice is that you should leave your husband to be now. It's will hurt him, yes but it's for your own good.
You don't deserve him at all.
Don't even involve your sister in this mess!
Go and marry your sugar daddy and save your sister and your husband to be from future heart ache.
Tufia gi!
Ashawo.
My thought is that you should tell him that you will come clean with your elder sister about your relationship with the man, then tell her about his good side too. It's their decision what to do from there, introduce them, tell your sister and leave every. However be careful of Okafor's law iish between you and your older friend.
DeleteHowever, because you slept with him when he was married, you may also do same to your sister! That you are thinking about it twice means you may also explore that o. If you ever will do it, please let your sister be! Don't hurt her like you did the other dead woman!
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DeleteFirst to comment and nothing said.
Mtcheww
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Well Madam, you were sleeping with him and still loved his wife.
Ouch. Ouch
This lie is hot.
I must say your a sharp geh.
Well, back to the matter on ground. Let your sister know what happened between you guys.
Let her be the one to make the decision.
Okay?
If she wants to go ahead or not.
But then, you might continue sleeping with him.
So my advice is if your sister says yes, move far away from him. If you can't hold body, don't even do the introduction first.
Abstain from fornication and adultery people. See the kain tangled Web has been formed here.
Don't do it. I repeat, DO NOT GIVE HIM THE GO AHEAD!
DeleteYOU MUST ALSO CUT HIM OFF FOR PEACE AND LOVE TO GROW IN YOUR MARRIAGE.
HE IS CLEARLY NOT A RESPECTER OF BOUNDARIES
Stella dis your stature cracks me up ooo (lwkmd)
Delete@ poster : hmmmmm I don't know what to say to you oh, I feel you should give him the go ahead but you know that you're going to have to cut off all sexual relationship with your friend. As to whether you should tell your sister about the kind of relationship you guys had, is totally up to you.
dis one pass me oh
ReplyDeleteStella lemme even ask you one question...this kind people and story no dey vex you??? damn!!! I hate girls that cheat *angry*
DeleteNarrator u r wicked for sleeping with a married man while in a relationship with someone. Dat is double portion wickedness. And my prayer for ur soon to be marriage is dat u reap what u sow. Tufia!!!
Deletehahahahaha Stella dis ur pics Na die.... I Don laff fall from bed...
ReplyDeleteStella where u De see all dis pictures sef....
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ReplyDeletehmmmm as aunty stella dn talk,this is a tough one oohh chai*scratchhead
ReplyDeleteMake i sidon too dey wait for comments
Wow definately not an easy decision to make but it still lies with you. Check your feelings deep down and o don't even knowwhat to say again. IIt's a tough one
ReplyDeleteAh you get minnnnnnd. Ha! Ha! Haaaa! Aunty Stella Ha! This lady, you were comfortably sleeping with this man as in jejely. What killed his wife? You felt like your blood passed away, you are a hot liar. Ah! Now you want to introduce your sister, so you and him can continue. Please spare your sister the heartache. You and this man are not good people at all. Your poor foolish Fiance. Ah women o, I fear us. Wow. Wow. Stells I no get wetin to talk.
ReplyDeleteAnon yes its possible as she fell in love with the Man she extended to his family. Why shez skeptical abt introducing her Sis is because she still loves the Man. her fears might be when her Sis and the Man starts she might get jealous because with her description of the Man His a very Nice Man, Loves his family etc. Babe why u go dey do intro knowing ur heart lies with someone else. Call off the Engagement go to ur Older Friend to get married to you. Age is just a Number. Because eventually u will be tempted to sleep witj him some day if married to your Sis or u been married to this your hubby to be
DeleteNa wa o. Na siddon look me sef dey for this matter.
ReplyDeleteMadam, I don't mean to be unrealistic but, was there anything that stopping you from marrying this older man when his wife became free before your introduction?
DeleteYou have done introduction but have to bear the yoke of a fiance you have. Tell yourself the truth, you don't love this fiance! You love this phenomenal older guy who will be 43 this year.
You will never love your fiance. You will always love this man. Bringing him close to family will hurt you in the long run, let me tell you. It's just like the story of people who fell in love with their cousins and have to live to see them married to another woman, pretending everything is fine.
This man loves you and sees you as a sister(things got complicated because it's not good for a man to spend too many long hours with a woman he isn't married to), He has loved you from day one. The attraction has always been there, you just did the 5 years abstinence because he is a man of principle.
It's this same principle that made him not ask you to break off with your boyfriend now that he is free.
This his decision to date your sister is a cry for help, he wants to hold on to the last memory of you by keeping it in the family.
Both of you are sinners and did a very ratchet thing but he held on to his marriage due to principle.
Your write up, no matter how you tried to tone it down so you don't sound like an immoral woman, your love and devotion to this man is apparent.
Some middle eastern religions believe that for most love comes once in a lifetime. Some may never experience it even. This older man is the love of your life. It doesn't sound like mere lust to me.
I won't advise you, the best advice is self made but I want to tell you your options
1) Tell your sister the truth, allow the man date your sister( and if your sister's earlier marriage broke up because of a mistress like you, your sister won't ever trust you near him and will do best to shield you from him) which is prolly best for you and your impending marriage.
2) tell him to go ahead and date her but not ever divulging anything to your sister. You will live the rest of your life knowing you love that man but it can never be. You will try to keep away from him and fail. He broke sanctuary once to sleep with you(despite loving his wife), he will do it again in this marriage of convenience. You slept with him being with this same man, you think a mere marriage paper will change it?
You will then be torn between breaking your sister's heart and dishonouring your marriage. You'll become a recluse.
3) leave your fiance. Apologise to all parties. Weep. Everyone will blame you for leaving a young guy after wasting his time. You will get hell but you will marry the man you love.
4) carry on like nothing do you
5) shut him out of your life and family.
So many options dey but I can already guess the one you will take. Aren't you Nigerian again? Are we not notorious for cowardice? Lol. We fear convention so much. We hate to break the peace. Tell no one nothing and do nothing out of order in naija, and you will be fine.
Wish you all the best
**Bonaparte NN
loose woman thats why you waited till the age of 32 before you get it. straight.
ReplyDeleteThis could be ur sister's opportunity to be happy_just allow him go ahead buh Pls let ur sis know u were sexually involved with him @some point! So there'd be no secrets which could be used to blackmail each other in future.
ReplyDeleteThe whole issue is complicated. seems like you still in love with your old friend. Tell him to look else where. And bury whatever it is between both of you
ReplyDeleteSuzzy dear, this issue is not complicated anything.
DeleteIt's a straight case.
She lives this man and has been sleeping with him even when his wife was alive ( who knows what killed the poor woman?).
This man helped her chose her husband to be because he needs her to marry a Naive man so he can still be banging her at will even after marriage.
I think the man doesn't even love her enough. If not, he would have quickly married her after he lost his wife.
I think poster is very stupid, wicked and a shameless whore.
Free that poor guy you are about to tie down in marriage and marry your lover man.
U are on point..imagine wen her sister wud finally marry f man and she wud b makin d poster to respect d older frend in some occasions..she wudnt due to d fact dat d poster know her sis's hubby more Dan her.and cud be soo annoying wen some gurl knows ur hubby more Dan u do.and d poster is still in love with d man
DeleteThis is tough...infact it's "toughness re-defined"...lemme rack my brains a little,i'l come back wen am up with a clue to wat i'l advice...
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile,I have some questions for u
1. Do u wana really see ur sister happy wen she finds out u wia sexually involved with ur older frnd?
2. Will ur sister even agree to marry him?
3. What if the marriage doesn't work?
Like I said earlier,dis case is tough...
Personally I can neva allow my sis marry any man i'v dated...HELL NO
Will come back and comment...I get small headache.
What if your older sister also get involved wit him sexually and end up not marrying her,how would you feel.
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Dont be selfish. You had a man and you were effing your "older friend". Abeg swerve and let ur sleeping together be u n ur older friend's secret. Let them get married.
ReplyDeleteThey are both mature.
Lastly even if u tell ur big sis u hv tasted the guy's anaconda n found it suitable,huge,tiny,bebt,straight,curved,afo anu-like,she wud not care cos
She needs a man herself.
I love you Irene,the lady should just move on already
DeleteI love Irene B. Dont know why
DeleteSpot on Irene!!!
Deletebabe...live and let live........allow your sis the happiness she desrves.....
ReplyDeleteNa siddon look I dey
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@Galore
dicey situation i must say.i think you should sit your sister down and explain to her.tell her what your friend feels for her and allow her to decide if she will go ahead or not.you can dilute it by telling her it was once...don't let her know you did it severally.if you keep quiet and let them go ahead without saying a word to her,one day one day e must come out make everybody hear.you have your own man,pls erase whatever feelings you have for that elderly friend and get on with your man.its obvious from the writeup that you still feel something for this elderly friend,let go gal.
ReplyDeleteBabe, if they were officially dating, I woulda advised her to tell her sis(every one knows it's easier to be just friends with an ex than letting go a "fuck-buddy") but telling her they had a "thing"? He'll no! If she accepts to date/marry him afterwards, do you know the rumble that piece of information will cause? Every time her sister sees them together, a million n one(nasty) ideas will begin to envelop her.. My advice still remains that she faces her man n give those two a chance!
DeleteDue to the fact that you slept with a married man..you are about to cost your sister a man that would have comforted her now that she is single!!
ReplyDeleteThe man wants to extend the fuckery further into the family...family friends things
It is well with you...thank you
Lmao. Why are you thanking her? Lol
DeleteLolllllllll epic reply...the part that annoyed me'she felt like her blood passed away'' bitch please you were screwing her man. Now to ur advice, your sis is your true flesh and blood, will you screw him if you hook them up
DeleteIphie. I weak for this lady. The man wants to chop into the family. She ma she dey talk she get fiance. Why are people wicked?
DeleteExtend the fuckery further? Hahaha iphie i cant laugh abeg.
DeleteLooolz no be small thank u, bwahahaha.
DeleteWhat I like about you poster from this your story is that you're realistic! You've explain the situation without bias.For me oo, I think they your older sister and the man fit each other. Now can you give your consent, avoid fucking married men and face your home! Abi are you in love with him? From your write up, it doesn't sound like you're so what's the issue? Don't tell your sister about sleeping with him oooo. Just move on and let him move on.
ReplyDeleteE don Tay , I never use that your "PRICK" chair siddon....e be like say I go need am to siddon read comments today
ReplyDelete@Galore
Aha
ReplyDeleteThis kind chronicle worry oo
God know say I no go fit advice for here
So make I sidon dey read comments
If she can ans this ques....1. Tell ur elder sister u were sleeping with the same man early....2. Tell ur hubby to be also dat u were sleeping with ur "nice older friend" and dey are fine with the idea only den can u give him d go ahead to talk to ur sister about marriage...
ReplyDeleteI may sound stupid but check to ensure all ends are not loose ....
Goodluck!
Naso e easy?
DeleteCrossroad!
ReplyDeleteAllow him to marry/date your sister. But you have to tell your sister about your relationship with him,it all depends on your sister to push the relationship forward.
ReplyDeleteHow can you love a woman like flesh and blood and hurt her in the deepest way u could burt any woman 'sleep witb her husband', you actyally really irritated me making that foolish statement of yours. Pls just say no, since you are so loose, I mean ur sister is your flesh and blood so if you say yes she can as well expect that u both will be sharing one man. Mschew
ReplyDelete@Anon 2:14
DeleteMy dear don't mind the silly poster.
I wonder what she is forming.
She loved the woman so much that's why she was helping her service her husband.
Yeye dey smell.
Aunty stellz, dis ur chair ehhhhhh
ReplyDeleteHmmmm... This is a tough one o! Either way, wahala dey... If u say No, he may think you're in love with him... If you say yes and they click n marry, u may never be comfortable around your sister again! As for me, I would say NO! U guys have been together sexually and dat seals it for me... Hian!!! These Chronicles ehn... Nollywood cannot even dream of stories as good as this...
ReplyDeleteCan't read. Summary please...
ReplyDeleteDis is d reason I keep saying not everyone u come across with dat u will open ur legs for.love ain't enough. ...I can't, I will never allow my sister to marry anyman dat I ve sexually involved with. From ur story u sound as who still love ur older friend. Please tell ur sister everything jst d way u narrated it here.. ...don't hide anything from ur sister, don't hide anything from ur sister. And if she decide to go ahead no problem.
ReplyDeleteI love your comment . the best I have read on this post so far. But the issue is even if the sister decide to go ahead is this poster really ready to stay off sexually from this her older friend? Will her BIG Sister ever get comfortable having this two people alone in the future if the two eventually get married, knowing fully well what has transpired in the past btw d two.
DeleteI am in support of the fact that the poster should disclose all these to her big sis, and it is left for the big sis to decide if she's ready to share the remaining part of her life with a man that has been sexually involved with her younger sis.
No sane woman should definitely accept to go ahead with such.
Because A time will come in the futurewhen this bug Sis will rem it all and she might even hate her younger Sis.
To the poster at least if your Big sis decline then your conscience will be cleared that you never stood in btw her and her happiness.
I rest my case
That's all I have got to say
Dis ona pass me make I siddon too....oya iPhie dearie..alloy chikezie and d rest I dey wait for ona comments
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DeleteAYAMA I dey vex..madame poster u re a fool..let me say it again u re a VERY BIG FOOL..you re comparing ur soon to be hussy wit a man al bcus of ur lustful desire to kip him at al cost..if you dnt forget abt ur older friend nd concentrate on how to luv ur man u may end up nt getting married cus u re likely to lose both of them..re you blind sef cnt you see that you older friend is out to count score with ur family? u re hr sayin ur older friend is a nice man..a nice man dt slept wit u while he ws married? Infact the two of una fit eachoda..its only ur soon to be hussy dt I hv pity on..cus he doesn't knw yet the kind of devil he hs for a gf..idiot..this post the make me vex stella some people re just irritating..gosh
Skeen! Hbd in adv.
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DeleteNne you get mind oh! You invited your sugar daddy to you intro?? And even introduced him to your bro? As what kwan?
ReplyDeleteSo what exactly is your problem with him marrying your elder sister now?
Oh, I know what you thinking, you wish his wife had died before you met your hubby to be abi?
Chairlady abeg allow them marry if you promise not to continue your bedmatics with 'older friend'......wheeww!
As in eeh
DeleteShe is getting married and keeping her sugar daddy.
Tufiakwa! !
Lol.....madam allow them to marry, u both dnt hv a child together, u hv found happiness, gv ur sis d opportunity to b happy again n pls oo u n dat sugar daddy should nt continue having sex even wen both of u re married to different people
Delete@ Tessy and fine face both of u sound as if u are better? Popular Runs gehs. Stop toking bulshit. For the fact u have slept with a Married Man u are same. So stop condemning
DeleteMscheww
Anty Stella pls shift small make I join you siddon! If you ask me na who I go ask? In omawunmi's voice
ReplyDeletestella this chair small na ,how many people wan sit down for this chair today chronicles is making me higher than fashion ,stella i don high abeg shift make i sit down await comments .immorality ,my final answer no.abeg say no no no
ReplyDeleteAll of una wai wan share seat with Stella. Stand up make I take all d space becos my yansh too massive. The Babe is still in Love
DeleteAt poster please let him marry your sister biko....even the man you are marrying has fucked other peoples sisters before fucking you....stop thinking if this guy let him find joy in your sister you too face ya husbands dick and stoo comparing him with this guy...
ReplyDeleteAs you don fuck married man so claiming you didn't cross the line...I pray other girls fuck ya husband and claim they didn't cross the line...
You had an affair with an unavailable man now that you are hooked and he is seemingly unavailable you dont wanna leave him too....babe you cant have it all
This is a very dicey situation...lemme read other comments
ReplyDeleteHian! It is well
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ReplyDeleteWelcome to d family dear.
DeleteU welcome dearie
Deleteplease how can I create one a blog id that is
DeleteYou are selfish and silly *no offence*
ReplyDeleteIf your sister will make a good wife, when let them go ahead with the relationship. You fucked him years ago, and so what? Pls send a narrative when you need a more detailed advise.
Na wah o, so for ur wedding ur manfriend go dey there too... Chai!!! And ur husband go dey greet who dey chop im wife pomo
ReplyDeleteTrust me i know how you feel... i deeply do and its really a sad event but if you were my kind of person, you would let them go ahead and be together but if am sensitive like your elder sister, i will know from your closeness with him that you two have been sexually involved. stay strong, as long as you know that in the future, you two wont have sex anymore. allow them be with each other. as far as concerned God works in a mysterious way. maybe this is how your sister should end up in happiness... dont tell your sister about it thou... let the secret go to the grave with you and the man biko... everyone should dust themselves and move on. i dont believe in okafors law, i believe in doing what you want to do, its your decision. once you are strong enough to not be in an affair with this man anymore, then you are good to go
ReplyDeleteNo, tell him no abeg, And .........., I don't even know what else to type, u seem attracted to Ur older friend. So, NO, don't give Ur blessings
ReplyDeleteStella u no write for red ink today?
ReplyDeleteAbi Oghenemichael has used your ink for Christmas decor
You all are missing the point. As much as I commend the poster for her honesty we need to read between the lines.
Delete1) She finds this man very much attractive than even her fiance
2) She claims she loved the wife and it hurt her like it was her own blood, chances are she knows the wife personally and was still staffing the man. Poster u don't trust yourself, u wld straff ur sisters husband despite the fact that she's your blood.
3) the man doesn't sound responsible to me tho, heck! How many men are responsible
4) poster u have motives; if u had no intention to still be staffing that guy it won't bother u to introduce them both, simply put u don't trust urself women die with an ocean of secrets
5) u put ur finace in d same room wv ur aristo, why bother to introduce them? Only because you want to keep the communication open between u and ur aristo
Chic pls ur way isn't poor at all. Save ur sister the heartache of having a sister as urself!
Hian! huge hian sef! Just face ur hubby to be nd dont deny them their joy ooo.... Let go of ur feelings for that man even tho u wont admit u still feel sumfin.... I am as confused as u are tho cos SEX always complicate things. Always!
ReplyDeleteErrrrrrm. shit happens. Let them roll. Life is dicey... But e get as e b oooo.
ReplyDeletePoster let the both of them hook up.
ReplyDeleteFace your own hubby and forget whatever has happened between you and your older friend if truly u are no longer interested in kpanshing him again.
Hmmm..
ReplyDeleteMaybe it's just me but I really don't see what's d big deal here is. You have a fiance whom u said u love nd will be getting married to soon. This man wants ur sister as a wife not just for a fling nd u are still asking questions.. why. I know it will be a bit awkward at first but u should be happy for ur sister cos from the way u described this man...he seems to be a mini angel.
So plz I beg u don't stand in the way of ur sister's blessing just bcos u are confused nd a bit jealous (yes I said jealous cos u nd I both know that deep down, u know u are about to lose someone special). So plz deal with ur doubts nd be happy for ur sister!!
I see no big Ish here ok. Just free the man to get married abeg...I know you still have feelings for him and wished you get married to him...if you want your sis and your friend happiness, free them Jor!... IGABU OGBEYE BURU AMOOSU?...waiting for comments
ReplyDeleteHmmmmnnnn, forget it! The best thing to do is to run as far as possible from him.
ReplyDeleteIf you say yes to him, you will continue to sleep with him thereby cheating on ur sister and your husband. That kind of friendship is not healthy. Cut all strings.
You must have read and understood this different from me....
DeleteThe only reason you should say NO is if you have intentions of spending your whole life with your big Friend(which is impossible). If he wants to be with your sister, give him the go-ahead... I'm sure if he had lost his wife when you were single, u sure woulda taken her place.. You're only feeling this way cos u guys had a "thing" and he met her through you. Picture this, what if he told u he'd met someone sweet n wanted you to meet her, he invites u over and "ta-daaaa" its your sis, would u still have a say? Face yuh man n let him face yuh sister! But plssssss do NOT have sex with him again.
ReplyDeleteBtw.. Wetin kill eem wife sef?
This story get as e be o.will be back for comments
ReplyDeleteFinally created a blog ID after being anonymous for years now... The good anonymous o, not d cursing type... As much as I would have loved to benefit from Santa's giveaway, I didn't want that to be the sole reason for getting this ID... I love d SDK family... Stella, I hail ooo...
ReplyDeleteOK. Am seriously bored.
ReplyDeleteAnd since glo is acting well today let me keep posting.
Hehehh
So my office has closed for the year. Yippie
Am so excited. Still dey wait for Christmas bonus tho
They promised us 13th month.
I hope they pay latest tomoro.
Dnt mind me. Am just rambling.
NEMESIS is the name! But Jesus saves; even from nemesis. When you began to be sexually intimate with a married man what were you thinking? Have you moved to God to confess and repent of your deeds or you are just carrying along as if nothing happened? The second scenario is a bad step in the bad direction. Repent lady; confess to your elder sister all your escapades and the new interest in her by your "older friend" and turn a clean leaf. By so doing, you will not have "spanners" thrown into your marriage plans and of course eternal life and happiness!
ReplyDeleteLeave your sister then, to make up her mind about what she might be facing. Let her evaluate this man herself; a man who was frolicking with another lady while his wife was alive! No one makes the marriage decision for another.
HB said
I think u are in love with him but u are getting married and they say if u love someone u will like he/she to be happy. So let ur older friend be happy say yes to him
ReplyDeleteYou already answer the question yourself poster
ReplyDeleteyou said you will love the older friend and your sister to be happy together
so what advice her you looking for?
Abeg free them let them be happy together
give him your go-ahead na.. let him try is luck
no be must make your sis marry am abi your sis might find him uninteresting...
Either ways leave him let him try his luck, and if your sis likes him then *boom*
dis story ehh.. he get as he be ooo... make I join Stella siddon look....
ReplyDeletewhat I have learnt so far in dis life ehh... there is no way a male and female can just be friend for a long time without one falling for the other... is not just possible.... no matter How hard u try....
Wow! Network still good.
ReplyDeleteOK make I dey write dey go.
Am really impressed with my weight right now (as if e concern una..lol)
2014 has been my best year ever.
Lines fell for me in beautiful places.
Am still gobsmacked on how God loves me so much.
Happy.com
DeleteYou are getting married so I guess or believe that you are cutting off from this elder friend of yours that is sexually etc. My dear, bury the past. Its gone. Don't build a castle for it. If your sister says yes to him pls by all means. Maybe that is were her happiness lies. Give your blessing and move on. Except if you want to tell your sister about your past with him then she can decide.
ReplyDeletewow dear poster this issue is a tough one but let me assist in the way I can I think you should give him the mantle since you know him very well I hope this is okay by you
ReplyDeletePardon, lady but you are merely reaping bountifully from what you sowed. Only Jesus can save you from this. When you began to be sexually intimate with a married man what were you thinking? Have you moved to God to confess and repent of your deeds or you are just carrying along as if nothing happened? The second scenario is a bad step in the bad direction. Repent lady; confess to your elder sister all your escapades and the new interest in her by your "older friend" and turn a clean leaf. By so doing, you will not have "spanners" thrown into your marriage plans and of course eternal life and happiness!
ReplyDeleteLeave your sister then, to make up her mind about what she might be facing. Let her evaluate this man herself; a man who was frolicking with another lady while his wife was alive! No one makes the marriage decision for another.
HB said
Aunty Stella I like this your chair o, abeg shift for me or better still carry me.
ReplyDeleteStella e be like say I go join follow you siddon read comments. Dis one pass my power
ReplyDeleteThe only thing i see here is that you are jealous,you don't want to let him go and you want your sister and your friend happy!Remind him of your previous relation with him and also tell him that you will also let your know about it if it is okey by him,do the intro,and let them work it out.
ReplyDeleteBam bam bam
ReplyDeleteBoom boom boom
Ghen Ghen Ghen
Let me stop.
I think am high
I wouldn't advice such marriage. Your sis might not be happy in the long run let's say you permit him to go ahead.
ReplyDeletesex sex sex.... Hmmm.... that's what is complicating this issues now... nothing more.... If u haven't had sex... I know u will give him a big yes and go ahead....
ReplyDeletePoster,Give your older friend the go ahead to marry your sister.you rightly said it that they will make a good couple,there is nothing stopping it from happening.you are getting married next year,so let your sister be happy too.you can't eat your cake and have it..however,once you have given your blessing to your older friend,and he starts a relationship with your sister,you would have to back off a little..you cannot afford to be as close to your friend as before,more especially if your sister is aware of your sexual history with him..cos close contact will suggest you still have a hold on him,and trust me,your sister won't be happy anytime she thinks of it..you have got to sacrifice here..you make a choice your unlimited friendship with your friend,or the happiness of your sister?
ReplyDeleteDis z kinda tight tho...stellz..na dis ur chair i like sha..
ReplyDeleteHard decision. If you really want your sister's happiness, introduce her to him and lets see how it goes. But as you don chop the man too much, get as he be oooo. Talk to your sister all you know about this man, it is left for her to meet the man or not. The man too should have gone out to look for another woman apart from your family. Am sure he loves your family that is why he wants to be part. The decision lies with you. my one cent
ReplyDeleteMy dear u fail to understand dah even if he slept with u ,ur pussy never issued him a receipt of ownership ,and his dick never did likewise, he allowed u to marry some1,imagine it dah; wah if the person was his relation ,he wud hv still allowed u for the sake of ur happiness shey,,, so allow him, all I see here is ur words are fighting a dangerous battle against u and the words hav conquered u totally cus u said u dint fall 4 him at first when odas wud probably do, then why did u go ahead and hv him grace ur bed maam...see b4 u and ur sister end up going bck to ur father's house ,u tell him dah u'd tell ur sister dah he's ur ex dah u guys are still cool frnds dahs why he came 4 ur introductn wahever..no need telling her abt ur lustfully acts,cus she'd probably know wah goes along with being an ex,,if she asked u why u didn't marry him...tell her ,he never asked or maybe cus his wife was still alive then..if she cnt deal let her back off, tell her the truth dnt put ur sister in the den dah daniel left long ago,,she won't drop b4 lions devour her left breast dahs my 2cents.
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ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha Stella oo, im loving this your sitdown look pose o.
ReplyDeleteHmmm... dear poster I won't condemn or judge you o, much as we hate and condemn most thing on this blog the painful truth is they happen and even within us commenters.
So the bottomline is you dated a married man, his wife died while you were still dating him, and now he wants to hook up with ur divorced sister, I feel the one to make the decision here is your sister.
If you can open up to her and tell her you slept with this man even while he was married and now the man is interested in her.. if she can look past the fact that he committed adultery and he might still commit adultery and that his partner is her younger sister (which might still go on even after you marry, God forbid!) then there's no problem.
My point is let your sister be in the know. That way she can put on the both of you, that's if she agrees o.
Nope, he didn't love and cherish his wife if not he wouldn't cheat on her with you.As for your sister getting married to him i do not think it's a good idea because from the way you talk about him you will still have a sexual relationship with him(married or not)IMO.THINK TWICE
ReplyDeleteMake I hear Saint. Lie u nrva slept with a married Man before? So becos he slept with other girls made him not to cherish and Love his Wife? I don't believe u
DeleteStella abeg shift for me make I follow you siddon read comments! Whew*!
ReplyDeleteHmmmn,stella abeg shift make i join u siddon
ReplyDeleteI will advise you let him go...
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I think you are jealous that he wants your elder sister for a relationship that might lead into marriage instead of u and secondly, you are in love with him but you dont want to admit it.i hope both of you have stopped kpanshing? Let the both of you keep your past "affair" a secret oh, your elder sis and your husband to be must not know about it.You should ask him if he really loves your sister or he wants to date her and dump her.If he is very serious about her, encourage him to go ahead and talk to your sis but dont interfere incase it backfires, you wont be held responsible.your elder sister needs a man like him so dont block her happiness. Meanwhile, face your own boring husband to be ,u knew he was uninteristing and you accepted him like that into your life! Am sure that deep down in in your heart you want this older man to propose to you instead of your elder sister!
ReplyDeleteThe older friend will not even marry her even if your soon to be hubby was not in the picture.
DeleteYou were fucking him while his married that means u will be fucking others if he marries you.
You are in love with him but he doesn't give a damm about you.
You are sleeping with a married man and have the gut to say u dint cross the line.
Another lady will also sleep with your husband.
Tufia.
U must av so so many skeletons and baggages in ur wardrobe for giving this kind of advice. She should keep wetin secret? Keeping secrets is what is ruining most women relationships and they fail to see this
DeleteThis Ugly fine na u carry this Geh whaala like Gala for Head. Na wetin. ur busy body don too much
DeleteAll of u condemning her even do worst Abomination. Sleeping with their relations, even Men of God. Shut up if u don't have a better input. Don't u fuck? Fornication and Adultery are all same Sin in Godz Sight. Who are u to condemn. Nonsetalk
Stellikoko abeg shift for me make I follow siddon..
ReplyDeleteStella shift make I join you siddon.
ReplyDeletei think you should give him the go ahead but before you do so, ask yourself these questions and answer them honestly;
ReplyDeletedo you love your husband to be sincerely?
do you love your husband more than you love your older friend?
do you still have feelings for your older friend?
will hooking your older friend with your sister be a problem to you;that is, will you be comfortable with this and wont get overly jealous?
Smilling Kitten u have said it all. Meaningfull reply. with her write up She loves the Man still and compare to the love she has for her hubby to be. My Dear call off the engagement btw u and ur Hubby to be. Go marry that ur Older friend. Ur heart belongs there
DeleteIf na me na wetin I go do. no need to pretend like that Ugly face they do here. Condemning. Who are we to judge?
Stella me sef na sit don read comments I dey oh
ReplyDeletePlease he should leave your sister alone mbok, tomorrow now he'll want to date your mom.
ReplyDeleteThank u jare. The guy na devil and this ignorant lady won't see it.
DeleteFanta, as in! Hian some men get guts o and some ladies are stupid. A man that was cheating on his wife is who you want to introduce to your own blood. Tufia
DeleteE go chop poster sis clean mouth sef, smh. Biko just say no.
DeleteIts a Lie. The Man won't do so. Haba.
DeleteHmmm.pls Mrs Stella,can I share your sit with u.I'm too young to proffer any advice in this matter
ReplyDelete**lululiscious**
I suggest you should allow your friend to marry your sister since you'll soon be getting married to your own man. You can marry both of them. Do you love your friend to the extent that you'll want to spend your life with him? If no, please free him. He needs to be happy again so also your sis. Its hard to let go though since you guys have been sexually involved but then, you just have to let him go if you can't marry him. If he doesn't marry your sis, someone else will still be his wife anyway.
ReplyDeleteLet him go by giving your blessings to both of them( ie yr sis and yr older friend). I can see that God used you to bless yr divorced sis. I know you love him but you cannot marry two men at the same time. Give your blessings to them my darling.
ReplyDeleteWhat if both men are not the right people for you? It seems like you were cajoled into a relationship with your husband to be and even after everything, your "manfriend" still didn't come for you, he went for your elder sister instead.
ReplyDelete.... I don't know oo.... maybe, just maybe....
Hmmm, really there is nothing dicey about it star babe, the remedy is very simple. Ask God to forgive you for sleeping with another woman's husband no matter what the circumstances were,u cannot marry him cos u have ur own husband, if u love ur sis like u claimed then give him the go ahead to marry her. I know it wont be easy but pray real good about it,tell ur sister about ur affair if possible so u can come clean cos if u dont the guilt wont leave u alone, then leave the rest to God
ReplyDeleteThe bigger question is, if you let your older friend have your sister, would you have the firmness to discontinue your sexual relationship with him?
ReplyDeleteThe answer to that will determine whatever decision you make.
Goodluck
Truthfully, on my part, i think i'll feel jealous. Buh since you're getting married, you should also let your sister find the same happiness you've found, buh you have to tell her about the sex part, if she feels theres nothing wrong, then you give your blessing. She's old to make her decision. If it was me, i'll let my sister have him, since i'll be getting married also. And try not to be involved again with him sexually.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster pls just 1 simple question here: do you intend to keep fucking him after u say your vows? If yes then don't introduce him to your sister if no then shut the fuck up n let d man go. Shor!!!!
ReplyDeleteHmmmm..nne u sound so selfish, you re getting married next year while not allow ur sis to enjoy too. For the fact u had a sexual wateva is both of ur biznesses. Abi are u in love with him? Free the guy and move on and let the secret remain with both of u or better still tell ur sis wat happened btw u guys, if she accept good, if she doesn't life goes on.
ReplyDeleteNa wa o.. since you luv him and he is nice n u hv also given him ur punani u can as well match make him with ur sister so dat at d long run u will destroy ur marriage n ur sister's life when she knws u are sleeping with her husband. Pls if u really luv ur sister jus let her be becos God will bring d rightful husband for her not d man dat is happily banging u n u are in luv with becos even if he got married to ur sister u both will still be banging.. my own piece of cake.. ur life, ur decision though
ReplyDeleteDear poster you are very selfish.
ReplyDeleteYou had a sugar daddy and u are about to get married why not quit the relationship?
You were still having sex with this man and want to continue having sex with him.
Allow this man to get married to your sis and please stay away from him.
Concentrate on building your family and loving your husband biko.
This Ulgy face Geh u r so bitter. Na only u dey this Blog. Specialist of Sleeping with Married Men. U will be judged since u like to do that to us
DeleteHonestly this is very technical as I don't think it is right for a man to have slept with 2people of the same blood...moreover in the long run u might start getting jealous if your husband isn't treating you as good as you want him to and your sister is happy with this older friend...it's ok for you to want him to be happy but think about your sisters happiness to,i advice you first of all tell your sister about the relationship you had with this guy and explain to her the man wants a relationship with her and if she is cool with it and you are very sure you are cool with it then fine...you can give him a go ahead!
ReplyDeleteU better don't giv him a go ahead or you'll spoil your elder sister's relationship. This kind of pathetic stories I hear on here sef dey vex me sometimes. U call someone ur fwend and u keep sleeping wit him when u have a BF and now a fiance. Do u think he will stop having sex with you when he starts dating your sister? Your must be paranoid. You better tell ur sister the true story and tell her not to be deceived by this ur so called devilish friend. Be wise girl. Stop sleeping with this man. Tell ur sister all dat has happened between u too so that ur family members won't fall victim. I hate girls that cheat sha under the pretence of a platonic friendship. It's annoying. Wise up, u are about to get married. If you know u don't love the man u want to get married to, there is still time to call it off o. No be by force. But if u know u love ur fiance, stop ur friendship with this man. But i'm sorry to say this sha, looks like ur fiance is dull and timid Truely. But you're the bad person from the start of the relationship. When he toasted and asked u out, u didn't find out he was dull and timid then, it was later u knew this abi? DiarizGod. Be honest with yourself woman. You're not a honest person. Change ur ways and give your life to christ totally. A word is enough. Sowie bvs jare...I dey vex na y the thing long. *piks race*
ReplyDeleteAbisoye ologbenla please accept dis wet kisses from me. Dis is d best comment on dis post....... imagine all d God fearing bv's are asking her to keep dis as secret from her sister. . hian make una fear God ooooo
DeleteCan you put a sock in it already! you are everywhere! say what u have to say and move.....gosh!
DeleteThis is tough mehn.. Allow him go out with your sis since u said you want him to be happy abi u still wan dey sleep with am?
ReplyDeleteThis is a sensitive issue and you should be mature with your response, decision and action.. I had a similar problem, my bf picked my closest female friend over me it was funny because I spent a year with this guy and he spoke about the particular friend with disgust and warned me about her..but I let go n let him see the difference himself (btw I didn't take him back).y I gave this long intro is not to assure you that he may come back for you or see the big difference btw u and your sis (I actually have your sis interest at heart) but I just want you to let go. U may not value this now buh by next year you ll be glad you did..however harsh this may sound ur older frnd did not tie the knot with you for a reason, you may be better off as friends i.e you both my not b compatible ; remember he is prayer(I know uve heard of this) try to be the best you can be with your new husband and do not marry out of desperation.. open up to your sister and give her your blessings..you ll b glad you did it in future.. pls do not fight it..wat is urs will be urs..hope to hear positive news..goodluck swit
ReplyDeleteI am tongue-tied. I think you should come clean with your sister and if she wants to go ahead, it's her choice to make.
ReplyDeleteOluyomi Odukoya
Na wa o.. since you luv him and he is nice n u hv also given him ur punani u can as well match make him with ur sister so dat at d long run u will destroy ur marriage n ur sister's life when she knws u are sleeping with her husband. Pls if u really luv ur sister jus let her be becos God will bring d rightful husband for her not d man dat is happily banging u n u are in luv with becos even if he got married to ur sister u both will still be banging.. my own piece of cake.. ur life, ur decision though
ReplyDeletena wao....d prob is ur sexual involvment with him...let him knw dat if he ll marry ur sis,such ties btw u both shld b cut off.not ixi dough..pray to God fr help
ReplyDeletena.wa....ask God fr help.buh u both must decide to cut off any intimacy if he must marry ur sis
ReplyDeleteNo be small thing o! Madam Stella make I folo u siddon read comment
ReplyDeleteHonestly this is a very dicey situation. Human beings by nature are very jealous. My fear is that u may develop hatred for both of them when u see their love waxing stronger especially if your husband is not meeting up with your quest both financially and romantically. I foresee u continuing your unholy affairs with this older man after your marriage and the will mean you will be cheating with your sister's husband. My advice is that you should only give go ahead if u are ready to take your eyes and your heart of this your older man. You must also be prayerful about it so you dont fall into temptation that will cause problem between your cherished sister and your humble self.
ReplyDeleteVery hard one! The guy ll be perfect for your sister and at the same thing your happiness is important too
ReplyDeleteHave you asked your sis what she feels about him ?
Dang! Ts just so complicated! If you end up with him , you won't be happy . You guys are best as friends . He needs someone fresh to start life with.
Xx
Still excited on getting my blog id. No more anonymous #shoki ahnnnn
ReplyDeleteAunty Stella, that picture cracked me up.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, am gonna ask you a simple question. "What are your fears?" Are you scared you still have feelings for this man and might end up in bed with him one day? Seems that way to me. This is a pretty tough situation... As much as you want your sister and your friend to be happy, I don't think it will be fair to give him a go ahead without your sister being in the know. If you must give this man your consent, then you must come clean to your sister and tell her you had something sexual with this guy years ago. Let her be the judge.
But on second thoughts, them no dey keep yam & goat together. Something tells me you still have the hots for this man & u're scared you might betray your sis by fxxing with him (I may be wrong). If that's the case, give him a strong NO. I won't even allow a man I've fxxed be with my sis. Lai lai!
Abeg o, prevention is better than "Dear Stella, I need your advice...".
My 2cents!
Better Pikin. Good reply. Pls Say a Strong No. He should go look else where.
DeleteAunty Stella, that picture cracked me up.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, am gonna ask you a simple question. "What are your fears?" Are you scared you still have feelings for this man and might end up in bed with him one day? Seems that way to me. This is a pretty tough situation... As much as you want your sister and your friend to be happy, I don't think it will be fair to give him a go ahead without your sister being in the know. If you must give this man your consent, then you must come clean to your sister and tell her you had something sexual with this guy years ago. Let her be the judge.
But on second thoughts, them no dey keep yam & goat together. Something tells me you still have the hots for this man & u're scared you might betray your sis by fxxing with him (I may be wrong). If that's the case, give him a strong NO. I won't even allow a man I've fxxed be with my sis. Pls I can't.
Abeg o, prevention is better than "Dear Stella, I need your advice...".
My 2cents!
This whole thing is just an ugly mess and the man is an unprincipled man. And as for You lady you need to get your act together. Let me even go after the man first. After sleeping with you he is asking to get into a relationship with your sister? He is a very insensitive man.why didn't he ask to marry you? After all you are not officially married na?Oh its the one he hasn't slept with that he wants to marry? And lady what exactly are YOU doing? Seriously? Please please this is just rubbish. Cut away from this man and face ur husband,cus with the way u feel about him,when he marries ur sister,both of you will start sleeping together again. Please cut away from this Man abeg,face your husband and start your marriage free of baggage. Smh.
ReplyDeleteD girl na dull and timid person na. Someone that claims he likes u and slept wit u but can't ask u to marry him? This girl must b dumb criously
DeleteIn fact eh! Very unprincipled man.
DeleteSEX! SEX!!SEX!!!....it always complicated matters...hmmm...see how SEX is about to block 2 pple from getting the happiness they deserve...
ReplyDeleteThis would have been an easy-breezy if only u had not gotten involved with the guy sexually multiple times. I could have even managed 1 or 2 times but severally????.....
The following questions are what you need to ask yourself and truthfully answer them, as in answer them to yourself in all honesty:
1. Do i love my husband to-be enough not to cheat on him (i will help u here, the answer is probably NO cus u are already cheating on him).
2. Can i take my eyes away from this older friend? am i secretly wishing it was me that this old friend wanted instead of my sister? Is it possible that if i wasnt abt to marry this dude, my older friend would have asked for my hand and not my sister's?
3.How truly am i going to be happy for my sister? Wont this begin sibling envy knowing fully well i am inlove with my older friend that now wants my sister.
4. Will i be able to concentrate on working out my new marriage and not comparing my sister's marriage to my own? ...knowing that this man will most probably treat my sister like a queen cus he has experience in marriage while my own hubby will still have to learn the ropes of marriage (most times, dis learning takes several years).
5. Am i sure that i can never sleep with my sister's husband even though i have slept with him SEVERALLY before?
Babe, ask yourself these questions...this situation is very difficult, i would advise that u call dis older friend and tell him NO. Based on the history (or present...we dont know) you both share. It is better not to cause trouble and pain for people you love dearly. I seriously doubt if you both can stay away from each other, if he marries ur sister and u continue chopping eeach other while u are married. ..u will cause your sister pain, you will cause ur hubby pain, you will disgrace and scatter ur family and you will make ur sister go through another series of heartbreak which she does not deserve.
Let this man go...let him go and look for his wife elsewhere...dont destroy ur family...on another hand, ask him if its truly your sister that he wants or U. Ask if he would have asked u if u weren't getting married?...if his Answer to that is Yes...i will advise u pause on ur wedding plans and think deep on who u love more: older friend or hubby to be....go for love...you only live once.....
Spot on!
DeleteGbam. God bless you for this comment.
DeleteYou just mirrored my mind and I fear to add lest I detract from your message
It's clear as day that this chic still loves older friend
It's clear the older friend loves her and doesn't wanna lose her friendship.
It's clear he feels nothing for sister but wants to marry her cos of you.
It's clear he didn't ask for her hand because he didn't want to destro your relationship(the same way you didn't ask him to divorce his late wife for you)
Open your eyes. In any case marry a man you love enough to be faithful. Whether it's a neutral 3rd party sef
**Bonaparte NN
People like you make the devil shake, when that your fiancee starts treating you like the b*itch u are you will come here with stories that touch.
ReplyDeleteYou are a very wicked woman who will continue to sleep with that man whilst your sister is married to him, so spare her your evil ways, the karma that will deal with you is doing press up..
I am so pissed that's how one smallie is doing with my husband I ve tabled her matter before God she will definitely PAY
Sit your sister down and tell her everything that took place between you too .
ReplyDeleteDon't hide anything or try being diplomatic .If your sister is okay with it, invite the guy, Three of 3 should go out together , outside your comfort zone. If there is no tension or uncomfortable situation at the end then wash your hands clean and let them be . Butttttttt , if you ask Nnenna , I will to you, your sister and the man to pls stop . Drop it , For the fact his dick took it's bath in your body is like twin that fuck's the in-law to my own reasoning which might be wrong to someone else .
With time, it might lead to destruction or not .
So dear, tell her, ask your parents what they think if you & your parents depending on your relationship and openness to them .
Hey , Happy Married Life in advance and a Blessed New Year ! ! !
what if he was doing you and your sis same time...
ReplyDeleteShe hasn't tot of that. It might have happened oo
Deletewhat if he was doing you and your sis same time...
ReplyDeleteAllow them biko! U r not even sure ut sis will like to marry him, so give them a chance. And face ur own relationship.
ReplyDeleteBianca Bruno, am loving ur comments.
Still counting down... 29th
You are evil, how are we sure you and your sugar daddy didn't kill that poor woman? You narrated as if we should give you a trophy for screwing a married man and tormenting his wife to death. Your cup would soon full. You have the gut to say that randy loved his wife just to make a point.
ReplyDeleteMy concern is your poor husband and your sister because they both deserve better not people like you and your sugar daddy. You have been cheating on your fiance and even brought your sugar daddy to your introduction, what guts! You deserve to be beaten.
For my advice
Tell that man to leave your innocent sister alone because he's going to continue his cheating. Not because I don't want her but because she deserves better than a cheating man that is going to do it with her own sister. Please leave your so-called fiance, he deserves a faithful wife not a home wrecker like you.
Dear, dnt let them meet ooo,she will later tell ur husband u slept with him nd if u havnt told ur hubby u had sexual rlshp with this guy, it will land u in big problem of trust btw u n ur hubby, dnt let them meet irrespective of d fact that ur sis needs to b happy, dnt put ursef in trouble, if u take this advice u wud b happy u did n u might end up sleeping with d guy again so avoid him sef
ReplyDeleteStella, this your picture made me laugh. But seriously, this one is difficult. I have to read BV comments sef.
ReplyDeletePoster you should be happy that he wants your elder sister. Because with what you have explained here both of you are much more closer deeply than your husband to be, believe me this is your best shot to stay away from him sexually and concentrate with your husband to be cos if you dnt then you are ready to cheat after your marriage. Pls encourage him and give him the go ahead. your sister needs a tested trusted man at her stage in life and your friend is tested and trusted. widh you all the best as you decide on what to do.
ReplyDeleteBig one! U was screwing him as his wife was still alive?.....n now u' r considering him for ur big sista?
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OK oo, ........I don't trust u , poster!
Once a 'de be', always a 'de be'. Don't deceive yourself,if peradventure he marries your sister.HE WILL STILL BE FUCKING YOU AT ANY GIVEN OPPORTUNITY. So its better you do not get your sister involved with him.
ReplyDeleteN.B. 'de be' means 'get there'
No big deal! There is nothing new new under the sun. Give them your blessing and wish him well. If things work out between them, then he becomes a member of the family and the past relationship will end up being a secret between both of you. Dont tell your sis anything, I believe in the adage that what you dont know doesn't hurt you
ReplyDeleteI'm going to write just one sentence. Your sister doesn't deserve this man, he is a cheat! Sorry that was two sentences.lol
ReplyDeleteThis is dicey but then
ReplyDeleteIf you must :
1) Have a heart to heart talk with this man on the necessity to end all sexual relations till eternity.THERE MUST BE AN AGREEMENT and COVENANT BETWEEN YOU TWO AND GOD THAT IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN THEN BOTH OF YOU PRAY.
2)Live Cities apart from man,boycott social networking with him ooooo aunty.
3)Start investing in your boo boo,as they years go by he will start exhibiting the wisdom and understanding of Solomon.That you fucklikant mate seems matured,sweet,disciplined etc because a woman worked on him through the help of the Holy Spirit so invest in your boo boo.
Aunty Stellz na the first time wey i dey comment for CBVN.
TANKIO
Don't be selfish woman! stop being jealous abi na fear of d unknown????? seems to me that u still love ur older friend and ready to keep him as ur side bobo, pls allow him find happiness again, since he was d vessel used btw u and hubby, give him d go ahead and if ur sis says yes then good, she deserves to be happy , just do d needful and gboju channel ur thinking on how to build a happy home.
ReplyDeletefirst of all i dont think ur been honest with your self.
ReplyDeleteyou were in a relationship and u were sexually active with a married man,and u still have the nerve to say you felt his pain when his wife died.my dear ur a liar and u av no conscience,if u felt no pain when u were fucking d dude am sure u'd be happy d wife died.As if dat is not bad enuff u want to pass the same man to ur divorced sister so dat u and him can continue ur sexcapade ba.u better tell urself the truth ashawo
First that old friend of yours did not love you to keep you as wife material, reason he did not ask you to be his wife after his wife's death he only loved the sex with you and was trying to buy time with you to get down with you during your friendship. He wasn't moved by your engagement that's reason he encouraged you and was very happy you partially off his book he knows he can't have you as wife material. Also you are not a responsible lady, yes I said so because you slept with a married man knowing fully well he was married, still you cheated on your current husband to be with your old friend and am sure you won't stop at that when you married your timid man. Free that your yet to be husband as he irritates you already and you compare him with your friend. I am sure the way you love this old friend you will still fuck him even when you sister marries him because of your past relationship with him. My advice is that you should first tell your sister that your old friend you had something to do with want her, it's up to her to choose if that's what she want or not. Your sister might not care about it but is important you tell her, whereby you did not tell her and you hook her up with someone you slept with in the past when she find out, she won't be happy with you.
ReplyDeleteYou need change within you because with your style, your won't even settle down soon. If am you i will free that your timid guy and let him go now because you are going into marriage out of pity based on your write up. Marriage should be something exciting when getting into not pity and complains before hand. Reasons most of you jump in and out marriage nowadays. Marry a man or woman you are very much into,excited about and loved,proud about,cherish not pity.
Move on with your husband and leave your man friend and your sister to get along.....we all have a secret and a past we are not proud of. Let the past bury itself and focus on your future with your hubby....peace
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ReplyDelete......the interesting stories I read on this blog!!
ReplyDeletechai sugar daddy tins *shakes head*
ReplyDeleteand you still want to give him to your sister
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@Poster - Ask yourself, did you contributed in the death of that poor woman by sleeping with her husband? I mean you slept with a married man and eventually d wife died. Secondly, you want to keep that man to yourself that's why you've not given him answer, too badt. From what you wrote, you slept with him; have it in mind that another will do same to you.
ReplyDeleteI dey harsh small abi but check yourself very well and see whether if you will not go back after your sister might have married him n continued your illicit affairs with him,then... you can do the needful. The answer lies within you. You have something fishy in your mind. #mythought
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ReplyDelete@Poster - Ask yourself, did you contributed in the death of that poor woman by sleeping with her husband? I mean you slept with a married man and eventually d wife died. Secondly, you want to keep that man to yourself that's why you've not given him answer, too badt. From what you wrote, you slept with him; have it in mind that another will do same to you.
ReplyDeleteI dey harsh small abi but check yourself very well and see whether if you will not go back after your sister might have married him n continued your illicit affairs with him,then... you can do the needful. The answer lies within you. You have something fishy in your mind. #mythought
CHELU CHELU. What am I reading here? All of you will knowingly allow a cheat to marry your DIVORCED sister who was probably either cheated on or beaten by her e x husband. Ah ahhhhhh. Women, this poster has no,scrupples messing with a married man, if she did not feel for his wife(bone that flesh and blood crap), at least feel for your sister. He has zero respect for you and your family. He wants to bring his rubbish into the family. You think you are the only one he was sleeping with? You think he will be faithful to your sister. Please do not complicate her life eh Nne. This whole thing smacks of drama. Unless your sis is desperate to remarry, biko carry yourself and this man away from her. You want to come and,break her heart twice. As for your fiance, why would you disrespect yourself and him like this? If he is cheating, then let him go. Or you think all men cheat...some are good out there please eh Nne. Close your legs, and ask Mr Man to go somewhere else. Send him to Stellas mingle blog post, enough women full there. Dont bring a cheat into your family. Hian!
ReplyDeleteTruly am really scared of ladies right now they her worst than the devil himself.
ReplyDeleteI think allowing him to marry your sis or any other ladywill help you flee away from any sexual relations you have with him unless you aint sure if you wanna be with him or your hubby...Since you are happy, you should also give him the chance to be happy with someone as well. But from your write up, i think you wanna be with him...or you are too selfish to allow someone else have him
ReplyDeleteBut as stella don say make we keep shut if we no know wetin to talk, make i kuku dey read dey go. Anyway, i have given you my opinion
This guy has been sleeping with your sis and wants to make that relationship legal...
ReplyDeleteHe feels you are younger and so deserve a shot at a real marriage as your first time and hence, his encouraging you to marry your hubby.....
First off, I'd say, pray to God for forgiveness as you'd slept with that man whilst he was still married....
And then let him go and face your man....you sound like you hadn't stopped the sexual aspect if your relationship even when you'd gotten serious with your man otherwise you won't be so pained....
Face your home and forget that man....talk to your sis and tell her abt the sex (trust me, she already knows and just wants to see if you'd be truthful)... Be excited for her and tell her he's a good man and that they'll be good together and then face your home!!!!
If you ever sleep with that man again, you will break your own relationship and that man still won't marry you...in fact,if you don't handle this with tact, you attire out to be the villain who will be seen as standing in your sisters way of progress
Your sis will always be suspicious after you tell her you slept with that man....she'll never be comfortable with both of you....never! she would wanna protect her territory. He probably is looking for a companion since his wife is late, and I believe he has kids? If you still have feelings for him, I think you should talk about it with him. Meanwhile, when was the last time you both had sex? How long before your introduction? any sex after ur introduction? The answer lies there.....It is never healthy being friends with a married man....80% of the time, it leads to see! Good luck!
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