NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
MARRYING A MAN WITH ''BAGGAGE''
My cousin has been dating a guy for years now.She has been rejecting other suitors because of this guy. Everyone around know them together. The man is matured and has a good job. They have scheduled their traditional wedding twice and later postponed it.
I was really worried that I had to invite her last week for a talk. What she told me is very dicey.
She said her so called boo impregnated an Hausa lady who was doing youth service in his office two years ago while at Yola. The lady did not tell him about the pregnancy till after 6 months. The guy rejected the pregnancy initially but later agreed after much pressure. The lady gave birth to twin boys. The guy had kept this as a secrete from her till the day of the naming. She left the relationship when she found out but had to reconcile with the guy when he vowed its her he wants to marry and not the lady.
The issue now is that the lady vowed the guy must marry her or she will never allow the guy have access to the children. The guy on the other hand is not ready to let go of the children. He has rented a house for the lady in Yola with two maids whom he pays monthly. Dedicated the children in the lady's church at Yola. The family of the lady knows him as the father of the children. She got to know all these things because the guy told her.
The guy was formerly working at Yola but now relocated to Owerri. He is Igbo
She said she is confused on what to do hence the traditional wedding postponement . She claimed to have put all her hope of marriage on this guy. Should she go ahead and marry this guy knowing he has a baby mama somewhere who is bent on having him or she should just take a walk. My dear, I honestly don't know what to tell this lady. I have introduced her to this blog and she has never removed her eyes from here since then.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
WTF?
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
WTF?
Dear Stella,
Good morning to you and the wonderful blog family. I've been following you right from your days of Gist cafe to your early days of blogging till now,in fact my late wife introduced me to you. I hardly comment though.
Now, I'm in a very deep problem, perhaps it's spiritual.
My wife and I were childhood sweethearts till we got married. She gave me four beautiful daughters between the ages of 17 and 12. They all look like her, very very beautiful eye candies just like their mum. With pride, I will say I never cheated on my wife because she was all I needed in a woman and even more, she passed on four years ago , since then I have been mum and dad to our daughters.
Now to the problem, Stella, anytime I see my daughters moving about casually in the house minding their own business, I get a hard on. When I return from work most nights, they always welcome me with a hug, that nearly kills me. I find myself going to watch them sleep and I masturbate to sleep after that.
I am sick or perhaps I am deranged. I can't help myself. Should I send them to my Sister to live with while I handle the finances and all else? Should I send them off to schools abroad?
I write this in tears, every day I say to myself, Ade, you are a mad man.
I haven't remarried because I have not been able to "feel" for any woman since my wife died.
This is more than spiritual,you are the devil himself.
YOU ARE A VERY SICK MAN!!..YOU NEED HELP..please get away from your daughters as fast as you can!!!
Pls send ur daughters to ur sister before u do sumtin u wuld regret and make urbdaughters hate u...just send dem away and visit dem wen necessary, with dis u can find sumone else
ReplyDeleteYou this man go and deliver your self flee from masturbation my dear that is the greatest weakness number 1 nothing can bring back that guy your sister should go and deliver her self from being trapt by a man causing delay in her life my main comment loading.....
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Hmmmmm @ narrative two!
DeleteAde pls send ur daughters to school..ur sister might maltreat them "might". N pls get a woman to fuck biko..na congi dey worry u no b spiritual..lol
DeleteStella your reply is epic! Oga ade please resist the devil and he will flee from you. Take your daughters very far away from you and ask God to deliver from spirit of perversion
DeletePoster one. The guy works at fidelity bank, the baby mama has a sister in abuja.
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DeleteContrary to what stellastica my boo said, I don't think you are sick, this things happen, because come to think of it, if this things don't happen, then fathers should be able to bath their adult daughters like they once did while they were still kids, mum also should be able to bath their adult son, brothers and sisters should be able to bath together without feeling anything and it wouldn't look odd or weird, even though they're your daughter, they're still ladies, I have once had a feelings for my cousin, I wished we could date then, but that will not happen.
What I think is the problem is that you're starving of intimate emotions and sex. A vacuum is in you that needs to be filled, so I'll advice you are sexual and emotionally attached to a partner. You really need to get into a relationship again, I believe once that vacuum is filled all the erection will stop and the emotion you'll have for you children will be healthy.
Also you really need to control yourself pending when you get another woman in your life, this things are emotion, and the same God that created emotions in us which sometimes we don't have control over, created self control in us, which all the time we should have control over. And I'll advice you probably allow them go stay with you sister for sometime. Most especially, you really need to work on your mind, if you are able to get control over your mind, stop all the fantasising, stop all the masturbation with time you'll overcome such feelings, taughts and unhealthy emotions you have for your children.
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Stella please keep quiet and stop being judgemental, he came out to talk didn't he? Most times when a wife passes on the husband sees his wife in the daughter that looks closest to her and sometimes for some weird reasons feelings develop. Why do you think some men sleep with their daughters after their wife passes on? Oh you think family can't develop feelings for eachother? Its very possible just that the thought is irritating. Or you think at one time or the other brothers in puberty haven't thought of their sisters or aunts in a sexual way? Why do you think most men remarry immediately?
DeleteOgbeni poster, that thought is just because you're missing your wife, find another woman and kpansh her well well. Send your daughters off for awhile.
Poster 2, u need Jeaus oh. Shuo. Wtf?
DeletePoster 2, you are suffering from konji and you are seeing your wife's carbon copy's all around you. Get a woman to give you beta fuck. Make sure you fuck protected o. You don't want to add insult to injury on your girls. Don't send them to any sister. What if her husband molests them? If you the father can feel like this about them.
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DeletePls send dose children to ur sis,orr find a woman to marry nd satisfy urr sexual urge abeg,dnt go defying dose children for pete's sake,stella please dis man needs therapy,councelling dnt jump into conclusion urr words hurrt,I think u shud talk to him plss bfore he does sumtin drastic,dis is sum serious ish here
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DeleteYour cousin wants to use her Koro Koro eyes enter hot boiling water bath.
Haba!. It's too complicated abeg. Too too complicated. how can you be dating someone who impregnates another person and you expect him to be b faithful in marriage? Like magic? Like omo foaming in hard water?
Hmm.
That said, let her also run away from pre marital sex. Any man who keeps himself during courtship would most likely be faithful in marriage.
N2: Oga, I think konji don hold you sotey Mr dick no know boundaries again.
Please sir go and marry so you cn 'release' happily.
And then also pray about it. And go for deliverance. And while you are at it, send d delectable arm candies away. Okay?
So you can work on it and get a hold of yourself.
Spend time with God's word and in prayer. I know it's not easy.
But God would see you through.
Hold on sir.
@ narrative N2;you need prayers and God..
DeleteYou dont feel anything for other women but you have a "hard-on" when your kids hug you;meaning you are more sexually aroused when you see your own kids..pls if you have the money to send them abroad;do it!! If its to send them to your sisters place,then do it...
Just dont stay with them whilst you await your salavation soo as to avoid stories that touch on the long run...
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Stella please do not curse him. He came here because he needs help. If he didn't, he could have done anything with his girls without batting an eyelid but he is still sane thats why he's seeking help. I understand with him that it's not been easy and I feel for him.
DeletePls Poster2, do not mind the hateful comments you may get from here. Ild rather you send your kids to your sister so you can always get to see them occasionally. Sending them abroad may not be too good for them. You should also go for counseling too and try to marry another wife to take your mind completely away from your kids emotionally.
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Delete1. You sister will not be happy in that marriage if she agree to settle with him like that, especially when the man start acting impy. Let her look elsewhere.
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2. Stella, that was too harsh.
Mr man. Take them away far from you. Meanwhile, you need deliverance. Try to remarry to.
»Jealous SDKer«
He is not sick, and it's not spiritual *rolling eyes*. He sees his wife in them, that's all. Please sir, get married or start a relationship. You can also use this time to send them abroad so you can re arrange your state of mind, when they return, it's not likely to happen again.
DeleteAh!!! Narrative 2: send them as far off as possible... God forbid bad thing in our lives ooo
DeleteNarrative 1: do right for d sake of ur future happiness biko
Abeg Stella, you were too harsh. If he was the devil, soul he write in for advice. Wouldn't he have slept with them since. The reason Nigerians don't seek help is because of reactions like yours.
DeleteMr poster. First things first. Send those children away for now. Then work on yourself physically, mentally and spiritually. You don't really need to go for deliverance. Pray to God sincerely in your closet.
*would he
DeleteHmmm..dis one pass me ooo, waiting for comments.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Desperado at work.
DeletePoster 2: Say this after me: ADE, YOU ARE A MAD MAN AND GOD WILL PUNISH YOU IF YOU DO ANYTHING INAPPROPRIATE TO YOUR DAUGHTERS!!
Nornor u don teach here
DeleteNarrative 1: I will advise that she takes a walk. Its not worth the heartache.
DeleteNarrative 2: you are a sick and demented fellow. Masturbating when seeing your kids? Jeez! You need TB Joshua and MFM put together for spiritual cleansing. Send your kids to their grandparents immediately. May God help you.
Aaaasssss in...he Pass my age sef. Tor!!! Different different things going on in this our own very world.
DeletePoster 2 : I understand you love your wife soo much but accept she's dead.
ReplyDeleteGo ahead with your life, fall in love and remarry.
You are seeing your wife in your daughters cause u are still holding on to your dead wife. You need God.
Stay away from your daughters to avoid story's that touches the heart.
Poster 2 : I dint know what to say to your sister biko.
Maybe she should not marry the man.
Correct pikin. Good reply
DeletePoster #2: you need to send them away ASAP. Don't let the devil toil with your mind. Ask yourself if the wife you claim to love so much would be happy seeing what you are doing. You need to let someone else in. Once you start being intimate with somebody am sure those feelings will pass. You haven't mourned your late wife probably hence the difficulty letting go. See a shrink if possible and also visit her grave to speak to her. You are not attracted to your children per sey but the thought of who they remind you of. Stop nurturing those thoughts before you find yourself acting on it. I am sure those thoughts were absent when their mother was around. Send them away for now especially the one(s) that you really struggle with if your sister can't take them all.
This is another reason why African fathers should be involved in the caretaking of their daughters from infancy. I.e bathing, feeding, changing them etc. That way you bond with them as a part of you not just a child you are raising. Am not saying who truly wants to do evil wouldn't do so but being active from the beginning can help align the mind in times of chaos. The heart of man is desperately wicked says the good book. Pray daily against it before you step out of your room. The key is to pray before the challenges set in.
Poster #1: let him go o. The pain you feel now is only the beginning if you marry him as the babe is not bent on letting go. You check am now, twin boys no be beans o. You might get another shocker down the lane with her being pregnant again for him. These things come with the territory. Bet ya he will marry her if you don't. Love my dear doesn't conquer all only God's kind of love does. The type of love we all aspire to have/be but we struggle to achieve. pray about your decision sha. My opinion is if he cheated on you with someone he had no ties with, imagine now that she is the mother of his first two seeds.
Gbam @Mrs fine face, you are on point
DeleteSpot on! That was rather harsh SDK. This man recognizes the fact that he has a problem and has even said it himself that's why he's crying out for help, it might be spiritual or a case of transferred affection, which has gotten out of hand, Masturbating to your daughters is very abnormal, please send them away and start a relationship that will lead to marriage.
DeleteI think you lack feminine affection. Maybe plus pent up sexual urges, till you get a hold on yourself send the younger ones to boarding School and the oldest to leave with a trusted Female pending when she gains admission.
Poster 1 I try to put myself in the shoes of a poster before answering, but in this case it's dicey for me, depending on how I love the guy though, but that baggage is too much o, twin Boys! Hmmm.. start pulling out small small, this might turn ugly, the woman in question might not take it lightly if he marries you and might make your marriage hell, just leave the relationship,m it would hurt but it's for the best.
@MFF I think u are right dear..
DeleteI think he is still holding on to his dead wife; doesn't mean what he is feeling nd thinking isn't disgusting. I think he should contact his pastor for urgent deliverance!
2] Nne plz go ur way nd look for another man...igbo men doesn't play with their children oo most especially boys. Nd that his baby mama will neva allow u enjoy ur marriage if u eventually marry him. So look well b4 u leap!
Well said Mrs Fine Face
DeleteI agree with u on wat u said on poster 2. I think the man shld send the daughters to go school abroad if he can afford it. He shld also see a good man of God to help him with prayers.
DeletePoster 1: are u ready for the whole drama? Y sleep with a woman without protection knowing fully well u don't see urself marrying her? Are u sure he told u the whole truth about the lady? If I were u, I'll temporarily change my name to Usain Bolt. Life is too short for one to engage oneself in such drama.
Stella don't say he is the devil himself. His problem to me is spiritual and he needs to really pray about it. Get a serious minded pastor who can pray with you. The enemy is out to spoil your family.
ReplyDeleteStella you were top harsh
DeleteThe man has realised this is a problem that is why he came here for help
He sees his wife in his daughters because they look alike and all
He is yet to let go of the wife and its transferring to the kids
Oga,its not normal,send them abroad to school so you have time to sort out yourself and move on.
You need to move on,find someone else
Take interest in new people and find love again
Till death do you part has happened,it is sad but here comes the end if your vows with her. You have done well by bringing those kids up yourself without remarrying since,now you need to do something for you.
Eyes just popped out at poster two.
ReplyDeleteYou are their dad for crying out loud.
Is this transference of repressed sexual urges or what,
Pls try and renew your mind ok. These are children sir.
Poster one: Stella pls shift for me, I want to join you in sitting
.....beautifully written!!...it is indeed the transference of repressed sexual urges. He sees his wife in his beautifu daughters as described.
DeleteHe needs to send them away for now until he can deal with his problem. I think this is more psychological than spiritual...Get help, see a shrink or something.
Plz plz plz u hav 2 see a real man of God 4 deliverance asap #jenjen#
ReplyDeletePoster 2 pls send them to ur sisters. And seek spiritual help immediately. Good luck.
DeleteSowie o. Ayaf a question. Do you know any real man of God you can direct him to? Thanks
DeleteI dislike women who use kids as a weapon. Weak desperate bunch "marry me because I born for you" na you first born we never see who born before. Poster one marry that man if you really love each other be prayerful and make sure he takes care of the kids the yola woman will loose out at the end of the day such is the story with selfish desperate women who only think of themselves and not the greater good of the child. The boys will look for their father when they grow up.
ReplyDeleteDon't mind dumb retards using pregnancy to trap a guy,thinking it will be "happily ever after"
DeleteHaving a Child for a Man is not a criteria u must be married together. Babe if the Man says its u and u love him stick to him, Me I had a Child for a Man before I got married to my Hubsband now. I didn't marry him because the Man and I cann't be hubsband and Wife because I don't v patient for a Voilent Man he beats me like Mad. We parted ways. My Daughter lives with me with my Hubby.
DeleteThe choice is hers to make, if she can cope den no wahala God d guy wnt marry d Hausa girl
DeleteU get sense abeg
Deletei do not want to insult u so i wont but pls, get those children away from u before u do something really sick.
ReplyDeleteBuahahahaha at second poster. U don vex Stella
ReplyDeleteChai!
Ask Jesus to come into ur heart and purge ur thots. Concentrate on d things if the kingdom and stop focusing on d flesh.
Gist 1: if d lady is above 30 and lives in Owerri with d guy then she shd close eye and marry him.
.no time again oh
OMG NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO, DUDE YOU NEED HELP FAST
ReplyDeleteMy first comment vanished.
ReplyDeleteAde go for deliverance.
Poster 1 if u work in d same Owerri with d guy and u don pass 30 Abeg marry oh.
Time no dey
Plea,send them as far as abroad before u do something stupid. This is not normal at all.
ReplyDeleteTROUBLE!!!!..N2, you are very sick. Please send the girls abroad if you can afford it or send them to your sister asap, sick man! N2, i will advice you don't marry that man.
ReplyDeleteMOI u are stupid and gave no sense.... Someone has a problem seeking solution nub open ur dirty mouth to insult....u r here always forming holy when u r probably full of shit...
DeleteStella don't curse him o please before he does harm to those girls, sir Ade can you go to any teaching hospital and ask for a psychiatrist?Not all problems are spiritual, some na mental illness (not necessarily madness)...To your question, I say yes, please send them abroad or to you sister to live with...WtF
ReplyDeletePoster 1 : it is well....
#1, leave the man. He will return to his baby mama anytime oo.
ReplyDelete#2, send them abroad biko. Get a woman to love and keep you busy.
Poster One.. even if he never marries her u will need to have a heart of stone.. No steel..to put up with the drama that marriage will bring you.. infact u will go through life with so much intrusion from that woman and her kids.. she will never let you enjiy ur marriage in peace.. my take move on and marrybsomeone else.. if you leave him today believe me in less than three months u will meet ur prince charming.. no bagage.. no wahala..
DeletePoster 2.. Pls get involved in a relationship and channel your sexual frustrations somewhere else..
Poster one: don't do wat u will regret tomorrow live dat man and look for ur own man cuz he is not ur own......he Shud stop deceiving u he wil marry d oda woman
ReplyDeletePoster 2: plz stop wat u are doing b4 u will rape ur children one day take dem out of ur huz and look for a woman to occupy ur life.... dat mite help.....u reli nid help ASAP
Shouting Heyyyyy with my eyes wide open in shock.narrative number one twins ke boys for that matter look that guy is gone already the baggage is top much oo u won't be able to carry it. ..look once a child is involved u cannot compete with any lady concerning that man his mind is still with the lady forget about the threat.....
ReplyDeleteJust tel her to go and beg God give her her own if she haven't used this one to drive her main husband away. ..that's how some guys would come would spirits of delay and blockage delay ladies and block their way from getting married evil guys may they never cross our part. ... number 2.....conji is the number one problem u are having u haven't had sex for long I guess and now u think and masturbate about sex too much now the spirit of masturbation has conquered your body with spirit of Imcent u need to go for deliverance and learn how to stay away from masturbation...it's your ist weakness. ..delete all porn or anything that helps u in the act. ..u don't read your bible if u are equip with God's word u don't think of such evil start reading the bible and master verses concerning sex against such evil act go for deliverance oooooooo hmmmmm
Spot on.
DeleteCocaine Finest I have been reading ur comments on this blog always insulting like JayEm but am so impress with this ur post. U nailed it
DeleteCocaine finest.
DeleteWhat's up na.
We're you licking bitter agbalumo while typing this????
Me seff no understand am talkless of the respective posters who the advice is meant for.
Nne, rephrase so we can understand. And use comma and full stop and all that.
Biko...no offense meant o
Narrative 2: pls n please send ur children out of that house probably outside d country b4 u do d on expected and pls do it ASAP.
ReplyDeleteI also think u need help.....u see ur wife in ur children's eyes n that's y u have dat urge towards them.
U also need 2 put everything behind u n start looking for a good woman 2 start ur life all over again with ,by so doing,u will stop having hard on 4 ur girls.
Narrative 1: what is ur cousin waiting for 2 move on? Advice her 2 move on nw that suitors are stil coming 4 her..
D hausa lady has twin boy,d guy rented a house 4 dem with 2 maids??? Abeg she should move on already cos she can't cope wit his baggage. Hia
The Hausa girl go drink clomid to born twins for ur guy lol
DeletePoster 1 pls let ur cousin walk out of that relationship biko. Poster 2 pls send those kids to your sister as fast as you can WTF you need God in your life. I'm still in shock from wat u said,masturbate with ur daughters in mind. Jesus
ReplyDeletePervert alert!!
ReplyDeletePerv on rampage.lol
DeletePlease let's be kind to the guy Mamie he badly needs our help and encouragement.
DeleteFoolish bitch, does he sound like a pervet? Do we know the kind of atrocities your husband commits?
DeleteNa wa ooo ...@Poster 2 : Snd ur daughterz away or better marry anoda woman
ReplyDeletePoster 2: wtf are u saying huh? You need serious help pls run to a church for deliverance before you commit abomination. Geez
ReplyDeletePoster #2 please remarry or get yourself a girlfriend. send your girls away to your sister before you start having canal knowledge of them, the feeling is already there so please avoid it before the devils takes over fully, once done it can never be undone, please abd please do not allow your girls to start resenting you.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, your cousin should move on, those boys needs their dad full time, why sleep with the girl unprotected, what does he think happens when you sleep with people without condoms. He had better marry that girl and stop dragging your cousin in his mess.
Poster two: sick bastard you are go and remarry pls or start dating again at least
ReplyDeleteStella u dont know how to talk. Dont answer or give advice. Its ours to do not u.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 is not a devil, he has a problem n u hv immediately judged him. U are d devil not him, how wicked can u be!
Better post this
@POSTER1 Pls let her go ahead and marry her man and @poster 2 pls take your children 2 your sister's place
ReplyDeleteWow stella, he is human n not a devil. Dnt speak of someone that way, where are your morals?
ReplyDeletePls Sir, see a pastor. I think u n ur wife shared a very strong bond n u see her in d eyes of ur girls. Its well
dis is serious
ReplyDeleteOga just come to my church MFM. that evil feeling your having when you see your girls will vanish!
ReplyDeleteThis stella, i think u reason from ur big nose. Devil ke? Wow its a pity, he who has sin shud cast d 1st stone.
ReplyDeleteOmg! Is this for real? First of all u need Christ. Send them far away from you before you do something stupid and also find another woman to marry.
ReplyDeleteD 1st story is a pity but gal, if an Hausa say she isn't letting go, my dear run. I av an uncle wt a similar story, he only got lucky bc d baby died in d process. N d lady in question left him, bt its like she spelled my uncle bc at almost 50yrs, my uncle is still a wanderer, he hasn't marry or own anything to his name. Nne pls run, let d guy sort his problem n carry his cross. He wasn't even a faithful partner, so y loose sleep over his head n enter into a rship he will always cheat whenever a nice face appears. So run away n live ur life bc am sure anoda good man will come n marry u.
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ReplyDeletePlease do not start a fight you can't finish. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Please end that relationship and move on with your life. God will bring a better man your way
#2
Your a psycho, yes Stella is right you're very sick please send the kids to your sisters or better stil abroad before you rape them. Oxygen and Magnesium, I never knew some dad could nurse such evil act Jesus..
You need to check yourself into haba left asap or look for a genuine church closest to you and check in there for deliverance
pls let her go ahead and marry her man
ReplyDeleteAll this baby mama's ain't you girls ashame? Trying to hookup a man with pregnancy? Baby mama's has done more arm than good. They have destroyed lots of happy relationship. #confusedface
ReplyDeleteI UNDERSTAND YOU @POSTER2 PLEASE SEND THOSE KIDS TO YOUR SIS. STELLA YOUR REPLY WAS TOO HARSH, THIS IS SPIRITUAL. .
ReplyDeletePoster 1 please let your cousin run as fast as possible! She would never ever have peace if she marries that man.its difficult, I know, but God just blessed her with the signs and He is telling her run my child, run and I will make your husband available to the in my own time, that man is not hers.let her move on.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I will not judge you, why? Because in some kind of way I understand. You see your wife( rest her soul) in your daughters.They look like her, talk like her and albeit behave like her in their own childish way. Listen sir, it's all in your mind and in your head. The way you even described your daughters is how a man would his lover in some way.
Don't seperate the girls if you want to send them off, I think the 17 year old should be done with high school or almost. Send her to school far away and send the rest to boarding school ASAP.By the time you only see them once in three month or six month, you would have found somebody else to channel your sexual energy towards.
BTW I know the urge to masturbate is so damn strong but I'm sure Google is your friend and you can find the raunchiest and extremely sexual, fantasy fulfilling videos and pictures. Stop using your own flesh and blood as your masturbation tool!!!! Think of your late wife and how she would be turning in her grave at this shit and how disgusted she would be by the father she chose for her princesses. Stop imagining crap with your daughters, that's the only part in your story that ticks me off!
Infact I suggest you give the oldest the keys to the doors of the girls' room or room if it's only one and instruct her to lock the doors or door before going to bed, she's 17 and old enough to take care of her sisters if anything happens in the night and God will protect them, this way when you get the masturbation urge, you daughters would not be available for sight seeing and you will make use of our dear friend Google.Good Luck to you and please don't hurt those girls, they will never forgive you, you are their world, the only one that they know and trust, their dad and mum, please sir I'm begging you work on your mind.My dad is my everything and I cant imagine him thinking this way towards me, my world would crash and burn, please I'm begging sir work on your mind and take my suggest or other reasonable BV's suggestion. It's good you know you have a problem, now fix it!
M-Amie is back with her ID !! Yay! Tbh I don't believe she hasn't been reading this blog! Woulda thought she was JayEm .. But for d fact that JayEm has ppl that call her out personally. Haha.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, poster 1, sounds like d man still likes d baby mama. He isn't even in charge! Date a few others. You may b able to replace him.
Poster 2, please find Jesus. He's in many churches these days. :) Pls send your girls away. While at it, pls find companionship in other women. Join church activities. Hopefully, you will get a gf. You sound like you r financially buoyant. Please go for therapy. It's not just "spirits" , you are sick!! But it can be cured. Praise God!
Poster 1 please let your cousin run as fast as possible! She would never ever have peace if she marries that man.its difficult, I know, but God just blessed her with the signs and He is telling her run my child, run and I will make your husband available to the in my own time, that man is not hers.let her move on.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I will not judge you, why? Because in some kind of way I understand. You see your wife( rest her soul) in your daughters.They look like her, talk like her and albeit behave like her in their own childish way. Listen sir, it's all in your mind and in your head. The way you even described your daughters is how a man would his lover in some way.
Don't seperate the girls if you want to send them off, I think the 17 year old should be done with high school or almost. Send her to school far away and send the rest to boarding school ASAP.By the time you only see them once in three month or six month, you would have found somebody else to channel your sexual energy towards.
BTW I know the urge to masturbate is so damn strong but I'm sure Google is your friend and you can find the raunchiest and extremely sexual, fantasy fulfilling videos and pictures. Stop using your own flesh and blood as your masturbation tool!!!! Think of your late wife and how she would be turning in her grave at this shit and how disgusted she would be by the father she chose for her princesses. Stop imagining crap with your daughters, that's the only part in your story that ticks me off!
Infact I suggest you give the oldest the keys to the doors of the girls' room or room if it's only one and instruct her to lock the doors or door before going to bed, she's 17 and old enough to take care of her sisters if anything happens in the night and God will protect them, this way when you get the masturbation urge, you daughters would not be available for sight seeing and you will make use of our dear friend Google.Good Luck to you and please don't hurt those girls, they will never forgive you, you are their world, the only one that they know and trust, their dad and mum, please sir I'm begging you work on your mind.My dad is my everything and I cant imagine him thinking this way towards me, my world would crash and burn, please I'm begging sir work on your mind and take my suggest or other reasonable BV's suggestion. It's good you know you have a problem, now fix it!
#1 pls dont leave your man
ReplyDelete#2 get the girls as far as possible and seek for help! also remarry ASAP!
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Poster 1: ur foolish! He loved u n he went to cheat. Stay dere n cry, agadi ekweghi nka!
ReplyDelete@poster 2,u nid to send dose girls to dere sister n get a life...
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ReplyDeleteN1, I pity you no be say na play. Can't you just see the guy is not for you? Until he tells you himself that he's no more interested then you become suicidal abi No wahala! N2, you need to discharge and distance yourself from those girls or else the devil will strike.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2 pls send your girl abroad if you can afford it while you deal with your problem. I pray for you today that every evil plan concerning your family will be destroyed by fire in Jesus Name.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1 your sister must move on, the guy is only wasting her time.
Poster 1: get a life, leave him n move. What an idiot u r. He ll leave u n go bck to her. D heart of men r desperately wicked, dnt say u werent told. U will kip pushn ur weddn till u clock 50. Dats if its not his idea, foolish woman
ReplyDeletePoster 2: stella shut d fuck up, he came for help, he is ur fan n a widower! How heartless can u get? Y call him a devil. R u a saint? Send him ur pastors number instead
I understand you plight sir, but take those kids far away from you before you will end up regretting the rest of ur life,...get admission for them abroad pending when thwe admision comes send them to your sis....God will help you....its gud you seeking help fast
ReplyDeletePoster 1, confused bawo? The man has too much baggage . Poster 2, hmmm. You need to have your head examined. How can you have a hard on cos of your girls? Those girls need to be very far away from you till you have sorted yourself out before we hear another story. Abeg , leave the innocent girls alone. They are your flesh and blood, my God!
ReplyDeletePoster 1:Except you can handle the problems that your boo has caused by his actions, I suggest you don't marry him. Because definitely, there will be problems by the woman,plus she has an advantage. The children.
ReplyDeletePoster 2:Please send your children abroad, if you have the money, and start going out.You need a good woman in your life.
Stella your comment is a dissapointment and very immature.... From his story does he sound like a pervert? Someone is seeking for help and you are talking like he is happy with what is happening? That's y some people commit sucide when instead of understanding and sympathy they get insults....
ReplyDeletePoster you need to remarry ASAP..... Don't let your sexual fustrations push u to commit an abomination you will regret... I know people who find it hard to love again when they loose their spouses but u must try for the sake if your daughters.... If you are a Christian go to a deliverance church so they pray with you and help you...
Gods speed...
Stella that is very harsh, what do you expect ur BV's to advice him, poster pls u need to visit a very strong man of God/ ministry eg MFM
ReplyDeletePoster 1..I think d Lady is using d child as a bait and it shows clearly dt was her intention of gettin pregnant 4him,I wil advice u give ur Man a chance and tell Him to sort himself out b4 u come back to him again,if not u might just be ceremonial in his life 4eva..u wil loose @d end and he might reunite wt d lady on d Longrun if u don't gv him conditions right now...Poster2..D Lord is ur strength ok....Havin realised u have problem means it is solved,get close to a Man of God and talk wt Someone u can confide in and talk d Daughters away 4rm u,probably Boardin School..Gods grace
ReplyDelete@ poster 2: pls sir get hold of yourself before you do something you will forever regret.I know loosing a loved one hurts so much; but you have to let go of the feelings that you have for her and without you knowing you have cloned the image of your wife in your kids psychologically. pls for now; send them away to their aunt in in order to use that period to get hold of yourself. when the leave pls socialize; go even clubbing.there are decent clubs.find a good decent chick and start a relationship; so that you can get over your wife. enjoy life sir and don't bottle yourself up.it will drive you crazy; just like its about to do.pls move now and send your girls away.you are a man and it shows you want a woman; but not your girls.
ReplyDelete@ poster 1: pls leave that guy before he complicates your life more.You will find someone who will love you again and this time the person will be faithful and sincere to you always.
@ poster 2,there are lots of chics who would die to have u(a faithful man) as thier bf or hubby...pls start dating other ladies n 4get abt the dead..go 4 deliverance cuz your mindset right now is way too weird..you,ll be fine dear but pls take action NOW to avoid any form of taboo...@ poster 1..if she can stand the heat then she should go ahead but if not,she should jejely exit that relationship...truth is,even when she leaves,the man might not still marry the baby mama(cuz marriage no be by force)...it's all in her court sha,if she get strong mind then carry go BUT be ready 4 the drama...Goodluck!
ReplyDeletePoster 1 I don't know wat to say,imagine if it was turned around would he still want to marry u?
ReplyDeletePoster 2 pls take those kids far away from u until u get d help u need cos truly U NEED HELP
**lululiscious**
You are seeing your wife in your daughters,
ReplyDeletePlease send them abroad for holiday and take the time to work on yourself, work on your mind and your feelings ! Sir tell yourself the hard truth,your wife has gone to be with her God!first and foremost accept her death,go out and meet responsible ladies that can make good friends,secondly go into your bible and wake up your spiritual man,it is obvious you are not spiritually alert else it wouldn't have come these far! God will see you through.
Poster 1- Your cousin does not have a problem. She should decide based on what she knows about the guy and his situation.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- Mr Ade, you are a lunatic.
I'm glad that you know you have a problem, so perhaps your situation is redeemable.
If there was only one daughter, you would have raped her but now, I'm sure.
Sending them away from you is a first step but you need therapy fast.
Oga Ade, e sick gan ni.
May your sperm dry up for spilling it to the sight of your innocent girls.
Stella, you were too hard on poster 2. Haba.
ReplyDeleteThe man knows he's in deep Shit and he obviously wants help. Why call him a devil as if he has slept with his daughters. God forbid oo.
Mr Man send those children away quickly. Its a problem that they look like their mother right now. Send them away before you begin to have visual hallucinations.
Even if you go for deliverance, still send them to your sisters place or anywhere they'll be safe biko.
May God deliver you from this.
Poster two, u need to get a woman soon. I think you have been horny for too long.Also try to let your dead wife go. You see her in your kids, thats not bad but dont look or think about them in a sexul way. Dont let those evil desires push u to scar them for life. Send them abroad, and bring them back when u have found another woman.
ReplyDelete@ poster 2; I forgot to add this.pls look for a close dear friend that will give you a listening ear; go to a quiet place; like a park and rant.vent all your sorrows about the loose of your wife.you need to pour out your soul; in order to free it and leave it bare.don't bottle it up.or you will go crazy
ReplyDeleteStory 4 d gods
ReplyDelete@poster 2. What on earth will make you have an erection when you see your daughters. Women never finish for outside if you must do. For crying out loadsend those girls away from you before you do what you will regret and your kids will forever hate you for bcos it is NOT NORMAL. Just listen to yourself that you cant have feelings for other womaen outside you better wake up the feelings for the outside women . I am trying seriously not to insult you right now bcos i am so so pissed. Haba *BIG HISS*
ReplyDeletePoster biko biko biko biko! Tk those kids to ur sister o kos d devil myt do u over tym somdae. Btween u nidam for deliverance o
ReplyDeleteNum2: this man shouldn't be curse bcos he came fr help,hw many men dat slips wif dia dutaz does dat???? Sir,stop cin ur wife in ur kids datz d problem. They looked like her doesn't mean they r her plz,ur mind is workin on u.send d kids to ur sista n try to get a gf or ask God to hlp u tru dis... I wish u well,dnt let devil use u to destroy ur kids
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poster 2...send them to school abroad because your sis might maltreat them.your case is terrible and you need to work on yourself
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Stella the Man is not a Devil, but the Devil is trying to use him after all he hasn't done it. U shouldn't insult pple that have problem, for him to confide in u to let out the Cat out of the Bag means he is sorry and needs a solution to his Challenge.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. U need Christ in ur Life, Go for Counselling, make new female friends. Your wife is Dead and gone forever. Love ur Children but Agape Love. Don't lust over ur children. Send them to Boarding House or Abroad to study since u can afford it. God is ur Muscle.
Correct pikin. Good reply
ReplyDeletePoster #2: you need to send them away ASAP. Don't let the devil toil with your mind. Ask yourself if the wife you claim to love so much would be happy seeing what you are doing. You need to let someone else in. Once you start being intimate with somebody am sure those feelings will pass. You haven't mourned your late wife probably hence the difficulty letting go. See a shrink if possible and also visit her grave to speak to her. You are not attracted to your children per sey but the thought of who they remind you of. Stop nurturing those thoughts before you find yourself acting on it. I am sure those thoughts were absent when their mother was around. Send them away for now especially the one(s) that you really struggle with if your sister can't take them all.
This is another reason why African fathers should be involved in the caretaking of their daughters from infancy. I.e bathing, feeding, changing them etc. That way you bond with them as a part of you not just a child you are raising. Am not saying who truly wants to do evil wouldn't do so but being active from the beginning can help align the mind in times of chaos. The heart of man is desperately wicked says the good book. Pray daily against it before you step out of your room. The key is to pray before the challenges set in.
Poster #1: let him go o. The pain you feel now is only the beginning if you marry him as the babe is not bent on letting go. You check am now, twin boys no be beans o. You might get another shocker down the lane with her being pregnant again for him. These things come with the territory. Bet ya he will marry her if you don't. Love my dear doesn't conquer all only God's kind of love does. The type of love we all aspire to have/be but we struggle to achieve. pray about your decision sha. My opinion is if he cheated on you with someone he had no ties with, imagine now that she is the mother of his first two seeds.
Poster 2: you need to get laid fast!!!! If you feel you're not ready to marry again, then look a girl friend or a fuck mate ejorrr before you do the unthinkable. Meanwhile go for a serious deliverance or better still see a psychiatrist.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: If you love him and you are sure he loves you then go ahead and marry him. Everyone deserves a second chance to love and hapiness.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Send your daughters to your sister and seek psychiatric and spiritual help.
Hmmmm dts d devil at work, don't allow him to get u. Run as fast as u can, send dem to ur sister bc u commit sacrilege. Run away o
ReplyDelete@poster 1: let her walk away from dat relationship. Poster 2: send ur daughters abroad and remarry.
ReplyDeleteP2,get a girl friend pls...and resist the devil
ReplyDeleteStella u hav no rite to call him d devil @least not yet.d guy has a problem and admmits he does all he needs is ur Advice not insults or name calling.to u mr man pls sent does girls away asap pls pls pls b4 u do somtin dt will not only send u to jail and make ur girls hate u for d rest of their lives but will also make u a caused man pls.As for d lady u can go ahead and marry ur man bt be rest assured dt u will live d rest of ur life as a victim of perpetual fear of an extra marital affair.weather ur hubby is guilty or not u will alwayz hav d feelings dt he is keeping anoda family
ReplyDeleteStella u hav no rite to call him d devil @least not yet.d guy has a problem and admmits he does all he needs is ur Advice not insults or name calling.to u mr man pls sent does girls away asap pls pls pls b4 u do somtin dt will not only send u to jail and make ur girls hate u for d rest of their lives but will also make u a caused man pls.As for d lady u can go ahead and marry ur man bt be rest assured dt u will live d rest of ur life as a victim of perpetual fear of an extra marital affair.weather ur hubby is guilty or not u will alwayz hav d feelings dt he is keeping anoda family
ReplyDelete#1, move on, he is not the right man no matter your age#2. Send d kids to one of your trusted relatives and marry another woman.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, she can marry or not marry d guy, it's her choice really, there's nothing we can say right now, d decision is hers, but she shd b ready for problems associated with such kind of baggage marriage, twin boys!! Issorite, poster 2 get a wife abeg, r u crazy or u de learn craze?
ReplyDeletePoster 1,if u av d strength and courage of Annie idibia,hang on, if not, walk away frm dat man,becos mama ibeji will always be a part of ur life and am sure it wnt be funny at all. Poster 2,if ur right hand causes u to sin cut it off,therefore if ur johnny wan cause u to sin,cut it off, on a serious note,take them out of d house until u overcome ur weakness,becos I can tell u this, d devil na BAD person,no allow am borrow u. PlsSssss.
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Poster 1: if they are truly in Love, and she can handle the situation, she should go ahead. Its not a must the father of your baby marries you. The man doesn't love his baby mama clearly. His heart doesn't isn't there. Poster 2: your problem is psychological. Its not spiritual. It is because of your unholy thoughts towards your children because you see their mum and them hence this urge. You also lack female companionship. You've kept yourself away from relationships for too long. Try going out more and make friends. And meanwhile, try sending away ur kids for the time being
ReplyDeleteN1, Advise ur cousin to forget that man, staying in d relationship is reducing her self worth nd value. CherishD
ReplyDeleteN2: ahhhhhh
ReplyDeleteUr children? Pls don't do it sir! Pls caution them to stop wearing skimpy dresses or just get married asap.
Poster2, I will suggest u send ur daughters abroad since u can afford it. I guess that sis of urs is married, what if her hubby too starts developing such ungodly feelings towards them? In as much as u can't trust urself with them,pls trust no other.
ReplyDeletePoster 1,i will suggest u let go of the man, not just one kid but two, I bet u don't wanna start what u can't complete. My 2 cent though
N2, send the Children to your sister pending the time their travelling documents will be ready. They should be very far from you till you overcome the problem. Pls, get involved in more religious activities. May God help you. CherishD
ReplyDeletePoster 1 : your cousin should leave the guys. I know it's not goin 2 easy 4 her but dats d best tin.d young man does not deserve her. Poster 2: you just need to go on your knees and ask God 4 forgiveness and beg him to deliver u. U need 2 send ur kids away 4 a while. At least till u complete ur prayers. And Stella u didn't need 2 call d guy a devil.he just needs our prayers. Besides he didn't say he already touched them.May God see u thru sir
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#1 pls I beg u in God's name run very far from that man , pls cos I am married to a baby daddy with teo sons too, and am wishing I took a long walk and never looked back. And this ur case is so fresh. And u don't listen and end up with this Mann get ready to share him 4 ever, even if he's married to you alone, thatlady keep calling 2 money, school fees ,house rent you name itl, just as if say he marry 2wives, and God punish u say the feelings come back, then u are in soup. So Pls my darling bv use ur tongue to count ur teeth o! Mummy S
ReplyDeleteThe only person that can advice you is you,deep down mr Ade you know it is wrong,kindly take those kids away,visit them anytime you want to see them,go for counseling,give room to other women,try and fall inlove again,your wife is dead and long gone,you don't have to start looking at your kids thesame way you look at your late wife.good luck and please be careful so you dnt make your kids turn against you.
ReplyDeletePoster1; run as fast as you can abeg. Too much baggage. The woman will always be a part of your lives. Can you handle that? Poster2; pervet, pervet, pervet.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Your cousin should move on, good thing she's had several suitors. He has twins from another woman, even if you were to get married; you would be unhappy.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Your wife is proud of you that you have been faithful to her this long. I am sure she would want you to move on. Allow another woman in you life, and take your eyes off your kids. Since you can afford it I think you send them away still. While you find yourself another woman, be careful when make the choice and don't abandon your daughters. I pray God guides you, so you don't live or die with regrets.
Aye Po Gan
Poster 1: your sister is sitting on a loooooooooooong thing,she wants to marry a guy with two kid,oriegwu.
ReplyDelete2:haba Stella dont talk to someone that asked for help like that now(do you that it will solve d matter ,u were soooooooooo harsh.mr ade,u have to accept d fact that ur wife is death,stop seeing her in them because they look like,dont send them abroad or to your sister unless u've tried ur very best.imaging ur kids growing up without any of their parents, coupled with the fact that their mum is late.im sure you people dont pray in that your house(dont let the devil to take over your household)read devotionals(maybe,open heaven,our daily bread,our daily manner etc,attend church service with ur whole heart)allow the holyspirit to take over ur life,pray in the morning and night with ur kids share the scripture with them,maybe during weekends u guys will fast and pray then you'll see that this whole ish.will stop(by God's).
Finally u need to fall in love with another woman,it will really help you,but please marry someone that will ACCEPT your kids(very important) goodluck, God bless you. Please dont do something that will hunt u till ur dying second.
Narrative1 advice her to find someone else,the guy houses the other woman and the kids and probably still sleeps with her when he visits so he shld just go ahead and marry her. You can't find peace marrying into that kind of setting, besides he has 2boys already meaning any child u have for him now will also have to come 2nd...
ReplyDeleteNarrative2 You are just horny and afraid to mingle. Please leave your girls alone, Man up and get a woman friend who you can pour out your emotions to...You owe it to ur late wife to protect your girls with the last drop of your blood...you can advice them to cover themselves up more when they are at home and all...don't take away their innocence!!!
Poster 2, send ur daughters away ASAP and try to pour ur romantic feelings into another woman.
ReplyDelete@Stella..Why call him a devil when all he wanted was advice to overcome the mental problem he is facing. You are totally wrong on that plsss.
Sisi stella from the way you reacts to serious issues eehh,if im your loved one I'll always find it difficult to confide in u.
ReplyDeletePoster 1,pray abt it. Dnt see why u will lay ur eggs in one basket though. Sha...pray
ReplyDeletePoster 2, u need help. Its spiritual. U need. God to overcome dis. Go 4 counselling pls and send those kids abroad. @stella, dat was harsh though, lol
Sisi stella from the way you reacts to serious issues eeh,if im your loved one I'll always find it difficult to confide in u.u must not always cuss out even when you have the urge to do that,love ya plenty plenty.
ReplyDeleteposter 2; na wa o...
ReplyDeleteu need jesus nd his disciples .
@ Poster 1
ReplyDeleteTell your cousin to consider other suitors now that they are still coming except she can cope with baby mama drama..
@ Poster 2
Send your daughters to stay someone before you do something you might regret..and maybe its time for you to move on.
Poster2 pls send your daughters away maybe to school abroad before you did what you will forever regret
ReplyDeletePoster 1,walk away as fast as you can and while you can from that man.it would have been a different thing if he had carried u along frm day one of the hausa woman's pregnancy,but as long as he hid it,trust me there is more he is not telling you..poster 2,get yourself a wife and take your mind off your daughters! Lord have mercy!
ReplyDeleteSorry to digress but poster 2 is the reason why I as well as Genny baby were appalled at the picture of IB daughter sitting on her step dad's lap.
ReplyDeleteNow back to the matter, everyday we are all assaulted with s*X s*X and more S*X and you wonder why we have so many incidences of s*X related offences, every day some celeb is going naked, even in Nigeria we are not spared and you wonder you why we have these kinds of stories.
Poster 2 you are s*X staved and it doesn't help matters that you don't want a woman in your life because you still love your wife.... So I wouldn't judge you but advise you to take a break from your kids for like three months, seek out love either from God which would be preferred or a long lost love, what I love to do if I ever get tempted is thing of the things I would lose from falling for the temptation and I immediately adjust.
Poster 1 do you love him?
poster 1. pls stop all u have with dat guy and move with ur life. your tomorrow is better if u avoid d misake of today.
ReplyDeleteshock. shock.shock
poster 2: i want to tell you that you are not mad. u only had true love for ur wife that is why 4 yrs after her demise you still cant see love in another woman. d result now is conji. my advise. take your kids out of reach ASAP. move on wit your life and start afresh by looking for another true love. flee from temptation now.
No Stella he is not d devil himself! The devil is just manipulating him but guess what, the devil is a liar!
ReplyDeleteAde separate urself from them asap and go 4 spiritual cleansing. I don't mean u shld go and let some bell ringing, swaying, screaming middle aged woman/man place you in a circle of fire and kill pigeon on ur head. I mean u shld find a spiritual director who will guide you out of this state of mind.
Peace be with you and merry christmas
I am presently dealing with someone like poster no 2. I sent you a mail Stellz, please read it. May God have mercy!!!
ReplyDeleteHmmm! N1the guy has got way too much baggage. No point getting married to him o. Peace of mind 1st abeg.
ReplyDeleteN2. What's the problem Mr? You need a woman in your life obviously. Pls send your girls away before you do something disgusting. Meanwhile, go to God in prayers.
poster 2,uv transfered d love u hv for ur wife to ur kids. Bt its nt right abeg. Look for a wife asap abeg. Gv ur life to christ too. P1, personally i cnt marry a man wth dat sort of baggage. Bt its ur shoes,u sabi where e dey pinch u. Good luck
ReplyDeletePoster 1 abeg tell ur cousin to forget about the guy.she should pray for anoda man
ReplyDeleteabeg when one door closes anoda one opens
Poster 2 pls dont wait any longer,take them to your sister na na na
Poster 2. Maybe you shud send ur daughters away and concentrate on developing feelings for anoda woman. I understand you see your wife in your daughters but mehn...this is extreme.
ReplyDeleteIf its in the western world the father will discuss his situation with the daughters so they will understand why they are gonna be away and also they might even help you kill the feelings but Africa??? Nay
Seeing a pastor may can help too.
All the best man.
Poster1. Twin boys for that matter...
Hmmm, that's baggage really and not everyone can go ahead with such wedding.
I dunno whatelse to say oo
Take other BV advice.
Goodluck and may God give you the strength to go through this.
Narrative #1# baby mamas are cling,they always feel the man must marry them,wed him if you truly love him
ReplyDeletePoster#2# please send your daughters abroad if you can afford it or send them to your sister's and pls try and look for a woman to spend the rest of your life with
Why call him the devil?.. do you know what it took for him to narrate his story here?. He is a sick man and he is asking for help...Please see a therapist ASAP and send your daughters away till you are sorted. The mind has a crazy hold on people so please get help and pray. I'm sure you see your wife in your girls but that is a very wrong wrong situation to be in. I'll pray for you. Also get married..or get a girlfriend. You don't need that sort of 'feeling' anymore at this age..you will probably never feel same way about anyone the way you once felt for your wife so deal with it. Your new marriage will serve a purpose of companionship and distraction. Good luck.
ReplyDelete@ poster2,I think you are not normal, you are obsess about your daughters; just send them to their aunt or abroad before you rape them o! You need JESUS in your life.
ReplyDeletePoster 1,that man is an igbo man and a father of two boys,let your cousin walk away,he is not her husband.she shouldnt start what she cant end.
ReplyDeletePoster 2:i dont know why anyone would insult him.of course he knows he has a problem and he is desperately seeking help,simply advise him and move ahead..Btw,poster2,take your girls somewhere else where they'l be safe first.seek spiritual and medical help.try to find a woman to love and receive love from,a woman that'l love your kids as well.
Poster 1: that man is just fooling you, he is a cheat and has no respect for you. Find your way, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, abi can you handle rivalry the rest of your life in the marriage? Think twice and move on. Is safer with much rest of mind before jazz mode would be activated.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: please send those children away till you get another wife / companion before you commit an incest you would regret for the rest of your life.
stella the man already admit his sick ,the man already admit this is spiritual,all he needs is counseling not curses abeg ,poster two please send your daughters abroad to study or send them to your sister.the devil is trying to ruin you and your family ,now that you know act fast.
ReplyDeleteposter 1-abeg let your sister go ahead i marry her man ,baby mamas ,na today we dey see baby mamas ,abeg let her do her wedding .let her keep the twins and eat dem sef ,see threat ,you want to marry a man by fire by force.if she like make she open leg born triplet again ,how many boys peru born for tuface idibia,how many boys sumbo born for two face idibia ,abeg ,tell you sis i said she go ahead and do her marriage .
#2: This is disgusting. Please, you need to send them away as soon as possible.
ReplyDelete#1: Igbo man with two boys? Please, the problem will be too much for you to handle. If he had kept his thing in check, he would not have impregnated someone he does not want to marry. Please move on before it is too late. Rose
Poster no 2. Only God knows if u have not abused your daughter sexually, if not please for christ sake!!! Send your daughter away, far from your site, don't even visit them till they become adults, speak with them through phone and make sure their bills is being taking care of. You are seeing your late wife through them and that's why your body is rising up, sending them away will help you find another woman. More over please seek God, remember if you tries it!!! 14 or life jail await your enemy. I rest my case.
ReplyDeleteposter 1, my people will say woman wey born for person pass him concubine. thats all i can tell you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, you need CHRIST but pending the time and you are healed of it all, pls try not to be alone with those girls but pls visit them wherever so you wont feel strange when nxt you set your eyes on them. Muah
Poster 2, send your daughters to your sister and begin to socialize. You need another woman in your life. Its a phase and it will pass. Poster 1, drop the guy, he has too much baggage! God knowing your heart will send you the bones of your bones and the flesh of your flesh IJN.
ReplyDeleteStella what is it with you self. That was so harsh na common! He knows he is sick that's why you came out to see if he can get explanation and you're here judging him. That's very wicked of you. I love you, but you no try for this one abeg.
ReplyDeleteUr own children kwa? God forbid!Abeg goan marry, I think you nid a woman in ur lyf or get a steady girlfrnd that should help
ReplyDeletei just tire....
ReplyDeleteUr children kwa? God forbid! Abeg goan marry or get a steady girlfrnd a distraction. That should help
ReplyDeletePoster 1 marry the guy cos even if you leave him, he will not marry the baby mama. Why? Cos he is igbo.igbo guys hardly marry oda especially imo or anambra.hold him tight.
ReplyDeleteposter 2 why the heck are you asking an obvious question . You are not sick, you see your wife in your kids. Start dating other women and your problem will be over. And try to stop thinking about your wife.
Post no 1. Igbo's hardly marry to housa, if the guy truly love your sister as claimed I wonder why his dick go stand for another woman, beside I don't believe a lady should tie a man to marry her because they have children together, whether she (baby mama) vow to take the children away from their father, let her take them, when the children grow they will definitely ask for their father, they only question here is " how sure is this man that he truly love your sister?"
ReplyDeleteHello stella, I have been so addicted to your blog since last year and I must confess, you have really changed my life positively.Poster 1.Pls dont marry that guy.His baby mama wont let you have peace and u wont enjoy him.Poster 2. I wont judge you for telling us exactly how you feel.Pls dont molest your beautiful daughters.Send them abroad until you are sure of yourself. Milagros.
ReplyDeleteStory 2. ....poster just wants a reaction to his fake story..try some other line
ReplyDeletePoster 2, please send these kids away. Your situation is dicey. Seek Gods face as well.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm,
ReplyDelete#1: pls tell ur cuz to go find another man cos when d time comes, d pressure from d other lady and her two boys will so overwhelm u both that u will even regret ur marriage.
#2: biko biko Deede, u need help. Take a break/vacation, send ur daughters to ur sis, find a woman/fall in love, by all mean do something that will take ur mind off ur girls before u committ. I pray that God will forgive u and deliver u, amen.
Poster 2 I think your problem is spiritual. Pray to God
ReplyDeletePóster 1,Too much baggage!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: *Mouth Wide Open and screaming "Jesus Jesus*
Biko Stels,is dis story for real ooo???!!
Mr Man u are SICK SICK SICK!
*Goes into cerebral shock*
Poster 1; your man cheated you up to the point of impregnating a lady and having children with her and you are still contemplating a marriage with him? Examine your heart and go with the flow, while at it, put yourself in the other woman's shoes and your man's shoes as well.
ReplyDeletePoster 2; do not, I repeat do not give in to your depraved mind. Send your daughters away and seek salvation.
ReplyDeleteThelma enemuwe said...
Poster2-----please send your kids to either ur sis place or abroad if you can afford it,don't let the devil use you to destroy your children's lives
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
Please you are a very Rude woman, very Rude, and this goes to show how immature and insensitive you are. it is not funny and someone needs to tell you the truth. Please my angst is your outburst at second poster and I quote
ReplyDelete"This is more than spiritual,you are the devil himself.
YOU ARE A VERY SICK MAN!!..YOU NEED HELP..please get away from your daughters as fast as you can!!!
How can you call someone who is seeking for help Mad, it is uncalled for. Even a toddler might have advised him appropriately, and more matured, besides going by the man's post and the age of his children, he is far more older than you, it is an Insult. I expect to see some encouraging words, on how he has been able to take care of his children for 4 fucking years after the death of his wife, without seeing another woman, it is a feat for a man. I had expected you first of all, commiserate with him on the death of his wife, notwithstanding how long ago she passed, to tell him to let go and try as much as possible for find love again, at worst, seek for services of call girls to ease himself, YES I SAID IT!! His problem is not spiritual madam, it is psychological, and can be easily solved.
If you like don't post.
I totally agree with you. Stella can display ignorance sometimes. I understand we don't know it all, but she should learn to give constructive criticism. That was not necessary, he already know how wrong his behaviour is, that's why he is seeking advice, it's a cry for help..
DeleteNo 1 tell ur cozn to run as far as her legs can carry her bcos that man does not love her.
ReplyDeleteNo2 Pray seriously for God to take such a demonic spirit away from u,and send those beauti ful angels out d house before u carry out ur plan knowingly or unknowingly.May God help u in Jesus name Amen.
Stella, I swear I love you and I can't do without reading your blog in a day. But I have to say this, you can be somewhat judgemental rather than give constructive advice.
ReplyDeleteYou don't know the pain it took N2 to send in his mail and obviously he knows it is wrong that is why he is here asking for advice. Calling him a mad man and the devil himself is wrong. These are the reasons people don't talk about things.
N2, PRAY PRAY PRAY PRAY, till you can pray no more. I think you see your late wife in you kids. You need to turn to God to help you overcome this feeling. First step to this is acknowledging there is something wrong. Now tell it to God, take the matter to him and I am 100% sure God will help you get over this. Pending the time, take your children to your sisters place or school or something, because the last thing you want is to let the devil tempt you. God will guide you.
N1, baby mama drama is not something I will advice a woman to carry on her head. We are not talking about 1 child here, we are talking about 2. The baby mama seems like a tough lady from what you have said. Trust me, you don't want that kind of drama. In the long run, your happiness and peace of mind should be paramount. Don't let love and the number of years you have spent with the guy cloud your judgment. All the best.
poster 2,u are holding onto ur late wife dts why u see ur late wife in ur girls and its affecting u mentally. Let d dead bury d dead abeg. C a psychiatrist and open ur hrt,u wil find love again.
ReplyDeletePls sir seek for help
ReplyDeletePls send them away.
ReplyDeleteNumber one,nothing for ur coz o. Igbo man n kids?. Na dat woman ur coz bobo know o
Stella thats so rude of you towards the 2nd poster.what qualified him with all the adjectives you used on him? He hasnt touched any of his daugthers yet.he knew he has problem and been a responsible man that he is,he knew he needed help and as come out! I think you should either retract your statement or tender an apology to him.its unfair
ReplyDeleteIt is clear you are not yet over your wife and you have transferred the emotions to your daugthers which is good but you dont know where to draw the line. You need to see a private counsellor(i can refer you to a good one if you need) and during the period of your treatment,your daughters need to be away from you. Start the treatment as soon as possible and stay away from them till you are healed before you do what you will later regret.your daughters will never forgive you too and you will lose them(i know you love them and they are your life presently) and this will break you completely.
Above all pray for God strength. I respect you.
#no1 egba boy
Poster No 2, You need therapy to help you cope with the lost of your wife, it seems you still hold on to her as if she's alive, you haven't come to term that she is no more alive. You're still king of grieving even though it has been 4 years.
ReplyDeleteAlso you have to send your daughters to your sister for now until you find a solution to your problem, this will also help you to go out and start dating again. please do not compare the women you will meet to your late wife.
For you to know that what you're doing is wrong, you need to pray, with or even without any pastor and ask God to free you from the bondage and renew your thoughts and actions.
I pray that God will rebuild your life and heal you and your daughters.
Anonymous B
@ Poster two please relocate ur daughters to somewhere far away from you before u rape them. Seek spiritual help asap.
ReplyDeleteJesus!! Poster2..something is definetly wrong with you.,please do send them to boarding school and try to hook up with a lady that could satisfy your urge..
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I really understand wat ure going thru n it's very difficult for ur children to understand. Nothing is wrong wt you mister it's the sight of those girls as their growing that is causing wahala for ur life. Let them go to boarding or better still abroad. If you shld take them to your sister do you think they are safe wt her hubby too. Don't use ur own stupid thinking to push those innocent girls to d devil claws. Ure also protecting them by not marrying anoda wife but it's better to safe you from doing war u will live to regret in life. Poster 1: tell ur cousin to fight for her love if she really love d guy. After all she has being in d relationship b4 d baby mama, anyway if na me I no gree leave am just like dat for any girl oooo.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, the only thing delaying the man from marrying his baby mama is her tribe. Leave that situation alone. Why have you put all your hope in him? Is he Jesus?
ReplyDeletePoster 2, you miss your wife very much and your girls are the only versions of her left. The devil knows this and will use it against you. He will lead you to have some innocent drinks one day and before you know it you have ejaculated into your own child. Whenever you feel these satanic urges pray pray pray. View your daughters as your precious
children and go get yourself a f**k buddy. Don't look for love for now.
Ewo@poster 2
ReplyDeleteIt happens only hia oh stella.....where else would i read this kind of news......poster 2 .....please send dose children away and go get help...who gets a hardon for his daughters??????
ReplyDeletePoster 1.... she needs to make d decision....na she dey wear d shoe
Hmm... Mr Ade pls get away as fast as u can from ur daughters o before u do d unimaginable o...then go sought yourself out. You need God in your life o and the bible says whatever things are pure, whatever things are holy think on them...you need to renew your mind cos d devil Don dey play ten-ten with ur life o
ReplyDeleteHian o o o , Chineke nna mu o !
ReplyDeleteOgini na happen n'ime IHN news today ?
Is getting too hot and complicated today o !
Number 1, do you love him ?
Can you stomach him even when you feel like burning the house down .Mind you that the leopard can never change it's spots .
Not only the cheating, he did so without protection this days that even 90 year grandfather in the village will use condom . Bear in mind that THIS IS NOT HIS FIRST TIME OF CHEATING ON YOU, YOU KNEW BECAUSE HE GOT CHOKED ON HIS STOLEN MEAL .
Listen sweetie, we as a family here is not gonna live with you or him . The ball is in your court, TAKE A DEEP BREATHE & ASK YOURSELF : IS HE REALLY WHAT I WANT IN LIFE ?
And only you can answer that question.
Hey, before I forget, Aboki na Aboki o !
Sword , fork, knife , stick and even bomb be their idol .Sweetie , Nnenna will say WALK & don't look back because your *BOO* is a habitual liar who knows how to jingle you . HOW CAN HE CLAIM HE HAD NO IDEA OF THE PREGNANCY TILL 6 MONTHS ? ! ? !
And they work together , still he didn't or others see her Tommy ?
I will take the risk & say he knew what he is doing, he wanted the baby .
Right now . Nne , pls don't settle for less, don't eat that left over meal because it might hurt you real bad . Sorry this happened to you . Be strong & walk . If he is truly yours , you will know .
Number 2 , Ogini bu nzobgo gi ?
What the hell is your problem ? ! ? ! ? ! ? ! ???
ARE YOU FOR REAL ? ? ?
OH MY MY !
Devil is now a tenant like us in this world o o o !
Start by chopping off that dick & donate it to any wild animal, far away in the jungle . Someone pls tell me this is a movie script !
Bros, sorry o .
I can't even think straight to find the right words to pass over expect : you're a low life morally debased selfish fool . YOU MASTURBATE AFTER WATCHING YOUR GIRLS ! ! ! ! ! ! !
End time father in the making !
You just killed my sex life spiritually by sending this .
I think you have spiritual problem which might even be why your wife died so you can destroy your family . GET AWAY FROM THOSE KIDS PLSSSSSSSSS ! ! !
Thinking about your dirty lunatic desire is also seen as sin .
Get a woman & stay away from them !
I'm totally confused & can't locate my brain after reading this .May God have mercy on you !
Ife n'emekwa na uwa... second poster pls you need divine help.... start one month dry fasting immediately.... na wa oo
ReplyDeletePls stella, sometimes if you don't have anything to say, just keep silent. With all dew respect its nit all the time u open ur mouth and say whatever comes to mind. This man came here for help not to be insulted. Not everything is spiritual. This is a man missing his wife and has not been with a woman for a long time. @ poster. ..if you know u can't hold yourself get married again. Send your kids to your sister or whoever. Go and visit once in a while. Pks not abroad oooo..cuz they might end up getting spoilt.
ReplyDeleteAh steco dat was harsh. When u cuss d man like dis how do u xpect us to talk to him? He needs advices and not curses, as we can see he's not happy with d situation. Oga i will say its because u loved ur wife dearly and since ur daughters reminds u of her its somewhat natural but u have to get over it, get another wife and send ur gals to their aunty for now till u sort out urself before u sin against God, man and urself. That's my own candid advice.
ReplyDeleteWhy do nigerians act like there is no legal system is this land. The man should get a lawyer! No Jupiter can stop anyone from seeing their child, this is no t an issue
ReplyDeleteOga Ade inokwa be gi? Hope you're prayerful? Cos if you're a hip hop dad, there's problem. Confess your devilish thought to a pastor/Rev father for deliverance and counselling session biko before eme alu
ReplyDeleteOga Ade inokwa be gi? Hope you're prayerful? Cos if you're a hip hop dad, there's problem. Confess your devilish thought to a pastor/Rev father for deliverance and counselling session biko before eme alu
ReplyDeleteStella your reaction is too negative! He needed help hence he came out openly. All you need to do is to go for deliverance in bible believing church and hold onto God. If you can send the children abroad for schooling that will be great. Then think of starting a new life with a your female friend if you have one. Just friends noting attached. Trying to share your world with her while she does the same with you. Gradually you will come out of the mess
ReplyDeleteSick sick man. Hey, don't you do anything stupid. THEY ARE YOUR DAUGHTERS FOR GOODNESS SAKE!!! No one should even be talking about self control here; Man, this shouldn't even be happening at all. Get a man of God to pray for you before you turn into a rapist or an incestuous man. Ha! Men of today. And before I forget, get yourself a wife and stop admiring your girls sensually. I rest my case.
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