Dear Aunty Stella and my fellow blog visitors please I need your help!!!
I'm 23yrs old, my boyfriend of 2yrs left me in june last year, I was devastated, I felt my whole world had turned upside down, and gradually depression began to set in. Fast forward 1month later I decided to snap out of my misery and get my self back.
I went to see a male friend that had been on my case for a while (very cool dude with a paying job), we talked, laughed and I felt happy again I mean there was this instant connection between us and when he told me he broke up with his girlfriend a month back
I had this grin on my face, felt like I had hit a jackpot and I was ready to give this guy a chance.
We started hanging out frequently, feelings between us gets stronger, then that's when it happened; he told me he dint really break up with his girlfriend and she is in the uk studying but she was in a relationship with someone else and I was like then why the hell would you tell me you guys broke up? At this point I dint know whether to leave or stay because I was already in love with him(yeah it happened that fast).
We went on with our relationship and we were the cutest couple you would ever see, we turned heads everywhere we went, he was my best friend and once more I felt alive. October came and he had to go to the uk too for a 6mnths course, this wasn't a problem, cause asides from not been able to see each other, we've talked everyday(thank God for viber lool).
This is where the trouble starts; we've gotten really really close and his starting to talk about getting married and having kids and all that stuff but yet he still hasn't broken up with his supposed "cheating girlfriend" which he hooked up with and probably even slept with her sometime in november (but as the other woman I would be crazy if I dare get angry, even though I was boiling deep down *rme*)...
He says he is in love with me and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and I'm here sitting confused cause your still another girl's boyfriend and today I broke up with him and I told him I dint want to be given the "boyfriend snatcher" title (which most girls carry this days lol) and he said he was going to break up with the girl for me and as much as I would want that, I don't want to be responsible for another girl's sadness (even though he's saying he's leaving her cause he wants to).
Now my question is should I continue things with him or walk away and not look back? please forgive my typo's and don't cuss me out even if y'all are going to, be nice about it :(
*'O' face your work,school...whatever to keep busy!..you dey talk about marriage?please go and find your feet before you begin to fill your young life with this kinda drama!
''O'' if you think you are the other woman,you are probably right.you should have walked away when he told you he didnt break up with his main chick.
Yaah I made it! I made it yes ues yes am first to comment. B right back after reading, space booked.
ReplyDeletemy dear
DeleteI celebrate you
Is nt easy
Hahahahaha
@Galore
I got married @ 23 and dat was 10yrs ago,so pls stop givin advise as doh u're talkin 2 a 5yrs old
DeleteWe dont do this here. Go to LIB or nairaland please. Thank you
DeleteFor crying out loud, please walk away already. You are just 23 and you have your whole life ahead of you.
DeleteConcentrate on your studies, develop your relationship with your Maker, decide on which career you want, take up hobbies like travelling or speaking a new language.
You are too young to be caught up in this nonsense! I wish l could slap some sense into you.
Why do pple talk like fools anon 10.21,why bring in nairaland or LIB if you don't have anything to say then shut up
DeleteYou ppl think that its all 23zzz that are still in school
DeleteAbeg cool down, which one is read your book
I am 24 now got married @ the age of 23 and I have been working for about 2years now, so srzly how is she too young
@poster pls wait until he gets back before you take any decision cus as long as he is still there, you are on a longggggg thing
I always feel the bile in my mouth and effing pissed when I hear stories like this frm gurls. That dude is just some player having balls up time wit a girl on rebound.
DeleteIs love so cheap that it just happen wit anyone we meet? Stop making that guy feel smart. If u can't walk way, then run. If u can't get a life, then steal one but never play second fiddle.
Lol I finished my masters at 21..23's don't have to still be in school 'facing studies'.
DeleteI got married at 19, my husband was 24, I'm 36 now and still happily married.
Delete@ Poster, follow your heart and don't use your head ok? Your heart will keep leading you to more cum catching side chick acts while the guy enjoys this winter with his main chick under the duvet. Nuff Said!!!
DeleteI wonder. Some people will just follow Stella like zombies with myopic advice.
DeleteSome 23 year olds are doing
amazing stuff with their lives. That's 5 years over the age of 18, the legal marriageable age.
Poster, as long as he's had a clean break with the UK babe, give it a go. I'm curious though, what his excuse is for keeping the girl even after she started cheating on him. Do your investigations and follow your instincts.
Please not all 23 years old are still in school. I got married @ 23, and as at then, I was already a graduate and had also finshed NYSC.
Delete@Poster, better leave that guy ASAP!
@Poster...pls follow ur heart but make sure u weigh ur decision properly before sticking to any.....U alone know the real picture in dis case.....if u think u are a side chick,,,den quit the relationship(except u dont mind being a side chick)......and if u think the guy is for real and will leave the other lady for you.....then give him a chance......but weigh ur options properly......wish u the best as u make ur decision.....
DeleteSDK....most people now graduate early,,,i graduated at 22,,,did my NYSC and worked for more than four years before getting married.....so poster might be a big babe at 23....lol
Hi5 Endochallenge apart from the slapping part. All of you saying you got married at 23 una dohhhhhh!!!!. I got married at 24 and i'm now 34. I wish i had waited till i was 28, gone for my masters which i have now but got 2 years ago, taken that job at xyz and built my career. I have no regrets but i wish i had some me time before getting married because now i have to wait for my kids to grow before i can travel with hubby alone, can't take a trip without them because i can't trust anyone to take care of them since my mum is late.
Delete@ Amon 3:21pm, and if you had waited for 5 more years before marriage, you might probably be wondering where all the good men went to and why they stopped considering you as you would have made another woman have a wonderful husband with beautiful children. Stop complaining. Talk to many single career ladies and they could tell you their dreams then and their stories now. The grass is not always greener.
DeleteYou sound very unmatured and am sorry to use the word ''Desperate'' you are hustling for marriage at 23,what's with guys h
ReplyDeletelying about commitment,just because they wan f***?,its even girls like you that make women classless and so cheap,face your life and be very principled,a man who wants you will find you,get your act together.
"immature" is the word darling.
DeleteImmature? Unmattured?
Delete*immature* thank me now
DeleteYou couldn't have said it any better.
DeleteSweetheart you are immature. Looking for someone to fill up the empty space in your life to feel validated. You didn't even mourn your past relationship and do not have self love
It's very nasty & unfair of you to suggest 23 years is young for marriage? Do you know how many unmarried WOMEN who wished they had said yes to 'that' guy who wanted to marry them when they were 23? Pls.dear poster.Keep your head on your shoulder & stay focused.Just make sure he's not toying with you..You won't be the cause of his break up with the other girl.If he does leave her,someday she'll fall in love & marry another guy! Eveything in life happens for a reason.Fresh
DeleteThanks immature,i get it; thanks y'all.
DeleteYep, very immature ,aint right
DeleteNaija Gossips
I personally think that you settled once being his other woman..it just means that he thinks you are comfortable settling for his bullshit and he would always pull bullshit over you. Plus if he is cheating on his girlfriend with you, what makes you think he wont cheat on you..i am sorry boo, he has no self respect or respect for you.
DeleteLol. .....unmatured .
Deletefirst of all kaycee u just messed up with that word unmatured...pray its a typo.......back to the matter how dare you call her desperate? she was enjoying friendship with the guy and aint nothing wrong with that.....no where in the article did she sound desperate so stop your sanctimonious talk...
Deleteas for the guy, i believe he lied about even breaking up with his girlfriend in the first place...he needed somebody to fill up her place and you were available...you are still young, take things easy and watch him for a while cos time always reveal the truth abouth situations.....ask questions and listen more, liars will always slip oneday and give them selves out...and pls stella stop assuming everyone is still in school at 23.....i left university at the age of 21, so instead just tell them to face whatever they are doing
If I were in your shoes dear poster I will walk away.
ReplyDeleteWalk away?
DeleteNo!!
Play along with the mindset that u already have as d other lady while u keep on searching.
Once uve found ur own, dump his sorry ass.
Don't hurt urself by just accepting defeat n walking away till d main girl is clearly in d picture.
Playing along while waiting for the so called right one na frustrating work.
DeleteHe's a cool player dat wants to eat his cake and have it,well cos u give him....
ReplyDeleteLeave that guy abeg!hes just using ur head cos u are young and naive.
He's in love with his cheating girlfriend and not abt to leave her,dats what it is!
All these children of nowadays!!
ReplyDeleteThey develop so quickly but they still remain kids..All of em na Agric..
Please tell him how you feel about being the side chick and you not been able to take it any longer.
Whatever his decisions will confirm your intuitions...
Serious Agric o, lol.
DeleteTell him kwa? For maka why? So he could give her more reasons to continue being foolish? Hian
Agric fowl no be small........
DeleteLmao @ agric
DeleteMs
mudiaga,shey na u b dat??
DeleteNa real Agric dem be o.Abeg,23 is still small to dey put man matter for head like this.
DeletePls forget him he is inlove with that girl in uk,because they would have broken up on the ground of distance but no,I'm nt even sure you are in love you are just bored and still heart broken because of ur ex.like stella said build your life
ReplyDeleteThis story reminds me of me when I was 22, a bros in my street that had a girl(older Dan me of course) living with said he wanted 2 get married 2 me. I opted and agreed just cause he had moni and my friends encouraged me to go ahead wt it. The gf got wind of it and came to our shop to give me d beating of my life,while shouting 4 d whole street to com and see. After dat day nobody advised me to stay away frm people's bfs. And d most annoying thing was dat d bros heard and didn't even call to say sorry,my consolation was I was still a virgin then and didn't allow him touch,if not e 4 pain me ehn. So young girl,would advice u face ur studies and make ursef useful Dan allowing him lie to u
DeleteHehehehehe.debbs,u totally cracked me up.this is the 1st time am smiling today cos am goin tru a lot atm.poster,the guy is nt serious with you,walk away.and I dnt tink 23 is too young to get marrried,I miss the opportunity of gettin married to one of best guy I ve ever met @d age of 20,I regret it everyday even tho am engaged n gettin married in june.
Deletey stay dis long wen u knew dat u re de oda woman.
ReplyDeletejust take stella advice and move on.
sorry
ReplyDeleteTake heart
Make a ''Firm'' decision and walk away
@Galore
@ Galore are u alright? These days your comments are so calm. Keep it up. @ poster get a life outside ur cheating boyfriend. Why settle for being the side chic? And he will not marry u but his uk babe.
DeleteNa Asuu Na Bi frustrate Galore dos period!!!!!! Glad she is Na stable sha...Quiz n TDB Don resett her brain....@Galore Bi a good gal mama loves u #kisses#
DeleteFirst, u moved on too fast. I won't be surprised if this guy also dumps u. Wat makes u think he's gonna dump his girlfriend since God-knows-when for a cheap girl lik u. Mind u dt guys dnt love dt fast. He's just playing u, so pls wake up frm ur slumber and let them be. U already kno u wl go back to him if he comes. I put it to u dt ur fear is dt he won't even com back. Besides, it seems lik u gav him d impression dt u wanna settle down. Aren't u rather too young to b so desperate for a man? Even after all d dis heartening marital tales ppl tell here. Abeg shine ur eyes wella. Since u ve cald it off, move on wtout looking back and dnt be too fast in jumping into rships
ReplyDeleteIfy I dislike ppl who think and talk like you. My case in point is your statement, "Mind u dt guys dnt love dt fast." Just because men have never fallen in love with you at the drop of a hat before doesnt mean other women are not luckier. No two people have the same luck or story. I fell in love with my fiance at first sight and we're getting married later this year. So please use your medulum oblagata before you spew garbage.
Deletealso who told u she is cheap? because u are cheap doesnt mean every other lady is.
Pls why are u attacking Ify??? YES Guys don't fall in love that fast esp in Nigeria.
Deletedont mind d ify! lol!!!
Deleteify you are truly stupid for your comment......what makes u think she is cheap? idiot.....did she say she was the one who proposed to the guy? una go just open mouth dey scatter rubbish....mtchweeeeeew
DeleteTufiakwa for umu azi? What makes you think he will break up with his main girl for you? Lmao, the babe is a better investment to him than you. These small girls just won't learn *shakes head and walks away*
ReplyDeleteI don't get it. You called yourself the other woman and you still ask us if you should continue? I mean, you do understand the true position of 'the other woman', right? You want to be the after thought? The second best? The 'I-wish-I'd-known-better woman in his life? The home/relationship wrecker?
ReplyDeleteGirl, give me a break! You are 23 not 33, so back off with the desperate moves, okay?
You already made a mistake by doing the rebound thingy and telling yourself its love. Don't make another by 'settling' please.
Go on with your life and stop giving yourself headaches and heartaches.
so only old cougar agbalagba women are allowed to be desperate and boyfriend/husband snatchers. okay we now know how naija women reason. Heres my own two cents...the main chick is supposedly cheating and he may actually dump her for the other one.
Deletehonestly d way naija women reason, its no surprise men are not in a hurry to marry u ppl at all.
I tire o! I actually don't know how someone can date someone that already has someone by the side. A beg, I am too jealous for that kinda arrangement...kindly excuse my many "someone"
DeleteAt 23 u shld be thinking of getting a masters degree, or ur job, u sound desperate, make a guy work hard to get u or else, its going to be a different issue when u get married, obviously he's using u and playing wif ur head, the writing is on the wall, use ur head!
ReplyDeleteHow is this news? This happens everyday in Nigeria.
ReplyDeletemy dear, if u know u love this guy then STAY! I made d same mistake and i walked away for the sake of my foolish pride. i wont say i regret it becoz im equally with a man who loves me to bits but i wish i had stayed with my true love. u alone knows how u feel and if u know u r there 4 d right reasons then STAY!!! IF UR REASONS 4 LEAVING IS COZ URE rili not sure if u love him or its infatuation, dats beta. if it is 4 pride and the tag of "gboko gboko" then u dont know what is worth fighting for.
ReplyDeleteto my lost love, i will always love u where ever u are.
I have to be anonymous 4 this post!
I share your thoughts ....I wished I fought for the man I loved and still love, But cos I didn't want to be the source of another lady's (who was the side kick) unhappiness even if she was the source of mine I refused him even when I was sure he would break up with her as he practically begged even weeks before his wedding. We are both married now but we both wished we made the right decisions in the past. I wish I forgave him and didn't play too nice and he wish he did allow distance make him cheat.
DeleteSo young lady it is better you satisfy yourself that you did your best than regret later for just giving up. If he is actually sincere about you he should give you proof of his breakup.He could really be sincere..........ALL the best
so u didnt marry ur true love, but u sha married one dummy sha. then u will be the one to complain when he finds his own true love. u will now be on SDK leaking letters and stories...abeg shift
Delete@ 1ST ANON, thank u jare, u understand.
Delete@ 2nd Anon, no i dint marry a dummy, i married a good man but i let an equally wonderful man slip away. FYI, sometimes the side chic ALWAYS WINS, look at the conditions i gave, does she love him truly? or is she with him coz of what she has to gain.
Mrs Anon
lol....anonymous 11:20 you were just confused.....what do u mean the other lady was a side kick? if she was a side kick why did you leave the scene for her? anyway dont see the point in regretting issues when men's infidelity comes to play.......if u are regretting marrying someone who cheated on u in a relationship then that is just silly......if u are in a marriage you can forgive infidelity but before marriage no way.....men should learn how to be faithful the way women do.....moreso your thinking the other guy was better might be cos you are comparing him to ur present hubby......the grass always looks greener in another mans backyard....
Deletelol..........Anon 3:13..............it is even worse for a married to be unfaithful because he already made a vow. A single man can still be pardoned cos no formal commitment. My question is why condole infidelity in marriage? t avoid divorce so manage the marriage even if you are hurt, I will say it is better to forgive a cheating boyfriend than get married and be cheated on.
DeleteWhy leave someone you love deeply because he cheated and marry someone you are not so deeply in love with and still get cheated on?
As anon 3:13 said the grass is always greener on the other side but if you have been on both backyards you can actually tell which is greener @Anon 11.20 it;s sad you met and lost your true love but you can still enjoy your marriage and make your husband your very best love.............
You're not in love dear. he is your rebound guy. move on with your young self. you have your life ahead of you. besides, your relationship with "Mr. perfect" started based on a lie because I'm sure you wouldn't have dated him if he hadn't lied about his single status. you will be just fine, ok?
ReplyDeleteSeems you are on a rebound. I think you were more a means to an end where he is or was. If your new guy goes and comes back for you, all well and good. But in the meantime, don't sit and wait. Get on with your life. What will be, will be. You still got plenty years ahead of you. Make great use of it.
ReplyDeleteU don't have to remain on d hot seat if u don't knw where u really stand in his life. D guy is having d best of both worlds @ d moment, u might end up a loser in end. Gather ur emotions togetha n just walk away; dnt rush into anoda r\ship, build ur career, ur personality. @ 23, Ur life shud not b built arnd a man who probably isn't worth ur shoes. If he's urs he "ll find his way back into ur life wtout d baggages of a cheating girlfrend lurking arnd d corner.
ReplyDeleteMy love, @ 23 you should be thinking about some better things and not marriage. I'm not saying marriage is not better but there are some adults in it who walk out of it EVERYDAY you have to be matured to talk about setting down. Biko if u're done with your 1st degree take up the 2nd and keep yourself busy. Your man will come at the right time. #onyeozi#
ReplyDeleteStella, 22 to 23 year olds are desperate these days o. My friends sister don enter gobe. That tori na for another day.
ReplyDeleteI got married @ 22 in 2007. got preggy @ same age. To my first n only Love. wasn't desperate bk then. we be waxed stronger and stronger yrs gone by. my point is if it feels right to u , do it. so long its with yr consent n above 20. is it when she is older n becomes desperate that is d best. start now never too early @ this age.
ReplyDeleteHe lied from jump and you are asking questions. When ladies marry and the men start displaying all sorts, you wonder why and send Dear Abby letters meanwhile you orchestrated your own problem. He shows no promise, he has shown you he can not be trusted, yet you are willingly accepting of his ways. Even trying to battle it out for his "love"??? When will girls start getting some kind of sense? The lady above that is crying for her true love Mrs Anon is not even serious. Sister OP, get some sense about yourself and some esteem. Face life and get yourself to the point where men will not use you as their time filler. When a man is quick to tell you the faults of his woman...shine ya eye. He is looking for false sympathy and a way into your undies.
ReplyDeleteIf he liked you, to even love o...this relationship with his girlfriend would have been over long time ago. What's his excuse for staying with her? None. You are being played o young lady. Open your eyes please.
Its very risky and hard to predict the end.
ReplyDeleteMy dear FACE YOUR WORK/SCHOOL OOOOO and forget dat guy.
ReplyDeleteHe appears to be a confused player.
plz 23yrs is not too young for marriage o. When some people graduate from d uni at 19/20yrs. I married at age 30 but i wish i had married earlier. Poster u have to be very careful for him to have lied to u dat he broke up when they are still dating. I wish u luck.
ReplyDeleteI got married at 28. In hindsight, I wish I had gotten married at 23 to my darling boyfriend then. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband but sometimes I think of my boyfriend in University and wish it'd been him instead. At that age, I felt I was too young and wasn't ready. If I had to do it all over again, I'd go for it and settle down at 23. The older we get, the fewer the choices and we tend to overlook things we wouldn't overlook at a much younger age.
ReplyDeleteHmmm.... just ignore me, this is the rambling of a middle aged woman.
Now to the poster, don't ever settle for being second best. Look for your own man. He is simply dangling you on a string, eating his cake and with extra toppings on top! Move on
If you still thinking of you uni boyfriend and wishing that he was the one you married, madam, you don't love your husband! All these married people managing marriage, being in it cos they have no choice or they don't want to be called divorcees sef! I shake my head big time for una
DeleteLimited indeed. Let me tell you, I took my game to another level when I reached 25 o. I had a list and if u didn't meet it there was no need for another date. I'm a romantic person and I have so much love in me, I felt why waste it on rubbish people so my dates were basically becoming like interviews. I also observed them while at the table too and believe me, none was worth and my tolerance level was something else, couldn't stand bullshit so I didn't date for two years till I met someone that I ticked almost everything in the list. My fiance adores me and is very God fearing, thanks to him I am closer to God. Its all about self esteem and all these cheating lying guys wouldn't hang around you. I just knew I deserved better and refused to settle for lies. Poster are u sure that girl cheated? Guys can say anything to get between ur legs. I always tell women, get the foundation right. Once it's shaky, believe me u would keep patching. Goodluck and shine ur eyes. Much Love my best blogger, Aunty Stella.
DeleteYou mentioned as the other woman...I don't mean to sound harsh or mean but i do not believe this your story. It's obvious you know they are still together and you still went ahead hoping he would leave her....It's so sad when I see people put themselves through things like this...there are a million people out there...why settle for less??... Just let him go...I know it's hard but you have to else you'll end up feeling sad and frustrated....if he's yours...let him fight for you...simple! Goodluck :)
ReplyDeleteget out of the way joo, u dont believe her story cos lying to you will give her money abi?
DeleteNo, 23 is not too young to get married, at 23 many already have their masters so why should 23 be too young? i got married very young. Now to this guy, he is a cheating lying bastard! Walk away from him, if you stay with him you will never be happy.
ReplyDeleteThis guy doesn't seem honest to me. Please take your time. Already you have doubts but if you are convinced he has broken up with the other girl., then you guys can continue. But if you are still on this shaky ground pls move on. You don't need this type of headache.
ReplyDeleteBreezy
Leave him. If he's truly yours, he will come running back and you can set the rules (on your terms and conditions, of course). Watch him for two years though. get married at 25. try some toke makinwa 'shakara to prove your love' stunt. Marriage isn't a joke. Do it right
ReplyDeleteif he doesn't come, move on. love
Hey gurl, this has happened to me before. guess what? the gurl didnt cheat on the guy.he wants to get in your pants that is why he told u she cheated. He s still enjoyin whatever it is you are giving him but trust me,that wont last for long cos u knw y he loves dat gurl n d day she finds out bout u n threatens to leav him,u are out of the equation cos he will choose her over u. I was d gurl he loved, when i found out about the other gurl, she was pregnant and he still dumped her ass but I let him go cos i love myself more that i love his cheating ass.
ReplyDeleteu know what u need not rush ... i am in a similar situation but really if u like him that much dnt give up . i beg which one is husband snatcher, has he married her, u breaking up with Him is just going to lead him back to the oda girl . which correct guy dosen't have gilrs around him eh!! what if he didnt tell u the truth?? Now our days babe u have to learn to fight for whats urs. you dnt wait around anymore saying it wud come to you. he has shown he really likes u
ReplyDeleteFrom day one as a young girl I refused to be any man's alternative. My dear why do you want to be an alternative if his relationship with the UK base doesn't work then he will come back to you you will become a shoulder to cry on. No way don't give men that chance to toy with you you are a women. You should be the one to set the rules Chia only if you know who you are and your value. During my time they were fighting over. Who will marry me. Young girls know who you are and your value don't allow anybody give you low self esteem. Ada Agulu said so.
ReplyDeleteplease, do a shakara stunt for him oh. hheeeennn *warning tone* let him call you back to have a talk. thats when you know he likes you. the u can start fighting. dont go and fight for a guy who doesnt love you to marry you oh. he will feel choked. i agree to the "try and fight for what is yours" but at least be 70% sure of his feelings for you, before you start fighting. bikonu!!. love
ReplyDeleteSincerely sdkers are fond of castigating pple as if their lives re perfect nd u stella pls if u don't knw advice to give next time STFU afterall she didn't ask u 4 ur opinion she 4 no ask u 2 post am.if a man is nt married 2 d girl,snatch him if u can.
ReplyDeleteSee babes,jez make sure u don't get pregnant 4 him until he marries u.gbam.don't walk away if u really love him.fuck pple's negative opinion.snatchn is allowed as far d man hasn't taken any lady down d isle
ReplyDeleteThis is somehow.....u are d only that can decide on this, i say this cus ur story is very similar to mine...the love of my life then broke up with me then, i met dis wonderful guy, after a while i broke with him...he moved on, we met again after a few months but he was already dating someone else....he said he was in love with me and wanted me but there was dis gal...he categorical told me to give him some time to break up with d gal...i gave him an ultimatum, when i noticed he was dragging his feet, i took a risk : showed in his house when i knew d gal was there, walked straight into his room and dropped my bag in his wardrobe....kasala bursted, d gal was breathing fire n brimstone, i was calm like a cucumber...i did that cus i had to push him to make up his mind, i risked d possibility of being ridiculed but i wasnt going to allow him waste my time either, i fought for wat i consider mine...the gal stormed out of his house after calling me names...i asked him to drive me home and kept him with me till d end of d day...that was d end of my waiting....Morale: sometimes u need to help guys make up their minds, by putting dem in situations dat will truly show why u stand with dem...u mit be ridiculed or put to shame but at least u will know wats up n u are not wasting ur time.
ReplyDeleteDid i say im married to dis guy, 7yrs and counting by God's grace with beautiful kids...
I wasnt dat monster but the so-called love of life, who was cheating on him walked away with his side chic when she came to confront me in his presence in a open space on a sunny afternoon....after dat incidence, i vouched never to let go of any man i love cus of my pride, so when i met myself in d similar situation in a reversed position, i played my game right ...love is wirth fighting for...if both are truly inlove....
As a side chic, u have an advantage dat d main chic does not have....u know she exists..she probably does not know u exist...let her know u exist in a stylish way...a way dat d guy cant trace to u...she will fight him, u will calm him, she will stress him cus of u, u will give him a shoulder to cry on...u know ur aim, dont be deterred by her rambling....love him more esp when she starts stressing him....to all married women/main chic, lets be smart when we catch our men in infidelity, im nit advocating for patting dem in d head for cheating but discipline and 'yaried' in such a way dat u dnt send to d hands of d mistress....play more of d mind game dan d shouting n stressing....
ReplyDeletechoi!!!!!!!! i hail o!!
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